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Are You a Man? Are You a Mutt? // Relationship Goals: In Real Life (Part 3) // Pastor Michael Todd
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And I want to admit that to you as my congregation because I can't lead you to a place I've never been. And I want to let you know that I've gone on a journey to become a man that I've never met before. And if you thought that our church has been effective in the past. Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa. You ain't seen nothing yet. And today, I feel like God is so kind that he would save this message today until I did some of the work that I've done. And so we are in a series, part three of a series called Relationship Goals. Help me in Real Life. Has this been blessing anybody so far, this series? Okay, today we're going to another level, so buckle up. I got 48 minutes, and I'mma use every second of it, because I think I found specifically. Ladies, I think I have found the answer to your questions. No, no, no, no, no. You didn't hear what I just said. This is not it. Charles, come get this real quick. I think I found the answer to your question, because how many people in here want a good relationship if everybody's hand is not up? Golly. I'm gonna ask it one more time, and we're gonna give you a redo online and in the room. How many people in here want good relationships? All right. Okay. How many people in here have at least one good relationship? Okay. How many people would say they have over 10 good relationships? You're lying. 10 is a lot. 10 is a lot. I would challenge your one, but I will say 10 is extra. No, no, no. I hope you do have over 10 good relationships. But the truth of the matter is, most people don't have one. If you put it against the criteria that God says a good relationship is. Because the first criteria to a good relationship. Let me just ask you this, is it healthy? Did you connect around trauma bonding? How did your relationship start? Because the root of a thing is always connected to the fruit of a thing. So where did you meet that person that you have a great relationship with? What are some of the patterns and the cycles of those relationships? Are there certain things that y' all do that y' all know is okay, but you would never tell anybody else to do those things? Today I want to help the ladies. Lady, you can do that anywhere. And they. What is that? Today, ladies, I'm going to teach you how to choose a man. Now, some of y' all, that clap, you already got one. Hold them tight. Cause we about to see if you chose right. No, I'm just playing. Okay. Everybody say, how to choose a man. I wish this was a class in high school. I mean, or at Bible Elite. Like, how to choose a man should be before you get 18 years old. Like. But we don't teach that yet. It will be one of the greatest decisions of your life who you decide to partner up with. How to choose a man. And for everybody that's already had a man and you've had several men, and it's okay, it's okay. And maybe you're with a man right now that you don't know. This is gonna give everybody clarity today. And some of you, you're just gonna be able to tell your grandchildren and say it one more time. Say, how to choose a man. Here's the point. One point. And the sermon is done for you ladies. You can't choose a man who has not yet decided to be. And many of my sisters are trying to choose a man who has not chosen himself. Selah, pause and think. Pastor Mike, run it back one more time. You are out here trying to choose something that has not identified as what you're looking for. I need a man. I need a strong man. I need a man who provides. I need a man who does what he does in the bedroom, but still does what he does before God. I need. I see y' all tiktoks. The truth of the matter is you're looking for what there is very few of. I came to fight today because there's an all out war against biblical manhood. And we're building hopes of people trying to find something that is not being developed. I'm going to Walk us through this, men. I got you. Okay, so I'm not coming at you. But I want to teach you what you were never taught. And my people perish, the Bible says for a lack of knowledge. So today, if I don't teach this, we always at church are healing the symptoms of the issue that never actually gets taught. We don't have enough people who have decided to become a man. Pastor Mike, you got to give me some Bible for this. Well, Genesis 5, chapter 1, verse 2. This is in the beginning, okay? And the Bible says it like this. God, he made them to be like him. He created them, male and female, and he blessed them and he called them humankind. Okay? He did not create man and woman. He created male and female. So I need everybody to understand the order of God. He doesn't make men, he makes males. Okay, so every person born with the equipment that God designed to identify male. If you following me, That person is male or female, God only gives two options. Anything else is confusion. I didn't say it, he said it. He created them like him, both male and female. What that makes me understand is that you can be a 55 year old male and not a man. Just because you have the equipment doesn't mean you're equipped. They don't want me to be real right now. You know, some people who still act like they in their mama's house and they 65 years old, playing them same games they played in middle school, high school, doing the same things, they are not men yet. They are just males. Okay, I gotta keep moving because some of y' all looking real mad at me right now. And what I just want to let you know is maybe you just didn't know. Maybe you were raised by a male, not a man. Maybe you never met a man. Maybe you weren't introduced. And so today I want to give you a picture that no matter where you are, fellas, you need to understand that God has a design for biblical manhood. Can I break this down for you real quick? Because all of these ladies want to be in relationship goals with you. But God told us in Genesis, it's not good for Adam to be alone. But look at the word he used. It's not good for man to be alone. That means it is good for male too. Oh, God. He said it. He. Oh my God. He created in the beginning male and female, female. But then he said it's not good for man to be alone. That means there was something that happened in Adam from him being created as male to God, then changing him into man. Y' all don't read the Bible. So. So there is a decision. I'm going to tell you what that decision is. It was the decision to be submitted to God and it was his choice. And so let me lay out for you, if you've never seen this, if you don't get anything else I say, I want you to understand the progression that God desires for every male to actually possess and to teach to the next generation. This is what it's supposed to be. You are born a male. Put a slide up on the screen, please. You were born a male. And male is biological. You had no choice in that them X and Y chromosomes came together and did the thing and your mom and daddy and you got her nose and you got his face and you got. You look just like your daddy. And that's. You had no choice in that. But that is biological. The next decision is to go from a male and become a man. And man is about intentional. I did it on purpose. I made decisions to say no to that. I made decisions to say yes to that. I made a decision to leave that and follow Christ. I made a decision to leave that girl alone. I made a decision to leave them dudes alone. I made a decision to stop drinking that. I intentionally decided that these things go against what God says is good for me to build my character, to be a man of integrity, to stand and be a man of valor. This thing is intentional. You do not become a man by age. Time served does not make you a man. The saddest truth is there are men that live and die males, they never graduate. And this is the crazy thing that this is just the second level. But wait, there's more. And how do you kill a king? In adolescence when they tried to kill Jesus, they said every child under the age of two kill them all. That's the same thing he's trying to do to all men. Even if you live to be an old age. He's trying to kill and stunt your growth from a child. This is why images of pornography are getting introduced younger and younger. This is why people's self esteem, this is why fathers not being in the home. This is why all of these things are happening. It's trying to rob a generation of their kids duty so that they never become the vehicles that God wants to use to actually represent him on this earth. And so they're passive and insecure and don't know how to make a decision. Or they touch everything that has to has an ability to be touched. And they going Everywhere they're not supposed to go. And they have no control, no impulse that they can walk away from things because they are just male. You could say it like this. It's just in their nature. But Jesus said, any man that is in Christ, he gets a new nature. This is why even coming to Christ is still about your decision. Because everything that makes you a man, nobody will make you do. You have to decide to do it. Somebody say, I have a choice. And what God wants you to understand is male is biological, but man is intentional. That's your choice. But the reason that he wants you to become a man is because he wants you to reflect his image and one day be a father. And this is why the attack has been on fatherhood. Because if you are a male and you just have kids, you're a daddy, not a father. Oh, God. That's why they call them baby daddies. They don't call them baby fathers. Because a father actually has a part of instilling something into them. They're actually trying to teach them something. What are they supposed to teach them? How to go from a male to a man. But if you've never gone through the process of going from a male to a man, you don't know how to take anybody through that. So you settle for being a daddy. God, dog. I am preaching up here right now. And so many people in this generation have been raised with the absence of fathers by placebos of a father, which is a daddy, which says, I don't emotionally have to check in as long as I send you a check. I paid my child support, you weak, sorry, son of a. They didn't ask to be here. I'm sorry. I get frustrated because I'm wiping the tears. You should have wiped. I sit in counseling with your daughters. Your son who is confused about his identity. I'm telling him that Jesus loves him. And you up the street. I got to watch this because I have a personal. I can't see how you would bring somebody into the world and then leave them to fend for all of this by themselves. When God gave you an anointing and a mandate to be able to actually teach them how to actually grow up, to have a healthy soul. So remember last week when I told you that they need to be seen, safe, secure, and soothe? That is a part of what the man is supposed to do. But a male doesn't think that. A male thinks that. As long as you know me, and I show up and I'm here and I gave you some money and I Don't treat your mama bad. And I'm not even talking about the ones who go toxic. I'm just saying, like, you think that participation is why you need a prize. I have to literally read a book, take a test, get blood drawn to get my driver's license. But you can lay down with anybody and have a kid. The reason I'm saying this is because I want you to feel the gravity of what happens when you don't walk into biblical manhood. Everybody around you suffers, whether you feel it or not. So what God says is, I want every male to go from male to everybody. Say man, then go to. Which is spiritual, because his picture is the one of a family. God wants fathers to be in place so that the family is stable. Every example of what God does in his word, it is. He uses the metaphor of family. We are the family of God. I take those who are outside and I bring the spirit of adoption and set them into family. If you look at the father, son, all of the analogies are family. Because he said, as it is in heaven, we are family. What do I want to be the picture of heaven on earth? It's families. That's why everybody connects with the story of the prodigal son. Because it's in the family where a son goes away. But when the son doesn't think he can come back, he starts to come back and sees the father's already going towards him. That is a picture of what God does to you when you are wayward in your sin. And at the moment you turn around, God's not just waiting for you to come back. He. He's actually coming towards you. The picture is family. But what the enemy knows, if that's the ultimate picture of God, how do I kill the family? I kill the father. And I kill the father by letting him know that he's not a man. And I kill his manhood by convincing him to stay a male. Cause it's easier. Whatever's in your nature, however you feel, this is why God put this in me. If he didn't want me to have it, then why do I just feel this? I feel like God wants me to be with multiple women. Because if I'm a woman, multiple women, why would he put this urge in me? And all these dumb things. That's a male talking, okay? And the reason that God places people in family for the last part is because he wants it to be forever. The family name is supposed to go on and on and on. What God is saying is, I want my name, my Mark to go on. And I'm the God of Abraham, Isaac. And he's a generational God. So what he wants it to be is family relational and forever eternal. He says, I want you to be in my family. And even when your family. That's why it even says in Hebrews that there will be a great cloud of witnesses, that's your family cheering you on from heaven because they've made it. And it's supposed to be, oh, God. Okay, so how do you kill God's eternal plan? Keep them at mail. We could end right there, but I can't end right there, because if this is God's design, you know, culture always tries to pervert something that God creates. So there's a new one that was added culturally in the last two years that I need to address real quick, because I think some of my sisters are thinking that this is a part of God's design. And I just wanted to be clear that it's not. There was a song released in 2024 that won two Grammys. It had 381 million streams. And there's a line in it that says, she said, take your time. What's the rush? I said, baby, I'm a dog. I'm a mutt. I'm a dog. I'm a mu. Today, I have to acknowledge the space between. Put the. Put it back up there. There's a space between male and man. It's mutt. Yeah, yeah. Some of y' all are mutts. You have literally convinced people it's okay for you to live like this. And I need everybody to understand what a mutt is. I put it into a cross stick that you could understand. A mutt stands for a male unwilling to transform. So anytime you hear somebody say, baby, I'm a dog, I'm a mutt. You are a male, not a man. Cause a man decides to actually do things that are uncomfortable, he decides to continue to grow. He decides to stay in a place of humility to actually learn something. He decides to come to the table and apologize. But a mutt. Do y' all know what a mutt is in real life? It's a. What'd you say? It's a dog who has been mixed with strands of DNA that they were not created to be mixed with. I could say it like this. It's a perversion, a mutation. It's somebody that is taking things from different streams, from different ideas, from my Uncle Ben, from my cousin Jerry. I'm putting all of these things into what I should be Formed, like. And I'm trying to call it Manhood. It's mut hood. And the crazy thing about this line, because the song is a vibe. And I'm telling you, if you listen to it over and over, you'll be convinced. I'll be like, baby, I'm a dog. I'm a mat. A dog. I'm a mat. I'm telling you. But that's what culture tries to do. It sweetens it up. And you confessing something that you don't want in your relationship, it's on your relationship goals playlist. It's even in the movie. I didn't even know. What I'm saying is culture will try to sell you something. Ain't nothing wrong with the song. Leon is so talented. That's not what I'm talking about. I'm talking about the concept. Because the girl says, baby, take your time. What's the rush? She has now lowered the standard to be able to be in relationship with somebody who's telling her straight up, don't trust me. I'm a dog. Rough, Rough. And anytime you hear mutt, it is a man unwilling to transform. So the title of my message today is, are you a man or are you a mutt? Only you can answer that question. Ladies, please stop letting mutts entertain you. Throw a stick and tell them to run away. No, no, no. The reason why I'm saying this is because the longer you're around them, you'll start to think that this is the standard. And I know there's some brothers up here mad at me. And I know you just turned in your player card last week. And I know you trying to figure out, what am I gonna do? Cause we just had an issue. I'm gonna teach you. I'm not gonna never leave you out there. But I need you to acknowledge nothing changes if you diagnose wrong. You don't go to the doctor and say, my foot hurts when it really is your hand. We gotta acknowledge the thing. Many of us did not have pictures of good man in our life. And so we settled for making it up as we go. And we settled. Got mutts. And all. I want to know, ladies, are you attracted to a man or a mutt? Because you keep only, I want him to be a bad boy. Like, I kind of, like. I kind of want him to have a record, but, like, not. Nothing too serious. I mean, I kind of. You know what I'm saying? I kind of want him to act like he gonna hit me, but, like, don't Hit me. Y' all know I'll be on TikTok. I heard you, TikTok. Like, I want. I want to be a boss, but I want him to be there all the time. Like, I just. I want us to see what we're promoting and what we're lifting up and what we're celebrating and what we are watch this secretly are quietly attracted to because you're only attracted to what's actually in your heart. You may not like the outcome, but you do like the input. Let me keep moving. Men. Are you raising men or mutts? Hey, bro, bro, bro. Hey, hey, hey, hey. Listen to me. I'm your father, man. Hey, you don't never tell a woman the whole truth. I've heard men say this to their children. Hey, hey, hey. That's too much information. You tell them what they need to know. Hey, trust me, Your dad will never steal you. Wrong. I just want you to think about the things that you watch this. And many men don't even engage in it. They just try to hide it and think their kids don't see it. And I want you to know the greatest private eyed detectives are your kids. There are things to this day my parents think they hid from us and all my brothers like, yeah, we've seen that every day. Y' all hear what I'm saying? I'm asking you to make a decision to change men of God from where you have been to where God desires and designs you to be. So write this point down. Going from a mutt to a man is a choice. Going from a mutt to a man, you can choose today. Today can be the last day that you bar. This is be done. Because it's a everybody say choice. The greatest thing that God gave all of us is choice. You have to choose him because love has to have a choice. And that's why First Corinthians 13:11 says, When I was a child, I spoke and thought and reasoned as a child. But when I grew up, this is the key part to this verse. I put away childish things. God did not come put them away. God doesn't put childish things away in your life. He will let you play with your little toys and your RC cars and your hot Wheels as long as you decide to. And he said, if you want to go from being a male or a mutt to a man, choose how to choose a man. He has to choose first. That's why First Corinthians 16:13 says, Be watchful, stand firm in the faith and act like men. Be strong. I came to tell every male, act like men. How can you say that? Because I am one. I know what it is to stand deny my flesh. I know what it is to walk in meekness. I know what it is to leave a life that felt easy to say yes to the call of God. I know what it is to turn the other cheek when I could bust yours. Y' all don't hear? See, we think the wrong things are manhood. I know what it is to get on my knees and apologize to my wife. I know what it is to say, baby, I'm sorry I missed that. I didn't cover you in that situation. That was a misstep on my part, and I'm not just saying I'm sorry. I'm gonna change it. Because only a man can call a male to manhood. And today, as a man, a man of God, a man of conviction, a man that leads other men. Today, I'm asking you. Maybe you didn't have a pastor that would be this honest with you. Maybe you didn't have somebody that you could actually look at their life and say, maybe I want to follow that. I am not a perfect man. I still am dependent on God every single day. But what I have done is I've decided. As for me in my house, oh, God, I'm getting happy. As for me in this church, church, some of y' all need to get faith and stand strong. And maybe I wasn't who I needed to be. But today I'm making a decision. As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord. This is hope for you, because you can decide today. I don't care what your past was. I don't care what yesterday was. Somebody say, now you can choose to walk in to biblical manhood. Well, Pastor Mike, can you help me with that? This is how we're going to do it. Six things a biblical man chooses that a mutt would never. Six things a biblical man chooses that a mutt would never. A biblical man chooses number one submission. Here we go. We just canceled out 70% of people. All the mutts just running away. Why? Because this is the number one thing a man does. A man submits, he becomes sub to the mission of God. Have you given your life to Christ? Have you said, not my will, but yours be done? Have you said, because of the call, many can, but I cannot? Have you picked up your cross and decided to carry it not just on Sunday, but pick it up and carry it daily? I see a picture of disciples, and y' all know the story of some of the first disciples that he actually called to follow him. They were having a horrible business day. They were on a fishing boat and they were trying to get it. And Jesus said to them, they didn't even know who he was. He said, hey, throw your nets on the other side. And they're like, who is this dude? Throw your nets on the other side. We've been fishing all day. We're professional fishermen. What are you talking about? But I guess ain't nothing else worked. And they threw their nets on the other side. And the Bible says when they tried to pick it up, the load was so heavy that it started to sink their boats that they had to call competitors over and put some. Some of they catch on they boats. It was the biggest business day they had ever had. And then Jesus's simple instruction is, leave that and follow me. Most of us would not be subbed to that mission. We were like, hold on, hold on. I got to cash this in. Where you going to be on Thursday? Because I'm going. Go ahead and. Go ahead and put this together. And then put a little bit aside. He said, I just wanted to show you what I could do. My question is, what are you about to do? And those dudes became disciples, not because they knew everything. It's because they become submitted. They left what looked prosperous to find what was everlasting. And if you are going to be a biblical man, if you're going to actually step into this, you're going to have to become subbed to the mission. Why are you saying that, Pastor Mike? Cause a mutt is solo. A man is submitted. If you're around a man who's isolated and nobody can be around him and don't nobody know nothing about him, run. Seen a lot of Netflix documentaries about guys like that. The reason I'm saying this is the greatest level of submission is not just to God. When you become submitted to God, you learn how to become submitted to others. And that's why this phrase is pervasive in culture. Only God can judge me eternally, but my wife can judge if the tone was wrong. Y' all don't want to hear that. My friends can judge if the motive was wrong. The people who know me, they'd be like, you did that because you wanted to be seen. Don't even act like that. But most people are solo. So when you don't have anybody and anything to be submitted to, nobody that has the sit down and shut up card in your life, who has the sit down and shut up Card. And when I just said that, some men just got angry because the only thing that makes you a man is that you're the final say. And if you're the final say, then you have to actually hold everything up. A man doesn't have to be the final say, because we know who has the final say. Oh, God. Y' all don't want to hear me, so I'm just. I'm just letting everybody know. You need to be submitted to God. And you will find mutts who be like, I'm religious. I'm spiritual, but I understand. I don't know. Church man, he just want me for my money. You don't have money. You're saying stuff that you don't even qualify for. Let me stop. Ladies, can I give you a tip? I said, ladies, can I give you a tip? Pick a man that has a pack. Pick a man that has. I'm not talking about 50 people. Pick a man that has good men around him and then go. Go have a conversation with them about him. You can talk to anybody around me and find out what type of man I am. If you. If they. Boys. Oh, y' all say, yeah, yeah. Yo, he for real, though. He for real, though. Run. Why are you saying this? Because accountability. Watch. This shows up. You don't have to prove you're accountable. You'll have fruit. But that's somebody who subbed to the mission. And if you are a male in this place and you want to actually become a man, choose being submitted to God. Let me keep moving. Okay? I gotta say one more thing. The thing that makes a male a mutt is a mutt usually doesn't have a master. The people who pay all them thousands of dollars for purebred dogs, they're somebody who will train, teachers, give them. I got an expensive dog, and I don't know why. Natalie. Excuse me, but her and my daughters conspired and went and got us a dog. And the thing that made it expensive was not how cute it was, it was what blood was running through it. We know the lineage. What I'm saying to you today is that we have a master that has a plan for you, that doesn't want to harm you, but wants to give you hope in a future. And he wants you to be subbed to this mission. And if you are in this room and you're ready to go to the next level, the first thing you have to do is become submitted to God's will for your life. Let me give you number two. A biblical man chooses Work. It is quiet in this room. I said, a biblical man, a mutt would never choose this. A mutt's trying to hit the lottery. Y' all know what I'm talking. A mutt's in his room only making videos to become speedy or droosty or. They're in it. You have no job. You still live with your mom. A mutt. Maybe I should do this just for men. Maybe some of y' all your pride is getting hurt. You need a job. If it doesn't pay you, it's a hobby. No, I'm just out here working on my skills, bro. I'm just. Bro, You need a. Pastor. Mike, why are you saying this? It's biblical. Part of the thing that takes Adam from being a male to a man is as soon as he created him before Eve, he gave him responsibility. Hey, here's a garden. Tend to it. Name all these animals. What are you doing? That will take you days to complete, weeks to complete, years to complete. A biblical man chooses work. I didn't say it's made to work. Because a man knows that he's not fully in his purpose if he's not producing something. Oh, my God. Be fruitful and multiply is not just having kids. But this is what I want to let you know. A mutt will whine. A man will work. Man, ain't nobody. Ain't nobody trying to get. Ain't nobody trying to give me a chance, man. The man is against me, bro. Hey, hey, let me help you. A rake and a lawnmower. I don't care how many convictions you got. You go to the right neighborhood with a rake and a lawnmower. And I'm not saying it's your purpose. I'm not saying it's a forever thing. But many males are waiting for this moment where something is going to happen to drop them into their dream job. It's not coming because God couldn't trust you with it anyway, because he looks at what you did with what you have already. Check the parable of the talents. He said, the one with one, the one with two, the one with. He said, what you do with what I already gave you, at least double it. And if you have ability to use your hands, you could go. I don't want to give you all the ideas I have in my head. But everybody, every man, chooses work. I'll give you some Bible, because some of y' all is looking at me real crazy right now. There's a scripture that says if you don't work, you don't eat. And this is why, ladies, you have to stop feeding men who don't work. Clock it. You are enabling a male to stay a mutt. Where do mutts eat? Anywhere they can find food. And because your insecurity just wants to be next to a warm body, you done bought him a Nike tracksuit. Let me stop. I got real people in my head. Okay, Here we go. Second Thessalonians 3, 10. Lazy people. Lazy people want much, but get a little here with the Bible. This is the Bible. This ain't me. Lazy people want a lot, but get a little. But those who work hard will prosper. Proverbs 13:4. Work brings profit, but mere talk leads to poverty. Okay, a biblical man chooses number three. Humility. The reason why that last one was hard for you to hear is because you haven't had anybody tell you anything that hard in love before. And the thing that rose up was pride. And what I want to let you know right now is, is you need to be humble to actually be a man. Males say whatever they want. They can't take no criticism, even if it comes from good people. They can't. Nah, you ain't telling me you ain't never been here. You ain't not. And God's saying, I sent Jesus to be an example of a humble man. And everybody needs to know. A mutt is hard headed, but a man is humble. A mutt is hard headed, but a man is. Everybody say humble because a humble man is unbeatable. I want you to know, a humble man can get knocked down and get back up. A humble man can apologize. A humble man can try again. A humble man. Watch this. Can wash the feet of enemies. Jesus is at the last supper with his disciples, and he says, I want to do something that's uncommon. I want all y' all to take off your sandals and I want to wash your feet. Now this is God in the flesh doing in cultural times the most disgusting thing you could ever do. Because this was their mode of transportation. Imagine how much dirt and dust and swords and cuts. And Jesus said, for every one of you, I want to kneel down. And I want to be humble enough to let you know, yes, I'm the one that you call king, but I'm also humble enough to get down here and touch your feet. Husbands, this is the picture of submission that you have to display for your wife to submit to you. You supposed to submit to me. No, no, no, no, no. Hold on, wait. I only can submit to somebody who is submitted. How do you even Know what submission is? If you're not submitted to God, I should be able as a wife to come to you and say, this makes me uncomfortable. And you wrestle with that and go to the one you're submitted to. God. How do I respond to this? I should be able to go to my pack and say, yo, I am about done with her. And they give you some wisdom. You should be able to go to this word and find, what am I supposed to do? A male would never. A mutt would never. But a humble man says, what don't I know? What do I need to do? What therapy do I need to go to? What counseling do I need to pay for another pair of $150 Jordans? Going to help your insecurity. Another golf club is not going to help that hole that's in your soul. What you need is to be humble and get the help you need. A mutt would never choose that, but a man would. A man said, I need help. I have a pornography addiction, and I'm not going to hide this and try to white knuckle my way through it. I gotta find some other men who have beat this thing, and I gotta figure out how to get myself into a healthy place. People can't even clap for it because it's so pervasive. It's in so many people's households. It's robbing people of their manhood right now. And humility would say, I need help. A man chooses meekness, strength, under control. I'm going to give you these last two and then we'll talk about them later. Because I know everybody has to get this in a deeper way. Because today God's asking you to become a man that represents him. So I'm going to just say it like this. A biblical man chooses stability. A mud is scattered, but a man is stable. What are you doing consistently? Have you ever had a table that had wobbly legs? That's annoying. It's very difficult. And what do you do when you get frustrated about the wobble? You put something under it that's not supposed to be there. Oh, don't worry about the book. It's just making us stable. Don't worry about the alcohol. It's just making me stable. Don't worry about my people pleasing. That's just making me stable. Don't worry about me needing the attention from other women. That's just making me stable. But God is asking us is to come back to the craftsman and let him reshape the table of your life. Because James 1:8 said a double minded man is unstable in all of his ways. A mutt would never choose to be stable. He wants to be scattered. No, I don't know what I'm about to do. I'm gonna do over here and then I'm gonna go over here and then I'm gonna talk to these people and then, and even if you don't say it out loud, that's what's happening, happening here. That's why all the images and all the movies and all the different things is trying to make you scattered. But the greatest version of you is the disciplined version of you. The, the part of you that says, I do not do that. I don't go there, I don't talk to them. I have to be somebody, say stable, because you only put valuable things on something that's stable. How would you build a family, a life if it's not stable? The fifth thing a biblical man chooses that a mutt would never is sacrifice. A mutt is selfish. A man is sacrificial. I could give tons of examples. But the greatest one that I have seen is that after Adam had work and he was doing what God told him to do, he said, I'm looking for a partner suitable for the man, not the male. Eve was not made off of males Alpha. Adam's raw version, he looked for a suitable candidate after his refined, decided version. How do we know? Because he said, I did not find anyone suitable for him. So what did I do? I put him to sleep. And what did Adam have to give up to get Eve? He had to sacrifice a piece of him to get the peace he needed. Man of God, you will not get the wife, the partner, the lover you are looking for until something dies in you. And a mutt would never. Because a mutt is a male unwilling to transform. But a man says, take my rib, take my pride, take my money. Just here, take it. Y' all know a man. In this way? Should a man love a woman? This is what the Bible says. Like Christ. He went to the cross and died for the bride of Christ all the way to death. He said, that's why you have to pick up your cross daily. Something in you has to die every day for you to have a healthy relationship. And a mutt is selfish. Now, this is my time, this is my life. This my money, this my family. Then die for it. The family you love so much. Do like Jesus. Die for it. Are you a man or are you a mutt? Today I believe that God is calling everybody to biblical manhood. Romans 5, 8. But God demonstrates his own love for us in this. While we were yet sinners. Christ's sacrifice died for all of us so that we could be in relationship goals with the Father standing all over this building. You want number six? What kind of sex? I was seeing if y' all was listening. Stand up. We going home. You can write it standing up. The last thing a biblical man does that a mutt would never. Don't leave. Because I believe God is about to do something very strong in transformation in this building as a biblical man. Watch this. Shows up. I can go all through scripture and find people who felt unequipped, and their only qualification is I showed up. David doesn't meet Goliath if he doesn't show up. I can just think of all of these examples where God says, if you just do what you can, I'll do the rest. And there may be a man that's in here right now. And you are years away from being a part of your kid's life, but you still are drawing breath. Show up. Some of y' all just need to make a decision. I'm gonna keep showing up to church because faith comes by hearing and hearing the word of God. I kind of like Pastor Mike. I don't know about all of the jokes because he make me feel kind of crazy, but, E, there's some good stuff that happens in there. And, like, just keep showing. Instead of going to that job or taking that meeting, you don't have to go home, show up for them kids, show up for your wife, show up for yourself, go to the therapy. It cost $175. You used to spend that one night at the club on girls who didn't even like you. Checkmate. Show up. Show up to a tribe, get in community with people. I don't know those people. You can't know anybody you don't meet. How'd you meet your friends? You got now you had to meet them. Some of you need whole new circles. The people you around, they might make money, but they have holes in their soul. Somebody say, show up. Biblical men show up. I went through the most intense counseling this week. I want to be at home under the bed. But because I'm a biblical man, I went and picked my wife up at 12am last night from the airport. She got back from counseling, and I looked at her and I said, I know you're not coming to church today, but as the head of this household, as the man that God called me to be, the decision that I told you I would do today, I had to do what? Show up. And some man's life is going to be changed because they're going to decide I'm no longer just going to be a male and I'm not going to settle for being a mutt. I'm going to walk into being a man of God. Today. I want to do something that I don't usually do, but I'm asking for every man that knows they need to make a step, a step of faith, a bold step. Whether you are in this room or you're watching online, I want you to make a sign. If you are in this room and you're ready to say, decide, choose to be a man of God. I want you to get to this altar right now, and I don't want you to delay. I want you to come and, ladies, I need you to clap. I don't need you to be thinking of fear. I don't need you to be thinking about anybody else. This is manhood that you're wanting to stand in it. Y' all come up here. I'm from all over the building. Y' all stand and face me. Oh, there should be a bigger shout in this room right now. If you're watching online, stand up in your living room. Stand up. Y' all come up. There's a lot of men coming. It's okay. If it was a game, you would be cheering longer than that. These men are making a decision to stand and to go to another place as you're coming. Look at me. I need y' all to be praying. They're still coming. Young men are coming. Older men are coming. Black men are coming. White men are coming. Men of God, Y' all come on up, man. Ain't nothing to be scared of here. Y' all hear me. Hear me when I say this. Hear me when I say this. Hear me when I say this. Everybody listening to me. There are a lot of men that are still at their seat because the insecurity is keeping them. We're not judging anybody right now. This ain't about nobody behind you. This is about you. I don't care how much gray is on your hair or how young you are. God's calling you to biblical manhood. Okay, Listen. Listen to me. I know what it is to put down the vices. I know what it is to search your soul. And the reason you trying to climb and get that money and get that girl and get that thing is to feel something in here that's never been talked about. If me and you was just to be by ourselves, and to talk about the real of it. It's something I didn't get when I was a kid. It's something I never saw before. Or it's something that happened to me as I sit here. One in five men have been molested. I want to tell you I'm one of the men that was. Does a pastor say, it's my story and if I run from it in shame, I'll never get it healed. There are things that have happened to you that you've never told anybody. There's stuff that you're dealing with right now and you got under the covers and you're trying to figure out. You're wrestling for your whole life and nobody's ever said, me too. The Me too movement was for the women. I want to come up here and start it for the men. Me too. I've lied. Me too. I've cheated. Me too. I've hurt. Me too. I've had no place to cry. Me. And until we real with each other like this, we settle for being mutts. Everything we watch on our Instagram feed. Some of y' all need to go on a detox. All them girls working out ain't helping. You get no muscles. Come on, man. I don't care that they're in the room talking to you because it's keeping you at mail. And God wants you to be the man he created you to be because he desires you to be the father and somebody like, well, I don't want kids or I can't have kids. Your nephews, your sister's kids, Those people that are around you. That friend that she don't have no father. It's literally God said I put you there for a reason. But you can't even see your purpose because you won't become the man I've called you to be today. I'm asking you, make the choice. Submit to God. I'm asking you become men that come into church as a non negotiable. What you doing today? It's Sunday, man. What you talking about? What you talking about? We going to church. I can't pull up. I'm watching online. No, no, no, no, bro, I can't. No. The game will be on. We DVR that. They going to win or lose without us. Come sub to the mission today. I'm going to pray for you. I'm going to pray that you make the decision I made at 31 years old. You said Pastor 31 carried it to minus. Wasn't you already a pastor? Your vocation doesn't matter. You can fake and act like you a man for a long time. Come on. Some of y' all know. Yeah, them. Them grades came from stress. Trying to hold everything together. Who did I what? And God's saying today you can walk into freedom. Any man that be in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away. Behold, he makes everything new. Every man in this place that's making that decision, lift your hands right now. I want to pray for you. And I need y' all to stretch your hands and pray right now. Father, in the name of Jesus, I thank youk for every young man, every middle aged man, every older man, every season, every man who is taking this step of faith to trust you with their entire life. Today I speak life. No matter how deep the hole is, no matter how many times they've messed up, no matter how many times, Father God, they've said, I can't make this today. God, I'm asking that you do a work on, on the inside of them, from the youngest to the oldest, Father God, that revolutionizes their lives. Today I'm praying for transformation. I pray that you would heal the hearts of the men of God that are under the sound of my voice today. God, I'm asking for something unique. Would you make their souls whole? No more fear. No more secrets. No more lying. No more hiding. No more unhealed trauma. Today starts a revolution of transformation in their lives. Everything around them will prosper. They will be fruitful and multiply. They will not be men who go back on their word. Their yes will be yes and their no will be no. They will be men of integrity, men of standards. And they will be in relationships, Father God, that glorify you. I pray for their families. That their families will live and not die. That they will have legacy. I pray for their marriages, even if the marriages started off toxic. I'm thanking you for a turnaround. In the name of Jesus. I'm thanking you, Father God, that today you are doing a deep work on the inside that's going to show on the outside. Today, I thank you for restoration. Look at me Mid. This is how I'm going to end this. This. Cuz. Cuz your emotions are going to follow your decision. Hear what I just said? Some people think tears mean you change. I've cried and gone back and done the same thing. Your. Your decision is going to change your emotional state. In the beginning, when God created you, he looked at his creation and do you know what he said about you? He said you were good. I want to Tell you you're a good man. I want to tell you, no matter what you've done under all of the debris, you're a good man. You're a good man. I need somebody to hear this in your soul. You're a good man. I know it happened to you. I know you did some bad stuff, but you're a good man. Start to confess it. God called you good. So maybe I was raised in the hood. Maybe I was exposed to some things early, but under all of that, somebody say, I'm a good man. Confess that over yourself every day. You're a good man. You're a good man. Come on, say it. I'm a good man. No, say it like you mean, I'm a good man. How dare anybody call you what God has already labeled. So don't answer and live to the standard of anything else. I'm a good man. I made a mistake, but I'm a good man. I made some poor choices, but I'm a good man because that's how he made me. Don't let Instagram. Don't let toxic women, women or bitter women tell you who you are. I want to say this because there's an attack against manhood. No man is good. All of them dogs, all of that's what happened to me. That's what I did. But God said I'm good. All this week, every day, you wake up, thank you, Father. Thank you that I'm changing. Thank you that I'm becoming. I'm a good man. Encourage your brother. What's up, good man? What's up? That's a good man right there. You hear me? Oh, this is my bro. He's a good man. You understand? Come on, look at a brother and tell him, you're a good man. You're a good man. You're a good man, bro. Hey, listen. Oh, I feel the presence of God right now, y'. All. Good man. You're a good man, man. Don't accept anything else. Ladies, start acknowledging you're a good man. You better call out of them what God has placed in them. It don't matter what it looks like right now. Hey, fella, you're a good man. Listen, hold on. Before all my brothers go back to their seat, if you haven't met Jesus, this is for you. Don't come up here and just get a feel good. Don't just become a good man. Be a God man. You hear me? And anybody under the sound of my voice, if you have not accepted Jesus, today is the day with these Good brothers, if you want to make Jesus Christ your personal Lord and Savior, whether you're watching this behind a concrete wall or you're watching this at the gym or in a penthouse or at a presidential suite, I want you to know that right now, today is the day of salvation. And Jesus went to the cross to sacrifice for you so you could have a relationship with the Father. And I know we're a little bit over time, but I believe this is the perfect moment for you to give your life to Jesus Christ today. If you are at this altar today, a mutt makes excuses. A man chooses. Today, I set before you life and death, and I'm going to give you the answer to the test. Choose life. It's the right answer. If you want to choose Jesus today at this altar and all over this room, on the count of three, ladies, you are included in this because some of you have been so moved by this moment right now, because you are a product of not having a good man in your life. He didn't know how to show up for you. And we're gonna help you heal because God's given us wisdom on that. But today, I believe God's gonna do something brand new in all of us today. If you want to accept Jesus, man, woman, boy, girl, child, today, on the count of three, I just want you to slip your hand up in the air, and we're gonna pray together. 1. You're making the greatest decision of your life. 2. I'm telling you, he's gonna write your name in the Lamb's book of life. I'm already seeing hands right there. 3. If you want to make Jesus Christ your personal Lord and savior, let God. I see you. I see you. I see you. I see you. I see you. And more than that, God, y' all can celebrate. Hey, listen. For the benefit of those who are coming to Christ, all of us gonna pray this prayer. I see God doing deep work on y'. All. Come on, let's pray. Say God. Thank you for sending Jesus just for me today. I give you my life. I repent of my old ways, and I turn to you. I believe you lived, you died, and you rose again with all power just for me. Today I decide my life is all yours. Change me, renew me, transform me. I'm yours. In Jesus name. Amen. TC let's celebrate.