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The Science Of Manifestation: How To Transform Your Energy To Change Your Reality
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Today's powerful masterclass brings together Dr Joe Dispenza, Dr. Tara Swart, David Ghiyam, and Dr. James Doty to explore the fascinating intersection of neuroscience, spirituality, and manifestation. We dive deep into how our brain chemistry affects relationships, the science behind attraction and bonding, and the spiritual principles that govern manifestation. Dr Dispenza breaks down the quantum physics of creation, Dr. Swart reveals groundbreaking research on the neuroscience of love, David Ghiyam shares ancient Kabbalistic wisdom on unlocking our manifestation potential, and Dr. Doty explains how fear and attachment block manifestation. Whether you're looking to improve your relationships, manifest abundance, or understand the science behind spiritual principles, this episode will transform how you think about creating the life you desire.
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Lewis Howes
My friend, welcome back to the School of Greatness and happy holidays to you. I am so excited for what is to come in your life and I hope you're finishing the year strong while also spending time with friends and family during this season. And today we have a very powerful episode for you. This will be a masterclass on manifestation and some of the most powerful, powerful episodes we had this year based on what you guys wanted was around manifesting the dreams that you have and drawing them to you faster. How do we create a clear vision for our life that we want and how do we make it happen and be undeniable in the results that we want to create for ourselves? Every desire, every dream that you have, I want you to manifest them. And this is the episode that will give you clear, specific strategies, lessons and stories that you can take action on to create the ultimate dreams that you have come true. We've done a ton of research and we've got some of the biggest guests that you've loved the most this year. And I'm excited to provide them for you in one place, these nuggets that we found throughout some of the most powerful episodes we did with these top manifestation experts. We found these, these nuggets and we're putting them all in one episode for you. This will be a powerful masterclass that you'll want to always come back and listen to. This episode has a wealth of knowledge related to mindset, manifestation and how to create the results you want in your life, but not five, 10 years in the future. How do we do this now? How do we bring it faster? How do we manifest more effortlessly with flow, with ease? We're going to dive into spirituality, relationships, science, and how all these topics relate to manifestation. We're also going to focus on how our brain chemistry affects relationships, the science behind attraction and bonding, and the spiritual principles that govern manifestation. This is huge because for years people were always saying, is this just like woo woo stuff? Is this just, you know, law of attraction? Does it actually work? Can it be that easy? Well, we're going to give you the spiritual and scientific principles that govern manifestation and whether you're looking to improve in your relationships. If you're looking to manifest financial abundance or understand the science behind spiritual principles, this episode will transform how you think about creating the life you desire. I am so excited about this. And speaking about financial abundance, if you're trying to manifest more financially, you've got to check out my brand new book called Make Money Easy. This is all about creating a rich and abundant life and this is the book I wish I had 20 years ago when I was broke, on my sister's couch making no money and had a ton of fear and worry around money, a lot of anxiety around money. This is gonna give you the seven money habits to create financial freedom and abundance in your life. And there are so many things that I've had to learn the hard way over the last two decades about creating financial freedom actually in the material world, but a lot of us have a poor relationship with money. In this book, I had to learn so many things from some of the top financial experts in the world about my relationship to money and how I was still living in scarcity even though I was creating financial abundance, but emotionally, my relationship to money was struggling. So if you are trying to break free financially, externally and internally, then, then I want you to go to make moneyeasybook.com and go ahead and get a copy. And when you do, all you have to do is submit your receipt on that site, make moneyeasybook.com and you're going to get entered into my money Mastermind class. We're doing a free money Mastermind class coming up soon, and I want you to get access to this live training that I'm doing. So check it out@makemoneyeasybook.com to pre order your copy and get access to our money Mastermind class. And today we have a massive lineup. Our first guest is the one and only Dr. Joe Dispenza, who's going to break down the quantum physics of creation. He's going to show you how to rewire your brain's neural pathways to manifest abundance by generating the emotions of your future before the experience. It's so powerful. Next we have Dr. Tara Swart, who reveals groundbreaking research on the neuroscience of love. She goes deep into the neuroscience behind why work. Waiting to have sex can lead to longer and stronger romantic bonds and more sustainable relationships. That's not something I wanted to hear 10, 15 years ago. Our next clip will come from David Guillaume, who has exploded on our channel in the last couple of months. Here on the School of Greatness, he's going to share how to unlock your true manifestation potential by expanding your body to hold more abundance and develop certainty beyond logic during challenging situations. Finally, we have the brilliant Dr. James Doty, who explains how fear and attachment block manifestation. He's going to be covering the critical difference between achieving external success and finding true internal fulfillment. And why fear and attachment are the greatest sources of suffering and how to overcome them. I am so excited for you to dive into this episode all about Manifestation. Let me know you your thoughts on this episode. Make sure to follow the show on Apple and on Spotify and leave us a review on your biggest takeaway from this episode. Also, just copy and paste the link and send it to one or two friends who you want to see succeed in 2025 and beyond. If you have any friends or family that you want to see win in their life, in their relationships, in their money goals, in their dreams, forward them the link to this episode right now and let them know you care about them and want to see them succeed. That is one of the most powerful things. Generosity and gratitude is the gateway to abundance. You deserve it and it means you got to start living into gratitude and generosity even more. I am so pumped for you to dive into this episode on manifestation. FedEx doesn't know you're a small business yet. Maybe it's handmade apparel for dogs. Maybe it's handmade apparel for cats. What FedEx does know is that running a small business is hard enough without the hassle of complex shipping. That's why there's FedEx One Rate. Did you know that with FedEx One Rate you can ship your holiday packages cheaper than the post office? 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Dr. Joe Dispenza
Let's learn the formula of how to create right so then. So then you'd have to feel those emotions before the experience occurred. And if you understood that you could dissociate all of your attention from this three dimensional reality and have no attention on anything known and understand. It's the field that creates matter, that matter that emits the field. And if you could get to that place and change your energy with a clear intention and elevated emotion, your heart starts beating in this beautiful rhythm like a drum. We've measured it so many times, and when that occurs, the next thing that happens, the heart informs the brain it's safe to create now. So the person relaxes into the present moment. And then we see this. Like if you took a big sheet, you know, and a blanket and you went like that. The energy of the heart actually informs the brain to move into these beautiful elegant states of alpha brainwave patterns, coherent alpha. And that's saying, what's the next dream? What is it? The next, what's the next opportunity you want to experience? That's a state of creation. So now you have a wi fi signal, you got a coherent brain, that's a directive, that's a signal out. And you got this coherent heart, that's what draws it to us, right? You combine those two, and if there's a vibrational match between your energy and that potential in the quantum field and you're feeling abundant, and whatever your brain associates with being abundant, that's your call. That's what the creative process is. This is the creative center, the brain frontal lobe actually says, what would it be like to be creative or abundant? I don't know what it'd be like to be abundant. Well then go read a few books on people who actually became abundant and realized it wasn't a glorious process. They failed miserably, they got betrayed, they learned a lot of lessons, but they persevered. And what are the qualities of that person that you could embody? That's the key, right? Because it's not about wealth, it's who you become. Right? Because people think it's about their wealth, but it's the becoming process, it's the overcoming attracted that. Right? Of course. So then, so then you got to turn the battleship around because most people say I can't feel grateful for my wealth because it hasn't happened yet. That's the hypnosis, waiting for the experience to happen, to feel grateful. Well that's Newtonian, that's three dimensional reality. That's cause and effect. The quantum, you got to feel it in order for you to experience it. Okay, so this heart becomes like an amplifier and it sends that signal out and that frequency can carry the thought of your abundance. Suffering cannot carry the thought of your abundance. Lack cannot carry the thought of your abundance. It's a different frequency. We feel different feelings like suffering, we think different thoughts. So people can say, I'm abundant, I'm abundant, I'm abundant, I'm abundant, all they want. But that thought is never making it to the body because it's stopping at the brainstem. Because the body's saying, I'm miserable, I'm unhappy, I'm in lack. Right? So the affirmation doesn't work. Right. Okay, so let's go one step further.
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Lewis Howes
Yes.
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Dr. Joe Dispenza
So if you practice this and you actually understood, you know, well, we teach this pretty well. But if you. If you learned it just like learning how to play handball or learning how to hit a golf ball, learning how to dance a salsa, if you just practice the form and you got really good at it, if you were doing it properly, then what would be the outcome? The experiment of being abundant would be that you would have to feel that feeling. It's so good at doing it with your eyes closed. You got to do it with your eyes open now. Why? Because if you're feeling the feelings of your emotions of your future, you're no.
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Lewis Howes
Longer looking for them because you're in the future now.
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Dr. Joe Dispenza
Your body is so objective that it's believing it's living in that reality where you are abundant. And as long as you feel that emotion, you're not separate from it any longer, no longer in lack, you're no longer looking for it to occur. Say, why hasn't it happened yet? If you're feeling abundant, why would you look? Right, so then our job then is to be able to maintain that modified state of mind and body. So, okay, so does that mean, like, you should check your bank account tomorrow and see if there's a half a million dollars in it? No. You keep tuning into that potential, and then here come the synchronicities. Yes. What's that? That's feedback in your environment. The universe saying, hey, Louis, whatever you're doing, all of a sudden we are starting to create, right? And I think it's so important for people to remember that they're the creators of their lives instead of the victim of their lives. Right? So the victim is saying, I'm feeling this way because that person or that circumstance or I don't have any money is causing me to feel this way. That's my relationship with money. What that really means is I'm using my lack to reaffirm my dependency, my addiction, my conditioning. That's My relationship with money is that I put my attention on money because I don't have it. So their relationship with money is of course built on lack. And so when they don't have it, they feel bad. And what they're really saying is my outer environment, my reality is actually controlling the way I feel and the way I think. So, Louis, why are you in a good mood today? Things are going good. Why in a bad mood? Things are going bad today. So this unconscious program of victimization is saying that we're allowing our environment to influence the way we feel and the way we think. Isn't that what victimization is? And, and the stronger the emotion we have to our lack, the more we put our attention on the fact that we don't have it. Right. So then the person has forgotten that they're creating reality because what they're creating is lack, and they're creating more of it. And then they try harder and they force harder and they can more exhausted and their body's tired and they're breaking down and. Right. So the experiment then is, let's try it another way. Let's create from the field instead of from matter. Get a coherent heart, get a coherent brain. Relax in the heart and energy moves right into the brain. We've measured this a thousand times, and all of a sudden the person moves into these beautiful, elegant brainwave states where they're super creative, right? So the longer you're conscious of that energy, the more you draw that future to you. So then what does the synchronicity mean? It means whatever you're doing inside of you is producing that effect outside of you. Pay attention to what you did. Do it again. So generate a little bit more abundance. Just do it for an experiment. Now, when the synchronicity happens, do you think you feel suffering or do you think you feel a little excitement? You feel inspired, right? So then that synchronicity saying, use this energy, use this feeling. It should be easier for you to feel this now and go back and do it again. Keep the experiment going. Then here comes the promotion, Here comes the, here comes the email, Here comes the person you meet at the right time, right? Well, we have something happening here, and then that, that becomes the momentum, right? So then we generate abundance. That's, that's how we do it. And the relationship doesn't just happen by accident.
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Lewis Howes
We generate it.
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Dr. Joe Dispenza
We generate abundance, Right? So then if you have an hour meditation where you're tuning into your abundant future, but then you're spending the other 15 hours a day in lack, don't expect anything to change. You defaulted, you're back to the old energy. And if you say it's that person or that circumstance or that bank account, I'm going to say you're back to the unconscious program being a victim, right? So then, so then, so then let's go a step further. If your personality creates your personal reality, and it does, and your personality is made up of how you think, how you act and how you feel, then the present personality who's listening to this podcast has created the present personal reality called their life. Nothing big there. Which means if you want to change your personal reality, you're going to have to change your personality. Nothing changes in your life until you change, right? So then 95% of who we are is on autopilot, right? It's a programmed thoughts, hardwired thoughts, beliefs, perceptions, unconscious habits and behaviors, and really, really emotional responses that tend to be really knee jerk and automatic. Right? So if 95% of who we are is a set of unconscious programs, then the first step to change is, is becoming conscious of those unconscious thoughts. Now people think when they sit down to do the work and make their change that they're doing something wrong. No, those thoughts have to come up. I can, I'm not worthy. It's never going to work. But the person who's truly persevering towards their abundance realizes just because they have that thought doesn't mean it's true. They're curious on what's on the other side of that thought. Ah, well, that's just the thought, right? And nerve cells that no longer fire together no longer wire together. So you keep moving past that thought, it has less and less power over you. Right now you have power over it. Or better yet, you're using your brain in the proper way instead of being a victim to your brain, right? If you complain about money, if you judge people who have it, if you rush when you're in lack, if you cheat when you don't have what you need, an abundant person doesn't do that. You got to look at that and say, I got to break these habits. Oh my God. If I truly want to be abundant, I can't act this way. Now here's the big one. If, if I truly want to be a new personality that's in a new personal reality, I can't take lack with me. I can't take unworthiness. I can't take the story that goes along with it with my parents or my grandparents or, or my ex or whatever that Story has to end, right? I mean, if not now, when, Right?
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Lewis Howes
How do people end those stories?
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Dr. Joe Dispenza
Well, of course. Well, how many times do we have to forget until we stop forgetting and start remembering? That's the game, right? That's the game called change. How many times we have to go unconscious and default to that old personality? When we catch ourselves and stop doing that and get conscious, that's the moment of change. So the problem is, is that most people wake up in the morning and they think, let me think of my problems, right? The brain is a record of the past, right? So they think about their problems. They don't have enough money. And those problems are usually connected to certain people at certain places with certain objects and certain things.
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Lewis Howes
What didn't work out or who screwed me over.
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Dr. Joe Dispenza
So the moment they wake up, the moment they remember those problems, they're thinking in the past. So now they're firing and wiring the memory. They're keeping the memory of past alive in their mind. The problem is every one of those memories has an emotion associated with it because we've experienced it. So when they feel the lack, when they feel the unhappiness, when they feel the anxiety, now the body's in the past. Thoughts being the language of the brain, feelings being the language of the body, how we think and how we feel creates our state of being. But the conditioning process starts because conditioning only needs a thought and feeling, a memory or an image and an emotion and a stimulus and response is. And you're conditioning your body to become the mind of that emotion. And now the memory's not in the brain. Now the memory's buried subconsciously in the body, and the body becomes the mind of that emotion. So the body is living in lack and it's believing.
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Lewis Howes
Is that through the nervous system or.
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Dr. Joe Dispenza
Is that through neurochemical cells?
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Lewis Howes
Everything.
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Dr. Joe Dispenza
So the body's so objective that it does not know the difference between the real life experience that's creating the lack and the emotion that you're creating by thought alone called lack. The body's believing it's living the same past experience every day. Why? Because the end product of an experience is an emotion. Well, if your life is changing but you're still feeling lack, don't expect anything that you won't even see it. You'll walk right past it. You're viewing your life through the lens of the past. Okay, so, okay, so then the person realizes that all their friends are making money and they're doing stuff and they're like, wow, I'm really feeling lack now. So then when it no longer becomes about your abundance and it becomes about your change, that's a valuable moment when it's no longer about your healing, but it's about your change. I paid attention to a lot of people in the last couple years. Tell their story. The people who heal in this work from cancers and all kinds of chronic health conditions and Parkinson's and strokes and paralysis and all kinds of things, rare genetic disorders. It never was about when they really got in the game. It was never about their healing. It was about what do I need to change in order to heal? When the game goes like that. So then the person who's feeling lack on some level or another, it's not just in the mind, it's in the body. Right?
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Lewis Howes
Let me hear you say that again. When someone's looking for abundance, it's never about the abundance, it's about the change they need to make for healing.
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Dr. Joe Dispenza
No, I'm using healing as an example. Yes, but let's use abundance as an example.
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Dr. Tara Swart
When.
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Dr. Joe Dispenza
When you understand that you cannot get abundant, when it's no longer about the game called abundance, it's about the game called change. What do I need to change? The more I change, the more I'll be abundant.
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Lewis Howes
Yes.
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Dr. Joe Dispenza
So then it's no longer why haven't. How come it hasn't happened? That's the old personality separate from the experience. Still in lack. Asking that question, which is creating your current reality, which is reaffirming it, because that's the lens you're perceiving it through. Okay, so we should be focusing more.
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Lewis Howes
On what we need to change every moment as opposed to the abundance or the healing.
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Dr. Joe Dispenza
Well, the word meditation means to become familiar with. Sit with yourself long enough and not turn on your cell phone, not scroll through your social media, do no TikTok, no emails, none of that stuff. Don't just sit and close your eyes and watch the thoughts that come up. That's the exact reason why you're not abundant. Watch what you want to do when you're feeling lack to take away the lack. And there's always something you do to take it away. But sit with the lack and be curious on what's on the other side of it. Right? Because the body's programmed into lack now subconsciously. Right? So the emotion of lack drives our thoughts and drives our behaviors. So it makes sense then that if an emotion is a record of the past, then we're doing things habitually from the past. We're thinking in the past. Right. So lower the volume to the emotion. Every time you notice lack comes up. And just like breaking any addiction, there's going to be cravings, right? So the body's going, hey, Louis, it's been about two hours since you're so.
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Lewis Howes
Used to doing this.
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Dr. Joe Dispenza
Yeah. You've been thinking, lacking thoughts about 150,000 times a day, and you're just going to stop now the body's going to start influencing the mind. It's not going to work. You're a loser. It didn't work before. It's too hard. Everybody else.
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Lewis Howes
That's why it's so hard for people to like, lose weight or get in shape. You might try it for a few days and then the cravings or I'm tired and I want to go default back into the old personality.
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Dr. Joe Dispenza
Right. Because why? Because the body, which has been conditioned, the mind, the body is the unconscious mind. So the body's got used to the familiar feeling. Even they don't even know it's lack. It's just how they feel. It's not guilt. So. Okay, so let me finish. Okay. So the hardest part about all of this is making a different choice. And the moment you decide to make a different choice, get ready. It's going to feel uncomfortable, right? It's going to feel unfamiliar. Your body's all of a sudden saying, hey, Louis, why don't you start thinking those same exact thoughts? Do the same things, make the same choices, demonstrate the same behaviors, have the same experiences. So you could feel that feeling of lack, complain again to somebody, call somebody up and say how miserable your life is. Right. And that's. That's known. Right. So the body is always influencing the mind to return back to the familiar territory.
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Lewis Howes
You're a default.
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Dr. Joe Dispenza
You're the default. Okay. All right. So now the person says, okay, what thoughts do I not want? What. What would an abundant person think this way? The people in our work that have created. I had a guy come to our event. I love this guy. He healed himself of. He tried to take his life three times. He told me that when he came to our work, he didn't have $2 to rub together. He's worth hundreds of millions of dollars now and just keeps giving it away. His lesson was it wasn't the wealth, it was who he became. So it's the overcoming process, that is the becoming process.
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Lewis Howes
Who did he become in that journey?
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Dr. Joe Dispenza
Exactly. He had to get beyond all of those thoughts of his past, all the mistakes he made, all the things he did wrong, all the money he owed there, all of that. That Was like he just had to no longer be that person any longer. But he did say, how would a wealthy person live? And when he created his wealth, what do you think the first thing he did?
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Lewis Howes
Started giving.
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Dr. Joe Dispenza
Giving it away. Why? Because an abundant person doesn't have any lack and he knows how to create more of it. And he's in the experiment. Well, what would happen if I keep giving it away? He keeps getting more. That's a good experiment to have because he is actually living in that abundant state. He also had tremendous healings taking place. Because when you heal your heart, you heal your mind. I mean, it's just the way it is. We saw it so many times, right? So he healed his heart, he got an upgrade. He got an upgrade, right? So then the next fundamental question is, how would an abundant person think? Write it down, dude, and fire and wire those thoughts in your brain and install the hardware. Keep doing it with attention and intention. It becomes the new voice in your head. It becomes a software program. Then say, okay, how am I going to be in my life today? What would an abundant person, how would they behave? And before you reach for your cell phone, start scrolling through your social media. Close your eyes and rehearse in your mind how that person would walk, how they would breathe, how they would smile, how they would greet people, how they would be on zoom calls, how would they be in traffic, how would they be at dinner. And the act of closing your eyes and mentally rehearsing the act. If you're truly present, the brain does not know the difference between the real life experience and what you're imagining. In fact, just a little bit of time, you start to install the neurological hardware to look like you already did it. Now the brain is no longer a record of the past. It's primed for the future. Keep doing it. Keep rehearsing. No different than playing an instrument. No different than learning how to dance. No different than learning how to act or play a sport. Everybody's always rehearsing, right? The rehearsal process changes the brain to look like you've already done it, you've already experienced it. Now what's the essential part of that? The hardware is in place. Now all you gotta do is step into the footprint. Keep doing it, it becomes a software program. You start acting like an abundant person. Everything changes. Your energy changes, your mood changes. The way you walk, the way you breathe, your posture changes. You're out of the known, right? You gotta condition the body now emotionally, into the future. You can't open your eyes in the morning until you are feeling worthy to receive. And if you can't feel worthy to receive, then if not now, when? If it takes you two hours to get there, ask me if it's worth 30 years of running trying to get what you need matter to matter. Okay, so then the person who wrestles with their lack, they're out of the bleachers and they're on the playing field. Here's what we learned.
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Dr. Joe Dispenza
Distributor here's what we learned. Let's go back to beliefs now. So remember, belief is just the thought you keep thinking over and over again. A belief is something that you keep thinking enough times that you hardwired in your brain and it becomes an automatic program. And we have beliefs about all kinds of things. Money, relationships, God, whatever it is. It's all based on what we've been told or our past experiences, right? The boundaries of those beliefs are our emotions, right? So let's just say you got betrayed, or somebody abused you, or your father told you that money was bad and there's never enough of it, or whatever. That's a story, okay? But somehow it left an impression on you. Remember that event very clearly, and that's kind of rooted in who you are, right? Okay, so that emotion then is the boundary of our belief. Okay? So how you think and how you feel creates your state of being. If you take a thought and a feeling, a thought and a feeling, a thought and a feeling, a thought and a feeling, that's called an attitude. A series of good thoughts with a series of good feelings. You say, I have a good attitude today. You have a series of negative thoughts that are connected to a series of negative feelings. You say, I have a bad attitude today. So attitudes are just shortened states of being. Good attitude in the morning, bad attitude in the afternoon. If you take an attitude, and attitude and attitude, you keep those up and you string attitudes together, you create what's called a belief. And a belief is just an extended state of being. So if you keep thinking the same thought, you keep hardwiring in the brain, you keep feeling the same feeling, you keep conditioning in your body. The redundancy of that cycle over and over again conditions the body to subconsciously become the mind of that belief. And all beliefs are subconscious states of being. Okay? Take a belief, a belief, a belief, and you string them together. You form what's called a perception. And perceptions are just such extended states of being that we're unconscious. And so then we edit out Reality. In fact, most people don't see things the way they are. They see things the way they are. Right, and people are always filling in reality unconsciously based on their memory. They could be married to a person for 40 years. And they don't see the person, they see the memory of the person. Right, and there's research to prove this. Okay, so how do we change a belief or perception about ourself or our lives? Okay, we've studied this. Okay, let's just say that lack is ingrained in there. You got the story, you lived on the streets, you lost everything. You got betrayed. Your business partner took everything, took your wife, you got the story in the half. Okay, okay. You got to start telling the new story of the future. Right? You got to believe in that future more than you have to believe in the past. So how do you do that? You only believe in the past when you feel the emotions of the past. The only time you're going to believe in the future is when you feel the emotions in the future. Right. Okay, so in order for us to change a belief or perception about ourself and our lives, we have to make a decision with such firm intention that the amplitude of that decision carries a level of energy that's greater than the hardwired programs in your brain and the emotional conditioning in your body. And your body literally has to respond to your mind. That the choice that you're making to change in that moment becomes a moment in time that you never forget. And here's the key. Physically, physically, the stronger the emotion you feel when you make that choice, the more you remember the decision. Okay, so then how do we down regulate that old belief? If the trauma created emotional quotient of six or seven, then your decision to change your beliefs got to be a nine, Right? And you got to come out of your resting state and that moment has to define you. You could say, I know exactly where I was the time of day. It was who I was with when I made my mind up to change. Right, because you created a long term memory. Long term memories are created from strong emotion. Right? But if the amplitude of that emotion is greater than the betrayal, Boom. The body starts responding to the mind. Then you're actually giving your body a taste of the future emotionally. So you brand your impossible. No, your body's actually getting the taste of that future event.
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Lewis Howes
Experiencing the future now.
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Dr. Joe Dispenza
Exactly. Big explosion of the quantum field. Big explosion. So the side effect of that is if you combine that clear intention with that elevated emotion, you're basically remembering your future. And it looks no different than remembering your past. Think neurologically within the circuits of that memory and feel within the emotions of that new belief and watch your life begin to change. Because nothing changes in our life that we change. And when we change our energy, we change our life. So now the experiment all of a sudden is no longer based on it being hard or trying or wishing or wanting or hop. That's what we do when we're lacking or in lack of separation. It's about change. So then when we finally realize, in order for us to become abundant, we have to overcome the old personality. And that's 95% of who we are, right?
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Lewis Howes
Yes.
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Dr. Joe Dispenza
So then the side effect of the beginning of this process is a lot of discomfort. It is a lot of discomfort because you're stepping outside the known, into the unknown. And now you can't predict. Scary. No, no, you'd rather hold on to your lack, the pain and suffering, rather tell the story of that. At least it makes you feel something that's familiar when you step outside and you're saying, I'm not going to complain about money any longer, I'm not going to complain about I don't have any. I'm not going to judge other people who do. I'm not going to say I can, I'm not worthy, it's never going to work. All those things got to go. I'm not going to feel lack, I'm not going to feel unworthy, I'm not going to feel separation, I'm not going to feel resentment. These are the things that are keeping my reality the same now. It's no longer about abundance, about who you become. So the overcoming process becomes the becoming process. And so many people come through this work, they want abundance, they want healing, they want a new relationship, they want a new career, they want the mystical. But really they want wholeness.
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Lewis Howes
What does neuroscience tell us about signs, signals and synchronicities? Are they, you know, something we should be paying attention to based on neuroscience and brain chemistry? Or is it more spiritual? Woo, woo.
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Dr. Tara Swart
Well, neuroscience doesn't tell us anything about that or much, let's say about that at the moment. But that's why I'm probably going to write another book, which I said I would never do, but I'm just so fascinated by this. So when I get back to London, I'm going to start like properly doing the research on this. So far it's been kind of something I'm interested in. And I have to say I wasn't sure if my book publisher would be okay with it.
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Lewis Howes
About these things. Size signals, synchronicities.
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Dr. Tara Swart
Yeah.
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Lewis Howes
Well, that's fascinating. I love that stuff.
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Dr. Tara Swart
And I think that it coming from a neuroscientist is a new angle. It's not that there aren't books out there on this kind of thing, but I really want to open up that conversation as well, because there's a lot of people suffering and like I said, you can sound like you're crazy if you start talking about stuff like this. So I want to open up the conversation, being open, but trying to keep it as rigorous as possible to give people permission to come forward and share these stories, because I think that's only going to be good for everyone.
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Lewis Howes
Wow, that's cool. So when. When someone sees the signs, signals and synchronicities happening in their life, what do you think that's telling them? That they're on the right path? That they should be paying attention more? That they should be trusting their intuition more when they're seeing these three things?
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Dr. Tara Swart
So I feel like what it says, and somebody said this to me actually the last time I was in la, but it had to land really emotionally for me to. To believe it. And that's what I want for everyone is it tells you that you are being guided and it tells you that you're safe and protected.
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Lewis Howes
All right.
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Dr. Tara Swart
And one of the things I picked up from you a couple of years ago was that you said sometimes, you know, if I'm feeling like in an emotional crisis, I just say to myself, I'm safe, I'm safe, I'm safe. And I can't tell you how many times I've used that in the last two years.
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Lewis Howes
Wow, that's beautiful.
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Dr. Tara Swart
But that's kind of like self soothing the inner child, right?
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Lewis Howes
Yes.
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Dr. Tara Swart
With this kind of interest and more esoteric things that I've had, like, since I met you that time. I'd like to think that it's not. I'm not just safe because I tell myself I'm safe, but I'm safe because I believe in something greater.
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Lewis Howes
Yes.
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Dr. Tara Swart
And I'm tapping into it and I'm allowing it to make me feel safe. Because however good you become psychologically at soothing yourself, it. You can still feel very alone. So feeling like unless you have a.
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Lewis Howes
Deeper spiritual connection to something.
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Dr. Tara Swart
Yeah, exactly. Yeah, that's what I meant to say.
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Lewis Howes
Wow, that's fascinating. Do you believe that we can be in beautiful, healthy, loving relationships and we can manifest everything we have on our vision or action boards if we have yet to heal the Wounds of our childhood as a neuroscientist.
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Dr. Tara Swart
No.
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Lewis Howes
Really? Wow. So if we have these visions and dreams and goals that we want to go after, if we want to have a beautiful relationship, but we are wounded still. The inner child is wounded inside of us as adults. What will happen to us?
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Dr. Tara Swart
So this is really about inner child and shadow. Right. So I think people understand that you've got an inner child that maybe didn't get over things that you experienced in your childhood. Shadow is about the parts of yourself that you've rejected because as a young child, you rely on your primary caregivers for survival.
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Lewis Howes
Yes.
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Dr. Tara Swart
And if there is something that they don't love about you, you want to hide that for all the world so that they will still love you and, like, not let you die.
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Lewis Howes
You don't want anyone to know this about you.
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Dr. Tara Swart
No.
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Lewis Howes
That's shame.
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Dr. Tara Swart
So you hide it away in childhood and often find yourself in adulthood no longer even aware of what those things are because you've rejected them so deeply.
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Lewis Howes
Wow.
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Dr. Tara Swart
Yeah. But that's driving a lot of your unconscious behavior.
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Lewis Howes
Right.
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Dr. Tara Swart
So if you put together the inner child and the shadow, then what happens is you meet people on the same level of psychological wound as you.
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Lewis Howes
Oh, man.
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Dr. Tara Swart
You also leave people where, if you evolve out of that and they haven't been able to.
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Lewis Howes
Wow. Which I think goes back to one of the things, one of the pieces of content I heard you talk about, which is like the sense of smell connecting to someone's stress levels or anxiety levels. Like you'll kind of attract a similar nervous system or I guess a certain similar, like, I don't know, stress level.
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Dr. Tara Swart
Yeah, it's not. It's not smell. It's. It's. It's sensing. Sensing? Not through smell. The level of the stress hormone. Yeah.
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David Guillaume
Interesting.
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Dr. Tara Swart
But that's short term. Right. But the inner child and shadow stuff is longer term.
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Dr. Joe Dispenza
Gosh, that's fascinating.
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Dr. Tara Swart
Yeah.
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Lewis Howes
So you think we attract people based on our psychological wounds?
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Dr. Tara Swart
100%.
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Dr. Joe Dispenza
Wow.
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Lewis Howes
And as we start to heal and grow, if the other person's not healing and growing, we kind of pull away. Wow, that's interesting.
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Dr. Tara Swart
Oh, I can see the Cokes moving in your eyes.
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Lewis Howes
I just think it's fascinating speaking, I guess, about relationships and men and women, with all of your expertise on the brain, is the process of manifesting love and falling in love different from men versus women?
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Dr. Tara Swart
I think if it's love you're really looking for, then it's not different.
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Lewis Howes
Not lust.
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Dr. Tara Swart
Yeah. The issue is what you're actually Looking for.
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Lewis Howes
So you think men and women manifest love the same way? Similar ways, yeah.
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Dr. Tara Swart
I think if, you know, if you want that sense of partnership and friendship and intimacy, and you want to be loyal and you want it to be for the long term, then it doesn't matter what gender you are. But if the disconnect is often. And, you know, this is a bit of a stereotype, but usually it's more that men are sorry that women want a loving, stable relationship and men perhaps, you know, don't want that as well.
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Lewis Howes
Sex or whatever.
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Dr. Tara Swart
Yeah. Or don't, you know, just don't want it right now. Go through periods where that's what they want and go through periods where that's not what they want, which I guess could be true of any gender as well. But overall, more likely women will want to, like, be in a monogamous relationship.
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Lewis Howes
And why is that? Based on kind of the brain size.
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Dr. Tara Swart
So it comes from evolution. So when we lived in the cave, women did need men to protect them from predators and to hunt for food.
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Lewis Howes
So women, especially, if they're pregnant too, and they weren't able to go out and hunt or gather or whatever.
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Dr. Tara Swart
I mean, they generally didn't hunt as much, so they gathered more. But then it's hard to get protein from what you gather rather than what you hunt. So for survival, and they use the fat and the skins and everything. So it wasn't just food, it was shelter and fire and all of that kind of stuff. So although we don't necessarily need a man for those physical things now, it's a very strong survival wiring in the brain. And so what we have, you know, in the cave, we lived nomadically. So often the men would go and hunt and be away for a very long time, or if they went far enough and they found a cave of this, of the same tribe, they would just stay there and not go back. Why risk your life to travel back for, you know, six weeks?
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Lewis Howes
Right.
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Dr. Tara Swart
But over time, a lot of societies in the modern world have asked people to live in unit families. And so we have seen men's brains be rewired.
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Lewis Howes
Really?
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Dr. Tara Swart
Yeah, quite relatively recently, like maybe in the last 10 years. Research has showed that when you become a dad for the first time, oxytocin rewires your brain so that you're more into bonding and less into the testosterone competitive stuff. Because if you think about it, lions and tigers, they'll eat their own children.
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Lewis Howes
You have to tame that in some ways, right? Yeah, but how do you tame it but also harness it? In other ways, you know what I mean? It's like a dance of, like, having drive and testosterone.
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Dr. Tara Swart
Yeah.
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Lewis Howes
Like, I never want to lose that drive. Right.
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Dr. Tara Swart
I get this question all the time.
- [45:12]
Lewis Howes
But I also want to be like a great, loving parent and partner and all these things and not let testosterone drive me in doing damaging things, you know, so well.
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Dr. Tara Swart
So from about the age of 35, your testosterone will have started dropping significantly already.
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Lewis Howes
Not mine. Let's go.
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Dr. Tara Swart
One's testosterone tends to drop from that age. So when you do become a dad, it drops.
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Lewis Howes
After you become a dad for the.
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Dr. Tara Swart
First time, oxytocin goes up, testosterone drops. You become much more about, like, cuddling and bonding and wanting to stay in the home and look after the interesting mom and the baby.
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Lewis Howes
Less about, less about, like, lifting and like hunting.
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David Guillaume
Right?
- [45:57]
Lewis Howes
Yeah, interesting.
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Dr. Tara Swart
If you keep lifting, then you would actually, like, keep your testosterone levels higher. Also, if the baby sleeps in the same room as you, then your testosterone levels drop even more.
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Lewis Howes
Come on.
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Dr. Tara Swart
So you might want to move out for three months to a different bedroom.
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Lewis Howes
Yeah, I've already told her I'm going. I'm getting my sleep, you know, the first few months. So your testosterone drops if you sleep.
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Dr. Tara Swart
In the same room as the baby.
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Lewis Howes
And why is that?
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Dr. Tara Swart
Because you're. Because the oxytocin's becoming, like, you know, higher and higher. Because you've got this cute little warm thing that smells so nice and it's so, like, vulnerable and dependent on you and it's like in the room with you the whole eight hours, you know, just oxytocin boost.
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Lewis Howes
But are women attracted to men with less testosterone?
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Dr. Tara Swart
They are when they're not fertile, but they are not when they are at peak fertility.
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David Guillaume
Really?
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Dr. Tara Swart
So mid cycle, when you're ovulating, you're going to want a bad boy and the rest of the time you're going to want a nice man that will stay at home and help you look after the baby.
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Lewis Howes
So if you're not a bad boy when you're at peak fertility as a woman, is that going to hurt the relationship if you don't give women what they want?
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Dr. Tara Swart
Hang on, say that again.
- [47:05]
Lewis Howes
So if a man is not a.
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Dr. Tara Swart
Not so bad for not a bad.
- [47:08]
Lewis Howes
Boy, when a woman is at peak fertility and the man just wants to cuddle and chill and not be driven by testosterone and give the woman that. That testosterone feel.
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Dr. Tara Swart
Yeah.
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Lewis Howes
Well, that ultimately hurt the relationship long term if the woman doesn't get what she wants sexually.
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Dr. Tara Swart
I mean, I think if she's chosen him by then. So this is more about when you're like in the choosing phase. Once you've settled down with someone, then you have like a logical conversation about are we trying for a baby or not.
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Lewis Howes
Right, but logic and emotion are two different things. No, I mean relationships. You know, you might logically say, okay, I'm safe, but emotionally want something else.
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Dr. Tara Swart
This is a reason that people cheat. Right, right.
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Lewis Howes
Because they're not getting what they want sexually. And so it's like, how do you suppress the thing you want sexually to be like, oh, but he's such a good guy. Or he's this. But if he's not giving me what I want, then I'm gonna go find it from this other younger, testosterone driven man. Right.
- [48:03]
Dr. Tara Swart
You're getting really jealous here.
- [48:04]
Lewis Howes
I'm not getting jealous.
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Dr. Tara Swart
This fantasy. Younger, high testosterone man.
- [48:10]
Lewis Howes
Well, I'm just thinking, is this what women deal with?
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Dr. Tara Swart
I know.
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Lewis Howes
Is this what women deal with?
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Dr. Tara Swart
Yeah, to some extent. You know, more consciously or less consciously, depending on the woman.
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Lewis Howes
Yeah. It's interesting. Right?
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Dr. Tara Swart
So let me kind of explain the physiology behind it from the research that we know the best, which is in prairie voles. So there are two types of voles in America. Marsh or mountain voles.
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David Guillaume
Voles with a vole vole.
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Dr. Tara Swart
It's a little rat like creature.
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Lewis Howes
Prairie prairie dogs? No, not prairie dogs.
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Dr. Tara Swart
Vole. It's more like a mouse or a rat.
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Lewis Howes
Okay, cool.
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Dr. Joe Dispenza
Yeah.
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Dr. Tara Swart
The ones that live in the marsh or the mountain, they have plenty of food and plenty of shelter, and they're super promiscuous. The ones that moved to the prairie, where there's like scarce food and shelter, they snuggle in and settle down and become monogamous for life.
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Lewis Howes
The same rat, the same mouse, but just living in different areas.
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Dr. Tara Swart
Yeah.
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Lewis Howes
Come on.
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Dr. Tara Swart
So.
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Lewis Howes
So wait, you tell me. Rats are monogamous.
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Dr. Tara Swart
These voles. These voles. The voles are monogamous if they live in the prairie. If they live in the prairie, but not if they live in the farm.
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Lewis Howes
But if they have a. If they have all the food and abundance, they're just.
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Dr. Tara Swart
And lots of female voles that they can go and visit.
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Lewis Howes
They're just little polyamorous voles.
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Dr. Tara Swart
Yeah. Because they know that if they get, you know, one vole pregnant and she's left on her own to look after her young, they're going to survive because they're well sheltered. There's plenty of food for her to nip out and bring it back to the babies. Yeah, but in the prairie, if he was promiscuous then the chances of his offspring dying are quite high because she can't defend the nest herself. She can't find enough food for herself, and then without help. And so let's extrapolate this. How does this help humans? Right.
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Lewis Howes
Okay, well, which first off, which mice are happier? The ones that are more promiscuous or the ones that are coupled?
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Dr. Tara Swart
I think it depends on the vole.
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Lewis Howes
So you think the female mice are happy if they just are pregnant, but then their partner just leaves?
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David Guillaume
They're not happy?
- [50:26]
Lewis Howes
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Dr. Tara Swart
There is an answer to that.
- [52:02]
Lewis Howes
Okay.
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Dr. Tara Swart
We test it through levels of oxytocin and vasopressin.
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Lewis Howes
Come on. Have we done this? Have people done this? No way. From these mice?
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Dr. Tara Swart
Yeah.
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David Guillaume
Wow, that's crazy.
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Dr. Tara Swart
And actually, just to be serious, the research has done more to help with loneliness, grief and heartbreak, but obviously it's got implications for dating. Wow. So because one of the things that we saw with the receptors in the brain is that like, if. If I'm in. No, it's got to be the other way. Around. If you're in love with me, you've got more vasopressin receptors in your nucleus accumbens, which is on the reward circuitry. And then every time you see me, you get a reward. And the longer that we've been dating and stay together and become closer, that reward becomes more intense every time you see me. However, if we then had a prolonged separation, time can down regulate the effect of those receptors. So obviously there are implications for that in a breakup or grief. Right, right. And. But one of the things I think is like, so, so important for dating is that if a woman, if a couple are getting to know each other and this is all on, like heterosexual couples in research, then as a woman is sexually interested and liking the guy and enjoying the dating, her oxytocin levels is like slowly, slowly starting to go up. When they start actually having sex, she's going to be releasing higher levels of oxytocin every time she orgasms. And that's going to make her bond to the guy much more. If you have sex on the first date, the guy's vasopressin levels will plummet straight away and all he'll be interested in is testosterone. If you make him wait, his vasopressin and oxytocin levels go up. And then when you do actually have sex, he's already bonded, so it's more likely to become part of a loving relationship. Wow.
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Lewis Howes
So if a woman sleeps with a man on the first date or two, is a man driven to want to bond long term with that person? No. Why not?
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Dr. Tara Swart
Because the vasopressin levels drop as soon as he has sex.
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Lewis Howes
What does that mean?
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Dr. Tara Swart
So vasopressin is the one that makes the prairie voles monogamous. The higher the levels of that and that the receptors appear in the reward circuitry of your brain. And so basically, if you see your partner in distress, it affects your brain, those neurons, and you want to comfort her through physical touch. So that's oxytocin. But if you haven't had time for those receptors to appear in the correct place to make you bond, then it's just, you know, it goes back to lust. So what I say about love and relationships is that the genetics and the receptors will load the gun, but sexual activity will pull the trigger.
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Lewis Howes
So based on neuroscience, if you sleep with someone quickly, you're less likely to bond long term together, you're more likely to be promiscuous or just not be as interested in that person long term. Is that right? That's fascinating.
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Dr. Joe Dispenza
I know but you hear a lot.
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Lewis Howes
Of people, but just be like, you know, just sleep with them on the first day. It's fun. Just have fun. You know, it's all good. But I just feel like you're setting yourself up for let down.
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Dr. Tara Swart
But if that's what you want, that's fine.
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Lewis Howes
But I think don't expect the guy to keep liking you after that.
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Dr. Tara Swart
No, no. And don't say it's fine and it's fun if you actually want a long term relationship and then be disappointed that they didn't want that too.
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Lewis Howes
Yeah. So the brain chemistry within a man changes after if they have sex earlier.
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Dr. Tara Swart
With a woman and it changes in a different way if they wait and they actually like create a bond and then first. Yeah.
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Lewis Howes
And then have sex.
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Dr. Tara Swart
Yeah.
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Lewis Howes
What changes within a woman when they have sex with a man? Do they become more bonded to the person?
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Dr. Tara Swart
Yeah. So for the woman, it's not so much to do with whether they are already in love with the person or not. If they're having sex and they're releasing oxytocin because they don't. We don't have as much testosterone as you. You've got at least seven to eight times as much testosterone as me and that buffers the effect of oxytocin, whereas I would get the full effect of oxytocin.
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Lewis Howes
That's fascinating. So a woman, when they have sex with a man, they're bonding quicker.
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Dr. Tara Swart
Yeah.
- [56:43]
Lewis Howes
When a man has sex with a woman, he's not necessarily bonding right away. He has to have more time connecting with her until he bonds. That is interesting.
- [56:53]
Dr. Tara Swart
And then sex will. Then the oxytocin isn't as buffered by the testosterone. So when you've got the vasopressin and the oxytocin high, then the testosterone has less negating effect on it.
- [57:06]
Lewis Howes
This is fascinating. Okay, what else about neuroscience and relationships should we address since we're on this topic that you think is really interesting?
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Dr. Tara Swart
So I think, you know, the whole like visual and smell thing at the start is quite interesting. And then the receptors and hormones to do with bonding and sex is really interesting. I would say that because we live so much longer now, you know, we, we're using these cave analogies, but to be honest, in cave times, you and I would both be dead.
- [57:35]
Lewis Howes
Died. Yeah.
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Dr. Tara Swart
So relationships potentially have to last for longer. And I think there's two things to say here. One is that you can use neuroplasticity to keep growing and changing in a way that keeps a relationship fresh. If you are holding onto this fantasy that a relationship has to last forever, even if we're now living till we're 100. Right. So I think another way to look at it is about being in the present, not necessarily putting this intense pressure on yourself, your partner and the relationship that it has to last forever.
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Lewis Howes
Yeah.
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Dr. Tara Swart
Understanding that even if a relationship breaks down, and that's obviously difficult to handle at the time, that there are potential possibilities for something that's more right for you at a different age than maybe a choice you made in your 20s. So, you know, nothing. You don't have to be a neuroscientist to say those two things. It's kind of like just using your brain to understand that there's a certain amount of time. There are, you know, benefits to being in long lasting relationships, but there are possible alternatives as well.
- [58:49]
David Guillaume
Yeah.
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Lewis Howes
That's interesting. How does someone start to believe something is possible when they've never created it for themselves?
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David Guillaume
That's a beautiful question. How does somebody believe something is possible when they haven't created it for themselves yet?
- [59:06]
Lewis Howes
I'm. It's possible for me to make a million dollars or possible for me to become financially free when I've never created it and I've always been broke.
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David Guillaume
There's two ways to do that. Number one, people think that it's very difficult together and it's actually much easier. Your body is and your mind and your soul are very compliant. If you say something over and over again, and it's so simple, I don't want to over complicate spirituality. If you say something, a mantra, over and over again, even if you're faking it in the beginning, your body, your mind and your soul will comply with that vibration. And then you will do actions that will be closer to that vibration and they will reinforce each other. So what I do literally every day is I just ask myself, what is the highest vibration I need to get to. I see the delta of where I'm at now and where I need to get to. And I just keep hitting that point over and over and over again incessantly until all of me complies with it. And it happens every time.
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Lewis Howes
How do you hit that point when you're feeling depressed or depleted or down?
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David Guillaume
That brings me to the second thing. Every single week, I try to find people who have already achieved what I'm trying to achieve and spend time with them, add value to them, and serve them. Because Cabal explains is a universal law. If you add value to someone or serve them in a way that makes Their life better. You draw from them their positive qualities, traits and vibration. So there's something that I want from Lewis. Meaning what do I want? All I want from you is the consciousness you've already created. I want the vibration you've already achieved in your life. I want the real wisdom. Because wisdom and consciousness is the one thing I can take from you. That doesn't take away from you, but adds to you.
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Lewis Howes
That doesn't ask of me, it adds to me.
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David Guillaume
It does. Because if I become one more person that learns from you, the universe then replenishes you with even more wisdom and energy. So as you grow your audience, your wisdom increases because your audience craves more through you. And so the Creator bestows upon you much more wisdom and energy. And that's the value of growing your audience. And I'll tell people on social media, people are growing their audience because they think, well, that's how I monetize, or that's how I become famous. And the ego gets in. The only intention you should have for growing your audience is you now have all these mini vessels which are craving your wisdom. So what happens is it forces the Creator to give you more wisdom and you become a greater channel. And that should be our intention for growing our audience.
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Lewis Howes
Yeah. How do I serve my community in a deeper way?
- [61:33]
David Guillaume
Correct.
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Lewis Howes
It's all about service.
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David Guillaume
It's all about the customer. All about service. And when you have that mindset, everything opens up and grows.
- [61:40]
Lewis Howes
Yeah, of course. What has been the thing that has blocked you in the last year the most? This is something you've been practicing for 20 plus years, 25 years, roughly. These spiritual laws. But what's the thing that's still hard for you to break through or sometimes you forget and you have to be reminded with a painful lesson?
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David Guillaume
That's a great question. One of the things I've learned is it doesn't matter how long you've been spiritual or you've been working on something or what your past experience has been. Every test you go through is sent to you by the universe. That is exactly on your level. The challenge, your opponent is exactly equal to where you're at in order to get you to your next level. And the only reason the next level isn't comfortable is because it's not your current level. It's a level that you're not familiar with. So of course you don't see it. Of course it's illogical, of course it's dark. And so what I've realized in this year, this has been probably one of most. My most transformational years is that I am such a perfectionist. Sure, maybe you can relate.
- [62:56]
Lewis Howes
You look perfect, man. You got perfect hair. You got perfect outfit. Everything's, like, put together, man. You look good.
- [63:01]
David Guillaume
Perfect. I. I am such a perfectionist that everything I do, I've always felt has to be the best. And this was the year I realized that part of why I'm trying to always be the best is I don't want to let other people down. I have to kind of give off this Persona because I'm representing spirituality, and I don't want to make spirituality look bad. So I have to have everything put together. I have to.
- [63:30]
Lewis Howes
Plus, you've got a big business. You want to make sure your employees, your team, your investors, whatever it might be, customers, feel like you're credible as well.
- [63:37]
David Guillaume
Correct? Correct.
- [63:38]
Lewis Howes
You're saying sloppy human being walking around.
- [63:40]
David Guillaume
Correct. I can't be sloppy externally or internally. But what I realized was that what that was causing was a lot of guilt and shame every time I fell short of the mark I needed to be at or the expectations I put on myself. And then what was happening was the guilt and the shame was creating much more negativity than all the things I was trying to perfect. So guilt and shame lowers your vibration more than any other mistake you make. People make mistakes like, I don't know, let's say you're in a relationship and you say something to your. To your spouse or to your girlfriend or boyfriend that hurts them or upsets them, and you feel bad about it. That was one moment in time where you created a little negative energy. But the guilt and shame that we carry after making a mistake is a million times the negative energy because it's constant. Every second you hold on to guilt and shame is another moment you're injecting negative energy. So the test isn't the mistake you make. It's the guilt and shame you have afterwards. So how do you remedy that? And this was my biggest lesson. It was taking the pressure off of myself of trying to appear as someone that's perfect and spiritual and allowing myself just to be myself everywhere I went. And I can't tell you, you know, how freeing that was. But at the same time, it created so much instability in other people because everyone's like, wait a minute. This was the David we knew. And now what's this? I said, no, this is today. A little bit more of the real me. And now I'm actually building a new foundation in my life that's much more authentic to. I am how so?
- [65:16]
Lewis Howes
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David Guillaume
There are people whose approval I want it so badly and I would, I knew, I know. I mean look, I, I, I, I, I connected with your energy and I feel like we we share so many similar qualities. I know exactly what somebody needs to hear to feel comfortable. Sure I know what what buttons to stay away from. I know how to talk to them in a way that can just make them feel really good and comfortable. And I learned that many times I myself or sacrificing myself or I'm being inauthentic to just make them feel comfortable. So now I'm just learning to be me and still be a giver, but to be in the way that maybe makes them uncomfortable in the moment. But I'm being true to myself and these examples have been happening more and more. It happens with my parents, happens with my friends, it happens. With business partners and colleagues, I'm just learning to just show up as me versus who I think they want me to be.
- [67:58]
Lewis Howes
It's beautiful. What do you think people are getting wrong about manifestation today?
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David Guillaume
What are people getting wrong about manifestation today? I think there's a prevailing belief system that we need to suffer to be successful, and that's incorrect. I think there's so much grind culture that's being thrown out there. And by the way, you do have to work hard and you do have to work consistently, but 99% of it is your belief system about what it takes to manifest. If you believe you must suffer to be successful, then that is the destiny you are creating. You will be successful, but you will only do it after you suffer. Elon Musk has the same hours in the day as we do. He thinks it's easy to colonize Mars. He thinks it's as easy to colonize Mars as we do. You know, maybe preparing a cup of coffee.
- [68:53]
Lewis Howes
Sure.
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David Guillaume
Because he thinks it's easy to colonize Mars. That consciousness creates a vessel that draws in the right engineers, that draws in the right ideas, that draws in the right lawmakers to change the laws to satisfy him. Of course there are challenges, but he's loving even the challenges to an extent where it all seems easy. If I think something is hard or impossible, then I literally call in the entire universe to create a movie for me that makes it hard and impossible. There are people who every relationship they're in is a drama. It's difficult. It's hard. Every city I go to, I ask them, is dating hard in this city?
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Lewis Howes
They all say, yes.
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David Guillaume
They say. I say, which city is the hardest? They say, oh, my God, I'm in New York. It's so hard to date here. I'm sure it's easier in Los Angeles. People in Los Angeles say it's impossible to date here. I'm sure it's easier in New York. Everyone always says it's harder wherever they're at.
- [69:48]
Lewis Howes
Why is that? Because they haven't been successful yet in their own city.
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David Guillaume
They haven't been successful in their own city. And if I say it's hard to date, then I don't have. It doesn't reflect poorly upon me the fact that I'm single. So I will tell everybody this narrative. It's hard to date so that they don't judge me and I don't judge myself that I can't find a man.
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Lewis Howes
It's not me. It's everyone else.
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David Guillaume
Everyone else. It's the city, it's the energy here.
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Dr. Joe Dispenza
It's the.
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David Guillaume
You know, everyone in LA is so superficial. But the truth is, even if everyone in LA was superficial, if you're. If you earned your soulmate, that one person would appear right at your door.
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Lewis Howes
Ooh.
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David Guillaume
Think about it. There are serial killers in prison who are married.
- [70:33]
Lewis Howes
Crazy. They found their soulmate. Yeah.
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David Guillaume
If someone in a maximum security prison who has a reputation of a serial killer can find their soulmate, I'm sure you can too. In Los Angeles.
- [70:44]
Lewis Howes
Yeah. With millions of men or women here. Exactly.
- [70:48]
David Guillaume
It's funny.
- [70:48]
Lewis Howes
You just got to know where to go. You just got to try new things and you got to change. You got to transform on the inside out.
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David Guillaume
Exactly what you just said. When your consciousness and belief systems and energy is in the right place, then you will be guided. Your legs will start moving in the right direction. Your profile on a dating app, algorithmically, will change. People will feel your energy. People will find your profile at the right time and feel called to match with you. All of that comes from your vibration. I talk about products on a shelf, right? So one of the things that we talk about in our company is that the energy of the founders, so Mary, Ruth and I, our consciousness, down to the executives, down to the directors, to the managers, and to the associates, all of us, our energy needs to be of such a high vibration, of an unlimited mindset in order for energy to flow from the creator through us to the product. And then people feel that product on the shelf and they don't know why they like it. They just say it's good branding, right? But they feel something in the bottle, and then that's what they should feel when they consume it, when they take it, and then the energy shifts. And here's the thing. In your company, if you have one person who's toxic or you have one person who has a limited mindset, they are clogging the pipes of energy flowing down to the product level. So one of the things that I do, I have very little business experience, but from the spiritual side, I'm always checking in with the employees. Where's their mindset at? I once went to my head of sales and I said, hey, in my walk this morning. So every morning I walk and I talk out loud to the universe in the form of prayer. Prayer is just a technology to expand your vessel. People think prayer is something you do to bribe God to make you more comfortable, but there's no bribing God. God is a perfect force. Prayer is a technology to transform Our vessel to increase the frequency to allow more energy. So every morning, I'll talk out loud to the universe.
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Lewis Howes
And what's the best way to pray for miracles or abundance in our life?
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David Guillaume
Any way that makes you comfortable. The way I do it is I walk and I talk out loud in the morning before everyone's awake. Some people like to be still. Some people like to do it in their head. I like to talk out loud. Something very powerful about it. In the first five minutes of prayer, all these negative forces will attack you to try to distract you not to do it. And you'll think it's not working. You'll want to get to your phone, and you'll want to quit. I always say you got to go past the first five minutes, and then you break through in kind of a miracle zone. And then when you talk out loud to the universe, your words become a vessel for energy to come in. And so ideas, my best ideas, best product ideas have come on these walks, and I will talk out loud, and these ideas will come. And I had an idea and a vision for a revenue number for my head of sales. I went to him, this guy's got 40 years experience. I said, hey, I think we can get whatever it was a hundred products into Whole Foods. This was right when we first got into whole Hundred SKUs. 100 SKUs.
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Lewis Howes
Holy cow, how many?
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David Guillaume
We had a hundred.
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Lewis Howes
Oh, wow.
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David Guillaume
I said, I think we can get all 100.
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Lewis Howes
Today.
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David Guillaume
We have about 300. But I said, we can get. Get all 100 into Whole Foods. And he looked at me, and he started laughing. He's like, you know, 40 years experience. I said, we need to aim for two this year to get into Whole Foods. And that's how it works. And we can get to four next year, whatever. And I said, that's a limiting belief, though, based on statistics and history, which is what most people use to form their belief systems.
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Lewis Howes
Most people aren't going to Mars. Also based on history.
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David Guillaume
Exactly. The people who are changing this world are people who are not looking at history as a way to forge their belief systems. They're looking at something bigger, more divine, which is endless. And they're drawing these belief systems from a higher place. So I said, look, you have the experience. I don't. But as a founder, I. You know, in the last eight years, we've been doing this together. As a founder, I do get ideas, and thankfully, you know, we do control this company. So I want you to really be open to this idea. And we had this back and forth, said no, it's impossible. I said. I said to him, I said, listen, I want you just to be open to it. He's like, okay, we'll be open to it. Something happened on a call with Whole Foods, and they said, like, one of their brands wasn't doing well. Manufacturing started to, like, malfunction, and, like, a whole shelf became open. Lo and behold, that year, I think we got 75 products.
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Lewis Howes
Wow.
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David Guillaume
Never happened before in the history of Whole Foods. We shot up to be, like, one of the number one brands. And I think today we're at almost like, 120 or 130, like, somewhere up there.
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Dr. James Doty
There.
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David Guillaume
And this all happened in one year. And every year, I go back to the team and I say, guys, and this happens in every department. Remember what we thought could happen. Remember what we saw visually. And if we saw it and we feel it, it means it exists, and we have to be open to it. At the very minimum, I need you to be open to it.
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Lewis Howes
Yeah. I love the. The question I like when I present this to someone is, in a world of possibilities, if this was possible, what would need to happen?
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David Guillaume
Beautiful.
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Lewis Howes
In a world of possibilities, if it was possible for us to get a hundred SKUs in Whole Foods, what would need to happen?
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David Guillaume
You just opened up their mind to bypass their old limited belief system. That's a great way of framing it.
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Lewis Howes
Yeah. Yeah.
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Dr. Joe Dispenza
I love that.
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David Guillaume
I love that.
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Lewis Howes
Wow. So you got 75 SKUs in in one year. Yeah. When you had, like, a couple before then or something, right?
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David Guillaume
Yep, yep.
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Lewis Howes
And you also said that. Something you said earlier. You said you were made a million dollars at 15. Is that right?
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David Guillaume
Yeah.
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Lewis Howes
But then you were kind of broke.
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David Guillaume
For 15 years, so I made all this money in the stock market early on because I was just. I had a lot of desire, a lot of energy. I just didn't know where to put it. And so I started to trade, and it started to do really well. But that's when my life started to get out of control as a teenager and I became a gambler. I started to.
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Lewis Howes
Really?
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David Guillaume
Oh, yeah. I started playing poker eight hours a day.
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Lewis Howes
Oh, man. I did that back in.
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David Guillaume
Oh, yeah.
- [76:23]
Lewis Howes
10 years, too. College. Just like poker till 4am Till 4am.
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David Guillaume
Sometimes I'd go in. I'd go into a casino on, like, a Sunday and come out on a Tuesday. You wouldn't see daylight.
- [76:33]
Lewis Howes
I was, like, playing, like, 15 hands with my college buddies. Not casino life, but.
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David Guillaume
Yeah, but that. I mean, it's never enough. So casino life was the next thing. Right. And So I was doing that and I realized, why am I like. I just kept feeling more and more drained. Right? You got the highs and then you feel low. And once I started to learn Kabbalah, I started to realize that the highs and the lows were I was drawing energy, but I didn't create the vessel to hold this energy. Gambling, drugs, alcohol, sex, all of these things draw energy. You're drawing God, you're drawing the universal force of creation. The reason why it ends up causing chaos is there's no vessel to hold this energy. So you short circuit. And what does a short circuit look like? There's a flash of light and then there's darkness. But the flash is very bright. That flash is very addictive. So most people, they draw energy, but there's no vessel to hold it. Which we can explain what that means to create a vessel, there's no vessel to hold it. They feel this flash and then there's darkness, there's emptiness, there's addiction. Because they may not know spiritual laws, they'll go right back to more flashes to feed the addiction.
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Lewis Howes
So it sounds like there's a, almost a three step process is what I'm seeing. Number one, learn to draw the energy you want to you. Number two, create the vessel within you so that you can hold it. And I'm assuming number three is where to bring that energy. How to be of service with that energy and then just continue to draw. Have a container big enough to hold it and then pour it out into others. Is that a.
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David Guillaume
That's a beautiful way of putting it.
- [78:20]
Lewis Howes
So, so how would we first draw energy to us of the things we want to manifest more?
- [78:26]
David Guillaume
The way we draw energy to us is first to be clear about your belief system of what you deserve to receive and what you're meant to receive.
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Lewis Howes
How do you get clear on what you deserve and are meant to receive?
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David Guillaume
Whatever your desires are, it means you are meant to receive them at some point. Don't question that. So if you actually had to write down all your desires, these desires, the Creator gave you these desires, so you go out and manifest them.
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Lewis Howes
What's the difference between a desire and a temptation? Because you could be like just like crazy, crazy drugs and I don't know, just like stuff that's not us, spiritual energy. But I. What if it's the desire? I feel like it's a desire. I'm supposed to go drink all night and gamble all night and just whatever.
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David Guillaume
Correct. So this is why it's healthy. But I say all of these things that Are given to us. Drinking, gambling, drugs, sex. These are all. For example, let's say if you go to Costco, Costco has samples, and you eat a sample, and you like the sample. But if you like the sample, you need to go buy the full product. Nobody goes to Costco all day long. They just eat samples. You don't just sit by the sample station all day long to fill your belly with the samples that they give you.
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Lewis Howes
Well, if you're poor, I've done that when I was broke.
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David Guillaume
People who just eat samples all day long. So when a person does a drug, what do they feel like? They feel like God. Fill this euphoria. This is a sample to eventually inspire you to buy the full product. The full product is to realize you can feel that you unlock the power of your soul.
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Lewis Howes
Without the drug?
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David Guillaume
Without the drug.
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Lewis Howes
Most people think the drug is the power to unlock more. And so they need to keep going back, doing the plant medicine or the drugs that create the awakening, the awareness to then feel, heal, see, do things differently. As opposed to creating from within, Right?
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David Guillaume
Because they. Because no one's told them that they have the power inside of them that is nuclear. You have this power inside of you that is millions of times greater than any drug you're taking. But we've been told that we need to keep taking the drug to feel that way.
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Lewis Howes
But anyone that I've talked to who's done the plant medicines, they're like, no, nothing is greater than this. This unlocks more than anything I could ever do on my own.
- [80:50]
David Guillaume
And it's true. It has unlocked more than they've ever experienced. So I don't ever tell people, don't do this plant. Don't do this drug. When people tell me, I love sex, I'm having sex with everybody. Is there a problem with that? I say, that's fine. You can have sex with everybody you want. You can have all the drugs you want. I have. But I do want you to know that you have something greater inside of you that will give you even more pleasure and more euphoria. If you're open to it, we can talk.
- [81:14]
Lewis Howes
And also, if you're doing the drugs or the alcohol or the sex or the addiction, things that create this energy feeling, what does that do to your vessel?
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David Guillaume
See, that's the thing. You actually begin to shrink the vessel. How do we know? Because every time you take the drug, it's never as potent the next time.
- [81:32]
Lewis Howes
You need more, you need more more frequently.
- [81:34]
David Guillaume
You need it more frequently. So you actually begin to shrink your capacity until you experience death, and then there's some kind of death or painful scenario that breaks your vessel open again, and then you start that process over. The only way to really expand your vessel spiritually is a concept as a spiritual law that is certainty beyond logic. You have to be put in a dark situation, a difficult situation where you do not see any logical way of getting out of it, and then choose to have certainty that you can, even if you have to fake that certainty, but you have certainty beyond your logical mind. This breaks open the vessel and allows the next level of your soul to come in to hold this energy.
- [82:20]
Lewis Howes
Yeah, and what you said about. You've said this about certainty. Certainty is the way to guarantee a positive outcome. As long as you have complete certainty beyond logic, that everything is good and will be good, you are guaranteed to have the outcome be good.
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David Guillaume
Absolutely.
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Lewis Howes
What is the. The number one thought and number one emotion that blocks us from the ability to manifest greater fear? What type of fear?
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Dr. James Doty
Well, it's insecurity, it's shame. And this results in you limiting your beliefs. And so in some ways, what we're talking about here actually is a decision between fear and love. Right. And when you're fearful, this stimulates your sympathetic nervous system with all the negative attitudes aspects of it. When you love, you're open, you're generous, you're thoughtful, you're kind, because you've engaged the parasympathetic nervous system and you have a choice. This is like if you look at stoic philosophers, like somebody like Epictetus who was a slave, he says, I cannot control my external environment. What I can control is how I react to my environment. Right. So you meet people, I'm sure, say, my life's miserable, my life's horrible. While you meet other people, go, well, it's tough right now, but I'm optimistic it's going to get better. Or I know if I do this, it's going to get better. These are completely oppositional attitudes that have a profound, profound effect depending on what you're believing.
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Lewis Howes
Yes, but how does someone shift their attitude into positive when they're in a suffering state and they feel like they're victim to so many different things happening to them?
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Dr. James Doty
Sure. Well, I can't sit here and say, you do this and your life's going to be perfect. There's some situations either because of, as an example, structural racism that's built into the system, or chronic poverty, because throughout the world, and even in America, the ability to overcome poverty, for most, it's highly unlikely that's going to happen. So yes, you do have power, but it's not necessarily I'm going to change it and everything's going to be perfect for me. And I'm sure things are not perfect for you. Right?
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Lewis Howes
Yeah.
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Dr. James Doty
And no matter how much you try or want, while externally things may look fantastic, it's not perfect and it's not the way you necessarily want. And I think have to say the same thing. But there are people who. Yeah. No matter how hard they're going to work, it's going to be very challenging. That being said, what we do know is there are certain practices and rules and if you are going to get out of something or if you are going to change things, then the best way to do that which has the highest likelihood of success. Success is to go through some of the things that we're talking about here. And one of those is that as an example, there is a tendency for us to want to achieve. Right. And if you're an athlete, you have a goal you set there. Well, goals are fine. But if you focus only on the goal and have no concern about any of the other things that are going on the process.
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Dr. Joe Dispenza
Yeah.
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Dr. James Doty
Then you reach the goal and there's nothing there.
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Lewis Howes
Yeah.
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Dr. James Doty
Yet what we do know, the greatest cause of suffering is what it's attachment and craving.
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Lewis Howes
Desires. Yeah.
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Dr. James Doty
And the thing is, when that is your absolute focus and we can't all get these things, you're going to be highly disappointed. Disappointed. And you've ignored all the people in your life as you focus solely on that. And unfortunately, many people learn that lesson far along. After they've destroyed their families, they've been through multiple marriages, their kids don't like them. Right.
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Lewis Howes
Because they've been chasing a result or a goal or a dream, but neglecting everything else. Yeah.
- [86:40]
Dr. James Doty
Because again, as I was saying, even about myself, I thought, well, if I just do this, my shame and insecurity will go away. I'll be loved by everybody and my life will be perfect. Yet at every one of those peaks, all I had was disappointment. And while everyone told me life was great, I did not feel that inside. Because I had not understood that I was the only one who had the key to the self created prison. And until you realize that, you're on a very difficult pass.
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Lewis Howes
So if we're coming from a place of insecurity, fear or lack, and we're saying, you know what, I want to manifest, I want to create more for myself, I want to have more money, I want to have more opportunities, accomplishments, Success. And that's what I want. I desire these things and I start to apply some of the practices of manifesting and creating more abundance in my life and. But if I create those external results and I haven't shifted the insecurities of the shame, what happens next?
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Dr. James Doty
Well, you end up the way I did, which is you have everything and you're incredibly unhappy.
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Lewis Howes
Yeah. So you can still manifest and attract what you want and create what you want and accomplish goals, but it's not going to make you feel different about yourself. It might actually make you feel worse.
- [88:01]
Dr. James Doty
Exactly.
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Lewis Howes
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