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The Spiritual Hustler
Unlocking Worthiness: How to Get Off On Other Women’s Success (And Be Totally Confident in Your Own)
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Welcome to the Spiritual Hustler podcast. I'm your host, Jessica Zweig, multi seven figure serial entrepreneur, best selling author and branding and business coach. And this is a show where we are redefining the word hustle. Reclaiming our true feminine nature of magnetism and putting down the self judgments and shame around loving to work and making a lot of money at it. On this show, you're going to learn how to stop hustling and start spiritually hustling. By pressing play, you are now part of a new movement of women who don't hustle for money. We hustle for meaning. We don't hustle from lack. We hustle for love. We don't hustle from survival. We hustle for humanity's thriving. We hustle toward healing the ancestral programming of fear and step into a new understanding of safety in the body.
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To receive this shift isn't going to.
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Only heal your life.
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It's going to make you a whole lot richer too. This is the Spiritual Hustler podcast. Well, hello my beautiful spiritual hustlers and welcome back to the podcast here on another episode of the Unlocking series. And yo, I am so excited to talk about this topic because to me, this is the missing ingredient to all of us becoming rich. Okay, raise your hand right now if you want to be a rich and I'm telling you, let's embrace. It doesn't mean we want the Louis and the Bentleys, although if that's your jam, props. But to truly walk through the world as fully abundant women who know they are safe, right? Because when we feel safety in our bodies, therefore our bank accounts and vice versa, we are fully present to the gift of life. We don't have to stress, hustle, grip, prove, worry and survive. That is really, for whatever it's worth, if you're new to the show, welcome. If you're not new, welcome back. You know, this is the root of this entire, entire podcast. For the longest time in my personal journey, well, once I went actually broke, so I fell bottom out financially and had to ask my parents to help pay my phone bill at 33 because I had racked up so much credit card debt and had net negative bank accounts in both of my checking and my business accounts all the way to swinging to the other side of the pendulum where I was like making millions of dollars. And in both scenarios I felt scarcely. And meanwhile I was in a deep, deep, deep state of comparison. Because you know, when we're unhappy with where we are in our lives, are most of the time unconscious, but Sometimes it's a conscious default is to criticize, tear down, reject, talk shit about other women who are doing well because they represent what we can't be or are not yet. And this is really the unlock to worthiness. Like we think worthiness is holding our own value, which it is. It's a huge part of it. But the true quantum leap into worthiness is when you can recognize someone else's value and not feel any trigger and in fact feel nothing but celebration and maybe even a little pleasure. And getting off on another woman's success because she is showing you not what's impossible for you to have because she has it, but what's actually possible for you to have because she has it. Therefore, it's available in the infinite field for all of us to have. That is some pretty significant deep rewiring, some nervous system resetting, some deep re patterning and programming in our psyches as much as our physiologies. And there really is no one better, in my view, teaching this work than my dear friend Kate Northrup, who is launching a free three day money workshop called Good with Money. Women have manifested like tens of thousands of dollars after taking her free workshop. People have said they got more value out of working with Kate in three days for free than they did on courses they spent 5, $10,000 on. Kate's a magician. She's one of the best teachers in the game and she taught me actually a term that we talked about on my podcast interview with her, which you can go back and listen to. It just dropped a couple days ago, but I really wanted to unpack this concept of financial compersion. Compersion is a term that I just learned from Kate that is actually, in the sexual vernacular of getting off. It basically means you get off by someone else getting off. Like your pleasure only comes from someone else experiencing pleasure, which P.S. if you have a partner that's into conversion. Amen. Props. I. I'm with you. All right. Anyway, compersion in the financial terms, this was mind blowing to me. Kate expressed she's created this, this is her thought leadership. But it's really checking in with yourself. Like when you see the girl on Instagram celebrating her million dollar launch or your best friend just got a promotion, 30% more of her salary and you've been stuck in the same job for three years with no raising your salary. When the people across the street tell you they're moving into their dream house and you couldn't dream of your own dream house, what is coming up for you in those moments, I really want you to check in and can you really start to unblock, unlock the pleasure in seeing another woman rise? And there's this real vulnerable truth I'm going to give you guys. Because as much as I've done the work on healing my own comparisonitis and feeling small when someone is big and at times believing that there's not enough light in the world for all of us to step into and be seen, I've definitely transmuted this and alchemized it and transformed my own experience with that so that it's very, very, very quiet. It's in fact almost non existent. But when it pops up, I am so, so clear one that it's an old pattern and I have a choice point. I have agency if I want to rewire that and have a different thought. But I've also been able to see directly the impact it has in my business when I continually dissolve and truly liquefy, if you will, from like hard matter into spaciousness. That there is absolutely no hierarchy and that we're all just women with big dreams and big missions. And we have different ways of expressing that. We have different little pockets of portals of humans that we reach across the world. You know that there's 8 billion people on this planet? Okay, 8 billion. And if you see a woman, let's just say on Instagram, that reaches 1 million, 2 million, 8 million, like that is a tiny, tiny, tiny drop in the ocean of humanity. And so if you only say reach 600, 6,000, 60,000, I'm speaking Instagram here metaphorically, of just reach, visibility and our opportunity to get in front of people, to spread our message and grow our businesses. It's all relative. We're all tiny drops. And the more that I've been able to move into that awareness, the more doors open for me. I'm going to be honest, there was a long period of my life when I was broke then to abundance, but never really in full abundance. I was in Scarcity. A good 10 years of my life. I looked at so many other women as other. Like there's a wall between her and me. She's got things going on that I don't therefore were separate. And I won't name them because I could, there's probably about 20 I could name off the top of my head, on my fingers and my toes of women that I felt separated from based on my own projection. Right? It's all our own neuroplasticity programming. And what we are projecting out into the world is simply A story. But I could name 20 women or so that I felt that separation from that made me, by my own doing and my own thinking, made me feel small. And today, those 20 women are my friends. They're my sisters. We're on text threads. We are like ride or dies. And not to say that they're the reason my business has expanded and that I have stepped into more of my own embodied truth. Not at all. But it has really been an interesting parallel on my journey into more of my own worthiness, how more and more and more of my success correlated, how much more and more and more my heart opened and how I was able to really feel and experience and embody pleasure and joy, true joy and sheer celebration in watching other women crush it. This is really the gorgeous invitation of the new earth when it comes to sisterhood. And I really cannot stress enough the importance, honestly, and the power of jumping into Kate Northrup's workshop. It's three days. It's the first class starts today. So if you're listening to this on the day of, you can jump into it. I'm going to leave a link in the show notes. But this is really her mastery in helping women recall their birthright as, yeah, Rich. Who have never been designed to be against each other, but to truly link arms and ride together and just how much that unlock activates your own personal worthiness. And so I hope that this episode inspired you to take a small beat next time you see a woman shining and check in if it's turning you off or if it's turning you on. And the invitation and the opportunity is not only to get yourself a little hot, but really to see what happens on the other side of that pleasure point. Because that more than you have probably ever given yourself, the opportunity is going to change not only your whole business, but your whole freaking life. So I'm going to leave a link to Kate's Good With Money workshop. Go get good with money. Get good with money. And get good with other women. Get good with yourself, with your soul, with your nervous system, with your worthiness. It's your time, sister. Go unlock it all. All right, I will see you on the next episode of the spiritual Hustler podcast. Bye, guys. It.