The Toast — Tik-Talk with Remi Bader

Hosts: Claudia Oshry (with special guest Remi Bader)
Release Date: December 1, 2025
Episode Overview:
This episode dives into weight loss journeys, body image, the impact of social media, changes in the influencer space, pop culture recaps, and Remi Bader’s latest personal and professional developments. The hosts discuss living through dramatic body changes, internet toxicity, and the complexities of remaining authentic when so much of your story becomes public property. The tone is candid, humorous, and at moments deeply vulnerable.

Main Theme

The Challenges and Reality of Weight Loss Transformation and Body Image in the Social Media Age
Claudia and Remi share honest reflections about how drastic body changes affect mental health, social pressures, work, and personal identity. They explore their uneasy roles as unwilling “faces” of movements like body positivity, the backlash that follows weight loss, and how career and social interactions change with physical transformation.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Remi’s Return & Weight Loss Journey

• Claudia acknowledges having relatable journeys as public figures who candidly discuss weight, and the controversy that brings:
  • “Every time we’re on here… we always talk very candidly about like being fat and being skinny and people don’t like that… there was so much hate from like the fat community.” (01:22)
• Remi catches listeners up, confirming weight loss surgery, its speed and unexpected results:
  • “It was abnormally fast. I got a weight loss surgery for anyone that doesn’t know…” (02:46)
  • Memorable: Remi lost more than she hoped and sometimes misses her curvy body (03:33).
• Emotional and daily challenges post-surgery:
  • “I still feel like my brain is… still that of a fat person. I totally get that.” (03:17, 03:21)
  • Eating disorder struggles persist (“I had a binge eating issue before and my mind never changed. My body did.” 04:27)
  • Long-term adjustments, e.g. strict eating/drinking rules: “You can't have water and food in [the same] 30 minutes for the rest of your life.” (04:28-04:50)

2. Reflections on Former Selves and Public Reaction

• Claudia admits her own internalized shame about her pre-weight loss self; Remi feels deep compassion for her former self:
  • “I just fully feel bad for… the way people treated her a thousand percent.” (05:36)
• Claudia on the collapse of the body positivity movement and Ozempic culture:
  • “Ozempic has erased the body positive movement. Most fat people do not want to be fat…if they had this magic thing, which Ozempic is, they would take it in a second.” (07:13)

3. Nuances of Body Positivity, Inclusivity, and Fashion

• Remi distances herself from the body positive movement, focusing on inclusivity:
  • “I always said...I am not body positive. I never said I loved myself in my body.” (07:42)
  • Ensures all her collabs maintain as much size inclusivity as possible (10:18—“edited by Remy…goes up to a 6X…that’s super inclusive.”).
• Explains business realities: “Revolve… 3x & 4x sold way less. That’s why these companies need to spend more time…” (10:49-11:09)
• Advocates to “buy less inventory” but keep extended sizes available (11:08-11:27).

4. Internet Toxicity & Explaining Life Choices

• Both discuss anxiety from potential criticism and the toxicity of the online fat acceptance/body positive movement:
  • “So much of the fat movement, the body, they’re so toxic. I’m sorry. The fact that you even feel you have to explain yourself…” (12:13)
• Remi is now ultra-cautious: “I am at a point in my life where, like, I don’t know what to say or do…I am nervous with what to say, what to post…” (12:13-12:29)
• Claudia: “I want to break you free from the shackles of the Internet…it’s not good for mind, not good for the body, not good for the soul.” (12:29)

5. How Weight Loss Changed Career Opportunities

• Claudia and Remi compare post-transformation work:
  • Claudia: “When I lost weight...the opportunities...were so different. Like, rates were higher.” (12:29)
  • Remi: “I definitely get invited to things I wasn’t invited prior…I say no to a lot…makes me feel bad for the other girly Remy.” (13:07)
• Both acknowledge complex feelings about doors opening due to size and the principle of not wanting to accept everything (13:45).

6. Post-Transformation Emotional Turmoil and Community Exclusion

• Remi sometimes feels excluded from body positivity roles now: “I still feel like I have the knowledge…but I don’t think people would want me to do that.” (14:21)
• Expresses longing for the sense of community and authenticity she saw in plus size creators: “Sometimes I scroll...plus size creators that I feel are happy…and wish I could have gotten there…” (14:41)
• Claudia warns: a lot of seemingly happy content creators are “faking it til you make it.” (15:09)

7. The Lingering Influence of Fat/Thin Trauma

• The mental/emotional journey is much longer than the physical:
  • “The physical transformation of losing weight is a much shorter journey than the emotional and mental journey.” (15:31)
• Health insurance covered Remi’s procedure (16:03); responses to her public timeline and disclosure are discussed (16:03-16:22).

Pop Culture Segments

Dancing with the Stars Recap & Related Gossip [24:46-27:02]

• Alex placing second, rumors about her and Braxton Barrios, and how NFL obligations may be a legit reason for his absence.
• Remi’s take: “I think they’re together…I was pissed she didn’t win…” (25:12, 25:48)
• Both share fandom backgrounds (OG fans vs. bandwagon).

Love Island Obsession & UK Trip

• Remi reveals her “OG” Love Island fandom, plans to visit the UK to date, claims to be an “abroad” girly (27:02-27:38).

Would They Do DWTS?

• Both agree “Singing with the Stars” would be fun, but not dancing (28:08-28:26).
• Claudia relays a failed X-Factor audition story; Remi shares about not getting past round one at The Voice (29:01-30:48).

NFL, Super Bowl National Anthem [32:06-34:53]

• Reaction to Charlie Puth as the 2026 National Anthem singer.
• Claudia’s hot take: “I feel like the national anthem should be sang by a woman. Like, it’s kind of a girly thing…” (33:34)

Le Bal de Débutante [34:53-38:32]

• Discussion about the elite ball, participants from royalty and celebrity families.
• Claudia’s insider knowledge on best-dressed: “Carolina Herrera’s granddaughter… insane…” (36:05)

Ariana Grande, Body Comments & Internet Scrutiny [38:32-43:34]

• Ariana’s public response to scrutiny about her body.
• Remi: “I’m very anti people commenting on people’s bodies when they don’t know what they’re dealing with…” (39:29)
• Both debate if negative skinny/fat comments are comparable (40:20-41:39).

Notable Quotes and Memorable Moments

• On lived experience vs. body positivity:
  “Most fat people do not want to be fat. That’s sort of like the underlying thing…If they had this magic thing, which Ozempic is, they would take it in a second.” — Claudia (07:13)

• On brain not catching up with body:
  “I still feel like my brain is…still that of a fat person. I totally get that.” — Remi (03:17)

• On internet toxicity:
  “I am at a point in my life where, like, I don’t know what to say or do…definitely more…I am nervous with what to say, what to post, what I should be posting right now.” — Remi (12:13)

• On professional transformation:
  “When I lost weight…the opportunities that were afforded to me were so different. Like, rates were higher. Everything just sort of came up.” — Claudia (12:29)

• On body positive movement inclusivity:
  “Any collaboration…anything I’m designing…make sure that it’s still inclusive no matter what my size is now.” — Remi (09:45)

• On seeing ‘happy creators’:
  “Sometimes I scroll and look on certain plus size creators that I feel are happy and at a good place with themselves and, like, wish I could have gotten there. And then I’m like, mad and frustrated with myself.” — Remi (14:41)

• On the “Amanda Seyfried/Ariel Charnas drama” [50:28]: “It was so weird and as far as I know, like, Ariel Trenis has never met Amanda Seyfried…Amanda Seyfried, who’s like, kind of like in a David and Goliath situation. Like, she’s this big, fancy star. Like, what are you doing?” — Claudia (50:30)

Fun Segments & Personality Highlights

• Remi’s Dating Life (31:29)
  Explores dating after weight loss, being approached differently, and the struggle to trust intentions.

• Claudia’s failed X Factor audition and Remi’s Voice audition (29:01, 30:23)

• Plug for Remi’s Fangirl fan product and TikTok Shop approval saga (63:23)

• Dream musical guests, fandoms, and “Belieber” pasts
  Remi’s Bieber obsession comes out (65:44), and they bond over formative teen movie influences.

Timestamps for Key Segments

• 01:22 — Claudia & Remi reflect on weight-related internet backlash
• 02:46 — Remi describes her weight loss surgery and aftermath
• 03:21 — Remi on emotional/mental aftermath: “Still that of a fat person”
• 04:27 — Eating disorder struggles post-surgery
• 07:13 — Claudia on Ozempic "erasing" body positive movement
• 09:45 — Remi on size inclusivity in brand partnerships
• 12:13 — Anxiety about online criticism
• 12:29 — Career opportunities “open up” after weight loss
• 14:41 — Remi on missing the plus size creator community
• 15:31 — “Physical vs. emotional journey” of weight loss
• 24:46 — Dancing With the Stars recap and gossip
• 27:02 — Love Island and UK dating plans
• 32:06 — Super Bowl Anthem discourse
• 34:53 — Le Bal de Débutante segment
• 38:32 — Ariana Grande body shaming response
• 40:20 — Is being called “too skinny” like being called “too fat”?
• 50:28 — Amanda Seyfried vs. Ariel Charnas drama recap
• 63:23 — Remi’s product launch: Fangirl fan on TikTok Shop

Final Thoughts

The episode offers a deeply candid look into the personal and public struggles that come with being open about weight, health, and self-image as a public figure. Claudia and Remi’s dynamic blends humor and vulnerability, shining a light on the human side behind viral headlines and branded content. Both provide relatable insight into how internet culture—especially around body size—can be both empowering and brutal.

Listen if you want: Honest, sometimes raw discussion on body image, influencer pressures, changing friendships and work dynamics post-weight loss, and witty pop-culture recaps.