The Really Good Podcast with Bobbi Althoff
Episode: What makes you respect a man? | That's BS
Date: April 6, 2026
Hosts: Bobbi Althoff (“Doug”) & Sukihana ("Suki")
Episode Overview
This episode kicks off a new season of "That's BS" with Bobbi Althoff and Sukihana, diving into candid, humorous, and sometimes deeply personal conversations about respect, relationships, boundaries, motherhood, honesty, and the intricacies of modern dating. Through playful banter and authentic moments, Bobbi and Suki explore what makes them respect men, red flags in relationships, girl code, and the importance of honesty and self-respect.
Main Discussion Points & Insights
1. What Makes You Respect a Man?
- Kicking Off with Respect:
- Suki and Bobbi open by reflecting on the little things men do that win respect, with a humorous and generous tone.
- Suki: “When they pay for my babysitter. Because first of all, I'm a package deal. I got kids.” (01:55)
- Suki appreciates men who acknowledge her responsibility as a mom and help with real-life needs—sometimes even making her grandmother (her trusted babysitter) happy with “money and some weed.”
- Suki: “She just wants a weed and a little bit of funds and some cigarettes. What's the green and white pack?... Newport short pack. Yep.”
2. Relationships, Pregnancy, and Motherhood
- Personal Updates:
- Suki discusses her healthy, longtime (on-and-off) relationship and her current pregnancy.
- Suki: “This is actually the most healthy relationship that I've ever been in.” (03:00)
- Talks about the struggle to balance career ambition with personal milestones like having children.
- Emotional moment when Suki reflects on her fans buying out her baby registry:
- Suki: “I'm, like, emotional and happy about it because it's like, wait, my fans, really? I couldn't believe it…” (05:27)
- Honesty & Boundaries:
- Bobbi and Suki reflect on being awkward, shyness vs. public persona, and using banter to cover vulnerability.
- Breastfeeding, drinking, and lifestyle changes during pregnancy—accepting new norms and embracing motherhood.
3. Correcting vs. Letting It Go
- Discuss the tension between correcting people vs. letting small errors slide in social situations.
- Bobbi: “I don't ever correct anyone. If I'm saying something and somebody misinterprets it, I'll just start saying the thing they interpreted…” (07:36)
- Suki: “I'll correct them and I'll say something funny at the end.” (07:45)
- Anecdotes about strangers misgendering their children and the subtle social dance around corrections.
4. Relationship Boundaries and Red Flags
- On Friends of the Opposite Sex:
- Suki and Bobbi debate whether it’s okay to have close friends of the opposite sex while in a relationship.
- Suki: “I don't like him to be friends with people that he dated because he don't like me to be friends with people that I've dated. It's like a mutual thing.” (14:51)
- Both agree that having past romantic ties makes real friendship complicated.
- Suki and Bobbi debate whether it’s okay to have close friends of the opposite sex while in a relationship.
- On Baby Mamas, Honesty, and Oversharing:
- Suki on dating men with multiple kids/baby mamas:
- “How many baby mamas? Four… No. Nope.” (27:29)
- She values clear boundaries and men who establish order and respect between families.
- Both hosts discuss oversharing in relationships—how much truth to tell a partner vs. friends.
- Bobbi: “I'm an open book, though. It's hard for me not to. I think I'm like autistic or something.” (30:20)
- Suki: “Well, you just gotta know if you're gonna tell people your secrets, just be willing to… If it does come out, just be like, yeah, I did it.” (30:44)
- Never tell your boyfriend your friend's secrets!
- Doug: “A boyfriend should not know your friend's business.” (31:41)
- Suki: “Why would you tell your man that your friend just got gonorrhea? … You shouldn't be telling anybody. What's it when you tell one person, you're telling 10.” (31:55)
- Suki on dating men with multiple kids/baby mamas:
5. Gender Roles & Double Standards
- Financial Roles:
- Is being broke a dealbreaker? Suki’s take:
- Suki: “Broke is a mentality. … I do believe that a man should be a provider… If you can't afford to date on both ends, you should be, you know, chasing your goals and your dreams.” (26:29)
- Is being broke a dealbreaker? Suki’s take:
- Honesty About the Past:
- Bobbi and Suki talk about how much of their relationship/dating past to reveal to new partners. There’s a distinction between honest openness and oversharing.
6. Motherhood, Names, and Parenting
- Brainstorming baby names (“Peaches,” “Birthday”) in a comedic riff about unusual choices.
- Suki: “I love the name Peaches. … Some people think that's a stripper name, but I just think it's an older woman's name.” (20:22)
- On being a good co-parent and maintaining harmony with exes and their families.
7. Motherhood Body Image & Self-Acceptance
- Suki talks about stretch marks, tummy tucks, and choosing to avoid more surgery in favor of self-acceptance.
- “Surgery, it's hard because it changes your mindset. And you can get body dysmorphia by trying to be so perfect.” (38:06)
Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments
- On Babysitter Respect:
- Suki: “Call your grandmama up. I'm gonna give her some money and some weed. Then my grandma watches them.” (02:05)
- On Girl Code and Secret Keeping:
- Doug: “A boyfriend should not know your friend's business.” (31:41)
- On Dating Men with Kids:
- Suki: “Baby mamas is ghetto. Like, they is ghetto… If he got his whole shit in place and checked, then we cool. But don’t you ever have nobody try to run up on me or play with men ever in life.” (27:40)
- On Sex & Relationship Honesty:
- Suki: “I was a hoe, but I'm not no hoe no more. So why is you sitting there judging me and you like hoes?” (30:12)
- On Giving Oral:
- Suki: “It cures depression like it does.” (34:18)
- On Boundaries in Sharing:
- Doug: “There are so many people. I think if you're a female and you're watching this and you're a little chatty, tell your boyfriend everything, you should stop because it's. It's not okay. It's like a violation of their privacy. There should be a law protecting.” (32:38)
That's B.S.: Rapid-Fire Games about Dating Red Flags
Segment Start: 41:17 A game where Suki and Bobbi rapid-fire popular excuses or phrases men say in relationships, deciding if it’s “B.S.” or not.
- If he says, “I’m bad at texting.”
- Suki: “He don't like you, girl.” (41:33)
- If he says, “My phone died and I fell asleep.”
- Both: “That’s B.S. He’s with a girl.” (41:50)
- If he says, “I don’t like drama.”
- Suki: “It always be the ones that start in drama that don’t take accountability. Gaslighting.” (42:01)
- If he says, “I’m not ready for a relationship.”
- Both: “That’s BS. For the right person, he would be.” (42:20)
- If he asks you to come over instead of going out.
- Suki: “He is trying to sleep with you without courting you... You cannot go to his house, make him take you on dates, and make him take you on a bunch of dates.” (43:14)
- Three month rule about sex.
- Suki: “I don't wait no three months now. I mean, I might. Three days, three months is all the same to me sometimes… Go with the flow. If you like him… give it up.” (43:36)
- If he says, “You deserve better than me.”
- Suki: “Maybe they're not gonna change who they are and they want you to find love after they don't played you for a long time.” (45:13)
Final Thoughts & Episode Wrap-Up
- Girl Power & Chemistry:
- Bobbi and Suki celebrate the new season, expressing joy at working together, promising regular episodes and more audience interaction.
- Suki: “We're gonna take over the world.” (33:29)
- Music, Photo Shoots, and More:
- Tease upcoming projects, music, and candid behind-the-scenes friendship moments.
- Looking Forward:
- Anticipation for deeper questions and more storytelling in the next episodes.
- Suki: “Next time she's gonna... come with the questions.” (33:52)
Timestamps for Key Segments
- 01:49 - "What makes you respect a man?"—Babysitter story
- 03:11 - Suki’s relationship and pregnancy update
- 05:27 - Suki overwhelmed by fans’ generosity
- 14:51 - On friends of the opposite sex in relationships
- 26:29 - On provider roles and dating broke men
- 27:40 - Dating men with children/baby mamas
- 30:12 - Oversharing, honesty, and secrets in relationships
- 34:18 - Oral sex, self-care, and sexual honesty
- 41:17 - “That’s B.S.” dating excuses game
- 45:13 - Closing thoughts on relationships and episode wrap-up
Tone & Style
The conversation is raw, unfiltered, and comedic, packed with realness, vulnerability, and street-smart wisdom. Suki brings bold energy and lived experience, while Bobbi, with her deadpan and slightly awkward style, provides balance for moments of both hilarity and reflection.
Summary
This episode is an open, honest, and entertaining deep-dive into what makes men (and relationships) worthy of respect. Suki and Bobbi’s chemistry shines as they confront double standards, discuss the realities of motherhood and dating, and dish out advice on boundaries, honesty, and self-worth with signature wit. For listeners, it’s both a laugh-out-loud session and a source of real talk you won’t find anywhere else.