Podcast Summary: Cultivating Audacity with Annemarie Anderson | Episode 276

This detailed summary encapsulates the key discussions, insights, and conclusions from Episode 276 of "This Is Woman's Work with Nicole Kalil," hosted by Nicole Kalil. In this episode, Nicole welcomes three-time Emmy Award-winning broadcaster, keynote speaker, and author Annemarie Anderson to explore the multifaceted concept of audacity.

1. Introduction to Audacity

Nicole Kalil begins the episode by framing audacity as a complex term that embodies both positive and negative traits. She questions whether audacity is a strength to cultivate or a trait to be wary of, setting the stage for a deep dive into its dual nature.

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“Audacity is a willingness to take bold risks and also rude or arrogant behavior.”
— Nicole Kalil [00:15]

2. Redefining Audacity

Annmarie Anderson shares her personal journey with the term audacity. Initially perceiving it negatively due to her upbringing, she redefines audacity as the willingness to take bold risks. She emphasizes the necessity for women, especially in business, to shed limiting beliefs that discourage bold actions.

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“I chose the willingness to take bold risks because I think a lot of times, especially in women in business, we take that, oh, be a good girl from when we're little, into business and it doesn't work. You need to shed it.”
— Annmarie Anderson [04:31]

3. The Balance of Boldness and Respect

Both Nicole and Annmarie discuss the importance of balancing audacity with respectfulness. They agree that while audacity involves taking significant risks, it shouldn't tip into arrogance or disrespect. Instead, it should align with one's values and vision.

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“Every single failure, every fear that you have, that's just information that's going to push you closer to your values and vision and who you really want to be in this world.”
— Annmarie Anderson [07:35]

4. Components of Cultivating Audacity

Annmarie outlines a three-part system for cultivating audacity: mindset, behavior, and identity.

a. Mindset: Optimism and Confidence

Cultivating audacity begins with an optimistic mindset. This involves believing that outcomes will work out and having the confidence to trust oneself, even amidst uncertainty.

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“Audacious mindset is honestly just optimism, the belief that things are going to work out.”
— Annmarie Anderson [09:20]

b. Behavior: Taking Action

Optimism must be paired with actionable steps. Annmarie encourages starting small, such as learning to say "no," to build audacious behavior into daily life.

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“Just take some form of action. So you marry that optimism with action.”
— Annmarie Anderson [09:20]

c. Identity: Consistent Practice

Consistently practicing audacious behavior shapes one's identity. Over time, this leads to a self-assured persona that naturally embodies audacity.

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“When people go from what is Nicole doing? To that's Nicole, she swings forward the fences.”
— Annmarie Anderson [10:52]

5. Overcoming Common Barriers

Annmarie identifies four primary barriers to audacity: fear, time, money, and the inner critic. She emphasizes understanding and managing these barriers rather than trying to eliminate them.

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“There's a curiosity amongst the elite performers that I have seen…they’re curious about what they're feeling and experiencing and attempting to be thwarted by.”
— Annmarie Anderson [12:19]

6. Building a Supportive "Front Row"

To sustain audacity amidst external opinions, Annmarie advises curating a "front row" of supportive individuals who encourage and hold one accountable without jealousy or negativity.

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“The people in your front row are probably not your mom and probably not your best friend because they want you to stay safe.”
— Annmarie Anderson [22:01]

Nicole echoes this sentiment, highlighting the importance of surrounding oneself with friends who celebrate and challenge you constructively.

7. Embracing and Managing Fear

Despite cultivating audacity, fear remains a constant companion. Annmarie advises acknowledging fear without allowing it to dictate actions, fostering a healthy relationship with fear.

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“Let it. Don't push it away. Acknowledge it. This is scary stuff that I'm doing.”
— Annmarie Anderson [29:18]

Nicole adds that reflecting on past fears can demonstrate personal growth and reduce the impact of current fears.

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“I remind myself of things that I was afraid of a year ago or five years ago…that I'm getting better at it or that I've evolved into something bigger.”
— Nicole Kalil [30:22]

8. The Imperative of Cultivating Audacity

Annmarie emphasizes that audacity is essential for innovation, personal success, and living a fulfilling life. She explains that embracing audacity leads to waking up excited about one's life and moving forward with purpose.

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“Audacity is the human experience. You're living, you're feeling, you're not just going through some blinded motions.”
— Annmarie Anderson [17:04]

Nicole reinforces this by stating that audacity acts as a propeller for purpose, enabling individuals to step into and live their purposes fully.

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“I don't see how that could even be possible without cultivating audacity.”
— Nicole Kalil [17:51]

9. Practical Steps to Cultivate Audacity

Annmarie provides actionable advice on how to cultivate audacity, including:

• Acknowledging Barriers: Understanding what holds you back by examining excuses like "not having enough time" or "not being qualified."
• Curiosity and Exploration: Approaching fears and barriers with curiosity to better manage them.
• Support Systems: Building a "front row" support network that uplifts and motivates.

Quote:
“Whatever the goal is, it doesn't have to be some big business goal or some big flashy goal. Whatever it is, they've got something they're trying to create, and I want to be right in their front row to help them create it.”
— Annmarie Anderson [26:58]

10. Conclusion: Living Audaciously

Nicole and Annmarie conclude by reiterating that audacity is not about being loud or stepping on toes but about having the courage to take actions that align with one's true self. They encourage listeners to embrace audacity to lead impactful and fulfilling lives.

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“The people who make a real impact…are always the ones who had the audacity to take the bold risks anyway.”
— Nicole Kalil [32:17]

Annmarie adds a final motivational note, urging listeners to take that first step toward embracing audacity.

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“Whatever your listeners want to do, just take that first step.”
— Annmarie Anderson [32:45]

Key Takeaways

• Audacity Defined: A blend of bold risk-taking and confidence without crossing into arrogance.
• Three-Part System to Cultivate Audacity: Mindset (optimism and confidence), behavior (taking actionable steps), and identity (consistent practice).
• Overcoming Barriers: Recognize and manage fears, time constraints, financial limitations, and the inner critic.
• Support Systems: Curate a "front row" of supportive individuals who encourage and hold you accountable.
• Embrace Fear: Acknowledge fear as a natural part of the journey without letting it dictate your actions.
• Living Purposefully: Audacity is essential for personal growth, innovation, and living a fulfilling life aligned with one's purpose.

Resources Mentioned

• Book: Cultivating Audacity by Annmarie Anderson – Available on Amazon and other bookstores.
• Annmarie Anderson's Website: annmarieanderson.com

This summary aims to provide a comprehensive overview of the episode for those who haven't listened, capturing all crucial points, discussions, and insights shared by Nicole Kalil and Annmarie Anderson.