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The Spiritual Hustler
Sisterhood Wounds, Friendship Break-Ups, Mean Girls and Why I Capitalize the “S” in Sisterhood
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Welcome to the Spiritual Hustler podcast. I'm your host, Jessica Zweig, multi seven figure serial entrepreneur, best selling author and.
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Branding and business coach.
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And this is a show where we are redefining the word hustle. Reclaiming our true feminine nature of magnetism and putting down the self judgments and shame around loving to work and making a lot of money at it. On this show, you're going to learn.
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How to stop hustling and start spiritually hustling.
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By pressing play, you are now part.
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Of a new movement of women who.
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Don'T hustle for money. We hustle for meaning. We don't hustle from lack. We hustle for love. We don't hustle from survival. We hustle for humanity's thriving. We hustle toward healing the ancestral programming of fear and step into a new understanding of safety in the body to.
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Receive this shift isn't going to only heal your life. It's going to make you a whole lot richer too. This is the Spiritual Hustler podcast. Well, hello my beautiful spiritual hustlers and.
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Welcome back to the podcast.
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Omg. It's just me this time, you guys. It's been a minute since I've done a solo episode, frankly. I've been traveling the world. Well, not the world, the country, doing my book tour. This has been the year of my book tour. I was on the road for basically seven months between all the things I had to do to launch to birth that book, frankly, out of my cosmic vagina. And it was the most beautiful experience of my life, birthing the light work. And that is now behind me. I feel so grateful for hitting USA Today as a number 18 in the country, doing that two weeks in a row. All of the beautiful people I got to meet on this book tour and really just the feedback that I get on a daily basis from all of you who are reading the book, if you've read the book and it's touched your life, you know the best way a book spreads is through word of mouth. And so tell your friends about it. Go have your friends buy a copy of their own. Buy the light work for Christmas as a gift for your friends. Really there's only so much marketing basically an author can do. The book really does need to live on its own. And this has been the momentum it needed. But now it's really up to you, my lightworker sisters, my spiritual hustlers that are here to co create a new earth rising. And so go spread the light. Spread the light work. And my point is, I've Barely had the time to sit down and come straight to you, my heart to your heart in a solo episode. And I was really thinking about what is on my heart. What am I feeling in the collective? What do I really want to share with my community, just me and them at this now moment in my life and this part of the year, and just where we are as a feminine collective since this show. If you're new to the show, welcome. Hi, I'm your host, Jessica Zweig. If you're not new, welcome back. But on this show, we do talk about the intersection of business, right? The hustler and spirituality, light consciousness, the spiritual hustler. But really here to discuss the intersection of business and branding and consciousness through the embodiment of the feminine, the feminine frequency, the return and the reclamation of the divine feminine identity on this planet that each and every one of us has stored inside of our DNA. And I want to talk today honestly about the cost of us forgetting that. And I think that there is no bigger cost, no deeper pain than that amnesia of our true power as women than in our friendships with other women and our relationships with other women. Because it is a collective amnesia as much as it is a collective longing to come home to. And I really believe that we cannot truly activate the divine feminine, quote, unquote, within ourselves, which is such a journey that many of us are on to really understand our own divine feminine nature. Great, here for it. I am, too. But for that to truly be embodied, we have to experience divine feminine in relationship to other women, to come home to our roots as a society of women. And that has been really damaged and that has been really traumatized and that has been really programmed within us to be afraid of. And if you look back at your relationship with other women, and maybe this starts in childhood, maybe it starts with your mother. I've always found it so perplexing. For a while, I did whenever I met women who couldn't be friends with other women, like, oh, I'm only friends with guys, you know, those women. I've never really related to women like that. And for a time, I judged women like that. I don't anymore. I offer those women compassion because that is rooted in a sisterhood wound. And I want to take us back at least through the lens of my childhood, because I feel like I'm not alone. And I am definitely one of billions of women who've had this experience from a young age where they never really felt like they belonged. I was never cool. I was never popular. I write about this in My new book, the Light Work. I grew up in a very affluent community. My parents were self made, they had moved from the city, they had immigrant blue collar parents themselves. So they were, you know, really coming into this community where I grew up primarily for the great education in the schools that my brother and I would get to go to. And I remember around kindergarten I could identify who the popular girls were going to be. It was crazy. I remember being five years old and feeling like a sense of outsiderness. And so I grew up kind of a bit of a nerd, a bit of a rebel. I was friends with pot smoking sophomores when I was a freshman. And then my parents were like, you can't be friends with them anymore. So I had to lose those friends. And in sophomore year I became friends with some seniors who were like homebody nerds. And then they graduated when I was a junior and I had no friends again. And then it wasn't until senior year of high school that I really got immersed in the acting department and my best friend friend. I finally met my best friend in high school who was a gay guy and I love him, but I really never had a group of girlfriends like a true consistent tribe, a clique if you will. I floated group to group to group all throughout high school. And don't even get me started on middle school. I just sort of skipped that. I was brutally terrorized for my frizzy hair and my acne and my baby fat and I mean, seventh grade was by far and away the worst year of my life. And I know I'm probably not alone in that experience. Middle school was brutal. High school was pretty lonely. And then I got to college and I went into school for theater and I was in a very small, very competitive acting department. And of course all of my friends that I made in college were my classmates in that acting department. Most of them were the girls. And we would have to compete against one another every single semester for the same roles in the school plays. And they usually got cast and I didn't. It wasn't again until I was a senior that I started really getting the roles. And all my friends at that point had mainly graduated. I was always friends with older girls for a lot of my high school and college years. And I never was jealous of them. I remember always feeling so happy for them, but sad for me, of course. And there was nonetheless an edge, a wedge between us in college because of the way our department was structured and it was so fully immersive. I really didn't have the space to go make other friends outside of the department. So I graduate college and here I'm in my early to mid 20s and I've got this deep unconscious void for friends, for real friends, and a consistent group of friends. Ride or dies, sisters, girl gangs, you know, we walk for each other. Like, I didn't really have that until my mid to late 20s. And I've learned that this desire to find bonds and to belong and being victims of mean girls and rejection and having, you know, friendship wounds around breakups with friends, that, by the way, when we break up with friends, it's like, I think way more painful than when we break up with lovers. And there's a reason for that. And I'm going to get to that. I realized that we have this never ending longing for sisterhood. Like this isn't my own exclusive experience. Yes, I just gave you the CliffsNotes version of my upbringing, but it really wasn't until I came into my adulthood that I looked around and I was able to meet new friends, new women. And as we become older, we become more conscious and we have new tools and we can express vulnerability and communicate more maturely and authentically. And I started building my community from that vibration of other women who were looking to come home to themselves in the same capacity through these deep connections with other women. And I talk a lot about this in my book, the Light Work. In fact, I have a chapter called Female Friendships the greatest medicine of them all. I could have called healing your family trauma the greatest medicine of all. I didn't. I could have called finding a great romantic partnership medicine. I could have called finding your purpose and making a ton of money doing what you love like medicine. Sure, it's all a healing experience when we go through those activations in our lives. But I, I don't think that those are the greatest medicines of them all. I think as a woman, finding other women to heal that sister wound with is the balm is the solve S A L V E that our souls on a cellular subcutaneous biological DNA level has been searching and longing for since we came out of the womb. And let me tell you why. So in my research for the Light work, I was struck by white lightning as I, I tell the story often in the temple of Dendera in Egypt, which was really the biggest activation of my ego death, my identity death. The true singular moment that inspired me to come back from Egypt and turn my Life into a 180 and sell my business and move cities and rebrand my life and come out with this New platform, the spiritual hustler, and come out with my new business around the feminine frequency and write the book. I mean, everything kind of came down to this moment. And in that light activation, when I got struck by Hathor and the Pleiadians, which I write about extensively in my book, the Light Work, they told me that the feminine frequency, they use that term, was returning, and that it was my job, Jessica, as a woman on this planet, to be a leader of this moment. But not just my job. It is all women's responsibility because I'm only one person. So that one message, that singular message, sent me on this deep excavation and research around what that meant. The feminine frequency is returning. They didn't say is being born, is arriving. It's here now. It's like, no, it's returning. And so I had no choice but to follow that call. And I unearthed in my research that factual truth that for hundreds of thousands of years before the patriarchy, which was only about within the last 4,000 years, hundreds of thousands of years prior to that, we lived in a matriarchal society where women led and governed and ruled and basically innovated every aspect of life and culture and society and business and agriculture and astronomy and development and sciences and language. As we now know today in the modern world, women were at the dawn of all of that innovation from the beginning of time. And to flash you forward to where and why and how we forgot that and how that was literally written out of history. And therefore, our bodies, right, our bodies hold these codes, but it's been dormant and oppressed and locked away was when men. I'm being very crass here, but basically had enough. They were done being threatened by our power and sexuality and beauty and ability to create life and our innate connection to the quantum, magic, cosmic mother, this great earth that we sit upon, that is a living being that women were in tune with in our cells and how to work with from how to heal with medicine, how to raise families, how to create sacred rites and rituals. I mean, we were connected to nature. That was our superpower. And our bodies were the biggest vehicle because our bodies create life. And so what happened while we were. Because we were so threatening the masculine, the patriarchy as it was birthing, had to demonize that, call it dangerous, call it a threat, call it wicked, call us witches. And between the years 1200 to 1700, which wasn't that long ago, we were burned. Millions and millions and millions of women were more than burned, tortured, killed in the most despicable and horrific, monstrous Ways where it left us on the other side of that, I don't know, 4 or 500 year capsule of history, completely terrified. It's left us terrified of a few things, one each other threatened by one another. Because there is only so much room for women at the top, right? This is reflected in the C suite of a corporation. And it's was reflected back in the 18th and 19th centuries when there was only one queen, one princess, one's wife, right? There was very little room for women to sit in seats of influence. And even when they were in seats of influence, they were still the lesser than they were subservient to the masculine. The entire paradigm flipped during the patriarchy and we're living that out today. Secondly, we became terrified of our own power, right? We were told to take up space and to be beautiful and sensual and sexual and magical and creative and innovative was actually dangerous because it was so that is also a reason why your imposter syndrome, your lack of worthiness, your story that you're not enough is all a programming, like a literal programming that dates back generations of your ancestry, that for a long time that was true. There wasn't worthiness, there wasn't safety to be themselves. And here we are as those great great great great great great granddaughters playing out that lie. And the third thing that it did to us, which makes me so sad, which is, I think the reason why we have the sister wound, is because we judged other women, if they did take up space, what we found to be unsafe in ourselves, we had to reject in other women. That was the programming. So the competition and the comparison and the smallness and the annoyance by someone else's greatness, like true annoyance and discomfort, was put into motion thousands of years ago. And so we show up as little girls in kindergarten at 5 years old and know in our bodies that we're not going to belong. That there is some sort of unspoken code of hierarchy. We walk into an event at 40 years old and we have the same anxiety. And I'm here as a sister, I'm here as a teacher, yes, and I'm a student as well. But most of all I'm a sister. Or to say, hey ladies, let's remember how we all got here and let's undo it. Let's bit by bit, conversation by conversation, relationship by relationship, forgiveness upon forgiveness, experience upon experience. Let's start to dissolve this and come home to our deepest longing. Let's come home to the greatest medicine of them all, which is female friendships. This is not only the core of this podcast. It is the core of my work. Right. Everything I do after selling my agency, simply be into this new Jessica Zweig platform that I stand upon today with my Feminine Frequency Business school that I launched over the summer, I'm teaching a cohort of over 50 women how to build a business in a feminine vibration, really giving them a master's level education on how to be a true CEO and leader. And the greatest nectar and sweetest like component of that entire thing is the community that I'm building, that they're building. The sisterhood, the love, the support in the portal. They're having dinner in each other's cities or meeting up across the country. It's unbelievable, the reality of how this manifests in their lives, that I simply have created a space for. I hosted my first mastermind this year, the Seven Sisters Mastermind, which is inspired by the Pleiadians, the Seven Sisters, the Seven Sons. The only way you can access my masterminds are through my retreats. And those seven women that were in my mastermind are literally one another's best friends and some of my closest friends for life. That was an intention between me and my team to create a mastermind that supported their businesses and, of course, their brands and podcasts and all the things that they're working on, but really to come together in a safe, safe container for expansion and healing. I mean, we have all different races and identities and sexualities in my containers, and we all get to see each other as sisters. Yes. Growing a network and a tribe and a community will expand your business. Like, no doubt, every single one of the women in my containers quantum accelerates because we're all holding each other up to a higher standard in business and rooting for one another and opening up doors for one another and creating connections for one another and buying from one another and showing up for one another on podcasts and events and partnerships. It's insane, the level of value that comes from these communities. But what I'm doing over here, like, behind the curtain, if you will, of pulling the little puppet strings of, like, what I'm really, really doing here is recalling and reclaiming the feminine frequency in everything I do. And I'm so clear, just like Hathor and the Pleiadians told me that I'm only one woman. I don't find myself to be that powerful. I'm only one woman with one business, with one community. You guys are it. And it's growing. But you all have your own communities. You all do your own beautiful things in your own networks and your own businesses and on your own online platforms. And I implore you to be a leader of this reclamation of the feminine too, to hold that word sisterhood holy. It's why I capitalize sister. I use this word all the time in my social media captions and my emails and my email list. When I send out, you know, big blasts, I always capitalize the word sister. I started to this year because I think just like God and Great Mother and Father, Son and the Holy Spirit, like, we capitalize those words right, they're holy. They're of another quantum realm, as is the word sister. That is for you to hold in equal measure in your own heart. Yes. But as much in your reflection of other women. So I want to end this episode by reading a very short passage from the Light work from chapter seven, Female Friendships, the greatest medicine of them all. All right, so thank you for giving me the honor of giving you a little mini audible. So many of you have listened to the book on Audible, so maybe you'll recognize this. But here we go. Imagine a world where all women, despite age, race, weight, socioeconomic status, family origin, aesthetics, kids or no kids, career and dreams, we're on the same team, where we embodied the truth that we are already a sisterhood because we are women. Not only would we heal some of our deepest wounds, we would heal Gaia, our Mother Earth. This is all she wants, for us to remember that we are all her daughters, which makes us all sisters. A sisterhood with a capital S is unshakable. Among the insanity of our society, the roller coaster of romantic relationships, the instability we face in our careers, the challenges of motherhood, and the childhood traumas we've endured, sisterhood can be the truest, steadiest thing in a woman's life. When I close my eyes and picture a sisterhood manifested, I see the image of an infinite tree of life as big as the planet. Our sisters will, without a fraction of the doubt, catch us when we fall. They will give us a hands up as we climb that tree and cheer for us when we've reached our own summits. Because sisterhood realizes that we're all the tree and more so we are each an intrinsic and needed branch, colored with our own unique leaves, extending out to touch our own unique corners of the universe. Whether it's a woman you see on a dance floor, a chick you follow on Instagram, a work colleague, your very best friend, or a stranger you observe at the mall, the light work is here to unlock the information that each leaf on the Tree of Sisterhood is beautiful and needed. And that means yours is, too. Yours is too. We're needed. We're also needed at this time. Don't forget that. Don't ever forget that. In fact, now is our time to wake up and remember. And I encourage you to capitalize the word sister, too. Let's make it a thing, right? Let's make it a moment. Let's make it a movement. Let's make it a reclamation. And if I get blessed enough to actually call you a sister with a capital S in real life and you come to my retreat. And speaking of my retreats, we are completely sold out officially of the Next claim your light, 2025 in Riviera, Maya, Mexico. You guys have been hearing me talk a lot about this on the podcast and probably on social media if you've been following me over there. We actually oversold it. We had so many women that wanted to jump in. We had to cap it. We had to turn people away. It was so hard but incredible to know that there was such a calling for my community to be in this type of container. And so don't worry, I've got another one happening in 2026. You're definitely going to want to get on the wait list for that. The link to the wait list is in the show notes. You can go right now. As you're listening. Sign up for that wait list. Make sure you're on it, because we will be releasing the dates and the location for the next Claim youm light in 2025, even though we're not going to be producing the next one until 2026. My retreats are really just some of the most incredible, sacred things that I get to provide my community. It's from my retreats. I open up my mastermind, where I get to go even deeper with my community. And so just thank you. I'm so grateful to the women that felt the call that chose themselves and are ready to rise in sisterhood. And if you are ready to rise in sisterhood with me on the next one, don't forget to sign up for that wait list. I would love to be with you. And hopefully, if it's not at this retreat, it's at some point on our journey, because if you're part of my community, it means really, you're already a sister. And I'm grateful that I've called you in because it's healing me as much as I hope it's healing you. All right, my loves, my spiritual hustlers, my lightworker goddess queens, have the most amazing week, and I will see you on the next episode of the Spiritual Hustler podcast. Bye, guys.