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Every person in this life experiences wounds; from small misunderstandings to deep betrayals. In this practical and deeply personal message, Rev. Dr. Jonita Fair-Payton walks us through the 5 essential stages of relational healing: The Wound, The Debt, The Forgiveness, The Repair, and The Peace. Diving into Jesus's parable of the unforgiving servant in Matthew 18 and Paul's instructions to the church in Colossians 3, Dr. Fair-Payton dismantles common myths about forgiveness- explaining why releasing a debt isn't the same as pretending a wound never happened, why "forgive and forget" can be dangerous, and how true relational repair requires honesty, humility, and time.

What causes fights, quarrels, and division in our closest relationships? In week two of our Flourishing Relationships series, Pastor Devon unpacks the hard-hitting truths of James 4:1–10. Through powerful personal illustrations, from an incredible story about his father's historic heart transplant to a funny, eye-opening moment on a Houston freeway, Pastor Devon shows why our hearts so easily reject the "new thing" God is trying to do horizontally in our human relationships. Discover how a scarcity mindset fuels conflict, why isolated emotions trick us into imaginary arguments, and how tuning into the Holy Spirit allows us to see people through the lens of their future grace rather than their unfinished present.

We are all looking for the secret to a happy life and flourishing relationships. But whether we are single, married, old, or young, many of us struggle because our love has become disordered. In the kickoff message of our new series, Flourishing Relationships, Pastor Kelly Edmiston unpacks Jesus' summary of the law in Matthew 22: to love God with all our heart, soul, and mind, and to love our neighbor as ourselves. Drawing from a funny reflection on a 64-year marriage, a look at the ancient Shema, and a gentle check on codependency, Pastor Kelly shows why placing a spouse, partner, or friend in the place of God sets everyone up to fail. Learn why flourishing relationships aren't simply found; they are formed when God becomes the organizing center of our lives.

Anger is one of the most difficult emotions to process. For many of us, it has either not been modeled well, or the only model we have is anger that morphs into harmful aggression. I n the final week of our series, Pastor Abigail Olds flips the script on how we view this complex emotion, breaking down why anger, by itself, is actually a flashing sign pointing to where God's kingdom is not yet reigning. Looking at the raw, unfiltered cries of David in Psalms 59, 109, and 44, this message invites us to treat God as the safest space for our big feelings. Through transparent personal stories, including a hilarious toddler dress-up tantrum and a grueling season spent on an ICU floor, Pastor Abigail shows us that bringing our raw, un-civiled anger to God is the essential first step toward true healing and spirit-led transformation.

What do you do when you lose the one thing your entire life is oriented around? In week five of our summer series, Pastor Kelly walks us through the heavy but necessary emotion of sadness using Psalm 137. Drawing a parallel to the treacherous Khumbu Icefall on Mount Everest, Pastor Kelly breaks down why we cannot over, under, or around our grief; we have to go straight through it. We explore the biblical tool of lament, defining it not as a lack of faith, but as a profound act of faith. Whether you are dealing with a clinical diagnosis or the ordinary heartbreaks of life, this episode is an invitation to stop stonewalling God with your silence and instead bring your rawest stories to a loving Savior who sits right beside us in the dark.

Did you know that disgust is actually a survival tool designed by God to keep you alive? In week four of our series, Pastor Trey tackles one of our most uncomfortable emotions: disgust. Looking at Psalms 119, 38, and 44, this message moves us past simply feeling our feelings into learning how to respond rather than just react. We walk through three heavy realities: being disgusted by the actions of others, facing the festering brokenness within ourselves, and the raw, staggering moments when we feel disgusted by the actions of God. Finally, Pastor Trey connects this ancient practice to our modern landscape, showing why holistic worship requires us to hold space for both celebration and deep lament.

Drawing powerful parallels between Galatians 4:1-7, the delayed news of Juneteenth, and modern stories of incarceration, Pastor Devon Johnson explores how easily believers can live trapped in a slave mindset despite already being set free. This message challenges us to stop fighting a war that Christ has already won, urging us to step out of spiritual isolation and fully embrace our identity as beloved heirs of the Father.

Many of us grow up with the underlying belief that the ultimate goal of the Christian life is to be happy all the time. But the truth is, Jesus wasn't always happy; He experienced the full scope of human emotion without ever breaking relationship with the Father. In this week's message, Pastor Brian walks us through Psalm 8 and the permission to feel happiness and joy. Drawing from Walter Brueggemann's framework of orientation, disorientation, and new orientation, this episode explores what to do when life aligns beautifully, how to handle the dark seasons of trauma and panic attacks, and how supernatural joy can ultimately coexist with our deepest grief.

What would you do if you were not afraid? In week two of our summer series, Lead Pastor Kelly tackles the heavy, universal emotion of fear and anxiety. Looking at Psalm 55, we dive into King David's raw cry during a painful season of betrayal by a close friend. We explore our instinctual trauma responses: fight, flight, freeze, or fawn, and learn that fear was never meant to be the CEO of our lives, but rather an assistant giving us critical information. Discover the ancient, life-changing shift from trying to self-regulate alone to co-regulating with God and a safe church community.

When we invite Jesus into our hearts, we often try to bury our past, our trauma, and our pain, hoping it will all just vanish. But neglected emotions don't disappear; they are stored inside of us. In this series opener, we look at why unexpressed feelings always find a way out, and how the Book of Psalms has served as humanity's guide to emotional processing for millennia. Diving into Psalm 73 and the unexpected core emotion of surprise, this episode tackles the deep confusion we face when life doesn't go according to our plans, and the beautiful way God meets us when we are disillusioned.