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The Spiritual Hustler
Ask Jessica Anything: Perfectionism, Body Dysmorphia, Book Deals, and How to Actually Make a Marriage Work
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Welcome to the Spiritual Hustler Podcast.
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I'm your host, Jessica Zweig, multi seven figure serial entrepreneur, best selling author and branding and business coach. And this is a show where we are redefining the word hustle. Reclaiming our true feminine nature of magnetism and putting down the self judgments and shame around loving to work and making a lot of money at it. On this show, you're going to learn how to stop hustling and start spiritually hustling by pressing play. You are now now part of a new movement of women who don't hustle for money. We hustle for meaning. We don't hustle from lack. We hustle for love. We don't hustle from survival. We hustle for humanity's thriving. We hustle toward healing the ancestral programming of fear and step into a new understanding of safety in the body to receive this shift isn't going to only heal your life.
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It's going to make you a whole lot richer too. This is the Spiritual Hustler Podcast. Well, hello my beautiful spiritual Hustlers and welcome back to the podcast. I'm your host, Jess, and I am so excited to be with all of you today. Do you guys know that this podcast reaches pretty much every single continent on planet Earth? It's kind of wild that the show has grown in the way that it has over these last couple of years. I've been podcasting for gosh, going on five, six years, but the Spiritual Hustler podcast has been around for about a year and a half. I rebranded the show when I rebranded my life after selling my business and venturing into the spiritual space, launching my second book, the Light Work. I say I rebranded my whole life and the community that has come out for the Spiritual Hustler podcast has just been such a gift. And you're all just such a gift to me and to each other. And I hope that you feel every single day this web that we are weaving as this collective of awake and remembered conscious women who are stepping into the new earth rising as leaders of this time. And that's really what the show is about. We talk about all things business, we talk about all things spirituality, all in service of the divine feminine rising. And I just want to say that if you haven't yet left a review on this show, make sure you subscribe to the show so you get our updates every single week. I drop two episodes a week that you share this podcast with the women in your life that need to hear this message. It really, really does help the show grow and we are on YouTube, so head on over to watch these incredible conversations. See our outfits, see the connection, see the magic that happens in studio. I'm so grateful that I have so many beautiful guests that fly into the studio. I'm located in Nashville, Tennessee, and we get to drop in in person to bring you these conversations on tv. It's so much fun. And speaking of fun, I know that I have the most fun whenever I take questions from my community. It is honestly one of my favorite things in life to hear from you guys. You know, when I was running my agency, I was, you know, building my personal brand. I was always on social media. I actually entered the space of social media back in 2008, you guys, when, like, Facebook and Twitter were the only games in town, and built a digital magazine using the power of social. I innately understood it from day one. It's like, oh, wow, this is free marketing. And this is an opportunity to, like, be myself online and cultivate community and spread a message and connect with incredible people. And I never really saw social media as a place to grow a public image. You know, like, I see people who put like, public figure on their. In their Instagrams. And with all due respect, I. You do you boo. But I was like, this is a place to create relationship. This is a place to create true connection with other human beings across the planet through a screen. And we've got to really reach in and connect in a genuine way. And I was watching, you know, the online space, female entrepreneurs build online communities while I was running my agency. I started my agency in 2016 17, and it was a personal branding agency. And I really feel like so much of the success of that business was due to the timing of that business, because I launched it in those years where everyone, it felt like all of a sudden woke up and realized they needed to be on social media too. So I had been in the space for eight years, and I just struck while the iron was hot and built this agency, serving close to a thousand clients, helping other people build their brands. And I was watching women online who were building online businesses, online communities, launching courses, launching programs, launching digital products. And I was always clear on the women that were really building community versus building audience. And I. You could just tell the difference. I would reach out to some of those women in DMS and thank them for their content or tell them that their podcast inspired me or just shared, you know, a reflection. And it was always so beautiful when those women responded. And I just remember feeling not like, oh, wow, I'm special Like that's cool. But like, wow, what a reflection of that woman, that she is invested in her community and that she's a real person and understands that I'm a real person. And so I hope that you feel that from me. I'm just gonna be blunt. I really try. I don't get a chance to respond to every single message all the time, but I really. And it is this episode today where I really get to take advantage of our communication because a few weeks ago I asked my community to drop me a question, what they want to hear from me in the podcast. I do an ask me anything every couple months or so, couple times a year. And it's my favorite episode to do because it's what you guys want to hear. And I got such a diversity of questions, they were all over the place in the best way. And I wanted to literally drop in today and answer these questions because they touch me. And I know that if these women have these questions and burning desires on their heart, my community at large does as well. And so I'm going to dive right in today and, and start with the question, how do you recenter if you deal with high functioning anxiety and perfectionism? Girlfriend, welcome to the club. I really relate to this question and I wanted to start with this because surprise, surprise, I am a perfectionist. I deal with high functioning anxiety. I have had to really rewire my nervous system and how I treat myself over the years to come to a place where I am really truly in more homeostasis and neutrality around the results that I'm driving, the goals that I'm setting, the success that I want to create in my life, what all the things that I hold on a daily basis. We are all so busy, right? We're always at some sort of capacity, mentally, physically, emotionally, financially, time wise. And the truth is I'll start with anxiety because this is a real epidemic, especially as high performing women, high functioning women. And it really is all about the body. I was out of my body, I was not in my body for most of my life. And what does that mean to be in the body? Well, it means to, at the biggest basis level, to feel your feelings because in order to move the anxiety out, in order to feel lighter and freer from your own anxious thoughts and emotions, we can't bypass them, we can't ignore them, we can't run over them. We have to allow them to come up and to be expressed. Whether that's through crying, screaming, expressing, talk therapy, moving our bodies, shaking, grounding, getting in our bodies, so that the emotions can come up, they can be let out, emoted and then released. And I was so avoidant for so long. I just powered through my days. I was constantly contact, switching from meeting to meeting to meeting. Jam packed without any space to breathe, yes, but more importantly to feel what was coming up. And today on a regular basis, I get up in between meetings and I go outside and I sit on my front stoop and I stare at the sun and I take off my socks and I put my feet in the ground for a few seconds, if that's all I have. Sometimes I get up after a stressful conversation and I push my body up against the wall. This is a trick that my dear friend Tracy Litt told me to do. Like, this is a powerful way to release anxiety out of the body, reset the nervous system is literally both hands on the wall. It's important to be like bare fe wearing shoes so you don't slip and push a wall as if you're trying to move the wall. And you do that for about 30 seconds to a minute. And it, it's hard, it, it hurts. It takes physical strain, but the second you're done, you release and you have moved the tension out because you let the tension come up and be felt. I scream, I growl, I yell, I cry, I moan, I hum. I move sound through my body so that it can come out. I really also cannot say enough good things about the higher dose PEMF mat. I know it's an investment, but it is worth it. I will lie on that thing for 20 minutes, 40 minutes, an hour if I have the time. And it completely resets my entire body. The PEMF mat from higher dose has the Schumann resonance in it, has the frequency of the planet. So lying on it for 20 minutes is equivalent to lying on the earth for, for eight hours. It has four different settings. You can use it to meditate, you can use it to get ready for sleep. I use it for anxiety and it completely resets my nervous system. I really think that having conversations with your closest friends, like if I'm having an anxious moment, one of the things that I do is I, I leave a voice note to a sister. You know, sometimes it's my best friend, sometimes it's my husband, sometimes it's my coo. But I like to talk. I, I'm a person verbal processor, so I like to get things out, out of my head and into the ether so that it can be reflected back to me. And in fact, one of my favorite hacks is actually with My best friend Megan, we call it a paired share where I literally call her up. Or sometimes it's a voice note, sometimes it's a live call, but I'm like, hey babe, I just need to paired share for two minutes. And it's literally two minutes of straight talking and your friend just listens and then she either responds or she pair shares back and she starts and you just listen and it's a way to just equalize like anxiety together. And it's a really powerful hack if you can create this little signal in your life called the paired share where you at, you set the stage, you tell your friend, or maybe it's your partner or someone on your team, it doesn't matter, someone you trust. It's kind of like free, cheap therapy, if you will, where you just verbal process for two minutes and you time yourself, you give yourself two minutes to get it all out. That has been such an enormous tool in helping me with anxiety. Now I want to talk about perfectionism because I'm going to get really, really real with you guys, okay? And I this is the place that I do it. So I just launched the feminine frequency business school. As you guys know, we had a massive launch. It was our biggest launch to date. We sold in 75 women, the most aligned women we've ever had in the cohort. I'm so grateful for each and every one of them. These are my sisters for life now. And we had set a pretty aggressive goal. The number was higher than 75 and it was a big jump from our last cohort. And I really found myself hearing my old self throughout that two week window when we were in launch, like this hyper, vigilant perfectionist that needed to hit a goal for the sake of hitting a goal, for her own ego, to prove herself to herself for some sort of vanity metric that really didn't matter. And I went out to dinner with a really dear friend in the middle of that week and I was telling her about it and she looked at me and she said, jessica, how much are you willing to tolerate? And I was like, what are you talking about? She's like, how unkind are you willing to be towards yourself? What are you willing to tolerate? And I was really so grateful for that feedback because I could see this old avatar, you know, who's still very much around. Like she circles me and sometimes I feel like she's hanging out in my right shoulder and I turn, I'm like, oh, you're still here. And it was such a reframe because I have practiced so much self care and so much self love and I know this community works on practicing that as well. But I think real self love isn't, you know, baths and days off and travel and manicures. It's not even taking care of ourselves through therapy and coaching and having the support around us. Real self love is the kindness and the compassion that we are willing to give to ourselves. And I just recognized that the number doesn't matter. It didn't matter whether I sold 20 women into FFBs or 100 women into FFBs. It was an irrelevant, arbitrary number that I had made up. And when I looked at the quote unquote final result and really held it in its perfection of what it was meant to be, I felt like a million dollars.
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And I offer this to the woman that asked this question, and I'm offering it to all of you that whatever it is that you're setting your perfection against, how rooted in reality is it? Where does it come from? What is it in relation to? You most likely got that either from some past self, a parent, a partner, society, Instagram, whatever metric of success or your weight, or how far along you should be in your life or your career, or how much money you should be making at this point, or if you should be in a relationship if you're not, or you should be happier in the relationship that you're in. What is the metric that you are, for lack of a better word, comparing it to where did that come from? And most likely it was manufactured from something that is not really relevant to what makes you you and how valuable you innately are. So I will leave that there. Such a big question, such an important question. I got another question that's. That's a really good one, and I cannot actually wait to answer this. Do you have any rituals, daily practices that help you stop from caring what other people think? The truth is, I. I don't necessarily have daily rituals or practices. This is something that has come over time. But I will say that the antidote to caring about what other people think is. And I know, I don't want to oversimplify this, but it's really the game, you guys is being so clear on who you are in your full authenticity and imperfection and your own magic and greatness. I really don't compare myself to anybody much lately. It's. It's not a relevant question to ask myself. I think that the greatest strategy you can ever have, to grow your ideal audience, to grow your own community, to create the most aligned clients, to attract the most incredible partners and friends, to magnetize the right team around you. Like, the strategy is being yourself. And I think it comes down to surrounding yourself with people who really, truly get you, believe in you, love you, support you, see you, are there for you, who are willing to really hold space when you're not at your best and are willing to tell you the truth so that you can step up and rise, and people who celebrate you when you are on top you know, and I think that we are so conditioned and programmed based on our parents and our schooling and society and the matrix which is predicated by this 3D reality of fear versus love, where unfortunately fear is dominates the common collective consciousness. And it takes our own self sovereignty and agency to click out of that. We have to recognize it first of all. And I think that if you're here following the show and you're into this message of spirituality and, and business and self empowerment and feminine reclamation, you're like, okay, I, I see the truth of what's happening on this earthly plane and half of it, more than half of it is fucking bullshit and made up. And that alone is the first step to say, okay, I don't have to follow the masses. I don't have to be a sheep, for lack of a better term. I get to stand in my own individuality because I know what's true for me and lead from that place and show up from that place. That's the daily practice. And I just have really come to a place in my life where I know myself so deeply and I operate from love and compassion. And I really like actually am obsessed with humanity and authenticity and people who've been through really dark and have found the light. Like I just, I can feel when things have been alchemized into truth and high vibration. So my point is, when I get criticized or trolled or rejected or people talk about me behind my back, which I've, you know, unfortunately have heard that's happened, I'm so attuned to the frequency of where that's coming from. And it is so low vibration, it's not my vibration, it doesn't match my frequency. And so I can really hold my own self trust and love and discernment that, that actually has nothing to do with me at all. So there's nothing to be afraid of when those things come up. It's so out of the veil of how I move through life that it doesn't affect me. It just doesn't. Sure, something might sting once in a while, but I am so clear that that's not enough reason for me to stop being who I am, standing in my truth, showing up as myself. And I really believe that when we get ourselves into our own personal alignment, we begin to magnetize and attract the same frequency. And then that becomes a affirmation, a daily affirmation that you're onto something, that you're on the right path, that you're on your own golden timeline. And none of the rest of it has anything to do with you. And in fact, if you are repelling people, because that's what happens when you stand in your own unique, authentic vibration. Because everything is energy and like attracts like, you're going to magnetize that same frequency and you're going to repel those that are not a match and that is a gift. Because the people that are not at your frequency aren't going to buy from you anyway. They're not going to follow you anyway. They're not going to refer you anyway. They're not your people. So don't pander, don't lower your vibration, don't shift yourself, don't chameleon yourself to be liked by everybody, because it's impossible. And when you try to be liked by everyone, you become nothing to no one, especially yourself, because you're shape shifting constantly. And that is not sustainable. The only thing that is truly sustainable is being yourself. And that's the practice. Okay, another question. How did the funeral you gave your past self impact, your relationship with Brian? Okay, my husband's name is Brian. If you didn't know I did an episode, I'm gonna drop it in the show notes. To be honest, it was one of my favorite episodes, one of my most vulnerable episodes I have ever shared on the podcast. I released it in the first few months of the Spiritual Hustler rebrand after I had sold my agency. I had healed my nervous system. I had been, you know, flying high after my total ego death in Egypt and had come back a completely renewed person. I had been doing medicine journeys with my healer, working with mdma. Like I had fully alchemized out so much density and trauma and dysregulation and was stepping into this whole new timeline. And I was living in Nashville and I had gone back to Chicago for a few meetings and I fell a part. I had full on anxiety attack. I was in all of this looping, all of this scarcity, all of this rushing, it was I, I like full on lost my. And I was like, oh my God, that girl is still here. She didn't die. She's still like, she's a ghost. She's haunting me. And so I came back to Nashville and I threw myself a funeral. I threw her a funeral. It's a whole thing. And I explained the whole process. I like journaled. I lit a bonfire, I threw a dress in the fire. It's like a whole ritual that I did. So you can go listen to that episode and I'll leave the link in the show notes and the question Here is. How did the past self funeral impact my relationship with my husband? Well, I'll say this, my husband has decided his higher self to, to hitch a ride with me in this timeline, this lifetime. You know, we've been together for 13 years and I have died many deaths and been reborn again over and over again. And so has he. And I really. I say this with a lot of humility and gratitude because I recognize that not everybody has a high vibe relationship or is even in a relationship or going through a breakup or a divorce or has breakdowns in their current relationship relationships, love, it's sticky, it's tricky, it's painful, it's hard, it's delicate for so many of us. And I am in the highest expression of my marriage after 13 years that I've ever been. I'm more in love with him, I'm more attracted to him, I'm more obsessed with him than I've ever been, which is kind of crazy to say. And I think that the real root of the root of that for both of us, because this is a co creation, I would pretty much say confidently that he feels the same way about me, is that we have allowed each other to grow individually and we have worked on growing collectively. We do a lot of work on our marriage, we do a lot of work on ourselves. And I think that that funeral, if I'm gonna be honest and go back to that, impacted my marriage for the better because I am committed to showing up as my highest self for me and that makes me show up as a better wife. And so I think it impacted us really well, to be honest. And I could not recommend more than you do your own work as a constant in your life because who you are this year is not who you're going to be next year, let alone 13 years from now. And the key is of course finding the partner that is going to hold space for your evolution. Yes. But also is working on their evolution. Because you can't sustain a marriage if only one person is growing. So that is my answer to that. Now I got another question which is really fascinating that someone wanted to know what I eat in a day and what is my exercise routine. You look bright and amazing. That was very kind of you. And it's funny that, you know, I love to talk about health and wellness and all of the things and I don't talk about it as often as I want to. So I was so appreciated this question. And I'll start by saying that I used to have, have body dysmorphia. Orthorexia. I was super obsessed with working out. I counted calories. I tortured my body through every single diet, fad and workout routine Trend for maybe 15 years. I yo yoed my weight constantly. I was super skinny and then I was super inflamed and I was just surrendering my self sovereignty when it came to diet and health. To all of the experts and, you know, wellness teachers on the Internet and Instagram, reading all these books, just not tuning in to what I needed. My personal body and every single one of us is different. I didn't eat meat for 10 years. I was like vegan and pescatarian and I was marathon running and soul cycling and doing core power hot yoga and Barry's boot camp. I mean I was like insanely obsessed with working out. And as a result I was getting sick and just my body was so out of whack. And so today I eat a ton of meat. I'm a big fan of protein. I actually eat a lot of red meat. I probably eat red meat a couple times a week. I have smoothie in the morning. Most mornings. I have this amazing protein that I found called Noble. It's locally made in Austin, Texas. It's made with colostrum, it's made with beef organs. It's made with high quality protein isolate. It's delicious. And I blend that up in the morning with a cup of black coffee. I typically have a like a grain bowl or salad or something yummy and nourishing. High vegetables and high protein. For lunch, I'm a big fan of kava. I love chopped. I love true foods. I don't really love to order out too much, but sometimes during the day I'm working and it's just convenient. But I like to make my own food. For dinner I typically saute up ground beef, ground turkey. I'll make chicken thighs. I love to have a starch. I'm obsessed with sweet potato fries. I like to have green on the plate. So I roast broccoli or green beans or asparagus and that's pretty much my dinner. And then I always have a piece of hue chocolate. Sometimes two, sometimes three. Sometimes I eat a whole bar of chocolate at the end of the night. I have to have chocolate every day. I don't drink alcohol. I mineralize all day long with water filled with element electrolytes and beam minerals. Swear by be minerals. And you know, I do go out to dinner a couple nights a week if it's on my schedule and I eat what I want. You know, I try and have again protein forward entrees and I'll eat the bread basket. I just intuitively eat what I want. It's just been so wonderful to not starve myself or undernourish myself or binge. I used to binge and purge a lot when I was in my 20s and 30s. And as far as my workout routine, I. I'm a Pure Bar girl. I go to Pure Bar at least two to three times a week, at least. I try to. They have an amazing class called Pure Bar Define which is heavy weights. So I get my weight lifting in, I walk, I try and get 10000 steps a day if I can. That's my cardio. I am trying to find a trainer in Nashville. I would love to get into more heavy lifting like a couple times a week. I'm working on that. But right now that's, that's the whole, that's the whole routine, guys. I just gave you pretty much the play by play of, you know, what I do. And I just can't stress enough. Like everybody is different, you know, not everybody responds well to, to red meat or grains or leafy greens. Some people thrive on a vegan diet. Some people really need a lot of fruit in their diet. I am not a nutrition expert by any means, but I wanted to answer this question honestly and that is what is working for me. All right, next question. We're bopping around from personal to business. I got a question about how do you write a book proposal? I have an episode, a whole episode on this, so I'll link it in the show notes as well. But essentially a book proposal is needed if you want to one for a traditional publishing deal. So if you want to get a book deal with a pub house, you have to write a book proposal first. If you self publish, you don't have to write a book proposal. You just write the damn book. And it is specifically for nonfiction authors. So if you want to write a fiction book, it's a different story. You actually have to write the whole manuscript and then submit for a fiction book. But for nonfiction authors who want a traditional pub deal, you write a book proposal. And it's really structured like a business plan. And I fully. I'm working on my third book right now. I've done this now three times. I find the book proposal process to be so incredibly valuable and important and actually like critical. Because in this book proposal, you don't write the book. You write the outline for the book. You write what your book is going to be about. So by the time you get the book deal. You've already written the entire blueprint for your book and the writing process is simply you filling it out. And yes, that takes months and that's its own journey. But you can't have an effective journey writing the book without the proposal. This is at least my experience. Now, the book proposal includes a couple of sections. The first is your overview. So you have about three to five, sometimes ten, you know, pages. It's a summary. Typically this is the first and only thing that an agent or publisher will read. You've really got to get your overview right now. Pro tip, I don't write the overview until the very end. Even though it's the first section of the book. I kind of have to flesh out the whole thing before I really understand what the what is of my book. And then I go back and I summarize it in an overview. But section one is overview. Section two is your audience analysis. Like who is this book for? I typically recommend you define two to three core audiences. You have to flesh those avatars out. I like to show data, I like to share. You have to share, in fact, that there is a demand in the market for this book based on the readership that exists, the demographic you want to reach, what you know they are hungry for, which is why you're writing the book for them specifically. And typically you want to demonstrate that it's a big market, right, so that you get a nice book deal. The next section is comp titles, so competitive titles. You typically include about five different titles of books in your space that have come out in the last one to two years that have done well. So you're saying to your publisher or the intended publisher or agent that there is a demand in the market for this kind of material based on these other authors who have had success in this like minded adjacent lane and conversation and topic and industry. So that's a really important part of the proposal. Then you have your author bio, which is not your typical like personal bio. To me, the author bio should be about two to three pages that really tell a story. That is a narrative of what you've been through, why you are the woman to write this book. And in that bio you get to of course give your stats and how far your reaches and link to your social media and your website. And you know, you plug those things in. But it's not necessarily a traditional bio. It takes the agent or the publisher on a journey as to what has led you to this moment to write this book. Next section is your marketing plan. So you really have to demonstrate how you are going to market this book into the world. Because truth is, sisters, whether you get a pub deal or you self publish your own book, you as the author are going to be the primary marketer and salesperson and spokesperson and publicity person for the book. So the marketing plan is actually really important. I think it really demonstrates to the publisher that you're gonna be a really great salesperson on behalf of their house because they, end of the day, this is a business and they need to see that you can drive sales. And so your marketing plan demonstrates that roadmap from pre launch to launch to post launch of how you're going to get the book out into the world. And then the final section is the chapter outline where you basically give the table of contents. You do a summary on every single chapter. You don't write the chapter, you write a one page summary of what that chapter will be about. Kind of requires you to put yourself in a different mindset. And then the final, final section is sample chapters. So one to two to three sample chapters. That really shows the agent or the publisher your writing style. So that is the whole book proposal process. All right, next question. I have read the book. Light work. Thank you so much. When did you first come into connection with your higher self? So I think if you're listening to this, I'm sure you can relate. I feel like I was connected to my higher self from like a very, very young age. I have journaled since the age of 10. I literally have saved every single journal. I. They're like in my storage closet. I have like hot, like, I don't even know how many journals at this point. You guys, I'm 44. It's a lot of journals. And I'll go back to like fifth grade, Jessica. And I was writing poetry about the goddesses and angels and talking about white light. And you know, that was when I was a young girl. And then I became an adolescent and I had a really rough time in middle school and high school. I was bullied, I was made fun of, I wasn't secure. I had really low self esteem, I had dysfunction at home, I was traumatized at school. So I really shut that part of me off. I didn't want people to think I was weird. And yet I was always a deep feeler. And I think that if you're an empath, which is pretty much all of us, we are connected to our higher selves. Our. That's our heart, where our soul and our body lives, is in our heart. So the more connected you are to your feelings, I believe the more connected you are to your higher self. You don't have to go to Egypt or do plant medicine or write poetry about angels to be connected to your higher self. This was just my journey. And, you know, in the light work, I talk about going to Ireland when I was 19 and I sat in a church for the first time in my life because I'm Jewish and I'd only grown up going to synagogue. And I walked into this church, I felt like a trespasser. I was like, I'm just going to be a tourist and check out this 1500 year old, you know, from the 1500s chapel in the southern town in Ireland. And I, I walk in, thought I would stay for five minutes. And I sit down in one of the pews and I feel my grandmother's spirit wrap her arms around me. I was 100, 150, a thousand percent positive it was her. She had just died a couple months earlier. And that was really the biggest discombobulation of my spiritual beliefs, of what I thought I could believe. And I realized at 19 that my relationship to spirit, my relationship to other dimensions, my relationship to God, was not something that could be dictated by a rabbi or a Bible or Torah or teacher or a guru or even my parents. It was my relationship to cultivate. It was my own, deeply intimate, probably the most intimate, not probably, definitely the most intimate relationship I have in my life. And that really set me on a path to explore and really understand what spirituality meant to me. And I write all about this in the light work. In fact, chapter one is all about how we find our way back to Source. And truly, what is Source? It is you. Because we're all pieces of the divine. We are all God or goddess in human form. So beautiful question, and thank you for asking it. Another question I got was this one really touched my heart. If you suddenly lost your job and had to start over, what do you recommend? And I think that whether you've lost your job or you've lost, I don't know, a client, or you lost, you know, quote unquote, lost at a launch goal, or you lost a relationship, you know, how do you start over? And I'll speak to this question because it had to do with, you know, someone's career. But I, I just think that the first thing I would recommend to, to this person is really start looking at your personal brand, to get your message right on LinkedIn, to start showing up on Instagram more clearly, to really have a resume that reflects how far you've come. Not just like, what you tactically did at that last job, but the value you drove at that last job. I would start networking. I would start reaching out to people. I think we're so afraid of people thinking poorly of us or judging us or rejecting us that we're afraid to ask. Like, I was coaching one of my clients today who's about to launch a podcast, and we were going through her entire launch strategy, and I said to her at one point, I go, you know, one of the tactics is to reach out to your closest friends, your tribe, and the day that your podcast launches, ask all of them to share it on their Instagram. She's like, oh, my God, you think they would do that for me? I don't know if I could ask that. And I was like, all you can do is get a yes or no. Like, either they're gonna of course show up for you because they love you, or they're going to not have time or, you know, say no. And that's the worst of it. But you won't get the yes unless you ask. And I think we're just so inherently wired to be afraid to ask because we're inherently wired to fear rejection, which is a very common human fear, which I can understand. But I would really implore anyone listening. When you're going for something new, you're stretching into a next opportunity. When you have cast a big dream or you're about to launch something, if you just got out of a relationship and you're looking for a new partner, like, rely on the people closest to you to open doors for you, you to support you, to show up for you, to share what you're working on, or to share that you're open for work and to really, at the end of the day, more than anything, to this person that asks this question, you've been given a gift of a brand new timeline. And while it may feel really painful and it was unexpected, you really have to trust that the universe has your back. And I don't want to say that everything happens for a reason, because that is so overplayed. But you've gotta reframe this as an ending and look at it as a new beginning. And with this fresh, clean slate, you get to spend some time anchoring into what lights you up, because I guarantee there are aspects of that job that didn't. And there was maybe some part of you as shocked as you were, that could find the relief in it and the gratitude in it and start to Journey within your soul. Start to journal, start to vision board, start to get into your heart and play and get creative and figure out what lights your soul on fire so that that next opportunity is aligned to who you really are and what you really want to do. Because it's clear that that opportunity wasn't aligned or that job wasn't aligned. Because if it really was in your highest service and highest timeline, you'd still have it. And I say that with love. And you've got to trust that. The last question I will leave you with is how do you get started as an entrepreneur? Well, just Shameless Plug. Sign up for the wait list for FFBs, the feminine frequency Business School, because that is a program that absolutely gives you the full soup to nuts playbook, roadmap strategy blueprint on how to build a business, how to really formulate your ideas into a product, a brand, a service offering, a product suite and business model. But at the end of the day, you know, I really believe that when we are in our highest, highest vibration of joy, and joy is what makes us magnetic. And when we are magnetic, we attract and things start to expand effortlessly and what brings us as human beings into our greatest joy, in my view, it's when we're helping other people, when we are being of service, genuine service, when we help our clients and our communities through their own struggles, when we get to be the person that helps them get from A to B or A to Z. If they're struggling with their health, if they're struggling with their business, if they're struggling with their connection to spirit, if they're struggling with their relationships, if they're struggling with their confidence, if they're struggling with their children, if they're struggling with their money, if they're struggling with their home, if they're struggling with their closet, if they're struggling with their technology, if they're struggling with their podcast setup, if they're struggling with writing a book, if they're struggling with getting back into their creativity, I could go on and on. Fun. So, to the person that asked this question, there's so many nuts and bolts to building a business. But if you're really getting started on becoming an entrepreneur, you've got to come from this place of what lights my soul on fire the most. What gifts do I have that can really serve people? What problem am I solving in the market with my business? And there's problems everywhere. And I say that unfortunately, but it's true. It's. It's why entrepreneurs are incredible and why it's so exciting right now to be at a time where we can start a business based on our gifts. Call it what we want, charge what we want, serve who we want, but it comes from within first. And so I would start there. What lights your soul on fire brings you the most joy when you're helping, serving, transforming other people. And that can be quite simple or it can be complex. It doesn't necessarily matter. It just has to check those boxes. All right, my beautiful friends, sisters, Spiritual Hustlers, I love you all so much. Thank you for these questions. I could go on and on, but I'm gonna do this again. I will do another. Ask me anything now. You know I really listen. I really love you guys. I see you not as my followers or my audience, but as my community. So the more I hear from you, the more we get to have this co creation of service through this podcast. And I couldn't do without you. So thank you so much for being here as always. And I will see you on the next episode of the Spiritual Hustler podcast. Bye guys.