Trump Welcomed to U.K. By Epstein Image on Windsor Castle | Jason Bateman, Mel Robbins | Wednesday, September 17

Summary

The Tonight Show Starring Jimmy Fallon

Episode: Trump Welcomed to U.K. By Epstein Image on Windsor Castle
Guests: Jason Bateman, Mel Robbins
Date: September 17, 2025
Host: Jimmy Fallon
House Band: The Roots

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Overview

This episode of The Tonight Show is a classic blend of topical humor, celebrity interviews, signature playful banter, and surprise moments. Jimmy Fallon’s monologue skewers the latest political spectacle: President Trump’s British state visit (with some royal and Epstein-related gags), riffs on news of the day, and leads into lighthearted segments with his guests. The show features a comedic deep-dive on a labor dispute, a new series reveal from Jason Bateman, and an uplifting conversation with powerhouse self-help author Mel Robbins.

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Monologue & Opening News (00:05 - 07:06)

Politics, Royals & Protest

• Trump’s State Visit to the UK:
  • Fallon jokes about Trump meeting King Charles and dabbles in magical references:
    • “Tomorrow he'll meet with Harry Potter to make the Epstein files disappear. Erecto eraso.” (01:21)
  • Protests included projecting photos of Trump with Jeffrey Epstein onto Windsor Castle:
    • "Prince Andrew was like, omg, I took that." (01:36)
• Royal Banter:
  • Trump and King Charles took a carriage ride, which Fallon describes as:
    • "An episode of Bridgerton. The Golden Years." (01:54)
  • Fallon lampoons British cuisine at the state dinner:
    • "Here's your blood sausage, sir, with extra drippings." (02:11)
  • Trump’s humorous 'thank you' list at dinner:
    • “Thank you, King Charles, Queen Latifah, Lord Farquaad and Lady Gaga.” (02:18)

Airplane Skit

• Spirit Airlines Close Call with Air Force One:
  • Fallon jokes about a Spirit Airlines plane coming too close, tying in a comedic skit with a fake Spirit Airlines apology:
    • "We attribute the incident to not having a steering wheel... The autopilot being Clippy from Microsoft Word.” (02:57)

Political Deep-Dive with The Roots (Labor Dispute Parody) [03:31 - 06:00]

• Long Island Railroad Strike Issue:
  • Tariq Trotter offers a tongue-in-cheek analysis, comparing sides to characters from The Summer I Turned Pretty, moving into an earnest/fun sitcom debate:
    • Tariq: “Personally, I think the side to be on is very obvious. Much like being on Team Conrad.” (03:46)
    • Fallon and Tariq hilariously argue “Team Conrad” vs “Jeremiah,” paralleling pop culture with labor negotiations.
    • “Love doesn’t have to be painful to be real.” — Jimmy Fallon (04:56)
    • "Conrad was her forever. And he deserved her. Much like the Long Island Railroad employees deserve a fair contract." — Tariq Trotter (05:43)

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Rapid-Fire News Jokes (06:04 - 07:44)

• Tesla Door Handle Recall
• Vegan Mac & Cheese with Milk
  • "Customers got suspicious when they actually enjoyed it." (06:29)
• Times Square Casino Plan Voted Down
  • Fallon imagines outlandish Times Square mascots searching for “vape juice,” ramping up the absurdity.

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Interview: Jason Bateman (08:18 – 16:55)

On Family and Kids

• Fallon and Bateman bond over fatherhood and “Franny” (both have daughters with the same name):
  • Bateman: “She’s going to college…in the same city we live, but pretending she’s abroad.” (09:42)
  • “She wants her independence...then knock, knock, knock. On Saturday it’s time to do the laundry.” — Jason Bateman (10:00)

Music

• Bateman admits his daughters got him into Taylor Swift:
  • “You drive them to school...if you don’t listen to their music, they get out and walk.” (11:09)
• He tries sneaking in Led Zeppelin, Radiohead, Beethoven, Wilco to “confuse” his kids (11:59).

“Smartless” Podcast and Live Shows

• Fallon asks about Bateman’s hit podcast with Will Arnett and Sean Hayes:
  • Live show at the Hollywood Bowl announced:
    • “I just hope somebody shows up. That’s a big place to fill.” — Jason Bateman (12:46)
    • “Please. November 17th, something like middle of November.” (13:10)

Olympics Story

• Fallon embarrasses himself by over-commentating with Mike Tirico and Snoop Dogg at the Olympics.
  • “He grabbed my hand at one point… like, chill out, dude.” (14:07)

“Black Rabbit” on Netflix

• Fallon and Bateman preview Bateman’s new Netflix series, “Black Rabbit”:
  • Bateman stars and directs, with Jude Law as his brother.
    • “We own a nightclub bar, restaurant in the Lower East Side. Some bad stuff happens…if you liked Ozark…just tune in…” — Jason Bateman (16:24)
  • Laura Linney directs episodes 3 and 4 (16:44).
  • “Jude Law, just the second coming…He’s more.” — Jason Bateman on his co-star (15:41, 15:50)

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Interview: Mel Robbins (17:17 – 25:12)

Introduction & Success Stats

• Fallon shares the staggering figures behind Robbins’ new book and podcast:
  • “Number one book on the New York Times, Amazon, and Audible every single week since it came out eight months ago… translated into 63 languages, sold 7 million copies.” (18:19)
  • “Your podcast… has half a billion downloads. What is going on?” (18:46)

Life Transformation & Humility

• Robbins reflects on once being “almost a million dollars in debt” and now being “blown away” by her transformation:
  • “It proves that you can change your life, too. You really can.” — Mel Robbins (19:46)

Let Them Theory Explained

• Fallon: “For people that aren’t familiar with the book yet…what is the let them theory?” (20:16)
• Robbins:
  • “If you want more peace, if you want more power, if you want more time and energy, stop trying to control and change other people and learn how to let them be who they are…then focus that time and energy back on yourself. That’s all it is.” (20:22)
  • “Other people are really annoying. And so you need that reminder.” (20:58)

Why “Let Them” Resonates

• “The number one cause of stress in everybody’s life is other people.” (22:13)
• “When you start protecting your time and energy from everything out there, you recognize how much time and energy you now have for yourself.” (22:16)
• The message echoes age-old wisdom: “This reminds me of stoicism... Serenity Prayer... things my grandmother used to tell me.” (22:51)
• "Love isn't changing people. Love is learning how to see people as they are and as they're not." (23:26)

Audience Reactions & Humor

• Fallon commends Robbins’s style:
  • “You have a great sense of humor. You’re not afraid to just go there and embarrass yourself.” (21:38)
• Robbins: “I’m the villain in the book.” (24:03)
• Tattoos: “People are getting tattoos [that] say let them.” (20:55–20:58)

Announcements & Audience Surprise

• Mel Robbins announces her “Let Them Tour” live on-air:
  • Launching in New Zealand and Australia, then coming to North America. (24:38)
• Every audience member receives a copy of “The Let Them Theory.” (25:12)

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• “Tomorrow he'll meet with Harry Potter to make the Epstein files disappear.” — Jimmy Fallon (01:21)
• “Conrad was her forever. And he deserved her. Much like the Long Island Railroad employees deserve a fair contract.” — Tariq Trotter (05:43)
• “She loves it too much.”— Jason Bateman on his daughter’s college independence (09:45)
• “If you want more peace... stop trying to control and change other people and learn how to let them be who they are.” — Mel Robbins (20:24)
• “The number one cause of stress in everyone's life is other people.” — Mel Robbins (22:13)
• “Love isn’t changing people. Love is learning how to see people as they are and as they're not.” — Mel Robbins (23:26)

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Timestamps of Key Segments

| Segment | Timestamps | |---------------------------------------|----------------------| | Monologue & Political/News Jokes | 00:05–07:06 | | Spirit Airlines Skit | 02:57–03:31 | | LIRR Union Dispute Pop Culture Parody | 03:31–06:00 | | Interview: Jason Bateman | 08:18–16:55 | | Interview: Mel Robbins | 17:17–25:12 | | Tour & Book Giveaway Announcement | 24:22–25:12 |

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Tone & Style

The episode delivers with typical Tonight Show charm: absurdity, warmth, and sharp comedic timing. Jason Bateman embodies his self-deprecating, dry wit; Mel Robbins inspires and amuses in equal measure. The interplay between all guests and Fallon bursts with inside jokes, family warmth, and spontaneous applause moments.

This summary should provide new listeners a solid sense of both substance and style for this Tonight Show episode!

Transcript

[Jimmy Fallon]

From Studio 6B in Rockefeller center in the heart of New York City. Tonight Shows starring Jimmy Fallon. Tonight joins Jimmy is guest Jason Bateman, Mel Robbins. And featuring the legendary roots crew 2185. And now here he is, Jimm Sam. Thank you very much, everybody. I feel the love. Enjoy yourself. Welcome, everybody.

Welcome to the Tonight Show. Thank you for being here. Thank you for watching. Well, guys, today President Trump kicked off his state visit to the UK by traveling to Windsor Castle to meet with King Charles. Yep. Today Trump met with King Charles and tomorrow he'll meet with Harry Potter to make the Epstein files disappear. Erecto eraso. Speaking of, several protesters were arrested after projecting photos of Trump with Jeffrey Epstein onto Windsor Castle. Take a look. Even worse, Prince Andrew was like, omg, I took that. But this is nice. Earlier today, Trump and King Charles took a carriage ride together. Here they are. Look at this. Yeah, looks like an episode of Bridgerton. The Golden Years. And tonight, the royal family treated Trump to a lavish state dinner with 160 guests. King Charles was like, I know what will get him to leave. British food. Here's your blood sausage, sir, with extra drippings. Trump appreciated the dinner. He said, thank you, King Charles, Queen Latifah, Lord Farquaad and Lady Gaga. Thank you very much, Lord Farquaad.

Get this.

While Trump was flying to the UK a Spirit Airlines plane got too close to Air Force One and an air traffic controller told the pilot to, quote, pay attention and get off the iPad. Ironically, it's the same thing staffer said to Trump during tonight's dinner. He's like, but I love bluey. Well, in response to the incident, Spirit released an apology. Take a look.

[Spirit Airlines Representative (Comedic Skit)]

Spirit Airlines would like to apologize for its close call with Air Force One. After a thorough investigation, we attribute the incident to not having a steering wheel using a radio. That's actually just a flash from Boost Mobile. Assuming we were playing plane chicken, the autopilot being Clippy from Microsoft Word. A Frontier Airlines flight dared us to do it, mistaking the radar screen for a game of Pong. And one passenger forgot to turn on airplane mode and it broke the entire plane. Spirit Airlines making flying exciting again.

[Jimmy Fallon]

Some more political news. I read that Trump established an emergency board to resolve the Long Island Railroad union dispute and avoid a strike. It's a complex issue. So here to give us a bit more background on it is Tarik from the Roots. Tarek. Thanks, Jimmy.

[Tariq Trotter (The Roots)]

So there are two sides to this issue. You're either on the side of the Long Island Railroad or the side of its employees. And personally, I think the side to be on is very obvious. Much like being on Team Conrad. If you watch the Summer I Turn pretty.

[Jimmy Fallon]

Hang on to your guy. Hang on. I'm just gonna. I'm gonna stop you right there.

[Tariq Trotter (The Roots)]

Look, I mean, don't worry, Jimmy. I'm gonna break down both sides of the issue equally for the audience.

[Jimmy Fallon]

That's not necessary. I think. I think that calling Team Conrad is the obvious choice is not respecting the connection Belly had with Jeremiah.

[Tariq Trotter (The Roots)]

Belly loved Conrad since she was a little kid, but he was her first love. Her always.

[Jimmy Fallon]

Give me a break. First love doesn't always mean best love. Jeremiah actually showed up. He was there through the worst moments, and he never made her question his feelings.

Never.

[Tariq Trotter (The Roots)]

So Conrad was a bit moody and complicated.

[Jimmy Fallon]

Who cares?

[Tariq Trotter (The Roots)]

He was dealing with real pain. Jeremiah might have been fun, but Conrad was the one Belly's heart kept coming back to because her soul was tied to him. And I dare you to deny that.

[Jimmy Fallon]

Oh, I'll deny that every single day. Maybe her soul deserved to be free from all that drama. Love doesn't have to be painful to be real.

[Tariq Trotter (The Roots)]

When Conrad loves, he loves with every.

[Jimmy Fallon]

Fiber of his being.

His love is like a puzzle that feels exhausting. Always have to solve it.

It's like you don't even get the.

[Tariq Trotter (The Roots)]

Point of the infinity necklace. The way Conrad protected her without even.

[Jimmy Fallon]

Thinking was soulmate level love.

[Tariq Trotter (The Roots)]

Look, Jeremiah might have been the summer.

[Jimmy Fallon]

Fling, but Conrad was her forever. And he deserved her. Much like the Long Island Railroad employees deserve a fair contract.

That was really informative. Thank you. Tariq. Tariq Trotter, everyone.

Tariq Trotter.

There you go. Well, switching gears. Tesla is under investigation for faulty electric door handles that can trap people inside their cars. Tesla was like, hey, hey. Just be happy they're not on fire. Hey, listen to this. A popular vegan Mac and cheese brand just recalled his products because they contain milk. Customers got suspicious when they actually enjoyed it. Some local news today. New York City voted down a plan to build a massive casino in Times Square. Times Square. Elmo was like, good. We gotta keep this neighborhood classy. Hey, I'm out of my vape juice. Hey, Spider man, you got any vape juice?

Hey.

Batman's Batmans, you got any vape juice? Hey, Woody from Toy Story.

You got evj.

Oh, man.

Vape juice.

Guys. Each time it gets longer.

Yeah.

Oh, yeah. Don't even.

Hey, Minion. Hey, Minion, what are you doing? You gotta evade you evade you ties.

It doing lost his mind.

Guys, you have a great show Jason Bateman is here. Jason Bateman, self help author and podcaster, Mel Robbins is join us, stick around, we'll be right back with Jason Bateman. Our first guest is an Emmy nominated.

Actor and Emmy winning director who executive produces, stars in and directs the new series Black Rabbit which premieres tomorrow on Netflix. And everyone please welcome Jason Bateman.

No, no, not tonight. You don't have to work hard tonight. That's Jason, baby. That is right.

That's right.

They love you. We love you. I love you. I love you. And this is the vape juice and the juice Batman. Oh, Spider man.

There's two Spider Man.

[Jason Bateman]

How you doing?

[Jimmy Fallon]

How you doing with this guy? Jason Bate? Oh my goodness, look at this guy. I love Jason Bateman's stuff. Ozark, got a new thing.

[Jason Bateman]

Do the whole segment like this.

[Jimmy Fallon]

The whole thing. 20 minutes long.

[Jason Bateman]

Just commit to it.

[Jimmy Fallon]

Make him switch the channel.

No, don't change the channel.

Do it.

No, don't change the channel. Do it.

Don't change the channel. Jason Bateman.

[Jason Bateman]

Sorry, no Australian.

[Jimmy Fallon]

No Australia.

How you going?

How you going, mate? Yeah. You want any more mate?

[Jason Bateman]

She's right.

[Jimmy Fallon]

Yeah.

[Jason Bateman]

Oh, no, that was British.

[Jimmy Fallon]

Yeah. I was mixed up with the two. I end up talking like a beetle, you know. How's the fam? My two favorite girls. How's your daughters?

[Jason Bateman]

Oh, they're great. How are your daughters? Well, you know, we both have a Franny. He's got a young one. I got an older one.

[Jimmy Fallon]

I love Franny. Franny. Your Franny's going to college?

[Jason Bateman]

My Franny just started college.

[Jimmy Fallon]

She loved it. She was so excited.

[Jason Bateman]

She loves it so much. She loves it too much. She's really into like, you know, she's going to college in the same city that we live. She's in Los Angeles, but she's pretending like she's like, you know, abroad, far from, you know, because she wants her independence and like. And then knock, knock, knock. On Saturday it's time to do the laundry.

[Jimmy Fallon]

Yeah, of course. That's what you gotta do. That's what I would do.

[Jason Bateman]

That's like the washer dryer at that moment. She wants to be a director. She got the director bug, which is really fun for me and exciting. And so she's in film school and that's really cool.

[Jimmy Fallon]

Franny wants to do that.

[Jason Bateman]

Yeah, yeah, yeah. Maple, My youngest daughter is a hell of a little actor. And so she might be going into that. I'm a little conflicted about that. I know, but I don't. I feel like I should Be robbing, you know, liquor stores. Right. That's what young actors end up doing. Right? Somehow I got away with it. I'm on the other side.

[Jimmy Fallon]

Yeah, you don't want. You go ahead.

[Jason Bateman]

I'm on the tonight show at 56, so I'm okay.

[Jimmy Fallon]

Not bad. You're doing great. No, you. No, you. Let me tell you something. You do such a great job and your beautiful wife, Amanda. Great job parenting. You have the best kids. Their heads are screwed on perfectly. Right.

[Jason Bateman]

What about what you and you did with Winnie and Franny?

[Jimmy Fallon]

No, no. I don't know my kids. No, no, no, no. You want to see these kids, Juliet?

They got juice. They got juice.

These kids, they come out here with juice. They're the best kids ever. Are you into Taylor Swift?

[Jason Bateman]

The girls got me into the Swifty a bit, you know, because, you know, you drive them to school and you got to listen to their music, otherwise they get out and walk. So. I did get into Taylor Swift a bit. Went to a concert. Yeah, yeah, yeah. You must have gotten in.

[Jimmy Fallon]

I didn't. No, no. My kids didn't deserve it. No.

[Jason Bateman]

Good.

[Jimmy Fallon]

Good for you.

[Jason Bateman]

You just went solo.

[Jimmy Fallon]

I went by myself. Or you're out of the parking lot. I sit in. Picture my. Yeah, yeah. On this closed area. She smells like cotton candy.

[Jason Bateman]

I got me some bracelets there, too, that I thought.

[Jimmy Fallon]

Just unbelievable.

[Jason Bateman]

Yeah, it was very impressive and really cool, the connection she has with all of those fans.

[Jimmy Fallon]

It's not a bad person that the kids are into. I love her music and I think all that. Do you try to sneak in any of your music?

[Jason Bateman]

I do. I try to filter in a little Zeppelin, Radiohead, Beethoven, cocktail in there, and it just is very confusing to them. And then they get out and they walk.

[Jimmy Fallon]

Do you like all that stuff?

[Jason Bateman]

I do. That's my three go tos and Wilco. You can put a little.

[Jimmy Fallon]

She's got a tricky brain.

[Jason Bateman]

Yeah, but that's it. I like. I know nothing about music. I just stay in. I love that.

[Jimmy Fallon]

How's everything going with Smartless? How's the. How's the other two?

[Jason Bateman]

Everything is great with Smartless. Those two nincompoops, Will Arnett and Sean Hayes, they, they, they, they, they. They keep me afloat.

[Jimmy Fallon]

I'm excited about Will's movie.

[Jason Bateman]

Yeah, Will's movie's fantastic. With Bradley Cooper.

[Jimmy Fallon]

Yeah.

[Jason Bateman]

You guys got to go see that when it comes out later on. It's very good. Called Is this Thing On?

[Jimmy Fallon]

We got you. But are you guys taking it on the road or aren't you doing?

[Jason Bateman]

We're gonna do. We did a year or so ago go on a tour. We're gonna do another live show in LA at the Hollywood bowl, which is like a mind blower to me. I just hope somebody shows up. That's a big place to fill.

[Jimmy Fallon]

It's like 17,000 seats.

[Jason Bateman]

Right. And so I think you can do it. We're assured that there might be interest, but we'll see.

[Jimmy Fallon]

That'd be great if nobody showed up. That would be fantastic, right? Yeah, I would laugh.

[Jason Bateman]

Everybody here, please. November 17th, something like middle of November.

[Jimmy Fallon]

Get out the door, start walking now. You're the funniest guys together making fun of each other and just.

[Jason Bateman]

You were so great on the show. I mean, it's like, you know, talk show hosts are like, obviously, like the greatest guests ever, because you know what you need? You need people to talk. There are some people that come on and they just. Just answer questions like they're being interrogated. No, you know, two word answers don't say too much.

[Jimmy Fallon]

The opposite is. I got to be a commentator at the Olympics last year in Paris. Yeah. And you and Snoop Dogg. Yeah, yeah. Mike Tirico got me on there and I talked way too much and sounded like an idiot. Oh, no. Because I just. I wanted to fill the air and I'm like, mike, they're in the swimming pool and they're swimming and the pool.

[Jason Bateman]

And he's like, Tariko's.

[Jimmy Fallon]

He's looking at me.

[Jason Bateman]

Hey, man.

[Jimmy Fallon]

He actually grabbed my hand at one point.

Oh, no.

Yeah. He's like, you stop talking.

[Jason Bateman]

That's worse than the hook.

[Jimmy Fallon]

Yeah, he grabbed my hand like, chill out, dude.

[Jason Bateman]

He gave you the squeeze.

[Jimmy Fallon]

He squeezed my. Just stop. No, I'm so embarrassed. I'm so embarrassed. Sorry. Mike Tirico, he's a good dude. Oh, my God, he's the worst. But I don't like dead air, so I didn't know. He goes, you should have him on.

[Jason Bateman]

The show and do that to him.

[Jimmy Fallon]

In the middle of one of his stories. Yeah, right. Hey, shush. Yes. Let's talk about your new series, Black Rabbit.

[Jason Bateman]

Black Rabbit. Yeah.

[Jimmy Fallon]

Yeah, yeah, man. Oh, man. You had a look at. Look at how you look in this.

[Jason Bateman]

Who is that girl?

[Jimmy Fallon]

Look at that. Holy mo. Yeah. That's not a cat call the women like it.

[Jason Bateman]

That's a Teen Wolf 2. Ow.

[Jimmy Fallon]

No, no, they love it.

[Jason Bateman]

It looks like Teen Wolf 3. No, Amanda likes it, which is what's important. That's all it can. You know, it's anything that looks a Little bit less like the guy she married is really optimum.

[Jimmy Fallon]

The Internet always wins. And the Internet has a picture of you. And it said Jason Bateman should play a great snarky Jesus.

[Jason Bateman]

With his co star, Justin Theroux.

[Jimmy Fallon]

Oh, yeah. Justin Thero.

[Jason Bateman]

Sweet, sweet Theoreau.

[Jimmy Fallon]

Checking out a Nick game or something. Look at that. Yeah, yeah, yeah. You know, but that was a Dude. You had to keep that beer for a while.

[Jason Bateman]

Yeah, I know. Everyone thought I'd really gone off the deep end, that I'd found myself a, you know, some dealer out in Queens. That was really filling my nights. Yes, but no, it was. It was for Black Rabbit. And it was worth it because this thing turned out. It's fantastic, you guys. I'm so proud of it.

[Jimmy Fallon]

On Netflix.

[Jason Bateman]

On Netflix, yeah.

[Jimmy Fallon]

And you directed the first two.

[Jason Bateman]

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

[Jimmy Fallon]

And it's you and Jude Law.

[Jason Bateman]

Jude Law, just the second coming. This guy. It just. Everything you think Jude Law could be would be, you hope would be. He's more.

[Jimmy Fallon]

He is.

[Jason Bateman]

Oh, he's just. He's everything.

[Jimmy Fallon]

He's everything. He's got the accent.

[Jason Bateman]

Oh, a very believable British accent. I know, I know. He put the little hearts above you. He's the best partner ever.

[Jimmy Fallon]

Yeah, but you two together, that's what I'm talking about. Jason Bateman, Jude Law.

Let's go, let's go, let's go, let's go. Come on, bud.

How do we. How do we set it up? How do we describe.

[Jason Bateman]

We play brothers. He gets rid of the British accent for this, for believability. That we're actually brothers.

[Jimmy Fallon]

Yeah.

[Jason Bateman]

So, you know, it's good. And we own a, like nightclub bar, restaurant in the Lower east side. Some bad stuff happens and you try to figure out who did it. I'm not gonna bore you with the premise. Just tune in and check it out. It's great. If you liked Ozark, which had like, you know, crime and danger. And this is. I got a lot of the. A lot of the same crew. And Laura Linney directs episodes three and four. She's incredible. It's like, it's.

[Jimmy Fallon]

It's good.

[Jason Bateman]

Proud of it.

[Jimmy Fallon]

Jason Bateman, everybody. Black Rabbit premieres tomorrow on Netflix. Check it out. You never tuned to the sounds of the. I was the one that had to press style. Hey, yo. I probably rock with your pop just now. Our next.

Our next guest is an award winning podcast host and the author of this number one New York Times bestseller, the Let Them Theory, which is available now. Please welcome Mel Robbins. Welcome to the Tonight Show. Thank you for being. This is your first late night appearance on any show.

[Mel Robbins]

It is, it is. Thank you.

[Jimmy Fallon]

I'm so honored.

[Mel Robbins]

I'm so honored.

[Jimmy Fallon]

I love you.

I love you. And I. I can't wait to rave about it and tell everyone about this. I'm obsessed. I love self help books.

[Mel Robbins]

You do?

[Jimmy Fallon]

Yeah. I mean, my life is going pretty well, but I like to be kind of reminded about things that I go, oh, yeah, that's a good reminder. And so I heard about this book, and actually, I'm gonna read you some stats about this book. This is about you, Mel Robbins. This has been the number one book on the New York Times, Amazon, and Audible every single week since it came out eight months ago.

What? Get ready, get ready, get ready.

Look, your face is turning red. You're getting embarrassed. It is a global phenomenon that has been translated into 63 languages. It has sold 7 million copies. It is on track to become the fastest selling nonfiction book in history.

And your podcast, the Mel Robbins Podcast, has half a billion downloads. What is going on? We did it. We did it. We did it together. We did it together. Together.

Oh, my goodness. That is amazing to read all those stats.

[Mel Robbins]

I keep looking to see if you're talking about somebody else.

[Jimmy Fallon]

No, this is you, bud. How is it all feeling? Do you understand how large this has become?

[Mel Robbins]

Well, I think it's extraordinarily humbling.

[Jimmy Fallon]

Yeah.

[Mel Robbins]

I'm also just thrilled that in today's world, people are excited to read a book.

[Jimmy Fallon]

Yeah.

[Mel Robbins]

And they're excited to read something and listen to something that could help them improve their lives. And I'll also say that given that just 16 years ago, I was almost a million dollars in debt and blowing everything up in my life and barely able to get out of bed, the fact that at the age of 50, I can have turned my life around and built something this incredible like, it just blows me away. And it proves that you can change your life, too. You really can.

[Jimmy Fallon]

And I know your daughter helped a lot out with this.

[Mel Robbins]

Oh, yeah, Sawyer. Yes.

[Jimmy Fallon]

Sawyer, who I met backstage and I love. She's in the book and you talk about her. It's great.

[Mel Robbins]

We wrote this together.

[Jimmy Fallon]

Yeah. She's brilliant.

[Mel Robbins]

That's how I know it works. Cause when you work with your kids, it seems like a dream, but you want to kill each other.

[Jimmy Fallon]

Yeah. Yeah.

But it's worth it.

[Mel Robbins]

Yes. Yes.

[Jimmy Fallon]

For people that aren't familiar with the book yet, I don't know who that person is, but what is the let them theory?

[Mel Robbins]

So it's a simple truth about life.

[Jimmy Fallon]

Okay.

[Mel Robbins]

If you want more peace, if you want more power, if you want more time and energy, stop trying to control and change other people and learn how to let them be who they are. Let them have their opinions, let them do what they're gonna do, and then focus that time and energy back on yourself. That's all that it is.

[Jimmy Fallon]

Yeah. Control the thing that you can control, which is you.

[Mel Robbins]

Yes.

[Jimmy Fallon]

And your reaction to things.

[Mel Robbins]

Yes. And it's very simple. And it is mind blowing to see it just spreading around the world and helping people.

[Jimmy Fallon]

Yeah. People are getting tattoos.

[Mel Robbins]

Yes.

[Jimmy Fallon]

Say let them.

[Mel Robbins]

Yes. Yes, they are. I'll tell you why. Cuz other people are really annoying. And so you need that reminder.

[Jimmy Fallon]

The reminder. Look at the tattoo go. Let them be annoying. You be the best annoying person you can always be. Yeah.

[Mel Robbins]

Yes, yes, yes. But that's the point. Because other people are gonna do what they're gonna do, and they are really annoying. Whether they're like slow walkers or the close talkers. Drive me crazy.

[Jimmy Fallon]

Yeah. I had a good, real close talker the other day.

[Mel Robbins]

Yes.

[Jimmy Fallon]

I thought we were gonna kiss.

[Mel Robbins]

Oh, God, yes. Well, let them get in and then let me pull back.

[Jimmy Fallon]

Right, Exactly. Yeah, Right, exactly. Yeah.

[Mel Robbins]

And so when you say let them, you recognize that you can't control this other person, but your time and energy is way more valuable than allowing them to drain you.

[Jimmy Fallon]

And stre I'm gonna ask you. It sounds simple. It's so good. And I want to ask you why you think everyone has loved this and embraced this. But I will tell you, one of my reasons is because you're funny as well. You have a great sense of humor. And the book is actually so funny. You tell personal stories. You're not afraid to just go there and embarrass yourself, and you tell these really funny, good stories. And I loved it. I didn't want the book to end, but why do you think it's spread globally?

[Mel Robbins]

Well, the number one cause of stress in everybody's life is other people.

[Jimmy Fallon]

There you go.

[Mel Robbins]

And here's the thing. We can't control other people. What they do, what they say, their opinions or behavior, if they change, if they don't change. But you can control how much space they occupy in your mind and how much they stress you out. And when you start protecting your time and energy from everything out there, you recognize how much time and energy you now have so you can focus on yourself. So one reason why is it works. It gets rid of the biggest form of stress that everybody Has. Protects you from other people's annoying behavior. Second reason, as you read it, and you realize, this is so simple. Wow. This reminds me of stoicism. This reminds me of the Serenity Prayer. This reminds me of things my grandmother used to tell me. And so you're being reminded of what you know to be true. Third reason, as you read it, you're like, oh, my God, my mother needs this. Oh, my sister needs this.

[Jimmy Fallon]

Needs this. Yeah.

[Mel Robbins]

My wife needs this.

[Jimmy Fallon]

My friend needs this. Yeah.

[Mel Robbins]

And because you've been trying to change everybody else in your life. Cause, let's face it, why do we have families? It teaches you how to love people you hate sometimes. And so, you know, you're like, I've been trying to change you for years, and it's not working. It's just stressing me out. Now you're pissing me off. I'll tell you what. I'm gonna turn you over to Mel Robbins.

[Jimmy Fallon]

Yeah. Let her take care of it.

[Mel Robbins]

Keeps giving it really is loving you as you are, that's the hardest thing. Love isn't changing people. Love is learning how to see people as they are and as they're not. And the hardest thing for me to accept. I mean, I didn't figure this out till I was 54. Is that other people are gonna change when they feel like changing for themselves. They don't change for you. And the more you pressure other people to change, the more they're gonna resist it. And so. Yeah. And not change.

[Jimmy Fallon]

Yeah.

[Mel Robbins]

It's so much easier than I was making life. I'm glad that you love it, and I do. I'm glad that you thought it was hilarious, because I'm the villain in the book.

[Jimmy Fallon]

Kind of. Yeah. But also the hero. Yeah, a little bit. Also the hero as well. But I read it, but I also got it on audible because I like your voice and I like your. You have a funny delivery. You have a good voice. So I like your podcast and stuff as well, but so I have both. I have a lot Mel Robbins in my life. Yeah.

[Mel Robbins]

Well, thank you for still showing up tonight.

[Jimmy Fallon]

Oh, I love. No, but we have a big announcement because you're going back on tour, bud.

[Mel Robbins]

I am going back.

[Jimmy Fallon]

Let's talk about this.

I am.

[Mel Robbins]

We're announcing it here.

[Jimmy Fallon]

You're announcing it right now here on the Tonight Show. You're going out the Let Them Tour.

You start in where? You're in Australia.

[Mel Robbins]

We're starting in New Zealand and Australia.

[Jimmy Fallon]

New Zealand and Australia. Yeah.

[Mel Robbins]

And then we're coming back to the States and to Canada. And, you know, I'll tell you, when you host a podcast, you don't see anybody, of course. And so I'm not really thinking of the millions and millions of people that listen every week.

[Jimmy Fallon]

Isn't it cool?

[Mel Robbins]

Yes.

[Jimmy Fallon]

It's unbelievable to see all the people that you've helped and talked to and you go, yeah, and it's fun. And everyone just, yeah, yeah, it's gonna be great. And not only are you doing that, but something else. Cool. Everybody in our audience is getting a copy of the Leftbend.

That's what I'm talking about. You are the best. Mel Robbins, everybody. The Left Bend Theory is out now. Stick around. We'll be right back with more to Elijah. My thanks to Jason Bathan, Mel Robbins and the Roots right there from Philadelphia of Pennsylvania. Good night, everybody. Thank you. Get involved better get involved get, get, get involved get into it do it, get into it and you said in your city. Just to let you know in front of us. That's right. Starter show hard working Mr. Dy7 work, work, work, work, work, work, work hold it up Going up y Get involved better get involved get, get, get involved get into it thank you.

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