Lyle (63:38)
Hey, guys, I'm gonna end this episode by doing some viewer mail. I've been enjoying the hy mail phone call approach, so let's do that. Let's read some viewer mail. And again, if you want to send in any viewer mail, you can send it to therapygeckomailmail.com and without further ado, let's read some viewer mail to end the gecko session today. Okay, this is from Klein. Subject I don't like being the quiet guy. Hey, Lyle. My name is Klein. For some reason, I often get referred to as being a quiet person. I don't have an issue with talking to people, but I don't initially start conversations, and I get confused as to why people find this to be an issue. I talk a lot around my friends, but I don't have the urge to strike up a conversation with strangers or people I don't know. I don't see awkward silences as awkward. I find silence peaceful, and yet I feel like it's expected in American culture to just talk to people. But I don't see much of a point in making small talk. I like to chime into conversations if I have something funny or interesting to say, but not if I don't see a reason to spout nonsense. I recognize that I'm more of an introverted person, but I don't like being labeled as the quiet guy. The label is almost always worded in a negative connotation, like it feels like people look at me and expect that I contribute more whenever I feel content and comfortable with how I act. Currently, do I just accept this label and learn not to take it so personally, or do I try to change and work on Talking more. I've gotten better at making small talk by asking questions, but I could probably work on it more if I wanted to. Thanks, Klein. You know, Klein, it's funny, cuz there are certain situations. I'll just talk about myself for a second. There's certain situations in which I feel very introverted and like, I don't really want to talk to people. Not even because I'm like, shy or nervous. But yeah, I'm with you about where I'm like. And I really feel the need to talk to these people or be a part of this conversation. Like, you know, if I want to talk to someone, I'll talk to them. If I don't really care that much, I won't. And it can feel weird sometimes. But I'm gonna. I'm gonna run a quote by you. It's a good quote. It's by some dead guy. Let's see. Let's see which dead guy this quote is by. I'll say the quote first. It is better to stay silent and be thought a fool than to open your mouth and remove all doubt. Who said that? Some fucking guy who's fucking dead. It is better to stay silent and be thought of. Who said that? That was. Was it throw. Oh, it was this guy, Arthur Burn. I think it was Arthur Burns. Wait, Abraham Lincoln. Okay. It's a bunch of different dead guys came together to say that. But it doesn't matter because it doesn't matter anyway. It's true. I do believe that in a sense. I do believe that, like, there is power to silence. And I've. Dude, I've noticed that if you're in a group of people and you're staying silent, if you choose. If you very strategically choose when to talk, people will actually listen to you. Whereas if you just keep fucking blabbering on and you're not even being intentional, nobody will. You know, it's like you'll get talked over. But I think, Yeah, I do think that you could learn to accept the label and not take it personally. You're asking if you should try to change and work on talking more. You could. I mean, is that something you really want to do? I think, I think you. You seem like you do like people. You don't seem like you are like a misandrist or anything like that. You don't seem like you hate being around people or you're violently shy or anything like that, but just that you kind of are like, I don't need to be in this conversation right now, but I don't I think. I think that even. Even introverted people, they want to connect with others, and I get the sense that you want to connect with others. You wrote here, you said, it feels like people look at me and expect that I contribute more whenever I feel content and comfortable with how I act currently. Do you feel content and comfortable with how you are currently? Because that's the most important thing. Like, there's two types of versions of you that you could be. You could be a guy who really wants to connect with people and really wants to be a part of these conversations, but it's just feeling a little shy and whatever. And that case, it might be better to. It might be good to kind of learn and force yourself to talk to other people. Or you could be a guy that's like, I'm just completely quietly confident in who I am, and I don't need to chime in on a useless conversation to prove that to anybody. So I would think about whichever one of those people that you really feel like you are inside and act accordingly. This is from Jake. Subject line, Ketamine saved me. Hey, Geck, Love ya. My name is Crash. It's, you know, people, the name in the email. Maybe I should just make all the emails anonymous or whatever. Who cares, Jake, Crash. Doesn't matter. Hi, Geck. Love ya. My name is Crash. Been a fan for a long time. I know the email is odd, but it stands for proof that UTH are revolving. Oh, he's talking about his email address. I'm not gonna read your email address. Okay, but anyways, Ketamine. I always thought it was just a dissociative, which it is, but I thought it meant, oh, you can't talk to your hands or whatever. But no, it turns everything wonky. It is the drug that when drugs are portrayed. It is the drug that when drugs are portrayed on movies. Okay, the way this email is written is a little difficult, so I'm gonna. I'm gonna. I'm gonna read this. What is it? Ad hoc. Is that right? What does ad hoc mean? Ad hoc. Okay. Yeah, that sort of makes sense. Okay. Yeah, I think. Okay, I'm gonna read this. Ad hoc. I'm gonna just correct his errors in my. Okay. It is the drug that is similar to how drugs are portrayed on movies. It's a fever trip. It's a. It's a fever dream. It's a trip. But it has no bad side, no other side. It's heavy and light. It doesn't make sense, but it makes all the sense. It's Perspective. It can make you feel massive and tiny at the same time. I have heard of K therapy and boy, it's real. You won't have the ego death, but you will understand that we are the directors of life. Like a movie, it pulls back the curtain so that your perspective changes. I don't think you are depressed. I think you see it from the wrong angle. Some good K will change how you see things. The trip reminds me of traveling the surface tension bubble of a water the trip reminds me of traveling the surface tension bubble of water on a quarter. It's the whole thing, plus some without breaking. Anyways, love you, Geck. Your docs are amazing. You've been helpful to so many. Stay Green. Stay Lyle. Love Crash. Thank you. Crash. Did you write this while you were on the ketamine, were you doing ketamine? Were you doing like actual ketamine therapy? Or were you just like recreationally doing ketamine? Because I've been trying. I've been really considering I was gonna do that today. Making an appointment for ketamine therapy. I've been really thinking about it because, you know, as everyone who listens to this podcast knows, I won't shut the fuck up about existential stuff. And my understanding is that ketamine is helpful for depression and that it's helpful for those things. So I kind of want to give it a try. Yeah, I don't know. Well, if this, if this guy Crash says it's good, then I should do it. Maybe. Okay. This is from. Oh, here we go.
