Have we been blaming screens for rising anxiety when the real problem is something else entirely?

A new study suggests that perfectionism—not screen time—may be one of the biggest drivers of anxiety in young people. In this episode, Toni and Jackie explore why perfectionism has increased over the past several decades, how economic pressures and social expectations fuel it, and why technology may be amplifying a problem that was already growing.

They discuss the difference between healthy ambition and unhealthy perfectionism, why fear of failure can keep us from trying new things, and how parents can help children develop resilience instead of impossible standards. Along the way, they share personal stories about school, achievement, and learning to embrace the process rather than chasing perfection.

Whether you're raising children, navigating your own perfectionist tendencies, or simply wondering why anxiety seems more common than ever, this conversation offers practical insights and a hopeful perspective.

In this episode:

Why researchers say perfectionism may be driving today's anxiety epidemic
How social media reinforces impossible expectations
The role economic pressure plays in mental health
Healthy achievement vs. perfectionism
Why resilience requires failure
Helicopter parents, lawnmower parents, and helping kids thrive
Finding joy in hobbies without turning them into side hustles

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