Brooklyn and Bailey: Growing Together Through Different Seasons Part 1

Summary

The Squeeze Episode: Brooklyn and Bailey: Growing Together Through Different Seasons Part 1 Host: Taylor Lautner Release Date: July 1, 2026

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Overview

In this heartfelt and candid episode, Taylor Lautner welcomes twin sisters and long-time content creators, Brooklyn and Bailey, to unpack the unique ways their lives have diverged in recent years. Brooklyn shares the joy and challenges of new motherhood, while Bailey faces the difficulties of an ongoing fertility journey. They dive deep into the impact social media has on their mental well-being, sibling dynamics, evolving boundaries, and the lessons they’ve learned about showing up authentically through every season of life. The sisters’ openness around topics like postpartum struggles, setting boundaries, handling mom-shaming, and the power of asking for help makes this conversation both relatable and full of practical wisdom for anyone navigating young adulthood, parenthood, or online life.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Getting to Know Brooklyn & Bailey

[09:06–12:01]

• Origins on Social Media:
  • The twins’ journey began over 13 years ago, inspired by their mom’s early blogging and YouTube success.
    • "We’ve been posting every Wednesday at 4pm Central Time since 2013." —Brooklyn [10:59]
  • They were first models for their mom’s hairstyle tutorials, later branching into their own channel at age 13.
• Consistency & Motivation:
  • They credit their enjoyment and filming real life, rather than scripting, for fighting burnout and keeping content fresh.
    • "We never took it so, so seriously… it’s just like a hangout." —Brooklyn [12:05]

2. Secrets to Long-Term Content Creation

[12:01–15:01]

• Working as Twins/Sisters:
  • Being business partners as twins is mostly smooth due to deep mutual understanding.
    • "We fight a lot, but we also don’t a lot. Like, we get along so well… it’s Kumbaya most of the time." —Brooklyn [12:47]
• Privacy & Sharing:
  • As they’ve gotten older, privacy boundaries have shifted—especially as Brooklyn became a mom.
    • "The dynamic has changed just a little bit because I’m trying to protect other people’s privacy… but I would say that like, us two, we share almost everything." —Brooklyn [13:29]
  • Their educational and “big sisters” approach to sharing is intentional, wanting their experiences to help others.

3. Navigating Social Media—Hate, Boundaries & Burnout

[15:13–16:55] | [23:16–26:00]

• Dealing with Hate:
  • Hate and negativity increased significantly post-2020.
    • "We didn’t really have a preparation for the onslaught of hate that came after Covid." —Brooklyn [15:45]
  • They handle it differently—Brooklyn is more resilient, while Bailey struggles as a people-pleaser.
    • "If your family and your friends and your life is, like, on a positive trajectory… it probably isn’t that serious." —Brooklyn [16:18]
• Boundaries & Unplugging:
  • Brooklyn sets strict offline boundaries (“do not disturb” mode), while Bailey finds it harder to disconnect due to genuine passion for their work.
    • "She finds it really easy. I find it really hard to, like, put that separation." —Bailey [23:39]
  • Since Brooklyn became a mom, they've scheduled “off” days—taking turns on Instagram Stories to allow real downtime.
    • "It got really easy after we put in a schedule." —Brooklyn [25:16]

4. Motherhood: Expectations, Postpartum Realities & Asking for Help

[27:29–34:16]

• Brooklyn’s Fertility & Birth Story:
  • A rare Skene's gland cyst led to surgery before her pregnancy plans. The experience shifted her priorities and initiated their journey to parenthood.
    • "It just made me put my whole reproductive ideas… into perspective." —Brooklyn [28:20]
  • Brooklyn believes her pregnancy coincided miraculously with a visit to Everest Base Camp, highlighting the unpredictability of fertility.
  • She opted for an out-of-hospital birth for mental comfort and control.
• Postpartum Experience:
  • Mostly positive, but included a distinct crash 11 days postpartum, triggering anxiety and brief depressive symptoms.
    • “11 days postpartum, I just started having an anxiety attack… my mom had to come, like, rescue me. Like, it was, like, horrible.” —Brooklyn [31:19]
  • Bailey and family support were crucial during this period.
    • “I think it's good to have someone that knows you so well, that's not your partner that can step in." —Bailey [33:45]
• Practical Tips for New Moms:
  • Make a chore/needs list for visiting family and friends during postpartum to ensure helpful support—especially regarding household tasks and food.
    • "Anyone who's postpartum, make a list. There are friends who would come in and just check those things off the list." —Brooklyn [35:00]

5. Evolving Identity & Setting Boundaries as a Mom

[35:17–40:14]

• Perspective Shift:
  • Motherhood changed Brooklyn’s self-image and priorities, enhancing her self-compassion and instilling new awareness around modeling self-talk for her son.
    • "Everything about my life has changed. My perspective on life, my perspective on the relationships that I have with other people, with myself." —Brooklyn [35:27]
  • Both sisters discuss newfound nurturing/feminine sides emerging after birth.
• On Boundaries:
  • Brooklyn's biggest parenting boundary: her word and decisions are final when it comes to her child—others must respect that.
    • "If someone is not respecting my rules, I'll straight up tell them... you don't get to have my son unsupervised." —Brooklyn [39:37]

6. Handling Mom Shaming & Social Media Opinions

[47:03–50:49]

• Mom Shaming:
  • Scathing feedback on even minor decisions (e.g., how to wash bottles, food choices) led Brooklyn to stop showing her son’s face online.
    • "If someone were to say something nasty about my son, like, I would come unglued. So, like, I'm also just not going to put my... that out there." —Brooklyn [49:02]
• Coping Strategy:
  • Focus on personal confidence in parenting decisions to better resist external judgments.
    • "When you feel so confident in what you’re doing... there’s a lot less room for it to, like, hurt or sink as deep." —Brooklyn [50:22]

7. Working Mom Guilt & the Importance of Quality Time

[52:00–57:09]

• Admitting the Need for Help:
  • Brooklyn shares her internal struggle over hiring a nanny—balancing mom guilt, societal expectations, and the realities of working motherhood.
    • "That is what ate at me the most and where I had the hardest time admitting that I, like, needed help." —Brooklyn [53:37]
  • Positive examples and stories of children who thrived in daycare helped her let go of guilt.
    • "Hearing stories like yours... helped me understand that." —Brooklyn [55:02]
• Learning from Family:
  • Their mother’s advice: Quality is more important than quantity of time.
    • "It's quality over quantity, Brooklyn. Don't…" —Brooklyn “quoting her mom” [56:41]
  • Having passion and work outside the home can make parents more present when they are with their children.

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• "We literally share face. We fight a lot, but we also don't a lot... we get along so well." —Brooklyn [12:47]
• "I totally went into it with the expectation that I would get pregnant right away. I would not wish infertility on anybody, because going through it has quite literally been one of the hardest things I've ever gone through." —Bailey Teaser for Part 2 [57:20]
• "That is what ate at me the most and where I had the hardest time admitting that I, like, needed help." —Brooklyn [53:37]
• "What you say goes. I would say that is a boundary for me." —Brooklyn [39:24]
• "We've gotten so much feedback, too... that we're people's big sisters, basically." —Brooklyn [14:06]
• "If someone were to say something nasty about my son, I would come unglued... so I'm not going to [expose] that." —Brooklyn [49:02]
• "It's quality over quantity... it matters more that you are present when you're present." —Brooklyn quoting her mom [56:41]

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Timestamps for Major Segments

• 09:06 — Brooklyn & Bailey’s social media origin story
• 13:29 — How sharing decisions and privacy have shifted
• 15:13 / 23:16 — Navigating hate, setting boundaries, unplugging
• 27:29 — Transition to fertility and Brooklyn's birth story
• 31:19 — Brooklyn’s postpartum mental health low point
• 35:17 — Perspective changes after becoming a mom
• 39:24 — Boundaries for new moms: “What you say goes”
• 47:13 — Mom shaming and scaling back sharing about kids online
• 53:37 / 56:41 — Working mom guilt and importance of quality time

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Conclusion

This episode of The Squeeze offers a warm, honest look into the joy and struggle of evolving identities—both online and off—as Brooklyn and Bailey negotiate vastly different seasons of life. With humor, vulnerability, and lots of practical insights, their story is a testament to the complexity and beauty of growing up together—and sometimes apart—under the world’s gaze. Stay tuned for Part 2, where Bailey’s fertility journey and its emotional toll take center stage.

Transcript

[Brooklyn]

The following podcast is a Dear Media production.

[Bailey]

Brooklyn Bailey, welcome to the podcast.

[Brooklyn]

Thanks. I think it's quite an interesting predicament. Two identical twin sisters, one who got pregnant within two weeks and one who's on month. I don't even know what anymore of negative tests. I remember 11 days postpartum I just started having an anxiety attack. I remember going over there and she was not acting like herself at all. Everything about my life has changed. That is what aided me the most and where I had the hardest time admitting that I like needed help. I totally went into it with the expectation that I would get pregnant right away. I would not wish infertility on anybody because going through it has quite literally been one of the hardest things I've ever gone through. I've never felt more alone in my life and now I'm going to cry. I've never felt more alone before and it was really scary, sorry, isolating feeling because I have a twin sister and I've never been alone before. I couldn't share it with her. It was something that she couldn't really understand.

[Podcast Host]

Happy Wednesday and welcome back back to the Squeeze. I am so excited you're here. We have a really special two part episode which I'm really excited about. I had no intention on making this episode two separate parts, but honestly everything was so good and there wasn't anything that I felt like I could cut out of the episode. I felt like you guys needed to hear everything that our guests had to say, so I figured that I would split it up into two parts. But for this part one, I have Brooklyn and Bailey on the Squeeze. Brooklyn and Bailey are identical twin influencers and entrepreneurs. In this episode they share their background on how they got started on social media, including how their mom was a successful blogger influencer who inspired it all. They talk about what it's been like posting every single week since they were 13 years old. Yes, you heard that correctly when they told me that my jaw hit the floor. They share how they stay motivated to show up consistently and how they decide what to share and what to keep private. They also get candid about handling the hate on social media, how they create boundaries with it all, and how Bailey struggles more with unplugging, while Brooklyn has found it easier to step away. In this part one, Brooklyn opens up about her pregnancy journey, including a rare cyst she had removed before going on to have a smooth pregnancy and welcoming her son. She shares what her postpartum experience looked like, tips on how to set yourself up for a good postpartum the boundary she'd recommend setting during that season. She also gets into dealing with mom shamers on social media and what it's been like as a working mom, including why having something for yourself actually makes you a better, more present parent. I can't wait for you guys to hear part one of this episode. Make sure you subscribe to our channel or you're following us. However, you are listening to this podcast today so that you don't miss out on part two.

[Bailey]

Brooklyn Bailey, welcome to the podcast.

[Brooklyn]

Thanks.

[Bailey]

This is so fun. And I'm curious if you're. Our audio listeners are going to be able to tell you. Oh, my God.

[Brooklyn]

To differentiate the voice. It's definitely. I think my voice is lower. Well, her voice lowered when she got pregnant, and then it never really changed after that. It just stayed low. Yeah. So mine's like a serious. It's like a thing, maybe. Yeah. I don't know. I looked it up and it said it was a thing, so. Only lower, though, because one of our friends got pregnant and her voice, I swear, is higher. I swear. No, I think they say it's only lower. Okay, well, maybe they'll know. Audio listeners. You guys tell us.

[Bailey]

You guys let us know. Wait, that's so funny. Okay, I need to, like, pay attention. It is weird, though, because I actually feel like I've been more. I don't know if raspy is the right word, but I feel like my voice has been sounding different.

[Brooklyn]

Yeah, you have to ask people that. Like, no, don't talk to you every day. Because they will. They will know automatically because that's how I felt. Like I couldn't tell for her, but people who don't see her every day were like, whoa, you sound so different. Well, because I had heard a lot of people say that, like, congestion is like a constant problem when you're pregnant. And that did. That did happen for me, and I thought that might have been.

[Bailey]

Yeah.

[Brooklyn]

Why I sounded different, but then it. It just never went away. I know there's lots of fun things.

[Bailey]

Okay, well, I'll report back after my pregnancy congestion goes away because. Yeah, I have that.

[Brooklyn]

Yeah, yeah, it's like permanent.

[Bailey]

It's just there all the time. It's a really fun. It's a really fun thing. Well, I'm excited to have you guys on and chat about all life things, but we start each episode off with this jar.

[Podcast Host]

It's a little game called Citrus Got Real. Bailey, if you want to pull a

[Bailey]

little piece of paper out of there

[Podcast Host]

and read it to our Lemon Drops, those are our listeners.

[Brooklyn]

All right, Lemon drop, ladies, What's a random purchase that changed your life? Oh, I can tell you.

[Podcast Host]

Oh, okay.

[Brooklyn]

Well, do you want to answer no so fast? I can tell you because it changed my life. I was totally against buying a Kindle. I was purely a physical book girl. I was like, I'm never giving up the physical books. And then I bought a Kindle. Totally. Life. My life is changed.

[Bailey]

I love that. I just really. I bought myself a Kindle on Black Friday last year because I was like,

[Podcast Host]

I really want to read.

[Bailey]

Like, I really want to get into it. And literally all of my friends are book girlies, and they're like, you need to start reading. You need to start reading. And I finally read my first book. I literally finished it in a day and a half.

[Podcast Host]

Yes.

[Brooklyn]

What book did you read?

[Bailey]

The deal. Because I watched Off Campus and I

[Brooklyn]

was like, I need to get one and you're prepping, literally.

[Bailey]

And so my girlfriend was like, no, you need to read the book. So I. Over the weekend, I literally just read the entire book. My Kindle's actually in timeout right now because I spent. I read a book in the whole.

[Brooklyn]

I was like, it's crazy. I'm not kidding. Like, my reading speed increased. That's so true. That's why I like the purchase so much. I'm like, I can read 20 more books a year.

[Podcast Host]

Yeah.

[Bailey]

No, I. Yeah, it's. I'm really excited to, like, become a book person. Especially just, like, over summer and, like, have something to do that's not my phone. And I've been doing it at night too.

[Brooklyn]

Yeah.

[Bailey]

I actually feel like a huge difference. Like, even though I can only read like a few pages before I, like, fall asleep, but it makes. I feel like it makes such a difference.

[Brooklyn]

And that's the best part with the Kindles. It's light. Well, that's what I was gonna say. My husband loves it because, like, in the car, I used to have to, like, turn the light on when he was driving. Or like, at night, I'd have my lamp on.

[Bailey]

Yeah.

[Brooklyn]

And now I've kicked my Kindle. He's like, I love it.

[Bailey]

It's a win for everyone.

[Brooklyn]

Yeah.

[Bailey]

Do you have a purchase that you.

[Brooklyn]

I probably would have set a humid. My sleep has completely changed.

[Bailey]

I actually need to buy one.

[Podcast Host]

I've been getting bloody noses. Okay.

[Brooklyn]

Yeah. Pregnancy. It's dry. Try. Yeah. Cuz I was, you know, I was like, oh, a humidifier. Like, yeah. Like, the only person I knew how to humidifier Was like my mother in law. Like no one has a humidifier. And then I bought one and now I have one in every single room in my house. And anytime I'm sleeping, like even when I'm traveling, I'm like, oh, I don't have my humidifier. I need the stats on this. Like what is, what is. Like it makes me be able to breathe through my nose. Like way better.

[Bailey]

Do you have close to you?

[Brooklyn]

I have it on my nightstand. Okay. Like shooting in the air.

[Bailey]

Okay. So it's like in like close proximity to you. Cuz I've always wondered like you would

[Brooklyn]

need it relatively close. I feel like.

[Bailey]

Right. Yeah, I feel like.

[Brooklyn]

I don't know. That's just how I've always done it.

[Bailey]

Okay, great. No, that's actually on my to do list. I have one like in my safe for later in my Amazon that I

[Brooklyn]

need to check out. This is your sign.

[Bailey]

Absolutely getting it.

[Brooklyn]

I love.

[Bailey]

I think my most random one would honestly be these little like they're anti

[Podcast Host]

nausea little like smelly oh stick things. I got them originally last year because

[Bailey]

we were like vacationing on a lake on the boat all day and I was getting like really seasick and nauseous for some reason. Which I. It was mainly it wasn't while I was on the boat, but after it's

[Brooklyn]

like, do you know can you see legs?

[Bailey]

Yes. I was getting it so bad and I was like, I'd never had had that before. So I had this little thing and it also would use it when I would fly because I get anxious sometimes. So I would just like breathe it in if I like felt claustrophobic or any.

[Brooklyn]

My gosh, I need that. I have flight anxiety.

[Bailey]

It's. It's literally the best thing because you just like sniff this little thing and

[Brooklyn]

it like send it. Seriously, send it to me.

[Bailey]

It's.

[Podcast Host]

It's literally like it's a four bucks

[Bailey]

for this little stick. And I still have them. I ended up buying like 8 more when I got pregnant because just it gets rid of the nausea and I have them in every purse. It's literally. I had one. They're still in the rooms because I haven't moved them in every room in the house. I have one because when I was would feel nauseous, I would be like, I need it. There's literally one like on my coffee table in the living room. It's the two remotes and then the

[Brooklyn]

little nodges, my necessities. Really? That's hilarious. I need the link like asap.

[Bailey]

We'll Link all of these.

[Brooklyn]

Yeah. Yeah, There we go. So you all can have our essentials too.

[Bailey]

That's a great idea. I love that.

[Brooklyn]

Sweet.

[Bailey]

Okay, I want to start kind of just like a little bit more background about you guys for our love and drops that might not know kind of your history and that you guys have really just, like, been on the Internet for, like, actually forever. Can you give me our listeners kind of your backstory? Whoever wants to go.

[Brooklyn]

We'll do like, the quick, like, well, quickish summary because it can get really long because we've been doing this for seriously so long. But long, long time ago, YouTube didn't exist. My mom was doing hairstyles on all of us girls. We have a lot of sisters. And started posting on a blog, and that blog turned into hyperlinking YouTube videos. It was just like a place to put videos. And then you would like. It was like. It was like a storage website. Like, that's kind of what my. My mom was treating it as. Like, oh, I'm gonna film these videos and I'm just gonna put it on YouTube.

[Bailey]

Yes.

[Brooklyn]

It's just like a place to house them. Not like. Like, seriously family videos, like cat videos. Nothing else was on there. And then they started getting views. And then people started posting more regularly on YouTube as, like, a platform. And so my mom started posting more and more on there, and it sort of became like a career for her, which was so unexpected. Like, wow. Just never expected it. And we were the models for the hairstyles. So that's how we kind of got started on YouTube. And then after several years of being on her channel, there was enough of an audience that was curious about what we were like. There was a lot of people that didn't even know we were twins because it was only one kid. It was like the back of our head. So, like, so they thought it was one kid and we didn't. They shouldn't reveal our names or anything. Like, nobody really knew who. Who we were. So when we hit 13 and we were like, you know, the legally could have an account on YouTube. Like, 13 was like the age that you had to have an account. We started our own. Yeah. And the rest is kind of the rest of the story. We've been posting every Wednesday at 4pm Central Time since 2013. And then prior to that, my mom started in 2009. So I think it's been like, what. What is that? We were 9 and now we're 26. Whatever. The. Whatever. 13 years. Yeah.

[Bailey]

Wait, that's insane.

[Brooklyn]

Yeah, it's a long. It's a long journey. But it's like the best thing. We always talk about how, like, I think we were maybe one of the first families to have multi generational, like, YouTube channels or like influencers. Like, my mom was an influencer and then we were an influencer. So I think we were maybe one of the first on YouTube. Yeah, that did that. Kind of an interesting, like, concept.

[Bailey]

Wait, that's actually so crazy because I've honest, like, I mean, I've obviously like known you guys on social media for so long and I know that you have been doing YouTube for so long,

[Podcast Host]

but I had no clue it was that long.

[Brooklyn]

Yeah, yeah. And consistent, like literally every Wednesday. Like I, you know, some people are like, oh, I've been on. But it's like a YouTube video here that normally we are. I will give it to us. We are consistent. Like two Wednesdays, maybe one in the. I don't even know how many years we've been doing YouTube. Yeah, we've done a really good job. It's crazy, but we also love it. Yeah. I think that I was going to say, like, how.

[Bailey]

How have. How are you still having like, fun doing, like, how are you enjoying it still?

[Brooklyn]

We never took it like, so, so seriously. Like, our production is like very casual. Like very similar to like this where it's just like, you know, hang out. It's just like more like a hangout. I think it also helps that we film our life. So it's not like we're creating a scripted thing or anything like that. That where you could feel like you're getting burnout. For us, it's just we live our life and we just film it. Film. So it's really constant creation because obviously we're still living our lives. Yeah. Like, we are just showing whatever's happening all the time. Yeah. So that's probably why we're. And then also we do it together,

[Bailey]

which I just feel like aspect of like you guys getting to. Yeah, yeah.

[Brooklyn]

It's like.

[Bailey]

You ever, like, argue?

[Brooklyn]

Of course we do. I would say that we're pretty good business partners though. Like, for the most part. But we're also sisters. We have like drinks. We each have our strengths and then we each have our weaknesses. Yeah. But we're definitely sisters. Everyone always says this because we don't usually. We actually. I can't say that we've ever really, like, argued ever, like on content because, like, what would be the point of that? But everyone's always like, do you guys fight? Of course. Yeah. Of course we do. We're sisters. We're twins. We literally share face. We fight a lot, but we also don't a lot. Like, we get along so well. We know each other so well. Yeah. That it's like Kumbaya most of the time.

[Bailey]

So that. How do you decide what you want to share and what you want to keep private?

[Brooklyn]

Well, that's a great question. We really share most. Share most everything. We just started sharing everything, like, from a young age. But as we've gotten older and we've both been married and now I have my son, the dynamic has changed just a little bit because I'm trying to protect other people's privacy. Like, they're not as comfortable sharing everything as I am. I don't share my son on social media. Like, there's just a level of, like, protection. So it has changed the older we've gotten. But I would say that, like, us, too, we share almost everything. Yeah. I think it's more about, like, what we choose. Like, we chose this, and we also chose to, like, be open about our lives and the information about our lives. To me, we now have people who watch us to learn things, like, what does a marriage look like? What does this look like? What's how to use a tampon? Like, your contacts and, you know, all this stuff. So we're so educational from this. From my point of view, I'm like, why would I hide something because it might help somebody else or, like, help them learn how to do something. We've gotten so much feedback, too, of all of our videos like, that, like, we're people's big sisters, basically, like, helping them through things. So to me, I'm not afraid to share anything. But there are some times where we're, like, a little bit slower to put it out there so we can figure it out ourselves before, like.

[Bailey]

Yeah.

[Podcast Host]

No.

[Bailey]

Whole world knows. Yeah. You want to make sure it's, like, it's productive, like, what you're sharing, Because I get people that ask me that a lot with just, like, having a mental health podcast or, like, how do you know, like, when you want to talk about things? And I think it's just, like, when I know that it's, like, productive. And I know, like, the reasons why I'm deciding to share.

[Brooklyn]

Completely agree. Because you have to know how to answer questions, and if you don't know how to answer those questions, then, like, there's no point in saying it. It's not, like, you said, productive to anybody, including yourself.

[Bailey]

Yeah. Have you guys dealt with and how do you deal with the noise of social media? Because I feel like I'm sure you've experienced, as you've gone through this for so long, the influx of hate and negative comments and things and stuff has definitely just really kicked up, I feel like, over the past couple years. How is that for you?

[Brooklyn]

It's really interesting because we really didn't get hate. Like, it didn't really exist. I mean, obviously it's always existed, but, like, we didn't see it as much.

[Bailey]

Yeah.

[Brooklyn]

And then I feel that the trajectory changed after Covid. Kind of everything changed after Covid, and that's when it really hit us. But we'd been doing it for a long time before that, so we didn't really have a preparation for the onslaught of hate that came after Covid. So we had to learn way later. We handle it differently, too. Like, between the two of us, like, Bailey has a little. She takes a little bit more to heart. So, like, some of the ways that she deals with that is a little bit different than the way, like, I would deal with. Yeah. Like, comments and things. Yeah. I definitely struggled between the two of us, the most. Brooklyn's always had this, like, really good attitude of just. It doesn't affect me. I just believe if I'm myself and that's it. You can put your phone down and it all goes away. Like, theoretically. Like, how real is that? Hey, you know, like, if your family and your friends and your life is, like, on a positive trajectory and it's just like the Internet that's ripping you to shreds first, then it probably isn't, like, that serious. You know what I mean? Like, it would if. If it was that serious, the people around you would also be disagreeing with your choices. You know what I mean? Like, so I don't know. I just. Personally, I'm just like, well, they're probably going through something. Like, I'm just gonna. But put my phone down. I'm a people pleaser.

[Bailey]

Yeah.

[Brooklyn]

I like everyone to like me. Like, that's what I desire. And so if I think someone doesn like me or doesn't like something that I've done or misunderstand something, I say, it just eats, eats, eats at me.

[Bailey]

Yeah.

[Brooklyn]

So I really had to put some boundaries in there of understanding and, like, some mental health protections, because it did. It does get dark. And it can get dark for literally anybody who gets hate. It's a little bit scary.

[Bailey]

Yeah.

[Podcast Host]

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[Bailey]

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[Bailey]

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[Podcast Host]

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[Bailey]

I actually don't even know how many pairs I have.

[Podcast Host]

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[Bailey]

How do you guys set a schedule? Like, is there a schedule that you use? Because I feel like a lot of influencers and people that share their life on social media. There's no like phone down time and they get lost in just filming and recording and doing everything. How have you guys balanced that? Has it always been easy? Was it ever hard?

[Brooklyn]

It's, it's not always been easy. I don't think. I feel like it's been easy. Oh yeah. But I know why you think that I just put my phone down. Yes. Like, I like, put my deer do not disturb on. She's so good. Like, again with the boundaries. She can just like put a boundary in and follow through with it. And me, I, I love this job. I love it. It is my passion. And I think that's where I have a problem is because I love it. I constantly want to be doing it. You're like, even when she's off, she's thinking about it, I'm thinking about it, I'm planning for it. But it's because I love it that I want to do it all the time. And so she finds it really easy. And I find it really hard to like put that separation. But it hasn't always been easy. We have gotten a lot better now that she has her son with schedules. Before this, it was just kind of film everything all the time. Yeah. And there wasn't so much of a balance. And now we've gotten really good about this is the best part about having a partner in your business is like, she will take a day on and then I'll take a day. And so we actually get about half the week where we can kind of unplug from posting what we're doing, which is again, really lucky. Well, part of the problem is we post daily on Instagram stories, so we're based in Snapchat. So we're basically posting like daily vlogs like on Instagram stories and Snapchat. So that's really what takes the biggest toll, I think, because it's like, it's like every day, all day, all the time. So that's where we do really good about switching off. Yeah. And it's helped a lot because she can spend time with her son, obviously. And then I get to take a little bit of a break too, which was definitely needed. And it's just like the perfect combo right now. So it got really easy after we put in a schedule.

[Bailey]

Yeah.

[Brooklyn]

But yeah, it can get. I just plug in my do not disturb it. Don't like founders.

[Bailey]

They really do something.

[Brooklyn]

I know.

[Bailey]

They really do something. I'm the same as you, though, like with this podcast and I have a non profit. Like, I feel like I'm really. It gets hard for me too because it's something that I love and like it's. I'm so passionate about it and I wanted to grow and I want to do all of these fun things and it's really hard for my brain to be like, no. Like, I'm really curious when I go on mat leave, like, how I don't think I'm gonna have time to think about anything else besides caring for a newborn. But even like before I give birth, like, I'm going to take some time off, but I'm already like, I need to like, be very firm with myself, like out of town. I need to tell everyone.

[Brooklyn]

Oh, yeah. Well, we grew up in a productive house. Like, if you're not being productive, you're not doing something. Basically. Like, it's like you have to be productive all the time.

[Bailey]

Yeah.

[Brooklyn]

And so I wondered the same thing. I'm like, what. What would, like, a maternity leave look like? Would I be itching to be working, or am I, like, gonna want to be with my baby? Brooklyn loved being with our baby. Loved it.

[Bailey]

Like, it.

[Brooklyn]

You just, like, your brain shuts off in a way like it never has before, and you're just in this, like, beautiful bubble of newborn happiness and joy. Like, I know people called the newborn trenches, but that was not my experience. It was, like, very, like. It was the most joyful and seven weeks of my life. And I wish, like, I had even extended it longer so that I could have had, like, just because that they're only that little for something. I want to know. I just know it's gonna be bliss.

[Bailey]

It is.

[Brooklyn]

You're gonna be thinking about anything other than no baby. Yeah, it's. You still think about work? Like, I still would tune in every once in a while, but it wasn't like, I just didn't feel the drive to, like, go back until. I think I was. Until later? Yeah, until later. Yeah.

[Bailey]

Okay.

[Podcast Host]

How. How long did you take off?

[Brooklyn]

I took. I think I came back at eight weeks.

[Podcast Host]

Okay.

[Brooklyn]

So I think, like, typical maternity leaves, usually, like, 12.

[Bailey]

Okay.

[Brooklyn]

But I took, like, eight and then came back. Yeah, it was, like, a loose.

[Bailey]

Figure that out.

[Brooklyn]

Loose. Eight weeks, and then it was, like, kind of in and out a little bit for a couple more weeks.

[Bailey]

But, yeah, then I feel like that we should just kind of dive into fertility and motherhood.

[Brooklyn]

Yes.

[Podcast Host]

And all that stuff.

[Bailey]

You guys have really, I feel, like, opened up on socials just about both

[Podcast Host]

of your experiences with fertility and infertility. I think.

[Bailey]

I honestly think I would love for you guys to give a little bit of your backgrounds, both of what you've been going through.

[Podcast Host]

Brooklyn, if you want to start, and.

[Brooklyn]

Yeah, well, mine is obviously. I have a son, and my husband and I, before we had decided I want. We wanted to get pregnant, I had found a lump, and so that was, like, a really big concern. And I went into the doctor and, you know, took seven doctors to finally diagnose it as a Skene's gland cyst, which is really uncommon. And I had to go to, like, this big specialist and go get a surgery, and it took.

[Podcast Host]

Oh, wow.

[Brooklyn]

A big, like. It just made me put my whole reproductive ideas is, like, into perspective a little bit, because I wasn't, like, really thinking about kids, like, really soon, but just the idea that something, like, could have been wrong and, like, I potentially couldn't have had kids, and, like, just not knowing that all the unknowns around that just, like, put a jolt into my system. And so my husband and I were like, okay, we're gonna. We're gonna have a baby. Like, we're gonna try. So we went on, like, we went and hiked up to the base camp of Everest, and then, like, on our way back. Yeah, Fun fact, by the way. It's, like, kind of important because I'm kind of convinced that's, like, part of why I got pregnant.

[Bailey]

So.

[Brooklyn]

I mean, they say it's, like, can't be healing, and there's, like, a place you can pray for fertility at the top, like, a part of the mountain. And so, like, my cousin and I were, like, jokingly, like, whatever, like, did the ritual, and then we both got pregnant, like, within two weeks of getting home from Everest. So. Not to say that, I don't know, someone needs to study that, because maybe there's something going on there. But, yeah, we, we. I mean, I, I, that was my experience. I know Bailey doesn't love it when I say this, but, like, I barely had to think before I was pregnant, and I had a great pregnancy. And then when I, when I was pregnant, I decided to give birth out of a hospital.

[Podcast Host]

Okay.

[Brooklyn]

So I did a birth at a birthing center with a midwife and a doula, and no epidural. Like, nothing on me, nothing touching me. Like, it was amazingly painful and amazingly, like, joyful at the same time. Like, it was.

[Bailey]

Had you always wanted to do that or was that just something that, like, came to mind?

[Brooklyn]

No, we had always talked about it, like, just as a family. We'd always been like, oh, that would be so cool. So cool to, like, be able to, you know, experience something like that. And then this, like, as I was pregnant, I just, I get anxious with doctors. Like, they make me anxious. What is it called, like, white White coat syndrome or something where you're like, I don't know, my blood pressure, whenever they take, like, my blood pressure, like, skyrockets. Like, I did not literally skyrockets every time she goes, I do not do well. So I was like, I think I'm going to do better. Like, birth is such a mental game. Like, I'm going to do so much better if I do it, like, the way that I can control it. So, yeah, I did a, an out of hospital birth. It was amazing. They sent me home four hours after I had my son, and I was in my bed and got to sleep in my bed, and it was amazing.

[Bailey]

And how long ago. How old is your son?

[Brooklyn]

He's 16 months. Okay. So almost a year and a half. Yeah. Yeah. So it's been a year.

[Bailey]

And how. How was postpartum for you?

[Brooklyn]

You know, I. It was pretty good. It was pretty good, you know, I know, like, a lot of women struggle, so I was prepared to go through a lot of, like, emotional roller coasters. I will say I had. Yeah, I can remember it. No, can I say this part? Like you. There was a couple weeks where after he was born, it was like bliss, you know? And then there was a part where it just crushed and burned, like, crashed. One day specifically. I remember 11 days postpartum. Like, I can specifically remember the day.

[Bailey]

Oh, wow.

[Brooklyn]

It. Like, I just started having an anxiety attack. I thought my son, like, had thrush. Like, it was this whole thing, and it's just like, my emotions, you know, like, my. The postpartum. Like. Like, you're just so protective and like.

[Bailey]

Yeah.

[Brooklyn]

I don't know. Crash out, burnout. Like, insane. My poor husband. Like, my mom had to come, like, rescue me. Like, it was, like, horrible. Like, it was also, you worst. You were like. There was a part of postpartum where I. I mean, I was over there every single day. I wanted to see my nephew. I wanted to see my sister. And probably two or three weeks postpartum. I remember going over there and she was not acting like herself at all. Like, at all. And I was worried. I was. Because I know that postpartum depression is a real thing. And so I went back the next day and checked on her, and she was still acting really funny. Wouldn't get off the couch, wouldn't, like, interact with anyone that was over there. And I remember sitting down and I was like, I'm going to stay here and watch him, and you're gonna go do something because you're not acting like yourself. Like, obviously something's wrong, even if it's not hormone related. You are literally not sleeping.

[Podcast Host]

Yeah.

[Brooklyn]

And like, they say, like, actual torture is, like, not sleeping, not eating. Like, and then you add hormones on top of those. Like, you're actually kind of living torture.

[Bailey]

Yeah.

[Brooklyn]

But I. To. To, like, clarify, that was, like, a very brief. No, no, it wasn't for very long. Like, I feel like in the grand scheme of things, like, from all the stories I've heard, my postpartum experience was really good. Yeah, like, that was just a short, brief stint. And then it was like, I, like. I just. Like, my hormones tipped and then they, like, came back up and I was like, fine. It was better after I got. But I probably would have said it was more postpartum rage than it was a real thing. Like, your patience goes out the window. And you were just. And you're so protective. Like, it's crazy, like, how territorial you get. Yeah. I think it's good to have someone that knows you so well, that's not your partner that can step in, like me. I could go in there and say, you're not acting like yourself and you need to go do something or how to help them get out of the funk. Because I think you are in baby bliss. And I think you are so, like, razor focused, laser focused on baby and yourself and your partner and your house and your home, that sometimes it does take kind of an outside perspective. Be like, hey, I mean, I also had, like, the best support system, like Bailey said. Like, I had my sister. I had my mom, who, like, stayed with us for the first, like, week and a half and then, like, didn't leave till I told her to leave. And my husband, who was literally changing my diapers and the baby's diapers. Like, you know, when you have that support system, it makes a huge difference. Do you have, like, a rotation planned for that?

[Bailey]

We have to. We need to walk through it.

[Brooklyn]

So we got.

[Bailey]

So we got a little bit of time. But I have been thinking that we need to.

[Brooklyn]

It's helpful to know, I think.

[Bailey]

Yeah. Someone told me that. That. And even just, like, house chores.

[Brooklyn]

Oh, yeah.

[Bailey]

That needs to just be something. Like, who's gonna. Who's gonna notice we're out of toilet paper? Who's gonna notice we're out of the trash bag? Or who's gonna change this? Like, someone that, like, the jobs just need to be, like, set so that everyone knows what's going on.

[Brooklyn]

It's honestly, like, such a big thing. Like, where is our food coming from? Well, and I think because it's like, if. If. Because you. Especially if, like, your husband is, like, wanting to be involved, then it's like, well, you are both so in baby zone.

[Bailey]

Like, who.

[Brooklyn]

Where is the food? Where is the food coming from? That's, like, such a big one. I'm not kidding when I say you make a list of things that you want done and just leave it on the kitchen counter. Because people like me feel so helpless. I can't feed baby. I can maybe change a diaper, but there's so many people there who, like, can do that. I would rather be helpful in other ways. And it was like I was constantly bothering Brooklyn. Oh, give me a list. What groceries do you need? When do you want done? Around the house. Because that made me feel helpful.

[Bailey]

Yeah.

[Brooklyn]

Like, I'm not kidding. Anyone who's postpartum, make a list. There are friends who would come in and just check those things off the list. Like I would have. I would do it for any of my friends. Yeah, I was doing it for her. Like, your protein balls saved my life. What can I say again? Where is the food coming from?

[Bailey]

That's so good. I love that. How do you feel? Do you feel like you're like perception of yourself has changed at all since becoming a mom?

[Brooklyn]

Dramatically. Everything about my life has changed. My perspective on life, my perspective on the relationships that I have with other people, with myself. Like, I.

[Bailey]

It's just.

[Brooklyn]

I don't know how to put it into words. Like, yeah, there is just like this perfect little human who is half you and half the person you love. And it's really helped me specifically with like self criticism or like my husband's criticizing himself because I remind him all the time. Like, my son, for example, doesn't like love his freckles. He's always talking about how much he hates his freckles. My son has freckles. My. Okay, well, you know, this is something that we have to talk about. Like, we can't say that anymore because if you say that you're projecting that onto him.

[Bailey]

Yeah.

[Brooklyn]

And he's going to grow up thinking that his freckles are, you know, he's not supposed to like his freckles. You know, so that's like a lot of that, like where my husband and I are just working on like how we talked about ourselves because, you know, our kids are half us and they're, you know, they look like us and they act like us and if we criticize ourselves, then we're in a way criticizing them. And so just like trying to work on that kind of stuff. I also think it really brought out your, like, your feminine.

[Bailey]

What were you.

[Brooklyn]

I don't know what the word is. Your comforting, like nurturing. Nurturing side. We're not naturally like very touchy people or four words of a people very much who didn't grow up that way. We're very acts of service and that kind of stuff. So seeing him with her son, I do see like a completely different side of, of this Nurturing, just loving and just really sweet. Which I think totally changed at least my perspective of, of the. Because seriously, like, you could just explode with the amount of love that you have. Like, you just are like pent up with just like aggressive love for them all the time.

[Bailey]

I mean, my best friend yesterday, she lives in Austin and she has a. A seven month old now. And he's just on the camera the whole time. And she literally was just like eating his arm. And she's like, how can you know myself? Because I was like, I was starting to eat him on his arm too hard.

[Brooklyn]

It's so cool, though. It's like you just could devour them. And that newborn smell, like I'm not his mom. And even I'm like, that newborn baby smell. Oh. Oh, it's bliss. It's the best.

[Bailey]

Are there any boundaries that you put in place when you were pregnant, postpartum, even now, today, that you think would

[Podcast Host]

be helpful for myself and other expecting moms to know?

[Brooklyn]

Yeah. Give us the tea. What do we need to know? You know, after all that talk about me being a boundary setter, I didn't set any boundaries. I don't feel like. No, no, that's not true. I feel like I had to answer these questions. I did, because I see it from the outside. We didn't do sugar. Like, we didn't introduce sugar. Like, we didn't. Because I didn't want that to be like some of his first foods, you know, I wanted to be more like vegetables and, you know, whatever. So that was kind of a big thing was like I didn't want him to be introduced like sugar, like caffeine.

[Bailey]

Yeah.

[Brooklyn]

Added like a little, little age.

[Podcast Host]

That's about it.

[Brooklyn]

Like I let people kiss my baby. Like I let people hold my baby. I don't know. I didn't set like very many boundaries in that way because I just felt like, like I wanted everyone to love him as much as I loved him. So I was like, here, like, love on my baby. But I don't know. I know, to be fair, it was all family. That's true. Close knit siblings and parents pretty much only. So I feel like it would have changed had it been outsiders and friends around the whole time during maternity leave and stuff. But it was mostly just me and mom. Yeah, I'm like in the house. I don't think I did. He thinks crazy. I can't remember now. I'm like, did I do anything? I don't feel like I did. I like, like I. I never had any issues, like letting someone like, watch him or anything. Like, I never, I never. That was never like my personal boundaries. But I know a lot of people have, like different roles and things that they set.

[Bailey]

That's honestly the biggest thing I'm learning. And people just have literally so Many opinions about, like, yes, actually, everything.

[Brooklyn]

I guess my biggest boundary would have been, like, what I say goes. That would have been my biggest boundary. Like, yeah, it doesn't matter if your boundaries. Like, no one kisses my baby and I also want them to wear blue every day. Like, it just doesn't matter. Like, I. Like, what matters is that people respect you as the parent.

[Bailey]

Yeah.

[Brooklyn]

And so what you say goes. I would say that is a boundary for me. Like, if someone is not respecting my rules, I'll straight up tell them if you don't respect my rules that you don't get to have my son unsupervised. Like, that is just how it goes. Like, because I have these things that I want for him. And if you're not going to respect that, you know that's okay. But, like, we're not gonna. Then.

[Bailey]

Yeah.

[Brooklyn]

Foster that time.

[Bailey]

So. So that's so good and so valid because you want, like, especially your, like, family, which is who probably is with him the most.

[Brooklyn]

Yeah.

[Bailey]

Them to respect what you have.

[Brooklyn]

Yeah.

[Podcast Host]

Going on.

[Bailey]

I love that.

[Brooklyn]

That's.

[Bailey]

That's a good answer. Yeah, I'm definitely learning about, like, just

[Podcast Host]

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wear when it's hot outside and I

[Podcast Host]

still want to look like I put some effort in. Everything either feels too casual or too uncomfortable for the heat and I end up in the same rotation of things

[Bailey]

that are fine but not exciting.

[Podcast Host]

That changed a lot when I got the Breezly high rise cargo pant from Lululemon. I wore them the other day when my day started with running a bunch of errands and ended with going out for dinner and I did not once feel like I needed to go home and change.

[Bailey]

That's actually a big deal for me

[Podcast Host]

because I'm usually very aware of what I'm wearing and whether it's appropriate for

[Bailey]

the situation I'm in.

[Podcast Host]

And with these I just forgot about

[Bailey]

it entirely in the best way.

[Podcast Host]

The fabric though, is what gets me. It's made with Swift, which is Lululemon's performance fabric. So it's lightweight, four way, stretch, sweat, wicking and quick drying, but it genuinely does not look or feel like a performance gear at all. It looks like a really elevated intentional

[Bailey]

pant that you find in a boutique somewhere.

[Podcast Host]

It drapes beautifully and has this relaxed, polished vibe that works with basically anything already in your wardrobe. And the cargo detail is subtle enough that it actually adds something to the look instead of feeling overly utilitarian. I've had some people ask me where

[Bailey]

the pants are from and when I

[Podcast Host]

say it's a Lululemon, they're always a

[Bailey]

little surprised because read as workout clothes at all.

[Podcast Host]

They just read as a really great pant. I wear Lululemon. And you should too. Go to lululemon.com right now. New styles drop all the time and the colors go fast, so you don't want to wait if there's something that doesn't work for you. Free returns always. That's lululemon.com lululemon.com how was your experience

[Bailey]

with sharing stuff about that in people's Israeli's? Like, I.

[Brooklyn]

Well, I decided very early on I wasn't.

[Bailey]

I actually should be asking Bailey.

[Brooklyn]

Yes.

[Bailey]

Because you don't look.

[Brooklyn]

Yeah, she doesn't look. It's me that looks. No, she, she did it. Look. We, we know what the Internet can look like. And we heard from so many people about mom shaming and how like this could be a nice group of women turns into a really, really vicious, vicious group of women. Like when it comes to kids, obviously a gay birth is like. Cuz when you're pregnant, I mean, everybody is so lovely to you. Like nobody is mean to you when you're pregnant. Like if they are, that's crazy.

[Bailey]

Yeah.

[Brooklyn]

But like, and then you have the baby and the whole world is mean to you. It's like the flip switches and it's like everything you're doing on the Internet. Yeah, everything you're doing is like the wrong decision. And I think it's just because obviously, and I think it's valid, moms all have their ways that they do things and everyone is valid and whatever they think is best for their baby. That's what I believe. But it is really difficult for. I literally watched her deal with even just the slightest glimpse of something with her son, Archer. It would be just chaos. I remember one time we filmed a video where you were hand washing bottles. Oh yeah. And that was a whole thing just about whether or not you should hand wash versus whether the like sterilizers like dishwash versus like dishwasher. Because I put it in the dishwasher. And then people were like, well that's not like, like safe. And then you're supposed to hand wash them. But then People were like, well, but the soap that you're using, it was like, so many opinions, you know, there's just so many opinions. Like, I don't know. There's just. It doesn't. Doesn't matter what you do. There's a lot of opinions. So, yeah, I chose not to share my son. My son's face online. And I only really talk about motherhood from, like, my perspective. So, like, how what I'm experiencing or like, I did this today with Archer. Not so much like, like him.

[Bailey]

Yeah.

[Brooklyn]

Which has helped because it gives just, like, less for people to comment on. And I think, like, I'm good at setting boundaries and I'm good at, like, brushing off hate comments, but if someone were to say something nasty about my son, like, I would come unglued. So, like, I'm also just not going to put my vulner, Like, I'm not going to put that out there. I don't even want to introduce that, like, so that people don't, like, I don't have to deal with that. The mom shaming, it is real. It is a real, real problem.

[Bailey]

Yeah. I mean, I see it with. With, like, my girlfriends, and now I'm on, like, the pregnancy side of TikTok and all of the socials, and it definitely is very interesting. I do feel like a lot of

[Podcast Host]

the comments are, like, from people that, like, aren't even moms half the time,

[Bailey]

which I'm like, like, oh, interesting. Yeah. Yeah. So that's something that I'm just like, a learning and preparing myself for. I mean, I already am. I mean, luckily, I feel like I'm. I'm kind of in the same boat that you were. And, like, it's pretty positive. Like, I feel like I have, like, a nice little corner of the Internet that, you know, knows me. And that's nice. You know, that's my intentions with stuff. And I know you guys have that as well, but, yeah, definitely. I feel like when I open up, sometimes I'm like, I have to. I have to go into it knowing I'm like, I actually don't care what people say because I know my intention.

[Brooklyn]

Right. That's when you feel so confident in what you're doing. I was about to say, it's like when, you know, like, you love your baby and you're doing what you think is best, and, like, then there's a lot less room for it to, like, hurt or, like, sink as deep.

[Bailey]

Yeah.

[Brooklyn]

Yeah, so that always helps. Like, you know, when you're. You think you're doing the right thing and you're just trying your best. You just have to be confident. It's a lot easier to be like, well, I'm trying my best, you know, Like, I. You're also. No one's perfect. Yeah. Innately. No, I. I firmly believe moms are just. Just know.

[Bailey]

Yeah.

[Brooklyn]

And I say that as not a mother, but, like, I just believe in it, you know? You know what's best. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

[Bailey]

Yeah, I definitely think there's definitely truth to that. And I always tell myself too, like, when I start to freak out about, like, not knowing, I don't know, something, I'm like, our parents, like, had literally such like, a fraction of the resources that we have, so not saying I'm not going to go into motherhood, like, unprepared. I don't think I'm ever going to be prepared enough. So I need to just accept that and do.

[Brooklyn]

They figured it out, you know, like,

[Bailey]

they figured it out. Yeah.

[Brooklyn]

My mom says, you know, how I raised you guys when we were kids, people didn't wear seat belts. She's going off about when she's a kid, she's like, you guys will be fine. Yeah, it'll be so fine. It's not. Everything is not that serious, you know? Yeah, some things are, but not everything.

[Bailey]

How. How do you know? I guess, are you good at asking for support when you need it versus like, like, pushing through? Because I'm getting the vibe that both of you are very, just like, doers and very much achievers. Are you threes on the enneagram?

[Brooklyn]

Absolutely, girl.

[Bailey]

Figured y opposite, but the same. But how has that been for you? I. I mean, it seems like you have a great support system, so it may not even be a thing for you, but have you had to, like, like, struggled with having to ask for support or help?

[Brooklyn]

The biggest. I think the biggest, like, part that I struggled with was having to come to terms with the fact that I was going to work and I wanted to work and my husband also wanted to work, which meant I needed to find some sort of help for my son during the day.

[Bailey]

Yeah.

[Brooklyn]

And, like, you know, that's so common. You know, kids go to daycare, kids have nannies. Like, that is so, so common. But it's just, like, doesn't matter. You still feel guilty as a mom. Like, you just feel like you should be able to be in seven places at once. And like, that is. That is what ate at me the most and where I had the hardest time admitting that I, like, needed help. Like, I. We tried. My husband and I tried. Like, I was so determined. I'm like, we can figure it out. Like, we'll just trade off days. And, like, I work from home. And so for, like, three months of his life, you know, I went back to work eight weeks. So it was probably whatever, like, maybe a month and a half, we tried to just do this, like, dual thing. And it just inevitably felt like I was maybe doing my son a disservice by not, you know, like, we were only able to give him, like, half of our time and attention versus someone giving him, like, all their time and attention. So inevitably, I, you know, I had to admit defeat. And we have a nanny now, and it was honestly the best decision I ever made. Like, she has. She loves my son. She is amazing. Like, it has been so great seeing somebody else be able to, like, step in his life and teach him things like, even I can't teach. And, like, it's just been so awesome and, like, such a great resource, but it's also sometimes villainized on the Internet. And so, like, that combo of two things, like my mom guilt, and then also people potentially, like, villainizing, that makes it, like, really sensitive. And so that was probably where I struggled the most, like, having to admit, like, I cannot do everything and be everywhere all at once.

[Bailey]

That's good to hear, because I already know that's gonna be something that, yeah, I struggle with. And I actually was just talking to my mom about this yesterday. I was like, daycare kid. Like, both my parents worked my whole life, so I did, like, you know, the entire, like, preschool and then kindergarten through whenever, until, like, I had all of, like, dance after school. I was going to after school daycare my whole life. And I'm like, We were talking about it. She was like, that was, like, the best. Like, obviously they were working, so they needed help, but they were also, like, that was, like, the best thing for you. Like, I'm an only child, and people are like, you are the least only child, like, person I've ever met. And I think it's just because I was really so socialized as a kid. Like, I mean, granted, like, at home, I was probably, like, bored out of my mind. I learned how to just, like, play by myself.

[Brooklyn]

Entertain yourself. Yeah.

[Bailey]

Keep myself, you know, entertained and quiet. But I really, like, I. It really did, like, like, shape me, and I feel like I'm, like, really thankful for, like, getting that time.

[Brooklyn]

And I feel like hearing stories like yours, like, of kids who still have really great relationships with their parents, even though their parents worked is part of what helped me, like, understand that. Because it just feels like, yeah, oh, my gosh, my kid's not even gonna, like, be able to bond with me during the day. And, like, is it gonna affect our relationship? Are they gonna be bitter that I wasn't home with them? You know, you. All these thoughts are running through your brain. It's like a mom. That's all you think about all the time. It's like, what am I doing wrong?

[Bailey]

Yeah.

[Brooklyn]

And so it's always n. I think stories like that where it's like, reassuring. Okay, well, there are people who do this every day. Like, there are plenty of people who have dual income households. Like, both parents have to work.

[Bailey]

Like, and I think we're getting to that time now, especially with just women wanting to be in the workforce and, like, actually have a career outside of being a mother. And I think we're getting to a really healthy place with that too. I'm really excited about to, like, like, step into. Yeah, I think it's a. And how cool too. Like, I will die on this hill of, like. I think I. I feel like I gained so much from watching my mom work hard. Like, even still today. Like, my mom is, like, such a hard worker. But I look at that, I'm like, I'm excited to have my kids one day. Like, see how hard I work and like, to see that work ethic and, like, drive and hope that one day they want to, like, experience that in their career too. Like, so I just. I think there's. I totally look at it kind of the wrong way.

[Brooklyn]

And I.

[Bailey]

When I. When I think of my mom, I don't think, like, obviously my parents worked and, you know, I was either home alone or at daycare and it was. It was fine. That's just like, what.

[Brooklyn]

That was life.

[Bailey]

Yeah. And it's just. I think it's quality over Quantity, too. Yeah.

[Brooklyn]

100. That's what my mom told me. She was like, it's quality over quantity. Brooklyn. Like, don't. Because she. I mean, my mom has, like, been so great. Great with me. Okay. Shout out mom. Yeah. In the world. But she literally was like, it's quality over quantity. Like, it really is. Like, it matters more that you are present when you're present than, like, and sometimes it can help you be a better to be able to have something for yourself, like some time to yourself or just doing something.

[Podcast Host]

That's so true.

[Bailey]

Else.

[Brooklyn]

Yeah, I totally agree with that too.

[Bailey]

You need. You need that separation for sure, Bailey.

[Brooklyn]

Okay.

[Podcast Host]

On next week's episode of the Squeeze,

[Brooklyn]

I totally went into it with the expectation that I would get pregnant right away. I would not wish infertility on anybody, because going through it has quite literally been one of the hardest things I've ever gone through. I've never felt more alone in my life. And now I'm gonna cry. I've never felt more alone before. And it was really scary, Sorry, isolating feeling. Because I have a twin sister and I've never been alone before. And I couldn't share it with her. It was something that she couldn't really understand. No one knew that we were struggling at all. And so we started to frequently get comments about me secretly being pregnant or body shaming, comments about me looking pregnant or things like that. Often it was every day, all day long, I was getting DMs of people congratulating me on my pregnancy and my baby. And it was all while I was almost a year into infertility. And I remember, like, just absolutely breaking down to my husband. I was like, it's one thing to go through this. It is another thing to have people I don't even know projecting a life you want so badly. I guess. Guess, like, they want it so bad, and I can't even blame them because I want it so bad. You know, like, they want it for me. I want it for me. Please note that this episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct or indirect financial interest in products or services referred to in this episode.