In this BEST of 2023 bonus episode, Coping with Christmas, mental health advocates Shaley Hoogendoorn and Charise Jewell revisit one of our most-loved holiday conversations about navigating the season while living with bipolar disorder.

Shaley and Charise share personal experiences, practical strategies, and honest reflections on what has helped them manage — and sometimes even enjoy — the holidays. From laugh-out-loud moments (yes, hypomanic stocking-stuffing made the cut) to deeply heartfelt stories, this episode offers real-life insight into the traditions that worked… and the ones that absolutely didn’t.

Charise was one of the very first guests on This Is Bipolar, so listeners are encouraged to check out her original “Conversations With” episode to hear her full story. Charise is honest, kind, and deeply resilient. Her openness about her diagnosis — both online and in her book Crazy; A Memoir of a Mom Gone Mad — continues to pave the way for all of us to bravely share our own journeys.

CHAPTER MARKERS:
Here is the list of chapter markers:
* (00:00:09) Welcome to Conversations With
* (00:00:42) Tips for Surviving Holidays
* (00:05:10) Changes in Family Dynamics
* (00:06:25) The Importance of Saying No
* (00:08:32) Managing Holiday Indulgences
* (00:15:53) Navigating Family Gatherings
* (00:28:23) Creating New Traditions
* (00:47:40) Finding Moments of Joy
* (01:00:26) Embracing Small Acts of Joy
* (01:07:43) Encouragement for Those Struggling

✨ Tips sprinkled throughout this BEST OF episode include:

• Make a list of the things you actually want to do so you don’t overbook yourself with obligations driven by “everyone else.”

• Know your capacity — and plan your holiday activities within it.

• Identify your triggers ahead of time. Note what worked and what didn’t in past years, and create a plan for situations that may arise at mandatory family gatherings. Be sure to listen for how Shaley navigates conversations around race, gender, and politics — having a prepared phrase can help diffuse tense moments.

• Find a place of refuge when you need a break — even if your only options are the bathroom or your car.

• Drive your own vehicle or arrange your own transportation so you can step out, take a breather, or leave if things become overwhelming.

• Schedule time for small moments of joy — even the little things count.

• Be honest. You don’t have to pretend to be holly-jolly if you’re not. Often, honesty opens the door to deeper connection — chances are, others feel the same way.

• Have safe people you can check in with who remind you how loved you are. If that feels hard, connecting with others online who live with mental illness can be incredibly validating. You’re always welcome to message Charise or me on Instagram — we’re happy to listen or offer encouragement.

…and so much more.

This is Bipolar.

🤍 A note from Shaley

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— Shaley

🌿 Meet Charise

A voracious reader and aspiring writer since childhood, Charise Jewell was born in Germiston, South Africa, and immigrated to Canada at age seven. She holds an Honours B.Eng. in Mechanical Engineering from McGill University and spent fifteen years working as a robotics engineer before becoming a writer.

Charise proudly lives with bipolar I disorder and advocates for the fair and dignified treatment of people living with mental illness. She lives in Toronto with her husband and three children.

🔗 Learn more at AND purchase her books at www.charisejewell.com
📲 Follow her on Instagram @reesechaell