How I Found My Soulmate // Relationship Goals: In Real Life (Part 1) // Pastor Michael Todd

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Podcast Summary: How I Found My Soulmate // Relationship Goals: In Real Life (Part 1)

Transformation Church | Pastor Michael Todd | February 15, 2026

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Episode Overview

This episode kicks off Transformation Church’s new series, “Relationship Goals: In Real Life,” led by Pastor Michael Todd. The core theme revolves around shifting our understanding of relationships from social ideals and wishful thinking to authentic, healthy relationships that thrive in real life. Pastor Mike challenges listeners to move beyond image management and cultural noise, focusing instead on God’s Word as the foundational guide for building relationships—starting with personal soul health.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Why a New Relationship Series?

• Pastor Mike opens by acknowledging the anxiety and reactions past “Relationship Goals” series have sparked (00:35):
  • “Some of y’ all are scared because some of y’ all lost your last boyfriend after the last relationship Goal series. Others of you got into counseling for the first time.”
• He didn’t plan this series—felt led by the Holy Spirit to address pressing relational issues facing the culture (01:56):
  • “Sometimes He’ll tell you what you need to know to get you past where you are… you have to be open to the Spirit’s moving.”
• Critique of modern relationship advice:
  • People often look to voices lacking wisdom or healthy experience—family, social media, influencers (03:05):
    • “We are listening to people on podcasts that have not had a successful relationship in a decade tell you what a man is supposed to be and how females should…”

2. The Real-Life Standard: God’s Word

• Emphasizes the need to “silence the noise” and look to God’s design for relationships (05:20).
• Cautions against superficial fixes:
  • “We have already seen that just fine doesn’t work. We’ve already seen that money just doesn’t do it… It’s because something was wrong… from the beginning.” (06:00)

3. Start with Yourself, Not ‘Them’

• Calls for introspection and personal accountability (07:02):
  • “We can’t start with them. We have to start with us… Because the only person that you can change in the relationship: Start with me, God.”
• Addresses deflection of blame and the importance of personal change.

4. Valentine’s Story—Love in Real Life

• Shares a personal story of 25 years with wife Natalie; first Valentine’s gift vs. current real-life needs (09:03).
• This year’s meaningful gesture: Sent the kids away and created a restorative environment for Natalie, aligned with who she really is, not just public expectations (10:55).
  • “Let me give you what I know you need in real life… The facade is wearing you out.” (12:20)
• Underscores the difference between performing for Instagram and loving in a way that meets your partner’s real needs.

5. God Wants Heaven’s Wholeness ‘In Real Life’

• Grounding relationships in God’s promises for real-life fulfillment—not just spiritual afterlife (15:35):
  • “Thy kingdom come, thy will be done, where? On—in real life, as it is in heaven.”
• Calls out how so many settle for less than God’s best because they don’t trust or apply His principles.

6. Healthy Relationships Start with a Healthy You

• The series’ central claim (22:14):
  • “The goal is not relationships. The goal is—say the word with me—healthy relationships.”
• Challenges listeners to honestly assess the health of their relationships, and even more, their own health.
  • “Healthy relationships come from healthy individuals. Are you healthy?” (23:51)
• Points to the difficulty of self-awareness and personal responsibility; many are either unaware or unwilling to change broken patterns (25:51).

7. What Is Soul Health and Why Does It Matter?

• Explores the concept of ‘soul’: mind, will, emotions.
  • “Do you have a healthy soul?... Your mind, your will, and your emotions.” (28:50)
• Encourages deep self-examination:
  • Is your mind healthy? What thoughts dominate your day?
  • Is your will healthy? Can you say "not my will" and actually live it out?
  • Are your emotions healthy? Are you manipulating others with your feelings or dealing honestly?
• Relays the dangers of expecting another person to fix what only God can heal (34:00):
  • “Many of us have a deficit in our soul…we think that another person is going to solve what only God can heal.”

8. Relational Building Blocks: The Four Foundational Needs

• Outlines the non-negotiable foundations for healthy relationships (49:01):

  1. To Be Seen
  2. To Be Soothed (Cared For)
  3. To Be Secure
  4. To Be Safe

• If these are missing, relationships default to dysfunction, self-protection, or emptiness.

• Discusses how these unmet needs in childhood or past relationships sabotage adult connections.

  “The reason why your relationships aren’t working is because you did not get soothed… The man can be married to you and still cheat on you… because he can't come to you and say, 'Baby, I had a bad day.'” (53:30)

9. Soulmate vs. Soul Match: Redefining Relationship Fulfillment

• Explains the difference between a soulmate (God) and a soul match (life partner) (57:00):
  • “I met Natalie at 15, but I found my soulmate at 25. She’s not my soulmate, she’s my soul match. The only one who can fill the holes in my soul is the one who created it.”
• Warns against attempting to find soul fulfillment in people.
  • “Stop trying to put your soul match where your soulmate goes.”
• Calls for a shift in expectations—no person can meet our soul’s deepest needs; only God ("the lover of your soul") can.

10. Final Charge & Challenge

• The episode closes with a powerful prayer, an invitation to seek God as the only true soulmate, and a rallying cry to build relationships with healthy souls (1:01:24):
  • “You’re not just looking for someone sexy. You’re looking for a solution for your soul condition. That’s what relationship’s about.”
• Preview for series: Will teach how to build life and relationships upon godly principles—starting with fixing what’s broken in our own souls.

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Memorable Quotes

• “We are listening to people on podcasts that have not had a successful relationship in a decade tell you what a man is supposed to be and how females should…” – Pastor Michael Todd (03:10)
• “We can’t start with them. We have to start with us… Because the only person that you can change in the relationship: Start with me, God.” – Pastor Michael Todd (07:14)
• “The goal is not relationships. The goal is… healthy relationships.” – Pastor Michael Todd (22:50)
• “Healthy relationships come from healthy individuals. Are you healthy?” – Pastor Michael Todd (23:51)
• “Many of us have a deficit in our soul. We have something broken in our mind, will, and emotions. And we think that another person is going to solve what only God can heal.” – Pastor Michael Todd (34:12)
• “She’s not my soulmate. She’s my soul match. The only one who can fill the holes in my soul is the one who created it.” – Pastor Michael Todd (57:05)
• “You’re not just looking for someone sexy. You’re looking for a solution for your soul condition. That’s what relationship’s about.” – Pastor Michael Todd (1:01:24)

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Important Timestamps

• 00:35 — Recap of past Relationship Goals impact
• 01:56 — Prompting by the Holy Spirit to address relationships
• 07:14 — Accountability: “Start with me, God.”
• 09:03 — Pastor Mike’s real-life Valentine’s story
• 15:35 — God wants fulfillment “in real life”
• 22:14 — “The goal is healthy relationships.”
• 28:50 — What is soul health?
• 34:12 — The futility of seeking healing from people, not God
• 49:01 — Four foundational needs of relationships
• 53:30 — Impact of unmet childhood needs on relationships
• 57:05 — “She’s my soul match; God is my soulmate.”
• 1:01:24 — Final reflections, prayer, and invitation for soul health

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Episode Flow & Tone

• Language/Tone: Direct, warm, raw, and humorous at times; Pastor Mike’s energetic, authentic style combines scriptural teaching with personal anecdotes and cultural observations.
• Progression: Begins with context and a heartfelt call for wisdom, weaves in personal stories, unpacks biblical truth, and delivers practical steps—always cycling back to self-examination and surrender to God.

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Takeaways for Listeners

• Don’t derive relationship prescriptions from culture or broken sources—make God’s word your standard.
• Focus on what’s happening inside you before demanding change from others.
• Soul health—healed mind, will, emotions—is foundational to every relationship you have.
• No person (not even your spouse) can fill the deepest needs of your soul; only God can.
• Healthy relationships require four building blocks: to be seen, soothed, secure, and safe.
• Pastor Mike urges listeners to take the next weeks seriously, do the “hard work” of soul examination, and allow God to reset expectations and foundations.

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For the next episode: Pastor Mike promises to dive deeper into building with these four foundational blocks—how to recognize what’s missing, replace old patterns, and step into healthy, God-centered relationships in real life.

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Transcript

[Pastor Michael Todd]

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Others of you got into counseling for the first time. Others of you got a relationship with God. I'm promising you as this is my third time doing a relationship series like this. This is unlike anything I've ever done. The Holy Spirit interrupted the flow of what I thought I was gonna do during 21 days of prayer. I thought I had a plan. And this is why you keep going back to God and ask him what he wants you to do. Cause sometimes he'll tell you what you need to know to get you past where you are to then change it to what you need to do. Y' all missed it. Sometimes he'd be like, yeah, yeah, yeah, we gonna do that. Just so you'll be like, great, I have a plan. And then when you get there, he's like, yeah, that's not the plan. This is what I really want you to do. And you have to be open to the spirit's moving. And so I wasn't planning to be in this series, but the Holy Spirit said, right now I need you to inject my voice into a cultural conversation that they have no wisdom on. Y' all didn't. Y' all didn't hear what I just said. We are listening to people on podcasts that have not had a successful relationship in a decade tell you what a man is supposed to be and how females should. You're lonely alone. Your likes and followers are the people you get comforted by. We are taking more advice. We are listening to bitter people. And I'm not just talking people with a platform and a. And a podcast mic. I'm talking to your family, your aunt who thinks all men are bad. Every man you had, you picked. I'm gonna go to this other side. The only common denominator is you. I just want to be clear. We are in a place where there's an epidemic of passive and soft men. Okay, y'. All. Did y' all not want to. I thought I was gonna get more amens from the ladies on that one. Brother won't even approach you. Won't talk to you. Won't pay for nothing, won't do nothing. He's looking for his mommy. Yeah, and we have women who are so I n D e p. And you're so independent that as soon as anybody approaches you, you're comparing them to what you've been able to amass. And you're a boss. Come on. But the only person you're leading is your puppy. Let me get into the word because I don't know if I'm going to have anybody. What I'm asking us to do is for the next six weeks, figure out how to silence the noise of people who didn't create the thing. Nobody talking about relationship created it. They only need it. And so we have to go to the standard or the word of God or the God of the word who actually created relationship to be able to find out how to do it. We have already seen that just fine doesn't work. We've already seen that money just doesn't do it. We've already seen that time served. How are you married after 30 years and then you divorce? It's because something was wrong. Watch this from the beginning. My burden in this series, I feel the presence of God already is to help you win in relationships. Watch this in real life, not ethereally, not just something that you dreamed of. Not a fairy tale, not a movie concept. I want your real relationships to actually be beneficial to your life and everybody's life around. And that means watch this. In this series, we can't start with them. We have to start with us. Oh, buckle up. I know your booty just got tight right there. Because you are going to blame everybody else who you invited in for what you did not receive, but it's not them. Because the only person that you can change in the relationship. Start with me, God. You want to pray a real prayer? Start with me, God. Uh, oh. When the last time you prayed that? Start with me, God. Husbands. But she don't cook. She don't clean. She don't do nothing. She don't even put it down like she used to. She don't even start with me. God. I don't affirm. I don't encourage. I don't call out anymore. I don't pursue. I just felt it. It got real quiet right there. So let me bring it up. It's Valentine's Day weekend. How many people had a great Valentine's Day? Okay, how many people your Valentine's Day was? So never mind. I'm not even going to ask that because your wife or husband is sitting right there. Just look straight. This is cool for me and Natalie because Valentine's Day is actually kind of important to us because many of you know our story, especially if you've read the book Relationship Goals or you've been around for a while. But me and Natalie met when I was 15 years old. This was our 25th Valentine's Day celebrating this year. Yeah, 25 years, like now. Now that means I've been with her for a very long time. But Valentine's Day was special because I met her in December, and then I asked her to be my girlfriend in January. And the first gift I ever got her was on Valentine's Day. And so on Valentine's Day, I asked my dad to take me to a place called Service Merchandise. Some of y', all, too. Y' all don't know nothing about no service Merchandise. But it used to be on 71st immemorial. And I asked my dad, and they were having a closeout, closeout, closeout situation. And I took $150 to service merchandise, and I saw a gold heart necklace. You remember this, dad? And my dad paid the other 150 because it was 299. And I bought my then first girlfriend ever a diamond. But I would. I would, yeah, use that term very loosely. But I bought her a diamond heart necklace. And so this year, I was like, man, I gotta do something special for Natalie for Valentine's Day. And it's so crazy that in my real life, it's different than what people may expect. Like, in my real life, what my wife wanted was not all the things that people would post on Instagram. So what I did for my wife this Valentine's Day is I got all the kids out the house. Some of the moms are standing up and clapping right now. I sent all my kids away. They didn't even come home on Friday. I packed they bags and I sent them away. Cause we've been traveling for the promotion of Relationship Goals, the movie. And my wife is an introvert. So she been, hi, hi, hi. And her battery is just Depleted. She's like, I can't meet nobody else, can't talk to nobody else. She wants to be in her own bed. And I was like, instead of me doing what the image of relationships look like, let me give you what I know you need in real life. And so I got the kids out of the house and then I sent her off for a massage. And while she was off at the massage, I had the room cleaned and we cleaned the room and then I went and got 25 balloons and put 25 pictures attached to it of us throughout the years. And I went in and I got her white covered strawberries and a charcuterie board and I got all the things that she liked and I sent everybody away and it was just me and her in that house. In real life, when she came home and said, where's the kids? I said, you don't gotta worry about them, baby. Melatonin already taken care of. Literally. Watch this, watch this. My wife's response was tears. I could have bought her a purse that would have put us in debt, but that's not what she wanted in real life. I could have done a display that would have made everybody jealous, but that's not what she wanted in real. She didn't even know how to articulate what she wanted. I had to have been in relationship to her long enough to know what would feel her tank. In real. I want every person. Oh, you want a kid? Look at her. She just coming all gone. Was it good in real life? I'll be home in real life in just a moment. Camera, follow me. Why you. Where you at? Camera, Where'd y' all go? They just left. I know she beautiful here, I'm preaching. Now. I want you to not beautiful in real life. Somebody might miss the frame in real life. Everybody might be able to capture the moment in real life. But the real life, love her coming out the back, her coming up here and kissing me, her being. That's. The reason I'm saying this to you is because the facade is wearing you out. I see the burden in your life of an image you're trying to keep that doesn't even feel like the beautiful picture you posted. You are trying to act to your family like everything's okay, but we can hear it in the tone of your voice that you are unhappy with the current situation. And because we don't have entrance into your life like that because you've never invited us in, we act like your lies are good because we see the stress in your body that 15 pounds you gained since Christmas is not just cookies. It's stress. That sickness you have to keep going on. It's something you're holding in your body that you haven't let out in real life. The hurt is turning into things that you have to go and get checked in. My wrist and my arm and I don't. Why is it? It's because what we all need in real life is not always what we're aiming for.

[Podcast Host]

I've got Dan Morgan here on the pod. Say hi, Dan.

[Dan Morgan]

Hey, how's it going today?

[Podcast Host]

It's going good, man. Tell us who you are and what you do.

[Dan Morgan]

I'm Dan Morgan. I'm an attorney and a managing partner at Morgan and Morgan, which is America's largest injury law firm.

[Podcast Host]

That's pretty awesome. I think I saw a billboard of yours recently that said 20 billion. 120 million is an insane number.

[Dan Morgan]

Yeah, 20 billion recovered. It's actually, I think somewhere north. Probably closer to 22, 23 after this year. And each year we get bigger and badder and our army grows. So the number will hopefully keep getting bigger and bigger as time goes on. Awesome.

[Podcast Host]

So how does someone get in contact with Morgan and Morgan? What would I do if I got into an accident?

[Dan Morgan]

Probably the easiest way is dialing pound law. That's £529 from your cell phone. We are always open. Our call center is always waiting to take your call. 24. 7. 365.

[Pastor Michael Todd]

Wow.

[Podcast Host]

Dan Morgan from Morgan and Morgan, America's large injury law firm. Thanks for coming by the show.

[Dan Morgan]

Thanks for having me. Visit forthepeople.com for an office near you.

[Pastor Michael Todd]

And so today I just wanna let everybody know we serve an in real life, God. God wants everything he says in his word to actually happen in your real life. Prove it to me. Pastor Mike. The Bible says it in Matthew 6, 9. When we're talking about the Lord's Prayer, recite it with me. Our Father, which art in heaven, hallowed be thy name. Thy kingdom come, thy will be done. Where on in real life as it is in. We serve a God that if there's no sickness in heaven, he wants it in real life. Y' all don't hear what I'm saying. If there's joy in heaven, he wants it in real life. And many of us have been settling for less than because we won't believe and do the principles that God puts into his word for us to see it in real life. So we're following people that give us an image of relationship goals or business goals or family goals. But if you cut that thing open and get to see the vulnerability of it, when you see couples that you never thought would be apart getting divorced, when you know family members, that it's been dysfunctional for years, when you're literally in an abusive relationship right now, but you don't know how to get out of it because of the pain that it will cause to your children, what you're doing is settling for less than God's best. And I want you to have relationship goals. Help me say it in real life. So the next six weeks, I need you to buckle up, because the reason. Listen to this. That many people are frustrated is because they don't see what they believe. In real life, you haven't seen the financial breakthrough. You haven't seen the change. You haven't seen you stop being as excited about certain things. And God is saying that I'm coming to put silence to the idea that you have to wait for heaven to have a piece of it on earth. I'm coming to silence the lie that somehow I need to escape this. He's saying in heaven. I mean, on earth, as it already is in heaven. God wants you fulfilled in real life. Some of y'.

[Dan Morgan]

All.

[Pastor Michael Todd]

I'm having to say it over and over because you've just played this religious church thing and you don't believe he wants you to be financially free in real life. How can you bless on every occasion when you owe on every occasion? Either his word is true or it's not. God wants you to be in abundance in real life. When storms come, he wants you to still have peace in some of y'. All. Can't even say it because there's so much discouragement. But I believe by the end of this sermon series and some of y', all, by the end of this sermon, God is going to going to help you understand and obtain what he is giving us the power to have in real life. Give me Bibles. Pastor Mike. Second Peter, chapter one, verse three. By his divine power, God has given us everything we need for living a godly life. We have received all of this by coming to know him, the One who called us to Himself by means of his marvelous glory and excellence. For the next six weeks, I need us to make the standard the Word of God. I know you have a lot of relationship advice that you've gotten from family members and people and podcasts. I just want to say one more time, this is gonna be the standard. Cause if we can't agree on this, and maybe you have some other beliefs and some Other thoughts? Just give me six weeks. Give me six weeks to prove to you that this is the standard or the metric we're supposed to do relationships by. And if we can agree that I'm going to give you principles that will change your life. And I'm going to be real transparent. I'm going to be real hot, humble, open and transparent with you. If you use these principles and don't know God, they'll still work. Church people don't want to tell you that if you they're so good that they will work. Even if you don't believe in God, the end of the problem is that your eternity will be jeopardized. And I want you to meet Jesus and be able to live in a life that actually makes sense in real life. And so many people want to move forward as that is the word of the year in our relationships. No matter if it's romantic, business, family, but we don't see it in real life. Matter of fact, I just want to let you know that the Bible tells us that God is a real life God because if he wasn't, he wouldn't have come to earth as a man. Do y' all hear what I'm saying? Y' all need Bible John 1:14. And the Word became flesh and made his dwelling among us. He had relationship with us because he wanted to take off God and put it in human form so we would know he was the same in real. I just want you to know that God is not doing a bait and switch on you. He's not saying trust me and believe me and come all this stuff. And I'm not going to allow you to see the healing in real life. So now when I read that same passage in the Message version, look at this. The Word became flesh and blood and he moved into the neighborhood. God's trying to come to your neighborhood like God's trying to. He trying to change the hood. You hear what I'm saying? He's trying to change your life and it affect us, other people around him and affect other people around them. He said, if I can show this family coming out of poverty and actually getting their stuff together and actually living in harmony and actually forgiving the people that was dead that could spread to somebody else that could actually come out of poverty and actually start living in truth and actually start serving me. He wants to affect the whole hood through your healing. Did you hear what I just said? He wants to affect your whole neighborhood through your healing. And yet you want God to do it another way. He said I cannot heal who I need to heal around you until you become the poster child of deliverance, Emmanuel. What does that mean? God, he wants relationship. So over this next six weeks, I'm just setting you up today because I'm telling you, if you don't understand what's about to happen to you, you will by the end of this. I was on a press tour for the Relationship Goals, the movie. And by the way, I want to say thank you for supporting it again. Y' all made it number one. Y' all have been watching it. I love you. But the testimonies that are coming in, by people watching the movie, getting the book, reading the book in two days. Y' all don't hear me? I'm talking real testimony. Finding Jesus in chapter three, asking, what must I do to be saved? And this is all happening over a romantic comedy. One person asked me straight out. They hadn't heard the book, they hadn't listened to the series. They didn't even barely know who I was. And they said, okay, the new movie. Relationship Goals. What is the goal? And I mean point blank, period. She was like, what is the goal? And the Holy Spirit, it came out of me and he said, I want you to share this with everybody you come in contact with from now on. Write this down. This is the key to every relationship that you will ever have. The goal is healthy relationships. The goal is not relationships. The goal is. Say the word with me. Healthy relations. How many healthy relationships do you have? Somebody say one. No. I want you to. I want you to really evaluate all your friends, all your partners, all your romantic interests, all the girls you dming, all the guys you letting slide through all. I want you to. I want you to evaluate how many not relationships, healthy relationships do you have. If you can answer that question honestly, we may can move to the second part of the revelation. The goal is what? Healthy relationships. Now watch this. Healthy relationships come from healthy individuals. Now I'm going to ask you a deeper question. Are you healthy? I know it's always them. Yeah, I don't have healthy friends. Would they say, you're a healthy friend? Would your spouse say that you're healthy? Would your kids? Yeah. I've seen dad mad. What does dad do when he's mad? Come to the mic and tell us all. Some of y' all would tackle y' all kid right there. You would straight bow like, oh, my God. Cause the truth of the matter is it's the people close to us, closest to us, that actually know the status of our health. The goal Is what? Healthy relationships. I'm trying to help you. Will y' all please enroll into this class and not drop the class? Because if y' all get all the information, let me be your coach. Let me be your teacher. This is gonna change your life. I wish I would have had it 10 years ago. The goal for my wife and me is to have a healthy relationship. The goal for my kids and me is to have a healthy relationship. The goal for my parents and I is to have a healthy relationship. Me and my four brothers. The goal is to have individually healthy relationships with each one of them. With me and Bishop, my pastor emeritus. It is to have a healthy relationship with the man who gave me this church. It is for me to have a healthy relationship with Charles and with Melissa and with Will and with every person that has been put into my care. The goal is not just to be connected. It's to be connected right? Have you ever had to jerry rig something together? You know what I'm saying? Have you ever had a door that you had to. That wouldn't fully close? Some of y'. All. Some of y' all know what I'm talking about. You had to tie it around some. Have you ever had something that was holding on? The reason why you turn it in so many knots is because you can't trust that the connection is stable. And some of our relationship have not been stable because they're not healthy. Because that's not how it was intended. Myles Monroe says, where there is no actual vision for a thing, abnormal use or abuse is inevitable. And some of you may I dare say this with all humility that some of us have been in wrong connections since we've been born. So my question again is, are you a healthy individual?

[Podcast Host]

I've got Dan Morgan here on the pod. Say hi, Dan.

[Dan Morgan]

Hey. How's it going today?

[Podcast Host]

It's going good, man. Tell us who you are and what you do.

[Dan Morgan]

I'm Dan Morgan. I'm an attorney and a managing partner. Partner at Morgan and Morgan, which is America's largest injury law firm.

[Podcast Host]

That's pretty awesome. I think I saw a billboard of yours recently that said 20 billion won. 20 billion is an insane number.

[Dan Morgan]

Yeah, 20 billion recovered. It's actually, I think somewhere north. Probably closer to 22, 23 after this year. And each year we get bigger and badder and our army grows. So the number will hopefully keep getting bigger and bigger as time goes on. Awesome.

[Podcast Host]

So how does someone get in contact with Morgan and Morgan? What would I do if I got into an accident?

[Dan Morgan]

Probably the Easiest way is dialing pound law. That's £529 from your cell phone. We are always open. Our call center is always waiting to take your call. 247 365.

[Pastor Michael Todd]

Wow.

[Podcast Host]

Dan Morgan from Morgan and Morgan, America's largest injury law firm. Thanks for coming by the show.

[Dan Morgan]

Thanks for having me. Visit for the People.com for an office.

[Pastor Michael Todd]

Near you and if you can come to grips with this, some of y', all, it's going to take you five weeks to just answer these first four questions because this is going to actually be. Remember, it's not for them, it's for me. The goal is healthy relationships. Healthy relationships. Relationships come from healthy individuals. Watch this. This is revelation. Healthy individuals are built through self awareness and surrender. You can only be healthy if you are self aware and you're surrendered to the process to change. And some of you right now are disqualifying yourself from being healthy because you're not aware that you're unhealthy. And anybody that tries to tell you maybe you could do that a different way. Or are you sure that's how you want to say that? Or they're saying that's not nice to say it like that. Or hey, why do you keep doing this? You cut them off. You done talking to him? Cut off. Game strong. Y' all know what I'm talking about. It could be a boss, it could be a co worker, it could be a family member. And the truth of the matter is God. Watch. This will always put you around people to expose what's not like him in you. I hate this job. Go to the next one. There will be somebody there like Travis that gets on your nerves that you're going to have to figure out how to talk to. Because the issue is you have a disdain for all authority but you're unaware of it. So you think it's just standing up for yourself, but you don't understand how it's tied to the childhood when you were violated and you said, I'll never let anybody violate me again. Anytime anybody gives you anything other than what you want, you turn into somebody you don't even recognize. But nobody can even tell you. Everybody around you know it except you. And now, cuz some of y' all are different. Y' all are professional acceptors. I know I have a problem. I know I have a problem. No, no, no. I know. I know I have a problem. Okay, but what are we going to do with it? You're unwilling to change it. So some people are too aware without any activity we know you're addicted to alcohol, and everybody knows you're addicted to alcohol. We know you're addicted to praise. Oh. Because everybody's like, alcohol's bad. Praise is bad, too, because it will feed your pride. And you're addicted to these things that are ruining your relationships. Why? Because you're either unaware or unwilling. Oh, y' all don't hear me. Pastor Mike, why is this important? Because the goal is healthy relationships. Y' all gotta help me. The goal is healthy relationships. Healthy relationships come from healthy individuals. Healthy individuals are built through self awareness and surrender. Pastor Mike, why is this important? Because self awareness and surrender are the substance of a healthy soul. If you have self awareness and you have surrender to God, you can actually have. Watch this. A healthy soul. Why this didn't make everybody jump and scream is because you don't know how important your soul is. Do you know what your soul even is? Cause right now, if I told you that these two things would help you have a happy sex life. Everybody be like, you know what? I really need to seek the word about what he is telling the better God. If I told you it would make you a millionaire, you'd be like, sign me up. But if I told you that the goal of having healthy relationships are all the way down, is to have a healthy soul, you didn't even, like, think that was good. It's because you don't understand the power of the soul. And this is the breeding ground for every relationship. This is what Jesus came to save your soul. He didn't come to save your body. He didn't come to save your reputation. He came. He sent his only son to save your why, after everything. He didn't come to save our gifts. He didn't come to save our talents. He came to save our soul. And some of us are unaware or unwilling to acknowledge the fact that God wants your soul to be healthy. Can I ask this question? Do you have a healthy soul, Pastor Mike? What is a soul? It is your mind, your will, and your emotions. Let's break it down. Is your mind healthy? What are the thoughts that come when you ain't thinking about nothing? What are the thoughts you come when you see somebody in a compromising position? What are the thoughts you come when you see somebody you don't like fail? It's going to be quiet in here today. Is your mind healthy? Is your will healthy? You know you're not supposed to because ain't nobody looking. God, I know you told me to work here, but they don't pay enough. So I'm gonna work here. God, I told you. I know you told me not to date them, but look. Look at what you made. Look how it sits. I'm only human. Come on. Is your will. What's my birthday? It's my birthday. God. I don't do this like I used to, but, you know, The fact that people understand what I'm saying, and I'm not saying anything like, what is going on? Is your will healthy? Can you say, like the scripture? Not my will. When's the last time that was a true statement in your life? I really want to do this. I have the ability to do this. There is nothing stopping me from doing this. And I'm not doing it because I know you don't want me to. Is your will healthy? Mind healthy? Will healthy? Is your emotions healthy? Or do you manipulate with emotions? Some of you. Your tears are the lever to manipulate people to do what they would not do without them. Oh, God. There are people that. Well, you know. I hate to see you cry, girl. I hate to see you cry. And now your husband has stuck. Stopped saying what he desires because you know that you can have the trump card by just crying. Oh, y' all don't hear me. And I'm not saying it's for every situation, but my thing is, your kids are watching. You use tears as a manipulation tactic to get what you want because you're unwilling to change your behavior in an area. Are your emotions healthy? Because people are looking for relationship goals, but they get to end up with you. You are the other half of the relationship. Would you date you? With all you know about you, would you marry you? You brush your teeth four times a week. You know that they don't. Those are Listerine strips. But y' all teeth have hair on them. Come on. Would you marry you? She gotta be fit. She gotta go to the gym. You carrying a baby brother. You're pregnant. Would you. I know. Nobody talks to you like this in church because we want to wash over our deficiencies. Saying words like destiny and purpose and all of these things, and we don't deal with the issue in real life. I'm going to have to make this series 20 weeks because this is going. What I'm saying to you is God thinks your soul is more important than anything. You remember the scripture that says, what does it profit a man to gain the whole world but lose his name, lose his money? It says, what does it profit a man to gain the whole world but lose his mind, will and emotions? He says, I want you to have the goal of being healthy in relationships. Some of y' all don't need a man because you would corrupt him. You are so toxic, trying to heal from what you had to endure. It's not your fault, but it is now your responsibility. And now you are trying to find this perfect man with all of these things that's going to deal with your crazy, and you won't even deal with your crazy. You won't go to therapy for yourself, and you want to add somebody else's trauma and somebody else's drama and somebody else. We gonna work it out together and we gonna just figure it out. It's me and you forever, boo. And. I came to tell everybody who wants a relationship goal that the goal should be a healthy soul. And this is what I need everybody to hear me say. Write this down. The deficit in your soul is showing whether you know it or not. Many of us have a deficit in our soul. We have something broken in our mind, will, and emotions. And we think that another person is going to solve what only God can heal. God wants your soul to actually be healthy. So this is where third John 1, 2. Watch this. Beloved, I pray that you may Somebody say, prosper in all things. That means God wants you to prosper in everything. He wants you to prosper in your relationships. He wants you to prosper in finances. He wants you to prosper in ideas. He wants you to prosper in generosity. He wants you to prosper in fun. He wants you to prosper in all things. He wants you to prosper in sex. He wants you to prosper. Y' all should have said amen. He wants to buy. He wants you. He said all things. He said, I want you to prosper in all things and be in. Is that word in the Bible that God wants us to be in health. But look what he compares it to. He says, prospering and in health.

[Podcast Host]

I've got Dan Morgan here on the pod. Say hi, Dan.

[Dan Morgan]

Hey, how's it going today?

[Podcast Host]

It's going good, man. Tell us who you are and what you do.

[Dan Morgan]

I'm Dan Morgan. I'm an attorney and a managing partner at Morgan and Morgan, which is America's largest injury law firm.

[Podcast Host]

That's pretty awesome. I think I saw a billboard of yours recently that said 20 billion. 120 billion is an insane number.

[Dan Morgan]

Yeah, 20 billion recovered. It's actually, I think, somewhere north, probably closer to 22, 23 after this year. And each year we get bigger and better batter and our army grows. So the number will hopefully keep getting bigger and bigger as time goes on. Awesome.

[Podcast Host]

So how does someone get in contact with Morgan and Morgan? What would I do if I got into an accident?

[Dan Morgan]

Probably the easiest way is dialing pound law. That's £529 from your cell phone. We are always open. Our call center is always waiting to take your call. 247365 wow.

[Podcast Host]

Dan Morgan from Morgan Morgan, America's largest injury law firm. Thanks for coming by the show.

[Dan Morgan]

Thanks for having me. Visit forthepeople.com for an office near you.

[Pastor Michael Todd]

Just as your soul prospers. Hold on. So my soul prospering is actually the metric that he's looking at to copy and paste to everything else in my life. So the level of health prosperity allows God to say okay then I'll copy that and paste that to there finances. I'll copy and paste that to their relationships. I'll copy and paste that to their family. How much would be in the account if it was only based on your soul health? Your deficit is showing. Some of us are so bankrupt in our mind, will and emotions, we're overdrawn, we're maxed out. We have charged all that we can charge. And honestly many of this, many of these things have happened before we ever came into a romantic relationship. And this is why I need everybody to understand. This verse highlights the connection between spiritual, physical and emotional well being. Internal spiritual health. Your soul should set the standard for overall life success. So when somebody be like man, how's the business doing? The real question is how's your soul? Because if my soul is good, I can have a lot of money or a little money and I'm good. The reason why people are so jacked up by what happens and what happened is because they have a deficit in their soul. So the reason why I jump from bed to bed to bed to bed is because I'm trying to find somebody to fulfill this deficit that I have on the inside of me. And until watch this some of y'. All. It's hard for you to think, but you are either in denial, which is a river in Egypt, or you're unaware. You're unaware or unwilling. And by the end of this series, I don't want you to be either. I want you to be aware of how God wants you to win in relationships. And I want you to be willing to do whatever God wants you to do to become the version of yourself to live in health. Write this down. Soul health is more valuable than material wealth. Hear what I just said. Forget the house. Get the heart healing. Some of y' all are spending so much on a mortgage, and that money should be going towards your counseling. You have more square footage to be sat in. I just want you. You have more space to get away from your partner. You have a pool to be in by yourself with a family that won't want to be there. I just want you to see how backwards we would rather invest in something that looks good than something that we can feel in real life. So let me just give you a couple of scriptures, because y' all gonna have to go study the soul this week. Because I'm not even gonna get to half of my message today. But Psalms, chapter 19, verse 7. It says, the law of the Lord is perfect. This is the standard. This is what we should be going by. This is what brings life to our soul. It says the law of the Lord. This word is perfect. Guess what it's does. It restores. Why do you read your Bible? So I can remember it. More than that. This restores my soul. The reason I don't miss a day of reading a Bible is because my mind, will and emotions are affected when I don't get a hit of this. Y' all don't hear me. Some of y' all are addicted to other things you hit and everything else. Hit this. Okay, let me stop. I'm trying to stay. I'm trying to stay together. Psalms 25:12. Who is the person that fears the Lord? Let me tell you. The person who honors and represents God. This person. He will instruct him in the way he should choose. His soul will dwell in prosperity. You want your soul to dwell in prosperity? He said, follow this. I'll show you how to do relationships. I'll show you how to do business. I'll show you how to raise your kids. I'll show you how to forgive. I'll show you how to let go of the past. I'll show you how to be everything that nobody was there to show you how to be. Follow this, y' all favorite scripture to get tattooed when you get in jail. Psalms 23. Here we go. The Lord is mine. You know this one? I shall not. He lets me lie down in green pastures. He leads me beside quiet waters. Why? Because he restores my soul. Why is God so obsessed with our soul? It's because our mind, will and our emotions drive everything in our lives. Oh, God. In this. I wanted to title this message how I Found My Soulmate. I know. That's cute, huh? Because that's what people are really looking for. They're looking for their Soulmate. And the thing about it is, it's crazy that I met Natalie at 15, but I found my soulmate at 25. Because I'm going to tell you something. She's not my soul mate. She's my soul match. The only one that can feel the holes that I have in my soul is the one who created it. And I found my soul mate, which is God, when I stopped looking for in other people what only he could give. The reason why your relationships aren't working is because you have a whole in your soul that you have not acknowledged is keeping you from your best life. So you go to them to look to fulfill what they have no capacity to fill in your life. How I found my soulmate. Everything else wasn't working. And today I want to save you the trouble of messing up relationship after relationship after relationship. Trying to put an expectation on them that they can never meet your wife can't fix the fact that your mama didn't see you. And most people have relational foundations that are faulty before you ever met them. Something was jacked up. Oh, come on. Before you ever said, dang, she finer. Oh, my God, I can be with him. You already had brokenness that you were either unaware of or unwilling to admit. And you come into the relationship trying to hide it from them and let them only see a little bit and a little bit and a little bit and a little bit. They know you crazy. They just don't know where it came from. And then you start blaming them like it was them. I only started acting like this when you came in my life. And then when you came in my life. I ain't never been like this before. That's a lie. That's a lie. I know I didn't do all of that. That wasn't all me. I might have contributed, but. Write this down. It's hard to build on what's broken. I'm just gonna do. I'm gonna show you something that I'm gonna have to build next week. But everybody has four foundational relational needs. Could y' all bring it up for me? Just bring me my four. Every person, I want you to write this down, and then I'm gonna unpack it next week. Cause this is going to help you be able to actually build healthy relationship. What's the goal? Healthy relationship. Say it with me. What's the goal? Healthy relationship. Relationships. Everybody has four foundational needs to build a healthy relationship. Write it down.

[Podcast Host]

I've got Dan Morgan here on the pod. Say hi, Dan.

[Dan Morgan]

Hey, how's it Going today?

[Podcast Host]

It's going good, man. Tell us who you are and what you do.

[Dan Morgan]

I'm Dan Morgan. I'm an attorney and a managing partner at Morgan and Morgan, which is America's largest injury law firm.

[Podcast Host]

That's pretty awesome. I think I saw a billboard of yours recently that said 20 billion. Wonderful. 20 million is an insane number.

[Dan Morgan]

Yeah, 20 billion recovered. It's actually, I think somewhere north. Probably closer to 22, 23 after this year. And each year we get bigger and badder and our army grows. So the number will hopefully keep getting bigger and bigger as time goes on.

[Podcast Host]

Awesome. So how does someone get in contact with Morgan and Morgan? What would I do if I got into an accident?

[Dan Morgan]

Probably the easiest way is dialing pound law. That's £529 from your cell phone. We are always open. Our call center is always waiting to take your call. 24, 7, 365.

[Podcast Host]

Wow. Dan Morgan from Morgan and Morgan, America's largest injury law firm. Thanks for coming by the show.

[Dan Morgan]

Thanks for having me. Visit forthepeople.com for an office near you.

[Pastor Michael Todd]

Every person needs to be first off seen. Then everybody needs to be soothed, Everybody needs to be secured, and everybody needs to feel safe. No relationship in your life will succeed without this being the foundation. When me and Natalie were at counseling with our white auntie named Juju, that's what I call her. She has helped us through all kinds of stuff. We about to go see her again next week. And she said, michael, there are things that are broken in you that Natalie has nothing to do with. And there are things broken in her that had nothing to do with you. But y' all are fighting invisible enemies. Your marriage is suffering because you're fighting an invisible enemy that you won't acknowledge is even there. And we romanticize the relationships that we wish we had. And there were things that were in there that we just need to be honest and be able to admit. Man, I only got seen in my family when I did good. It's only when I was on the football field or only when I got good grades or only if I was just being I was not seen. The truth of the matter is a baby should not have to perform to be seen. Yet while many of us are out here performing in job, climbing the corporate ladder, going from place to place. Why I have a hole in my soul. I've never been seen. So the reason why I'm about to act up and turn up and go all out and do this and you gonna hear me and you gon because all my life I just wanted somebody to see me. I heard somebody say they remember the time in their life where they almost vanished in their family. Well, they are doing so much and we had a catastrophe and there was so much loss. And life comes to put us in positions in our family structures, in our job structures. They lost a job. My daddy wasn't there. My mom had a hard season, and somehow I didn't keep their attention. And so now when this block is missing, now I'm gonna make every person I come into relationship with see me. And if you don't see me, I promise you, you gonna see me come on. Some of the attitudes people come with is because it's to watch their survival mechanism, to be seen. The reason why you're always the victim is because you only got tended to when something was wrong. Oh, God, I can't even go into this, but I'm saying I need you to evaluate where in your life did you miss the foundation of all relationships being seen? It's so beautiful because Jesus gives us a picture with his relationship with God that y' all remember. Before he ever did any miracles, before he went into the wilderness, before anything, he got baptized by his cousin John. And y' all remember after he got baptized, what happened? The sky broke open and God in front of everybody said, there he is. That's my boy. I see him and I am well pleased. He didn't do anything to be affirmed. Some of you are raising kids right now, and you don't see them until they mess up or do something exceptional. And what you're doing is you're training them that this is how you get what you need. You're a good boy. You're a good boy because you listened. He's a good boy because he's yours. That's a good girl because she exists. Oh, God. I see we about to be in therapy for the next. I just want to say, if you have not been seen, what you've probably been feeling is the opposite, which is ignored. At your job, you feel ignored. Around your family, you feel ignored or maybe even worse. This one is worse. It seemed better, but it's worse tolerated. He said, boy, that hurt right there. Have you ever been in a relationship where, you know, they don't really see you, but they tolerate you? Like, I don't really want you here. It don't really matter if you come, but I'm sense you here. If this is broken, you can't build healthy relationships. The next one. Some of you have never been soothed Let me give you another word that may help you understand this. You've never been truly cared for, especially fellas. Get up. You a man. You the man of this house or your daddy's gone. Come on, man, I need your help. Hey, we ain't got time for all them tears. We don't got. Hey, suck it up. And now he's 35, and the woman he went want him to open up, but his whole life he's been told to suck it up. Now you want him to be vulnerable and open up. And he's traumatized because when he was really hurt, he could never get cared for. Oh, God. The reason why your relationships aren't working is because you did not get soothed. You might have had a mom that was so tied up in just survival. It's not always bad why it happened. It doesn't take away the fact that it happened. Your mom, for some reason, had nine kids. Be fruitful and multiply, but nine? Golly. But what I'm trying to say just in sheer number of overpowered mouths, somebody got forgotten. And what happens is when you're not soothed by the right place, you find a place to self soothe. Some of those TV shows, some of those ideas, some of those things that you were introduced to, they were legitimate because you needed something, but they were illegitimate because of where you got it from. So this is why. Watch. The man can be married to you and still cheat on you. Oh, God. Because the truth of the matter is, you don't hear him no more. He can't come to you and say, baby, I had a bad day. Well, I have had a bad six years. And he was like, I was just trying to. And the reason he starts growing affection for the woman at the job or the woman at the gym is because she'll just. Oh, my God. You had a bad day. I'm sorry. Can I give you a hug? And that hug starts standing up straighter. Hey, girl. It's good to see you again. Because that's the only place he's getting. I'm just. I know this is heavy. I know this is heavy. But I'm trying to help you. And if you're not seen or soothed, there's no way you can be secure. This talks about how you're attached in people's dependability. The reason why some of y' all got so many backup plans is nobody has ever been stable in your life. Your mom wasn't stable. Your dad wasn't stable. Your coach wasn't stable. Your brothers and Sisters wasn't stable. The cousin you loved the most, they molested you. And to this day, nobody even knows. I can feel the pain. We can see why you won't even let your children go nowhere. It's because you're trying to protect them from something you've never even told anybody. So you don't feel secure even with the person who loves you the most. I love you, but I don't trust that you're not going to leave me. So a lot of people who don't feel secure watch what they do. They self sabotage. I'm going to hurt you before you hurt me. I'm going to leave you before you leave me. I'm going to keep myself and I got that extra account that you don't know about because I got to secure myself. I know you said you, you love me, but I love me more. And ain't nobody in my whole life ever kept me secure, so I'm gonna protect myself. He was like, I want vulnerability. I want honesty. I want to connect. I want intimacy that cannot be built. If somebody doesn't feel secure, the reason why the relationships aren't working is because people, when they are not seen soothed, secure, they don't feel safe. So you can keep going after the baddie and you can keep going from bed to bed and you can keep saying you don't need God in your relationship, but he's the only one that can see you, care for you, secure you, and keep you safe no matter what anybody else does. Hear what I'm saying to you. I know it's a lot to process right now, and I know your. Your soul is probably going crazy. Hold on. Ain't nobody talk to me like this in my mind, will and emotion. Because your soul needs to be safe. Your soul needs to be secure. Your soul has to be cared for.

[Podcast Host]

I've got Dan Morgan here on the pod. Say hi, Dan.

[Dan Morgan]

Hey. How's it going today?

[Podcast Host]

It's going good, man. Tell us who you are and what you do.

[Dan Morgan]

I'm Dan Morgan. I'm an attorney and a managing partner at Morgan and Morgan, which is America's largest injury law firm.

[Podcast Host]

That's pretty awesome. I think I saw a billboard of yours recently that said 20 billion won. 20 million is an insane number.

[Dan Morgan]

Yeah, 20 billion recovered. It's actually, I think somewhere north, probably closer to 22, 23 after this year. And each year we get bigger and badder and our army grows. So the number will hopefully keep getting bigger and bigger as time goes on. Awesome.

[Podcast Host]

So how does someone get in contact with Morgan and Morgan? What would I do if I got into an accident?

[Dan Morgan]

Probably the easiest way is dialing pound law. That's £529 from your cell phone. We are always open. Our call center is always waiting to Talk. Take your call 24 7, 365.

[Pastor Michael Todd]

Wow.

[Podcast Host]

Dan Morgan from Morgan and Morgan, America's largest injury law firm. Thanks for coming by the show.

[Dan Morgan]

Thanks for having me. Visit forthepeople.com for an office near you.

[Pastor Michael Todd]

And your soul has to be seen. And that's why next week I'm gonna give you a whole bunch of scriptures and I'm gonna walk you through this because I'm gonna teach you how to build your life, build your relationships, build your family based on the principles of all relationship. But this is what I need you to know. God does all of this without you doing anything. Oh, God, I wish I had time to be able to take you through how God says, you need to be soothed. Come to me. It's like a kid riding a bike and they fall down and then the mom or the dad runs to him and says, hey, hey, hey. Come here, come here, come here, come here, come here, come here. You're okay, you're okay, you're okay, you're okay. No, no, no, no, no, no. I know it hurts, but you're going to be okay. Where is it? Kissing ain't never physiologically taking away the pain, but it does do something for your soul. Y' all got to hear what I'm saying. It does do something. When somebody's able to implement, empathize and get down with you and know what you've dealt with and be able to sit there and touch it and hold you and say, it's going to be okay. I know you're hurting right now, but you got to get back on the bike. We got to try again. Come on, let's do this. I'll stand right here. The reason why some of y' all can't step out in faith is because when you tried before, there was nobody there to soothe you. So you say, well, I guess this is how you get hurt. I guess trusting God is how you get hurt. What ends up happening is we try to build a life on top of this, and it never works. I got nine more boxes back there that I can't bring out. No, I can't bring them out today because you ain't handle these. You need a week to digest because some people. Only have one. How much can you build off of that? I protect myself. I bet you you won't get in. I bet you no man will hurt me again. I bet no one will ever take advantage of me again. Where does that rage and that anger come from? I gotta protect myself. They didn't protect me. I'm gonna protect me. And I'm gonna even protect myself from the ones I love. This is no way to build relationships in real life. So today, as we end this first installment, of course, one, I just came to ask you, where in your life do you need God to heal? To put the relational building blocks back together in your life? You need God to see you because before you were formed in your mother's womb, he knew you. You need God to protect you. He said, those who come to me, they find safety under the shadow of my wings. You need God to secure you. He's the same today, yesterday and forever. All I'm asking you to do is rightly align your relationships. Watch this. Write this last point down. Because you're not just looking for someone sexy. You're looking for a solution for your soul condition. That's what relationship's about. Not that we look good in pictures. I need somebody to help me heal what I'm going through. Listen. Because relationships are silently killed by the unrealistic expectations of the soul. You are putting your relationship health on somebody who has no ability to heal you. So they will continue to fail. No matter how good the sex is, they will continue to fail. No matter how many partners you have, they will continue to fail. And now people got this weird idea that you need multiple wives and multiple husbands. Guess what they're trying to do? They're trying to get somebody to feel the hole in their soul. And now you just confusing it because it's not the way he asked for us to do it. I'm going to take the silence as a indication that it's sitting in your soul. Over the next seven weeks, we're about to build relationships that are healthy in real life, standing all over this place. I'm gonna start here next week. I said tomorrow. Come back tomorrow. That's how bad I want to get us to you. Because I believe this can change everything. But we're gonna start here. Everybody listen. God is your only soulmate. I know that's something cold's rule, and it could be semantics, but I'm trying to get you to think deeper about it. The only person who can actually meet the need of your soul is God. Once you find him as your soul mate, you are now looking for your soul match. Natalie is my soul match. She makes me better in areas I didn't want to be better. Y' all got what I'm saying. She's not just what I wanted, she's what I needed. But there's also things that she will never be able to do if I don't. Let God be my soul mate. Stop trying to put your soul match where the soul mate goes. Does everybody hear me? Lift your hands all over this building. Father, in the name of Jesus, I thank you that your word is sharper than any two edged sword. It even separates the bone and the marrow penetrating to the soul. So today, God, I'm asking you, would you do soul work on us? Would you heal my soul, heal my mind, heal my will, heal my emotions. And God, build a foundation that generations will be able to stand on because I do the hard work here today. I pray for every marriage, every person waiting, every single person that's satisfied, every person who has been father God, divorced or widowed or trying to figure out what their next season looks like. God, I'm asking that you would settle our souls, restore our souls, replenish our souls because you came to seek and to save the souls that are lost. Today we take the unrealistic expectation off of anybody that is not you. And we put our hope, our faith and our life in you because you've given us everything we need to live a life that is godly and that pleases you. So do the surgery on the inside. God, today, if you're under the sound of my voice and you've never met your soulmate, today I want to introduce you to Jesus. He's the only one that can fulfill and feel the deficit that you feel. Alcohol won't do it. Guys won't do it. Drugs won't do it. Money won't do it. We have too many examples of people who got all of that and still felt empty. Today I want to meet you what the Bible calls the lover of your soul. He's the one that will love your mind into healing and health. Love your will. Matter of fact, he love you. The Bible says while you were yet sinners, he gave up his most precious son to take your place and my place so that you could spend eternity in relationship with him. The whole thing about God is he wants to be your relationship goal. That's the whole thing. Every sacrifice, every move, defeating death, hell and the grave, it was so that you and him could have relationship. He knew that he was your only soulmate. So today, if you need to be seen, safe, secure, Soothed. Come to me, all who are weary and heavy burdened. And guess what? He'll give you rest for your soul. He took me from being a liar, a manipulator, addicted to pornography, looking to images and people to fill up what only he could. And when I invited him in, he changed me from the inside out. I'm not a perfect man, but I'm a progressing man. He can speak to me. And I don't need anybody else to have relationship with my soulmate. Today. Today, I want to give you that opportunity on account of three. If you're in this room or you're watching online, you're watching on rebroadcast. You're watching from a jail cell. Today, your soulmate wants to enter into a relationship with you. His name is Jesus. One, you're making the greatest decision of your life, Church. I need you to pray. Cause somebody's life is in the balance right now. Two, your name is going to be written in the Lamb's book of life, and your eternity is about to be transformed if you. If you want to accept Jesus. Three, lift your hand up in this room or online, I see hands going up everywhere. Transformation Church, can we thank God? I see you. I see you. I see you, sister. I see you, brother. Glory to God. Glory to God. And if I don't see you, God sees you. And today, for the benefit, I feel the presence of God. Heaven is throwing a party over one person that gives their life to Christ. And today I want to. I want this church who is a family. Nobody prays alone. Would you lift your hands and just say this prayer with me? Say, God, thank you for being my soulmate. Thank you for sending Jesus just for me. Today. I repent and I turn to you. I believe you lived, you died, and you rose again with all power so I could be free. Here's my life. Change me. Renew me. Transform me. I'm yours forever. In Jesus name, Transformation Church. Can we celebrate? Oh, y' all, come on. That should be the loudest roar of the day. Hallelujah. Hey, listen. If you made that decision for Jesus, I want you to text save to 828282. And our team wants to send you some information. And we want to walk with you. Everybody, please, please, please, please hear me. The next seven weeks up to Easter is so important for every relationship you will ever have. Share this with your family. I'm gonna say stuff that you want to say and you can't say. Did you hear what I just said? I'm gonna say the stuff that y' all need to do talk about, but it's hard to bring up. I'm going to talk about the things that literally are going to revolutionize the way you approach your wife, your husband, your kids, everything. But you got to check in when revelation and wisdom is pouring out and your ears are closed that you will not be able to see the impact of what it could be. So I'm asking every person lock in watch this message again because some of y' all were shocked after the first point. I saw you stunned the whole time time you were stuck. I need this to get in your spirit and allow. Watch this. Allow yourself to sit and say Holy Spirit. What are you trying to speak to me through this message? Cuz I made points but he was making points too. There was things he wants to highlight in your life today. Church. We're going to move forward. Somebody say forward in every one of our relationships together. But we're going to win in relationship goals in real life.