“In what way am I an example? In what way am I a warning?”

-Ariane de Bonvoisin

Ariane de Bonvoisin is a best-selling author, international speaker, entrepreneur, and change optimist. She is a renowned expert in leadership, change, and personal transformation with a global audience, speaking and coaching at major companies such as Google, Twitter, Morgan Stanley and more, bringing practical tools for resilience, energy management, and leading through transition.

In this conversation, Ariane and Andy delve into the world of parenting; the significance of imbuing our approach to raising children with compassion, non-judgment, and an empathetic normalization of what makes us human. Through exploration of both the inner and outer worlds of ourselves and our children, and a willingness to allow our children to see themselves through us rather than looking at us for pre-prescribed expectations of how to be, we may better uplift them in their lifelong journeys of self-discovery.

“Throwing Children” by Ross Gay It is really something when a kid who has a hard time becomes a kid who’s having a good time in no small part thanks to you throwing that kid in the air again and again on a mile long walk home from the Indian joint as her mom looks sideways at you like you don’t need to keep doing this because you’re pouring with sweat and breathing a little bit now you’re getting a good workout but because the kid laughs like a horse up there laughs like a kangaroo beating her wings against the light because she laughs like a happy little kid and when coming down and grabbing your forearm to brace herself for the time when you will drop her which you don’t and slides her hand into yours as she says for the fortieth time the fiftieth time inexhaustible her delight again again again and again and you say give me til the redbud tree or give me til the persimmon tree because she knows the trees and so quiet you almost can’t hear through her giggles she says ok til the next tree when she explodes howling yanking your arm from the socket again again all the wolves and mourning doves flying from her tiny throat and you throw her so high she lives up there in the tree for a minute she notices the ants organizing on the bark and a bumblebee carousing the little unripe persimmon in its beret she laughs and laughs as she hovers up there like a bumblebee like a hummingbird up there giggling in the light like a giddy little girl up there the world knows how to love.

Show Notes:

* https://www.arianedebonvoisin.com

* TED Talk: The Skills We Need to Teach Our Kids by Ariane de Bonvoisin

* KidQuest

* Interview: The Three Levels of Trust in Parenting

* Interview: How to Raise Children Who Embrace Change

* “5 Things We Most Project Onto Our Kids” by Ariane de Bonvoisin for Psychology Today

* “Learning to Trust Your Child and Yourself” by Ariane de Bonvoisin for Psychology Today

* “Ariane de Bonvoisin: The Executive Coach Leaders Call to Help Navigate Change and Uncertainty” by Lindsay Jeffords for NY Weekly

Connect with Andy:

* LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrewjcahill/

* Instagram: https://instagram.com/wonderdomepodcast

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#177 Wholehearted Parenting (with Ariane de Bonvoisin)