Throwing Fits — PATREON PREVIEW The Social Contract

Episode Date: February 11, 2026
Hosts: Jimmy & Larry

Episode Overview

In this midweek "boys only" Patreon preview, Jimmy and Larry riff on punctuality, the social dynamics of arriving early or late, personal routines, New York Fashion Week, and intertwine the conversation with their customary fit check. The recurring thread is the "social contract" in friendships and contemporary social life, riffing humorously but sharply on the small etiquette rules and faux pas that shape grown-up relationships among city guys. They sprinkle in notes on their own habits, career moments, and upcoming events, all with their typical blend of sardonic irreverence and genuine insight.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. The Etiquette of Punctuality

• Hugo Mendoza's Tardiness:
  The hosts recount a recent recording session with Hugo Mendoza (Brand Director, Awake NY), who arrived significantly late—setting off a chain of reflections about lateness, expectations, and personalities.
  • Quote: Jimmy: "He pushes to 4pm...I was already on the train, so that kind of sucked." (01:50)
  • Quote: Larry: “I kind of expect a little bit of rapper time…he's a mover and a shaker and he's clouded, and he presumably has better things to do.” (02:07)
• Early vs. Late:
  Jimmy and Larry debate whether being early is truly better than being late for social gatherings, digging into personal perspectives and how it impacts host-guest dynamics.
  • Quote: Jimmy: “If you show up at 7:45, I’m like, I'm not ready.” (02:41)
  • Quote: Larry: “You have to give grace…if you have a friend who's commuting…you can be early.” (02:53)
• The ‘Larry-ism’ of Solo Pre-Drinks:
  Larry describes his habit of arriving early to bars to have a drink solo, with Jimmy teasing him about its necessity:
  • Quote: Larry: “Did I ever advocate for that strategy? Because I don't need the social lubricant..." (03:11)
  • Quote: Jimmy: "It was a well-known Larry-ism." (03:24)

2. The Social Contract

• The hosts joke about how both early and late arrivals can disrupt the social "contract," highlighting a shared understanding of boundaries and expectations among friends:
  • Quote: Jimmy: "Being late is the obvious infraction of that…showing up early, it’s like, bro, you’re also not on time." (04:14)
  • Quote: Larry: “Early, definitely better than late. But early, not necessarily.” (04:25)

3. Podcasting Mishaps & Lost Files

• A near-disaster unfolds when the hosts almost forget to start recording a recent guest, resulting in a short “lost file” segment mostly involving watch talk.
  • Quote: Larry: "Imagine it was...And thank God it's Hugo, and thank God, honestly, credit to you that you noticed it within 5 to 10 minutes." (04:50)
  • Quote: Jimmy: “Thank God the Lost files only contain talking about watches.” (05:25)

4. Fashion Week & Relationship Logistics

• NYFW as a “Joke”:
  Larry is characteristically dismissive of New York Fashion Week, but points to one show (Echo Slato) as unmissable and discusses coordinating Valentine's Day plans around it.
  • Quote: Larry: "New York Fashion Week is a fucking joke. I say it every year and nothing changes." (08:14)
  • Quote: Jimmy (joking): “That’s where Trump's…go bomb over there.” (08:33)
• Valentine’s and "Double Dipping":
  Playful suggestions about doubling relationship celebrations with work events, with Larry joking about making plans with his partner Jenna:
  • Quote: Larry: "I'll tell Jenna to meet me somewhere. And I'll already be dressed..." (09:53)
  • Quote: Jimmy: "Your birthday. We’re going to Paris Fashion Week. For Valentine’s, we're going to a fashion week." (09:01)

5. Brand & Scene Shoutouts

• Echo Slato & Queer Downtown Space:
  Larry praises Echo Slato's show as a vital event, giving props to the brand and its importance in their social/fashion scene:
  • Quote: Larry: “It’s a brand that...has a lot going on...even in a space I don’t think Throwing Fits occupies in terms of queer downtown spaces.” (09:12)

6. Personal Style & Fit Checks (07:06, 10:08)

• Larry’s Outfit (07:06):

  • Second Layer Rider boots
  • Reese’s socks
  • Egg House Lotta double knee jeans
  • OG Mildred F&F tee (“Shout out our friends in Mildred, best barbershop for white people and others in Manhattan.” (07:19))
  • Scott Fraser Collection sweater
  • Bootleg Aprese hat (Ventspace)
  • Thistles sunglasses
  • Skims underwear
  • Big “teddy bear” reversible shearling coat (“Big Bane coat. Yes. Beautiful piece of Swedish coterie.” (07:45))

• Jimmy’s Outfit (10:08):

  • Rear Salomon 3x124
  • Nike Drifty socks
  • MF Pen Acid Wash denims
  • Our Legacy box T-shirt
  • Oralee flannel (“Feels soft — I thought it was wool cashmere. It’s wool.” (10:27))

• They riff on fabric details and recent shopping experiences, praising Our Legacy’s quality:

  • Quote: Larry: “I'm feeling this coat...It’s softer than anything I’ve ever felt. They're just—the best at that, you know?” (10:41)

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• "I kind of expect a little bit of rapper time…he's a mover and a shaker and he's clouded, and he presumably has better things to do."
  — Larry (02:07)

• "If you show up at 7:45, I’m like, I'm not ready."
  — Jimmy (02:41)

• "Did I ever advocate for that strategy? Because I don't need the social lubricant..."
  — Larry (03:11)

• "Being late is the obvious infraction of that…showing up early, it’s like, bro, you’re also not on time."
  — Jimmy (04:14)

• "New York Fashion Week is a fucking joke. I say it every year and nothing changes."
  — Larry (08:14)

• “It’s a brand that...has a lot going on...even in a space I don’t think Throwing Fits occupies in terms of queer downtown spaces.”
  — Larry (09:12)

Timestamps for Major Segments

• 00:00–01:30: (Skipped ads)
• 01:31: Episode opens, banter about Hugo Mendoza’s lateness
• 02:07: Lateness and New York’s “mover and shaker” culture
• 02:41: Early vs. late—arrival etiquette
• 03:11: Larry’s solo pre-game habits
• 04:14: The “social contract” around punctuality
• 04:46: Podcasting mishaps—recording error & lost watch talk
• 07:06: Larry’s fit check
• 08:06: Echo Slato’s NYFW show & Valentine’s Day coordination
• 09:12: Echo Slato in queer downtown scenes
• 10:08: Jimmy’s fit check and praise for Our Legacy

Tone & Style Notes

Jimmy and Larry keep the tone snarky yet candid, blending arch social commentary with self-deprecating humor: calling out their own quirks as much as the city's, poking at fashion’s absurdities, but always coming back to real camaraderie.

This summary captures the hosts’ organic, loose riffing style and the episode’s focus on the unsaid rules of “grown up” socializing—perfect for listeners curious about city life etiquette, fashion insider banter, and unfiltered friendship.