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Wally Lamb
Happy to be here, Zivi, and thank you very much.
Zibby Owens
This book deals with such dark, heavy topics and yet there is a hopeful message of resilience all the way through. Can you talk a little bit about where this idea came from and what it's really about?
Wally Lamb
Yeah, sure. Well, you know, I never know when it's time for me to start a new book. I never know what it's going to be about. I don't. You know, I Don't. I'm not moving toward a certain character or a certain ending or anything like that, but what I do. And this was something that taught. That was taught to me by a longtime teacher, writing teacher. And she said, you're never going to tell an interest, you know, like you're never going to tell an original story. She said, so go back to the ancient myths because they're the stories that have lasted because people need them to be told and retold. So I have done that ever since. And so I was. When I was sort of spinning my wheels and trying to figure out what exactly I was going to take on, I started reading about. It's a myth about. It's called La Llorona, and she is the wailing woman in Mexican mythology. And she. She finds out her husband is unfaithful, and in response, she drowns her children in anger. And. And then she is a ghost that haunts, you know, others by the. By rivers. Rivers and, and, and. And bodies of water. So I don't know. That's where I started and couldn't, you know, I kept being interested in that, but it wasn't getting any traction. And then one day in the newspaper, I. I found a little article on one of the, you know, not on page one, but it was about. It was about these terrible accidents called backovers, where usually a parent, somebody. Somebody, a loved one who has a little kid will back, not realize that the kid is not in the car, but back and back in the driveway or whatever and will roll over them. And in 9 out of 10 instances, the child survives. But there is that one terrible example of a. Of a child who does not survive. So I was in horror when I read about that. And at the time we had a. We had. Our first grandchild was three years old, and we had just welcomed an infant. His. His baby sister. And I have a. I have a car with a backup camera. And my son down in New Orleans, Jared, he and his wife did not at the time have a backup camera. And I was so scared, and I think fear probably motivates me more than anything. And so I called them up and I said, look, Jared, if you fly up here to Connecticut from Louisiana, I will give you my car with the backup camera and I'll get another car and you. So fly up and then you can drive it back. And he did that. And I went out and got. Got the exact same car. My, you know, that car was only about 6 months old and. But I, you know, I. And the dealership was like you want the same color you want, you know, they couldn't get it. But yeah, that it started with those two things really. The, you know, the wailing woman. And of course in the, in the story that, that came about, you know, almost seven years later, you know, there is a woman who cries for her children, for her child specifically. And there is water that figures into it. And then there's that terrible accident that occurs.
Zibby Owens
Oh my gosh, I love that you didn't just tell your son Jared, like, I'm going to just buy you a car. You're like, you actually have to fly here and drive my old car so that I can get myself a new car.
Wally Lamb
That's right. Maybe a little bit of selfishness there. I was.
Zibby Owens
No, not at all. You're like, you're teaching your kids to work for it. I love it. You know, I like it. Well, I didn't know it had a name. Backovers. It's, you know, as a parent, it's terrifying, horrifying. Just so, just the thought of it. So that's great that you did that for him. But you know, reading about in the way that an accident and one moment and the ways that you get to some of the worst moments of your life and how you feel you can put yourself in those moments, like you're setting yourself up for some bad things to happen, right. It's not that you're not causing them, it's just you're, you know, it's like when you're walking, walking in the street and you know, nothing good happens on walking on the sidewalk at like 4 in the morning type of thing. Like he's setting himself up for not optimal conditions. So when this horrible thing happens and then the self loathing after and what happens with his wife, Emily and Maisie, his daughter, I mean, it's just, it's hard not to read without like grasping your chest like, oh my gosh, was it hard to write all of that? Like that must have felt or do you like that feeling of like, oof?
Wally Lamb
No. There's a part of me maybe is superstitious that if I write about these terrible things happening to people, maybe they won't happen to me or my family. But that was only a little bit of part of it. No, it was difficult to write about because, you know, I become these characters. I always write in the first person. I think probably, oh, hey, pooch.
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Wally Lamb
No, don't be sorry. No, but you know, I, you know, I hear actors talk about what they do, you know, for A living. And I sort of nod in recognition because what I do is like, I, you know, I walk into the room where I write, which is where I am now, and I become somebody else for, you know, five, six hours. And then luckily I'm able to, you know, shed that skin and go back to my own much more peaceful life. But, yeah, I do feel, I feel when I, when I'm writing as these characters, I feel what they're feeling.
Zibby Owens
Well, the horror of the event just keeps going with. I don't want to give things away. There's so much that happens and I don't want to like, tell everybody, but it just like keeps getting worse. It's like when you feel like your main character can't take anything else. He has, like even more horrible, painful things physically and emotionally happening. How do you come back from this? And that's why I started by saying that is about resilience, because he gets through it, shows us like we can get through anything. Is that what you were kind of going for? Even though it just evolved, you know.
Wally Lamb
I wasn't going for anything in particular. I had no idea, and this is true of just about all the things that I've written, all the novels anyway. I didn't know where it was going to go. I didn't know what was going to happen. But another thing that sort of served me while I was writing this novel is that I had had a 20 year experience working with imprisoned women. I ran a writing program for them, started in 1999 and left the program in 2019. And this is a writing program. I was a volunteer. And the women, once they got to trust me and trust one another, they began to right above their lives and in many cases their secrets, they began to divulge what had derailed their lives. Some of them, many of them had been the victims of incest when they were kids. But anyway, some of the women were, they had had, okay, middle class lives or working class lives. And then like Corby in the novel, one day something happens and, you know, they go off the rails. And so whereas some of the women that I dealt, some of the women that I dealt with, you know, had lives of crime that, you know, from early on. Others just did something one day and found themselves in prison. Which is, you know, which is not to say that Corby didn't, you know, cause him to, you know, to do, to do this terrible thing and end up in prison. But that was, that was instructive for me that you could be living your life, you know, ethically. And then something happens, you snap or whatever and then you spend a lot of years, you know, having to repent.
Zibby Owens
Oh my gosh. You talk, you set it up with, you know, struggling with substances. Right. Corby is really self medicating his way through twin fatherhood. And as a parent of twins, like that is hard. I get it, it is hard to get through some days, but we don't. There's a lot written, I feel like, about moms needing wine to get through the tough times, but there's a lot less about like how men cope with the overwhelm of parenting. Talk a little bit about that.
Wally Lamb
Well, he's, before he becomes the, you know, the custodian parent, he, he's lost his job. So he was a sort of a conventional 30 something guy working for an advertising firm. And then the, and then that firm sort of, you know, it, it sort of, you know, there's a reduction in force or reduction in, in people and he, and he's on the chopping block. And so now he has a wife who is a, is a teacher and she becomes the chief breadwinner. And he loves, he loves the kids, his twins, his, his two year old twins. But he also, as a guy feels somehow disconnected and some something of a failure because he, you know, he's no longer, you know, the family breadwinner. And so he begins to, he gets, he gets, he's anxious and so he gets a prescription for a benzodiazepine and he becomes addicted to that and he also starts drinking and he does this, you know, sneakily and his, so that his wife doesn't see, she knows about the prescription, but she doesn't know that he's also drinking during the day when in fact he's, you know, he's also parenting those kids. So that sort of leads to what happens with him. And you know, I have had my own, you know, problems with alcohol and I've been Sober for about 14 years now. But I bring my own experience into the, into some of his addictive behavior.
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Zibby Owens
And how did you know it was, when did you know it was a problem and when did you seek help?
Wally Lamb
I knew it was a problem about this was for a 10 year period, I knew it was a problem about five years in, but then I was, I was too afraid to go to any, you know, 12 step program because suddenly I was, you know, I had this name recognition and that was keeping me away. It was pride really. And so it, you know, it just got worse, it spiraled down and thank God my wife, you know, hung in there with me. And so eventually I had to walk in and, and, you know, sort of declare myself to a bunch of strangers. And what was, what the wonderful thing was was that it opened me up to all kinds of people who I hadn't known before. And really, and, and I, and I still go to, to meetings and, and I, I've had so many good friendships come out of it. And so really, you know, you think it, you think this terrible thing is going to lead to more terrible things. But in my case, it led to a very, very good dividend.
Zibby Owens
Wow. Well, good for you for getting to the other side of that and being inspiring those who might be struggling. Do you still feel that fear of starting a book?
Wally Lamb
Oh, yes. Yeah. I have just started a new one. You know, the one that. That's coming out soon. The River Is Waiting. I actually finished that at the end of last year, and so I didn't know what else to do. I thought maybe, well, maybe that's my last novel. And then I was hanging around the house for about a week or so, and I go, I don't know what to do, so I'll try something else. And so I started this one and I knew the other one had to come out first, so I wasn't so intimidated to start this. I figured, well, nobody's going to have to look at this for a long time.
Zibby Owens
It's so funny. Oh, my gosh. Do you feel like you'll jinx it if you say what this one is about? Can you talk about it at all?
Wally Lamb
Tell you a little bit about it? The main character is a feisty young woman named Josephine, who's born in 1898. And she's born into a family. She's got two brothers, she idolizes one brother. And she can't stand her bratty little brother because their mother enters him in the. The Charming Child Contest, which actually was a thing, I think it was in the Daily News. And he wins second prize. And so the mother, you know, she. Her younger son can do no wrong. And Josephine, Josie is just really pissed off about this. And he's a little brat, he's a little manipulator. And then, you know, the story grows up. Yeah, I mean, she grows up a little bit in the story, and he does, and he becomes a sort of a Kanahe survivor with women. And her other brother second. Her older brother becomes a soldier in World War I. So I had to do a ton of research on that horrible war. And so that's. I'm about. I'm about maybe 100, 125 pages into it. And again, I'm not sure quite where it's going.
Zibby Owens
I mean, if you want, I could throw out some lighter topics for you. You just go right to the. It's like you can't think of anything, you know, researching a new war. It's like you're a glutton for punishment.
Wally Lamb
Well, I did write one funny book called Wishing and Hoping. And they. They actually made a. A movie, a Christmas movie out of it. And that, that was a delight to, to write. It was the fastest thing I ever wrote. And it was a lot of fun and, and being, you know, going to the movie set and everything. That was fun. That was. That one stars Molly Ringwald and the late great meatloaf who I met, who I met on the set one time. And he said, oh, yeah, you're the guy who wrote the book, right? And I said, yeah. And he says, well, I want to tell you something, Wally. I've had three concussions in my life. And proceeds. Tell me about the three concussions. I'm like, okay. I'm not sure where that came from, but I'm going to listen.
Zibby Owens
Oh, my gosh. I was kidding, of course, about the lighter topics.
Wally Lamb
Oh, sure. Well, I do, I do have to, because I write about these bleak things. I do have to sort of save myself by putting in some comic relief. So usually there is a friend or somebody in the, you know, one of the minor characters sort of gives the readers a chance to sort of breathe a little bit. In this case, it is one of. One of Corby's cellmates.
Zibby Owens
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Wally Lamb
A guy named, A guy named Manny, Manny Dellavecchia, who is half Italian and half Jewish. And he's, you know, he's, he's a, he's sort of a good guy in, in this prison where there are a lot of bad guys. And so he becomes Corby's friend, which is lovely.
Zibby Owens
When you finish a day of intense writing and you walk back into the other room, how is that transition? Are you able to just shake it off or does it linger? Do you feel it? Is it heavy like a coat you're wearing?
Wally Lamb
No, I can usually shake it off. Although my wife, Chris, sometimes, she knows I don't usually talk, tell her on a day to day basis what's happened in the story. But she can tell if something really hard happened because she says, your behavior will sort of reflect that. I don't necessarily feel that, but that's her observation. And I play a lot of music. Music, lots of times will pull me out and pull me out of the plot. And I, I also sometimes play music while I'm writing. Usually, you know, on a low volume. But, but, and, and sometimes it, it sort of helps me if I'm trying to figure out what the story is or what the next plot element might be. Sometimes a lyric, a song lyric that I kind of overhear while, while the music is going on, will direct something and that. And that happened. It's why it's it's why I like to tip my hat to songwriters, because so I've always. Every one of my novels either is from a song title or has a. Like an excerpt from a. From a song, from a song lyric. And this latest one, the River Is Waiting, actually came in the middle of writing the story, and it's an old John Fogarty song. He was the lead singer for Breedon's Clearwater Revival. And there's a beautiful version of the same song by Irma Thomas, who is one of the mainstays of New Orleans music. So, yeah, that's. I like to sort of tip my hat to the musicians for helping me find the way. And, you know, the river is waiting. So I decide, okay, that has to be the title. I'm not sure why, but what is the river waiting for? Then I have to ask myself, myself that question and try to. Try to solve that riddle.
Zibby Owens
So interesting. Oh, my gosh. Okay, well, what advice do you have for aspiring authors?
Wally Lamb
Well, I've worked with a lot of aspiring authors, high school kids, for about 25 years. And then I worked as the head of creative writing at the University of Connecticut for a while, and then I worked for the prison with the prison writers and so forth. And I. I tell them the same message, that the real writing comes in revision. Don't ever feel that you can get it right in a first draft. It doesn't happen to me, and it doesn't happen to any of the professional writers that I know. And I have been in a writer's group for. Oh, God, almost when I started writing, first of all at Vermont College and then later with a private writing group. And we've been going together for years, decades. And so you. So you humble yourself to the process. You listen to other people about how you might add something that's going to make it better or cut something that's going to make it better or clarify something that you think is clear but other people don't. And sometimes reordering, putting things like, you might have a great paragraph that's buried in the middle of an essay or a story. So try it at the beginning, you know, see if you like it. In other words, I really like to revise. I think a first draft is grunt work. I mean, that becomes really hard to me. And then after that, there's more play involved.
Zibby Owens
I love that. Wally, thank you so much. The river is waiting. So beautiful, so emotional. This is what good books do, right? They make you feel like you're going through it yourself. And it was really beautiful.
Wally Lamb
Thank you. I really enjoyed this. And the, you know, the way I know it is because I thought about 10 minutes had gone by and instead it's time to close. So that's a tribute to you. You're a great interviewer. Thank you, Zibby. And thank you for all you do for books and for readers and writers as well.
Zibby Owens
Thank you. It's very sweet. Thank you so much.
Wally Lamb
All right.
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Wally Lamb
You too.
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Podcast Summary: "Wally Lamb, THE RIVER IS WAITING: A Novel" on Totally Booked with Zibby
Release Date: June 10, 2025
Introduction
In this episode of Totally Booked with Zibby, host Zibby Owens welcomes acclaimed author Wally Lamb to discuss his latest novel, "The River Is Waiting." Wally Lamb, renowned for his six New York Times bestselling novels, brings a wealth of experience and personal insight to the conversation, delving deep into the themes and inspirations behind his new work.
Exploring the Themes and Inspirations ([04:40] - [11:28])
Zibby begins by highlighting the novel's blend of dark, heavy topics with an underlying message of resilience. She asks Wally about the genesis of these themes and the story's core message.
Wally Lamb explains, "I never know when it's time for me to start a new book... I go back to the ancient myths because they're the stories that have lasted because people need them to be told and retold." He draws inspiration from the Mexican myth of La Llorona, the wailing woman who drowns her children out of grief and anger, embodying themes of loss and haunting.
Additionally, a real-life incident involving car backovers profoundly impacted Wally. He recounts how a news article about these tragic accidents, combined with personal fears for his own family, influenced the narrative. "I was in horror when I read about that... fear probably motivates me more than anything," he shares ([07:00]).
Character Development and Personal Struggles ([11:28] - [21:43])
The discussion shifts to the protagonist, Corby, who grapples with substance abuse while navigating the challenges of fatherhood. Zibby draws parallels between Corby's struggles and broader issues of how men cope with the overwhelming demands of parenting.
Wally Lamb delves into Corby's background: "He's lost his job, feels disconnected as a father, and turns to benzodiazepines and alcohol to cope." Drawing from his own experiences with alcoholism, Wally emphasizes the authenticity in Corby's addictive behaviors. "I bring my own experience into some of his addictive behavior," he notes ([14:00]).
He further discusses the complexities of addiction, attributing his own struggles to a combination of personal and professional pressures, including adopting a troubled child and caring for aging parents. "It was a perfect storm of those three things happening... I began to escape by using, by medicating myself with alcohol," Wally confesses ([19:00]).
Writing Process and Emotional Depth ([21:43] - [26:02])
Zibby inquires about the emotional toll of writing such intense material. Wally Lamb responds, "I become these characters... I walk into the room where I write, and I become somebody else for five, six hours." He describes the immersive nature of his writing process and how music often plays a role in shaping his narratives.
He also touches upon his work with imprisoned women and how their stories of redemption and struggle influenced the novel. "Some of the women had been victims of incest... or had their lives derailed by a single event," Wally explains ([12:00]).
Advice for Aspiring Authors ([28:06] - [29:38])
Towards the end of the conversation, Zibby seeks Wally's advice for new writers. Wally Lamb emphasizes the importance of revision and humility in the writing process. "The real writing comes in revision. Don't ever feel that you can get it right in a first draft," he advises ([28:06]).
He recounts his experiences in writer's groups and the value of feedback: "Listen to other people about how you might add something that's going to make it better... sometimes reordering, putting things like, you might have a great paragraph that's buried in the middle of an essay or a story," Wally elaborates. He encourages writers to embrace the iterative nature of crafting a compelling story.
Conclusion
The episode concludes with heartfelt thanks exchanged between Zibby and Wally, highlighting the profound impact of "The River Is Waiting." Wally expresses gratitude for the platform to share his work, while Zibby praises his ability to create emotionally resonant literature.
Wally Lamb remarks, "This is a tribute to you. You're a great interviewer. And thank you for all you do for books and for readers and writers as well," underscoring the mutual respect and appreciation between author and host ([29:51]).
Notable Quotes
"I never know when it's time for me to start a new book... I go back to the ancient myths because they're the stories that have lasted because people need them to be told and retold." — Wally Lamb ([04:57])
"I become these characters... I walk into the room where I write, and I become somebody else for five, six hours." — Wally Lamb ([10:17])
"The real writing comes in revision. Don't ever feel that you can get it right in a first draft," — Wally Lamb ([28:06])
Final Thoughts
Totally Booked with Zibby offers listeners an intimate glimpse into Wally Lamb's creative journey, revealing the interplay between personal experiences and mythological influences that shape his storytelling. "The River Is Waiting" stands as a testament to resilience amidst adversity, echoing the timeless narratives that Wally passionately brings to life.
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