
Zach Mack and his dad try to mend a rift between them in a very unusual way.
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Zach Mack
I think we all have people in our lives who we love, but there's no talking to them. They have their way of seeing things or doing things. It's hard to take. And no matter how you try to talk it out, it goes nowhere, doesn't get solved, even if they also want things to change. We're devoting our entire show today to a story like that. It's from Zach Mack, who's a reporter, and the story is about him and his dad and how they both wanted to mend a rift that had grown between them that lasted for years. But they couldn't figure out how until Zach's dad offered a very surprising way out. That's going to be our whole show today. His dad's unusual solution and how it played out. That's all I'm going to say for now. From WBEZ Chicago, CIS American Life, I'm Ira Glass, and with that, I turn things over to Zach.
This all started about a year ago. My father called and left me this message.
Zach's Dad
Hey Zach, dad again, good conversation last week. Last night. Hey, I didn't remember to tell you this because I was kind of tired, but they're going to. They're going to shut us down again, and it's going to be a worse shutdown than 2020. Because of this EMP, all the supply lines are going to be disrupted. So you really want to store up two months worth of food and water? Because they probably won't be able to pump water throughout the city because that's all controlled by computers and electronics. And the EMP is going to shut down everything electronic.
Zach Mack
My dad's talking about something called an electromagnetic pulse, EMP for short, which I only know about because it's what George Clooney uses in the movie Ocean's Eleven to pull off the casino heist.
Zach's Dad
What's a pinch?
Zach Mack
A pinch is a device which creates like a cardiac arrest for any broadband electrical circuitry, an electromagnetic pulse which shuts down any power Source within its blast radius.
Zach's Dad
You should buy enough water.
Zach Mack
I can't remember a single other time dad left me a message expressing a safety concern, but he was really convinced this was gonna happen. At one point, he even did a little math for how much water I would need to survive.
Zach's Dad
So I would buy, you know, 60 times 10, which is 600 ounces. I know, I know it sounds like conspiracy theory, but they're going to do this. This is what they're planning, and I just want to have you be prepared. Okay?
Zach Mack
Okay. So just a little background. I wouldn't describe my father as a paranoid person. I wouldn't even call him an anxious person. He's actually an optimist and usually prefers to keep things light. So a lot of dad jokes. What else? He's held down the same job forever. He has friends. Not close ones, but there's dudes he goes skiing and sailing with. When I was growing up, dad was kind of in his own world. Mom was always the more involved parent, the one who knew all my friends and whatever was going on with me. Dad and I have never been particularly close. Typically, when I hear from him on the phone, it's during an Ohio State football game. We both love the Buckeyes, so during a game, he'll call me, like, five or six times. But not much beyond games, though. Ohio State football is, like, the one thing we can't agree on. The thing we can't seem to agree on is reality. Like so many people, Dad's gotten swept up in conspiracies. Lately, he's been talking about chemtrails, that the government can control, the weather. That January 6th was staged by what he calls the deep state. As he's gotten more extreme in the last few years, I've seen my mom and sister retract and shut down around him. I'm typically the one who challenges dad on this stuff. Because I'm a reporter, I can't resist taking the bait.
Zach's Dad
It's called denying us freedom of speech. No, it's called denying us freedom of speech.
Zach Mack
It's misinformation.
Zach's Dad
No. Who gets the right to label it misinformation?
Zach Mack
Of course, it never goes anywhere. Until a year ago, after a family blowout over the holidays, the that was so bad, my sister and I left early. I decided to confront my father. I could see how his beliefs were starting to strain the family, and I worried that pretty soon there may be no coming back for him. I told him I thought he was being radicalized online and pleaded with him to hear me as always, he didn't agree. But what he did next surprised me. Dad texted me a photo of a sheet of paper where, in his barely legible cursive, he had written out a list of 10 predictions, 10 things that he was positive would all take place sometime in 2024, assuring me that when all of these things happened, I would see once and for all that he was right. At the bottom of the page was a challenge to a bet for $10,000. And let me just say, dad and I are not big gamblers, nor are we rich. 10k is easily more money than either of us has ever wagered. Looking over the list, I was a combination of surprised, horrified, and also, it was a little hard to take seriously. I immediately called him up to discuss the terms of the bet. Do you have the list in front of you? Because you. You.
Zach's Dad
Yeah, yeah.
Zach Mack
Can you walk me through the. The one through ten? I just want to add each one. I'll probably have a couple clarifying questions.
Zach's Dad
Yeah, absolutely.
Zach Mack
Keep in mind, this call took place back in January 2024.
Zach's Dad
Number one, Obama will be found guilty of treason in 2024.
Zach Mack
So, like, by a court.
Zach's Dad
Yes.
Zach Mack
Okay. Not the court of public opinion.
Zach's Dad
Correct.
Zach Mack
Okay. And then number two.
Zach's Dad
Oh, yeah. Biden will be found guilty of treason in 2024.
Zach Mack
Just treason. For something specific.
Zach's Dad
For selling all those secrets that he had in the back of his Corvette.
Zach Mack
I don't know if that's a joke. I'm not sure.
Zach's Dad
It's partially a joke, but it's also real. I mean, it could.
Zach Mack
It went on like this. All political. Dad's other predictions were that Nancy Pelosi would also be convicted of treason. Same for Bill and Hillary Clinton, who would go down for murder as well. That Trump would be reinstated without an election and cleared of all charges, that Biden would be removed from office. Same for both the governor and mayor of New York. And as a New York City resident, I didn't hate that last one. You know that one. I'm actually kind of hopeful we get that one, because I don't really love Eric Adams. He's kind of an idiot. So I'm with you on that one.
Zach's Dad
Yep. He's a total idiot, and I'm impressed that you see that. So good one we can both cheer for.
Zach Mack
Eventually, we landed on his final prediction for 2024, his boldest one.
Zach's Dad
Number 10. I threw this in because I thought you'd be excited about it.
Zach Mack
Yeah, it's an exciting one. It's probably the most exciting 1.
Zach's Dad
The US will come under martial law in 2024 because of mass rioting and chaos, so the military will have to step in.
Zach Mack
For the record, I was never actually excited about the possibility of this happening. Do you think this will be happening all over the country? Only in certain parts.
Zach's Dad
Well, the whole. The whole United States will come under martial law, and the biggest cities will be targeted. You know, New York, unfortunately, Washington, D.C. the Bay Area.
Zach Mack
Okay. Using. Pretty confident about that.
Zach's Dad
I am 100% confident, because this is like a pretty.
Zach Mack
This is a pretty huge shakeup.
Zach's Dad
Yeah.
Zach Mack
I would say our country hasn't seen anything like this since the Civil War, probably.
Zach's Dad
Well, not even in the Civil War. This is going to be the biggest shakeup to ever hit the United States of America and the world at large.
Zach Mack
I mean, I think the way you've laid it out here, there'll be a pretty clear case of, like, who's right and who's wrong.
Zach's Dad
Yeah. Yeah. I think it will be very black and white. And if you are wrong, then you're $10,000 richer.
Zach Mack
Yeah, but look, I'm not. This isn't just about the money, right? I would. I would like to make. Make some positive strides for our family.
Zach's Dad
Well, I think. I think that once you see that I haven't been duped by AI and social media and the algorithms, I think you will gain a lot more respect for who I am and how I think and how I've come to believe. The other thing I want to. I want to have you say after each one of these through, is that, wow, dad, you were right and I was wrong.
Zach Mack
Same goes for you then.
Zach's Dad
Okay? Absolutely.
Zach Mack
All right.
Zach's Dad
Deal.
Zach Mack
Happy to do it. And so our strange bet was on. I saw Dad's challenge as an opening. Instead of just arguing until the end of time, we were actually going to settle this. And now he had a deadline. New Year's, 2025. The moment I saw his proposal, I knew I had him beat. And for the very first time, he'd have to admit he was wrong. All I had to do was wait 12 months, and once he decisively lost, I figured he'd be more open to my version of the truth, and maybe I could pull him back to reality a bit. And the timing for the bet couldn't be better, because his beliefs were starting to tear our family apart.
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This American Life Zach Mak picks up his story about his year long bet with his dad.
Not long after making the bet, I called my mom. My parents have been married for 40 years. They met in their 20s in Chicago, fell in love and moved to California where they eventually had my sister and I. We grew up in the San Francisco Bay area, a pretty liberal place, which worked for my mom because she's a pretty liberal Jewish woman. Dad has always been the odd man out, the lone Christian conservative, though growing up he was much quieter about his beliefs and when my parents met, neither of them were religious, but dad got back into it when I was young. Now he's very into it. That's been difficult for my parents for decades, but now with the conspiracy stuff emerging, it's been really hard on my mom.
Zach's Mom
It's getting pretty crazy and I don't even know half of it. You know, we have two generators in the house. There are now eight flats of water in the garage that he bought at Costco and some kind of fancy water filter system that was a couple hundred dollars. He's stockpiling weird food.
Zach Mack
What kind of food?
Zach's Mom
You know, 12 cans of canned chicken.
Zach Mack
Okay.
Zach's Mom
I have never eaten canned chicken. You have never eaten canned chicken? Why is there canned chicken? I feel like returning it all this week while he's not home and he moved some money without my permission.
Zach Mack
How did he do that? He didn't need your Sign off?
Zach's Mom
No, because it's a joint account. And he withdrew me from a joint account without telling me and made a purchase he knew I would never approve.
Zach Mack
What was it?
Zach's Mom
He bought a precious metal because Dad's.
Zach Mack
Worried the banks are going to collapse. He wants to move big chunks of their money into things like platinum and silver. Why is he so unwilling to listen to everyone around him?
Zach's Mom
I don't know. I wish I knew, because then I could crack it. I don't know how to pull him back. I have been very clear that I'm not sure how much more I can take.
Zach Mack
And have you been clear with him about that?
Zach's Mom
Yeah. And I've even said, you know, I'm considering leaving, ending the marriage.
Zach Mack
You said that to him?
Zach's Mom
Yeah. Which is very hard for me to say because I'm 69. I'm about to retire.
Zach Mack
Yeah.
Zach's Mom
Not necessarily the life I had planned for myself, to be alone, but what kind of life do I have now?
Zach Mack
Mom was initially irritated by the bet because dad didn't run it by her first, which happens a lot. But the idea of a deadline, that was starting to make sense to her.
Zach's Mom
I need an endpoint. And so the end point is December 31st. When January 1st comes around, things have to change. I'm only going to put up. I can barely put up with it now, and I can't put up with it after that.
Zach Mack
Later, I called my sister Kira about the bet. Unfortunately, she's been having her own conflict with dad, also about his beliefs. Two years ago, Kira came out to him. My mom and I had known for years, but Kira was always afraid to tell dad because she thought he'd disapprove. It didn't go well. He said he'd always loved my sister, but he thought she was choosing to be gay. And he didn't agree with that choice.
Kira Mack
I think the hardest part is that he, like, looked at me and told me that I was wrong about myself and that he was right. And I don't understand how he could know that.
Zach Mack
Kira and I are close. And when I told her about the bet, she liked the idea of forcing dad to confront the reality that some of his beliefs are likely wrong. But we weren't sure if that helped her situation either way.
Kira Mack
So, like, let's say these things don't come true, and he's willing to say, like, I was wrong about these things. I don't feel like that would affect his beliefs around me. Like, even if he's right about everything else, I'm probably still gonna be gay after that.
Zach Mack
So dad and I had a year. January came and went, and neither of us put any points on the board with the bet. Then in February, dad caught a small break with Mayor Adams. He had been under investigation for months and things were heating up. The FBI raided one of his advisors, and someone else pled guilty to conspiracy charges. Seemed like dad could actually win that one. Then in March, the New York governor sent the National Guard into the subway, which, if you squint, could look like the pretense to martial law. While we waited for the other predictions to come true or not, tried to make the most of the time, I found myself thinking back to something dad said to me at the end of an argument once a few years back. He said, well, you don't really know me. And I wondered if he might be right, that maybe I didn't really know him. And if I had any hope of changing his mind or even nudging the trajectory of his beliefs, I would need to understand my father better. So I decided to make a project of it. One question I still had was how he'd even gotten here. Though looking back, there were signs. I remember my mom telling me about how when I was a child, dad didn't want me to get vaccinated. Mom wasn't having it, so I ended up getting all my shots. But I never really understood where Dad's hangups came from. But now that we had some time to kill, I could ask him. I know throughout my lifetime you have been distrusting of vaccines. Is that. Is that fair to say?
Zach's Dad
Yeah. Yeah, that's definitely true.
Zach Mack
I'm wondering. I'm wondering when that began.
Zach's Dad
When. Well, the seed was planted, actually. When? Before I went to school as a child.
Zach Mack
As a child back in the 60s, dad was about to enter elementary school in Ohio, and there was a new law requiring vaccines.
Zach's Dad
Now, remember, Grandpa? My dad was a chiropractor, and so he believed in natural immunity and the body's ability to heal itself. And so he was an anti vaxxer.
Zach Mack
Okay.
Zach's Dad
And, I mean, we didn't call him that back then, but it's the same difference. And I just wanted to go to school. And I kept telling my dad and my mom, hey, it's okay. You know, I'm not afraid of the vaccination. You know, I'm willing to go and, you know, I just want to go to school. So I was not able to go to kindergarten because we couldn't find a school that would accept me without a vaccination.
Zach Mack
Oh, wow, so you didn't go to Kindergarten?
Zach's Dad
I did not go to kindergarten.
Zach Mack
Would do you think your dad was. I don't know. How would you describe him? Would you describe him as stubborn?
Zach's Dad
Oh, yeah, stubborn. Very opinionated. Hard headed at times.
Zach Mack
Dad was one of six children. The family was supported primarily by my grandpa, who had a small chiropractic business. That is until the Ohio State Medical Board cracked down on him.
Zach's Dad
And so they literally threw my dad in jail for a couple of days for practicing without a license.
Zach Mack
The way dad tells it, after my grandfather's business dissolved, he was never able to recover.
Zach's Dad
He became so depressed that he literally couldn't get out of bed for like six months. And he was never the same man that literally broke him.
Zach Mack
Wow. And how old were you when this happened?
Zach's Dad
I was like 13 or 14 years old.
Zach Mack
One of the things I remember most about my grandfather is how tall and thin he was and how one time when he came to visit us, his body had just completely changed. He had suddenly gained over a hundred pounds in a very short amount of time. He was going through some mental health issues that the family never fully understood. And it was affecting his weight in his ability to sleep. He wouldn't really sleep during the night, which meant that throughout the day he would constantly fall asleep. He'd be in the middle of a conversation sometimes or even at dinner, and he'd just start snoring. Minutes later, he'd abruptly wake up and carry on as if nothing happened. This also began to happen while he was driving. My grandpa got into a number of car accidents. He totaled several cars and nearly killed my grandmother. He refused to stop driving and even went to a neighboring state to get a driver's license after his was taken away, he refused to admit anything was wrong. The family tried to talk to him. So did my father, several times. And when that didn't work, and I'd never heard this part of the story before, dad tried something else.
Zach's Dad
I wrote him a long letter. I wrote him like a two or three page letter and mailed it to him because I wanted him to be able to read the whole letter so I could finish what I really wanted to say to him without interruption. And I said, you know, Dad, I love you. I want the best for you. You know, I'm not trying to say anything horrible or damaging or critical about you, but your whole family is concerned about you. Can't you see this? Can't you recognize that we all would like to see you live to a ripe old age? Because I said, if you continue on this path, I don't Know when you're going to die, but I know you're going to die.
Zach Mack
So not long after this, I was 10 years old at the time. My parents called my sister and me into the kitchen to tell us something. But before they said anything, I already knew my grandfather was dead. His vehicle veered off the road and flipped over. When I think about my grandfather, I think about how what caused his death may have been stubbornness, a refusal to listen to those around him. He was 68 years old, the same age my father was when he proposed our bet. As the year pressed on, we continued discussing Dad's life and the things he'd come to believe. Turns out a lot of his predictions were coming from a single source online. And something you should know about my father is that he really struggles with technology. He can barely navigate the Internet. He can't even figure out how to access his own email account from his laptop. Around 2019, dad got an iPad, and that felt like a turning point. It wasn't long until he started saying weird things. One time I was home visiting, and we got into it because he was trying to tell me that the government was controlling Facebook from the very beginning and that Mark Zuckerberg was just a pawn. And when the pandemic hit, it felt like the perfect storm. Like so many of us, dad went searching for answers.
Zach's Dad
I was googling around, trying to find someone who I thought was reputable, reliable, and truly plugged into God. I was trying to find someone who was a legitimate prophet because there's a lot of false prophets out there.
Zach Mack
What dad found was a lot of conspiracies, of course, but also the next evolution of his faith. During the pandemic, dad came to believe strongly in prophecy, the idea that God still speaks through intermediaries. When you're talking about how God speaks today and you believe it's through prophets, that is a divisive within Christianity, right? That is a divisive thought.
Zach's Dad
Very divisive.
Zach Mack
Why do you believe it?
Zach's Dad
Because he's always had prophets. And it makes sense that just like he had prophets in Old Testament times, yeah, he would continue with it. Why would he suddenly stop? I. I never quite understood why God would stop talking to his people.
Zach Mack
Sure enough, dad found someone he believes can commune directly with God.
Zach's Mom
I am the Great Revealer.
Zach Mack
Meet Julie Green, my dad's preferred prophet.
Zach's Mom
A great fall is coming. A fall of a global Cabal. My children, 2024 will be a year like no other.
Zach's Dad
I firmly believe that God did lead me to Julie Greene.
Zach Mack
She's not Particularly big online, a couple hundred thousand subscribers. But she's part of a growing movement within Christianity that emphasizes spiritual warfare and politics. It's all very trumpy and full of prophecies.
Zach's Mom
Secrets in the White House are about to be revealed. The Obamas, the Clintons, Adam Schiff, Mitch McConnell, Chuck Schumer, Nancy Pelosi.
Zach Mack
As you can probably tell, this is where Dad's getting most of his predictions. And when I talk to dad about these predictions, it's clear that for him, they all stem from his religious beliefs, which I've always found somewhat confusing because when I look at his list, none of these things seem to have anything to do with God at all. In July, some news. President Biden announced he was withdrawing as the Democratic nominee for president. I thought, what was Dad's prediction again? Oh, he said, removed from office. Guess I'm in the clear. As the years sped by, I read books with titles like When Prophecy Fails. I spoke to a number of clinicians and conspiracy experts, met my dad's pastors. I even interviewed several of his friends. None of them shared his beliefs, but they said they didn't really argue with him about it either. Only one said it hurt their friendship with dad. Sometimes I'd send dad highlights of articles debunking some of his more out there claims. Like the one about how the Joe Biden you see on the news is actually a body double.
Zach's Dad
Well, it's a. It's actually a common practice in a lot of third world countries. Look at Saddam Hussein. Saddam Hussein had. They aren't even sure, but over a half a dozen body doubles. That's why he could appear in one part of the country one day and someplace else another day.
Zach Mack
Yeah, I don't think they were like giving speeches and, you know, making policy on his behalf, though. You know what I'm saying something. They were just like, maybe like some.
Zach's Dad
Of them, but mostly they were. Yeah, they were just appearances. Fun fact. While we're. We're talking about body doubles, when the Biden.
Zach Mack
Why do you call him the Biden?
Zach's Dad
Well, because it's a body double.
Zach Mack
Okay.
Zach's Dad
The last time Netanyahu, who's the Israeli prime minister, came to visit the U. S here in Washington D.C. it was interesting that the fake Biden stood 6 inches taller than Netanyahu. Netanyahu and Biden are both listed to be 5ft 10 inches tall. So don't you find it interesting that when they were standing side by side in a couple of photos that Biden was suddenly six inches taller?
Zach Mack
Well, first of all, Biden's listed height is 6ft. Let's see what Netanyahu's height is. He's. He's also 6ft, it says.
Zach's Dad
Okay, yeah, they're the same height. The point is, they're the same height. I thought it was five, ten. So, yeah, so it's six feet.
Zach Mack
Are you talking about this image?
Zach's Dad
Yeah, I think that's it. Yeah.
Zach Mack
He looks a little taller. Well, but he's taller in every picture. This is a different place.
Zach's Dad
Are they the same height?
Zach Mack
They don't look the same height.
Zach's Dad
Okay, that's my point. They are the same height.
Zach Mack
Well, people lie about their heights all the time, right? So I'm. I'm sure, you know, Allen Iverson was always listed as 6:1. He was actually 5:10.
Zach's Dad
Right.
Zach Mack
People, you know, I get that.
Zach's Dad
I get that, but. But presidents don't do this.
Zach Mack
My fact checker wants me to point out here that we don't actually know Allen Iverson's real height or Netanyahu's height or whether or not Saddam Hussein had body doubles. But this is the joy of debating a conspiracy theorist. Inevitably, you run out of patience or just don't know the facts well enough to continue pushing back. So whenever I debate dad, it feels like I can never do enough research or compile enough evidence. Later in the summer, I was reading a science journal and saw a possible way around that. This research group was doing some experiments where they had some conspiracy theorists engage in conversations with AI chatbots which had all the facts, could push back gently, and, unlike me, had infinite patience. The data on its effectiveness looked pretty promising. So I reached out and actually got them to program something special just for my dad to try, which he did for several minutes.
Zach's Dad
To be honest, it didn't say anything that I hadn't already heard.
Zach Mack
Swing and a miss. But the work continues. In August, dad got it in his head that Kamala Harris was gonna be replaced as a Democratic nominee at the convention. And out of nowhere, he made a second political conspiracy bet, this time with my mom. The terms, if mom lost, she'd have to give up, as he put it, all mainstream media for the rest of the year. And if he lost, he'd have to stop watching Julie Greene entirely. His favorite prophet. Much to mom and I's delight. He lost that bet a few days later when Harris officially accepted the nomination.
Zach's Mom
Your father's in his silk robe and he's got a cocktail.
Zach Mack
Yeah, drink up, buddy. So, dad, so no more Julie Green till the end of the year?
Zach's Dad
Correct.
Zach Mack
How do you feel about that?
Zach's Dad
I'm disappointed, but it's okay. I have other resources.
Zach Mack
It did feel like a relief that he wouldn't be watching Julie Greene anymore. And him admitting he was wrong, that was something. By the fall, dad and I were speaking more than ever and in ways we never have. Do you feel like I know you now, better?
Zach's Dad
Oh, absolutely. Yeah. You know me. These conversations and just talking about my dad and all the rest. Absolutely.
Zach Mack
And of course, football season was kicking off, so there were lots of calls and voicemails about Ohio State. Three penalties on this drive against Ohio State.
Ira Glass
And now Johnson waiting back like they.
Zach's Dad
Should have thrown on first down or at least second down. Anyway, I'll talk to you at halftime.
Zach Mack
Dad and I were getting along better than ever, but time on our bet was running out.
Zach's Dad
We're down to the last four months, last third of the year.
Zach Mack
How do you feel about that?
Zach's Dad
Impatient. I really thought more would have happened by now.
Zach Mack
You know, I, I don't think I ever asked you this. And I should, should have asked you. Why did you challenge me to this bet?
Zach's Dad
Oh, why did I challenge you to this bet? That's a good question. I'm. I wanted to get your attention.
Zach Mack
Like, what do you mean by that?
Zach's Dad
Well, because I wanted you to believe that God is still active and alive and still in control of the world. And I thought this would be a concrete way for you to see that and experience that.
Zach Mack
Man, that's. I, I didn't think about it that way. So it's sort of about you wanting me to get closer to God?
Zach's Dad
Yeah.
Zach Mack
I mean that. I think that's very touching. I think you're, like, super wrong about all these predictions, but that your reasoning is very touching.
Zach's Dad
Okay.
Zach Mack
Like, I, I, I appreciate that. Anyways, okay, I'm, I'm gonna. Let's. Let's end on a high note.
Zach's Dad
Okay? Sounds good. We'll talk to you soon.
Zach Mack
Sounds good. Love you guys.
Zach's Dad
Hey, and you know what, Zach?
Zach Mack
Huh?
Zach's Dad
This alone has been well worth it. All the conversations we've had. This alone. I mean, to be perfectly honest, if I had to pay you 50 grand for the time we've spent together, every penny's been worth it.
Zach Mack
That. Well, I can't handle you saying things like that. This is, like, too nice. That's, like, too sweet. It's too sweet. I appreciate it, dad. It's, It's. It's actually been really nice talking to you, too.
Zach's Dad
All right.
Zach Mack
All right.
Zach's Dad
Take care.
Zach Mack
You too. Good night. As we stretch into November, dad, mom and I got hit with some sad News. After a year of nearly no contact with my father, my sister informed the family that she wouldn't be coming home for the holidays, which in my lifetime, I count only three times we've ever missed the holidays together. Why aren't you coming home for Christmas?
Kira Mack
Because I don't want to be there. I feel like I'm gonna cry. I think last year was so terrible, incredibly terrible for me. And the thought of being back in that space feels awful. Why would I choose that? I'm not gonna get okay with him believing that I'm somebody that I'm not and wanting someone so badly for me to be something else. And it's hard because I say that and then I immediately think, well, that's what I want from him. I want him to fundamentally change who he is and be a different person. That's where I feel stuck is like when you. When we both. We want the same things from each other. And I don't know if that's possible.
Zach Mack
I don't know either. The bet was nearly over, but it felt like our family was barely hanging on. Then December came. It was just days before Christmas, days before I was flying home, and mom called me with another update. Hey, how are you?
Zach's Mom
A lot going on in the last 12 hours.
Zach Mack
She began to fill me in the night before. Mom and dad were talking about the state of the family over dinner.
Zach's Mom
And I told him that he was welcome to come Christmas Eve, but that likely Christmas Day, you and I would do something by ourselves. And he got very upset and.
We.
Had a. I mean, I can't remember exactly all the parts of the conversation, but I said the reasoning how I got to this place was the situation with Kira. And then, you know, I was tolerant of his religious journey. I can be tolerant of political differences. But when he started following the. The YouTube profit. The profit stuff and, and what I feel is fake news and all of the doom and gloom and generators and flats of water and granola bars all over the place. I said, I just. It. I. I can't anymore. I just can't anymore. A 40 year history is just not enough for me. We are already living very, very separate lives.
Zach Mack
Separate realities.
Zach's Mom
Yeah. And separate reality didn't say that. He said that he's not gonna change his religious viewpoints. He's not going to change. And then I just said. And then I just don't see. I don't see a path where this marriage can continue. I don't see a path for me.
Zach Mack
And what did he say?
Zach's Mom
He.
He sort of didn't really respond.
Zach Mack
After 40 years of marriage, they had agreed to separate and for my dad to move out. Dad's beliefs around Kira, the conspiracies, it had just become too much.
Zach's Mom
I'm embarrassed to say. The situation with Kira wasn't the one that knocked it over, but I was ever hopeful that he would come to a reality about that. But what I realized is that he's, he's beyond redemption at this point. There's this, there's this little piece of me that is like, you have this conversation with him on January 1, his list is debunked. He will realize if he steps back and looks at the whole picture that he's not grounded in any reality and that he'll have an awakening and I will have a marriage and a family.
Zach Mack
So this was the situation I flew home to. Things felt weird. I spent the week crashing at friends houses and in hotels. Mom slept in Kira's room. Christmas Day, as you can imagine, was sad. There were no gifts exchanged. Mom and I just went to the movies and ate Chinese food. I'm not even sure what my father or sister got up to that day. A few days later, dad said he was ready to sit down and close out the bet.
Coming up, somebody's going to need to say, as promised, you were right, I was wrong, which can be such a powerful thing in any relationship. That's in a minute. It's Cockabublic Radio when a program continues.
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Zach Mack
This is American Life. Myra Glass. Our show today, 10 Things I Don't want to hate about you, about Zach Mack and his year long bet with his dad. We arrived at the end of December. Zach's family is not doing well. And there's still the bet.
I know this sounds crazy because as bad as things had gotten, dad was still excited about settling up. I had no idea what he was going to say. But as we often are, we started off pretty playfully, which is our way of postponing the hard stuff. All right. Okay, here we go.
Zach's Dad
Hand me the wine here. Oh, I should go get my list, right?
Zach Mack
Yeah, go get your list.
Zach's Dad
Yeah, let me just. Let me just have it too, so I can look at it and see if there's anything I can pretend happened.
Zach Mack
Well, at least so far we're sharing a reality. Okay, I'm just gonna go through the list for your 10 predictions for the year. We'll start there.
Zach's Dad
Okay.
Zach Mack
We'll start with the easy ones. There's four that can easily be grouped together, and that is Barack Obama will be convicted of treason. Joe Biden will be convicted of treason. Nancy Pelosi convicted of treason. The Clintons convicted of treason and murder. Right. Those are all kind of. I would group them categorically.
Zach's Dad
Yeah.
Zach Mack
I began no investigations, no charges, no convictions. Literally no momentum of any kind.
Zach's Dad
And yes, I fully hoped that would take place before the end of 2024, but that has not taken place.
Zach Mack
If you're keeping score at home, that's four for me. All right, next one. You said Trump will be reinstated without an election. Trump won reelection. He was not reinstated without an election. That's five. Next prediction, Trump will have all charges dropped on May 30th. Trump 2024. Trump was found guilty and convicted on 34 felony charges in the New York hush money trial. Yeah, to be fair to dad, charges in two other cases were dropped, but dad's prediction was all charges. So that makes six for me. Moving on, next one. You said Governor Hochul, the governor of New York, would be removed from office. Governor Hochul is currently in office. No charges being brought against her. She will be up for reelection in 2026.
Zach's Dad
That is correct.
Zach Mack
Seven onto the home stretch. Biden will be removed from office. Okay, so Biden's still in the White House. You're not. You're not rebutting that.
Zach's Dad
Yeah, well, because somebody pretending to be the Biden is in the White House.
Zach Mack
Okay. And we're back to Body doubles. But even still, he conceded the point. So that's eight. Okay. Then there's Eric Adams, the mayor of New York, who dad predicted would be removed from office, which still might happen. But dad said by the end of 2024. As it stands right now, he's still the mayor.
Zach's Dad
Right.
Zach Mack
Tough break. But that makes nine. Okay, last one. Our country would come under martial law. As far as I know, that didn't happen.
Zach's Dad
That did not happen.
Zach Mack
Okay. No. Any rebuttals there?
Zach's Dad
I'm very happy that that didn't happen.
Zach Mack
And that makes 10.
Zach's Dad
However.
Zach Mack
Oh, no.
Zach's Dad
I still see that as a strong possibility of happening. I think it still has a strong possibility of happening within the next two months.
Zach Mack
Here we go.
Zach's Dad
And I still am 100% positive that.
Zach Mack
All these are true, even though none of them came true.
Zach's Dad
Even though none of them have been actualized by the end of 2024.
Zach Mack
So your explanation for why these things did not yet come to pass is that you just got the timeline wrong?
Zach's Dad
Yes.
Zach Mack
We're sort of starting where we. Where we're ending, which is you still believe what you believe, and I still believe that that's false.
Zach's Dad
Correct.
Zach Mack
I had waited for so long to hear him say the magic words we agreed to a year ago. Now the moment finally came.
Zach's Dad
Wow. Zach. I was wrong, and. And what?
Zach Mack
And not only were you wrong and.
Zach's Dad
And you were correct to tell you.
Zach Mack
The truth, Hearing this was completely unsatisfying because I knew he didn't really believe it. I had won the bet, but it didn't really feel like winning. I just see sort of an unwillingness to. For you to be wrong.
Zach's Dad
Wrong about 10 things. I'm. I'm gonna admit I was wrong about the timeline. On all 10 things. I've been wrong.
Zach Mack
See how you prefaced it?
Zach's Dad
I've been not.
Zach Mack
Not that you're wrong about them. You're just wrong about the timeline.
Zach's Dad
Yeah, but that's still a type of wrong.
Zach Mack
Sure, but it's a half measure. It's a way for you to be right. I can't say I was surprised. All year long, I had read about how unlikely it is to pull someone away from these kinds of beliefs. How when believers of a prophecy witness it not come to pass, that oftentimes they inexplicably double down, which was exactly what he was doing. All of these beliefs, it feels like you're really holding on to them. And I'm not sure why, because I know they're true.
Zach's Dad
Why am I going to abandon truth? Why would I believe a lie? Why would I give that up? And it's not an arrogant thing. It's a knowing in my soul and in my spirit. So, yeah, I mean, I can't abandon the truth.
Zach Mack
I was getting nowhere, and it was frustrating, but I thought, this is history repeating itself. Surely he could see that. Right? One of the things I've thought a lot about during this process is, like, is your dad and what happened to him. And in the face of so many people around him, including yourself, saying, hey, you're going down the wrong road, like, don't do this, please listen. And he wouldn't. He wouldn't hear it from anyone.
Zach's Dad
Okay.
Zach Mack
And it cost him his life. I see a lot of parallels with what's happening right now.
Zach's Dad
Interesting.
Zach Mack
I. You know, I don't think you're at risk of physical danger so much.
Zach's Dad
Yeah.
Zach Mack
I think you're at risk of a lot of other things.
Zach's Dad
Like what?
Zach Mack
Financial ruin? I think you're at risk of being ostracized and, like, completely left out of this family dynamic.
Zach's Dad
That would break my heart.
Zach Mack
But I think you're see that you're at risk reputationally.
Zach's Dad
How so?
Zach Mack
I feel like the closest friends in your life, your family, you know, the people around you are telling you, hey, you're going the wrong way. And you're not. You're not listening.
Zach's Dad
Actually, none of them are saying that to me.
Zach Mack
None of them?
Zach's Dad
None of them.
Zach Mack
Okay.
Zach's Dad
The only people who've said that are you and mom.
Zach Mack
So if all those people told. Told you, would you hear them?
Zach's Dad
I would listen to them. I probably wouldn't change, but I'd listen to him. I take it into consideration.
Zach Mack
So you don't think that sounds like your dad?
Zach's Dad
That aspect of it. Yeah, but my dad. My dad had trouble living in reality. I don't have a trouble living in reality.
Zach Mack
I would. I would argue that you do. Mean, look at the state of our family right now. I. And I think we've gotten to this place in large part because of your beliefs.
Zach's Dad
Well, we've gotten here completely because of a difference in beliefs. Yeah. You can point the finger at me and say it's because of your beliefs. Well, that's partially true, but it's simultaneously because of your. The three of your beliefs. Right. And I understand your beliefs, but I don't believe that way. I'm not going to pretend I believe that way. And I know you guys don't want me just to pretend. You. You want me to embrace it.
Zach Mack
Yeah.
Zach's Dad
And live it and think it and breathe it the same way you do. I Can't do that. Therefore, it creates a wedge, right? Yeah, but it doesn't have to. I think the post Covid years have really magnified and polarized people.
Zach Mack
Yeah, but I would say that's when you got radicalized. I don't think ultimately, Mom, Kira and I have changed a lot ideologically since that time. I don't think you're in the same place.
Zach's Dad
I could. I can. I can agree with that. I see that I have made more significant changes in the past four years in terms of my own spiritual awareness and spiritual growth. Yeah, so. And that certainly I know, feels and looks very radical.
Zach Mack
Let's talk about mom for a second.
Zach's Dad
Oh, I think. I think. I think your mom. I don't know what I think about her anymore. I mean, I don't think negative about her other than she's lost and confused.
Zach Mack
I mean, I. I guess she would.
Zach's Dad
Say that about you, probably, and a lot worse. I continue to love your mom, but this is the irony. She sits in judgment of me and therefore judges me unworthy of being her partner and husband anymore. I mean, short of pretending to be somebody who I'm not, I don't see a solution.
Zach Mack
Yeah, I agree. I watched his frustration rise as he came up empty, over and over, slowly realizing there was no fixing this. I mean, look, I think this year has been difficult, especially recently. I do feel like we are getting along really well. I do feel conflicted because as that's happening, you and mom are getting separated and Kira's not home for Christmas. And those are all because of your beliefs.
Zach's Dad
I can accept you and love you and have my beliefs and accept your beliefs. You can't accept my beliefs without judging me.
Zach Mack
You don't think you're judging Kira?
Zach's Dad
Not at all. I love my daughter. I love Kara.
Zach Mack
I know that you do.
Zach's Dad
I would never. I would never disown my daughter.
Zach Mack
But I. I think Kira. Kira does feel rejected. She does not feel fully accepted by you.
Zach's Dad
Yeah, I get that. It's not about rejection. See, that's how you guys label it. But it's not rejection. It's about looking at it from a spiritual viewpoint where this is not what God wants for her.
Zach Mack
As the conversation wound down, I let go of any notion that I could convince him of anything. I was finally ready to stop struggling and just accept the truth. I couldn't help him. I just want to say I do really appreciate. Oh, man.
Narrator
Sorry.
Zach Mack
It's been. It's been a hard year, man. Yeah, I mean, I appreciate the conversations we've had all year Like, I've. I do feel. I don't know, I feel closer to you than I ever have. And I'm. I'm really sad about the state of this family. Yeah. But I. I do appreciate your. Your openness, your willingness to. You never ducked. You never ducked. A hard question.
Zach's Dad
No need to.
Zach Mack
I don't know. I mean, where do you think we'll be next Christmas?
Zach's Dad
I. I don't know. I have no idea.
Zach Mack
Yeah.
Zach's Dad
I have no idea. Man. I can't even think that far ahead.
Zach Mack
Yeah. I have one final question for you.
Zach's Dad
Okay.
Zach Mack
How are you gonna pay me? Check. Should we go to the bank? Should I get one of those giant golf checks?
Zach's Dad
I figured you'd probably want small, unmarked bills.
Zach Mack
Yeah.
Zach's Dad
Non. Sequential.
Zach Mack
Yes.
Zach's Dad
So do you. Did you bring a suitcase?
Zach Mack
I have a gym bag.
Zach's Dad
Okay. We'll fill that puppy up.
Zach Mack
Let's do it. We made the bed a year ago, but I've waited a lot longer than that to have this conversation with him. All right, let's get a hug.
Zach's Dad
Oh, I love you. Love you, too.
Zach Mack
As we stood there hugging, I just broke down.
Zach's Dad
I'm sorry. I'm sorry.
Zach Mack
I don't know what comes next, where the family goes from here. It felt like things fell apart so quickly, but also slowly over many years. I think in many ways, I'm the one who got off the easiest. I'm still in good standing with everyone, which makes me feel a mixture of relief and guilt. And if you're wondering, yes, I took the money. Absolutely. Okay, we're walking in the Rose Bowl.
Zach's Dad
Yeah.
Zach Mack
How do you feel? But on New Year's Day, the day my dad officially lost the bet, I took him to go see Ohio State, our favorite football team, play in the Rose Bowl. What do you think the score is going to be? And paid for everything.
Zach's Dad
I think it's going to be 31 to 22 bucks.
Zach Mack
Yet another prediction my father got wrong, by the way. But they did win. Go, Buckeyes. Let's go. All right, let's go. It felt good to treat dad with his own money and to agree on the one reality we've always Football. Maybe the only one we ever will. As I watched the clock run down, I knew that the moment the game was over, we'd have to face the fact that as a family, in the end, we didn't make it.
Zach Mack. He's a producer at Vox Media. This story was a collaboration with NPR's embedded podcast, which, if you haven't heard them, you should check them out. They have lots of documentary stories like this. David Kestenbaum and our staff worked on the story here. The staff who worked on it there were producers Dan Girma and Ariana Garib Lee. Editing by Luis Trayas. Katie Simon is Embedded Showrunner. Some original music in this episode was composed by Peter Leonard, fact checking by Greta Pittenger on the Embedded staff and Chris Joyce Zertala on our staff. NPR's Embedded is releasing a three part series about Zach's bet with his dad that gets into material that we did not have time for here, including some revealing conversations with his dad's friends and some more interesting stuff from Zach and his dad. It is available now. You can find Embedded wherever you get.
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Zach's Dad
I think it will be very black and white.
Zach Mack
I'm Eric Glass. Back next week with more stories of this American Life.
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Next week on the podcast of this American Life, Brandon's first girlfriend dumped him because he was too obsessed with sports. So when he met Cecilia, he tried a new tactic. They were out, and a friend asked him about the Celtics, and he was like, I'm not that into sports anymore.
Zach's Dad
Even when the words came out of my mouth, I was sort of thinking, huh, you just said that?
Zach Mack
And then he had to live with that lie. Lies that make no sense. Next week on the podcast or on your local public radio station.
Zach's Dad
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Producer: This American Life
Release Date: February 23, 2025
In Episode 854 of This American Life, titled "Ten Things I Don't Want To Hate About You," reporter Zach Mack delves into a deeply personal story about his strained relationship with his father. Faced with years of familial tension caused by his father's unwavering belief in various conspiracy theories, Zach devises an unconventional strategy to bridge the rift: a year-long bet based on ten predictions his father made for 2024.
Zach Mack sets the stage by describing his father as an optimist with a penchant for dad jokes, who has held the same job for decades and maintains a circle of recreational friends. Despite these positive traits, Zach and his father have never been particularly close. Their interactions are typically limited to discussions during Ohio State football games, a mutual interest that remains one of the few bonding points.
“I think we all have people in our lives who we love, but there's no talking to them. They have their way of seeing things or doing things. It's hard to take.”
— Zach Mack [00:40]
Over the years, Zach's father became increasingly engrossed in conspiracy theories, such as chemtrails, government-controlled weather, and unfounded claims about political figures. This spiral not only alienated Zach but also caused his mother and sister, Kira, to distance themselves from him.
“The thing we can't seem to agree on is reality.”
— Zach Mack [04:33]
In an attempt to confront his father's radicalization, Zach proposes a direct challenge. After a heated family argument, Zach's father sends him a list of ten predictions for 2024, each more outlandish than the last, and stakes a $10,000 bet on their accuracy.
“I've never put any money on the table before, but this is different.”
— Zach Mack [01:35]
The predictions include:
“I think you're wrong about everything, but you should stop believing it.”
— Zach Mack [06:23]
As the year progresses, Zach monitors the unfolding of his father's predictions. Months pass without any of the first nine predictions materializing, deepening Zach's frustration yet maintaining his hope that his father might eventually concede.
“How am I gonna pay you? Check. Should we go to the bank?”
— Zach Mack [55:13]
Meanwhile, family tensions escalate. Kira, who had recently come out as gay, faces rejection from her father, further straining family bonds. His mother expresses her own distress over the mounting separatism within the household, ultimately leading her to consider ending her 40-year marriage.
“I just can't anymore. A 40-year history is just not enough for me.”
— Zach's Mom [37:36]
Throughout the year, Zach attempts to understand his father's descent into conspiracy theories, uncovering deep-seated distrust ingrained from his grandfather's experiences and a strained relationship further complicated by technological challenges and exposure to radical online content.
“I can accept you and love you and have my beliefs and accept your beliefs. You can't accept my beliefs without judging me.”
— Zach's Dad [48:18]
As December approaches, it's evident that none of the predictions have come true. Zach and his father meet to resolve the bet. Despite Zach physically winning the wager, the emotional toll is significant. His father admits to being wrong about the timeline but remains steadfast in his beliefs, reflecting a common phenomenon where individuals double down on convictions despite contradictory evidence.
“I was wrong, and... you were correct to tell the truth.”
— Zach Mack [45:39]
The resolution of the bet does not mend their relationship. Instead, it underscores the deep emotional divide and the complexities of familial love intertwined with conflicting beliefs. Zach grapples with mixed feelings of relief from the bet's conclusion and guilt over the strained family ties that remain unresolved.
“I'm really sad about the state of this family. But I do appreciate your openness.”
— Zach Mack [53:50]
In the episode's aftermath, Zach reflects on the year's journey, recognizing that while the bet provided a structured attempt to address long-standing disagreements, it ultimately couldn't bridge the ideological chasm between him and his father. The family's separation during the holidays serves as a poignant reminder of the enduring impact of entrenched beliefs and the challenging path toward reconciliation.
“We didn't make it.”
— Zach Mack [57:43]
“I think we all have people in our lives who we love, but there's no talking to them.”
— Zach Mack [00:40]
“It's misinformation.”
— Zach's Dad [04:40]
“I have two generators in the house. There are now eight flats of water.”
— Zach's Mom [13:19]
“I think you're at risk of being ostracized and completely left out of this family dynamic.”
— Zach Mack [48:18]
“If you continue on this path, I don't know when you're going to die, but I know you're going to die.”
— Zach's Dad [22:17]
“I do feel closer to you than I ever have.”
— Zach Mack [53:50]
Zach Mack's story is a profound exploration of how deeply ingrained beliefs and external influences can fracture familial relationships. It highlights the delicate balance between striving for personal conviction and maintaining loved ones by finding common ground. The episode leaves listeners contemplating the possibilities of reconciliation and the costs of ideological divides within families.
This summary encapsulates the emotional and narrative journey of Zach Mack as he navigates a tumultuous relationship with his father, underscored by a high-stakes bet intended to challenge deeply held conspiratorial beliefs.