Second Time Single: Preparing For Promise After Pain // Relationship Goals: In Real Life (Part 4) // Michael Todd

Summary

Podcast Summary:

Transformation Church Podcast
Episode: Second Time Single: Preparing For Promise After Pain
Series: Relationship Goals: In Real Life (Part 4)
Speaker: Pastor Michael Todd
Date: March 8, 2026

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Episode Overview

This episode centers on the often-overlooked group in relationship conversations: those who become “second time single.” Pastor Mike Todd delivers a heartfelt, faith-filled message about moving forward after relational pain—whether from divorce, death, disappointment, or any unexpected detour. Through biblical teaching, practical wisdom, and raw honesty, he shares hope for relational restoration and encourages listeners that brokenness is not the end, but a setup for a divine comeback.

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Main Discussion Points & Insights

1. Tenderness Amid Pain and the Need for Transformation ([01:05]–[06:00])

• Pastor Mike begins emotionally, expressing the importance of staying tenderhearted toward God and others, even through challenges.
• He emphasizes that following God isn't always easy or comfortable, and that vulnerability and tears are part of sowing for future joy.
• Quote:
  • “One of the greatest attacks of the enemy is not to take you out, it’s to take your tenderness.” – Pastor Mike Todd [01:30]
• Invites the congregation to believe that seasons of sorrow will turn, and encourages a posture of expectation: “It’s turning around for me.”

2. Recognizing and Addressing the ‘Second Time Single’ ([12:11]–[16:00])

• Mike introduces his targeted message for those who find themselves single again—due to divorce, death, disappointment, detour, or other causes.
• He acknowledges overlooked groups: parents of special needs children, those coming out of abusive relationships, those who have lost loved ones, or left lifestyles for God.
• Emphasizes the vital need to process pain in faith and not let one chapter define their life story.
• Quote:
  • “Second time single… I believe being single again is not the end. It can be preparation for a divine alignment.” – Pastor Mike Todd [14:08]

3. The Promise of Relational Restoration ([16:00]–[23:27])

• Encourages listeners to envision relational restoration—healing in relationships not only with romantic partners but also children, family, or friends.
• Challenges listeners to get practical about forgiveness and the power of changing their mindset.
• Uses a relatable analogy: Don’t stop living after the first chapter—your story isn’t over (“Flip the page.”)
• Emphasizes that what seems like an ending can be the beginning of a “comeback.”

4. The Biblical Story of Ruth: A Model for Second Time Singles ([23:27]–[30:08])

• Context: Ruth became single again after her husband died, losing provision, security, and future plans.
• Points out:
  • Ruth’s “first chapter” was full of loss—but her story didn’t end there.
  • Ruth chose to move forward in faith, not stay stuck in the past.
• Quote:
  • “How devastating would it be that you stopped living after the first chapter of your relational life?” – Pastor Mike Todd [28:30]

5. The Power of Community and Mimicking Healthy Patterns ([30:08]–[33:47])

• Encourages listeners not to go through devastation alone—sometimes, you just need to “grab on” to someone with healthy practices.
• Draws on the need to find and mimic those with godly and healthy habits (even humorously referencing rapper Ludacris: “When I move, you move. Just like that!”).
• Quote:
  • “Sometimes you don’t have the strength to make it up. You just need to follow or mimic somebody.” – Pastor Mike Todd [30:36]

6. Key Steps to Moving Forward After Relational Loss

Pastor Mike unpacks practical steps using Ruth as a template:

A. Make a Faith Decision ([33:47]–[35:20])

• Ruth chose faith over familiarity, purpose over the past, and moving forward over fear.
• Sometimes faith means stepping into unfamiliar spaces (counseling, therapy, new community).
• Quote:
  • “Your next relationship should come after your next level with God.” – Pastor Mike Todd [35:20]

B. Identify the Loss, Don’t Accept the Label ([35:20]–[44:32])

• Naomi, Ruth’s mother-in-law, descended into bitterness (“Don’t call me Naomi; call me Mara, for the Almighty has made my life very bitter.” – Ruth 1:20)
• Mike warns against letting your pain become your identity—don’t let a label (like “bitter,” “alone,” “angry”) define you.
• Quote:
  • “It’s okay to identify with the grief, but don’t let it become your identity.” – Pastor Mike Todd [41:00]
• God keeps calling us by our true name, not the label our pain tries to put on us.

C. Don’t Let Disappointment Steal Your Diligence ([46:03]–[50:16])

• Ruth remained productive—she kept working in the fields, which led her to encounter Boaz.
• Productivity, not pity, leads to healing and new opportunities.
• Quote:
  • “Her healing strategy was productivity, not pity.” – Pastor Mike Todd [48:23]
• Warns against making “idleness an idol.”

D. Keep Your Character ([50:16]–[53:00])

• Ruth’s integrity and loyalty drew Boaz’s attention. Character invites the right kind of interest; “Integrity invites interest.”
• Compatibility (in new relationships) should be based on character, not just attraction.
• Quote:
  • “Character authenticates compatibility.” – Pastor Mike Todd [52:30]

E. Change Your Wardrobe While You Wait ([59:34]–[61:00])

• Symbolic and practical: Ruth had to change out of mourning clothes as a sign she was ready for a new season. We should also prepare ourselves outwardly and inwardly for what we are believing for.
• “Put the wardrobe on for where you believe you’re going.”

7. Don’t Settle for Less Than God’s Best ([61:00]–[63:00])

• Humorous but poignant: “Don’t settle for any of his relatives…Broke-Ass, Po-Ass, Cheap-Ass…make sure he respect your ass.”
• Bitterness will make you settle—choose faith instead.

8. The Beauty of Restoration: Broken Pieces in God’s Hands ([63:00]–[68:00])

• Pastor Mike uses the Japanese art of Kintsugi, where broken pottery is restored with gold, making it more valuable, as a metaphor for how God can restore our brokenness.
• Quote:
  • “This is the season you’re coming into relationally... I will restore everything the locust has tried to steal... You are coming into a season of more value.” – Pastor Mike Todd [64:15]
• Our “broken pieces” aren’t shameful—they are the material for God to make something more valuable.

9. Legacy and the Power of a Faithful Response ([68:00]–[70:00])

• Ruth’s “second time single” story doesn’t just end in her own restoration, but creates a generational legacy—she becomes a foremother of King David and, by extension, Jesus Christ.
• Small decisions, taken in faith, can affect destinies and generations.
• Quote:
  • “If Ruth doesn’t take this posture of faith in being second time single, it affects our Savior.” – Pastor Mike Todd [68:30]

10. Christ as the True Kinsman Redeemer ([70:00]–[71:45])

• Boaz mirrors Jesus—the redeemer who takes us (in our brokenness, debt, and vulnerability) and restores us completely.
• Pastor Mike invites anyone listening who needs the Redeemer—Jesus—to make a faith decision.

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

On Emotional Authenticity ([01:30]):

“One of the greatest attacks of the enemy is not to take you out, it’s to take your tenderness.” – Pastor Mike Todd

On Holding onto Hope ([12:11]):

“Second time single… is not the end. It can be preparation for a divine alignment.” – Pastor Mike Todd

On Progress and Restoration ([16:00], [64:15]):

"What would happen if you saw them and you could actually think the best for them? That would be restoration."
“You are coming into a season of more value… God puts you on display for His glory.” – Pastor Mike Todd

On Character and Community ([52:30], [30:36]):

"Character authenticates compatibility."
"Sometimes you don’t have the strength to make it up. You just need to follow or mimic somebody.”

On Identity and Labels ([41:00]):

"It's okay to identify with the grief, but don't let it become your identity.”

On Faith and Moving Forward ([35:20], [68:30]):

“Your next relationship should come after your next level with God.”
“If Ruth doesn’t take this posture of faith in being second time single, it affects our Savior.”

On Not Settling ([61:00]):

"Don’t settle for any of his relatives…broke-ass, po-ass, cheap-ass…make sure he respect your ass. Bitterness will make you settle.”

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Key Timestamps for Important Segments

• 01:05–06:00: Opening reflections on staying tender, sowing in tears, and God’s grace amidst pain.
• 12:11–16:00: Introduction of the "second time single" theme and recognizing forgotten groups.
• 16:00–23:27: Vision for relational restoration; encouragement to “flip the page” in life’s story.
• 23:27–30:08: Ruth’s story as the scriptural foundation.
• 30:08–33:47: Power of community and mimicking the right people.
• 35:20–44:32: Identifying loss, rejecting negative labels, and the dangers of owning a bitter identity.
• 46:03–50:16: The call to sustained diligence and productivity, even when disappointed.
• 50:16–59:34: Importance of character and preparing for a new season—“change your wardrobe.”
• 61:00–63:00: Memorable segment on “not settling” and practical wisdom.
• 63:00–68:00: Kintsugi metaphor, the promise of restoration, and increasing value after pain.
• 68:00–71:45: The legacy of faith decisions; invitation to salvation.

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Conclusion:

This episode offers profound encouragement and practical instruction for anyone navigating life after relational loss. Pastor Mike Todd’s blend of humor, vulnerability, biblical teaching, and real-life application is an empowering reminder that every broken chapter is a canvas for God’s restoration and new beginnings. Whether you are in a season of pain, know someone who is, or simply want to build relationships God’s way, this message is a source of hope, clarity, and next steps.

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Welcome to Transformation Church podcast where we represent God to the lost and found for transformation in Christ. We're so glad you're here and wherever you're listening from, we believe God will transform your life through today's message. I don't. I don't ever want to present that following God is easy. I don't ever want to present to you that doing what God asks you to do will always make you feel good. I wish that would have happened before I got up here. It's the fourth time I've cried in 2026 and this only we only three months in, huh? That's for me. That's a world record. You needed that cry. I did too. You hear me? And ain't nothing wrong, but sometimes I told somebody I almost preached a message today called tenderhearted cuz I felt that one of the greatest attacks of the enemy is not to take you out, is to take your tenderness when you stop caring about people, stop caring about things and stop caring about how it affects people. And I never want to become a professional Christian or a professional pastor. I never want to do this automatically. I want to stay tender to God's voice. And I thank God that those moments can still happen. I thank God for his grace somebody else needed that said it don't always. I promise I'm gonna preach. Yeah, the Lord will perfect concerning this telling you that sooner or later turning my favor, turning around for me yourself give God a shout of praise. Nah, I Said if you believe it for yourself, it's turning around. Look at your neighbor and say, it's turning around for me. Come on. Look at one more person. Say, it's turning around for me. It's turning around for me. I don't know why tears feel so heavy.

[Dan Morgan]

Because you're sowing.

[Pastor Mike Todd]

They that sow in tears will reap in joy. You better quit, bro. God's gonna give you something to cry about. Cause they that so. So in tears we're reaping joy. Hey, somebody ought to just say, I got something to cry about. I got something to cry about. Cause they that sow in tears will reap in joy. I guess it's time to reap in joy. It's gonna be worth the tears. It's gonna be worth the years. Cause they that sow in tears will reap in joy. If you've been crying over anything, you might want to get excited. They that so it tears will reap. The seasons are changing. Yes, sir. Say that so it is will re. We believe your word. God. It's turning around. It's turning around. Turning around. Somebody about take a leap and say, it's turning around for me. Turning around for me. It's turning around. Deuce. It's turning around for me as well. Praise him right now like you just got the report. It's turning around. It's turning around for me. Yeah. Oh, my God. I got to move. Cause I'm about to get happy on that. Yes, sir. I was sowing. I was sowing for a future that I haven't walked into yet. I'm sowing for another level of joy. Another level of peace. Another level of satisfaction. Fueled by the Holy Spirit. It's turning around. He turns my morning. Yes, sir. Into dancing. Some of y'.

[Dan Morgan]

All.

[Pastor Mike Todd]

Y' all haven't danced in a while, and I. Yes, sir. Every tear. Yes, sir. Boy, that just changed everything. Every tear. I'm sewing for something. I'm not wasting a tear in this next season. Somebody better hear me. I'm not wasting a tear. It's coming back multiplied, and it's coming back with joy. That's what I needed today. My God, I needed that. Every tear. Every tear. Every tear. He bottles them all, huh? Every tear. Joy is coming in another level. Some of y' all been crying so much, crying yourself to sleep, trying to figure out the next season. It's not wasted. He's about to do something that could not be done any other way. Every tear is coming back up as joy. Yep. Joy. Joy in my Family. Joy in my soul, joy in my life. Joy in my heart, joy in my mind. It's coming back. Joy. Yes, sir. Charles. Every tear we sow, Abby. Every tear. All right. All right, y', all, that just made sense of the last season for some of us. Bryce, the tears aren't wasted. I'm telling you right now. A harvest of joy. Y' all get ready for the best rest of the year. It's a harvest of joy. No, you don't gotta receive it. But some of us, we've been crying too long. It's time for a season change. We need the joy of the Lord. Cause it will be our strength. Yes, sir. All right. All right. Thank you. Well, that frames this whole message. Sit down. I got 40 minutes. You want every moment of this message. You. Y' all gotta leave that in the. In. In the thing. Lead that in the broadcast. Cause it's gonna make all this makes sense. All right, well, welcome to Transformation Church, where we believe in God and we let the spirit move. And I felt a burden. Honestly, I wasn't gonna preach today. I talked to Charles two days ago. I was like, bro, you gotta. You got a sermon ready? And he always got one locked and loaded. And that's my dog. And I told him last night, I was like, I'm 50. 50, whether I'm gonna preach tomorrow. I said, I'm gonna wake up in the morning, and if God's like, nah, you got it, then I'm gonna go. If not, I'm like, you got it. And that's the beauty of having partnership. And I woke up this morning with a burden. And the best messages are not something that I've planned all week. I'm praying, I'm harvesting, I'm writing stuff down. I'll be having 15 different messages ready for y' all on Sunday. But I need God to give specificity on what he wants to say. Because the right thing at the wrong time is not a blessing. Y' all got what I'm saying? But today, in this relationship, goals in real life, y' all gotta help me with the end. This is week four. I think it's week four of relationship goals. Help me in real life. We want it to actually work in your real life. And I believe that God wants everybody to win in relationships. But I also think, as I went to the Holy Spirit, about who I was supposed to talk to and what I was supposed to say today. He told me that there was a group that was forgotten in this scope of relationships, that today I needed to speak specifically to a group of people who are in this room watching online watching in the correctional facility that have been usually not acknowledged when relationship series happen.

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and a lot of times it's focused on the people who single, people who married, people who confused. But today I want to preach a message for a new group of people that are entering the chat. Write this down. Today's message is for the second time single the second time single Today I need to preach to a group of people who are preparing for a promise after pain. Today I need to talk to the people who need to prepare after pain and for everybody. This is going to apply to you because many times if a message is not directly for you, it's for somebody you're supposed to touch. And a lot of people tune out messages if it doesn't apply to their situation. But they don't know what they about to run into with their children. They co worker, they boss and God was trying to give you preparation for that thing. He was like oh that message Is for them. No, no, no, no. It's for you to be a liaison. Hands and feet of God to somebody else. So I need everybody taking notes today, and I need you to play your cards right, because I don't want you to end up second time single. Okay, let's. Maybe that was too quick because some of you, when you don't adhere to what God is asking you to do in the season, you forfeit your opportunity to make something good. Great. I'm going too fast already. Okay, so let me slow down today. I have to talk to the people who are looking for what to do after the devastation. How do I have life after the divorce? Life after the disaster, Life after the disappointment, Life after the deadbeat baby daddy? How do I move on with life after the domestic abuse? Life after. Watch this. A detour. How many people's life have taken a detour you didn't expect. Oh, come on, y'. All. You was not expecting to be in Tulsa, Oklahoma, in 2026 in a tornado this weekend, asking yourself, lord, why me? Somebody said, we hear, though. We hear God. We. We obeying you, God. There are people in this room and under the sound of my voice that don't know what to do with life after this distance that was created by raising a special needs child. See, I'm talking to people who are in a niche right now, special people who raise special needs children. The divorce rate is so high because their whole life then goes to being concentrated on raising this child that they both feel hopeless and in despair about. What do we do after the diagnosis? Oh, God. The church don't want to talk about. Just pray. Hold on. You got to give me some practical. How am I about to look and look. They don't want to make love to me no more. They don't want to. How do I deal with. With it after the disaster? I wasn't planning to lose them like that. That wasn't a part of the plan for me and my family. We wrote, we charted out the course. How do I live relational life after a destructive decision? Now, nobody wants to talk about it, but one decision could change your whole relational landscape. Oh, y' all don't want it. Y' all want to play with me off in here? One decision, one wrong test message, one forgetful night. Okay, let me stop. I'm in people's business too much right now. What do I do with life after discovery? Y' all know what I'm talking about. Discovery. You were doing things one way. You find out that it's the wrong Way. Now you want to do it God's way, but I only know the way that I've been doing it. People who are deciding to not live in an alternate sexual lifestyle, how do I do life after? I've already been with these type of partners and those type of. How do I do life after? And nobody in the church wants to talk about it. But the truth of the matter is, what do we do with the life relationally after somebody dies who you gave your life to? I pray it don't happen to nobody. But what happens when you're staring death at the door with the person that you love? Second time single. And the truth of the matter is so many people try to protect themselves when they get single again that they never let themselves be open to what God may have for them. Because I never imagined this. I can't deal with it. And what that is saying, when you get down to the core, is there's an area that I will not let God develop in me, period. I've been hurt too bad. God, if you want this area of my life, you gonna have to pry it out of my hand. And he said, you want that hard heart? Keep it. Because it truly is a decision of what we do after. So today, if you are second time single, if you are dealing with any of the things that I've been talking about or you know somebody, I believe today is going to encourage you because I believe being single again is not the end. It can be preparation for a divine alignment. I gotta speak this oil to your soul right now because some of you have been so discarded, so hurt, so frustrated. And for all those who not in a relationship, take notes because this gonna help you pick right the first time. Okay? Today, I believe that you can experience, by God's grace, relational. Watch this restoration. Write that down. I want relational restoration. And some of you, it doesn't even have to be with a romantic partner. It can be relational restoration with a child. You have been a parent without connection to your kids, so this applies to you too. They've been far away from God. Y' all have had some breaches that I ain't never and you ain't never. And you said some words, I shouldn't have had you or you couldn't have done this. And da, da, da. And there's been a gap. And today God's saying, I'm believing that by my word, there can be relationship restoration. Somebody just needs to get a glimmer of hope in your mind right now. What would it look like for me to Actually not be mad at them when I saw them. Some of y' all never even thought of that. Every time you think about them, you think, bow, bust them in the face, triple put something in their food. Yeah, I know you. You watch too many of them Netflix documentaries. But what would happen if you saw them and you could actually think the best for them? That would be restoration. When you wouldn't have to jump over an evil thought to think a good one. Okay, restoration. Have you ever watched a movie and only saw, like, the first 30 minutes of it? Or you ever watched a book and only read the first chapter and then somebody. That's cool. Because most of us feel like we're a better writer and director than the people who write and direct movies. Oh, y' all come on right now. Y' all know. He'd be like, I know what's gonna happen. She the killer. And they gonna get together at the end. How many people like that? When y' all watch stories and movies, like, first chapter of the book, it's cool. Until somebody who saw the whole thing ask you what you thought about it, and they'll be like, so, how did you like the book, boy? How did you like the book? You remember that part? I mean, tell me the part that you remember. And it's one of those things that you try to put together the dots, you try to connect it, because you didn't read past the beginning. Today I came to tell you how devastating would it be that you stopped living after the first chapter of your relational life? For those who are second time single or will find themselves in this position, your first chapter, write this down. Is not your last chapter. A whole story can change in one chapter of a book. So some of y' all need to today decide by faith. I'm turning the page. I'm turning the page. I know this last season has been despair. I know I've hated all men for the last decade. The mailman, the Amazon, man, I hate them all. That was your pain talking, though. Could we make a decision today? All men are bad. Cause you ain't met all men. These absolutes. All women ain't mean and downgrade and talk. They're not because you ain't met all of them. But some of us have decided that our relational chapter is over because we had a bad beginning. And today, I want you to tell yourself by faith, flip the page. Come on, say it. Say, flip the page. What could happen this year if you would open up your heart to see what God had for you relationally? God is not finish writing your story. I gotta believe this. Either Romans 8:28 is real or it's not. It either Is all things even this first bad chapter or second chapter, some of y' all in your sixth chapter and it's still bad. Turn the page. Turn the page. Because all things are working together for the good of those who are called and that love him.

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[Pastor Mike Todd]

to help you because there is a relational story that I want to bring your attention to that everybody loves to preach but they don't have the context to it. Today I'm preaching the story of Ruth and Boaz. And most ladies look at Boaz. He paid. The Bible tells us he's a man of good stature. The Bible tells us that he's shot calling and balling. I don't know how he looked but all the girls like him. But I think everybody skips the part of this story that is actually the intention of how Ruth even is discovered by Boaz because Ruth is second time single. Did Y' all know that Ruth is not just somebody looking for a man. This is her after devastation, after grieving. This is her after losing everything. She gets paired up with her mother in law, Naomi. And you can read this in Ruth 1, 2, 3, and 4. I can't go through the whole thing, but I'm gonna point out some scriptures for you. Literally, Ruth loses everything that made her secure in the first chapter of Ruth. What chapter did she lose it in? This is why you cannot stop believing God. Because the end is going to be better than the beginning if you posture yourself right after the loss in the first chapter. Oh, I'm about to preach this thing. Ruth, chapter one, verse one. Preparing for a promise after pain. In the days when the judges ruled in Israel, a severe famine came upon the land. So a man from Bethlehem and Judah left his home and went to live in the country of Moab, taking his wife and two sons with him. The man's name was Elimelech and his wife Naomi. Their two sons were Mahalan and Gileon. I don't know. Just try. When you reading the Bible, just try. People be so deep with that. I'm kk. I'm gonna make his own name. Still get the point. They were from Bethlehem to the land of Judea and 1. And when they reached Moab, they settled there. Verse 3. Then Elimilek died. Hold on. Naomi's husband died, was left with her two sons. Then the two sons followed after their daddy and they died. Hold on. One married a woman named Orpah and the other one named a woman named ruth. But about 10 years after their relationship, both of them died. They left Naomi alone with her two sons of her husband. So it's three women that are now walking in life. Second time single. Now, for most of us, this is when you would get your cup of wine, put on movies, eat all the things that bring you comfort, and call it after a decade of being in relationship, this wasn't somebody that was dating somebody. This was a decade that ends in devastation. Ruth loses her person, which was her husband. She loses provision. Because back in that time, if you didn't have a husband, that means that you aren't secure. They literally were in the middle of a famine. So she cannot run to the grocery store and get food. She loses her place. She ends up having to move cities to be able to follow with Naomi. And she loses her protection from being in a relationship. She lose all of this in chapter one. Pastor Mike, why are you. Why are you saying this? Because some of y' all have finished reading. And it's only chapter one. You stop believing. And it's only chapter one, yo. Yes, your relationship has sucked for 17 years, but what if. What if this was the backdrop to the greatest relational comeback in history? It's only chapter one. And Ruth is about to show all of us what to do when we find ourselves in chapter one. Drop down to verse nine. This is her mother in law, Naomi. Decide, you know what, I'm in a foreign land. I got to go back home where I know stuff. I'm believing y' all babies, y' all stay here. Hopefully you find a new man, but I got to go home. And this is what happened. Verse 9. May the Lord bless y' all with security of another marriage, because I got to get up out of here. Then she kissed him goodbye. This was. She kissed Oprah and Ruth goodbye. And. And they all broke down crying, no. They said, we want to go with you to your people. But Naomi replied, why should you go with me? Can I still give birth? Give you other sons? I can't do nothing for you, girl. Go find you a man. This. This is the interpretation. She's saying, go do it. Verse 16. But Ruth replied, don't ask me to leave you and turn back. I gotta go forward. I cannot go back. Yes, I lost everything, but I'm not about to stay here and die with it. I gotta go forward. Wherever you go, watch this. I will go. Wherever you live, I will live. Your people will be my people. And watch the strongest statement. And your God will be my God. Now, I want you to understand a point that I didn't write down, but the Holy Spirit just dropped it on me. When you literally are coming out of devastation, you just might need somebody to hold on to. She literally didn't say, I'm gonna make this plan. She said, whatever you do, Imma do. I think there was a prophet, Ludacris. He said, when I move, you move. Just like some of y' all studied with me.

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[Pastor Mike Todd]

What I'm saying to you is sometimes you don't have the strength to make it up. You just need to follow or mimic somebody. You pray. I' ma pray. I don't know what to say. What you saying? I'm going to say, what you saying. This is why it's important to be around the right people. Because sometimes you don't have the words. You don't have the practices. The best way to get in shape is go work out with somebody in shape. Why? Because I don't know what this move is. The reason I got a trainer is because I need to know what does this. Do y' all hear what I'm saying? And I don't even got to know the name. I don't got to know what muscle it works. I don't have to know how this applies. If I watch you, somehow my form changes. Somehow my desire changes. And some of you have been going in life after devastation by yourself. And today I want you to grab on to somebody who at least has some practices we're going to see in a moment. Naomi ain't out of the woods. Naomi still got her issues. That's why around here we believe in progression, not perfection. But you might want to find somebody with some practices, some principles. You cuss your kids out, find somebody how they discipline their kids without cussing their kids out. Johnny, stop it or I'll take your stuff. I'm saying you might have to watch this mimic before you see a miracle. Okay? So I just need to give you a few steps to do after you find yourself in second time single. Okay? This is going to help everybody. Number one, make a decision based in faith. Or let me say it like this, make a faith decision. The reason why most people never come out of the season that they're in when they're in the second time single is they stop believing God. Because if God was good, this would have never happened. Oh, can we talk about it? If God was good, this would have never happened. I would have found out about this before he'd been a player for this long. She been creeping this long. Why would I lose them like that? Why would he even let us get married if he was going to be tragically taken like like that? Why could we? Why, why, why, why, why, why? And what ends up happening is in the wise of this fallen world. The whole tactic of the enemy is for us to lose our faith. But I want you to see very distinctly that when something bad happened, Ruth had to anchor her faith immediately. She had to make a decision of faith. Right now, the easiest thing would have been for her to stay where she was at. But she chose faith over familiarity. She chose purpose over the past. She chose a covenant over comfort. And she chose forward over fear. How do we know that she goes with Naomi to a place she ain't got no connections in? She literally is like Abraham when God says, go to the land, I will show you the only way you go to somewhere and don't know where you going is by faith. Somebody say by faith for you to get in the place, you need to be relationally, God may ask you to go to unfamiliar places like counseling. Okay. Some of y' all might have to show up in unfamiliar places like therapy. You might have to show up in unfamiliar places like the doctor's office. Why y' all so scared to go to the doctor?

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[Podcast Host]

I've got Dan Morgan here on the pod. Say hi, Dan.

[Dan Morgan]

Hey, how's it going today?

[Podcast Host]

It's going good, man. Tell us who you are and what you do.

[Dan Morgan]

I'm Dan Morgan. I'm an attorney and a managing partner at Morgan and Morgan, which is America's largest injury law firm.

[Podcast Host]

That's pretty awesome. I think I saw a billboard of yours recently that said 20 billion one. 20 billion is an insane number.

[Dan Morgan]

Yeah, 20 billion recovered. It's actually, I think somewhere north. Probably closer to 22, 23 after this year. And each year we get bigger and badder and our army grows. So the number will hopefully keep getting bigger and bigger as time goes on.

[Podcast Host]

Awesome. So how does someone get in contact with Morgan and Morgan? What would I do if I got into an accident?

[Dan Morgan]

Probably the easiest way is dialing pound law. That's £529 from your cell phone. We are always open. Our call center is always waiting to take your call. 247 365.

[Pastor Mike Todd]

Wow.

[Podcast Host]

Dan Morgan from Morgan and Morgan, America's large injury law firm. Thanks for coming by the show.

[Dan Morgan]

Thanks for having me. Visit forthepeople.com for an office near you.

[Pastor Mike Todd]

You praying that what's real can't be healed in a different way. And I know and I'm especially talking to black people. What is wrong with you? Your thigh been hurting for 16 years and you and I plead the blood over. You better go get your blood checked. No, I'm. There's cures for stuff. Do y' all hear what I'm saying? I'm just. I'm literally telling you right now it might take a step of faith. And some of y' all faith decisions is not clear. I was devastated because that's what happened. But you still, the Bible says the just shall live by. That's even when it sucks, even when it's unfair, even when it doesn't feel like this should have happened. I still have to. You don't get a pass on using faith just because you're in a hard season. I'm, I'm telling you, from what I know, some people be like God, time out, time out, time out, time out. And God's like that. I'm sorry, but it don't work like that. I'll comfort you, I'll encourage you. I'll be there with you. I even told you in this world you will have trouble. But take heart because I've overcome the world and everybody be like, but God. Can I get a 20, 24 month break? Come on, can anybody be with me? Has anybody asked God for a 24 month break? Bills paid, losing weight, no workout. Can I, can I just have good. You say you wanted good hair growing. Good. But faith without, oh, y' all know the Bible. Faith without works is dead. And so I found out that Ruth did something that all of us have to do when we're second time single. We have to make a faith decision. And, and, and, and I, I want to just say this for those who desire to be in a relationship again in real life. Your next relationship should come after your next level with God. If your relationship with him didn't grow, I it, you may not have used the season that God has you in in the best way that you could. And that's what Proverbs 3, 5 and 6 says. Trust in the Lord with all your heart. Lean not to your own understanding. In all your ways, acknowledge him. And what is he going to do? Direct your path. He's saying, would you just please level up with me? And Ruth shows us, you know what? I'm going to trust the God that this woman's got. I'm going to know God better. So if you find yourself in a second time single situation, make a faith decision to know God better. Second thing I need you to do, if you're in second time single situation, identify the loss, but don't accept the label. See, this is not just happening to Ruth. This also happened to Naomi. She lost her husband first. And I want to go to Ruth, chapter one, verse 20, because Ruth was in her first chapter, but so was Naomi. And this book of the Bible is not called Naomi. And I think this might be a little bit of reason why it's not called Naomi. It's because of Naomi's. Stance when she became second time single was not necessarily the stance of faith. Watch it. She said. Don't call me Naomi no more. Instead, after all this happened to me, call me Mara, for the Almighty has made my life bitter, very bitter for me. I went away full, but the Lord has brought me home empty. Why call me Naomi when the Lord has caused me to suffer and the Almighty has sent such tragedy upon me. I can't even be mad at her situation. I want to be. I want to be clear with you. She has every right to feel what she feels. But she blamed God for what he was trying to use, not as something that happened to her. He uses the things because we're in this fallen world that happened to us as places where he can get glory, redemption and transformation out of your life. But she decided to label the season instead of just identify with the pain she was feeling. Let me say it to you like this. It's okay to identify with the grief, but don't let it become your identity. This hurts. This sucks. I don't want to be here. Why would this happen? But she named herself bitter. Don't call me nothing else but bitter. And you might have not named yourself bitter, but I want you to know that all of us have named ourselves something. There's something that we have started calling ourselves that nobody else knows, that we call ourselves, but we try to rename our. No, I'm just. I'm just. I'm just shy. But God's called you to do things on a big scale. How can you. Why would you claim that title? Well, I'm just not a people person. Hold on. But he called you to people. You could say, like, I'm getting more comfortable. You don't have to identify what. You don't have to disassociate with what's happening. I'm getting more comfortable talking to people. But I'm not a people person. That's a label. And what I'm asking you, church, is what label have you accepted? Even tried to convince other people to call you? I don't know about you, but when you were young, if you don't like your name, you be trying to make up new names, y'. All. Anybody ever make up a new name for themselves? And did it stick? Did it not? You know, we have a pastor, an associate campus pastor here that tried to rename himself Blaze. Pastor Blaze, would you stand up? Pastor Will Heckenbach, at one season of his life, was trying to get people to call him Blaze based on how much weed he was Smoking. He wanted that season to identify him forever. Pastor Blaze. Thank God it didn't stick. No, no, no. But what I'm. What I'm saying is, I'm using that as a light joke. But I'm just saying, like, some of y' all have identified as lonely, identified as angry. Be angry, but don't accept the label. And because Naomi accepted the label of bitter, I bet it worked against what God was trying to give her in her life. Some of y' all have just accepted, well, I'm just a mean person. What? What? No, no, no, no, no, no, no. You're hurting and hurt people. Hurt people. And you've been ignoring and fighting, counseling and therapy and accountability and transformation. But please don't own the label, because that's not who God created you to be. Does everybody hear what I'm saying? And I need you. I don't got time. But if I sat down with you, we could identify either a known label or one that you've accepted that only you know that you need to divorce yourself from. But I love God. Because even when Naomi decided that she was gonna be bitter, God still saw her better. Do you know that the name Mara, the only time it's recorded in this is when she said it? Every place after this, you can read chapter 1, 2, 3, 4. They never call her Mara again. It's almost as if it's like a girl. Shut up, Naomi. Like, she was like, I'm Mara, but girl, be quiet, Naomi. And so Naomi and Ruth and Naomi and Ruth. And they. He was calling her who she was until it started to change who she was. And some of y' all need to say, I'm blessed, I'm happy, I'm secure, I'm faithful. Until it starts to line up with the identity that God has given you. Name yourself whatever you want. God's not acknowledging it, okay? That's the grace of God. All right, let's keep going.

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[Podcast Host]

I've got Dan Morgan here on the pod. Say hi, Dan.

[Dan Morgan]

Hey, how's it going today?

[Podcast Host]

It's going good, man. Tell us who you are and what you do.

[Dan Morgan]

I'm Dan Morgan. I'm an attorney and a managing partner at Morgan and Morgan, which is America's largest injury law firm.

[Podcast Host]

That's pretty awesome. I think I saw a billboard of yours recently that said 20 billion one. 20 billion is an insane number.

[Dan Morgan]

Yeah, 20 billion recovered. It's actually, I think somewhere north, probably closer to 22, 23 after this year. And each year we get bigger and badder and our army grows. So the number will hopefully keep getting bigger and bigger as time goes on.

[Pastor Mike Todd]

Awesome.

[Podcast Host]

So how does someone get in contact with Morgan and Morgan? What would I do if I got into an accident?

[Dan Morgan]

Probably the easiest way is dialing pound law. That's £529 from your cell phone. We are always open. Our call center is always waiting to take your call. 247 365.

[Pastor Mike Todd]

Wow.

[Podcast Host]

Dan Morgan from Morgan and Morgan, America's largest injury law firm. Thanks for coming by the show.

[Dan Morgan]

Thanks for having me. Visit forthepeople.com for an office near you.

[Pastor Mike Todd]

Third thing, if you find yourself second time single, don't let disappointment steal your diligence. If you find yourself in a. In a second time single situation, a lot of times this is where people, their pro. Their productivity goes down because they think somehow that their calling and their purpose is now forfeited because they don't have that person. And I know it's quiet in here, but I got to talk to a lot of people that this never gets talked about. And so church people don't even know how to deal with this. Like, let me just pray for you, Lord. Bless them. Thanks. But the. But the truth of the matter is I needed you to tell me. How can I still be diligent when my heart is hurting? How do I still encourage somebody else when I don't feel encouraged? Come on, let's get practical. How do I actually wake up and command my day in joy and I actually feel like everything is stolen from me? Ruth, chapter two, verse two. It says, one day, Ruth the Moabite said to Naomi, let me go out into the harvest field to pick up the stalks of grain left behind by anyone who is kind enough to let me do it? Naomi replied, all right, girl, go ahead, my daughter, go ahead. So Ruth went out to gather grain behind the harvesters. And it so happened she found herself working in a field that belonged to Boaz, the relative of her father in law, Elimelech. What I'm saying is your relationship Is not on the other side of just disappointment. It's on the other side of diligence. What has God placed in your hands to still work even though you're in a season where it feels like, I shouldn't have to do this? And God is requiring all of us. Watch this. To choose productivity, not pity. Okay, I know it's a hard word. I know she practiced a worth ethic, responsibility, and self respect. Watch this. Her healing strategy was productivity, not pity. It was part of her healing to actually pick up what she had in front of her and do everything she could with it. Now, I know this takes the power of the Holy Spirit, because some of us when we get sad, all we want to do is sleep. Can I get an amen? Sometimes when we get disappointed, all we want to do is go into our little cave and quit. And God's saying, hey, that's not the strategy that you need to do if you're deciding to get redemption in your relationships. If you want redeemed relationships, what could you be doing right now to stay productive? The productivity made her meet her person. Some of y' all ain't gonna meet your person. Cause you don't do nothing productive. Oh, God. One clap. Everybody single. So I'm just telling you it's a little. It's a little. It's a little, right? Because y' all tight. What I'm saying is some of you are never. You're not. God's literally preparing the meetups, the connections, the actual. The actual being able to see each other in places that you can't be without productivity. Check back with me in 10 years. Where you been? At the house. While you be at the house, that's where I feel safe. That's my cocoon. That's my. That's my womb. That's where God is making me. I feel that.

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[Pastor Mike Todd]

where did the purpose take you? Some of y' all won't come to church. It's just too many people. But you want to be with somebody, Just write it down as a point a second time. Single strategy is productivity, not pity. Proverbs 31:7. This is scripture that wrecked me for a lot of years of my life. And I want you to take it down, because this is for men and women. She does not eat the bread of idleness. A woman that. That and a man that is productive. They don't eat the bread of idleness. You ever been to Texas? Row house? Now. Now, I don't even know what their main thing is that they serve. What? What is it? State. What? No, no, it's supposed to be state because there's, like, some horns or something. But what Texas Roadhouse is known for, what is it, them rolls? Now, I want you to go with me just for one second on the idea of idleness being those roles. They want you so full on what is easy to obtain that you have no appetite for real meat, real nourishment. Idleness makes you think that somehow this is the better life. Man, I ain't doing nothing, bro. Like, I getting this Social Security check. I'm getting this. Did my family help? No, I'm. I'm in your business. I don't do nothing. And you live at this limit that doesn't trust God. No, just as long as this investment. Come on, I got six people. And it makes you idle. And your idleness becomes an idol. Being unbothered and comfortable is more important than my commitment to God. And it says idleness shouldn't be the bread we eat. It says, I need you to be productive because I called you here for a purpose. And if you find yourself second time single, this is where Ruth wins, because she says, I'm devastated, but I'm still gonna do what God's called me to do. Her healing was in productivity, not pity. And then guess what she did. If you find yourself a second time single, I only got two more. Keep your character. I don't know what happens when some people get single again. They just wild out. It's like, well, I guess. I guess we're gonna try every flavor. Come on, read between the lines. I guess I'm not gonna have any standards, or I'm gonna make so many standards that nobody will ever be able to hurt me again. Come on. You either on one side of the. And the thing about Ruth is she kept her character. Write this down. Integrity invites interest. Oh, that was good. And y' all didn't even catch it. When you live in integrity, people are interested in you. Dang. They always do what they say. They always look like that. They always have that attitude. This is what attracted Boaz. Boaz could have had anybody in that society. It's the. The. The. The theologians say it's a miracle that he's even single. But Ruth, chapter 2, verse 11 says. Yes, I know, Boaz replied. He's talking to Ruth. But I also know about everything you have done for your mother in law since the death of your husband. I have heard how you have left your father and mother and your own land to live here among complete strangers. What he was saying is your Reputation precedes you. If your reputation precedes you, does it speak well of you? If you find yourself in a second time single situation, what is your reputation? Keep your character. This is not a season to while out and forget the principles of God. It's a season to dig deeper in, to find out yourself worth to know what God has called you to, to stand on business even when nobody's looking. That's what integrity is. And she demonstrates integrity, loyal, humility, kindness, respect. Cuz character. Watch. This authenticates compatibility. How do you know if you're equally yolked with somebody, it shouldn't be by how fine they are. It has to be by character. And a lot of people are disappointed 15 years into their relationship because stuff starts falling, gravity starts taking effect. People start changing and aging because you married them for what they looked like on the outside and not what they look like on the inside. Character is the thing that authenticates capacity, compatibility. I'm with you because we match on a level that is. This is how we're gonna act. This is how we tell the truth. This is how we prioritize God. This is how we laugh at stuff. We don't laugh at stuff like that because that's evil. Chapter 3, verse 1. This is where we end. One day, Naomi said to Ruth, my daughter, it's time that we find you a permanent home. You got to get up out of here. This is what it say. Y' all ain't reading it, okay? So that you will be for real provided for. Because you got to stop eating at my table. Boaz is a close relative of ours and he's been very kind by letting you gather grain with. With his young women Tonight he will be winnowing barely gathering grain with his young women tonight he will be winnowing barley at the threshing floor. Now do as I tell you. Now this is very spiritual and very practical. Listen up. Take a bath. Put on some perfume and a dress, put on your nicest clothes, brush your teeth, then go to the threshing floor. But don't let Boaz see you until he has finished eating and drinking. Be sure to notice where he lies down. Then go and uncover his feet and just lie down there with him. He'll tell you what to do. Woman of God. Hey, Woman of God. But look at Ruth's response. I'll do everything you say. Amen and amen. No, I'm just playing here. Here. This. This is the point. This was wise counsel, huh? I think there's. There's a message there for for all of us that there there is.

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[Podcast Host]

I've got Dan Morgan here on the pod. Say hi Dan.

[Dan Morgan]

Hey, how's it going today?

[Podcast Host]

It's going good, man. Tell us who you are and what you do.

[Dan Morgan]

I'm Dan Morgan. I'm an attorney and a managing partner at Morgan and Morgan, which is America's largest injury law firm.

[Podcast Host]

That's pretty awesome. I think I saw a billboard of yours recently. It said 20 billion. 20 million is an insane number.

[Dan Morgan]

Yeah, 20 billion recovered. It's actually I think somewhere north. Probably closer to 22, 23 after this year. And each year we get bigger and badder and our army grows. So the number will hopefully keep getting bigger and bigger as time goes on.

[Podcast Host]

Awesome. So how does someone get in contact with Morgan and Morgan? What would I do if I got into an accident?

[Dan Morgan]

Probably the easiest way is dialing pound law. That's £529 from your cell phone. We are always open. Our call center is always waiting for to take your call. 24, 7, 365.

[Pastor Mike Todd]

Wow.

[Podcast Host]

Dan Morgan from Morgan and Morgan, America's large injury law firm. Thanks for coming by the show.

[Dan Morgan]

Thanks for having me. Visit forthepeople.com for an office near you.

[Pastor Mike Todd]

I want to say it in a point. Change your wardrobe while you're waiting. The reason why she was telling Ruth to change her clothes is because customarily when you become a widow, you stay in your widowed clothes. You want something greater than this? Change your clothes. You, you want to come out of this. Stop telling everybody you are that just by the way you present yourself. You don't want to be a thug no more. Mother. Buy some pants that fit. Come on, let's just be you. You don't, you don't want to be thought as a thought. Put on something that put on something else. Like change the wardrobe to where you believe by faith you're going. And I believe this is a physical sign, but it also is a spiritual sign. You don't want to talk certain ways. Stop listening to certain stuff. You don't want to see certain things play out in your life. Stop watching those things and let that be the visual image you have. Put the wardrobe on for where you're going. Somebody needs to hear me say that, by faith. Put the wardrobe on for where you believe it. Take a bath. If I tell you that, if I send you Elmo, rub a dub dub, and I'm saying you're going somewhere. Take a bath. Watch this. She had to prepare by faith for what she was believing for. Pastor Mike, why are you saying this? Because there are a lot of people in here who are paralyzed, stuck, confused, frustrated because you found yourself in a season where it's like, dang, I don't want to be hurt like that again. I wasn't expecting for this to happen, but what do I do? I was in a real good relationship with that person, and we almost got to being married and something got broke off or I thought they would have won or. You don't have to have been married before. I'm just saying if you find yourself out of relationship with someone and now you're in this disconnected season again, maybe it's not a punishment. Maybe it's a season for you to connect to God deeper and prepare. Some of you need to trade in the frustration of the last season for the faith of the future. God has more for you. Somebody say forward. Say it like you got faith. Somebody say forward. And, ladies, while you're waiting on your boaz, I heard an old preacher say it like this. Don't settle for any of his relatives. Y' all know what I'm talking about. His broke ass. Po Ass. You. You know what I'm saying? Don't settle for them. Cheap ass up. Don't settle. Make sure he respect your ass. Ass. Az. Respect. I just had to bring it up. I had to bring it up because some of y', all, you wouldn't pick him for your enemy. You wouldn't pick them for your children. You wouldn't pick them for your daughter. But you entertain it. Bitterness will make you settle. I'm done. This is your life right here. And what happens in our lives is sometimes things happen. Oh, you. Valuable, priceless, made, crafted, designed, Beautiful life. Hurt, pain, frustration, broken homes, abuse, molestation. What happens when life hits very fragile people? What happens when they get broken just that quick? And what happens when there's still a remnant that you try to show people the most complete side of you? So maybe they won't see. Maybe they won't see the hole in my soul. Maybe I present this on Instagram and Facebook, and maybe I show everybody that, no, no, no, no, we're pretty much good until something else happens. And now we're left with fragments. And this is where we say, what can God do with somebody like me? I only come to church to gather the pieces. I only pray to try to just get them so they don't hurt nobody else. I don't know if anything good can be done with all my pieces. I'm a mess. I'm hurting. But I found out about this ancient Japanese art. It's the art that takes broken pieces. King Tsuji, I believe, is what it's called. And it would take a vase like this, and what they would do is they would take all of the broken pieces and put it back together with gold or platinum. Could you put a picture up of this vase that has now been put into a master's hand? I want you to look at what restoration could potentially look. This is now sold for over 10 times the value of what the broken usually discarded. By faith. I believe this is the season you're coming into relationally, that Joel 2:25 will be real. Over your life, I will receive, store everything that the locust has tried to steal by faith. I need somebody to believe it. You're coming into a season of more value. You're coming into a season that the last season will not define. I'm going to turn the page and keep reading. I'm going to see everything. I want you to notice that this same vase is now put behind glass. It's protected and put on display. I pray that this next season for you relationally, God puts you in a place where he increases your value. He protects you, and he puts you on display for his glory, standing all over this place. Take a picture, because this is you. Relational restoration. Why? Because God will write a love story after divorce, after disaster, after disappointment, after a deadbeat, after domestic abuse, after deception, after a detour, after distance. God is the one who still writes love stories. After loss. Everybody listen to what I'm saying. After loss, he still writes love stories. Somebody's gonna hope again, somebody's gonna believe again. Some of y', all, who've been keeping her. You. You've been keeping her, your girlfriend for 20 years. Man of God. The time has come. Pastor Mike. Why is this important? Everybody, you gonna miss the best part of the message. Stay right here for one minute. Do you know who Roof gets remembered as? She has a son. Because God restores everything, not just to Ruth. But to Naomi too, through Ruth, everything they thought they lost, protection, provision, legacy, they get it all back. Ruth and Boaz get together. They have a son. Her son's name is Obed. Obed has a son named Jesse. Jesse has a son named David. King David and David is in the line of Jesus. If. If Ruth doesn't take this posture of faith in being second time single, it affects our Savior who. How could you be delaying their destiny based on your willingness or unwillingness to go into this next season? By faith, they called Boaz the Kingsman Redeemer. And back in this day, if you study the actual culture, if somebody was widowed or lost their husband, you would find the most financially reputable person in your family line. And they were to marry so that they could at least be provided for. What ended up happening is Naomi was relatives of Boaz, but by Ruth following Naomi, they get in connection and he becomes their Kingsman Redeemer. What they couldn't provide for themselves, he provided. What they had made debt and they couldn't pay, he provided. This is a type and shadow of our Jesus, our Lord and our Savior, who then comes as a type of Boaz to say, what you can't provide for yourself, I'll provide for you. What sin made a debt and you could not pay, I'll pay for forward. And today you might be in this room and you're saying, I need a Kingsman Redeemer. That song, I believe my redeemer lives today. You need to experience the restorer and the redeemer. If that's you under the sound of my voice, I feel something very powerful happen. I'm gonna pray for two groups of people. I'm gonna pray for somebody, number one, that wants to receive Jesus, Jesus as your Redeemer. It's the greatest decision I've ever made. I don't care where you've been, how much money you've made, what you're planning on doing after this. The greatest decision you can make right now is to give your life to Jesus Christ. It took me from being a liar, a manipulator, addicted to pornography, somebody who was so dark in my heart. And it didn't make me perfect, but it made me progressing. And I'm on a path right now that I'll never get off of until I meet him in face to face. But I'm telling you, it has given me so much peace, understanding, revelation, and it's changed my family line because I surrendered to Jesus. Today you have an opportunity to be in right relationship in real Life. And I want to pray for you. If that's you, on the count of three in this room, watching online on the Pando app, wherever you're at right now, somebody sent you this. Today, I want you to give your life to Jesus. And I'm telling you, it's the greatest decision you'll ever make. 1. You're making the greatest decision of your life. Church. I need you to pray because somebody's eternity is in the balance right now. 2. Your name is going to be written in the Lamb's book of life for all eternity, and you're going to get to spend forever with Jesus. 3. If you want to make Jesus Christ your personal Lord and savior, why don't you lift your hand right now? I see you. I see. I see you. I see you, ma'. Am. I see you, brother. Come on. I see. And more than that, God sees you. Can we thank God if you're watching online? Come on, put it in the chat. Glory to God. You know why this is so important? Because the Bible says all of heaven rejoices over one person. 1. I saw several hands in here, and I know there's more online. For the benefit of those coming to Jesus today, because we're all a family. Nobody prays alone. Can we pray this prayer together? Say, God, thank you for sending Jesus as my redeemer today. I believe he lived, he died, and he rose again with all power just for me. Here's my life. Change me, renew me. Transform me. I'm yours. I repent from the old and I move forward into the new. I'm yours forever. In Jesus name, Amen. Can we celebrate all over transformation. Oh, y' all can do better that. Can we celebrate? Welcome to the family. If you just decided for Jesus, would you do me a favor, take out your phone real quick and text SAVE to 828282. We want to send you some resources and we want to help walk with you. There's another group of people in here whose hearts still look like what shattered on this ground. And I don't want you to leave here without prayer as the altar team comes. And I know some people have to leave, but there's some other people that need surgery today. And if you're online, I want you to receive this moment. The worship team is going to sing. People are going to exit if you need to get your kids. And then there's other others of us that gotta stay in this for a second because we don't want to repeat another week, another month, another year walking with this same level of brokenness. We want God to put us back together again. I hear that song that says Lord make me old, Lord make me old Lord make me. This can be your prayer. Say make me over again. He's putting the pieces back together. If you need prayer for broken pieces, just sing that and just come to the altar. Say Lord. Lord, thank you for joining us today. If you said that prayer and accepted Jesus into your heart heart, it's the best decision you could ever make. We want to celebrate with you and we have some tools to help you on your journey. Text saved to 828282 and to find out more about TC Text, connect to 828282. Be sure to subscribe and share this podcast with your friends. Thanks for listening. Now go out and live a transformed life.

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