The Activator Advantage - What Today’s Rainmakers Do Differently with Karen Freeman | 370

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This Is Woman's Work with Nicole Kalil
Episode: The Activator Advantage – What Today’s Rainmakers Do Differently with Karen Freeman | 370
Date: December 15, 2025
Guest: Karen Freeman, Chief Product Officer at DCM Insights, HBR author, and co-author of "The Activator"

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Episode Overview

In this episode, host Nicole Kalil and guest Karen Freeman challenge traditional approaches to business development—especially for women in professional services. They discuss the shifting landscape of client loyalty, the necessity of moving from a “do good work and they’ll come” mindset to an activator approach, and actionable strategies for thriving in a competitive, loyalty-lite marketplace. Drawing from Karen’s extensive research (featured in Harvard Business Review and "The Activator"), they explore what rainmakers do differently today, with a strong focus on proactive networking, segmentation, and practical steps anyone can adopt—regardless of gender or personality type.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. The Erosion of Client Loyalty

• The Old Belief Is Outdated: The idea that doing great work guarantees repeat clients is now a myth.
• Striking Statistics:
  • Only 53% of clients would return to the same provider if they had a new need today—down from 76% five years ago and projected to drop to 37% in five years.
    • Karen Freeman:

      “There's a loyalty crisis, I think, as you said, coming. And if not already here. And it means we need to change the way we do business development as a result.” (03:29)

• Drivers of Disloyalty:
  • More people involved in decisions (buying committees, procurement).
  • Explosion of boutique providers and specialists.
  • “It’s not cool to use the same provider over and over again.” (Karen, 08:48)

2. The Activator Profile: Today’s Winning Rainmaker

• Activator Defined:
  Activators proactively manage and expand their networks, connect people, add value between projects, and don’t wait for requests—they create opportunities.
• Traits & Tactics:
  • Regular, scheduled networking and business development.
  • Collaborative, not protective of contacts.
  • Heavy use of platforms like LinkedIn.
  • Prioritize value addition over transactional touches.
  • Purposefully manage their client/contact list as an asset.
  • “They’re much more likely to bring in other people from the firm and collaborate and much less likely to be protective... They manage their network as an asset and create value proactively.” (Karen, 10:24)
• Not Just for Extroverts: Activator habits are accessible to anyone with intention and discipline.
• Technology’s Role:
  • LinkedIn and network management tools are core.
  • AI increases client demands for efficiency, pushing firms to handle simple work faster and focus on more complex, value-adding projects (Karen, 09:56).

3. Moving Toward the Activator Mindset

• The Key: Commitment and Consistency
  • Schedule business development like any other priority (Sunday evening or Monday morning planning suggested).
  • Be deliberate in identifying who to reach out to each week.
• Practical Steps:
  • Review and segment contact/client lists weekly.
  • Proactively reach out (share relevant articles, check-in, connect people).
  • Track last points of contact and plan accordingly.
  • “Step one is just building that consistent habit.” (Karen, 15:00)
• Addressing the Energy of Introversion:
  • Introverts can thrive by managing energy and structuring networking (schedule 1:1s, or small group meetings instead of large events).
  • “If you’re out there and you say I could never be a great business developer because I’m not an extroverted glad-hander, good news for you… the key is managing your energy.” (Karen, 19:16)
• For Women Specifically:
  • Lean into naturally occurring networks (mom groups, women’s industry groups) rather than forced, traditional (often male-dominated) formats.
  • Don’t be afraid to turn personal relationships into business opportunities; asking for support is not crossing a line if approached mindset-first and with reciprocity in mind.
  • “Most women I know have powerful friend networks... extending that network to be a bit more professional... those will be fruitful for so much more opportunity than you think.” (Karen, 21:31)

4. Tactics and Checklist for Activators

• Weekly Review/Planning:
  • Update your client/contact list and note the date of last engagement.
  • Segment your clients: Who advocates for you? Who is a top priority? Who is lagging?
  • List relevant news, articles, or opportunities to share with specific contacts.
  • Plan five personalized outreach activities each week.
  • Ruthlessly review/remove clients who drain resources and don’t provide a future opportunity (29:23).
• During Conversations:
  • Focus on asking broad, open questions to uncover “fodder” for value-add follow-ups.
  • “You need to have fodder for that through your conversations, which means you’re really bringing more questions than maybe you’re even comfortable with to your average client call.” (Karen, 32:16)
• Ongoing Mindset:
  • Understand that relationship-building alone is not enough—visibility and proactive value are required to be top-of-mind as the go-to provider.
  • Be ready to segment, “prune,” and reprioritize your network as business develops and clients evolve.

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• Nicole Kalil:

  “Doing good work is table stakes. It might keep you in the game, but it won’t win it. The professionals who are thriving in this new era, they’re not sitting around waiting to be needed. They’re activating.” (01:54)

• Karen Freeman:

  “There's a loyalty crisis... and it means we need to change the way we do business development as a result.” (03:29)

• Karen Freeman:

  “It’s not cool to use the same provider over and over again the way it used to be... Even if you personally want to be loyal, there’s a strong emphasis on price and making sure you get the best deal...” (08:48)

• Karen Freeman:

  “Step one is just building that consistent habit.” (15:00)

• Nicole Kalil:

  “So many business owners can relate to everything feels urgent and that takes precedence over what is actually important.” (18:50)

• Karen Freeman: (on women’s networks)

  “Most women I know have powerful friend networks... extending that network to be a bit more professional... those will be fruitful for so much more opportunity than you think.” (21:31)

• Nicole Kalil:

  “Your friendship is weird if you can’t have a conversation.” (24:44)

• Karen Freeman:

  “Being top of mind or generally being proactive, staying in touch... gives you that opportunity to get ahead of the purchase process.” (26:26)

• Karen Freeman:

  “You can’t do that with everyone... you need to prioritize. Sometimes that means stopping with some... so you have time to be proactive with a new set of individuals.” (27:37)

• Karen Freeman:

  “Having your list of clients and contacts and taking a look at that... that is your Sunday night or Monday morning.” (30:41)

• Nicole Kalil:

  “Doing good work may have gotten you here, but it won’t get you there. Loyalty isn’t what it used to be. Clients aren't waiting to be wowed... you need to activate intentionally, strategically, consistently. Because crossing your fingers is not a business plan. But working with purpose on purpose is. And it’s also woman’s work.” (34:01)

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Timestamps – Key Segments

• 01:54 Nicole’s Opening Challenge: Why “doing great work” isn’t enough anymore
• 03:29 Karen’s Data Drop: Client loyalty is in crisis—stats and implications
• 06:01 Pipeline Expansion: Why focusing just on existing clients is no longer enough
• 07:39 Why Loyalty Is Declining: Decision-making complexity and market forces
• 09:56 Impact of Technology & AI: How efficiency pressures have changed expectations
• 10:24 What Is the Activator? Core traits and actions
• 13:34 How to Become an Activator: Practical starting steps, regardless of background
• 19:16 Introverts as Activators: Customizing strategy for energy and comfort
• 21:31 Women & Networking: Strong friend networks, leveraging them for professional growth
• 24:44 Mindset About Asking for Support: “If you can’t have that conversation, your friendship is weird.”
• 26:26 Staying Top of Mind: Proactive, consistent outreach and value-add messaging
• 29:23 Segmentation and Pruning: Knowing who really belongs in your network
• 30:41 Activator’s Weekly Checklist: Reviewing, prioritizing, and personalized outreach
• 32:16 Creating Value: Using curiosity in client conversations to drive follow-up
• 34:01 Nicole’s Summary: Purposeful activation beats passive hope in the new business era

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Takeaways

• Business development is now about being an activator: proactive, relentlessly connecting, and consistently visible.
• Loyalty is not guaranteed—winning today's business means planning, segmenting, and personalizing your approach every single week.
• Everyone can adopt activator habits—regardless of personality type or gender—by building the right mindset, structure, and support systems.
• In Nicole’s words, “crossing your fingers is not a business plan. But working with purpose on purpose is.”

Learn more:

• Follow Karen Freeman and DCM Insights on LinkedIn
• Check out Karen's new book, The Activator
• For more on Nicole Kalil and “This Is Woman’s Work,” visit nicolekalil.com

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Transcript

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[Karen Freeman]

Well, Nicole, thank you for that great introduction. It was such a nice summary of the real challenges that folks face today in business development, specifically in professional services. Right. That's the area that we have focused on in our research quite heavily. And what we heard as we went out and interviewed clients and heads of marketing in professional law firms, in consultancies, in accounting firms, is that that idea that if I do good work, people will come back to me, kind of a guarantee or an assumption that, you know, it's great, I'll, as long as I've done this great work, I get that next opportunity, I just have to build a few really tight relationships and then that kind of feeds me. From now on that has changed dramatically. We did a, a piece of research in the middle of this where we did a survey for those who were buying professional services and we asked them, would you go with the same provider, the same partner if you had a new need? Assuming, of course, that they did good work before and Today they said 53% of them agreed with that statement. And I don't know about you, but kind of that goes already against the idea of I do good work, people will come back to me. And that number surprised me for how low it was to begin with. We asked them kind of five years ago, how would you have answered? And they said 76% agreed with that statement. So that's, you know, that's sort of the number we have in our head three quarters of the time I'll just get work again. But in then we asked them the really hard question, which is five years from now, how do you think this is going to look. This is, again, buyers of professional services, and only 37% said they'd naturally go back to the same person or the same firm. So there's a loyalty crisis, I think, as you said, coming. And if. If not already here. And it means we need to change the way we do business development as a result.

[Nicole Kahlil]

Okay, so what kept popping in my mind is a little bit from my background, I worked in financial services, and there's this sort of pull toward client acquisition and then, of course, client engagement, client servicing. And so are you suggesting that it might be more prudent to stay really engaged with the clients you have, maybe a smaller amount of clients you go deeper with versus trying to bring on new clients all the time, or is there some other way of looking at this information?

[Karen Freeman]

Sure, I think it's. It's actually the opposite. If the traditional sense was I have this core set of clients where I focus on them, they'll keep coming back to me for good work. And, you know, those people who are really naturally good at it will bring in the other clients. I can be kind of the expert here and just support my. The clients I have. It says even those big accounts that you have been working with for years are reconsidering whether to work with you every time now. And so it means you need to have a bit more of a pipeline than you did before. And for many people, especially, I'll say some of the lawyers that we talk with where you know that business development for many is uncomfortable to start with, and they're really just hoping that they can get enough clients that they don't have to worry so much about it anymore. That shift has been a challenge. They have to do more networking. They have to manage that network as an asset more like expand beyond those kind of core set of clients that they're. That they've maybe inherited or built up and be much more proactive with a broader set of people.

[Nicole Kahlil]

Okay, so I have lots of questions, but I want to start with first. Why do you think loyalty is, you know, lessening over time? You know, there's a part of me that gets a little judgy about it. It's like we always think the grass is greener on the other side. We always get overly upset if one thing doesn't go the exact way we want it. Is this a consumer loyalty issue? Like, is the problem there?

[Karen Freeman]

Two things I hear. Well, both through our research and all the conversations that I'm having with partners in professional services, the first thing that I hear is that there are more people involved, there's sort of more coordination required in making most purchases today. A lot of this got really accelerated by the pandemic. And people talk about the professionalization of purchasing that happened years ago in business to business buying where you know, you'd have buying committees involved, a lot more involvement of procurement. They'd formalize buying processes so that you have to use RFPs that's coming to professional services. Slowly but steadily, there's a rise of legal operations in the legal space and procurement in general. This sense that you, even if you personally want to be loyal to the person that you've worked with in the past, you can get them in the door, but you need to bring in another two or three and then there's going to be a really strong emphasis on price and making sure you get the best deal and budgets and all of that. And you also don't have as much control over that decision as you might have before because there's more people who you have to bring along on that ride. So that's the first real trend. And then I think the second is just the explosion of professional services boutique providers. It's changed the mindset of well, yes, for this area, yes, but maybe somebody else is more of a specialist in this or had experience in this or even just it can't hurt to look around a little bit, make sure we're not so attached to this one firm that is more of it's. It's not quite so scientific and it's more of a feeling. But somebody once told me in a training it's not cool to use the same provider over and over again the way it used to be. The sort of assumption that if I work with the same people it'll be friction free. They know us, it's easier. That's all still true. But then there's this other side, this voice saying, well, but maybe somebody else would do better job or cheaper or be more efficient.

[Nicole Kahlil]

Okay, so where does technology or things like AI impact stuff like this? Because we have so much more access to efficiencies and you know, obviously significantly lower budgets on certain things. Is this impacting and if so, is that a good thing or not a good thing?

[Karen Freeman]

I think there's two answers to this one as well. The first is just I realized I didn't really get a chance to talk about the central finding from our research about the different types of business developers that we found. We found five profiles of business developers and the short I can get into some of the Other ones. But the short answer is that this profile called the Activator is the one that is the winning profile. And it's funny how many people have seen this profile and especially some of the best business developers out there, they see it and they're like, yes, that's me, right? And they are super connectors. They, you know, all of the things we just said are necessary in today's lower loyalty environment. They're, they're doing those things. So maybe no surprise that they win. They're, they're much More active on LinkedIn, they are, or other networking sites. They're much more rigorous about the events they go to, both the planning for and the follow up from it. They are much more likely to bring in other people from the firm and collaborate and much less likely to be protective. They're always about kind of proactively supporting their clients or contacts with value, whether it's from them or from others. We have three, you know, kind of a shorthand for them. They commit to business development, they consistently and regularly they connect to people internally and with their network and they're, they're kind of managing their network as an asset and then they create value through proactively in between client work. So going back to your question around technology for activators, there are certain kinds of technology that are really helpful for them. This isn't so much AI, although I think that's coming in, but LinkedIn and being able to kind of manage your network through technology is increasingly something that they do. So that's technology, part one. Maybe not AI, not the newest technology, but for sure they are much more active users of LinkedIn. I think the other side, AI for sure, there's a lot more demand from clients that you're more efficient because you're using AI. It's just naturally becoming part of the work they do. And the implication is that professional services firms get asked to do more and more challenging things. This has been a drumbeat for ages in, in professional services, if you can do it once, then train my team to do it so I don't have to pay an outside firm to do it again and then move on to the next thing. And the next thing is just getting, I think, more complicated because the assumption is the basic stuff is going to be handled by AI or you're going to be able to do it more efficiently. And then again coming back to that loyalty, they're saying, well, can you do it for cheaper because you should be able to integrate AI and technology into doing it, by the way. I think there is an interesting implication for associates who are coming into professional services firms and would have done a lot of this work and whether firms are going in the longer run to have fewer of them. I mean, right. We all, none of us know exactly what's going to happen for Maya, but that's right. The future business developers, will they get their opportunity to practice this and get their feet underneath them and come in and become the great business developers of the future. That's a side note I don't know the answer to from my research, but it's a really interesting one.

[Nicole Kahlil]

So if the activator profile is the winning one, what are some things that any one of us could do to move toward that? And I'm going to have some follow up questions about women or introverts or whatever. But just generally speaking, what can any of us do to move towards the activator profile?

[Karen Freeman]

Sure. And business development professional services is different than sales and B2B. Right. Which because you are doing and selling. Gosh, even that word selling can be very anathema to those in professional services. Like I'm an expert, I'm not a salesperson. But you still need to, you know, somehow get your business to grow. So the idea of business development in doer sellers was part of the reason why we saw differences in how what makes for this most successful profile in the, the professional services world than we do in, in B2B. And so what you need to do mostly is that commit piece like just tomorrow. Right. Being more deliberate about your week by week business development activity. So often things get busy and you kind of pull back and your, you sort of say well business development is for when I'm not busy. Okay, I'll pick that back up again. But it's incredibly inefficient to only be reaching out to your network when you don't have a lot going on because it seems very transactional. You're rebuilding relationships. So my number one piece of advice is and we do find that timing of this matter is like a Sunday night or a Monday morning. Plan your business development for the week. Because the thing I hear most often is it's a, it's the middle of the week. I might have a block on my calendar says business development on it and the work is right before it is incredibly urgent or I get some question or something like that. Business development seems so vague. I'm just going to reach out to some people that when you come to that half hour block you've got on your calendar, you just blow right past it. It's so amorphous, right? Versus the very concrete client work that's no doubt just hanging over you. Right? So planning ahead to say what are the who are the people I need to reach out to and how? Who have I not talked to in a month or so? Who might be in the next tier of my network that I really should be re engaging? What events do I have coming up and who can I be reaching out to re to schedule ahead, right? There's all kinds of things you can do in that 15 minutes a day or so that you might need to be doing business development and be incredibly successful. Step one is just building that consistent habit.

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[Nicole Kahlil]

I think so many business owners can relate to everything feels urgent and that takes precedence over what is actually important.

[Karen Freeman]

Exactly.

[Nicole Kahlil]

Totally can relate to that. So the commitment piece is probably going to be the biggest difference maker. You talked about connection and I think there are lots of ways to connect. But those of us who might be more introverted by nature any tips or are we just at a huge disadvantage here? Like, what are your thoughts?

[Karen Freeman]

Yeah, I often get the kind of can an introvert be an activator question and the answer is absolutely yes. I've met so many. And so if you're out there and you say I could never be a great business developer because I I'm not an extroverted glad hander, it's good news for you I think, right? The key is managing your energy. So if introverts are more tired by, you know, interactions with people they don't know than others, then you want to be very careful about managing that energy. For example, events. So third party events, conferences, your own hosted events as a firm, those are really helpful places to meet new people, to progress relationships and they can be exhausting for anyone, especially introverts. That's where that discipline comes in to manage your energy. Whether you've you've scheduled in enough meetings in advance, there's nothing stopping you from reaching out to people you don't know who are attending the meeting, telling them about insights that you might be able to share, or even setting up small group events at that event that really can help you manage your energy. I still love the story one person told me. She's like, I'm an activator and I'm an introvert. She reached out to everybody in advance of the meeting, scheduled what she could, went and spoke because she happened to be on a panel afterwards, talked to just the few people who came up, left and reached out to everybody and said, sorry, I missed you. Right? Which is. She got those one on one conversations. She still connected, she had the list, which is of course a big advantage. But she knew that in that moment that like random networking event was going to exhaust her and she managed her energy to be able to get the most important relationships sealed for her.

[Nicole Kahlil]

I love that strategy. What about for women? Are there any nuances, differences, advantages, disadvantages? One that popped into my mind is when I think of traditional networking, a lot of times those were after hours, evenings and obviously not super helpful for those of us who are moms. I don't know if that's still the case in today's day and age. And there's obviously lots of other options. Like you mentioned LinkedIn a few times. But anything we should be thinking about as women, I do think that it.

[Karen Freeman]

Is the networks you're going to be using are going to be a little bit different for women. As I hear women tell me about how they are doing business development successfully, often it is those networks that you naturally gravitate to. So it doesn't have to be golf, right? If you're not into golf or you know, sort of the traditional sense of how networking happens. And yes, there will be a certain number of these kinds of events and things you need to go to. But most women I know have powerful friend networks, right? You've got those group texts, you've got those groups, mom groups that you've been part of and sort of extending that network to be a bit more professional. So there's some professional mom networks or there's women only networks who in your particular expertise field, those have been incredibly fruitful for the individuals that I talk to. Just especially if women are underrepresented in that field, you can create the space for that conversation to happen and those will be, you know, fruit for so much more opportunity than you think. I do find that women tend to be a little more reticent to turn personal connections into business opportunities. So that is one place that I think that we can all get a little bit more comfortable with. And it doesn't always have to be me asking for the business from a friend, but it could Be asking for, do you know anyone? It could, you know, we do really love to help each other out.

[Nicole Kahlil]

Yeah.

[Karen Freeman]

And recognizing that that's at the core of turning a personal contact into a business opportunity. It's a, it's a mindset thing more than anything else.

[Nicole Kahlil]

Yeah. I know personally I had to really shift my mindset on that because my philosophy is anybody who I'm friends with or family members or people I care about or people who about me should be willing to support me. How they support me is what we need to figure out. What are they comfortable with, what plays to their strengths. Some of them might be clients, some of them may never be. But it's not an option to be in each other's lives and not support each other. So I find it really frustrating. I've worked with a lot of women who've gotten an A business and have said things like, oh, you know, my friend is not being supportive or my parents refuse to talk to me and I'm like, sorry, but fuck them. Like, that's just them being a holes. Maybe they aren't going to support you in the way you want them to, but we got to figure out how to make this work. And so to me, that's the mindset shift of like, I don't need you to be my client. I need you to buy things from me. I do need to be able to have the conversation with each other about how we're going to support each other.

[Karen Freeman]

Yeah, right. Friends and family, or I should say family. That's its own. That's its own complicated topic and setting boundaries there. Great thing altogether. But when you think about your friends, if you would be offended if a friend of yours didn't ask you for help when they needed it. Right. Like that is the point. But we, we help each other out. That is, that is sort of at the core of friendship. And so many people I talk to have that struggle with. Well, you know, I, I don't want our friendship to be weird because I've brought up this business question.

[Nicole Kahlil]

Well, yeah, and let me just say too, your friendship is weird if you can't have a conversation. Like, if you literally can't have a, hey, you know, let's have this conversation then. Personal opinion. Your friendship is weird and is questionable.

[Karen Freeman]

Yeah. Right. Again, you would hope that if they needed your help and you had a particular expertise that they would ask you for it. And to do the same in the other direction is totally fine. But one piece of advice that really helps people and it is again, a mindset. Thing is actually offering help before you give it. So let's say you have a friend who's now moved into a position where they could be helpful to you for business. You probably have people in your network who could help them in that new role. Right. Start by helping them and usually then makes you more comfortable to then sort of you've helped them in a business capacity, it's moved them into a business situation and then you feel more comfortable making the ask of some kind. Right. Could you make an introduction for me or something like that?

[Nicole Kahlil]

So this may just be a me thing. For me, it's often been about relationships, building relationships, maintaining relationships, providing value, helping others, and then sort of the assumption of and then the right people will find me and blah, blah. But it sort of is going a little bit against what you're saying because I have no control over people's loyalty to me and my work. So I guess my question is, what are some of the tactics we should be doing as an activator? Is it like making sure our name or face shows up on a consistent enough basis so we stay top of mind?

[Karen Freeman]

I mean, I do think that's part of it. Right. It's so, so staying top of mind is increasingly important because you want to be earlier in someone's consideration set so you can shape the way they think about the opportunity. So you have an advantage when you're in that moment of purchase and you're up against other people almost by definition these days and, and you have shaped the way they think about this to fit your unique capabilities. So being top of mind or, or just generally being proactive, staying in touch with individuals more regularly gives you that opportunity to get ahead of the purchase process.

[Nicole Kahlil]

Okay, so I think a few things kind of clicked like a little light bulb went off. So it's really about being proactive, about shaping the narrative, about educating to a certain extent. So people have an idea of what you do and how you do it and how they might work with you before they, you know, the conversation even comes up and just coming in earlier than maybe we have historically or we may have been taught.

[Karen Freeman]

Yes, right. So that is about, that's what the maintaining of your network is about. So part of being, maintaining your network is staying top of mind. You know, putting your name out there. A lot of it is more personal, like I'll be reaching out to you. You know, Nicole, it's been, it's been a little while. I saw this article and I thought of you. I feel like this is going to impact your Business in a way that you may not appreciate. Let's set up some time to talk about it. That gets that conversation from just top of mind to value add the thing, the thing that's critical to all of this is you can't do that with everyone, right? So a big part of it, you talked earlier about having a few close relationships, and that is still true. True in the sense that you need to prioritize. And a lot of times what that means is stopping with some, you know, you may have a certain number of clients and some of those clients are just not growing or not responsive. And you. That is taking valuable opportunity time for you to be proactive with a new set of individuals as well as your core clients to build the next opportunity. Since you do need to get be top of mind or be ahead of the game a little bit more often than you used to.

[Nicole Kahlil]

So some client segmentation would be important. Understanding who you're going to invest the most amount of energy and time in, what types of clients you serve best, who works with you best, that type of thing, and then going a little wider, casting wider nets with everybody else. Because sometimes you don't know who your best clients are going to be until they become your clients. Like, I've been thoroughly disappointed by some people that fit the profile I put in air quotes, right? And then there have been people who didn't and have ended up being my favorite people to work with. So there is a little bit of reconsideration, right?

[Karen Freeman]

Or like a review of your client list. And first of all, knowing your ideal client profile is already a big head start, right? Like many people don't go through that process of saying who is a good client for me as opposed to, you know, who can I support? And then the second thing is, are they still a good client? Am I being used as a foil for the person they really want to bring in all of the time? And I just keep getting an opportunity to pitch, but I never win, right? Those kinds of things. Revisiting that and then being a bit ruthless about the potentially the sort of long tail of contacts you might have and instead saying, who could I add in to my network? And simultaneously that whole block of people who might be a little bit on the periphery, making sure you're kind of checking in with them more often because you've got that time back from the clients that weren't going to grow.

[Nicole Kahlil]

Okay, Karen, There's a very strong probability that I'm just slow on this because it is different than what I've been Taught through the course of my professional career. Can you give us some examples of tactics if they things an activator would do on a Sunday night and a Monday morning to stay proactive, to be shaping the information. If we were to create a checklist, what might be on that checklist?

[Karen Freeman]

Getting right down to brass tacks. I think the core here is having that actually having your list of clients and contacts and taking a look at that. So that is your Sunday night or your Monday morning. It's, it's saying who are they and when was the last time I talked to them? What could I be reaching out to them about and how much are they likely to advocate for me? Kind of ranking them in a way that isn't necessarily your Sunday night activity. That's a one time sort of like to start, you sit down and say who are my top and then who am I? Next tranche out with that ideal client profile in mind. Then every week you're kind of looking at that and saying what opportunity do I have to reach out to some of those folks? What have I seen in the news, what have I just finished working on that I think somebody else should be interested in and being very deliberate about those reach outs, which sounds like a lot of time, but honestly it's not. It's much more about the plan for it. Saying these are the five people I'm going to contact this week with this particular piece of news and just adjusting and personalizing that note a little bit is core discipline. But because we're doer sellers, we get so caught up in the work that that kind of thing just doesn't happen.

[Nicole Kahlil]

Yeah, so what I'm hearing is it's 90% the commitment, it's the doing it every week, it's the prioritizing, it's the not letting it go by the wayside. And so eight weeks later you're like, oh well, I didn't reach out to not just five clients a week, but five times 12 weeks or whatever.

[Karen Freeman]

You know, you can build that habit up and get more and more and Right. So we talked a lot about commit and connect. We haven't really talked about what does it mean to create value. And for that it is this kind of, that's a, that's a, during my conversations, behavior that's bringing curiosity and asking really broad questions. So often, especially in the professional services arena, you're such an expert in one thing that you hear a little bit about something and you jump right to it. You sort of say, oh, I can help you with that. And you really want this. You have this helpful posture so you jump to it without getting the full context of what could be and the opportunity that could be broader. So in that full context, questioning, asking more questions allows you then to have fodder for that recheck in that proactive help. I know you're working on this. I understand that a goal for you is to go to a conference. Let me invite you to my conference. Or I know that this your team needs a little help here. Maybe I can come in and do a little training for you guys to on this topic. You need to have the fodder for that through your conversations, which means you're really bringing more questions than maybe you're even comfortable with to your average client. Call.

[Nicole Kahlil]

Okay, I love it. I have 1 million more questions. But I guess I'm just going to have to get the book again. The book is called the Activator Advantage. For those of us who are in professional services. I think this is going to be our new bible of trying to get ahead of the ever changing times and just the change and shift in client loyalty. So Karen, thank you so much. I will also remind our listener that you can follow Karen and her business DCM Insights on LinkedIn. Karen, thanks for being here.

[Karen Freeman]

Thanks for having me. It's a fun conversation.

[Nicole Kahlil]

Okay friend, here's the deal. Doing good work may have gotten you here, but it won't get you there. Loyalty isn't what it used to be. Clients aren't waiting to be wowed. They're out there exploring, comparing and deciding. And the professionals who win in this environment, they don't sit back and hope to be remembered. They stay present, relevant and valuable on purpose. Because business development isn't a one time effort. It's not reserved for salespeople or extroverts. It's definitely not about begging for attention or sending cold emails into the void. It's about showing up before the ask, being of value before it's needed, and creating relationships that aren't just strong, they're irreplaceable. You don't need to overhaul your calendar or be someone you're not, thank God. But if you want to thrive in this new landscape, you need to activate intentionally, strategically, consistently. Because crossing your fingers is not a business plan. But working with purpose on purpose is. And it's also woman's work.

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