Toure Show Podcast Summary

Episode: He Had NINE Other Women—Why Did They Breakup?
Date: November 26, 2025
Host: Touré (DCP Entertainment)
Guest: Dara

Episode Overview

This gripping episode of the Toure Show delves into Dara's extraordinary breakup story. Dara recounts discovering that her partner, with whom she was on the verge of buying a house, was secretly involved with at least nine other women—including a neighbor expecting his child. The episode explores deception, confrontation, emotional resilience, and Dara’s journey through an intricate web of betrayal.

Key Discussion Points and Insights

Discovery of the Burner Phone (01:00–02:00, 05:30–06:13)

• Dara describes finding a constantly buzzing phone while alone at her boyfriend’s place.
• On searching, she discovers a "prophylactic drawer full"—stocked with lubricants, condoms, and a burner phone.
• Upon unlocking it (using her partner’s usual passcode), she uncovers dozens of loving messages and evidence of multiple romantic and sexual relationships.
• Quote:
  “I open a drawer, and in this drawer is lubricants and the prophyl drawer full. And in that drawer is the buzzy. And I pull out and it's a burner phone.” — Dara (01:25)

Initial Relationship and Red Flags (02:33–03:29)

• Dara met her partner on a blind date, which she was two hours late for but he still waited.
• Relationship lasted nearly two years, with the first red flags appearing about three months in due to her boyfriend’s odd overnight work schedule and flexible days off.
• He lent her a car to make visits easier, making her feel integrated in his life.

The Web of Deceit Unfolds (06:13–07:12, 08:04–10:25)

• Dara discovers that some of the women she socialized with through her boyfriend were also romantically involved with him.
• Plans with him progressed towards marriage and house-hunting with both families involved.
• She bravely decides to contact the other women, revealing the extent of his duplicity.
• Quote:
  “Not one woman, not two women, not three women. Seven different women.” — Dara (05:50)

Dara’s Investigative Confrontations (08:09–12:33)

• Dara, leveraging her journalist instincts, systematically contacts each of the women after piecing together names and contact details from the burner phone.
• She finds that many were aware of each other, and several had met Dara under false pretenses.
• The first woman Dara contacts is initially defensive but eventually gives information willingly, leading Dara to even more names.
• Memorable moment: Dara and the first woman sit on a bench in New Jersey, exchanging information calmly.

Increasing Sense of Betrayal and Exhaustion (11:00–14:51)

• Dara spends three days tracking down and speaking with the women—she contacts at least 8.
• Not all women are receptive or want to meet, but the picture becomes clearer: he built intricate lies, even telling some that Dara lived out of the country.
• Quote:
  “Everyone knew... I thought you lived out of the country.” — Dara (11:57)

The Immigrant Girlfriend and Hidden Child (13:52–15:30)

• Dara meets a woman with poor English, who immediately breaks down crying, fearing for her son’s security (with implications the child may belong to Dara’s partner).
• The woman reveals he was paying her rent and providing for her child.
• Quote:
  "She started crying. She did not confirm nor deny [if the child was his]... She wanted to stay in America, and she was in love with him.” — Dara (14:52)

The Neighbor and the Ultimate Betrayal (17:19–21:56)

• Dara identifies a package (a baby bassinet) mistakenly delivered to another unit in their building.
• Realizes her partner’s neighbor—whom she regularly saw and helped with groceries—is pregnant with his child.
• Quote:
  “His new child not yet delivered... she was the neighbor. Nice sister girl who we would help each other with Whole Foods.” — Host (21:48)

The Final Showdown (15:41–17:19, 25:34–27:42)

• Dara plans to break up directly, confronting her partner during what was supposed to be their house-signing day, naming each woman and referencing the neighbor’s pregnancy.
• He tries repeatedly to reconcile, first with explanations, then with pleas, even attempting couples counseling (which he storms out of).
• Quote:
  “I started naming them. I said, so that they can all come through. And I said, and what are you going to do about number eight and her son?” — Dara (17:19)

Counseling, Denial, and Final Goodbyes (25:38–27:57)

• Dara describes attending one counseling session, where her ex feels “ganged up on” by both Dara and the therapist.
• He proposes marriage, stating he had been looking at rings.
• Dara, undeterred, points out the absurdity and refuses to continue the relationship.
• Quote:
  "You haven't even told him about the baby. The therapist is like, there's a child involved. ... Are you going to tell the story or do you want me to tell it? That was the last time." — Dara (27:16)
• Memorable moment (on his proposal): “Did you had a baby?” — Dara (27:58)

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments (with Timestamps)

• Burner Phone Reveal:
  “I open a drawer, and in this drawer is lubricants and the prophyl drawer full. And in that drawer is the buzzy. And I pull out and it's a burner phone.” (01:25, Dara)

• Scale of Deceit:
  “Not one woman, not two women, not three women. Seven different women.” (05:50, Dara)

• Her Calm Demeanor:
  “You’re really calm... because what are you going to do? ... I said, I don't have the ring. We're not doing some of the things. ... I'm a little disgusted, and I'm really now trying to figure out how this happened.” (09:16, Dara)

• Neighbor pregnant by him:
  “His new child not yet delivered. ... she was the neighbor. Nice sister girl who we would help each other with Whole Foods.” (21:48, Host)

• Counselor’s disbelief:
  “The counselor was like, I just. I'm not understanding your point of view, sir. I'm trying to understand ... it wasn't just an affair. It was nine different. And potential babies.” (26:42, Host)

• Rejected Proposal:
  “I want to marry you. And I just—hello? Hello? What? What? Hello? What number are you calling? Did you had a baby?” (27:57, Dara)

Timestamps for Important Segments

• [01:00]: Dara discovers the buzzing burner phone.
• [03:20]: First red flags and description of the relationship.
• [05:30]: Dara uncovers the scale of his infidelity.
• [08:04–10:58]: Dara confronts and interviews the other women.
• [13:52]: Emotional meeting with the immigrant woman and her son.
• [17:19]: The dramatic confrontation at the house signing.
• [21:48]: Dara discovers the neighbor’s pregnancy by her partner.
• [25:38]: The final failed attempts at reconciliation and counseling.
• [27:57]: Rejected marriage proposal.

Tone and Takeaways

• Dara’s voice throughout: Unflinching, often dryly humorous, with an undertone of exhausted disbelief rather than sadness.
• Host’s tone: Sympathetic, supportive, and occasionally incredulous at the scale of deception.
• Biggest lesson: Dara’s resilience and methodical approach demonstrate self-respect—she refuses to be a victim, sets boundaries, and exits the situation with clarity.

Conclusion

This episode exposes the many layers of betrayal hidden beneath an otherwise “solid” relationship. Dara’s story is one of uncovering truth, setting limits, and unwavering self-respect even in the face of collective heartbreak. Her calm, investigative approach provides both practical wisdom and emotional inspiration for listeners navigating betrayal or breakups.