Planning a safe exit from a narcissistic or abusive relationship isn’t a single leap—it’s a step‑by‑step operation. We’re joined by Diana Jordan, former family law solicitor and author of How to Divorce a Narcissist and Succeed in the Family Court, to unpack what narcissism really looks like in separation and why time rarely calms a true narcissist. We draw a clear line between difficult divorce behaviour and entrenched narcissistic patterns, then map out a practical route to safety that protects your children, your finances, and your sanity.

Diana Jordan

I work with litigants in person many of whom are leaving an abusive relationship. I support parents whose former partners are narcissists and are using the courts to continue their abuse. I deal with cases labelled as "high conflict" which more often than not simply means no-one knows which is the abusive parent and it's easier to blame both of them for the problems. I help parents in cases of parental alienation as well as some who have false allegations of parental alienation made against them by the abusive parent.

With over 25 years experience in the legal profession I am able to give guidance and information throughout the process of separation and divorce. Some clients wish to do as much as they can of the legal work themselves and I assist them with form-filling and letter writing, referring them to the best mediators, financial advisors, solicitors, and direct access barristers as and when appropriate.

I enjoy finding creative solutions to the different challenges faced by families in transition. Although I work with parents, securing the best outcomes for their children is my primary focus. My skills as a life coach assist clients to gain clarity in their situation and to move forward in a planned and constructive way. I use my knowledge of personal and spiritual development to empower clients to own the process and make their own decisions; I encourage clients to be and do their very best during a hugely difficult time of change.

Diana's book: How to Divorce a Narcissist - order here

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Tamsin Caine

Tamsin is a Chartered Financial Planner with over 20 years experience. She works with couples and individuals who are at the end of a relationship and want agree how to divide their assets FAIRLY without a fight.

You can contact Tamsin at tamsin@smartdivorce.co.uk or arrange a free initial meeting using https://bit.ly/SmDiv15min. She is also part of the team running Facebook group Separation, Divorce and Dissolution UK

Tamsin Caine MSc., FPFS

Chartered Financial Planner

Smart Divorce Ltd

Smart Divorce

P.S. I am the co-author of “My Divorce Handbook – It’s What You Do Next That Counts”, written by divorce specialists and lawyers writing about their area of expertise to help walk you through the divorce process. You can buy it here https://yourdivorcehandbook.co.uk/buy-the-book/

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