*PATREON PREVIEW* Social Media Saved My Life

Summary

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Throwing Fits: PATREON PREVIEW Social Media Saved My Life

Date: March 4, 2026

Episode Overview

In this midweek, boys-only episode, hosts Lawrence and Jim riff on their recent guest Tyrell Hampton, the peculiar dynamics of being both behind and in front of the camera, and the sometimes fraught lines between friendship and professional relationships in creative circles. The inherent tension between wanting to be seen, needing validation, and keeping it authentic forms the episode’s core—offering an unfiltered look at male friendships, fashion, and the changing face of social media. The conversation is peppered with their trademark self-deprecation, humor, and fashion flexes.

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Key Discussion Points and Insights

Tyrell Hampton: The Photographer’s Dilemma

• The “Sad Clown” Paradox

  • The hosts reflect on their friendship with Tyrell Hampton and his experience as an in-demand photographer who rarely gets his own moment in front of the lens.
  • [00:44] Jim: “It’s the flickers dilemma. If you’re flicking, you’re not getting flicked.”
  • [00:53] Lawrence: Compares Tyrell’s plight to the story of Pagliacci, the sad clown: “Who’s gonna make Pagliachi laugh? He is the one who provides that service to others. So Tyrell’s out there looking great… not many opportunities does he get to be in front of the lens. Not many. It’s a shame.”

• Navigating Friendships When You’re the ‘Sad Clown’

  • [01:50] Jim: “Does this make you question the relationship you have with friends where most of the communication is you text them, being like, ‘Hey, you gonna [shoot me]?’”
  • They discuss whether friendship is transactional when creative work is involved, with Lawrence defending his deeper connections.
  • [02:24] Lawrence: “It honestly kind of pisses me off… We are getting drinks. It’s not just like, ‘Oh, bro, I’m only gonna see you because I want a photo.’ That’s… celebrity diva behavior that I am not absolutely remotely at the level of. To be clear.”

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Fashion Fit Checks & Listener Feedback

• Wardrobe Flexes:

  • Both hosts do a run-down of their current outfits, earnestly (and often hilariously) breaking down every garment, from split-toe derbies with a “scrotum seam” to “manky” Uniqlo HeatTech pants that Jim admits haven’t been washed all winter.
  • Memorable Brands Mentioned: Our Legacy, Sanders, Carhartt, Uncle Pearl, Raul’s, Manresa, Darn Tough, Orslow, Stüssy.

• Listener Thirst and Validation:

  • Lawrence relishes messages from listeners who affirm his “daddy bear vibes.”
  • [03:34] Lawrence: “One of the best parts about what we do… I love getting messages from G listeners that tell me that they like my… daddy bear vibes. I always appreciate that.”

• Community Engagement:

  • The hosts joke about their “reply guys,” inviting feedback on whether Lawrence’s pants are hot or not.
  • [04:03] Jim: “We love this reply. If you like if Lawrence’s pants make you want to [redacted] him or not.”

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Friendship, Copycats, and the Great Jacket Confession

• Jacket Ownership Drama
  • Lawrence confesses to having bought the same Stüssy jacket as Jim, leading to a sheepish admission and banter about who gets fashion “first rights.”
  • [07:32] Lawrence: “They restocked the exact same jacket, and I have it, and I’ve been trying to figure out how to tell you, and I’ve been avoiding wearing it…”
  • Jim turns it into a business opportunity: [08:28] Jim: “Anyone, you know, 400 bucks is my initial offer as a final. Send it through.”

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Tumblr and the Glory Days of Menswear on Social Media

• Lawrence: Early Hashtag Innovator

  • The hosts recall their Tumblr days, with Lawrence claiming to have started the #menswear hashtag—a move that helped seed a now-iconic digital subculture.
  • [09:13] Lawrence: “And the big thing that I always claim… I believe I started the hashtag #menswear, like literally the little hashtag on Tumblr that then became like a fudgeing…”
  • They reminisce about Tumblr’s role in their careers and in connecting the budding online menswear scene. Big names from early menswear blogging (Mr. Mort, Michael Williams, Jake Davis, Marcus Troy) get shoutouts, as does a New York Times profile Lawrence appeared in.

• Nostalgia for Internet’s “Straight Talk” Era

  • [10:25] Jim: “It’s called Straight Talk.”
  • The episode closes on a thread of nostalgia for the early days of social media, before everything became “content” and commodified personas.

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• “If you’re flicking, you’re not getting flicked.” — Jim [00:44]
• “Who’s gonna make Pagliachi laugh? … Not many opportunities does he get to be in front of the lens. Not many. It’s a shame.” — Lawrence [00:53]
• “That’s would be celebrity diva behavior that I am not absolutely remotely at the level of. To be clear.” — Lawrence [02:28]
• “One of the best parts about what we do… I love getting messages from G listeners that tell me that they like my… daddy bear vibes. I always appreciate that.” — Lawrence [03:34]
• “I always travel with a full hydro flask. Because if I’m on the train and I want to—" — Lawrence [04:36]
• “I had, like, the biggest menswear Tumblr, like, ever… I believe I started the hashtag menswear…” — Lawrence [09:13]

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Timestamps for Important Segments

• [00:44] — The “flickers dilemma”: Who photographs the photographers?
• [01:50] — Are creative friendships just transactional?
• [02:28] — Lawrence defends his non-transactional friendships
• [03:34] — Listener thirst for “daddy bear vibes”
• [07:18] — The Stüssy jacket confession & fashion etiquette
• [09:13] — The early days of Tumblr, #menswear, and legacy

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Tone & Closing Thoughts

The episode carries Throwing Fits’ signature mix of irreverence, earnest fashion talk, self-aware irony, and friendship realness. Through their stories and confessions, listeners get a candid look at the overlap of creative ambition, social media-fueled validation, and the messiness (and meaning) of adult male friendship in the era of Instagram and beyond. Lawrence and Jim’s willingness to spin vulnerability into comedy keeps the vibe both relatable and endlessly entertaining.

Transcript

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[Lawrence]

Throw gang.

[Jim]

Welcome to another midweek, boys. Only after a super fun podcast with our new bestie, Tyrell Hampton.

[Lawrence]

A raucous good might be.

[Jim]

So such close friends that he actually takes photos of us.

[Lawrence]

That'd be incredible.

[Jim]

Although it sounds like he wants people to take photos of him. It's the. It's the. It's the flickers dilemma. Yeah, dude, if you're flicking, you're not getting flicked.

[Lawrence]

Who flicks up the flickers? The flicksters? No, it's literally the. What is it? The Pagliacci. The sad cl. Like, he. It's. It's exactly that. That is a.

[Jim]

A story about sad clown. That's kind of. That's kind of hard.

[Lawrence]

No, no. But the thing is, like, who's gonna make Pagliachi laugh? He is the one who provides that service to others. So Tyrell's out there looking great.

[Jim]

It gets a little darker. It's not who's gonna make him laugh. He's like, oh, he has to make other people laugh. Sounds like Tyrell's friends are cool if he's not whipping out the camera. No, there's other that get pressed if he doesn't flick him up and it's like, yo, sorry, right? You didn't make the cut. Or he's not here. He's not your dancing clown. It is interesting that he's not your dancing flicker.

[Lawrence]

I guess there's a long line of we'll call them celebrity photographers that have, like, cool looks that obviously make great work but, like, have, you know, an interesting vibe about them. And yeah, he's like a good looking, well dressed, fun guy. And it's like, yeah. How many opportunities does he get to be in front of the lens? Not many. It's a shame.

[Jim]

Does this make you question the relationship you have with friends where most of the communication is you text them, being like, hey, you're gonna. No, I think it'll be there so you can shoot me.

[Lawrence]

I mean, they are your sad clown. I mean, I.

[Jim]

You are the sad clown or progressor enable.

[Lawrence]

Oh, I. Oh, I enable this. I mean, listen, people could speculate how, however they want about my ego or if I'm using people to get something.

[Jim]

Hang out with these people outside of the them shooting you.

[Lawrence]

I literally dynamic.

[Jim]

Right?

[Lawrence]

I literally do.

[Jim]

Really?

[Lawrence]

Yes.

[Jim]

Oh, okay.

[Lawrence]

And that's what. That's what I kind of. And it honestly kind of pisses me off.

[Jim]

I believe you.

[Lawrence]

No, because it's like I got to. Why personally? Because I feel like we're talking about Mark and it's like, yo, Mark worked for me at Grailed. I employed him as a freelance writer. Very talented writer. And when I'm in Paris, like we are getting drinks. It's not just like, oh, bro, I'm only gonna see you because I want a photo that's would be celebrity diva behavior that I am not absolutely remotely at the level of. To be clear. Yeah.

[Jim]

The defensiveness.

[Lawrence]

Well, it's. How many times am I gonna have to talk about this? Seriously?

[Jim]

Anytime. There's a photographer on. All right, Lawrence, what are you wearing?

[Lawrence]

All right. I am wearing Adsom Sanders split toe

[Jim]

derbies with a scrotum seam.

[Lawrence]

The socks are man Risa. The pants are vintage Carhartt, which apparently Tyrell does not like on.

[Jim]

What do you say?

[Lawrence]

He was like, I don't want to date a guy that's like wearing that. He wants like a guy that doesn't care. And this is a look of someone who cares, I think is what. What he was saying or. Okay. When he's talking about Steve from Sex in the City, it's like Steve looked cool because he was on the show. Is like a nerd. Yeah. So I guess I'm never having said I'm never cuddling with Tyrell, which is

[Jim]

honestly, that's a big blow to your ego.

[Lawrence]

I mean, listen, I don't. I, you know, honestly, I will say one of the best parts about what we do in terms of just a completely self serving thing is I love getting messages from G listeners that tell me that they like my, I don't know, daddy bear vibes. I don't know. I always appreciate that. So if anyone wants to. And listen, it's only a few.

[Jim]

How many of those you get?

[Lawrence]

I know it's only a few guys. They know. They know who they are.

[Jim]

It's like the same guys.

[Lawrence]

Yeah.

[Jim]

Like fellows weigh in. If you like Lawrence's pants or not a gay.

[Lawrence]

A gay reply guy.

[Jim]

We love those. We love this reply. If you like if Lawrence's pants make you want to him or not.

[Lawrence]

Are my pants. Are my car hearts. The T shirt is our legacy. The sweater is Uncle Pearl. The hat is Raul's merchandise. And is it actually Raul's or is it. Yeah, they sell them on the website and then. Yeah, the. Oh, shades are thistles. And I am sipping on. I guess this is Clinton Hill's finest because it's from home.

[Jim]

I always travel with different than this.

[Lawrence]

I always travel with a full hydro flask. Because if I'm on the train and I want to.

[Jim]

Is there water from Clinton Hill or Bed Stuy?

[Lawrence]

Who's asking?

[Jim]

Tyrell?

[Lawrence]

Bed stuff. Well, actually, you know what he might be more appreciative of? Like, the Clint Hill Pratt situation. Even though he did go to Parsons. What did he. Did we. Did he ever tell you, like, what he studied? Did that, like when you were talking to him before the show?

[Jim]

Photography?

[Lawrence]

No, but I see. Did he.

[Jim]

I don't know.

[Lawrence]

I. That was the thing.

[Jim]

He kind of was just like around in school and just like running around and building his career outside in the club, outside of the classroom.

[Lawrence]

I don't think he dropped in the

[Jim]

classroom to the curb.

[Lawrence]

Yeah, no, because that's the vibe that. And maybe this is like not on us for. Or it's on us for not asking is like the photography thing. I actually, it's interesting that it was like seemingly a thing from a place of joy. Like a thing he actually enjoyed. Like, even maybe more elevated than a hobby that became this amazing career. I wonder if he studied dance or something, you know, I don't know.

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[Lawrence]

Whatever, man. School the. Yes, the underwear are supreme. Hanes. And that's it for me. What did you wear today, Jim?

[Jim]

New York City's melting slash slushed up, so I'm in the salmon rears. The socks are the best socks made on earth. Darn tough from Vermont.

[Lawrence]

Darn tough.

[Jim]

I think you had like a lifetime warranty on every pair. Cool. Yeah. The fake workwear is. Orally the best fake work is. Yeah. No heat tech. No unique heat tech. Yeah, I gotta wash them hoes, man. Oh, shits are manky.

[Lawrence]

Wait, you haven't washed them all winter?

[Jim]

Well, I don't put them on.

[Lawrence]

No, I know, but still, that's surprising for you.

[Jim]

Yeah, well, because I only have one pair, which is my own fault. And so, like, I'm. Anytime I'm doing laundry. I'm like, well, I need these.

[Lawrence]

Like, I can't. Oh, right. I need to literally wear them right now when I'm.

[Jim]

They're literally the Toby Maguire Spider man, you know, suit that's, like, fallen off. You can do that if you want.

[Lawrence]

I don't know. We don't do the. The midweek boys only, so thank you, but no thanks.

[Jim]

The T shirt is our leg workshop. The long sleeve is sta.

[Lawrence]

Sta.

[Jim]

The hoodie is stucy quality work gear. Or gear.

[Lawrence]

I should probably get out ahead of this. Would you indulge me for a second?

[Jim]

Go ahead.

[Lawrence]

So this jacket, right? You wore it the last time that you wore it. We talked about it, and I happen to be browsing online.

[Jim]

You bought it.

[Lawrence]

They restocked the exact same jacket, and I have it, and I've been trying to figure out how to tell you, and I've been avoiding wearing it because it's yours and it's yours. First. First right. Refusal. But to be clear, I have this. It was literally online. I couldn't believe it. I was shocked because I'm like. And of course, they ran it back because it's a banger. So, yes, I do.

[Jim]

It's.

[Lawrence]

It's honestly been weighing on me because I've been like. Because it's really. It's so warm and so good.

[Jim]

So if anyone would like to buy this hoodie for me, send me an offer and.

[Lawrence]

Because, well, you know, it's sad because before it was restocked, you could have got like. Like there's. There's some colorway that did. They ran back to green. And I believe maybe, like, a black or something. It's on, like, stockx. Like, this was a thing that people really wanted. Maybe you did that. Maybe you made that happen. But probably not. But probably not. I'm being nice. But they. They. The green, I mean, is it still available?

[Jim]

Yeah, widely available. 550 bucks.

[Lawrence]

Great deal.

[Jim]

Yeah. So again, anyone you know, 400 bucks is my initial offer as a final. Send it through and. All right.

[Lawrence]

I had to get that off my chest.

[Jim]

Thank you.

[Lawrence]

No, no, no, no. Thank you.

[Jim]

Thank you.

[Lawrence]

Make it look so good. I needed to have one.

[Jim]

Thank you, Stussy. And the deconstructed puffer is our legache. And the boxers are Hanes. The sunnies are thistle. Sipping on a twist of ass Topo Chico and Lower east side's fines. And the hydro flask.

[Lawrence]

All right. Oh, I forgot. I have my. Our legacy. Emporio Astro Jack.

[Jim]

Nice. Lawrence.

[Lawrence]

Yes.

[Jim]

On tumblr. Bro.

[Lawrence]

No, but I always had, like, cruising it for dudes. No, but it was such a. I like, forget. And I don't have these. I had, like, the biggest menswear Tumblr, like, ever. The point where you.

[Jim]

Number one.

[Lawrence]

I believe so. Well, and the big thing that I always claim that, like, I don't know if anyone could, like, refute this or if I could prove it, but I believe I started the hashtag menswear, like, literally the little hashtag on Tumblr that then became like a fudgeing.

[Jim]

You're, like, the first person to do it.

[Lawrence]

And like. And like. And like, um. I think it, like, popularized as, like, a thing, like, where it was like a hashtag that was associated with a scene, a look, a group of people. But Tumblr always be close to my heart because how to talk to girls at parties. Mainly because of the Q and A stuff that I did while we were working at where I guess this is. Was at the partly bpmw and then later at Guilt, and then moving on from there. But, like, between that and fucking menswear, like, Tumblr was. Was huge for me. And I literally was part of a profile in the New York Times where I was in there because of my Tumblr. Mr. Mort was in there. Yeah. Michael Williams was in there. Jake Davis was in there. And then this guy, Marcus Troy. Do you remember Marcus Troy? Yeah. We had a. It was like some. It was like the future of menswear media. Yeah. And I have a mustache because it was Movember. And I was at Guilt at the time. I look so bad. I'm so fat.

[Jim]

It's called Straight Talk.

[Lawrence]

Yeah. Yeah.