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Esther Povitsky
I have to say, shower culture. Yeah, the shower etiquette, it's shocking. Do you clean between your toes when.
Sherry Cola
You'Re taking a bath? You really just don't have to do these kinds of things.
Esther Povitsky
Wait, hold on. So you're telling me bath is it, you don't do it? I thought bath was just for enjoyment. It's for the actual utility.
Sherry Cola
People have a hard time.
Esther Povitsky
I'm not judging, I'm simply curious.
Sherry Cola
I respect the judging. I don't.
Esther Povitsky
I'm listening and I'm understanding. Okay, so it's a dip, it's a.
Kalilah
Soak, it's a soap, it's a soak.
Esther Povitsky
So deep. So it's a marinade?
Sherry Cola
It is a marination, yes.
Esther Povitsky
Wow.
Sherry Cola
I think if you were running the numbers, I think that this, there's an argument to be made that this is a cleaner way.
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Sherry Cola
Oh, my God.
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Sherry Cola
You guys, you know her from Good Trouble, Joy Ride. Nobody wants this. She's hilarious. She's our dear, dear friend. Welcome, Sherry Cola.
Esther Povitsky
Dear friend. Okay, dear friend. This is a friend's giving and you've.
Kalilah
Always been my hair goals.
Esther Povitsky
Oh, thank you for selling, sending me things.
Kalilah
Oh, yeah, of course.
Esther Povitsky
You did send me things.
Kalilah
Yes. I want you Emotion Club. I. I really want you to take.
Esther Povitsky
I'm very proud of you.
Kalilah
Thank you, Sherry.
Esther Povitsky
Very, very proud of. Water has always scared me, so that's why I'm like, I. I'm living vicariously through.
Kalilah
Well, you guys can talk.
Sherry Cola
Can you swim? Because I can't swim.
Esther Povitsky
I can get from A to B. Do I have form?
Kalilah
Oh, wait, you don't need form to survive. You just need to float.
Esther Povitsky
That's deep, right? That was like fortune cookie.
Kalilah
I used to always say this when I was like deep into like my poetry and Esther hates this era of me.
Sherry Cola
It's really hard.
Esther Povitsky
Wait, you say, is this a past tense era or a present to bring it back, though?
Sherry Cola
And it's really scary.
Kalilah
There was a time where I literally thought I was going to be like roomy or something. Like, I thought that I was going to be a poet.
Esther Povitsky
Rupee.
Kalilah
Oh, rupee. No. Rumi is also an author, right?
Sherry Cola
Oh, who's the cow?
Kalilah
Rupee. I appear worldly Rupi is also a Instagram poet, right?
Esther Povitsky
No, she's also a book physical paper poet.
Kalilah
Okay. So there was an era that was quite embarrassing, and it was. I think it was from 15 to 23, where I literally believed, Sheri, that I was going to be a poet. And I remember, like, sharing this with Bobby later, and he was like, what is wrong with you? A poet? He's like, that's not possible. But anyways, I would. My. One of my favorite lines in one of my poems was, dead or alive, we float. And I know, Esther, that's not going to. It's a little too emo and it's making you more embarrassed to be my friend.
Sherry Cola
It's just so deep and it makes me uncomfortable.
Esther Povitsky
How about Dead or alive, we root beer float that.
Sherry Cola
I like merch. I've always thought a poet is just a comedian. That's even sadder than regular comedians because you're. You're one step away from a root beer float joke.
Kalilah
Do you think that being a comedian is.
Esther Povitsky
We're so close to a root beer all the time.
Sherry Cola
Yeah, you just needed.
Kalilah
Sherry, do you think that being a comedian is. Is sad?
Sherry Cola
Of course. Really? Are you telling more?
Esther Povitsky
Thousand percent.
Sherry Cola
Because it's so obvious from someone who didn't get, like, the right love, and especially now that I have a baby, I'm like, oh, my God, it's so obvious. Like, this is. It's. You're messed up if you're a comedian.
Esther Povitsky
So. So now that you're a mother.
Sherry Cola
Yes.
Esther Povitsky
What if your. Your baby wants to go into stand up comedy?
Sherry Cola
I haven't, like, crossed that bridge yet because she's only eight months.
Esther Povitsky
Listen, there's a gap in the market.
Sherry Cola
I feel that that won't happen, and if it does, I'll just have to look. I'm going to look up to her father for the answer because he was raised right and properly and he's healthy and doesn't need attention like I do. So. So whatever he says will go, like, I'm ready to be a Handmaid. Like, I will follow. I'm of David. I'll follow what he says. He will steer our family in the right direction.
Esther Povitsky
I respect that. First and foremost. I. Yeah, no, we're definitely sad. We're. I literally had. How many times did you cry this weekend?
Kalilah
Oh, my God. I'm not kidding.
Esther Povitsky
I was having an absolute breakdown consistently this weekend.
Kalilah
Oh, thank God.
Esther Povitsky
Oh, my God. So just everything is a tantrum. Everything is. You know what I mean? I have so much to say about the parade road blockage. You know what I mean? It really triggered me. I'm also going through nicotine withdrawals.
Kalilah
Oh, rough. How long?
Esther Povitsky
Anyone? Like two days. And I bummed off of my makeup artist this morning. I'm not well. I'm not well.
Kalilah
This somehow makes me feel so much better. Thank you for being a nice.
Esther Povitsky
No, no, no. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I wouldn't say it's a bad year. Just like daily, there are challenges, right?
Sherry Cola
Amen.
Esther Povitsky
Well, once again, this is church nicotine. No, I wanted you to sit in the silence, baby. I couldn't do it.
Kalilah
I can't be. I can't be paralyzed and silent. It's impossible. It's hard.
Sherry Cola
What is your nic.
Esther Povitsky
Someone will call the cops.
Sherry Cola
Is it like. Are you analog? Cigarettes?
Esther Povitsky
Cigarettes.
Sherry Cola
That's ky for.
Esther Povitsky
For years and years and years and years and years.
Kalilah
Never int.
Esther Povitsky
And. And then now. Now into the vape. But the vape is tough because it. It punctuates my every move. It is on the nightstand. It is. You know what I'm saying?
Sherry Cola
Oh, there's no.
Esther Povitsky
There's liberty to the vape. That is harmful because you can do it in. In an elevator. You know what I'm saying?
Sherry Cola
Totally. That's how I was when I was on the weed vape. It was like, oh, this is. And the possibility. Yeah.
Kalilah
Wait, I. I should get you a gift.
Esther Povitsky
No, no, no.
Kalilah
Have you heard of blip? It really, really works. So it's like an anti vaping thing.
Esther Povitsky
I don't. I like the. The smoke aspect. I'm not even a public smoker, but here I am off for like, you know, 36 hours and I can talk about it.
Sherry Cola
You have levity.
Esther Povitsky
Yeah, I have overcome. But no, no, my point is we're. We're unwell.
Kalilah
We're unwell. Great. Great news to me. Music to my ears.
Esther Povitsky
You are stunning.
Kalilah
Thank you.
Sherry Cola
So are you.
Esther Povitsky
Let's talk about that. Because, you know, we have. We have history of rubber chicken knock knock jokes, right? Like, since birth. When did you realize you were hot?
Sherry Cola
Like, literally, like a few weeks ago.
Esther Povitsky
No, it's when I DM'd you, right? You're hot.
Kalilah
Isn't she? She's like, identified as, like, this like, little ugly monster her whole life.
Esther Povitsky
We are beautiful.
Sherry Cola
It's not until I started to get older where I'm like, wait a second. I see what. What's going on? Like, I've been so insecure. Solo self esteem. Solo self worth, like all my 20s. But then you're like, wait, actually, the call Is coming from inside the house. Like, I've been pretty the whole time. It's weird.
Esther Povitsky
No, it's the Discovery Channel. But, you know, when I looked in.
Sherry Cola
The mirror, why it is. It's because I, like, I'm sure you as well. Like, when I grew up, Pam Anderson was the only woman who was pretty. Like, there was no. I didn't feel like I saw, like, a short, pale skin brunette. And I know for you guys, too, like, especially, like, other races. Like, that's how I just.
Esther Povitsky
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Sherry Cola
Like, especially being Jewish. It's like everyone says, like, oh, Jewish people are ugly. Like, that was a thing that was sure. Imprinted.
Esther Povitsky
Sure. So it's.
Sherry Cola
It makes sense why this is a late discovery for all of us. Except for you. No offense.
Esther Povitsky
Well, I mean, actually, yeah, we'll get to that.
Kalilah
Wait a second.
Sherry Cola
Wait a second.
Esther Povitsky
No, but truly, all of my friends were just dime pieces, like in high school, so I had to lean into the personality.
Kalilah
Wait, were you one of those that really like to surround yourself with only pretty people?
Esther Povitsky
No, it just means something happened.
Kalilah
Oh, wow.
Esther Povitsky
To my disadvantage, because then I wasn't the hottest one ever. So then I had to be the one who said the darndest things.
Sherry Cola
You know, ugly girls say the darndest thing, you know, a new show.
Esther Povitsky
What is that creature making sounds in the corner? Is that a Bob hit?
Kalilah
Wait a second. No, no, no, no, you guys.
Esther Povitsky
But now we know. No, now we know. You don't need to convince us in 2024. We know that.
Kalilah
But remember in high school, Sherry, they used to always, like, the boys would always use the word conceited.
Esther Povitsky
Oh, my God.
Kalilah
When a girl even felt herself a little bit when we were, like, when we were having a nice, like, hair day or felt pretty, they would always be like, she's so conceited.
Esther Povitsky
Wait, what is that Gen Z version of conceited? Because I can't believe I haven't heard that word in so long.
Sherry Cola
Wait, that is like, that was how they weaponized that against us.
Kalilah
Totally. And we weren't allowed to feel.
Sherry Cola
It was like, wait a second. Is she conceited?
Kalilah
You, like yourself, she's conceited.
Sherry Cola
Yeah. It was like, if you had it all going on, it's like calling you a witch. They would, like, catch you, like, oh, but she's conceited. So she's bad. That was so horrible.
Esther Povitsky
Yeah, the chat.
Sherry Cola
Yes.
Kalilah
There's a therapist I found on Tick Tock, and she's brilliant. I can't believe I just stumbled. I think her name is like Dr. Lee or something like that. She says the problem with, like, my ex, it's my ex.
Esther Povitsky
Bobby's a therapist.
Kalilah
Yeah, it's him. No, but she was basically breaking down the problem with, like, millennials and why our relationships tend to crumble like a couple years in. And it's because we grew up around this idea, especially for women, where women, it's like we were. We were told to not be too much and men were told to not, not be enough. So it's like fear of inadequacy for men and fear of being too much with women. And it's sort of like down the road that never works.
Esther Povitsky
Like, you gotta, you gotta meet in the middle.
Kalilah
Yeah, it's. She does. She's much more eloquent in the way she explains it, but I'm like, oh, my God. And it's the too much thing, the conceited thing. Like, we cannot. How dare we ever, like, take up space. Yeah.
Esther Povitsky
You know what I'm saying? I think we are learning now in this day and age to own it a little more, though. Do you agree? Especially with, like, Gen Z and Internet stuff. Like, I think it's about, you know, the brat of it all. Like, just the serving cunt of it all.
Kalilah
Yeah.
Esther Povitsky
I've been studying my flashcards.
Sherry Cola
I think you're right. But I do think for some of us, it is really hard to unlearn certain things. And also, is human nature just, like, always gonna repeat itself in some way and, like, there's actually no way to ever fix it? I don't know.
Kalilah
Is that I love little baby Esther. Nihilist.
Esther Povitsky
No, no, that's good too. That's good too. And now as a mother, like, I'm learning to have conversations with my own mother. That was weird. That was almost like an announcement that I'm a mother, but I'm not. When I am Esther's mother and you are my daughter.
Kalilah
On my honor. But, like, how did you grow up?
Esther Povitsky
No, no, but how did I grow up? Yeah, like, no, like, how. How did you get to this?
Kalilah
Esther's just like, I wasn't raised well when Dave was.
Sherry Cola
Yeah.
Kalilah
I was raised questionably as well.
Esther Povitsky
Same. Yeah, same, same, same. Parents not together. What I was saying, though, just. Just to close the loop on the, the original thought of, like, conversations that we didn't have with our parents. I think we are single handedly changing the narrative this generation. You know what I'm saying? Like, things. Don't you agree? Like things that you, you and your baby versus the like how we were with our parents, like, communication. No, the thing is. Eight month old.
Sherry Cola
Yeah. There's no way for me to know.
Esther Povitsky
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Sherry Cola
I think that, yes, you want to, like, break whatever generational trauma that you came from or that you had, but also, I also believe, like, whatever you do to fix what was, you know, what your situation was, like, something else will come from it. There's really no.
Kalilah
Are you.
Esther Povitsky
New traumas, new dramas?
Kalilah
Are you saying, like, we may not know what, like, new traumas were forming, like, you know.
Sherry Cola
Yeah, because it's like, look at. Okay, just. Just let's look at some facts, right? Like, in the 70s, they put asbestos in everything. And then the 90s are like, that's gonna kill you. And then now it's like. Then they're like, we'll replace it with plastic. And then, like, now that's killing you. Like, whatever you replace anything with, we just. No one knows.
Esther Povitsky
That's deep.
Sherry Cola
And everything is bad.
Esther Povitsky
It's trial and error.
Sherry Cola
Yeah.
Esther Povitsky
Forever.
Sherry Cola
Yeah. So there's really no foolproof solve. And I think, like, even just now, I mean, I don't know, there's a lot of people. I don't know. I'm getting a little confused myself. But I think that, yes, we're seeing online, like, a lot of the young women are, like, saying this and that, but I don't know what's. Where's the proof that everything's fixed?
Kalilah
Right.
Esther Povitsky
We're really breaking through. My birth father is behind this door.
Kalilah
Do you know? Your birth father?
Esther Povitsky
I do. You know, actually, no, no, my birth father. My. I have only one father.
Kalilah
Okay. I was like, sure, I didn' know.
Esther Povitsky
You were adopted, but I was, like, laughing at, like, what if I just started introducing my dad as, like, my birth father? Just the. Just a. You know, for. For press.
Kalilah
Yeah.
Esther Povitsky
No, no, no. I. I grew up. Yeah. It. It wasn't perfect, for sure. It definitely wasn't perfect, but for the most part, I don't know.
Kalilah
Are you able to talk to your parents about, like, things you feel like they got wrong?
Esther Povitsky
Sometimes it's in one ear, out the other. I am learning to be more empathetic of, like, their experience because, you know, even just, like, being queer, you know, that wasn't an overnight conversation with them either.
Kalilah
What was that conversation like?
Esther Povitsky
I mean, if we're really gonna fucking go for it. I was also not born here, so I'm also an immigrant. And, like, my parents being immigrants. My dad, though, like, from. From the jump, like, in 1994 when we landed on the flesh of San Gabriel Valley. He wanted to embrace America.
Kalilah
Right.
Esther Povitsky
Like, listening to pop culture, just really consuming all of it.
Kalilah
It's. That's pretty common, too, for, like, immigrants to kind of just like, throw away.
Esther Povitsky
Sure.
Kalilah
Like, you know, because they want to acclimate as fast as they can. Right.
Esther Povitsky
Totally. Like, learn the language, etc. My mom, on the other hand, very much the classic Asian immigrant mother. Let's just survive, put food on the table, yada, yada. So they're very different, but I definitely have pieces of. Of both of them. Like, I have that dreamer mentality, like my dad, but I also have, like, the. The work ethic mentality, like my mom and. And maybe the practicality, even. But my point is, like, I, like, sexuality was not like dating wasn't even talked about at the dining table, let alone sexuality, you know? So as I. I mean, there's so much to this. I'm trying to say the. You know, the. The super cutie, quickie, microwave version. Dumb. But when I. Okay, I. I discovered that I liked women when I was, like, 20. Like, for real, for real. Maybe not even 19. Like, for real, for real. But then looking back, I'm like, oh, yeah, those overnight slumber parties, for sure. Like, that was not just bestieism. That was like, you know, breastyism, if you will. If you will. And then merch.
Kalilah
There's an icon in that department that you said you made your first sex tape, but with a slumber party.
Sherry Cola
I had a baby. We have to stop bringing these things up. We have to get them lost and confused.
Esther Povitsky
Wait, with other women? Yeah, we'll be in touch for the sequel. Have we optioned the rights of the ip? Okay, but my point is, when I. When I really started embracing being queer and all that stuff, like, my friends knew I wasn't necessarily a public figure. It was just, like. It was what it was. And then I booked Good Trouble where I was playing a queer character, and that was when I was like, okay, let me tell my mom, you know what I'm saying? Like, that this is a part of my identity to kind of spread my wings in real life. And, I mean, of course, she was just, like, shocked, which was also shocking. But clearly she wasn't growing up watching the L word. You know what I mean? Like, Jenny Schecter.
Kalilah
You know, Is Jenny your girl?
Sherry Cola
Yeah.
Kalilah
Oh, my God.
Sherry Cola
I know. Everyone's ashamed.
Kalilah
Yeah, I was.
Esther Povitsky
Wait, wait, Jennifer Beals?
Sherry Cola
No, she was like the. The, like, girly, feminine brunette. Like, who.
Kalilah
Who did she date?
Sherry Cola
I can't remember, we are only defined.
Esther Povitsky
By who we dated.
Kalilah
The other one was. Was Shane's girlfriend, who played by Sarah Shahi. Oh, she was really beautiful. That's.
Sherry Cola
Yeah, she's.
Esther Povitsky
I was. I was a Jennifer Beale girly.
Kalilah
Oh, she's hot too. That's Beth, right?
Esther Povitsky
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. That.
Kalilah
No, Beth was a blonde.
Esther Povitsky
No.
Kalilah
We're confused.
Esther Povitsky
Oh, my God. Am I straight?
Sherry Cola
Breaking news.
Esther Povitsky
None of this trivia was successful. So I told my mom, and she was like, of course she was disappointed, you know, and surprised and didn't really know how to navigate it. And then I wasn't in a relationship enough where it was like, okay, what's the next step? You know, it was kind of like just this floaty thing. But I think even through the years, she realized that queerness was a superpower because, you know, through the craft, like, it's clear that this is who I am. I identify as bisexual. For the record. For the record. Okay.
Kalilah
Lots of bi erasure.
Esther Povitsky
Anyway. Yeah. So then now I have a girlfriend, a serious girlfriend now. It's been like two and two years and eight months, two days. Who's counting? And that was like, such a mountain to climb for my mom because it was like a real thing. You know what I mean? Like, so for years, basically, I'm saying from. From 2018, the good trouble of it all, the coming out and having a conversation, up until 2022, it was just kind of all right. I'm. I'm doing glad panels, I'm doing, you know, saying. But, like, nothing was really as solidified as when I told my mom, like, this is my girlfriend. You know, like, this could potentially be my wife. You know what I'm saying? And it took her a second to process it. And for me, I'm kind of tough sometimes. I'm like, the plane is taking off. Are you boarding? Essentially. And then there were moments of that, but there were also moments of like, okay, let me be not a. And. And realize that my mom has a different experience. And this is like. It's like, you know, before people started driving Teslas or charging cars, like, what? You know what I'm saying? Like, it's something people needed to get used to. Let me just be a little more patient. And sure enough, it. Now it's two years and eight months, and my girlfriend is just like a ray of goddamn light. And just the gentle, most nurturing, pure soul. So it's clear that mom was gonna get on board. You know, my mom just gave her a purse on Wednesday. You know what I'm saying, so, like, the progress my mom has made, but also hand in hand with the fact that she sees that clearly I feel liberated in. In some sort of way where success almost comes with that, you know, like, for example, like in Nobody Wants this, my character is queer. You know, in. In the movie I did shortcomings. My character's queer. Like, these are things that have actually helped me, you know, and it is authent. So I think my mom sees that it's not hindrance, you know what I'm saying? It really is just me. And I haven't changed either, you know.
Kalilah
But I think that's really what. Where parents come from, the root of it all is that they're afraid for you.
Esther Povitsky
Yeah, yeah.
Kalilah
It's not even their own ideas about sexuality that gets in the way of their acceptance of you. They're literally, most of the time. Unless they're bigots. Right. Because that exists too. And those people are monsters who don't accept their children. But for the most part, like, even with. With my own mom, anything that she's ever, like, resisted has always been out of fear for me. She's just literally. And. And then you get it, like, you're a new mother where it's like you. You have a baby and you have this, like, overwhelming feeling of, oh, like, I need to protect this child no matter what age. But when they're born all the way. And I really see that now with my own mom, and I don't know if that sort of, like, reach, you know, rings true for you as well.
Esther Povitsky
Yeah, yeah, no, definitely. That's.
Kalilah
But it's good for her to see that it's really helped you out or just something. Yeah.
Esther Povitsky
I'm saying, like, it's not a crime, you know?
Kalilah
Yeah.
Esther Povitsky
You know what I'm saying? Like, so. Yeah, I mean, I don't even know how we got here, but. But definitely just our upbringings have been so layered, you know, and also divorced parents, which was so interesting because my dad and I, we definitely had, like, what I consider an emotional hiatus, like after he moved out, you know, when I was 14. And my parents. Yeah. Around, like, it was like, freshman year of high school. Ish is what my memory tells me. And, you know, he. He remarried, he had two other daughters, you know, who I adore, you know, big age gap. They are 16 and 20. 17. 20. One of those. One of those. Like, they're teenagers. They're younger than me.
Kalilah
They're Gen Z.
Esther Povitsky
Yes, yes. Y. But my point is, like, me having that emotional Hiatus with my dad and then rebuilding that relationship as I get older, realizing boundaries as well, you know, and the resentment that I had and still kind of like managing that, you know, and just giving him my time, giving him the efforts. But my point was to say that when I came out to him, he was on board immediately, really like my dad. I mean, once you meet the guy, he was like, obsessed with Ricky Martin. We don't need to get into the Kinsey scale right now. Like, my dad was like, just. He was even saying, like, lady Gaga likes lgbt. I like lgbt. Like, he was just like. So that was so interesting because someone who, in theory I didn't feel supported by my whole life, suddenly was, like, immediately supportive about this. Whereas my mom, who's my rock, my everything was. It took a second for her to get on board with the queerness, you know, so that was. It was just very interesting for me. But, yeah, my dad, yeah, he literally goes to Lady Gaga concerts for sport.
Kalilah
That's so sweet.
Sherry Cola
I just found my. I found a. I've been wearing this, like, Wicked zip up hoodie from, like, the musical, and I'm like, the. Where I found. That was my dad's closet.
Esther Povitsky
Oh, my God, stop. Not the closet of all things. Wicked is a universal love language, though.
Sherry Cola
It is.
Esther Povitsky
I mean, have you. Yes, we've seen it.
Kalilah
No, her.
Sherry Cola
Not yet.
Kalilah
I know she's. She's really ashamed of me, but I'm seeing it this week.
Esther Povitsky
What a spectacle. What a. Just a magical thing. I mean, I can actually. Wicked is very fresh in my mind because this morning I was at the. A hotel in Beverly Hills for a meeting and I was early. And last night at my friend's birthday party, I had in and out and. And McDonald's chicken nuggets with caviar. That was her wish that we just went in on this, like, versatile experience.
Sherry Cola
High, low.
Kalilah
It is very high. The.
Esther Povitsky
The. The yellow chopped chilies. Okay, got me good. Because I arrived at this hotel and I needed to absolutely go. So this is a very, like, you know, fancy place. I go into the hotel lobby bathroom and, like, I'm not well, like, I go straight into the big stall and I'm doing my thing and I'm playing the Wicked soundtrack because I need something to drown out the sound. So, like, you're playing it loud.
Sherry Cola
Out loud.
Esther Povitsky
I'm playing it out loud.
Kalilah
You still do that?
Sherry Cola
Oh, my God.
Esther Povitsky
I have not done that because so long. It was. It was not good what was happening to me. So there's a knock.
Sherry Cola
No one Thought it was good.
Esther Povitsky
There's a knock and there's a mom waiting for the big stall because she has a stroller. And I'm like, fudge. This is the worst nightmare right as I'm still playing the Wicked soundtrack because it was just the last thing on my Spotify. So I just played it and so I should have said, I'm sorry. I was like, oh, my God, I'm so sorry, but I'm not doing so hot. I'm not doing so hot. I was like, are you waiting for this one? She's like, yeah, I have a stroller. I was like, oh, my God, I just got it. I'm not doing so hot. That's what I kept saying, to say the least. And I keep playing the fucking soundtrack because it's so good. And, you know, it is the comm app. And then I was just, like, panicking because I'm like, I gotta freaking finish pooping. And then I finished, but then she wasn't there anymore, so everything was good. But it was like this, like, really interesting situation I was in that's really stressful with the wiki soundtrack.
Sherry Cola
And it's already really hard. It's really hard.
Esther Povitsky
I actually typically have no problem. But I was just literally, like, everything I ate last night was just bad. Like, it was bad times. It wasn't coming easy. My legs were trembling.
Kalilah
Oh, yeah.
Esther Povitsky
I'm wearing this jumpsuit. The sleeves are touching the floor. Like, it's bad.
Sherry Cola
Oh, See, I feel like if you're. When it's a single stall, you know, it's not like a full bathroom and you are doing your thing and then you just feel someone, like, trying to get in. That, to me, is enough to, like, just ruin the whole.
Kalilah
Anything that forces me to cut.
Esther Povitsky
Oh, the cut. Like homemade pasta, bro.
Kalilah
That hurts me. It was almost going to come out in one fell swoop. And now you're making. You jolted me into cutting.
Esther Povitsky
It's giving. Part one, part two. Wicked.
Kalilah
I hate part one, part two. It's like, it's either part one and part one only, or you've ruined my day. You've ruined my day. Now my asshole is like a flame. It hurts.
Esther Povitsky
The cutting off. First of all, the power that we have between our legs.
Kalilah
The slice.
Esther Povitsky
Oh, my God. The steak julienne of it all.
Sherry Cola
Oh, my God, you guys.
Esther Povitsky
I don't. I didn't even plan on going here, but no, Wicked is fantastic. That was. That was my point. But. But no, yeah, I. I typically don't have a problem going publicly, going public I'm not opposed, but this is how, you know, I. I do this on my Patreon, Okay?
Sherry Cola
You eat bananas.
Esther Povitsky
Phallic consumption. A yellow phallic consumption.
Kalilah
Oh, remember when they used to call, like, Asians who.
Esther Povitsky
Yeah.
Kalilah
Were white bananas.
Sherry Cola
What?
Esther Povitsky
Basically, I hated that term.
Kalilah
Right?
Esther Povitsky
Not good.
Kalilah
Asians who, like, we were like, oh, she's like a white girl inside. But there were also. Dude, I know a couple of girls who were like, I'm a coconut. And say that really proudly when they're brown and they like. It's just like, why? Why? Why are we doing this?
Esther Povitsky
Guys, it's. It's 2024.
Kalilah
I don't like the way you did your banana.
Sherry Cola
Yeah, that. There's something.
Esther Povitsky
No, something weird happened. I'm not kidding. Don't judge me, but remember me judging so far. It happened so fast. First of all, I came in here, just the whole thing with the. I. I was texting Stella like. Like. Like an emergency hotline last night, because I was like, wait, this wasn't in my calendar. Because we obviously talked in the DMs, but I blacked out, clearly, because it simply wasn't in my calendar. So I got this email last night, and I'm like, wait, that's tomorrow. So I was like, oh, my God. So I was, like, trying to move things around, ended up showing up at the time. That was original. And then, so I was literally texting Stella. I was like, stella thinks I'm. Well, I mean, Sherry.
Kalilah
That doesn't excuse your banana.
Esther Povitsky
Yeah. How is that?
Sherry Cola
Wait a.
Esther Povitsky
Like, remember me differently all around. Okay, you smushed the top of it. No, no, no. That was an accident.
Kalilah
It's sacrilegious.
Esther Povitsky
No, no, no, no. Okay, let me. Let me. Let me retrace my steps.
Sherry Cola
Oh, no, don't. Let me.
Kalilah
Oh, you were trying to do it the correct way.
Esther Povitsky
Wait, what did you do? What did you do?
Sherry Cola
Oh, she's doing it. The toxic. Bro, you are queer.
Esther Povitsky
No, I didn't. I did. You mean I'm straight. No, no. Is this the correct way or what?
Kalilah
This is like the. The gym bro way, the way you did it. Oh, that's a Moshe Casher way, I think.
Esther Povitsky
Okay. Wow, that's really.
Kalilah
Yeah. I don't know. You might if you think you had hot shits earlier.
Esther Povitsky
Do we want to go viral or not?
Sherry Cola
Yeah. Can you eat that? This.
Esther Povitsky
Wait, I'll be honest. That wasn't a pleasant experience. Try it.
Kalilah
Well, I do use banana peels in a tea.
Esther Povitsky
You'll regret everything. Try it.
Sherry Cola
I Can't. I'm not gonna do it. Wait, how? What?
Kalilah
Banana peels?
Esther Povitsky
Fiber.
Kalilah
Yeah, it's. Yeah.
Esther Povitsky
Too soon.
Kalilah
Yes, yes, yes. So it actually is pretty good for you. If you boil banana peels and you just, like, drink it like a tea.
Sherry Cola
What does that do for you?
Kalilah
I don't know, but my boyfriend has been doing this for me every night, and I don't know if it's making me feel better or killing me or if it's what caused the facial.
Sherry Cola
Wait, wait.
Esther Povitsky
Okay. Yeah, let's go back to that. I feel like I really skipped over, but you probably talked about.
Kalilah
Oh, yeah, yeah.
Esther Povitsky
On this podcast. I don't want to repeat topics.
Sherry Cola
Is your. No, that's fine. Is your boyfriend your herbalist? Because I do that for Dave, too. Like, I'll make him little tinctures and little supplement combos, and sometimes he's like, you could be poisoning me so easily.
Kalilah
Yeah.
Esther Povitsky
So cute.
Kalilah
He really is my herbalist. Like, he makes me, like, pandan. Pandan tea.
Esther Povitsky
Oh, my God.
Sherry Cola
Wait, what is that?
Esther Povitsky
It's Southeast Asian, because that's.
Kalilah
He's Hawaiian, I bet.
Esther Povitsky
Yeah. Okay.
Kalilah
Yeah.
Sherry Cola
Tropical man, tell the white woman what's pandan.
Esther Povitsky
Oh, my God. Pandan will change your life.
Kalilah
Pandan is literally the future, and I feel like it's a leaf. Yeah, it's a leaf. It's a long leaf, but they very aromatic.
Esther Povitsky
You saw. I mean, so good. Pair with coconut very often.
Kalilah
Yes. You can either use it as, like, a flavor for cakes and. Or desserts, or you can just have it as a tea. And it is delicious.
Esther Povitsky
It's so good, and it's so warm.
Kalilah
Yeah. Very good for you.
Sherry Cola
Do you guys think that teas, like, actually move the needle?
Kalilah
I do.
Sherry Cola
You do?
Kalilah
I do.
Sherry Cola
Really?
Kalilah
Yeah, I do. I feel that way with chamomile. I feel that way with peppermint when my stomach's upset. I know you're going through a T journey.
Sherry Cola
Yeah. And I'm. I'm just.
Kalilah
I love your journeys.
Sherry Cola
Yeah.
Kalilah
It was like liver.
Esther Povitsky
Oh, I'm a throat coat girly all day. I like throat coat ginseng and, like, herb thing that my mom gave me. It kind of looks like a black olive, but dry. And then when you put the warm water, it turns into this little. It's giving Pokemon. Really? I. I don't question it. It evolves. I'm not kidding. I don't question it.
Sherry Cola
Pokemon bath toy.
Esther Povitsky
Oh.
Sherry Cola
Did you guys ever get those little washcloths where they were squares, and then you put it in water and it would become a washcloth.
Kalilah
No.
Esther Povitsky
Okay. Can I say I never did anything like that. Like, I didn't have anything of that.
Sherry Cola
You didn't have, like, trinkets?
Esther Povitsky
I don't think so.
Sherry Cola
That was like my whole childhood is like little trinkets to shut me up.
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Kalilah
I had Barbie and she was the, I think the ultimate, ultimate hair Barbie. She had the hair all the way down to her. She was a baker and then I cut her hair. I think her name was like Anastasia or something like that. I cut her hair and I renamed her Lisa. And I gave her her period. So I got like a red Sharpie and I gave her her period and she would. And I never put clothes on Lisa. She would be in the backyard. Backyard just like, you know, I know I had.
Sherry Cola
For you, I'm the opposite. I had McDonald's Barbie. So she would like serve me McDonald's.
Esther Povitsky
Oh my God.
Sherry Cola
I had like trad wife Barbie back in the day.
Esther Povitsky
You made her call you your highness. I. I had a Barbie. I remember I also had a Game Boy, but I didn't. I don't remember bathing at all, actually, now that I think about it, because sometimes I'll. I'll be in the bath. Shower mostly. I don't take baths often. Are we baby? I do. I'm a shower girl in the tub. You water in the tub, girly?
Sherry Cola
Yeah.
Esther Povitsky
What do you clean it Every time. Because that's my whole thing.
Kalilah
I'm same.
Esther Povitsky
I'm a fucking. Like. You would never guess it, but I'm like you, my friends can't even eat chips on my couch. I'm like, really? Like in terms of cleanliness, I respect that. So a bath is like a commit. You have to, you know, make sure it's all the way clean. No.
Sherry Cola
Do you really feel like you're getting in the tub covered in dirt? Look at you. You're barely. I bet you shower. You don't. We're all showering mindlessly. We don't need these constant. There's not grime on you.
Kalilah
There is, though.
Sherry Cola
No.
Kalilah
Yes, my neck rolls. And right here in between. You don't scrub this out.
Esther Povitsky
Yeah, let's talk about your neck rolls, by the way. We've been wanting to talk to you about that. Wait, thank God you brought it up.
Sherry Cola
You have smegma here.
Kalilah
Not smegma, because I'm not a penis.
Esther Povitsky
Good, Good point though. Okay. Get the folds. That's my rule. Get the folds.
Kalilah
Like. Y mean the day is is on you.
Esther Povitsky
No, it's on the tub. It's not about me. It's about the tub. The tub is not clean right now. You know what I'm saying? So how can two dirties make it clean?
Kalilah
I'm on your side all the way, Sher. Cuz I love to attack Esther about.
Sherry Cola
First of all, first of all, any bath situation, you need a handheld so that you can rinse the bath. If you know, for example, when I shave my legs, the tub is covered. It looks like a bear. Was.
Esther Povitsky
We need photos. Yeah, it's Adrian.
Kalilah
So do you shave your legs just on a tub like this? That is nice to think about.
Sherry Cola
How do you. How what else?
Kalilah
Bent over, like.
Esther Povitsky
Wait, wait. What's your setup?
Sherry Cola
I would drown.
Esther Povitsky
My shower is in a tub, okay? So let's get that fucking clear.
Kalilah
Wait, how do you shave your legs? I just like Captain Morgan onto a wall.
Esther Povitsky
Like. Oh.
Kalilah
And then just. I don't bend over all the way. I'm very limber.
Esther Povitsky
No, no, no, no, I believe it. I believe it. Same. Honestly, like, you would never expect me to be so flexi.
Sherry Cola
Is that just because you're queer?
Esther Povitsky
I guess. I guess you got to get creative. You know, we're doing all the numbers outside of 69. You know what I'm saying? You ever do the 82?
Kalilah
What's the 82?
Esther Povitsky
82 is when you're. You're just on the 101 freeway in separate Cars, you know, and then one's doing donuts and the other one is doing this. You know what I mean? But showering, I do lift the leg onto the edge of the tub as well. Oh, my God. I fucking. I face planted so hard in the shower. I'm lucky I have my teeth.
Sherry Cola
The shower is dangerous.
Kalilah
It is dangerous.
Esther Povitsky
It is an escape room.
Sherry Cola
It's slippery, it's. It's dark.
Esther Povitsky
At times it is the most vulnerable. Like falling in the shower. Like, can you imagine being found?
Kalilah
No, but this is a real thing. And I think that this is actually like a hazard, Esther, for, like, pregnant women. They say. Yeah, they say, like, you have to.
Esther Povitsky
Be very gas for no reason.
Kalilah
I think I know at least like two stories. Not a personal friends, but friends of friends who have died slipping in a shower.
Sherry Cola
The shower is so dangerous. This is why I take bats. To protect myself and to add.
Esther Povitsky
Honestly, no, I'm leaning this way now.
Kalilah
That is true.
Esther Povitsky
That is true.
Sherry Cola
Like, and you are a sitting target. Like, we've all seen psycho shower scene. Like, I don't know how anyone can experience that movie. And then, like, say, feel safe. Yeah. I never showered a day after that.
Kalilah
If an intruder comes and you're taking a bath, how are you protected?
Sherry Cola
I can shoot up.
Esther Povitsky
You could also drown the intruder.
Sherry Cola
Yeah, I could be like, come here, sir.
Esther Povitsky
Yeah, yeah, yeah. Seduce and then drown. Okay, that's interesting.
Kalilah
Yeah.
Esther Povitsky
If I were to be. I would probably grab. Oh, I have. I have a scrubby sheet. It's like a loofah. But yeah, of course, crepe.
Sherry Cola
I heard that. But I've never had been brave enough to use it.
Esther Povitsky
Oh, my God. I use it because once again, behind the ears, you know, like in. I'm. Get the folds. Okay. You guys are psa. Get the fold.
Sherry Cola
You guys are over cleaning.
Esther Povitsky
Gotta get.
Kalilah
Yeah.
Esther Povitsky
How many you got?
Kalilah
I got a lot. I have Kimora Lee necklines.
Esther Povitsky
Okay.
Kalilah
You don't.
Esther Povitsky
Yeah, yeah, yeah. The K, L, N, L. Yeah, yeah, yeah, The.
Kalilah
The, you know, very visible neckline.
Esther Povitsky
Oh, interesting.
Kalilah
Yeah, some people, it's. It's genetic. You either have them or you don't.
Esther Povitsky
Yeah, you can count the. Count the rings.
Kalilah
You count the neck.
Esther Povitsky
Yeah, I. So I would probably go. Go loofah sheet and strangle my intruder.
Kalilah
Sheet is long enough that you can almost like.
Esther Povitsky
Yeah, yeah, yeah, do that.
Sherry Cola
That's smart. Or like squirt something.
Esther Povitsky
Oh, squirt is nice.
Kalilah
I guess there are some people who don't use anything to scrub. No loofahs, no sheets, shower Culture. Yeah.
Esther Povitsky
The. The shower etiquette is. It's. It's shocking. Do you clean between your toes?
Kalilah
Yeah.
Sherry Cola
Well, when you're taking a bath, you really just don't have to do these kinds of things.
Esther Povitsky
Wait, hold on. So you're telling me bath is it. You don't do a. I thought bath was just for enjoyment. It's for the actual utility.
Kalilah
Yeah, but I do.
Esther Povitsky
Wait, have we talked about this?
Sherry Cola
I get this a lot. I get this a lot.
Esther Povitsky
On podcast.
Sherry Cola
Just in life. No, pre podcast. Since I was little, I. I've. People have a hard time. I. And I. I'm not.
Esther Povitsky
I'm not judging. I'm simply curious.
Sherry Cola
I respect the judging. I don't.
Esther Povitsky
I'm listening and I'm understanding. Okay, so it's a dip, it's a soak.
Kalilah
It's a soap, it's a soak.
Sherry Cola
It's a deep soak.
Esther Povitsky
It's a marinade.
Sherry Cola
It is a marination, even. Yes.
Esther Povitsky
Wow.
Sherry Cola
I find. I. I think if you were running the numbers, I think that this. There's an argument to be made that this is a cleaner way.
Kalilah
I mean, there. I mean, the. The argument has. Not. The argument. The revelation of people not washing their legs in the shower. You wouldn't know about this, but there are actually people who just like, let the shower community here run through and don't soak their legs. Don't. Don't do anything with their legs. They just kind of. And my stepdad is one of these people, and my mom yells at him every day like, you dirty and. But she's still with him for 22 years.
Esther Povitsky
Okay. What I will say in your defense is that once you've been doing the same thing for a while, like, that is the system that your body is used to as well. You know what I'm saying? Like, that's just what your body does. So it's. There's no right or wrong. That's just what is right. So. So I. I respect you, to be honest with you, because for me, I'm like. I'm so. It's almost like over obsessive. Like, I have my spots. I got to hit, you know?
Kalilah
Yeah. And I will say I realize now that I'm not a perfect shower myself, because I think that I.
Esther Povitsky
Breaking through today, honestly, I thought that.
Kalilah
I was like, getting all, like the. The nooks, and. And then I shower with my boyfriend, and he's just like, why aren't you scrubbing between your toes? I always just did the foot wash, and he really Gets in there, and he was just like, you're not. You're not.
Esther Povitsky
I'm getting in between the toes.
Kalilah
You are? Yeah. And he's that type, and I'm not because I'm. I definitely wash my legs and my feet, but it's more like a quick, like, scrub. And that's it. You're really.
Esther Povitsky
I'm doing the thing. Yeah.
Sherry Cola
I think that men need to do a better job, though, than women in general in the shower.
Esther Povitsky
Yeah. Your boyfriend's probably like a small percentage of. Of of dudes who wash between the toes.
Kalilah
Yeah, he's really clean.
Esther Povitsky
Good for him. No, but I respect the bath. I always. I manifest being a bath person. I just. I can't be bothered with admin work. You know what I'm saying?
Sherry Cola
There really doesn't need to be admin work.
Kalilah
Esther. I'm really surprised because when I take baths, like, I get lightheaded.
Esther Povitsky
I need a second chance because this is unacceptable. I don't know what happened. I have to say now that I have a second chance just so I can walk everyone through it. The instinct was to do this, to pinch it out like a. Like one of those things from. From. Wait, that's seventh grade.
Kalilah
We're telling you that that's the correct way. That is technically.
Sherry Cola
No. Apes open it.
Kalilah
Apes open it that way.
Sherry Cola
I.
Kalilah
Because.
Esther Povitsky
But then there's. My problem with. With this method is that there's a dangly thing in the way, you know, saying this feels like a handle.
Kalilah
That's what the apes say.
Sherry Cola
The apes say that.
Kalilah
Apes.
Esther Povitsky
They won't stop saying. I mean, honestly. Okay, so now that I have a second guess. We do this every podcast. The banana.
Kalilah
Yeah. Banana break. Yeah.
Esther Povitsky
Okay. I should have really done my research. No, but shower. Let me remember. Shower, Etiquette. Bath. Intruder. Where were we going with it? I'm still opening it this way. Wow.
Kalilah
Yeah. So your. Your instincts are your instincts.
Esther Povitsky
Oh, my God. The pinching, the nipple of it all.
Kalilah
You still smushed it.
Esther Povitsky
I can't believe I'm wasting bananas. I have to eat all of it.
Kalilah
I'll take them home.
Esther Povitsky
Okay, true or false? Bananas smell like nail polish.
Sherry Cola
False.
Esther Povitsky
Are you serious? I think this is one of those cilantro tastes like soap situations. No one's with me.
Kalilah
Can I smell?
Esther Povitsky
Or more. So nail polish smells like bananas.
Kalilah
Do you think your dog's feet smell like Fritos?
Sherry Cola
Yes.
Esther Povitsky
Yes.
Kalilah
Okay.
Esther Povitsky
Yes, I do have that.
Sherry Cola
Why is that?
Esther Povitsky
Their smell smells.
Kalilah
So another smell. Okay, it's Fritos, but it also smells like the inside of the vacuum cleaner.
Esther Povitsky
Oh, I.
Sherry Cola
Sort of.
Kalilah
Or the air that comes out when you vacuum.
Sherry Cola
You're not wrong.
Esther Povitsky
Hold on. Common denominator. The floor.
Sherry Cola
No.
Esther Povitsky
So I think it might. I don't know. I think I'm onto something here. Things that touch the floor perhaps create this corn chip stench.
Kalilah
Wait, were you at the Maggie Rogers concert? I was at the Hollywood Bull.
Sherry Cola
How did you know?
Kalilah
Because I was there. But you know what's so funny, Sheri, is that, like, we know each other.
Esther Povitsky
I'm the random bitch who's everywhere for no reason. You.
Kalilah
I. I don't know how to say hi to people in public.
Esther Povitsky
Oh, my God.
Kalilah
But you also look like you were having a blast. And, like, I felt so small at small that I was just like, I can't say hi to sharks.
Esther Povitsky
What's the Hollywood Bowl?
Kalilah
It was Hollywood Bowl.
Esther Povitsky
This was August of last year. I remember. Exactly. Yeah. My girlfriend loves Maggie Rogers. I do my thing, and I know some songs. One of them is, like, really being overused in every movie.
Kalilah
Which one?
Esther Povitsky
Light on Light in every movie.
Kalilah
It is. It's a great song.
Esther Povitsky
Go upstairs. Royalties.
Kalilah
I know, but what is it about me seeing someone I know and not being able to say hi that is so relatable?
Esther Povitsky
Okay.
Sherry Cola
Really? Yes.
Esther Povitsky
Let's. Let's break this down like, red string style. Because my whole thing, it's not that I. I'm like, something stopping me sometimes. I don't want to. Oh, what's your. No, not. Not in terms of you, but in general. Sometimes I'm like, it. It'll be such a thing.
Sherry Cola
It's too, like, out of context. It's like, I'm like, what's the point?
Esther Povitsky
Or am I a scrooge?
Sherry Cola
Like, this is happening recently. I can't even remember who it was, but it's like, if you are out doing your thing, you're on your walk, you're at the grocery store, you're like, in your own movie, Right. You have your soundtrack on. And then it's like you're feeling your main character energy, but then you see someone from, like, your life. It can really throw you off.
Esther Povitsky
B plot. C plot.
Sherry Cola
Yeah. And it's like, it just. It could be very disruptive, I think. But that's not always the case. I'm trying to lean away from that because I want to feel more community. And I think a accidental run in is good for, like, the brain.
Kalilah
Yeah.
Esther Povitsky
But it is far in distance. So how far were you?
Kalilah
Not that far. Like, I could have been like, Sherry, you would have been like, what's up?
Esther Povitsky
You should have.
Kalilah
I think the mistake that I'm drawing this from, like one negative experience at Trader Joe's. And I. When I saw Andy Dick and he had already. I know, I know. But then I had done. He had already done. Tiger Belly had met several times. I had met his daughter, and I was like, oh, hey. Like, anyway, like, I was right behind him in like, the checkout line. And he was basically like, who are you? So I'll never do it again. And I was like, so embarrassed. I was like, oh, my God.
Sherry Cola
That is such a specific example.
Kalilah
He was nice. He was like, oh, he pretended, but I know, like, he didn't know who I was. Imagine if I was like, Sherry. And you were like, you know, I.
Esther Povitsky
100% know who you are. Let's just put that out. The way I bit off more than I could chew over here.
Kalilah
Take your time.
Esther Povitsky
It also with the Andy the Thick, I have a list rebranding as a person with the list. What do you think it'll work.
Sherry Cola
Yeah, I'm in.
Esther Povitsky
I think it's also the. The place. Sometimes people like, like, they're like, wait, the place throws them off because he knows you in. In the setting of Tiger Belly, right?
Sherry Cola
Yes.
Esther Povitsky
So he definitely knows you are. He probably was like, walking away 45 minutes later, like, oh, shit.
Kalilah
Yeah.
Esther Povitsky
You know what I'm saying? But I do understand.
Sherry Cola
I also think with Andy Dick, though, he's the kind of person where it's like, he could run into, like, his son and he'd be like, wait, where do I know you?
Kalilah
But I had to go down my list of credits. It was really embarrassing. I was like, Bobby Lee's girlfriend.
Esther Povitsky
Oh, my God.
Kalilah
And he was like, oh, I love Bobby. And I was like, okay, bye.
Esther Povitsky
Okay, the. The spin offs of this, like, what's your experience in terms of when people recognize you but they don't know from what? And then you're standing there.
Sherry Cola
It's so degrading.
Esther Povitsky
Going down your IMDb.
Sherry Cola
No, it's. So when that is it. That rarely happens. I almost feel like people that happens and they don't say anything. But when it's like, do I know? Like, that's horrid.
Kalilah
It's.
Esther Povitsky
You don't know what the right answer is because it's like, I'm gonna. Someone's gonna walk away feeling bad.
Kalilah
Yeah. I think that the one time we were at. In Yucca Valley with Bobby and we were at like a Stater Brothers or something like that. I think that's their number one grocer there.
Esther Povitsky
And someone thought he was me? Yes.
Kalilah
But the person was like, oh, wait. Oh, my God, dude, you're famous. I love you. And he was like. And the guy remembered who he thought Bobby was, and he said a name, and Bobby was like, no, like, that's not me.
Sherry Cola
Oh, no. Bobby gets so triggered at that.
Kalilah
Yeah.
Esther Povitsky
Well, also because he. He, like, came up in an era where, like, it was. I mean, it's. I'm. It is very triggering all around.
Kalilah
He had to Google himself and then show it to the cashier.
Sherry Cola
Yeah, I once did that to try to get a discounted Gap. I forgot what it was, but I didn't have my ID on me. I was. No, I was trying to return something at Gap, and I was like, no, this is me. And then I showed my Wikipedia. Dave was, like, ready to dump my ass right then, and there was. He was so he.
Kalilah
And what did the person say?
Sherry Cola
All I remember is it didn't work. You know, the rest is black.
Kalilah
That's very Reese Witherspoon of you, though. Remember when she got a dui and she's like, do you know who I am?
Esther Povitsky
Oh, my God, what year was this?
Kalilah
I think she was this buried. But obviously, like, I've said something we. Crazier shit. I've said that. Not famous and drunk. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, I've said that. Do you know who I am?
Esther Povitsky
When I'm like, no, honestly, do you know who I am? Because I do not know who I am.
Sherry Cola
And I need you to drive me home.
Esther Povitsky
Yes, yes, yes. What is my address? I've done the. This has happened a couple times where someone comes up to me, wants to take a selfie, and as they're pulling up their phone, they're on safari. And they had just Googled, like, just to make sure. So it's like Sherry Cola via the. The. The search engine, or they're like, Asian comedian. Yeah, yeah, yeah, just Bobby Lee. Yeah, yeah. Smoker voice, you know?
Kalilah
Yeah, Just pictures of Bobby Lee.
Esther Povitsky
No, honestly, it's. It's such an interesting. Yeah. And sometimes, like, it'll get to my head, you know, because, like, when people, like, come up to you and you're like, oh, hey, yeah, here we go with the.
Kalilah
Yeah.
Esther Povitsky
And then they're like, no, hey, could you take a picture of us?
Sherry Cola
Like, whatever.
Esther Povitsky
I remember once I. I had, like, some sort of recognition at this point in whatever years ago, and my mom and I were at the mall, and I was like, yeah, mom, you know, Some people are recognizing me. And she's like, really? Really? And these two teenagers come up, and I'm going, yeah, yeah, it's about to happen. And they're like, hey, could you. Could you take a picture of us? And I was like, oh, my God, Humbling. But that's also. Oh, my God. Another time, my friend Kara Wang and I, also my co star on Good Trouble, she played my best friend, ex girlfriend, slash girlfriend, all the things. She and I were at Burke Williams getting massages and all that stuff. And we were literally in the. The icy room. You know, we were in our towels, like the Jacuzzi in the icy cold room, whatever. And we're just yapping away, yapping away, like, no filter, just, like, screaming, really. And this chick, like, comes in, like, you know, pushes the curtain to the side and says, excuse me. And we're like, oh, good Trouble fans. You know, like, whatever, whatever. Let's entertain this. She's like, could you two keep it down? And we were laughing so hard. But, yeah, it's always humbling, no matter what the fudge it is.
Kalilah
My favorite moment of all time was when we were at a Starbucks, right, on Ventura. And I was. I was with Bobby at this time. And of course, anyone that approaches, he thinks is for him, right? Like, they want a picture with him. So the guy is just like, hey, dude, can you. So Bobby grabs the phone from the guy, and then the guy proceeds to stand next to me. And he was like. Basically, he wanted a picture with me. Not because he knew who I was. He was a guy from, like, the butt somewhere in America. He wanted to take a picture with a hot California.
Esther Povitsky
Oh, my God.
Kalilah
And there was Bobby. Just like, he didn't even think that Bobby was my boyfriend anything. And Bobby had already flipped the camera to take a selfie. And he was like, oh, my God, I'm just taking a picture of some Mirando and Kalila. He didn't know who the we were. We were cry. Laughing on a drive home.
Sherry Cola
Because I was like, so funny.
Kalilah
So embarrassing for everyone involved except him.
Sherry Cola
Instead, he gets a selfie with Bobby Lee. That's his California babe.
Esther Povitsky
You are a hot Cali babe. You are. Wait, did you grow up here? I forget.
Kalilah
No. Philippines.
Esther Povitsky
Yeah, yeah.
Kalilah
Well, partially. Mostly here now.
Esther Povitsky
What about you?
Sherry Cola
Chicago suburbs.
Esther Povitsky
Respect.
Sherry Cola
Wait, where were you born?
Kalilah
Gv huh? When were you born?
Esther Povitsky
We actually love that question because you know that we always ask, where are you from? Or where'd you go to school? Whatever. Where were you born? Straight to the longitude and latitude. Let's go.
Kalilah
What hospital?
Esther Povitsky
Shanghai, China. Wow. I have one of these things, you know, the immigrant.
Kalilah
Me too. My TV shows on the right.
Esther Povitsky
I try to explain it and I don't know what happened. So we were different vaccines and they took a chunk out of our baby skin. Right? That's what happened.
Kalilah
Yeah.
Esther Povitsky
No, the scar is so big.
Kalilah
Yeah, it's a. It's a keloid. So we have. It's like a shiny little keloid we all get. And that's how you know we're immigrants.
Esther Povitsky
In any keloid.
Sherry Cola
Yes.
Kalilah
At any. Mine's pretty flat, actually. I don't know what doctors you guys have in Shanghai.
Esther Povitsky
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Kalilah
I'm sorry.
Esther Povitsky
Now wait, let me see.
Kalilah
Mine is barely there anymore. Oh, you see, it's very.
Esther Povitsky
Yeah, yeah.
Kalilah
Very flat.
Esther Povitsky
Mine is right here.
Kalilah
Let me see yours.
Esther Povitsky
Yeah.
Kalilah
Oh, yeah. Yours is more visible than mine. So we got different vaccines based on what was the pathogens.
Esther Povitsky
Something. Yeah. In.
Kalilah
In our areas.
Esther Povitsky
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Kalilah
So none of you guys got the TV shot. We all got our tuberculosis. Yeah. You guys didn't get it here or else you would have what we have. Right.
Esther Povitsky
But we're surprising Esther with the TV shot today. So Shanghai and then San Gabriel Valley. So SoCal. Girl, you're so ride or die.
Kalilah
626Lucky. SGV is the best.
Esther Povitsky
I really grew up here.
Kalilah
You really did.
Esther Povitsky
To say the least. King Taco, anyone? Porto's King. I know my stuff.
Kalilah
Yeah, but that's. Those aren't the SGV hits.
Esther Povitsky
King Taco. That was a really loud teeth suck.
Kalilah
King Taco really is like a classic. And I feel like people don't.
Esther Povitsky
No one talks about King Taco. So there's the closest one. Glendale. There's one.
Kalilah
There's one. Oh, yeah, there is.
Esther Povitsky
The green salsa is. It's not a sauce. It's a recipe. Yeah, it is just like. Are you Spice Queen?
Sherry Cola
No, Spice Girl. Not Spice Queen.
Esther Povitsky
Which. What. What Spice Girl do you most identify with? Ginger.
Kalilah
I'm a ginger too.
Esther Povitsky
Give Ginger her flowers. Really?
Sherry Cola
Yeah. She's the coolest.
Esther Povitsky
I want so badly to go back to that era of like. I remember just having like a Spice Girls themed birthday party where the party favors. Yeah. Party favors were like Spice Girls erasers. Like just school supplies.
Sherry Cola
Wait, who is your favorite?
Esther Povitsky
It. So I would identify as Sporty Scary Rising. Yeah, I think.
Kalilah
Oh, yeah, yeah. That. That, you know. Yeah. The sporty wow.
Esther Povitsky
Maybe even the flip scary in the. You know, there's the. The chaos of it. And Sporty in the power top Mamacita of it. You know what I mean?
Kalilah
Sporty really was like, the. The vocals of it all, girl. Yeah. Mel C is. Is the one who could sing. And. And, baby, I think. I think Emma.
Sherry Cola
They can all sing.
Esther Povitsky
They can all sing.
Sherry Cola
Honestly, I don't stand for the slander, okay?
Esther Povitsky
I've always wanted saying the Spice Girls. Let's go deeper into the Spice Girls of it. Because the movie. Right.
Kalilah
The best.
Esther Povitsky
That was so good. Absolute.
Sherry Cola
Like a little Gucci dress. Or the little Gucci dress.
Esther Povitsky
There were aliens. You know what I'm saying? Like, who wrote this? Because I want. And I was thinking about, like, okay, in the world. Because it's always been my dream to, like, be in the reboot as the Asian pregnant friend. But then I'm like, they wouldn't be able to do that because that was more like a biopic. Real person documentary. Like, they. You couldn't do a reboot because you couldn't have people play the Spice Girls. They're real people who are still there. You know what I'm saying?
Kalilah
You would have to do it with a girl group.
Esther Povitsky
It wasn't scripted in theory.
Sherry Cola
It was a very complicated genre of film that we're still studying today. There were aliens. People were playing themselves. There was fiction, There was nonfiction. Honestly, nothing has been as unique of a genre.
Esther Povitsky
Harvard Law to this day is releasing a thesis. I clearly don't know anything about college, but. No, it's like. What? I remember the bridge scene where the. The tour bus was going over the bridge and you can see it was a toy and there was a string. Rewatch it because I forgot about it. I didn't even notice, like, the. The. The dream sequence when they were all pregnant. Like, it just was the perfect thing.
Sherry Cola
Movie studios really will get away with what they know they can get away with. Like, they're like, this is the Spice Girl movie.
Esther Povitsky
The asses. Chaps.
Sherry Cola
Oh, my God.
Esther Povitsky
A cultural phenomenon.
Sherry Cola
Also, wasn't there a song in the movie only that was so good. What was it? There was one song that was never released. But it was just in the movie.
Kalilah
Was it? Come on. Come on.
Sherry Cola
Yes.
Kalilah
I never thought. It was never released.
Sherry Cola
Come on. It was never released.
Esther Povitsky
It was only a movie in studio with us today.
Sherry Cola
So you couldn't ever get, like. The only way I could listen to it was, like, rewinding and playing.
Esther Povitsky
No. I don't know. Is it the one where they were. Yeah.
Sherry Cola
My game.
Esther Povitsky
We have to fucking watch that immediately.
Kalilah
Do, like, just a full breakdown.
Esther Povitsky
Put it on.
Kalilah
You know, this is sort of how I felt about Free Willy. Like, you could never get away with making a movie like that again.
Sherry Cola
Why?
Esther Povitsky
Interesting.
Kalilah
They got a fucking whale from Mexico.
Esther Povitsky
We. How did they do that?
Kalilah
No, because Keiko was already a whale that had been in such a. A small enclosure because they tried to work with different whales, like, in the US and different, like, zoos and stuff. And they. They were like, nah. So they went to Keiko, who was in Mexico, who was not in, like, ideal situation, and her. And her. Not her pectoral fin. Her thing was already bent.
Sherry Cola
Are you. Have you ever met a whale?
Kalilah
I have never met a whale, but I hate to say this. I did go see Shamu when I was younger.
Sherry Cola
That's okay.
Esther Povitsky
I think we all did the San Diego, right? Is that where. Oh, SeaWorld.
Kalilah
Sea World.
Esther Povitsky
Yeah, I think I did that too. Yeah.
Kalilah
And then blackfish. And then it's like, my heart broke and all of that.
Sherry Cola
Yeah.
Esther Povitsky
We were young. We didn't know any better.
Sherry Cola
I'm getting. I'm getting the signal. We're out of time.
Kalilah
Oh, we are.
Sherry Cola
Yeah.
Esther Povitsky
I know. It's. This is my bad. Here's the thing. I want a second chance. I want to come back.
Sherry Cola
You can have a million chances.
Esther Povitsky
Can I come back immediately? Soon.
Kalilah
Honestly, Sherry, here's what I'll say. You had a second chance with a second banana, and I still blew it.
Esther Povitsky
So, like, first I ate this old. I'm gonna wear this as a hat until the next time we see each other. This is actually. What if, like, this was like a. A penis holder?
Kalilah
Like.
Esther Povitsky
Like a penis sweater.
Kalilah
Do they have those?
Esther Povitsky
Yeah.
Kalilah
Okay.
Esther Povitsky
Is this some. Oh, actually, yes. Like, for, like, sex scenes and stuff. There's like, little, you know.
Kalilah
Yeah.
Esther Povitsky
Have you done a sex scene?
Sherry Cola
Never.
Kalilah
But you've done a love scene.
Sherry Cola
I've done some love scenes. I'm really bad at them.
Kalilah
Really? Yeah.
Sherry Cola
They're not. It's not my strong suit. I can't really. It. I don't like kissing.
Esther Povitsky
Oh, well, okay. Because when we're kissing, though, on screen, we're not kissing. Like, we actually kiss. Like, we're not. This isn't my. This isn't a real, you know, representation of how I kiss that.
Sherry Cola
It's really happening, though.
Esther Povitsky
Should we kiss?
Kalilah
Wait, can I ask you guys this? I'm so curious because I've. I've never had an on screen kiss. Wait, are you supposed to kiss differently on set than you are in your room? Yeah. You don't.
Sherry Cola
Your tongue doesn't come out.
Kalilah
You think I can kiss with this lopsided mouth.
Esther Povitsky
Okay, first of all, do not dim your light. Yes. Because obviously in the heat of a moment in the back seat of a, a Jack in the box, when you're 19 years old and discovering hormones, you're kissing in a heated way you would never want to be seen. That was really specific and weird. I related I lost my virginity in that way.
Kalilah
Oh really?
Esther Povitsky
When I was 19 in Jack in the Box, I really got vulnerable.
Kalilah
But wait a second, Sherry, why wouldn't you want that on screen kiss? To mimic the real life.
Esther Povitsky
Kids say it's ugly. It's uglier than like a put together choreo 5, 6, 7, 8 situation. That would be the on screen. You have the conversation. Tongue or no tongue?
Kalilah
I need to, I need to watch your kissing scene now.
Sherry Cola
I, I, Please don't. I'm so awkward and weird. It's.
Esther Povitsky
Yeah, I hate watching myself. Do you hate watching yourself?
Sherry Cola
No, I like it.
Esther Povitsky
Like I will probably not watch. Aside from the, the banana clip that will go viral and that y'all will put so I could collaborate on Instagram.
Sherry Cola
I was thinking of my last kissing scene. I was like, I did look cute though. But no, I, I'm just, it's too uncomfortable. It's so weird.
Esther Povitsky
I've never done like, I have done the makeouts and I, I've never done like sex sex. I have done like the going down. Like I have had an orgasm on screen.
Kalilah
Oh really?
Esther Povitsky
Fake. Obviously fake. Oh my God. Jesus. Back to your sex.
Sherry Cola
Like I don't think I would, I could ever do that.
Esther Povitsky
I, I, well, you know, the whole storyline was that my character had never had an orgasm. So then my girlfriend goes down on me. It's my friend Cara. That was weird because we, we'd gotten close already. So then it's almost easier to do it with strangers. Do you agree?
Sherry Cola
A million percent.
Esther Povitsky
Yeah. Because once you know them, it's like.
Sherry Cola
Wait, it's like now this person I know is kissing me so weird. And then I'm like, like, it's so weird.
Kalilah
I don't like vulnerable. Now the orgasm, is it what you really look like or is it what you think an orgasm should look like?
Esther Povitsky
My actual orgasm is quite aggressive.
Sherry Cola
You punch the person?
Esther Povitsky
No, I just run through the wall.
Sherry Cola
This conversation needs a T. Be continued.
Esther Povitsky
There is a, there's part a Sherry shaped hole in all of my windows. That's how my neighbors know that I am okay. You see this scar? I told we said it was from Shanghai Maxi. No, baby, that is windowsill. 2012 oh my God.
Sherry Cola
Slugs.
Esther Povitsky
Really not my best. Cut it up and make it pretty. I want to be back because back to the scheduling of it. It just happened so fast and I walked in all good. You know what I'm saying?
Sherry Cola
We will be back with part two with share.
Esther Povitsky
Sherry it's giving Wicked part two. Okay? In one year.
Sherry Cola
You won't have to wait a whole year. Sherry, thank you so much for coming here. We love you. Where can people find you?
Esther Povitsky
This love triangle is where you can find me. Primarily.
Sherry Cola
Agreed.
Esther Povitsky
Sherry Cola on Instagram without the E. Still working on getting the E. Stay humble.
Sherry Cola
We'll see you next week with a brand new episode. We love you, Sherry.
Esther Povitsky
We love.
Trash Tuesday Episode Summary: "Realizing You’re Not Ugly" Featuring Sherry Cola
Introduction
In the January 7, 2025 episode of Trash Tuesday titled "Realizing You’re Not Ugly," hosts Esther Povitsky and Khalyla Kuhn are joined by comedian and actress Sherry Cola. The trio delves deep into topics surrounding self-esteem, beauty standards, personal trauma, and the journey toward self-acceptance, all while infusing their signature humor and candidness.
Shower Culture and Everyday Habits
The episode kicks off with a lighthearted yet revealing conversation about shower etiquette. Esther initiates the discussion by questioning common hygiene practices:
Sherry responds with a comedic take, highlighting differing personal habits:
This banter sets the tone for the episode, blending humor with genuine curiosity about everyday routines.
Personal Struggles and Stress Management
Transitioning from hygiene to personal well-being, Esther shares her recent struggles:
Khalyla adds to the conversation by discussing her own challenges, creating a space for vulnerability among the hosts and guest.
Realizing You’re Not Ugly: Sherry’s Journey with Self-Esteem
A significant portion of the episode is dedicated to Sherry Cola’s introspective journey towards self-acceptance. She candidly discusses her long-standing insecurities and how societal standards impacted her self-worth:
Sherry reflects on cultural pressures, particularly within the Jewish community, that perpetuated negative self-image:
Her honesty paves the way for a heartfelt exploration of beauty standards and personal growth.
Coming Out and Embracing Queerness
Esther takes a turn to share her own experiences with coming out and the impact it had on her relationship with her parents:
She describes the initial shock her mother felt and the subsequent journey toward mutual understanding and acceptance:
This segment underscores the complexities of navigating personal identity within familial and societal frameworks.
Generational Trauma and Evolving Relationships
Khalyla introduces a discussion on generational trauma and its effects on modern relationships:
The conversation evolves into how newer generations are reshaping communication and relationship dynamics to foster healthier connections.
Humorous Anecdotes and Everyday Misadventures
Balancing the heavy topics, the trio engages in a series of humorous stories that bring levity to the episode. Highlights include:
Esther’s Shower Misadventure [25:33]: Esther recounts an embarrassing incident in a hotel bathroom while playing the "Wicked" soundtrack loudly.
Banana Break [27:01]: A playful segment where Esther and Khalyla joke about banana usage and its unconventional purposes, blending absurdity with laughter.
These stories not only entertain but also illustrate the hosts' ability to find humor in everyday embarrassments.
Reflections on Fame and Public Recognition
The conversation takes a meta turn as the hosts discuss the challenges of being recognized in public:
They share personal anecdotes about mistaken identities and the awkwardness of celebrity encounters, highlighting the intersection of personal life and public persona.
Conclusion
"Realizing You’re Not Ugly" is a compelling episode that intertwines deep personal insights with moments of levity and humor. Esther, Khalyla, and Sherry Cola offer listeners an authentic look into their struggles with self-esteem, the journey of embracing one’s identity, and the everyday quirks that make life uniquely challenging and entertaining. This episode serves as both a mirror and a companion for anyone navigating similar paths towards self-acceptance and understanding.
Notable Quotes
Sherry Cola [07:09]: "It's not until I started to get older where I'm like, wait a second... I've been pretty the whole time. It's weird."
Esther Povitsky [16:40]: "This could potentially be my wife. You know what I'm saying?"
Kalilah [09:28]: "Women were told to not be too much and men were told to not be enough."
Esther Povitsky [25:33]: "I'm not well. I'm not well."
Sherry Cola [39:28]: "I have a baby. We have to stop bringing these things up."
These quotes encapsulate the blend of vulnerability, humor, and candidness that define the episode.