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The Rachel Hollis Podcast
969 | One Tiny Move That Makes Your Life Feel Pulled Together (Friday Favorites)
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*Original Airdate: August '25 Upgrade to the Ad Free Premium Podcast Experience - https://rachelhollis.supercast.com Get your copy of Rachel's Book Here: Audible, Amazon, Barnes & Noble, Books-A-Millon, Bookshop.org, or wherever books are sold! To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices In this heartfelt episode of The Rachel Hollis Podcast, Rachel opens up about the tough season she's navigating, including the recent loss of her beloved dog, Jeffrey, and the challenges of settling into a new home. Drawing from her own experience, she shares simple ways to shift your mood during difficult times, including getting outside, moving your body, prioritizing self-care, and finding one beautiful thing to focus on amid the chaos. Rachel reminds listeners that even small intentional actions can make hard days feel a little lighter. *Friday Favorite...
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But if you got a little bit more, if you got a little bit more oomph, you got a little bit more something. If you can reach for something more. Today I have some ideas about things that I do that really help me when I need to shift my mood. Hey guys, it's Rach. Welcome to the show. I'm so glad that you're here with us today. And I have a favor which sounds kind of harsh if we just met, but I'm assuming that most of you have been a part of this community for a hot minute. And so I gotta ask, are you subscribed to the podcast? Subscribing to the podcast, you Listen to regularly is one of the best things that you can do for hosts like me. It helps to support the show and the staff that works on it. It ensures that you never miss an episode when we drop a new one. And here's the cool thing about subscribing. If you do it and then you hate this show, just unsubscribe. It's one click away. In the meantime, if you're listening, we will. We would so appreciate it if you would just tap that button and make it official. Hi, guys, it's Rach. Welcome to another episode of the podcast and a new way to start every single morning. I'm Rachel. I'll be your host today, your friend forever. And I wasn't gonna take today. We should start there. I was not going to take a podcast for today. If you listen to yesterday's episode, then, you know, life is crazy. Life feels hard. My intention for this week was to just have some reposts for you guys. And then I did something this morning that made me feel really good. And I'm gonna talk to you about that today because I think you can try it in your own life as well. But it made me feel really good. And in feeling really good, I fel like myself. And in feeling more like myself, I was able to show up for my work and for my community. That's you guys. And it made me so happy that I was like, that is a really good idea for a podcast episode. So that is what I would love to talk about this morning with you because I think that maybe you guys could try this and find it helpful, too. Let's really quickly discuss yesterday's episode. If you listen to that, it would give you a big overview into the current chaos of my life. So I talked about moving into a house that's under construction, living there with four kids, one working bathroom. But I taped that about a week ago, and a lot has happened in my life, both good and really bad, since that episode. So why don't we start there? So the big thing that you may have seen on social media that happened last week is that I had to put my dog Jeffrey to sleep. I have never done that before. I've never gone through that with a pet. My family dog growing up, I remember that my dad and my big brother went to the vet and put her down when she got really, really old. But I was little, and I wasn't part of that process. So this was the first time I had ever been with a pet when they go through something like that. And not to start off your morning with something sad, but it was really sad. It was really sad. And actually, I don't even want to get into telling you guys that story, because you can just imagine how hard that was. But Jeffrey was nine years old. We thought we were going to have more time with him, But a couple of years ago, he was attacked by three big dogs. Like, dogs three times his size. He was running around in the yard. This was back in Texas, and. And there are big dogs next door that he was barking at. And the big dog reached through the fence. It was one of those, like, you know, the. I don't know if you've ever seen them in Texas. They're like cattle fences, so they kind of have, like, bigger squares. The dog reached through the fence, grabbed Jeffrey by the neck, and then pulled him through. I'm sorry, this is, like, such a harsh story to start with. This is going to be a good and positive episode. But I know I got so many DMs where people are like, what happened? So any. A couple of years ago, he was attacked by these three dogs, and he truly. It was a miracle that he lived. They had gone after his throat. And again, not going to get into details. Nobody wants to hear that story, but it was awful. And he went through so many surgeries on his neck. Like, it took months and months and months. And after that process, he was never the same. I don't know if any of you have gone through that kind of trauma with a. With an animal before, and I hope to never, ever go through something like that again. But he never. Yeah, he just was never the same. He was. He. He aged quite a lot in that process. So as much as he was nine, I really feel like he was much older and he had started to slow down a lot in the last year. And I started to get worried because he was acting a lot older than he was, just moving really slow. He started getting. He started just having a lot of medical problems again. And this last week, he was really kind of disoriented, and he started not eating. That's always a very bad sign. He started not eating. He wasn't eating, but he was drinking a ton of water. And. And I was like, what is going on? And then took him to the animal hospital, and they said, Jeffrey's having a diabetic crisis, which we didn't know he was diabetic. And I guess this is a thing. The doctor said that cats and dogs can have diabetes, but it won't really show up in pronounced ways unless Something triggers it. So she's like, we have to run more tests and in the meantime, just try and balance out his insulin and get him where he's not so sick. So he's in sort of full time care in the hospital. Please fast forward if this is not. I don't know that any of you want to hear this story. I think I'm having like a cathartic moment just telling it to you. But. So they started running tests. They had noticed his. There was something with his stomach. It was really tight. When they did his intake and they said that's, you know, concerning. They did an ultrasound and found a mass and his liver was enlarged. And like just kind of all the things. Yeah, the treatment that would be required for him was so that on the other side of it, like just the quality of his life, if we could even get him to a place where he was okay, was pretty intense. So I talked to the vet over and over and over and called her several times that day and just like, is there any. Is there any way we could be wrong? Is there any way it could be something else? And she was just like, no, there's this. So I made the decision to let him go. And the vet said something to me that was really, really helpful and, like, really calmed my spirit. She said, I think in the end, the only thing our pets care about is the quality of their life. I think that's the only thing they care about, is that they can still be dogs and cats and that they can still function the way that they want. And he was already struggling so much. And on the other side of if he makes it through all of these surgeries and gets through all these things, it's like, it's not going to be that. But I've never had to make a decision like that before. And Kez is out of town. Kez had a family member pass away, so he had to go back to London unexpectedly. And so I was by myself. I have never cried that hard in my entire life. I've never cried that hard or that long. And the nurses and the doctor, everyone was so kind. Like, I've just never. I've never encountered such compassionate people. Everyone was so wonderful to me. And I was like, ugly crying, like I couldn't get myself together. But I did think, you know, if you aren't willing to sit with a pet as they transition to heaven, I don't think you should get one. I've never experienced that before, but I was like, if you're not willing to sit with them as they move on from this life. Like, if you're not willing to sit with them when they're old and go through that process, you shouldn't get the joy of them as a puppy. Like, you just shouldn't. It. You're really signing up for something so much greater than you. And that sounded so dramatic. So much greater than you. But I. I saw this quote on Social a long time ago, and I remembered it on the day that Jeffrey died. That said, for us, our pets are a chapter in our life story, but for them, we are the entire book. And I got Jeffrey from a rescue when he was 3 months old. Had him as a puppy, had him through nine years, and I was there when he left, and it was really sad, and it was really hard. And it's still really hard. You know, I'm so used to, like, this is silly, but, like, if you accidentally dropped food, you know, he was like, there. He was, ready. And last night, Noah and I were sitting, eating dinner and accidentally dropped some chicken on the ground, and we both just sort of looked at it together. And then she looked at me, and she was like, that's really sad because we both were thinking the same thing, which was that if he was here, he'd be so happy. But this is life, guys. This is life. And it feels especially hard this week. And maybe for you guys, where you are, it's feeling hard, too. And so today's episode is for you, it's for us. It's for what are some simple things that we can do inside of hard days. I am at my new office, which is soho Works. It's a. Like, a community workspace. So I love it because I have a private office. But then there's, like, all of this vibe and energy and people out here, and I haven't had an office outside the house in five years. But it also means that there's a. I'm on Sunset Boulevard. There's a group of guys putting up a movie poster outside, and someone has a dog. Oh, my gosh. When I came in this morning, you guys, I went to go get some water from the kitchen, and a guy was there with a freaking schnauzer mix. She was. She had black hair, but I could tell she was schnauzer. She. And I was like, no way. And I swear to you, she saw me across the room, and her tail started wagging. And I got down on the floor with her, and I was, like, petting her. She showed me her belly, and I was just like, the guy who owned her was looking at me like we were going way too hard with my dog. Ladies, if you're in that phase where your body is just doing new things, sleep's weird, energy's weird, cravings also weird. You are not alone. It's totally normal. Menopause and perimenopause just means your body needs a little support and sprouts makes that support easier so you can start feeling more like you. Tons of fresh organic produce for fiber, sprouts, protein and creatine to keep your muscles and bones strong and your energy up. And supplements that can help you manage mood shifts. So whether it's perimenopause, menopause or any other health journey, it's easier at sprouts farmer's market. Lysol is known for proven disinfection and today it also delivers a clean that smells great, including lavender scent. Lysol disinfection wipes all purpose cleaner spray and power toilet bowl cleaner clean and kill 99% of viruses and bacteria. The all purpose cleaner can be used on hard, non porous surfaces in the kitchen and the bathroom. Disinfecting wipes help clean everyday surfaces like remotes, tablets and smartphones. And the power toilet bowl cleaner disinfects both the toilet brush and the bowl for two in one disinfection. Don't just clean Lysol. Clean stranger. And I told him afterwards, I was like, that was such a blessing. Like, thank you so much. I needed that today. But life is this, right? I think that's something that 2020 really taught us was that life is all of it. It's the good stuff, it's the hard stuff, it's the chaos, it's the grounding, it's the beautiful sunny days, it's all of it. And I think I'm getting better and better as I get older in what it means to show up in the midst of all of it and to try and not go get overwhelmed by. You got those days that are tens and you've got those days that are twos and both of them are going to show up in our lives. But if you're in a day that's a two or a three, if you're just having a really cruddy time, you can make micro shifts. You can, you can make micro shifts that will make it feel better. I did some of those this morning and I ended up putting a little clip on social because I was like, man, I'm really feeling like I want to get this out to the community and tell you guys about this idea. But I also was thinking there's a caveat. Before I give you some steps that you can take today that are going to make it feel better. There's a caveat to say there are times, there are days, there are seasons, when you don't have the frame of mind, when you don't have the ability to make the choice to be intentional, to change your energy, to change your vibration, to try and reach for something that's going to make you feel better. I want to acknowledge that right now. Because if you've ever been depressed, if you've ever been inside of grief, if you've ever been in something really hard, it might take everything you've got to get out of bed today. So the idea of stacking on one more thing is impossible. Some days we really only have it in us to just survive. That's real. That's the reality. Some days we are just surviving. But if you got a little bit more. If you got a little bit more oomph, you got a little bit more something. If you can reach for something more. Today I have some ideas about things that I do that really help me when I need to shift my mood. The first thing that I did today was I got outside and I moved my body. Now, the gym would be cool, right? Because you might be able to get in and get around other people. I haven't been to the gym in, like, three weeks because I've just been working so hard physically unpacking boxes and cleaning and painting and doing all the things that my body is physically so inflamed. Honestly, looking real good. I'm not gonna lie, she's looking real good today. I looked in the mirror and I was like, well, I might be hurting, but this moving. If I was a professional mover, I might also be able to be a professional model. My body looks amazing right now, if I do say so myself. And if I'm not gonna hype me, who is? Anyway, haven't been to the gym, been very physically active, but I needed to do something today that was different. And that would be the first thing I'm going to tell you guys. If you feel like you're in a rut, if you feel like it's extra hard and things are going wrong and you kind of feel stuck in that space, you need to shift the energy. One of the first things you need to do is to get outside of the routine you're currently inside of that is making you feel crappy. So for me, that routine was being in the house. Thank you for my new house. Love the new house. So grateful for it. But I needed to get outside of that energy. I needed to physically get outside. I wanted to be outside in the sunshine and the fresh air as much as it can be fresh air in Los Angeles. I wanted to get outside. So that was a big deal. And I wanted to move my body, and I wanted to move my body in a way that wasn't lifting a box, because it. I wanted to do something. And this is probably a big key is like, I want to do something that was, for me, that it wasn't about anybody else, and it wasn't about, you know, so much of the house. I know I'm pushing myself too hard and doing probably too much because I'm like, I just want this to be nice for the kids. I just want this to be nice for the kids. And I was like, I really need to take a day, and I really need to do some stuff that's just for me. Got outside first thing, went on a walk. And it's worth saying, last night, I went to bed, and I was feeling really discouraged. I was feeling super exhausted. I was kind of beating myself up. I'm just gonna be real. I was beating myself up because there was a lot that I needed to do. There's still a lot of unboxes to unpack, and I wanted more done before I started the new week. And I was like, come on. Like, you can do it. You. But I've truly. I just. My body was so tired, I couldn't do it. So I was like, I'm just gonna sit here and read a book. Like, I can't. I can't. I can't unpack anything else. Last night I was like, okay, this is not. We're not thriving. What can we do to feel better? So last night, I thought, I'm gonna map out my morning. This is something I would do in regular life anyway. I would always know what the week ahead holds for me. But honestly, the last few weeks have just been all about moving, unpacking. And I've been working, but I've been working from home. So I was just like, I need to map out my morning. And I made the decision that I wanted to do a few things. I wanted to move, so I needed to wake up with enough time to drink my coffee. Because, you know, I like a slow morning. If you've never heard me say this, if you. By the way, I did an episode last week about how to fix your morning routine in one week, and that episode has Done. So bananas. So if you guys are trying to figure out morning routine, go back and listen to that episode. Look, I'll even tell you which episode it is. It is episode. Episode 873. That one did super bananas. Well, so go check that out. Episode 873. But I mapped out my morning. I figured out what I wanted to accomplish. So I got up at 6. I had an hour where I got to read and write in my journal and drink my coffee and have a slow morning because that's what I like. Seven o', clock, I was out the door. I went on a two mile walk. Nothing crazy. I just want to move my body in the sunshine, listen to some Beyonce. Got to have a phone call with my husband because he's in London right now. So we're on different time zones. Caught up with him, got back to the house, and then I was like, if we're going to do this, let's do it. Remember I said, you need to shake up the energy that you're inside of. One of the big things for me in the last few weeks is just I've been so grubby, like literally sweaty, covered in dirt, cleaning this house, cleaning rooms that are, that don't have walls. I mean, I'll have Jack, if you're watching this on YouTube, I'll have Jack add in some footage of like grub central la. Just. It's not bad. It's good. I like that, like, we're gonna get this work done and I'm gonna be a bog troll and like, we're gonna make it work. But at the same time, every single day, I'm hot, I'm sweaty, I'm wearing giant overalls, my hair looks crazy. And I learned something when I was going through my divorce that has really served me well. If I look in the mirror and I see my stress, I feel more stressed. If I look in the mirror and see how stressed out I am, it multiplies my stress. So I remember in 2020 was the first time I really started to notice just worry lines and gray hairs and it's part of aging and that's fine. But it really started to bother me because I felt like every time I looked in the mirror, I was reminded of all of the hard things that I'm going through. So real talk in 2020 was the first time that I decided to get Botox. I say Botox because that's a term, but I actually get something called dysport. It's a different thing, but it was the first Time that I got injectables in my forehead and you can think whatever you want about that. I freaking love. I love it. I am so grateful for it. I understand there are people in natural beauty and shouldn't put things into your body, but your girl's already got her boob job. Okay, Like, I want to be as natural as possible, but there's a couple things I'm going to add on because they make me feel mentally better. Nobody has to agree with that. My body, my choice. I like it when my girl puts some stuff on my forehead. Makes me feel like I'm fresh. You know, 2020 was the first time that I made that choice and I loved the results. And I have gotten it, you know, a few times a year ever since then. Also, if you have questions about this, you should call into the hotline and ask because you know, I will tell you everything. Hotline is 737-400-4626. Ask a question. I' incorporate it into an episode. But yeah, so I got a little help in that area in 2020 and it made me feel mentally better when I looked physically better. I am convinced that this is one of the easiest things that we can reach for when we want to change our vibration. If you look better, you feel better. Psychology, like literally Google it. It is a thing. If you feel like you look better, you will feel better emotionally, you will be more confident, you will feel like you can take on the hardships of the world. If you are a stay at home mama and you are with your first baby and baby girl is two months old and you are still living in sweats and covered in spit up. I freaking get it. I freaking get it. You do not have to go full glam. But if you just one day a week, took a shower and made yourself feel presentable to nobody but you and your baby, I swear to you, you will feel so much better. It changes the energy. And here is the key component to that. I am not saying that you need to look like anybody else. You don't need to have full glam if that's not your thing. You don't need to do your hair if that's not your jam. Whatever feels good to you. A ball cap, a great pair of sneakers, high high heels. You know, you want to put on a suit like when I had my kids. Quite honestly, I gained so much weight I couldn't fit into any of my clothes and I didn't want to wear maternity clothes because it was making me feel more depressed. So I would put on a cocktail ring. Went to my closet one day, still in my gross, you know, nursing bra and the whole thing and milk all over me and feeling whatever. I put on a cocktail ring because I could fit my old rings on my fingers and I would wear cocktail rings while I breastfed. And it was this little tiny, like, rope that I threw down to myself in the hole that I could kind of grab onto and like, pull up just a little bit. My daddy used to always say, when you feel like you're close to rock bottom, kick off the bottom. 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So whether it's perimenopause, menopause, or any other Health journey. It's easier at Sprouts Farmers Market. My dad used to always say, just let yourself fall a couple more inches and kick right off the bottom and shoot yourself up and putting on a cocktail ring. For me, when I was a new mama, that was. That was kicking off the bottom. Today I got back from my walk and I took an everything shower. Do you know what an everything shower is? So we girls, we've got different levels of showers. You got hair up in a bun, quick five minutes in and out. You're just. You're on the go. Then you've got maybe a little bit more effort. Maybe you're going to shave your legs up to the knee, but you're not going to wash your hair. And then there's an everything shower. We're using a body scrub. We're using a face scrub. We're washing our hair. We're deep moisturizing. We're shaving our leg all the way up. Maybe we're shaving our chochi. Who knows? Husband's out of town. I don't need to do that. But, you know, for me, for me, guys getting all the things intact, right? Gonna pluck, gonna do whatever I need to do. Got out, did my hair to the best of my ability. If you're watching this on YouTube, you're like, your hair still looks frizzy, y'. All. This is the best I can do. Did my makeup. Same answer. Put on real clothes. And this was an outfit I concocted with the clothes that I can currently find because I have not unpacked all my boxes. Also, I did get these socks in Iceland, if you can. They have whales on them. If you're on YouTube, you're really getting a show with my fancy whale socks. Put on an outfit. Let a little booby show today. Not like my nipples, but give myself a little cleavage. I was like, I am gonna do the opposite of what I have been living in for the last week. I'm going to do the opposite of grubby. I'm going to try something that makes me feel cool and fresh and like I have my life together. And I immediately felt better as soon as I made the decision to wake up and go on the walk. Like last night, when I was feeling discouraged, I immediately felt better right then because I made the decision. I hadn't changed my mind vibration by doing anything yet, but I had mentally already set myself up for where we were going to go the next day. Changing your environment, changing the vibe, getting outside, moving your body, moving your body, moving Your body, moving your body. I've been telling you guys this for a decade. When you move your body, you change your mind. You. You physically change the chemicals that are happening in your body. You lower your stress hormones, and everything good happens when you move your body. So for me, I just went on a walk for you. You do what you can with what you've got where you're at. You get outside, you get moving, you do whatever you can, right? Came back, made myself look better, which made me feel better. And all of a sudden, the energy had shifted drastically. Another thing that you can do that can change the energy of your day, can change the energy of your life is. Is one beautiful thing. One beautiful thing. I went outside and I cut some flowers last week. Everything's chaotic. And I had one room in my house, which was the living room that was livable. That was cute. That was, hey, we can lounge in here and we can feel like normal human beings. And when I looked around at every other room, I saw boxes and dirt and trash and madness. And I just needed something to ground myself. And what popped into my head was this story that I heard. It's got to be 10, 15 years ago. I used to go to a church here in LA called Bel Air Press. And while I was at Bel Air Press, Malibu Presbyterian Church, which had been there forever, burned down in the Malibu fires. They were like our sister church. And it was so sad. And we were praying for them. And we had some members of Malibu Press come over one day and speak to our women's group and talk about what they had gone through. And there was a woman who worked there. She had worked at Malibu Press for a while, and she was telling the story of what it felt like to lose her church home and also to lose her work and to lose this building and everything that it stood for for their community. And I remember her telling the story of the day that she got to go back and see the ruins of the church. And it was something that a lot of them wanted to do because they wanted the closure of. Of seeing that. And when they got there that day, she said it was, you know, ash and ruins. And she started walking around what would have been the floor plan of the building. And she was walking around kind of what. What were their administrative offices. And she said as she was walking around, she was praying. She said she just kept praying, God, God, if you're there, give me one beautiful thing. God, give me one beautiful thing. And she said as she was walking, she saw something like sort of gleaming in the sunlight under the ash. And she went over and she dusted it off, and. And it was a piece of her teacup. So every single day, she would have tea out of the same teacup. And she found a piece of her teacup in the rubble. She's like, in the midst of this ash, in the midst of this destruction, I found this one beautiful piece of my life. And for some reason last week, that just kept resonating. I felt like an angel was kind of putting that word in my heart of one beautiful thing. And so I found a little cup to work as a vase. And I went out in the backyard, and there's a hydrangea bush. And there's like, everything else in the yard is dead. But on that hydrangea bush, there was a couple of blooms. And I cut the blooms, and I put this little vase with a hydrangea bloom on my coffee table. And in the midst of chaos, I had this one beautiful thing. And the reality is, when you can cling to the one beautiful thing, you can also find a million other beautiful things. And the gratitude for having that space in your house where you can sit and relax, and the gratitude for the stuff that is good. You can find those things. But sometimes I think we need to give ourselves some breadcrumbs. And one beautiful thing is a breadcrumb. And making yourself feel better by how you look is a breadcrumb. And it's easy, I think, sometimes to let people convince us that caring about how we look is vanity. And I don't think it's vanity. I think it's a strategy. I think that there's so many studies to back this up that when you feel good about yourself, everything else goes more smoothly. And I really want to stress that to you guys today. It does not have to be looking like me or looking like your sister or looking like someone in a magazine. It could be no makeup, but, like, you know, you put on a beautiful silk robe and you use the really good body lotion and use your everyday oil, and you just, like, made yourself feel really nourished and really taken care of. It can be the food that you eat. It can be, you know, taking 10 minutes to stretch. It's those acts of self care that remind you about you. Because most of us, when we are working so hard to provide and take care of our teams, of our kids, of our partners, we end up being the last person on the list. And if you find yourself in a rut and you find yourself in a hard season, it's really worth Just taking a few minutes and asking if there's some little intentional practice that you can do, some micro habit you could add right now that would make today feel so much better than it already does. Yeah, that's what I'm sitting with today. What are those choices that we can make? What are those things that we can do that will make it all feel so much better, or at least a little bit better than it currently does? It doesn't mean that life's not going to kick your butt. And honestly, if you're in a season of life kicking your butt. One of the books I wrote is completely about this subject. During 2020, in that hardest year of my life, I wrote a book called Didn't See See that Coming. It's a short little read. It's my shortest book I've ever written, but it was all of the advice and all of the ideas that I had after surviving a lot of really hard things and a lot of trauma. So if you find yourself in a hard season and you have not yet read Didn't See that Coming or you haven't listened to it on audible, you should go check it out because I think it's something you might find really helpful. But yeah, we're in it. We're in it right now and we're figuring things out and we're making life work. And I have absolute faith that it will get better and then it will get worse again because that's sort of how life works. But as long as I stay grounded, as long as I keep walking in faith and doing the things I know are helpful, I'm gonna get through it. My family's gonna get through it. We're all gonna get through it. Feeling good on the other side. So I will be back tomorrow morning. I hope you will come and join me on your way to to work or school or life. And until next time, as always, I love you and I'm rooting for you. The rachel hollis podcast is produced by me, rachel hollis. It's edited by andrew weller and jack noble. So good, so good, so good. New markdowns up to 70% off are at Nordstrom Rack stores now. Stock up and save big on shoes, tops, dresses, accessories and more must haves for summer. Join the Nordy Club to unlock exclusive discounts. Shop new arrivals first and more. Plus, buy online and pick up at your favorite Rack store for free. Great brands, great prices. 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