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This week we've been reflecting on a simple biblical principle that's actually applicable to the whole of life, but especially to this frenetic season of the year. The principle that what we need is the expulsive power of a new affection for Jesus Christ. Christmas can be a lonely time for us, so that even when we're surrounded by other people, perhaps some of us feel the words of Lamentations, Chapter 1, Verse 12 are our words too. Is it nothing to you? All you who pass by, look and see if there is any sorrow like my sorrow. Perhaps this Christmas we have a special personal burden that nobody around us really shares. Perhaps if you've had some special loss, you may well feel that while the rest of the world seems to have moved on, you are left on your own. But whatever our situation, anxious and burdened, sad or excited and full of eager anticipation, what we all need is a new affection for the Lord Jesus. And that's not something we can work up. Only the Lord Jesus himself can give us that new affection through His Holy Spirit. It needs to come from the outside to the inside and not the other way around. I very rarely mention my family in public. It's a no go area for us, and especially for me. Especially if any of the family are present. They would give me a very hard time. And I learned this lesson when I said to our congregation that one of our children had done something. And then I added, I won't tell you which one she is. I have three sons and only one daughter, and I never made the same mistake again. But I think I'm safe in telling you this story from our family history. It was Christmas season, and in the Sunday school classes in church, the children were making Christmas cards for their moms and dads, and one of our young sons came home and cheerfully handed his creation to us. There was the statutory stable scene and inside the carefully chosen Bible verse, and our son had come up with a text that was just a little different for Christmas. We opened the card to find, stretched across the inside, the words From Proverbs, chapter 18, verse 24, in bold letters, that there are friends who pretend to be friends. You'll probably remember how the verse ends, but when we saw only those words on the card, I almost felt as though he was exposing us as pretend friends. But then he added in smaller letters the words but there is a friend, followed by a whole series of dots that ran to the edge of the card and left us anticipating what might be on the back of it. And after a moment of puzzle we turned over the page to find the conclusion of the matter. There are friends who pretend to be friends, but there is a friend, and on the back, the single word Jesus. We smiled with a twofold joy, partly at the sheer imagination of our little boy making use of a relatively obscure text in scripture at Christmas time, but largely because of the message itself. I don't know how much he knew as a little boy about seeing how the Old Testament points to Christ, but he'd certainly nailed it there, hadn't he? Yes, there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother. And yes, his name is the name that he was given from his birth, Jesus, because he'll save his people from their sins. I still think about that Christmas card and the emotions that were encapsulated for me in just a few seconds. There is a friend who sticks closer than a brother, Jesus, and it's knowing this that leads to the expulsive power of a new affection. I know that's a trivial story, and I know family stories can mean a lot to us when they mean almost nothing to anybody else. But I think this thought might help some of us. It might contribute to dispelling the gloom or the sense of loneliness we feel at Christmas time for whatever reason. So here is an audible Christmas card. It's got a stable scene on the front. It's got unusual wording inside. And you read, there are friends who pretend to be friends, and that's for sure. And perhaps you feel it keenly. But read on. There is a friend who sticks closer than a brother. Is that it? Well, not quite. You need to turn the page, because on the back page of my card, you will find this one word, this one name, Jesus. He is the expulsive power in your life of a new affection that will dispel loneliness even if you're on your own. And I pray that that will be true for all of us today.
Title: A Friend Who Sticks Closer
Date: December 17, 2025
Host: Sinclair B. Ferguson (Ligonier Ministries)
In this reflective devotional episode, Sinclair B. Ferguson explores the deep spiritual comfort found in Jesus’ abiding friendship, especially during the Christmas season—a time that can heighten feelings of loneliness and personal burden. Drawing from both Scripture and a heartfelt family anecdote, Ferguson invites listeners to experience the "expulsive power of a new affection" for Christ, the only friend who unfailingly stays closer than a brother.
[00:07]
Ferguson acknowledges how Christmas, despite its festivities, can be a deeply lonely time, even when surrounded by others.
He quotes Lamentations 1:12 to capture the sense of abandonment some may feel:
“Is it nothing to you? All you who pass by, look and see if there is any sorrow like my sorrow.”
Personal or unshared burdens can intensify during the holiday season, making individuals feel isolated while the rest of the world moves on.
[02:05]
The central principle:
“What we all need is a new affection for the Lord Jesus. And that's not something we can work up. Only the Lord Jesus himself can give us that new affection through His Holy Spirit. It needs to come from the outside to the inside and not the other way around.”
Ferguson stresses that spiritual renewal is a gift, not a self-generated effort.
[03:10]
Ferguson, typically private about family, shares a rare personal story.
His young son made a Christmas card with a non-traditional verse: Proverbs 18:24.
The card read:
“There are friends who pretend to be friends...”
(with ellipses running to the card’s edge)
Turning the card revealed:
“But there is a friend,” and on the back, the single word: “Jesus.”
This imaginative use of an "obscure text" at Christmas was both amusing and moving, illustrating the unique insight children can have into the Gospel.
[05:20]
Ferguson connects the verse to its ultimate fulfillment in Christ:
“Yes, there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother. And yes, his name is the name that he was given from his birth, Jesus, because he'll save his people from their sins.”
The story symbolizes how the presence of Christ brings comfort, especially amid personal loss or loneliness.
[07:00]
On spiritual renewal and new affection:
"Only the Lord Jesus himself can give us that new affection through His Holy Spirit. It needs to come from the outside to the inside and not the other way around."
(Sinclair B. Ferguson, 02:15)
On feeling exposed by his child’s card:
"I almost felt as though he was exposing us as pretend friends. But then he added in smaller letters the words 'but there is a friend...' and after a moment of puzzle, we turned over the page to find the conclusion... Jesus."
(Sinclair B. Ferguson, 04:15)
The culmination of the gospel in the child’s creativity:
"Yes, there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother. And yes, his name is the name that he was given from his birth, Jesus, because he'll save his people from their sins."
(Sinclair B. Ferguson, 05:20)
Summing up the takeaway:
"He is the expulsive power in your life of a new affection that will dispel loneliness even if you're on your own. And I pray that that will be true for all of us today."
(Sinclair B. Ferguson, 08:10)
With gentle encouragement and personal warmth, Sinclair Ferguson reminds listeners that, regardless of one’s circumstances, the closeness and love of Jesus Christ can dispel even the deepest loneliness. The episode frames Jesus not merely as an abstract theological figure but as the ever-present, compassionate friend who is the answer to the soul’s need for connection and affection, particularly in the Christmas season.