Podcast
The Sage Sorority
Hosted by Shantel Rousseau · EN
💡 Wisdom. Sisterhood. Real Talk.
Welcome to The Sage Sorority—the ultimate podcast for modern women navigating life, career, and relationships with confidence, humour, and a little bit of chaos. Hosted from London, this show is your weekly dose of unfiltered big sister advice, blending deep conversations with fun, relatable insights on self-worth, success, dating, and personal growth.
✨ What You’ll Get in Every Episode:
✔️ Raw, real conversations about life as a woman in your 30s & 40s
✔️ Empowering advice on career, money, relationships & self-care
✔️ Expert guests & inspiring women sharing their unfiltered truths
✔️ A mix of deep wisdom & playful banter—because life’s too short for boring podcasts
If you’re figuring out who you are, what you want, and how to live a life that feels as good as it looks, you’re in the right place. Join us for honest discussions on personal growth, female friendships, modern love, and leveling up in every aspect of life.
📍 New episodes every Thursday
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💌 Connect with us: @thesagesorority
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episode 056 - start here: the best episodes on dating, friendship and identity for women in their 30s
Mar 500:24:14Tap to summarizeIf someone just sent you this episode, welcome. You landed in exactly the right place. This is The Sage Sorority - the podcast that feels less like advice from above and more like the group chat with your most thoughtful friend. Sharp, warm, honest, and always talking to your intelligence, never over it.In this episode, Shantel takes you back through the first 25 episodes of the show (!!!) Not as a sentimental look back, but as a practical roadmap. Whether you're brand new and don't know where to start, or you've been here since episode one and could use a reminder of how much ground you've already covered, this episode is your guide.We revisit the identity episodes that hit differently (episodes 5, 11, 12, and 19), the dating episodes that cut through the noise without handing you a rulebook (episodes 3, 7, and 17), and the friendship episodes that consistently generate the most DMs — because friendship grief, friendship confusion, and friendship loneliness are real, and women deserve more language for all of it (episodes 6, 10, 23, and 25).Shantel also shares exactly which episodes to go to depending on what you're navigating right now! Whether that's rebuilding after a hard season, questioning a relationship, feeling lonely in a way you can't quite explain, or just sensing that the version of you everyone expects has quietly become a bad fit.--want to book a coaching session? all the info is here - https://squ.re/45jq3uewant to partner w/The Sage Sorority Podcast? let’s chat - thesagesorority@gmail.comhave a question? send in an (anonymous) one for Q&A - https://tellonym.me/thesagesorority 💘SUBSTACK// https://open.substack.com/pub/thesagesororityINSTAGRAM// https://www.instagram.com/thesagesorority/TIKTOK// https://www.tiktok.com/@thesagesororityYOUTUBE// https://www.youtube.com/@TheSageSororitysubscribe to The Sage Sorority Podcast + leave a (cheeky) 5* rating 💘youtube: http://bit.ly/45ei8wOspotify: https://spoti.fi/4iVPAhnapple: https://bit.ly/41ZNwO2 💘catch up with, our founder + host, Shantelinstagram// https://www.instagram.com/shantelrousseau/tiktok// https://www.tiktok.com/@shantelrousseauSnapchat// https://snapchat.com/t/fb8LTRCmyoutube// https://www.youtube.com/@shantelrousseauonlineOUTFITS - ShopMy// https://shopmy.us/shantelrousseauOUTFITS - LTK// https://www.shopltk.com/explore/shantelrousseau💘
Transcribe →episode 055 - how to be more interesting, pt.2
Feb 2600:35:31Tap to summarizeLooking for the foundations? Start with episode 33, How to Be More Interesting Part 1. BTW, consider this the definitive version of episode 033 (!!!) also, I kept saying episode 054, lol sorry! This is episode 055!Most of us are living interesting lives and telling them in the most boring way possible. Part two of one of The Sage Sorority's most popular episodes ever is finally here, and this one is about expression. How do you take everything you've built internally and actually let it land in conversation, on a date, in a work meeting, at a dinner party?In this episode, Shantel breaks down the art of storytelling, what genuine curiosity actually looks like in practice, and the specific habits that make a woman truly magnetic in any room.In this episode:Why most women are living interesting lives but narrating them in an uninteresting way, and how to fix itThe anatomy of a good story: the "so what" test, the power of specificity, and the difference between recounting something and actually telling itMatthew Dicks, record Moth StorySLAM champion and author of Storyworthy, and his philosophy of the five-second momentBrené Brown on why specificity and imperfection are what make stories land, not polishCuriosity as a competitive edge: why breadth beats performance and how to find your genuine pocket of depthThe science of presence: why full, unhurried attention is one of the most magnetic things a woman can offer in 2026What interesting women don't do: overexplaining, one-upping, performing curiosity, shrinking opinions to seem agreeableWhy mystery is criminally underrated in the era of "spend the day with me" contentICYMI: EPISODE 032 - how to be more interesting, pt.1 (https://open.spotify.com/episode/3IETywtviU47Hx0TfIi0t6?si=8X3KEMldT4Wae50UM_p5Uw)Storyworthy: Engage, Teach, Persuade, and Change Your Life through the Power of Storytelling - https://go.shopmy.us/p-44654010Captivate: The Science of Succeeding with People - https://go.shopmy.us/p-44654099The Power of Vulnerability | Brené Brown - https://youtu.be/iCvmsMzlF7o?si=2qzjpZVrF4dekH_FVanessa Van Edwards (Science of People) | TED - https://www.scienceofpeople.com/ted/Julian Treasure (How to speak so that people want to listen) | TED - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eIho2S0ZahI--want to book a coaching session? all the info is here - https://squ.re/45jq3uewant to partner w/The Sage Sorority Podcast? let’s chat - thesagesorority@gmail.comhave a question? send in an (anonymous) one for Q&A - https://tellonym.me/thesagesorority💘SUBSTACK// https://open.substack.com/pub/thesagesororityINSTAGRAM// https://www.instagram.com/thesagesorority/TIKTOK// https://www.tiktok.com/@thesagesororityYOUTUBE// https://www.youtube.com/@TheSageSororitysubscribe to The Sage Sorority Podcast + leave a (cheeky) 5* rating 💘youtube: http://bit.ly/45ei8wOspotify: https://spoti.fi/4iVPAhnapple: https://bit.ly/41ZNwO2THE SAGE SORORITY PODCAST - https://feeds.captivate.fm/thesagesorority/💘catch up with, our founder + host, Shantelinstagram// https://www.instagram.com/shantelrousseau/tiktok// https://www.tiktok.com/@shantelrousseauSnapchat// https://snapchat.com/t/fb8LTRCmyoutube// https://www.youtube.com/@shantelrousseauonlineOUTFITS - ShopMy// https://shopmy.us/shantelrousseauOUTFITS - LTK// https://www.shopltk.com/explore/shantelrousseau💘
Transcribe →episode 054 - stop waiting. you're already her!
Feb 1900:25:33Tap to summarizeA few weeks ago I was at a workshop and someone gave me the most annoyingly simple piece of advice I'd ever heard. I asked a published author and paid speaker how to become a published author and paid speaker. She said: speak and write. That's it.I laughed, because I knew she was right. And because I'd been doing both for ten years and still waiting for someone to make it official.This episode is about the version of yourself you keep putting off. The woman you're waiting to become when you're thinner, more ready, more settled, more certain. She's not coming to rescue you, because you're already her. You just have to decide to be.We get into the difference between performance and embodiment, why fake it till you make it gets a much worse reputation than it deserves, how the words we speak to ourselves become the house we live in, and four practical ways to actually stop waiting and start claiming. Oh, and it's the Year of the Fire Horse. This is the year to run.--want to book a coaching session? all the info is here - https://squ.re/45jq3uewant to partner w/The Sage Sorority Podcast? let’s chat - thesagesorority@gmail.comhave a question? send in an (anonymous) one for Q&A - https://tellonym.me/thesagesorority 💘 SUBSTACK// https://open.substack.com/pub/thesagesorority INSTAGRAM// https://www.instagram.com/thesagesorority/TIKTOK// https://www.tiktok.com/@thesagesororityYOUTUBE// https://www.youtube.com/@TheSageSorority subscribe to The Sage Sorority Podcast + leave a (cheeky) 5* rating 💘 youtube: http://bit.ly/45ei8wOspotify: https://spoti.fi/4iVPAhnapple: https://bit.ly/41ZNwO2 THE SAGE SORORITY PODCAST - https://feeds.captivate.fm/thesagesorority/ 💘catch up with, our founder + host, Shantel instagram// https://www.instagram.com/shantelrousseau/ tiktok// https://www.tiktok.com/@shantelrousseau youtube// https://www.youtube.com/@shantelrousseauonline OUTFITS - ShopMy// https://shopmy.us/shantelrousseauOUTFITS - LTK// https://www.shopltk.com/explore/shantelrousseau💘———
Transcribe →episode 053 - high standards or self-sabotage? what women get wrong about dating expectations
Feb 1300:23:46Tap to summarizeJoin us IRL: The Gathering — Wine, Women & Conversation Thursday, March 5th | 6pm | London 🎟️ [https://luma.com/w6fxpy9w]One year of The Sage Sorority (!!!) 🤍 In this episode, we're unpacking the "high standards" discourse - when your standards are protecting you, and when they might actually be fear in disguise. We're talking attraction, compatibility, capacity, and the questions you need to ask yourself before you write someone off.In this episode:The difference between protecting your peace and controlling outcomesWhy attachment styles can masquerade as "standards"5 questions to ask yourself when evaluating someone (or your own patterns)The one question that changes everythingMentioned:The All-or-Nothing Marriage by Eli FinkelAttached by Amir LevineEpisode 041: Attraction vs Compatibility vs Capacity--want to book a coaching session? all the info is here - https://squ.re/45jq3uewant to partner w/The Sage Sorority Podcast? let’s chat - thesagesorority@gmail.comhave a question? send in an (anonymous) one for Q&A - https://tellonym.me/thesagesorority 💘SUBSTACK// https://open.substack.com/pub/thesagesororityINSTAGRAM// https://www.instagram.com/thesagesorority/TIKTOK// https://www.tiktok.com/@thesagesororityYOUTUBE// https://www.youtube.com/@TheSageSororitysubscribe to The Sage Sorority Podcast + leave a (cheeky) 5* rating 💘youtube: http://bit.ly/45ei8wOspotify: https://spoti.fi/4iVPAhnapple: https://bit.ly/41ZNwO2💘catch up with, our founder + host, Shantelinstagram// https://www.instagram.com/shantelrousseau/tiktok// https://www.tiktok.com/@shantelrousseauyoutube// https://www.youtube.com/@shantelrousseauonlineOUTFITS - ShopMy// https://shopmy.us/shantelrousseauOUTFITS - LTK// https://www.shopltk.com/explore/shantelrousseau💘———
Transcribe →episode 052 - envy vs jealousy
Feb 500:29:11Tap to summarizeWe use "jealousy" as a catch-all for anything that feels gross and competitive. But envy and jealousy are actually two completely different experiences. One is giving you useful information about what you want. The other? That's fear wearing a really convincing disguise. Today we're unpacking both, how they show up in friendships (the part nobody talks about), and what to actually do when you feel them.In This Episode:→ The actual difference between envy and jealousy (and why language matters) → Envy is information. Jealousy is protection. → How both show up in friendships: promotions, new friends, weddings, glow ups → The Cool Girl monologue and friendship performance → Amadeus, Othello, Gone Girl → What social media has done to both emotions → What to do when you feel either oneReferenced Episodes:Episode 49: The Only Dating Advice You Need Episode 45: 3 Patterns I'm Noticing in Women's Dating & Friendships Right Now Episode 25: The Friendship Auditwant to book a coaching session? all the info is here - https://squ.re/45jq3uewant to partner w/The Sage Sorority Podcast? let’s chat - thesagesorority@gmail.comhave a question? send in an (anonymous) one for Q&A - https://tellonym.me/thesagesorority 💘SUBSTACK// https://open.substack.com/pub/thesagesororityINSTAGRAM// https://www.instagram.com/thesagesorority/TIKTOK// https://www.tiktok.com/@thesagesororityYOUTUBE// https://www.youtube.com/@TheSageSororitysubscribe to The Sage Sorority Podcast + leave a (cheeky) 5* rating 💘youtube: http://bit.ly/45ei8wOspotify: https://spoti.fi/4iVPAhnapple: https://bit.ly/41ZNwO2 💘catch up with, our founder + host, Shantelinstagram// https://www.instagram.com/shantelrousseau/tiktok// https://www.tiktok.com/@shantelrousseauyoutube// https://www.youtube.com/@shantelrousseauonlineOUTFITS - ShopMy// https://shopmy.us/shantelrousseauOUTFITS - LTK// https://www.shopltk.com/explore/shantelrousseau💘———Keywords/Tags:envy vs jealousy, difference between envy and jealousy, friendship jealousy, jealousy in friendships, green eyed monster, cool girl monologue, gone girl, female friendships, women in their 30s, modern womanhood, social media comparison
Transcribe →episode 051 - why 'putting yourself out there' isn't working (and what to do instead)
Jan 2900:26:12Tap to summarizeYou've been doing everything right—the apps, the events, saying yes to every invite—and you're exhausted. What if the advice to "put yourself out there" is actually making things worse?This week we're talking about the difference between being available and being magnetic, why effort and outcome aren't always correlated in relationships, and when strategic retreat might be the smarter move for your dating life and your friendships.We're also covering: when you actually should be putting yourself out there, how to know if you're strategically retreating or just avoiding, and what it looks like to let yourself be found instead of constantly seeking.In this episode:Why "putting yourself out there" has become a moral imperative (and why that's a problem)The difference between depletion disguised as action and genuine effortHow to know when you're performing availability instead of cultivating magnetismA permission slip to pause the apps, the coffee dates, and the networking eventsWhat it means to exist fully in your actual life--want to book a coaching session? all the info is here - https://squ.re/45jq3uewant to partner w/The Sage Sorority Podcast? let’s chat - thesagesorority@gmail.comhave a question? send in an (anonymous) one for Q&A - https://tellonym.me/thesagesorority💘SUBSTACK// https://open.substack.com/pub/thesagesororityINSTAGRAM// https://www.instagram.com/thesagesorority/TIKTOK// https://www.tiktok.com/@thesagesororityYOUTUBE// https://www.youtube.com/@TheSageSororitysubscribe to The Sage Sorority Podcast + leave a (cheeky) 5* rating 💘youtube: http://bit.ly/45ei8wOspotify: https://spoti.fi/4iVPAhnapple: https://bit.ly/41ZNwO2THE SAGE SORORITY PODCAST - https://feeds.captivate.fm/thesagesorority/💘catch up with, our founder + host, Shantelinstagram// https://www.instagram.com/shantelrousseau/tiktok// https://www.tiktok.com/@shantelrousseauyoutube// https://www.youtube.com/@shantelrousseauonlineOUTFITS - ShopMy// https://shopmy.us/shantelrousseauOUTFITS - LTK// https://www.shopltk.com/explore/shantelrousseau💘
Transcribe →episode 050 - ask a sage: love or money? + how to tell if you're private or closed off
Jan 2200:25:34Tap to summarizeWelcome back to The Sage Sorority. Episode 050 (WOW!) is an Ask a Sage: an AMA-style episode where I answer your anonymous questions (link down below for submission).The questions that came through this time weren't really asking what to do. They were asking how to know. How to read people. How to tell if what you're seeing is the real thing.In this episode, we're covering: → How do you tell the difference between being private and being emotionally closed off? → Love or money and why it's a false binary → When you haven't spoken to someone in a while, do you delete the chat history?If you've ever wondered whether you're being perceptive or paranoid, this one's for you.Find me on Instagram @thesagesorority and TikTok @shantelrousseau. Don't forget to rate and share the podcast, it's how we grow the show.--want to book a coaching session? all the info is here - https://squ.re/45jq3uewant to partner w/The Sage Sorority Podcast? let’s chat - thesagesorority@gmail.comhave a question? send in an (anonymous) one for Q&A - https://tellonym.me/thesagesorority 💘 SUBSTACK// https://open.substack.com/pub/thesagesorority INSTAGRAM// https://www.instagram.com/thesagesorority/TIKTOK// https://www.tiktok.com/@thesagesororityYOUTUBE// https://www.youtube.com/@TheSageSororitysubscribe to The Sage Sorority Podcast + leave a (cheeky) 5* rating 💘youtube: http://bit.ly/45ei8wOspotify: https://spoti.fi/4iVPAhnapple: https://bit.ly/41ZNwO2 💘catch up with, our founder + host, Shantelinstagram// https://www.instagram.com/shantelrousseau/tiktok// https://www.tiktok.com/@shantelrousseauyoutube// https://www.youtube.com/@shantelrousseauonlineOUTFITS - ShopMy// https://shopmy.us/shantelrousseauOUTFITS - LTK// https://www.shopltk.com/explore/shantelrousseau💘
Transcribe →episode 049 - the only dating advice you need
Jan 1500:19:36Tap to summarizeEpisode 049: The Only Dating Advice You NeedJanuary is the busiest month for dating apps and also the peak month for breakups. So before you swipe, I want to give you the one piece of advice I think actually matters.My theory? The only dating advice a woman really needs is knowing when to walk away. That's it. Everything else stems from that.In this episode, I'm talking about why women are conditioned to stay, analyse, and build cases for men who aren't showing up and what it costs us when we do. We get into what walking away actually looks like (it's not dramatic), why we fall for potential instead of reality, and how discernment is the real flex in dating.This one's for the girls in their dating era and honestly, for the ones in relationships too.If this episode resonated, share it with a friend who needs to hear it. And don't forget to rate the podcast on Apple or Spotify; it really helps the show grow. Love you lots xxwant to book a coaching session? all the info is here - https://squ.re/45jq3uewant to partner w/The Sage Sorority Podcast? let’s chat - thesagesorority@gmail.comhave a question? send in an (anonymous) one for Q&A - https://tellonym.me/thesagesorority 💘SUBSTACK// https://open.substack.com/pub/thesagesororityINSTAGRAM// https://www.instagram.com/thesagesorority/TIKTOK// https://www.tiktok.com/@thesagesororityYOUTUBE// https://www.youtube.com/@TheSageSororitysubscribe to The Sage Sorority Podcast + leave a (cheeky) 5* rating 💘💘catch up with, our founder + host, Shantel instagram// https://www.instagram.com/shantelrousseau/ tiktok// https://www.tiktok.com/@shantelrousseau youtube// https://www.youtube.com/@shantelrousseauonline OUTFITS - ShopMy// https://shopmy.us/shantelrousseauOUTFITS - LTK// https://www.shopltk.com/explore/shantelrousseau💘
Transcribe →episode 048 - it's quitter's day, so here's your permission slip
Jan 800:30:06Tap to summarizeTomorrow is Quitter's Day y'all! The second Friday of January when 80% of people abandon their New Year's resolutions (crazy!) ...and while the internet is gearing up to tell you to push through, I'm offering a different perspective. What if those resolutions were never yours to begin with? What if the most aligned thing you can do this year is quit the goals that don't actually belong to you?Today we're unpacking where your resolutions are really coming from (you or Instagram?), the difference between hard and wrong, the art of the strategic quit, and why I'm swapping resolutions for intentions in 2026. Plus, I'm sharing the real story of how I walked away from my Pilates instructor training, money on the line and all and why that quit was one of the best decisions I've made.If you're a woman in your 30s or 40s already feeling drained by your goals and it's only week two, this one's for you.--want to book a coaching session? all the info is here - https://squ.re/45jq3ue want to partner w/The Sage Sorority Podcast? let’s chat - thesagesorority@gmail.comhave a question? send in an (anonymous) one for Q&A - https://tellonym.me/thesagesorority 💘 SUBSTACK// https://open.substack.com/pub/thesagesorority INSTAGRAM// https://www.instagram.com/thesagesorority/TIKTOK// https://www.tiktok.com/@thesagesororityYOUTUBE// https://www.youtube.com/@TheSageSororitysubscribe to The Sage Sorority Podcast + leave a (cheeky) 5* rating 💘youtube: http://bit.ly/45ei8wOspotify: https://spoti.fi/4iVPAhnapple: https://bit.ly/41ZNwO2💘catch up with, our founder + host, Shantel instagram// https://www.instagram.com/shantelrousseau/ tiktok// https://www.tiktok.com/@shantelrousseau youtube// https://www.youtube.com/@shantelrousseauonline OUTFITS - ShopMy// https://shopmy.us/shantelrousseauOUTFITS - LTK// https://www.shopltk.com/explore/shantelrousseau💘
Transcribe →episode 027 - the rules are made up
Aug 1400:30:07Tap to summarizeIn this episode of The Sage Sorority podcast, Shantel unpacks why so many of life’s “rules” are made up.. and how to navigate them without losing yourself. Recorded on location in Bodrum, she blends cultural commentary, personal stories, and practical advice for women on dating, career moves, money, and self-worth. From rewatching Scandal to questioning the unspoken social scripts that shape our choices, Shantel shares how to use discernment, protect your self-respect, and set personal standards that actually serve your growth. Perfect for listeners seeking empowering conversations about female empowerment, boundaries, and living on your own terms.--Want to book a coaching session? All the info is here - https://squ.re/45jq3ueWant to partner w/The Sage Sorority Podcast? Let’s chat - thesagesorority@gmail.comHave a question? Send in an (anonymous) one for Q&A - https://tellonym.me/thesagesorority💘SUBSTACK// https://open.substack.com/pub/thesagesororityINSTAGRAM// https://www.instagram.com/thesagesorority/TIKTOK// https://www.tiktok.com/@thesagesororityYOUTUBE// https://www.youtube.com/@TheSageSororitysubscribe + leave a (cheeky) rating 💘THE SAGE SORORITY PODCAST - https://feeds.captivate.fm/thesagesorority/youtube: http://bit.ly/45ei8wOspotify: https://spoti.fi/4iVPAhnapple: https://bit.ly/41ZNwO2💘Catch up with Shantel!Instagram// https://www.instagram.com/shantelrousseau/TikTok// https://www.tiktok.com/@shantelrousseauYouTube// https://www.youtube.com/@shantelrousseauonlineShopMy// https://shopmy.us/shantelrousseauLTK// https://www.shopltk.com/explore/shantelrousseau💘———
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