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Why do we keep attracting the same type of people? This week, Erin and Sara sit down with relationship expert Shane Kohler to unpack why we keep falling for the wrong people, why "playing it cool" can backfire, why ghosting hurts so much, and how our nervous systems shape our relationships.

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