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The REALationship Method
Hosted by Chris Lomboy · EN
The REALationship Method is a comedic podcast about dating, relationships, and advice, blending tips with plenty of tangents. With stories and experiences shared by the cast and guests, it offers cautionary tales to help you avoid making the same mistakes. So sit back, relax, and maybe learn a thing or ten!
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Bathroom Breaks, Hormone Shifts, and COVID Divorces with Lola
1w ago00:55:50Tap to summarizeSend us Fan MailThe scariest relationship problems aren’t always the loud ones. Sometimes it’s the quiet drift: two people doing everything for the family, handling life like a checklist, then waking up one day feeling like strangers. Chris sits down with wellness practitioner and fitness coach Lola, founder of Lola’s Vibrant Living, to get honest about why that happens and what actually helps couples reconnect. We dig into a topic many men misunderstand: what can change for women after 35. Lola explains how hormone shifts can affect mood, desire, patience, and even the “lens” someone sees life through, especially after kids and years of putting everyone else first. We also talk about why a well-meaning staycation, a night off, or “go take self-care” can land wrong when receiving help feels awkward, loaded, or unsafe. If you’ve ever tried to support your partner and got pushback, this conversation gives you a new framework. From there, we get practical. Lola breaks down how routine and structure rebuild self-worth through small wins, why expectations quietly create tension, and how resentment often comes from meaning and interpretation, not just words. We also touch on survival mode marriages, COVID pressure, and the truth behind the line: a lot of women don’t want a divorce, they want relief. If you want better marriage communication, healthier habits, and a stronger emotional connection, hit play. Subscribe, share this with someone who needs relief, and leave a review with the one shift you’re going to try this week.• hormonal shifts after 35 shaping perception, energy, and emotional bandwidth• why offers of “go relax” can feel unsafe or loaded• the challenge many women have with receiving help and voicing what they want• getting out of robotic survival mode through routine, structure, and small wins• releasing expectations and focusing on what you can control• Lola’s health story, miscarriage, and the question “Is what I’m doing working for me?”• how couples reconnect through acknowledgment, forgiveness, and simplifying life• why timing, tone, and interpretation matter more than the words• the idea that many women want relief more than divorce• finding nostalgia and meaning in the messy parenting years
Transcribe →Creepy Bosses, Red Flag Ignorance, and Long Distance Trust with Kacee
2w ago01:01:54Tap to summarizeSend us Fan MailA “good opportunity” can turn into a bad situation fast, especially when money, access, and attention get mixed together. Kacee comes back to talk with us about what changed since the last time we recorded: she’s getting better modeling and influencer marketing gigs, she’s being paid in cash instead of just merch, and she’s learning the hard line between a brand that respects you and a person who tries to control you.We get into the uncomfortable stuff, too. Kacee opens up about a brand owner who gave her and other women weird vibes, the moment it stopped feeling safe, and what finally made her say “I’m done.” From there, we talk boundaries that actually protect you: how she handles DMs, why she keeps distance with strangers, and how trusting your gut can save you time, money, and stress. If you work in modeling, content creation, or any public facing job, this is a real conversation about professional safety and self respect.Then we shift to relationships and dating standards. Kacee breaks down the biggest red flags she ignored with an ex, what feels different with her current boyfriend, and what emotional intelligence looks like in real life. We talk long distance trust (he’s away on a ship), healthy arguments, why “casual” often gets messy, and why cheating culture is wrecking modern dating. If you’ve ever wondered whether your standards are too high, or you’re trying to learn how to communicate without blowing things up, you’ll get plenty to think about.If this hit home, subscribe, share it with a friend who needs it, and leave a review. What boundary are you setting today?• her boyfriend’s merchant marine schedule and how they handle distance• leveling up in modeling with better paid brand deals and consistent work• the warning signs of a creepy brand owner and why she walked away• being managed by her mom and shifting to marketing for career growth• red flags she ignored before and the traits that feel safe now• boundaries with DMs, strangers in public, and online attention• what makes a partner “boyfriend material” beyond looks• why casual situations often turn messy and the case for transparency• what a healthy argument looks like and why people quit too fast• independence, missed calls, and trust when both people are building goals• standards that are realistic versus standards that are just fantasy• cheating culture and why honest communication beats sneaking around
Transcribe →Modeling Scams, Hangin' Out with Baddies, and Picking up Poop with Amari
Apr 2800:56:03Tap to summarizeSend us Fan MailYour dog can embarrass you in a coffee shop, your DMs can expose your boundaries, and your social media can either build your career or drain your peace. We link all of that together with Amari, a Hawaii model and actress who’s also the founder of Baddies of Hawaii, a community built for artists, models, and creators who want support without the drama.We talk about what “baddie” actually means when you strip away the noise: confidence, goals, and showing up for your people. Amari breaks down real-world safety in the modeling industry, how to vet photographers, what to watch for in casting, and why “pay to work” is a red flag. If you’re trying to get booked for runway shows, commercial shoots, or acting gigs in Hawaii, we also share practical tips like how to film a runway walk video and how to treat Instagram like a professional portfolio.Then we get personal about relationships and public attention: how marriage impacts DMs, what respectful messages look like, and how a supportive partner can turn outside attention into something that strengthens the relationship instead of threatening it. We also dig into privacy boundaries, code words, avoiding regret posts, and why genuine check-ins matter more than we admit.Subscribe for more honest relationship conversations, share this with a friend who’s building a public life, and leave a review with your biggest takeaway.• running errands with dogs and handling public mishaps• recurring dreams and why certain themes stick• creating Baddies of Hawaii as a supportive model community• spotting photographer red flags and protecting comfort levels• acting and modeling in Hawaii and how pay differs from visibility• avoiding modeling scams and refusing pay-to-work gigs• filming a runway walk video and what casting teams look for• how marriage changes DMs and what respectful messages look like• keeping friends of the opposite sex without crossing lines• why genuine check-ins matter for mental health• using social media like a portfolio and staying in the algorithm• learning privacy boundaries and avoiding regret posts
Transcribe →Keeping Your Lashes On, Parental Cops, and Chris' Nair Experience with Lynn
Apr 2100:57:29Tap to summarizeSend us Fan MailA tsunami alert hits your phone and half the neighborhood panics while the other half fires up a barbecue. That’s how this conversation starts, and it only gets more honest from there. Lynn joins me to talk about what it’s really like chasing modeling in Hawaii while staying grounded through storms, social media noise, and the weird stuff that comes with being visible online. We get into her path toward cosmetology or aesthetician school and why she wants to pair beauty industry skills like waxing and lashes with a business degree. If you’re building a brand, thinking about entrepreneurship, or trying to create a stable career in the creator economy, her plan is simple and smart: learn a real skill, learn how to run the business, then scale with consistency. We also talk about rejection in modeling and brand collaborations, how she reaches out to companies, what “no” sounds like, and why it shouldn’t shake your confidence when you know there are more opportunities out there. From there we dig into the social side: relationship boundaries, trust, jealousy, and how she handles DMs and attention without letting it run her life. We also talk body image, confidence, gym culture, and the pressure to look perfect on Instagram, plus practical photography lessons like angles and framing that can instantly improve your content. If you care about self-confidence, modeling advice, influencer marketing, and staying authentic online, you’ll get plenty to take with you. If you enjoyed the conversation, subscribe, share it with a friend who’s chasing a goal, and leave a review. What’s one boundary you’ve set with social media that actually improved your life?• stormy Hawaii weather, power outages and a tsunami warning story• growing up with police parents and what support looks like at home• cosmetology and aesthetician goals plus planning a beauty business• waxing and body hair preferences, funny fails and real talk• how Lynn gets into modeling through a best friend and brand collabs• dealing with rejection, discipline and the numbers game of opportunities• why angles matter in photos and what makes a shoot actually work• beauty standards, lashes, and the pressure to look perfect• trust, DMs, jealousy and setting boundaries with social media attention• cancel culture, online judgment, bullying and outgrowing high school• confidence versus insecurity, gym culture and approaching people respectfullyYou can find me on Instagram or TikTok. They're both the same username. Lynn L-Y-N-N Maria, but replace the I with the one.
Transcribe →Love After Loss, Patience in New Relationships & Healing Outloud with King Katty
Mar 3100:56:43Tap to summarizeSend us Fan MailYou’ve probably met someone who looks “tough” and assumed they don’t feel much. This conversation flips that myth on its head. I sit down with Hawaii fighter and full-time mom King Katty to talk about what strength actually costs, how boundaries keep you safe, and why emotional pain can be harder to heal than any black eye in the gym.We start with her origin story: running the streets, fighting out of anger, and then finding boxing at a small backyard gym where a crew of girls became the first “Lady Animals” training together. From there we get into modern dating and relationship advice that’s blunt but clean: men approaching her cautiously, why social media kills mystery, and the standards she refuses to compromise on like communication, loyalty, and clarity. We also talk about dominance that feels secure versus arrogance that gets checked fast, plus what she values most in a partner through acts of service and words of affirmation.Then the real heart of it: grief, guilt, and love after loss. King Katty shares what it’s like to heal out loud after losing her husband, raising five kids while the house still has to run, and finding patience in a new connection without rushing labels. We close with parenting, structure, and the kind of discipline stories you will not forget, plus where to follow her and details around her upcoming BKFC fight. If you got something from this, subscribe, share it with a friend, and leave a review so more people can find the show.• her origin story from running the streets to training boxing with the Lady Animals• being recognized in public and why men approach cautiously• protecting privacy in the social media era and keeping mystery alive• what kills attraction fast and why inconsistency does not fly• simple relationship standards like communication loyalty and clarity• dominance versus arrogance and reading a man’s energy• love after loss including guilt and comparing new partners• patience in new relationships without rushing labels• raising five kids with structure and trust• emotional pain versus physical pain and why self-work matters• blended family anxiety and introducing a new partner gently• fighting as therapy and healing out loud• parenting advice for teen relationships plus dinner table rules• discipline stories including docking allowance and taking a door awayInstagram, King Katty on Instagram. I think it’s king.Katttyy. Make sure you guys are there. Ticketmaster will have tickets.
Transcribe →100!!! REAL Marriage Talk, Bad/Good Cop, and Brady Bunch Woes with Tiffany
Mar 1701:02:13Tap to summarizeSend us Fan MailWe hit a milestone and decided to make it personal: Chris brings on his wife, Tiffany Lomboy, for the 100th episode of The REALationship Method, and we go straight into the stuff couples usually talk about after the kids are asleep. Tiffany opens up about caring for her dad after a stroke, what recovery at home really looks like, and the warning signs that made her say, “We’re going to the hospital.” If you’ve ever Googled stroke symptoms, caregiver stress, or how to keep your marriage steady when life gets heavy, you’ll feel this conversation.Then we pivot to marriage and parenting with zero filters: the clashes that come from different personalities, how we split household duties without constant “meetings,” and how good cop bad cop actually plays out when you’re tired and overstimulated. We also talk blended family parenting, learning each other’s boundaries with older kids, and why repair matters more than being “right,” including apologizing to your kids when you lose your temper.The biggest debate is one a lot of families avoid out loud: should a 19-year-old pay rent at home? Chris breaks down the real-world skills he’s trying to teach, Tiffany shares the emotional side of letting your kids struggle, and we unpack how to make decisions as a team even when we don’t fully agree. We wrap with lighter moments too, like the story behind our pet name “Ebabs” and the question that stings a little: who gets the nicest version of you, coworkers, friends, or family?If you got something from this, subscribe to The REALationship Method, share this with a parent or partner who needs it, and leave a review so more people can find the show.• caring for Tiffany’s dad after his stroke and what recovery looks like at home• the early stroke symptoms they noticed and why acting fast matters• living together with big personalities and how they navigate friction• how they split parenting duties and handle good cop versus bad cop• blended family boundaries with older kids and shared kids• Tiffany’s support for Chris starting a solo relationship podcast• dealing with family reactions to personal stories and managing embarrassment• parenting moments they regret plus apologizing to kids and handling mom guilt• whether adult kids should pay rent and what responsibility training looks like• mood shifts, venting safely, and what helps them de-escalate• the story behind “Ebabs” and why their private language matters• who gets the nicest version of you at work, with friends, or at homeHey, thank you for listening and watching this 100th episode.
Transcribe →Creating the Scene, Persistent with the Vision and Protecting Your Worth with Scoot and Mai
Mar 301:09:02Tap to summarizeSend us Fan MailCreative momentum doesn’t come from perfect conditions. It comes from saying yes early, learning when to say no, and mastering the details that most people overlook—like how to rescue a high-noon ceremony or coax a genuine smile from a nervous couple. We sit down with two Hawaii-based photographers, Scoot and Mai, to unpack the real playbook for building trust, shaping light, and growing a career that actually lasts.We start with the outreach game: why DMs get ignored, how to write messages that earn replies, and why meeting people in person changes everything. From there, we pull back the curtain on weddings that happen at the worst possible time for light and how pros adapt without ruining the vibe. Night shoots get love too—balancing flash with ambient warmth, asking clients if they prefer cool or warm tones, and using quick test shots to align on style before the big moments happen.Editing and ethics take center stage. Mai explains her minimalist approach—remove distractions, protect real skin, and save heavy retouching for beauty images—while admitting the simple magic of a subtle face swap to fix blinking group shots. Scoot shares how fast, thoughtful in-camera color and JPEG delivery can win clients who need next-day turnarounds. We also talk shop about credits, watermarks, and contracts: set expectations in writing, ask for tags once, then move on and choose collaborators who respect the work.Style threads through the whole episode. Scoot’s fashion revamps—spray paint, rhinestones, glow effects—turn rentals into head-turning looks for shoots and events, while Mai calls for intention over hype when it comes to gym fits and mall wear. Underneath the humor is a serious point: your choices signal your standards. That applies to clothes, edits, prices, and boundaries. Manifest goals, keep a visible mood board, and knock out weekly must-dos to beat procrastination. And remember the power of me time—those quiet hours that protect your mind and keep your craft sharp.If you’re a creator—photographer, designer, or content maker—looking to navigate ghosted DMs, tough lighting, and the politics of credit without burning out, this conversation will feel like a deep breath. Subscribe, share with a friend who needs a push, and leave a review telling us the one boundary you plan to set this week.• choosing guests and saying yes with intent• moving from free shoots to knowing your worth• why lighting beats gear and how to adapt• weddings at midday and saving skin tones• night shoots with flash and ambient warmth• editing lightly, removing distractions, swapping faces• posing with prompts and building comfort fast• DM culture, follow-ups, and in-person trust• referrals in Hawaii and growing a media team• contracts, credits, and handling missing tags• fashion revamps, rentals, and practical style• mindset, goals, mood boards, and me time
Transcribe →Cheesecake Factory Isn't Trash, Fake Collabs, and Red Flags in Casual Dating with Zakaila
Feb 1700:41:51Tap to summarizeSend us Fan MailA chance DM turned into a wide-open conversation with model, creator, and early childhood educator Zakaila—Seattle-born, Honolulu-rooted—about building a life that actually fits. She shares how COVID crashed a long-planned world trip, why she pivoted fast to Hawaii, and how that leap brought her back to performance through Tahitian dance, deeper community around music, and a creative lane that feels like home.We get honest about the messy inbox reality creators face: fake “collabs” that ask you to buy in, vague brands, shipping ghosts, and TikTok shop misses. Together we map a simple playbook for protecting your time—clear deliverables, real rates, and the courage to pass when something smells off. From there we move into her day work in early education. Big feelings, tiny humans, and why empathy paired with structure helps kids regulate, communicate, and grow. The hard part? Burnout driven less by children and more by shifting parent expectations and scarce resources.Relationships get airtime, too. We compare first-date norms—coffee “zero dates,” picnics, and the eternal Cheesecake Factory debate—and cut to what matters: intention. Red flags look like months of “almost” with no next step. When it’s real, you feel safe, not confused. That’s how she and her partner knew to choose each other and build forward. We also unpack posting your partner online, archiving for peace, and finding a healthy middle between private life and public work.If you’re chasing creative work, teaching with heart, or navigating modern love, this one’s for you. Hit follow, share with a friend who needs a pivot story, and leave a review with your best scam-spotting tip or first-date idea—we’ll feature our favorites next week.• DM overload, filtering scams vs real offers• Paying to “collab” vs fair partnerships• Seattle roots, pivot to Honolulu during COVID• Tahitian dance, modeling, and the local music scene• Early education work, empathy for big kid emotions• Teacher burnout driven by parent dynamics and low resources• Post–high school adulthood, accountability and timelines• First-date norms, coffee “zero dates,” picnic appeal• Cheesecake Factory debate, intention over hype• Red flags in casual dating and setting standards• Choosing each other quickly, defining commitment• Social media privacy, posting partners with boundaries• Seahawks heartbreak memory and final shoutouts
Transcribe →Couch-Surfing, Owning Cringe, and Scriptless Scripts with Suavenohea
Feb 1001:00:32Tap to summarizeSend us Fan MailA one-way ticket, a do-rag, and $200. That’s how Suave landed in Hawaii at 19, betting on instinct, island culture, and the kind of grind most people only romanticize. We dive into the real playbook behind that leap—why he never scripts, how he handles stares in public, and the moment streaming beat short-form videos for deeper connection.We get into the creator trenches with zero fluff: the IRL setup that keeps streams stable (why the Samsung S25 Plus and top-tier T-Mobile plan matter), what it takes to grow when you’re couch-surfing and DoorDashing just to keep a rental, and how to stay human when the internet won’t drop a past controversy. Suave breaks down purpose with refreshing clarity—spread positivity, make people laugh, and motivate others to chase their dream—while Chris presses on accountability, confidence, and what it means to be recognized everywhere from airports to bathrooms.The conversation widens into life, growth, and the weight of responsibility. We talk fatherhood goals shaped by an absent dad, where discipline meets empathy, and the messy reality of men under pressure. Who’s the prize and why? How do you keep focus when feelings hit hard or attention gets loud? From body image to tough love, from simping versus romanticizing to setting standards that protect your future, this is raw, funny, and unexpectedly grounding.If you’re building a creative path—streaming, content, or anything that asks you to be seen—there’s game here you can use today. Tap play, subscribe for more candid creator stories, and drop your biggest takeaway in a review so we can bring even better conversations your way.• moving from Stockton to Oahu on faith and hustle• DoorDash, couches, and friends who believed• scriptless skits, dealing with public stares, owning cringe• purpose focused on positivity, laughter, and motivation• resolving the Kauai moped incident and learning• streaming vs recorded content, IRL gear and carriers• approaching women, confidence, and visibility on a small island• fatherhood goals, discipline, and priorities• men, feelings, pressure, and resilience• who is the prize, value-building, and standards• body image, health habits, and tough love• staying locked in, avoiding simping, and raising your bar
Transcribe →Finding Home Far From Home, Portland Protests, and Dating by Faith with Benny
Feb 300:55:25Tap to summarizeSend us Fan MailA rainy city can make you feel alone even when you know everyone. That’s where Benny found himself in Portland—craving real community, steady sunshine, and a way to put faith into practice. One week in Hawaii flipped the script: pounding poi, working in the lo‘i, worship threaded with culture, and mentors who measured belief by service. School opened the door, but the heart of the move was purpose—helping kids with incarcerated parents and choosing a place where ohana isn’t a cliché, it’s daily life.We dig into the tradeoffs that come with paradise. The cost of living is brutal, the grind is real, and deciding whether to stay after graduation means doing the math as much as following your heart. Benny opens up about juggling biblical studies with a State Farm gig, the ache of missing Black community, and the blessing of friends who make island life feel like home. He gets candid about dating: it’s not hard to meet people in Hawaii, it’s hard to find alignment. Faith lived out, real conversation, and a growth mindset top his list, and he explains how cultural respect matters more than smooth talk.The conversation turns sharp and honest when we compare Portland’s protest years to Hawaii’s calmer streets, and when we talk about non-locals moving to the islands. Benny shares how online backlash taught him to listen first, honor the monarchy’s legacy, and stop treating Hawaii like content. From not touching turtles to learning why displacement cuts deep, he’s focused on humility, service, and showing up where it counts. Along the way, we hit food favorites, Waikiki’s Vegas energy, and why Hawaiian history should be common knowledge, not a footnote.If you’re weighing a leap for peace, purpose, or belonging, this story offers a grounded map: follow the open doors, learn the land, serve the people, and let values lead. If it resonates, subscribe, share with a friend who needs courage to move, and leave a review with your definition of “home.”• moving from Portland to Hawaii for peace and purpose• school as the vehicle, community as the destination• cost of living pressures and staying long term• dating with faith, conversation, and growth in mind• Portland protests versus Hawaii policing• respecting local culture, land, and history• learning Hawaiian history and unlearning mainland gaps• food, friends, and finding ohana through service
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