Tony Overbay, LMFT, tackles an emotion we've all felt but rarely discuss: shame. Have you ever wondered why shame feels so personal, so all-consuming? Could it be that shame is actually... selfish?

Inspired by a pivotal scene from the Apple TV series 'Presumed Innocent', Tony unravels the tangled web of shame and guilt. He asks: What if our shame is holding us back more than we realize? Is it possible that by focusing on our shame, we're actually being self-absorbed?

Tony dives deep into the origins of these complex emotions and their surprising impacts on our personal growth and relationships. He offers practical strategies for recognizing and overcoming shame, emphasizing the power of self-awareness and acceptance.

But here's the kicker - what if shame isn't just about you? Tony explores how understanding shame can transform our empathy and support for others. He challenges listeners to question: Are we using shame as a shield when it's actually a barrier to genuine connection?

Whether you're grappling with your own feelings of shame or trying to support someone who is, this episode promises insights that could change how you view yourself and others. Ready to unmask shame and discover a path to authentic self-esteem?

In this episode of 'The Virtual Couch,' host Tony Overbay shares his transformative epiphany from watching the Apple TV series 'Presumed Innocent.' He dives into the profound distinctions between shame and guilt, using a key scene from the show as a focal point. Tony explores how these concepts relate to personal growth and therapy, offering practical tools and insights to help listeners better understand and manage their own experiences with shame. This episode aims to foster a healthier relationship with oneself and promote emotional awareness and self-compassion.

00:00 Introduction and Epiphany

00:51 Setting the Stage: Presumed Innocent

01:53 The Epiphany: Guilt vs. Shame

02:39 Exploring Discomfort and Reactions

04:20 Understanding Shame and Its Origins

07:38 The Selfishness of Shame

19:30 Implicit Memory and Thought Patterns

25:59 Transforming Negative Thoughts

26:24 Creating Space for Positive Experiences

27:30 The Journey of Changing Your Internal Landscape

29:36 Understanding and Managing Discomfort

32:01 The Concept of First and Second Darts

32:49 Stages of Growth and Self-Awareness

39:12 The Role of Shame and Guilt

42:42 Applying Compassion and Empathy

45:13 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

Shame: The Self-Absorbed, Selfish, Uninvited Guest at Your Self-Esteem Party (and how to get them to leave!)

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