Trash Tuesday: Mr. Beast Style w/ Dax Flame

Summary

Trash Tuesday: Mr. Beast Style with Dax Flame Hosted by Esther Povitsky & Khalyla Kuhn Release Date: March 25, 2025

Introduction In this vibrant episode of "Trash Tuesday," hosts Esther Povitsky and Bobby Lee invite comedian and internet personality Dax Flame to join their lively conversation. The trio delves into a range of topics, blending humor with genuine insights, making for an engaging listen for both regular fans and newcomers alike.

Guest Introduction and Background Timestamp: [02:10]

Esther warmly welcomes Dax Flame to the show, expressing excitement about his unique personality and comedic flair. Dax shares the origins of his distinctive stage name, explaining it as a creation from his teenage years that stuck as his internet popularity grew. He reflects, "It was just something I thought sounded cool," highlighting the organic development of his persona (02:35).

Friendship Dynamics and Honesty Timestamp: [07:33]

The conversation shifts to the complexities of female friendships, particularly the balance between honesty and judgment. Esther poses a thought-provoking scenario about being brutally honest versus supportive without being forceful. Bobby echoes this sentiment, suggesting that declarations of honesty can sometimes mask cruelty: "People who say I tell it how it is just want an excuse to be cruel and judgmental" (08:30). Dax adds that while honesty is valuable, it's crucial not to impose one's opinions forcefully.

Mr. Beast Style Challenges with Dax Flame Timestamp: [18:46]

Embracing the spirit of viral challenges, the hosts brainstorm creative content ideas inspired by Mr. Beast's signature style. Esther proposes a "sticky hands" challenge, where they'd live with sticky hands for a week, humorously lamenting, "It would ruin my whole week... I would probably do it for $20" (21:27). Dax shares his recent experience winning $10,000 on one of Mr. Beast's shorts, describing it as a thrilling opportunity: "They said, go find a person who looks like this. Then I found that person and got $10,000" (18:53). This segment highlights their commitment to entertaining their audience with unconventional and bold challenges.

Advice Segment: Navigating Sexless Relationships Timestamp: [28:52]

The trio addresses a heartfelt listener question about being in a sexless long-term relationship. Esther emphasizes the importance of communication: "The most important thing here is... communicate with your partner" (31:05). Bobby shares his personal struggle, noting how initiating conversations about intimacy can feel unsexy and challenging. Together, they suggest practical approaches like reigniting playful interactions and subtly increasing intimacy without direct confrontation.

Advice Segment: Handling Sibling Conflicts Timestamp: [50:52]

A listener grapples with mediating a conflict between two estranged sisters, both desiring a trip that the listener can afford only one. Esther empathizes with the stress of sibling discord, while Bobby advises taking a side based on who has been more supportive or less confrontational: "Figure out, just... someone has hurt someone really bad more than the other. And pick whatever side is better" (53:16). Dax proposes alternative solutions like encouraging a solo trip to avoid choosing sides, showcasing the hosts' varied perspectives.

Advice Segment: Confronting Friends in Harmful Groups Timestamp: [61:03]

Addressing concerns about a friend involved in a cult or pyramid scheme, Dax advises attempting to convince them to leave, acknowledging the difficulty if they've been deeply brainwashed: "I don't know how you would get through in that scenario" (61:49). Bobby shares his experience dealing with such situations, highlighting the importance of direct communication and offering support: "Take a swing. What have I got to lose? I like this person. Let me ask her out, and if it's a no, it's a no" (42:30).

Stand-Up Comedy Discussion Timestamp: [66:34]

The conversation shifts to the art of stand-up comedy, with Esther providing encouragement to Dax about expanding his comedic material. She suggests that improving one's set comes naturally through writing and performing more: "Expanding the set is about the material and just getting and finding more material that works" (68:26). Dax shares his challenges with keeping audiences engaged, especially in non-traditional venues like concerts, while Esther offers insights into adapting performances for different audiences.

Conclusion Timestamp: [73:46]

As the episode wraps up, Esther and Bobby express their appreciation for Dax Flame's participation and humorously hint at potential future collaborations, including more themed challenges. Dax reflects positively on his experience, indicating openness to returning for future episodes. The hosts sign off by thanking their listeners and teasing the next episode, maintaining the show's signature blend of humor, warmth, and candid conversation.

Notable Quotes

• Esther Povitsky (02:35): "It was just something I thought sounded cool."
• Bobby Lee (08:30): "People who say I tell it how it is just want an excuse to be cruel and judgmental."
• Esther Povitsky (31:05): "The most important thing here is... communicate with your partner."
• Dax Flame (18:53): "They said, go find a person who looks like this. Then I found that person and got $10,000."
• Esther Povitsky (44:25): "I think it would be really fun... to help bring people together."

Final Thoughts This episode of "Trash Tuesday" encapsulates the show's essence—combining humor with meaningful discussions. Hosts Esther and Bobby, alongside their guest Dax Flame, navigate personal anecdotes, listener advice, and creative brainstorming with authenticity and wit. Whether tackling relationship challenges or brainstorming viral content, the trio offers a relatable and entertaining experience for their audience.

Transcript

[Esther Povitsky]

Kalila was saying that I did such a bad job of meeting you that maybe you left.

[Dax Flame]

No. Why do you do an elbow instead of a handshake?

[Bobby Lee]

Just, I'm having issues. I'm having a psychotic break.

[Esther Povitsky]

Well, that is so much that you just put on him.

[Bobby Lee]

I actually don't know what's going on with my brain and my body parts, and so I'm just kind of flying by the seat of my pants. And I don't know why the elbow seemed right.

[Dax Flame]

Do you normally do elbow?

[Bobby Lee]

Sometimes.

[Dax Flame]

Cool.

[Esther Povitsky]

You ever heard the expression if you ask someone what time it is and then they tell you how to build a clock? It's like when you talk to a crazy person and you just wanted to know, like, oh, do. Are you afraid of germs? And then they tell you, I'm having a psychotic break.

[Bobby Lee]

Oh, right, right. I thought this was. I thought what you were gonna say is like, teach a man how to fish and he'll have food forever type of. But that's not what you were saying.

[Esther Povitsky]

I. Oh, no, I wasn't saying that.

[Bobby Lee]

You're saying I'm having a. Okay. Sorry. Sorry, you guys. We have the most amazing Patreon. So thankful for all of those who've already signed up. And as especially to our golden slugs who Jules will be doing the honor of.

[Esther Povitsky]

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[Bobby Lee]

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[Esther Povitsky]

Today. Welcome to Trash Tuesday. We have a guest that we're very excited to have. He is very funny and it's a curious. He's a curious person and I mean that in a lot of ways. Please welcome Dax Flame.

[Dax Flame]

Thanks for having me.

[Esther Povitsky]

My first impression is your name is and maybe this is part of it, but it doesn't fit you.

[Dax Flame]

Okay.

[Esther Povitsky]

Yeah.

[Dax Flame]

Well, it's a stage name that I Just started calling myself when I was a teenager. And then since I got popular on the Internet when I was a teenager, I just stuck with it forever. And now it just feels like it fits me because it's what I've gone by forever. But if I were coming up with a stage name now, maybe I would have just chosen something different, but it's just what I've stuck with. Yeah.

[Esther Povitsky]

Are you. Is it. Is it ironic when you. When you made it, Was it ironic, or did it fit you more when you were a teen?

[Dax Flame]

It was just something I thought sounded cool.

[Esther Povitsky]

Oh, okay. I guess that. Yeah. The origin story of it coming from being a teenage boy makes sense.

[Dax Flame]

Yeah. I think the flame part of it sounds. Yeah. Yeah. Just. I don't know.

[Esther Povitsky]

Yeah. Because I've heard your name over the years, but I never, like, knew who you were, and I always just assumed you were someone that was like, bleh, you know, like, setting fires and.

[Bobby Lee]

Did you ever think of having a stage name?

[Esther Povitsky]

I think Little Esther is kind of a stage name.

[Bobby Lee]

Oh, that is. You're right. You were Little Esther for a long time. This morning, though, I've been getting a bunch of just hi. Just random texts. Hi.

[Esther Povitsky]

Oh, me too. Hello.

[Bobby Lee]

Yeah. And I know it's usually it's. There's a sentence that follows where you could be like, okay, this is a scam.

[Esther Povitsky]

Or they're like, I saw your resume. It looks really good that I've been.

[Bobby Lee]

Getting to as well. Yeah.

[Esther Povitsky]

I'm like, trust me, it's. My resume sucks. Like, no one would say that, but do you get those scammed phishing texts?

[Dax Flame]

Yeah. Like, we have some opportunity for you in that kind of thing.

[Esther Povitsky]

Yeah.

[Bobby Lee]

Like a recruiter job Recruiter.

[Dax Flame]

Yeah.

[Esther Povitsky]

Or lonely. It's like lonely women, like, yes. Yeah.

[Bobby Lee]

Yes.

[Esther Povitsky]

I do feel very vulnerable to those texts.

[Bobby Lee]

What do you want to say?

[Esther Povitsky]

I don't know. Like, I just think if I. This was, like, 15 years ago, if I was a teenager, like, I would be. You know that time in your life where you're just sort of waiting for someone to text you hi, and you don't know who they are. Do you see how you. No one else sees how those texts work on people, Dax.

[Dax Flame]

Yeah.

[Bobby Lee]

But you know, when I think about this. Yes. Maybe, like, my stepdad, who's, like, in the 70s.

[Esther Povitsky]

Yeah.

[Bobby Lee]

Would be susceptible to something like this. Yes.

[Esther Povitsky]

Okay. You guys are throwing me under the bus. It's okay. Do you. You're not lonely?

[Dax Flame]

Oh, yeah. I get lonely sometimes. Yeah.

[Esther Povitsky]

Yeah.

[Bobby Lee]

When do you get lonely? Are you lonely now?

[Dax Flame]

No.

[Esther Povitsky]

Kalila said that you're dating a famous actress.

[Dax Flame]

Do you know her name?

[Bobby Lee]

I do. Do you want to share?

[Dax Flame]

You can share first.

[Bobby Lee]

You share first.

[Dax Flame]

Maybe I shouldn't talk about it publicly.

[Bobby Lee]

Well, haven't you already?

[Dax Flame]

Yeah, but now I've. Maybe moving forward, I shouldn't. So you could share it if you'd like.

[Bobby Lee]

Let's talk about the movie she's done. How about that? Let's work around the name.

[Dax Flame]

Beauty and the Beast.

[Bobby Lee]

Okay. Harry Potter.

[Esther Povitsky]

Harry Potter. Oh. Lindsay Lohan played her on snl. It is a little sad that when you say Daniel Radcliffe, when you say Harry Potter, there's only one girl that you can think of. Of, Right?

[Bobby Lee]

That's not true. There's Ginny.

[Esther Povitsky]

Okay.

[Bobby Lee]

Jenny's in Harry Potter last week at.

[Esther Povitsky]

One of my standup shows. Sometimes at the end of my set, I'll be like, any questions? Because I'm like, oh, maybe that'll lead to a new topic to talk about. On stage. It's just a lazy way of writing. But someone was like, have you worn your sorting Hat? And I was like, that is the rudest thing. Like, this person just assumed, I love Harry Potter, and it just felt, like, embarrassing. I don't know.

[Bobby Lee]

Do you not like Harry Potter?

[Esther Povitsky]

Do you guys like Harry Potter?

[Bobby Lee]

I do. Do you? You have to.

[Dax Flame]

I read all the books as an adult. Like, yeah. So I liked it. But that was maybe 10 years ago, but, yeah, they're really good.

[Esther Povitsky]

You've been an adult for 10 years?

[Dax Flame]

I'm 33. Yeah.

[Esther Povitsky]

Okay.

[Dax Flame]

Yeah.

[Bobby Lee]

Do we not want to say her name still? Why are you so private about it?

[Dax Flame]

No, I was just joking. Emma Watson. Yeah. Yeah, I was just joking about. Oh, not like, about. I was trying to play into it as if, like, I'm not supposed to talk about it.

[Esther Povitsky]

But you're dating her.

[Dax Flame]

Yeah, well, not really.

[Esther Povitsky]

Oh.

[Dax Flame]

No, that was just whenever I went on Bad Friends. Andrew. Well, y'all are friends, right? With the bad friends? Yeah. Andrew, like, said, you're dating a celebrity, and then I just said the first one I thought of. But, yeah, they're really funny.

[Bobby Lee]

What do you think of Bobby?

[Dax Flame]

He's really funny. Yeah, he's. They're both super good at improvising. And. Yeah.

[Esther Povitsky]

Last night I was laying in bed and I had this breakthrough thought, and it applies to female friendships. So chime in as accordingly. You know how there's this concept in female friendships where one friend is like, I'm the kind of friend who's gonna tell it. Like, it Is I'm not gonna hold back. I'm gonna tell you how I really feel. Like I'm gonna be honest.

[Dax Flame]

Everyone feels familiar with that just from hearing about it.

[Esther Povitsky]

Yeah. Okay.

[Dax Flame]

Yeah.

[Esther Povitsky]

I've always been like, that's gonna be me. I want to be honest with my friends. That's a good thing. But then I'm thinking, wait a second, is that a good thing? What if that's just a version of judging?

[Bobby Lee]

I think it is. I think that sometimes people who have to declare that they're a truth teller or have to declare that they're the honest one are doing it. It's like a way to guise their own cruelty.

[Dax Flame]

Whoa.

[Bobby Lee]

I think people who say I tell it how it is just want an excuse to be cruel and judgmental.

[Esther Povitsky]

What do you think?

[Dax Flame]

Wait, could you say. Could you say it again?

[Esther Povitsky]

Yeah, like, and this could be any friendship. So I'll take gender out of it. Let's say you're in a relationship with Emma Watson, and you're like, emma is being mean to me, and. But I love her, so I'm staying. And then your friend is like, I'm going to be honest with you. She's mean to you. You need to leave her. Is that good? Because they're being, oh, no, that can't be.

[Bobby Lee]

There's a ghost. Oh, my God.

[Esther Povitsky]

Is that good because they're being honest, or is it that they're just being forceful? And instead they should say something like, oh, that's interesting that she's mean to you. How does that make you feel?

[Dax Flame]

And the other option was that they say, get, like, break up.

[Esther Povitsky]

Yeah. They tell you what to do. They put their finger in your face.

[Dax Flame]

What's my preference? Yeah, maybe not telling me what to do.

[Esther Povitsky]

Would you consider that dishonest?

[Dax Flame]

Maybe you can, like, tell someone what you think they should do, but don't tell them they have to do that.

[Bobby Lee]

A good example of this is like, would you be mad if someone said your breath stank?

[Dax Flame]

Or like, oh, that would be helpful.

[Bobby Lee]

But I think it depends who, right?

[Dax Flame]

Yeah. Who and how and how.

[Bobby Lee]

If someone said it in front of other people, maybe not.

[Esther Povitsky]

So, yeah.

[Bobby Lee]

Yeah.

[Esther Povitsky]

Pull me aside.

[Bobby Lee]

Yeah.

[Esther Povitsky]

Yeah. Have that be a one on one. I know that probably is not going to be pleasant for you, but.

[Bobby Lee]

Yeah. Slip a breath mint here.

[Esther Povitsky]

Breath mints.

[Bobby Lee]

Don't they make it worse?

[Esther Povitsky]

They really do.

[Bobby Lee]

Sugar makes breath worse.

[Esther Povitsky]

How's your breath?

[Dax Flame]

I brushed my teeth this morning, so it should be good, but. Yeah, I have no sense of smell, so I.

[Bobby Lee]

Why?

[Dax Flame]

I lost It a couple years ago when I got Covid and it just hasn't returned.

[Esther Povitsky]

Wait, what can you taste?

[Dax Flame]

Yes, I can taste perfectly.

[Esther Povitsky]

Do you miss smelling?

[Dax Flame]

Yeah. Yeah.

[Esther Povitsky]

Really?

[Bobby Lee]

What do you miss the smell of?

[Dax Flame]

Nothing in particular. Just people say that smell is connected to memory, so it'd be nice to have that aspect back.

[Esther Povitsky]

I feel the same way about music too.

[Dax Flame]

Yeah? Yeah, I love music.

[Esther Povitsky]

Whenever I'm in a bad, sad mood, like, I feel like if I put on music from when I was in high school.

[Dax Flame]

Okay.

[Esther Povitsky]

It's helpful.

[Dax Flame]

How old are you?

[Esther Povitsky]

I'm 30. I just turned 37.

[Dax Flame]

Okay, cool. I cannot believe it when you started to say 30. I thought you were gonna say 31.

[Esther Povitsky]

Thank you. Well, maybe I shouldn't say thank you.

[Dax Flame]

Okay. Yeah. You look young.

[Bobby Lee]

On the way here, I listened to something from high school. Tragic Kingdom. Well, no middle school for me. The whole album and then return to Saturn right after.

[Esther Povitsky]

I only know that because that was like what my older sister had.

[Bobby Lee]

Right. And there's a song there that I think people didn't maybe listen to what she was saying. So much I cried on the way here.

[Dax Flame]

Okay.

[Bobby Lee]

I'm not sure that's so important.

[Esther Povitsky]

I have to admit, I was a child when I listened to that album. And I only listened to Don't Speak in Just a Girl.

[Bobby Lee]

Yeah, that's on Spiderwim. Yeah.

[Dax Flame]

Okay. I know those ones.

[Esther Povitsky]

What is your high school music?

[Dax Flame]

I think I liked classic rock.

[Bobby Lee]

Specifically who?

[Dax Flame]

The first one that came to mind is Tom Petty. Love Tom Petty and just other things like that.

[Esther Povitsky]

How did you get into that? Were your parents into it?

[Dax Flame]

Yeah.

[Bobby Lee]

Where are you from?

[Esther Povitsky]

He's from Dallas.

[Dax Flame]

Yeah.

[Bobby Lee]

Oh, whoa. Have you been in love?

[Dax Flame]

Yeah. And then I. We. That was in la. I dated someone in la and then we broke up maybe seven years ago or eight years ago. I can't remember exactly.

[Bobby Lee]

How long did it last?

[Dax Flame]

Maybe one year.

[Esther Povitsky]

Is it making you uncomfortable that we're asking you questions about yourself?

[Dax Flame]

No.

[Esther Povitsky]

Oh, good.

[Dax Flame]

I'm always just like a little nervous on a podcast. Especially if I like. I feel less nervous if I come back on a podcast.

[Esther Povitsky]

Right. It's a first time situation.

[Dax Flame]

That makes.

[Esther Povitsky]

Yeah, I totally get.

[Dax Flame]

Because I like to just try to see, like what kind of vibe the podcast is. Like, what I should be talking about. Exactly.

[Esther Povitsky]

Yeah. You can't go wrong here.

[Dax Flame]

So you. And then you dated Bobby. Right.

[Bobby Lee]

Can you believe that? 10 years. A decade.

[Dax Flame]

Oh, wow. Awesome.

[Bobby Lee]

Yeah.

[Dax Flame]

10 years ago or 14 years.

[Bobby Lee]

So for 10 years.

[Dax Flame]

Cool.

[Bobby Lee]

And we've been broken up 40 years for 10. For 10.

[Esther Povitsky]

For 10 years would be 40 years.

[Bobby Lee]

You're doing a lot of multiplication.

[Esther Povitsky]

No, I'm not. I'm only doing one multiplication.

[Dax Flame]

Four different.

[Bobby Lee]

For a decade.

[Dax Flame]

Spans of 10 years.

[Esther Povitsky]

Yeah.

[Bobby Lee]

Yeah.

[Esther Povitsky]

He's with me.

[Bobby Lee]

We've been broken up for three and a half now. Maybe four.

[Esther Povitsky]

So 14 years.

[Bobby Lee]

Yeah.

[Esther Povitsky]

Three times four. Four times three and a half.

[Bobby Lee]

Yeah. It was a very, very difficult breakup.

[Dax Flame]

Okay.

[Bobby Lee]

It's been years since we've broken up. It still has its moments of being.

[Dax Flame]

Difficult because y'all do your podcast Tiger Belly together.

[Bobby Lee]

We do.

[Dax Flame]

Cool.

[Bobby Lee]

And I still very much love him dearly. Dearly. Dearly.

[Dax Flame]

And is Jules related to you?

[Bobby Lee]

She's my niece. Did you meet her?

[Dax Flame]

Yeah, she. She's so nice. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

[Bobby Lee]

She's the best.

[Dax Flame]

Because when I went on Bad Friends, I think maybe two of the times she was there. And. Yeah, she. She's really nice.

[Esther Povitsky]

Maybe you should ask us questions.

[Dax Flame]

Okay. So what's your favorite thing to talk about?

[Bobby Lee]

That's actually a really good question.

[Esther Povitsky]

What's yours?

[Dax Flame]

I don't know. So. So what did you do this morning before you came here?

[Bobby Lee]

Oh, I'll tell you. I made salmon rice.

[Dax Flame]

Okay.

[Bobby Lee]

And I ate it with seaweed. With nori.

[Dax Flame]

For breakfast.

[Bobby Lee]

For breakfast.

[Dax Flame]

Cool.

[Bobby Lee]

And then I took a shower, and my hair is still wet. And I drove to work, listened to Tragic Kingdom in the Rain. Esther.

[Esther Povitsky]

I brushed my teeth, and I ate half of a protein bar.

[Dax Flame]

Before or after you brushed your teeth?

[Esther Povitsky]

After.

[Dax Flame]

Okay.

[Esther Povitsky]

What would you have done?

[Dax Flame]

After.

[Esther Povitsky]

Yeah. Okay, good. I think it's weird when people eat before they brush their teeth in the morning.

[Bobby Lee]

Really?

[Dax Flame]

No, no. That's what I do. I eat and then I brush my teeth.

[Esther Povitsky]

Wait, really?

[Bobby Lee]

I agree. I'm with you.

[Dax Flame]

What, so that you don't have the taste of toothpaste? Whatever. You're. Exactly.

[Bobby Lee]

Because the taste of toothpaste gets into the food. I think it warps the flavor of.

[Dax Flame]

The tooth, and you clean off whatever food you just had.

[Bobby Lee]

Mm.

[Dax Flame]

If there's any dentist in the audience. Compliment. I mean, comment. What you would. What's the right way to do it?

[Esther Povitsky]

Compliment.

[Dax Flame]

Or they would probably just say do it both times.

[Bobby Lee]

Uh, maybe not. Maybe not. Because I think you're onto something about the flavor of your breakfast tasting. Like, your breakfast versus whatever minty thing, whatever minty residue from the toothpaste.

[Esther Povitsky]

I'm wildly disturbed by this, because maybe. But you know what? Maybe it's just me. Maybe I'm the one that wakes up with, like, a really gross taste in my mouth. And you guys don't. But I cannot imagine, like, moving any steps throughout my day without brushing my teeth of being the first thing. I scrape my tongue. I brush my teeth. Like, is there something. What do I have going on that you guys don't?

[Bobby Lee]

I think it's because I eat soon after I wake up. I drink something and then I eat something because I don't like to eat after I shower. For example, the last thing I have to do at night is shower before I go to bed. I cannot shower at 5pm and then have a dinner or else I feel disgusting. I feel like there's food smells around.

[Esther Povitsky]

Isn't it weird that. Do you. Do you know that that's psychological or does it not. Do you not think so?

[Bobby Lee]

I think it's cultural. It. I don't. I think Asian people do it. I don't know. Sound off in the Asian. Sound off in the comments. Is it psychological or am I Asian? I can't tell. Yeah, okay, go ahead.

[Dax Flame]

Oh, I. Do you want me to ask another question?

[Esther Povitsky]

I thought you were gonna say something and I cut you off.

[Dax Flame]

Oh, no, no.

[Esther Povitsky]

I was just gonna say that for me. Like, if there was an episode of the Twilight Zone written about me and my life and, like, it ended with me being trapped in my own version of hell, it would be that my hands are sticky and I have no way to clean them. That I agree with, like, bo sweat, dirt, have at me. But, like, sticky hands is so uncomfortable to me that, like, I, like, freeze. I panic, and it'll just ruin everything.

[Bobby Lee]

It's. It's Sugarfoot candy foot. Like, the idea of stepping on a hard candy before bed is also my Twilight Zone nightmare.

[Esther Povitsky]

That sounds fun, though. Like, why were you stepping around hard candy right before bed? Like, what were you doing?

[Bobby Lee]

Or, for example, you've already. You've already put your little sleepy hat on your pajamas at night, but then you forgot your glass of water, so you walk over to the kitchen, and then you accidentally step on something really sticky. Does that not send you into a tailspin?

[Dax Flame]

I don't have anything sticky in my apartment. Like, I don't like candy in my apartment ever. Really?

[Bobby Lee]

So your floors are always just polished and never sticky?

[Dax Flame]

No, no, I just don't ever have, like, sticky candy on the floor.

[Bobby Lee]

What about maple syrup?

[Dax Flame]

I don't have maple syrup.

[Bobby Lee]

What about honey?

[Dax Flame]

I don't think I have honey.

[Bobby Lee]

Any sugary treats that might have fallen on the ground?

[Dax Flame]

Maybe chocolate?

[Bobby Lee]

Okay, yeah, not as sticky. You're right.

[Esther Povitsky]

But Would it have caramel in it?

[Dax Flame]

No.

[Bobby Lee]

What kind of chocolate are you eating these days?

[Dax Flame]

Just dark chocolate.

[Bobby Lee]

Wow. Very adult. What percentage?

[Dax Flame]

Like 85.

[Bobby Lee]

Wow.

[Dax Flame]

Yeah, I like dark chocolate. So if you stepped on the sticky candy, then how much would you have to be paid to go through that experience?

[Bobby Lee]

Just go straight to bed.

[Dax Flame]

Yeah.

[Esther Povitsky]

Oh, your Mr. Beast side is coming out.

[Dax Flame]

I did go on one of his shorts recently.

[Esther Povitsky]

Really?

[Dax Flame]

And I won $10,000. Yeah.

[Bobby Lee]

How'd you win it?

[Dax Flame]

So that was cool.

[Esther Povitsky]

Whoa.

[Dax Flame]

They said, go find a person who looks like this. Then I found that person and got $10,000.

[Esther Povitsky]

Do you know MrBeast?

[Dax Flame]

No. I just met him for, like, maybe five minutes.

[Esther Povitsky]

How was he?

[Dax Flame]

He was nice. And basically I just did the introduction to the video with him. Do you want to see the short?

[Esther Povitsky]

Oh, yeah. Can we pull it up?

[Bobby Lee]

To answer your question, maybe I want to say three grand.

[Dax Flame]

Oh, okay.

[Bobby Lee]

Because that would mean I don't get a. I don't sleep the whole night.

[Dax Flame]

Oh, wow. Okay.

[Bobby Lee]

I'm spinning in my mind.

[Esther Povitsky]

When was this?

[Dax Flame]

Maybe it was in October, but it just came out like a month ago.

[Esther Povitsky]

Oh, cool.

[Bobby Lee]

Find this random person anywhere in the.

[Dax Flame]

World, win 10 grand. Okay.

[Bobby Lee]

You gotta find an old man with a wine.

[Esther Povitsky]

Oh, my God. This is really funny.

[Dax Flame]

So I just had to find someone who had all that, matched all that criteria. I did find a perfect match, but new plan. I'm buying 10 more in shirts.

[Esther Povitsky]

Was this his game that he came to you with?

[Dax Flame]

Yeah, his shorts team. It was really fun. Yeah, it was really fun, but with only an hour left to spare, you won't believe who I found sitting in the lobby. I'm gonna call Mr.

[Esther Povitsky]

Wait.

[Dax Flame]

Okay.

[Esther Povitsky]

Whoa. Should we go on a helicopter? Okay. That was awesome.

[Dax Flame]

Yeah. That was really cool.

[Esther Povitsky]

I can't believe how good that was.

[Dax Flame]

Thank. Thank you. Since it's not my video, it feels weird to say thank you. But that was cool that. That was cool that I got to do that.

[Esther Povitsky]

Yeah. Wow.

[Bobby Lee]

I feel like Cabo would be the place to find that exact prototype. Right.

[Dax Flame]

I chose Cabo because. Yeah, it was just like a touristy looking outfit.

[Bobby Lee]

Yeah.

[Esther Povitsky]

Did you do anything fun while you were there?

[Dax Flame]

Not really. Mostly just look for that guy.

[Esther Povitsky]

Yeah.

[Dax Flame]

Yeah. So how much would you have to be paid to go to sleep with Sticky hands or live with Sticky Hands for a week?

[Esther Povitsky]

Live with Sticky Hands for a week.

[Bobby Lee]

But you do know that when Ace is a toddler, she's going to be Mrs. St. Sticky Hands, right?

[Esther Povitsky]

We're gonna. I have wipes. I have soap. And Water. It's not. No, don't try this.

[Bobby Lee]

They find sticky things and they stay sticky. Kids stay sticky.

[Esther Povitsky]

We're not gonna be sticky. Okay.

[Bobby Lee]

That's a challenge, I think.

[Esther Povitsky]

Or I'll wear gloves around my child.

[Bobby Lee]

Okay.

[Esther Povitsky]

I think to be sticky hands for one week. I love this. Mr. B style trash Tuesday with Dax Flame. Honestly, I'm like, it would ruin my whole week. And I'm gonna say $50,000.

[Dax Flame]

Whoa.

[Esther Povitsky]

Yeah. But truthfully, I would probably do it for 20. But don't tell anyone.

[Bobby Lee]

That makes sense. I say go higher. That's psychological distress.

[Esther Povitsky]

Yeah.

[Dax Flame]

How so? If you asked your audience like, hey, guys, if y'all want to see the one week sticky hands challenge, do you think they would pool that money?

[Esther Povitsky]

What do you think?

[Dax Flame]

So that would be a bad, like, of the things they could support. That might. But I mean, it is for entertainment. But, like, you could probably donate that money to better things than like a sticky hands challenge video.

[Esther Povitsky]

Right.

[Dax Flame]

But at the same time, you could. People would donate if they really think that would be an entertaining video, then maybe it would be worth it.

[Esther Povitsky]

Maybe this is the style of content we should start making.

[Bobby Lee]

So candy on my foot and sticky hands.

[Dax Flame]

Yeah, but yours has to be for a week. But also that's less controllable and you would have to hire someone to spend time with you to make sure you.

[Bobby Lee]

You stay sticky.

[Esther Povitsky]

Yeah. Have you. Have you ever had your audience fund, like, just uncomfortable challenge?

[Dax Flame]

No, but I do have a Patreon, so that's kind of the equivalent. But I think that 20,000 would just be a high ask for one video probably. But maybe you could make it a series.

[Esther Povitsky]

What do you do on your Patreon?

[Dax Flame]

Not really anything anymore. So I don't really use my Patreon anymore because I'm mostly just focusing on short like Instagram and TikTok and whenever I was doing YouTube all the time, like for the last two years before, before last year, maybe 2022 and 2023, then I was like, doing consistent YouTube videos.

[Esther Povitsky]

There's a lot of talk online about, like, whether you're a character or you're you.

[Dax Flame]

Yeah.

[Esther Povitsky]

How do you feel about that conversation?

[Dax Flame]

That has just been a conversation for years, so it's okay.

[Esther Povitsky]

Do you have any sort of response or not really, like, too hard to explain?

[Dax Flame]

No, I would just say, no, it's not a character. And yeah.

[Esther Povitsky]

Yeah. It reminds me of, like, if someone's a stand up comedian and they have this weird style or weird point of view and when they're on Stage, it's more of it. But when they're just them in real life, it's the same thing, but one is they're turning the dial up.

[Bobby Lee]

Yeah.

[Esther Povitsky]

Or it's like how Larry David is like, that's not me on Curb. But, you know, it kind of is.

[Bobby Lee]

It's like you adjacent.

[Esther Povitsky]

Yeah. You just turn the dial up. Is that how you would sort of explain it? Like, when you're in a video, you've just let yourself be more you?

[Dax Flame]

Maybe more so when I was a teenager, especially, like, making YouTube videos. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

[Bobby Lee]

Like Tiktoker Mikayla.

[Esther Povitsky]

Who's that?

[Bobby Lee]

The makeup girl.

[Esther Povitsky]

Why? What? Wait, what's with her?

[Bobby Lee]

The general consensus is that's not really how she talks in real life, but it's sort of a amplified version of it. Same like you said, but. Yeah, but I don't fault anyone for, like, you said, turning the dial up when the cameras are on. No, if you want to be a character, if you want to be bigger than whatever you want to be is fine.

[Esther Povitsky]

You sort of turn the dial down when you get on camera.

[Bobby Lee]

Me. Is that completely down. I code switch. I remember. And this is no Shade developer, but when he. Why not Guessed it on Tiger Belly for the first time, I felt like I had to, like, tuck my shirt in and sit up straight and. Why. But it's just this idea in my head that I have to behave a certain way around a certain person. And I don't know if it's, like, out of, like, respect or reverence.

[Esther Povitsky]

You're kind of not wrong with that. Because the first, like, one of the first times Bill Burr, like, ever talked to me was, like, 15 years ago at the improv. And he's the only person that ever, like, called me out. He was like, stop acting so awkward. Everyone likes you. And it was like, oh, they're like a real person, like, gave his take on how I am.

[Bobby Lee]

Yeah.

[Esther Povitsky]

Almost like putting me in my place. But it was funny. I don't know. So I think you should have tucked your shirt, and I think that was smart.

[Bobby Lee]

Yeah. It's like not wearing a. A hat at dinner. Or isn't that some, like, respectful thing that you're not supposed to wear?

[Esther Povitsky]

Yes. My parents never taught me any manners. Do you have manners?

[Dax Flame]

I think so.

[Esther Povitsky]

Yeah.

[Dax Flame]

Yeah.

[Bobby Lee]

Do you have table banners?

[Dax Flame]

I don't think, like, in terms of, like, not putting your elbows on the table or using the right fork or anything. Like, I. I don't think I do those things, but, like, I. Yeah, I Don't think you would notice anything weird if I had dinner? Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. I don't know.

[Bobby Lee]

Are you sloppy at the table?

[Esther Povitsky]

I like to eat with my hands in times when you probably wouldn't expect that.

[Bobby Lee]

I, for some reason, couldn't love you.

[Esther Povitsky]

More for saying that.

[Bobby Lee]

My dad was very tough on table etiquette and table manners. So I deviated to the opposite way. I went.

[Dax Flame]

Okay.

[Bobby Lee]

He was very, you know, he taught us how to sit up straight. You can't even say, may I go to the restroom? You had to use like a code sentence and it had me, may I pick up some flowers? Because otherwise it was like crude, rude. And so we had to know proper, like, not food to spoon, spoon to face. Right. You can't go and attack forward. You gotta bring the food to your face type. But I hated that so much. And I also come. My mom, on the other hand, eats with her hands because we're Filipino. So my whole life it was just this battle at the table because I would put my knee up like this, I do this, and I would eat this way. And it drove my dad absolutely nuts.

[Esther Povitsky]

But you, so you, you ate out.

[Bobby Lee]

Pussy out, pussy out. So sloppy. And I feel like you should be able to eat however you want to eat. It's your experience after all.

[Esther Povitsky]

Thank you, mother. Are we having bananas?

[Bobby Lee]

Eat bananas on the show. Are sick?

[Dax Flame]

No, I was sick like a month ago and I've had like cough for like a month. But yeah, like just barely now. Yeah.

[Bobby Lee]

I heard whatever was going around the flu a was absolutely brutal and that it left people like not being able to walk.

[Dax Flame]

Dang.

[Bobby Lee]

Well, I hope you get your sense of smell back.

[Dax Flame]

Thank you.

[Bobby Lee]

Maybe it'll reverse it.

[Dax Flame]

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

[Esther Povitsky]

Should we look at some questions? We have some advice questions from our listeners.

[Dax Flame]

Okay. And so this is just. Just if I want it.

[Esther Povitsky]

Yeah, if you want it.

[Bobby Lee]

You don't have to have it. Cool.

[Esther Povitsky]

Cool.

[Bobby Lee]

I'm the only pig in the house. I never not eat it. Do you think you can help us give advice?

[Dax Flame]

Yeah.

[Esther Povitsky]

Okay, let's look.

[Bobby Lee]

Here we go.

[Esther Povitsky]

As are the initials, it starts with. I need some advice on how I've been accepting the absence of a dot, dot, okay, comma, I am in a sexless long term relationship with my boyfriend that I love. We live together and have cute forms of intimacy that are still present but comma, I feel sad when I think about the last time I've been touched or appreciated sexually. Dash. Because in my mind, I didn't know that was the start Of a dry spell. Thanks, y'all. I literally don't know who the else to turn to. Love you all. That includes donut. Thank you. As this is such a vulnerable. Good question.

[Bobby Lee]

Why are you looking at me?

[Esther Povitsky]

Sexless? No, we're in a sexless marriage with each other.

[Bobby Lee]

We are in a sexless marriage, and.

[Esther Povitsky]

It'S really frustrating me.

[Bobby Lee]

What do you think, Dax?

[Dax Flame]

So the question is they're trying to create more intimacy, I think sexual and. Oh, okay. I don't know. Yeah. Maybe just ask them if they want to. Yeah. Have sex.

[Esther Povitsky]

Yeah. The first thing I would say to just, like, reassure yourself is that I think it can go up and down. Like, you can have different. We've talked about this. Different sexual seasons. You could be in, like, a really sexy season, and then it takes a dip. So. But I would say that it feels like the most important thing here is actually what Dax was just get went straight to, which is, like, communicate with your partner. Like, communication about sex is very uncomfortable for a lot of people, and it can be tricky, but it's like the only way out is through. It's like just being direct and bringing it up and having a conversation.

[Bobby Lee]

I think the problem with that and having lived through this very specific thing is it's really unsexy to have to tell your partner to ask them to initiate. It's almost like, hey, can you show me that you desire me Is really, like, the most horrible feeling. And I've asked that exact question, and it. It puts me in a more masculine kind of. It just makes me feel like, ugh. Like, I'm literally begging someone to like me.

[Esther Povitsky]

Whoa.

[Bobby Lee]

Or to view me in this way. I don't know. So this is very tricky, and I totally know how. I don't have the solution to this other than maybe write it out. And maybe it is just a dry season and maybe it'll come back online.

[Esther Povitsky]

Down the road or, like, play games.

[Bobby Lee]

This I like.

[Esther Povitsky]

Tell me, like, I don't know, like, start being cold and distant. Pull away.

[Bobby Lee]

You know, bring games back. Bring games back. I think you're right. I think everyone is trying to be a little bit too healthy these days. Communicate. Communicate that. Bring the games back. Tell me more.

[Esther Povitsky]

Or, like, accidentally, you know, be wearing something really sexy that, like, they accidentally see. I feel like a see through shirt, you know, like, go to bed in, like, a form fitting, like, white, thin shirt could, like, really pop things off or, like, bend over. You know what I mean?

[Bobby Lee]

Like, oh, those kind of games. I thought you were. No, I was like wear a see through shirt and then be like going out with a girl. See you later.

[Esther Povitsky]

Okay. Combine them. Yeah, do that.

[Bobby Lee]

Not just walking around hoping he notices your tits.

[Esther Povitsky]

Well, I was thinking more like cartoon, like Pepe Le Pew. Like just like be like accidentally sexy.

[Bobby Lee]

I just. When you have.

[Esther Povitsky]

And then be mean when you have.

[Bobby Lee]

Low blood pressure like me, it's. It's all very hard to do.

[Esther Povitsky]

What do you think? Help us. What do you think of what we're saying?

[Dax Flame]

I don't have any, like, really good, good help to give, like in that situation. Yeah. Yeah. I haven't been in a long term relationship, so I feel like I can't. I can't help.

[Esther Povitsky]

Okay.

[Dax Flame]

Unfortunately.

[Esther Povitsky]

Okay.

[Bobby Lee]

Mm.

[Esther Povitsky]

Could you imagine if you were the guy in that relationship, what you think she should do?

[Dax Flame]

Just so if. Well, if maybe. So why is the guy not initiating it? Is the question kind of. So maybe do people just kind of like in a longer term relationship, their attraction just dips.

[Bobby Lee]

It can. Or in my case mine was addicted to porn.

[Dax Flame]

Okay. Okay.

[Bobby Lee]

So he was replacing my body with that.

[Dax Flame]

So she could ask, what's the reason?

[Bobby Lee]

Great. Yes. What's the reason?

[Dax Flame]

Unless that's an awkward question.

[Bobby Lee]

No, I think that's a good start.

[Dax Flame]

She could, yeah. Try to see if he's like, looking at too much porn or something or.

[Esther Povitsky]

Or suggest, like, let's take a week off from porn.

[Bobby Lee]

Mm.

[Dax Flame]

Maybe ask and I guess so. Yeah.

[Bobby Lee]

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[Esther Povitsky]

The initials here are KK I've had a huge high school style crush on a woman parentheses in love for years, but I'm not sure if they know that I exist. Sometimes I think she knows that I exist but pretends not to know that I exist. Should I give up and Move on or should I keep hope?

[Bobby Lee]

Have you ever had just a huge crush on someone and them just not even know you're around or you exist?

[Dax Flame]

Yeah, maybe in high school.

[Bobby Lee]

What was that like?

[Dax Flame]

Fine.

[Bobby Lee]

Did it hurt?

[Dax Flame]

Hmm? I don't think it hurt. Yeah. Yeah.

[Bobby Lee]

Did you ever try to make any moves or show her that, hey, I have a crush on you?

[Dax Flame]

I think so. Well, actually, maybe not like a direct asking out or anything, so maybe not. This person's probably an, oh, wait, I'm high school style crush. So that must mean they're out of high school and they're an adult, so maybe they should ask.

[Esther Povitsky]

Ask her out maybe. What's interesting to me about this is that how do you not know if someone knows you exist or not? Like, or maybe you're the person is just speaking hyperbolically.

[Dax Flame]

Yeah, probably that.

[Esther Povitsky]

Yeah.

[Dax Flame]

Okay, but pretend. Or I think she knows I exist but pretends to not. Well, actually, that is confusing, I think.

[Bobby Lee]

Take a swing.

[Esther Povitsky]

Yeah. Because I recently had this happen where I was with. I had met up with some friends from high school, and one of them was like, oh, yeah, I always had a crush on you in high school. And I was like, I was so surprised. I'm just like, why didn't you say anything? And maybe it was the right thing to do, to not say anything. But as the receiver being on the receiving end of the crush, I'm like, I would have loved to know someone had a crush on me.

[Bobby Lee]

Same. I mean, let's suppose I'm this girl, right? And I don't know that he exists, and one day he's like, let me take you out. That even if my answer was no, I would be thoroughly flattered as long as he wasn't some creep and he wasn't weird about it.

[Esther Povitsky]

Or you go the midway version of.

[Bobby Lee]

That, which is games. More games.

[Esther Povitsky]

No, no, it's not a game. You test the waters. Like, just approach this person as a friend because you know what? The truth is, you don't know if you're gonna even like them. So be like, I, I have a crush on this person because they're cute, but I don't even know what their personality is. Why don't I see if they have a good personality and just be like, hey, just sort of how you would get to know a friend.

[Bobby Lee]

Yeah, that is a little shady if you do, because that. That reads is a little bit of a long con. So recently I had been friends with a. A guy for maybe a good 15 years now. Friends with his wife. He's come around for Christmas, he's come around for holidays with his wife, who I love. They recently separated. And a couple months ago, I get this long, unhinged DM basically saying, I've split up with her, talking shit about her, and in that same paragraph, basically saying, I've always found you attractive. And basically taking a swing. And so I blocked him. And I immediately was like, I'm done with this friendship, mind you. It was like a 15 year long friendship.

[Esther Povitsky]

Why do I have the biggest smile on my face? Because that's so cool that someone said they've always found you attractive.

[Bobby Lee]

The shady part was him trashing his.

[Esther Povitsky]

Ex a hundred percent. It's weird. And it's, it's. It. There's just something so insecure in me that is like, that must be so cool that you're so pretty. That they're people that have always, you know.

[Bobby Lee]

But it's rude.

[Esther Povitsky]

Yeah.

[Bobby Lee]

Because he's been around, like, I know his kids. You know what I mean? Like, like, thank you. But that's. That to me is a long con. Creepy. That's why I say, don't. Don't pretend we're friends if we're not friends. And then don't trash your ex and then say you like me. That's weird. But for this person, I would say, take a swing. What are you gonna like? As long as, you know, you have to be sure that you can handle the rejection and saying, you know what? What have I got to lose? I like this person. Let me ask her out, and if it's a no, it's a no, then move on.

[Esther Povitsky]

How do you feel about this? Like, from the guy's perspective, have you.

[Bobby Lee]

Ever taken a swing like this where you're like, hey, I like this person. Let me ask him out directly.

[Dax Flame]

Hmm. I can't think of a specific time, so. Not really. But I think that you should do that if you're brave enough to do that.

[Bobby Lee]

Do you feel like you're brave enough to do that?

[Dax Flame]

If I had a big crush on someone, like how they're describing it, then I would, I think I would do that. Yeah. Yeah. But maybe you said become friends first.

[Esther Povitsky]

Yeah.

[Dax Flame]

I actually don't think that's a bad idea. You said that might be a bad idea.

[Bobby Lee]

If there is an ulterior motive and then you're just pretending to become friends, or if you sincerely want to be their friend, that's a different story. But if you're using a fake friendship to eventually work your way into asking.

[Esther Povitsky]

Them out, I see How There is a difference.

[Bobby Lee]

But don't be that guy.

[Esther Povitsky]

No, I know, but. But I think I always go back to the example, which I've talked about is, like, my high school crush. I had previously thought that he rejected me, so that when I finally met him from. After obsessing over him for two years from afar, I felt that he already had rejected me. So I wasn't a genuine. Honestly, like, I can't be with this person, so I'm just going to be his friend. And so I guess that's a little bit of a different play there because.

[Bobby Lee]

You'Re saying, I thought it was over. Become friends anyways and see if you even like them. Yeah.

[Esther Povitsky]

Like, okay, for example, I. So I like to set my friends up. I wish I didn't, because it's just.

[Bobby Lee]

You did this.

[Esther Povitsky]

I do this all the time.

[Bobby Lee]

Wait. You're not bad.

[Esther Povitsky]

When I set people up, what I like to do is I like to say, just meet as friends. Just take this meeting. It's a general meeting. This is not a date. Take the date out of it. Date. Be. Going on a, like, date with someone is so scary to me. I've still never even really done it. And I would say just, like, meet as friends. I think that's from a. Even just from a place of humanity, it makes the most sense. Like, take the. I think that's why, like, dating apps are so. It must be so weird because you're meeting this person with so much pressure. Like, oh, am I going to start a family with you? Are we going to be boyfriend and girlfriend? Are we going to have sex? Like, there's so much pressure on it. Take all that pressure off and just, like, meet a human. And I know. I feel so guilty even saying this from, like, the place of privilege where, like, I'm not in the dating scene. I know the dating scene, like, has so many pitfalls right now, but I'm just trying to help. I'm just trying to help. So if it seems like I don't know what I'm saying, that's also completely valid.

[Bobby Lee]

Are you on dating apps?

[Dax Flame]

Yes.

[Bobby Lee]

Which ones?

[Dax Flame]

Hinge and Tinder.

[Bobby Lee]

Oh, whoa. Tinder. Okay.

[Dax Flame]

Yeah. But I don't really go on dates at all, but I did go on one day at the beginning of this year, and then I got banned from Hinge. But then they put me back on because I appealed it because they said I was doing impersonation, but then I wasn't doing impersonation. They just thought I was. Someone thought I was, I think. And Then. So now I'm back on there as of a few days ago. But I don't really ever go on dates.

[Bobby Lee]

Do you like to be set up?

[Dax Flame]

I don't think I ever have been.

[Esther Povitsky]

Oh, my God. I have someone to set you up with.

[Bobby Lee]

Would you be weird if we maybe tried to set you up?

[Esther Povitsky]

Can I set you up?

[Dax Flame]

Who would it be?

[Bobby Lee]

Yeah, we'll whisper. We'll leave it out.

[Esther Povitsky]

No, I'm not going to even say it out loud. I. I want to. I want to actually. I want to just like take this and go home with and. And figure it out because I feel.

[Bobby Lee]

Like I already know.

[Esther Povitsky]

Don't say it. But I won't say a hint.

[Bobby Lee]

No, we'll talk about.

[Esther Povitsky]

Is it someone that was at my birthday?

[Bobby Lee]

Yeah.

[Esther Povitsky]

Okay.

[Bobby Lee]

Right?

[Esther Povitsky]

Yeah.

[Bobby Lee]

Okay. Would you. Would you. Would you be down with that?

[Dax Flame]

Yeah.

[Bobby Lee]

And do you have a type in mind? Like what kind of. What are you into?

[Dax Flame]

I. I don't think I have a specific thing that I'm into. Yeah. Or like a specific, like, hairstyle or anything like that? Yeah.

[Bobby Lee]

What about, like, personality wise?

[Dax Flame]

I don't know if I have a specific personality type as well. Yeah. Yeah.

[Bobby Lee]

Okay. What about. Do you have to have similar hobbies or things in common?

[Dax Flame]

No.

[Bobby Lee]

So she could be an avid skydiver.

[Dax Flame]

Yeah.

[Bobby Lee]

And you'd be like, okay, I'd be interested.

[Dax Flame]

Yeah.

[Bobby Lee]

What about if she was an Olympic boxer?

[Dax Flame]

Yeah, that would be okay.

[Bobby Lee]

Do you have a physical type?

[Dax Flame]

No.

[Esther Povitsky]

I think that's a good answer because who wants to hear a guy be like, I like blondes. You know, I can't hear that again in life. I appreciate that you don't have a type.

[Dax Flame]

Thank you.

[Esther Povitsky]

Yeah.

[Bobby Lee]

Somehow I don't get that same respect.

[Esther Povitsky]

What do you mean?

[Bobby Lee]

Because I don't. I clearly don't have a type. It's like the whole spectrum. Right.

[Esther Povitsky]

I feel like you do have a type.

[Bobby Lee]

What's my type?

[Esther Povitsky]

Odd. It's just odd. I also think that having a type is juvenile.

[Bobby Lee]

Yeah.

[Esther Povitsky]

I think it's outdated. And I think that the truth is, is that you can meet someone and have a connection with them and it doesn't matter.

[Bobby Lee]

The.

[Esther Povitsky]

The type.

[Bobby Lee]

100.

[Esther Povitsky]

You know, I don't know. Sure.

[Bobby Lee]

People don't want to believe that coming from a girl either. Perfect example. Like, it was hard for people to believe that I was in love. In love with Bobby.

[Esther Povitsky]

I know. Which. That's them projecting that they don't think he's a hot guy, which he is. He is. I'm not into Bobby. But I absolutely see how he's hot.

[Bobby Lee]

Do you think Bobby's hot?

[Dax Flame]

I'm not attracted to guys, but if I was, then maybe I would be attracted to him. I think he's. Yeah. Attractive.

[Bobby Lee]

Great style too.

[Esther Povitsky]

I just, the more I think about it, I think having a type, it sounds and feels really juvenile. It's like, where does that come from? Oh, I had a crush on Jessica Alba in high school and so I want to meet a girl like her. Like what? What like? Or. Or like my mom is brunette, so I like blondes. Like, what is it? It feels like it just comes from it. How could having a type come from anything good?

[Bobby Lee]

Well, having gone to war with Asia Files.

[Esther Povitsky]

Uh huh.

[Bobby Lee]

And White dudes that. Hold on.

[Esther Povitsky]

Dax and I both need a sip of water for this.

[Dax Flame]

Can you do the glug, glug, glug sound effect on this podcast?

[Bobby Lee]

Yes.

[Esther Povitsky]

No, we don't.

[Bobby Lee]

I said you can.

[Esther Povitsky]

Oh.

[Bobby Lee]

You know, people in my life who've been like, I don't know what it is. I'm just attracted to Asian girls and Asian girls only. And it upsets me. But the way they justify it is like, my body just has a reaction. It's just what I like. It's what I like and my body.

[Esther Povitsky]

But I feel like you're your body, bro.

[Bobby Lee]

I know, right? You're not. Like, I can't help what my dick responds to, but that's what they say, right? Like, I can't help what I like. And there is a double standard because I feel like when girls talk about, you know, their type, it's like 6, 4 and this and this somehow like they sort of get a pass.

[Esther Povitsky]

But I'm here to call that out too. That's juvenile. I think the whole like, I need a guy who's super tall is ridiculous.

[Bobby Lee]

But may I say, may I add.

[Esther Povitsky]

And wait till you're giving birth to that tall guy's baby. You're not going to be happy.

[Bobby Lee]

I do get it from the perspective of someone, like, I have a friend. She is a bigger girl, a thicker girl, and she's just like, I like the idea of my husband being able to carry me to safety.

[Esther Povitsky]

Yeah, that's true.

[Bobby Lee]

If I have to.

[Esther Povitsky]

Yeah.

[Bobby Lee]

And someone, a short king perhaps could not. And that's her whole reasoning behind it where it's like, I just need the brawn to pull me out of a burning house.

[Esther Povitsky]

I guess it is shitty to judge people for what they're into in any way, because it's not.

[Bobby Lee]

If it's a Guy who just likes Asian girls. You can judge them all you want. That's weird. That's exoticizing. It's creepy to me.

[Esther Povitsky]

Fair enough. Okay, let's go to another question.

[Bobby Lee]

Are you okay?

[Dax Flame]

Yeah. Yeah.

[Bobby Lee]

Just checking in.

[Esther Povitsky]

Okay. I feel like Dax. Dax can help on this one. The initials are G. I have two sisters who don't speak to each other, and I'm stuck in the middle of a. With a good relationship with both. They both want me to take a trip in the next few months and I can only afford one of the trips, so I can't do both. Neither of them is aware of this predicament.

[Dax Flame]

So that person has to figure out which sister to take to choose.

[Bobby Lee]

Yeah. Which trip to go on with which sister.

[Dax Flame]

Maybe just say that you need a solo trip.

[Esther Povitsky]

Oh, like, so you don't have to choose. But what would you do in general if you had two sisters that weren't talking? Because that's like stressful and you want.

[Dax Flame]

Try to reconnect them.

[Esther Povitsky]

Yeah.

[Bobby Lee]

How?

[Esther Povitsky]

Set a trap.

[Dax Flame]

Oh, parent trap style.

[Bobby Lee]

So take. Do the trip and have them both join you without them knowing. Well, you just.

[Dax Flame]

Then they'd be mad at you as well.

[Bobby Lee]

Then you'd have no sisters.

[Esther Povitsky]

I don't know. It stresses me out so much because I really don't like when people aren't getting along and I want them to get along. It feels like triggering or something for me.

[Dax Flame]

What do you do?

[Bobby Lee]

Wait, you have a dimple.

[Esther Povitsky]

Me?

[Bobby Lee]

You do?

[Esther Povitsky]

Where?

[Bobby Lee]

Do that again on this side. The other side. Why are you that side?

[Esther Povitsky]

Maybe it's just cellulite on your face. Yeah, I have a chunky face.

[Bobby Lee]

No, no, you have a dimple when you do this. Not like that.

[Esther Povitsky]

Okay. Too much retention on my face.

[Bobby Lee]

It's so cute. I never noticed it before.

[Esther Povitsky]

Thank you, work crush. What would I do? I would honestly be terrified. First of all, there's nothing scarier in this whole world than sisters. And I, I, I would be really scared. And I think I would just. I don't know. What would you do?

[Bobby Lee]

I'm recently in a sister spat.

[Esther Povitsky]

What?

[Bobby Lee]

And my. I'm in a sister spat with my sister in the Philippines. Huge one. Currently not talking. But that's okay. We'll swing back around and talk again months from now. But my other sister was initially in the middle of it and she basic. That sister from the Philippines tried to get my sister on her side and my sister was like, don't drag me into this shit. Like not my business, blah, blah, blah. But then she did Something so amazing. Which was? She then decided that that sister was wrong and then fully defended me and then wrote her a scathing email. Now she's on my side.

[Esther Povitsky]

Whoa.

[Bobby Lee]

So, I don't know. Pick a side, I guess. Don't be in the middle.

[Esther Povitsky]

Pick a side.

[Bobby Lee]

Figure out, just, you know, write it all down. Someone is wrong here. Someone is wrong. Someone has hurt someone really bad more than the other. And pick whatever side is better. That's my answer.

[Esther Povitsky]

If you. If. If.

[Bobby Lee]

I hate people who play too neutral. It drives me mad.

[Esther Povitsky]

If me and Kalila were your sisters, who would you pick?

[Dax Flame]

What happened?

[Bobby Lee]

We're your sisters, hypothetically.

[Esther Povitsky]

And we don't like each other.

[Bobby Lee]

How would you bring us together?

[Esther Povitsky]

You don't even know why we don't like each other.

[Dax Flame]

So first I'll ask. So, what's your side of the story?

[Bobby Lee]

My side of the story is I just feel like she's been nitpicking my outfits lately.

[Dax Flame]

Okay.

[Bobby Lee]

And the way I look, and then.

[Dax Flame]

What's your side?

[Esther Povitsky]

She looks like shit. And I just want her to be her best self and. Because I love her, because she's my sister. So I just want what's best for her.

[Bobby Lee]

And I'm just going through a slump, a depressive slump. And I just want the freedom to be sloppy for a while.

[Esther Povitsky]

But how long is a while?

[Bobby Lee]

It's been a year.

[Esther Povitsky]

You know what I'm saying? That's too long.

[Dax Flame]

So you think that different clothes will make her happier?

[Esther Povitsky]

Yeah.

[Dax Flame]

Do you think different clothes would make you happier?

[Bobby Lee]

I do think she's right in that I do want to get back out there and date again and be social again. I just don't have the energy. And I also don't have the money for expensive clothes.

[Dax Flame]

So she doesn't have those clothes. So what do you say to that?

[Esther Povitsky]

I think she could figure out a way to get them.

[Dax Flame]

How?

[Esther Povitsky]

Get a second job.

[Dax Flame]

So would you get a second job?

[Bobby Lee]

I would, except my mental health is really just not optimal right now, and that would cause further stress.

[Dax Flame]

Then what do you think about that?

[Esther Povitsky]

I don't know. I think I'm putting my. My drawing my line in the sand here.

[Dax Flame]

And so.

[Esther Povitsky]

It'S not up to me to figure out how for her to look better. It's just for me to tell her she needs to look better.

[Dax Flame]

Because you think that will make her happier?

[Esther Povitsky]

Yeah.

[Dax Flame]

But you're mad at her because she's saying that.

[Bobby Lee]

Yeah, I'm mad because I just don't have it in me to look better than I currently am.

[Dax Flame]

Why are you so stressed about that? Because you think it will make her happier?

[Esther Povitsky]

She knows she looks bad.

[Bobby Lee]

I do know. I look. I know I look bad, but bad is where I need to be right now.

[Dax Flame]

Maybe it will work itself out naturally just with time.

[Bobby Lee]

Why don't you offer your services, bitch? Help me out. Give me your clothes.

[Esther Povitsky]

Because, bitch, you know how to look best. And wait, you're supposed to be mediocre.

[Dax Flame]

I don't know anything else to do. So basically, it sounds like you just don't have any other options because you just need to get another job, but you don't feel ready, Right?

[Bobby Lee]

Correct.

[Dax Flame]

Well, okay, maybe you should just stop criticizing her because she already knows what you're saying.

[Esther Povitsky]

Okay. Okay.

[Dax Flame]

What would you have done in that situation to mediate that?

[Esther Povitsky]

I don't know. Again, sisters fighting is. There's nothing scarier on this planet.

[Bobby Lee]

To me, I don't find it that scary, no matter what. Well, at least in my family, it's like, we'll come back together.

[Esther Povitsky]

That's true.

[Bobby Lee]

There's no not coming back together. There's a safety in my sisterhood to know that. We're just going through it right now, but we'll come back around.

[Esther Povitsky]

I feel like I have that safety with my parents, but with my sister, it feels a little bit realer or something. I don't know. Like, my favorite thing is to scream at my dad. I don't know why. I love screaming at, like an 81 year old frail man. It just like, makes me feel, like, powerful and safe.

[Bobby Lee]

I get that.

[Esther Povitsky]

Yeah. And because it's like, I know that we're good.

[Bobby Lee]

I yelled at my mom the other night.

[Esther Povitsky]

Sick.

[Bobby Lee]

Middle of the night. I asked her to help me out and put a pillow behind my head. My hands are full. I said, she's, like stumbling around in the dark. I said, I need two pillows behind my head. Can you help me out? And she's. She's losing her hearing. So I said it louder and louder and I said it six times and I finally just, like, screamed it out. And I have no regrets. That's just how. That's the safety of. Of that kind of relationship.

[Esther Povitsky]

Yeah.

[Bobby Lee]

And she was just like, okay, cool. She's just having a moment. She's screaming for a pillow. We'll get through this. Is that how you feel with your frail dad?

[Esther Povitsky]

Yeah. And I guess with my mom, too. It's like the. Her latest thing is, like, getting me to renew my passport.

[Bobby Lee]

Oh, I need to renew my passport. I'm in the middle of this crisis myself.

[Esther Povitsky]

Yeah. And it's like every day she brings it up, right? And I'm just like, this is annoying. I don't know. But I. It does fill me with rage.

[Bobby Lee]

I can take your passport picture.

[Esther Povitsky]

You can?

[Bobby Lee]

Yeah.

[Esther Povitsky]

That's because that's my hang up.

[Bobby Lee]

Yeah. You do it at home. You can do it on an iPhone.

[Esther Povitsky]

But it seems stressful.

[Bobby Lee]

Oh, it's the white background, baby. What's so stressful about that?

[Esther Povitsky]

Okay. We have a lot of wallpaper, actually. That's what's stressful about it.

[Bobby Lee]

That is true. You do not have a single white wall in your home.

[Esther Povitsky]

I don't know that we do.

[Bobby Lee]

Do you have a passport?

[Dax Flame]

Oh, yeah. Yeah.

[Bobby Lee]

Do you like your passport picture?

[Dax Flame]

I think it's fine. You could probably take it here. There's a couple white backgrounds.

[Esther Povitsky]

You have a good eye for white backgrounds.

[Dax Flame]

I often use them for filming intros.

[Bobby Lee]

Wait, Esther, when are you leaving the country?

[Esther Povitsky]

I'm not.

[Bobby Lee]

You just need to renew because they.

[Esther Povitsky]

Say that if you don't have the real ID by May, then you have to have your passport to fly. And it seems a little easier for me to get a passport renewed than to figure out a real id.

[Bobby Lee]

You should have had that. What's wrong with you? You're in a real ID by now.

[Esther Povitsky]

Are you. Are. Are you fucking serious right now?

[Bobby Lee]

Yeah.

[Esther Povitsky]

Are you. You have one?

[Bobby Lee]

Of course. They were telling us since the pandemic to get a real ID to travel. Yeah.

[Esther Povitsky]

Do you have a real id?

[Dax Flame]

I think so.

[Esther Povitsky]

Wait a second. What? Wait. Fuck off. You guys all have real IDs?

[Bobby Lee]

There was. We all got the memo. It was necessary, like, four years ago. Yeah.

[Esther Povitsky]

Then they kept saying, nevermind, never mind, it's fine. So you have, in addition to your driver's license, a separate id.

[Bobby Lee]

A real id? Yes.

[Dax Flame]

Oh, is it not your driver's license?

[Bobby Lee]

Let me see it. Your driver's license has to be a certain kind of real id.

[Esther Povitsky]

Please sound off in the comments if you have a real id. Because every time I saw those signs, then they would say, the deadline has been extended. So I'm like, oh, this is fake. Like, they're just. I don't know. I just thought it was a complete scam. You all have one. Is it the same. Is it a separate. No, it's the same thing.

[Bobby Lee]

It just says real id. And it's your driver's license. Yeah, it's your driver's license. It says real id.

[Esther Povitsky]

What the fuck does that. What is that? Why?

[Bobby Lee]

We're just Sheep, we were told. And we follow.

[Esther Povitsky]

I'm Jewish. I have to be careful that it's not like they're starting the next holocaust. And this is how.

[Bobby Lee]

That is a good point.

[Esther Povitsky]

So I had to. I have to question everything. Lucky for you guys to Asian we.

[Bobby Lee]

I also have global entry.

[Esther Povitsky]

Wow, you're fancy.

[Bobby Lee]

Yeah.

[Esther Povitsky]

Does he have a real id?

[Bobby Lee]

I'm pretty sure, yeah.

[Esther Povitsky]

What the fuck is going on? How did. I want to go home.

[Bobby Lee]

Okay, final question. I have a friend or family member that's in a cult pyramid scheme. What would you do, Dax?

[Dax Flame]

Just try to convince them to get out of it.

[Esther Povitsky]

What would you say?

[Dax Flame]

Maybe here's what's happened to previous people in these situations and that could happen to you as well.

[Bobby Lee]

What if they've been completely brainwashed?

[Dax Flame]

I. I don't. I don't know how you would get through in that scenario.

[Bobby Lee]

What if I tell you Bhagwan is now my lord and savior and he is he. I will do anything he says, including. Well, no. That's a little graphic. I won't do it. I won't say it. I don't know why I went there.

[Esther Povitsky]

Oh, my God. You. Then you said it. You said it still.

[Bobby Lee]

I know, but I.

[Esther Povitsky]

Just because you said it in the side voice doesn't mean you didn't fucking say it.

[Bobby Lee]

I don't know why I went there, but I'll do anything he says.

[Esther Povitsky]

We all know what.

[Dax Flame]

Don't do that. Maybe. Why. Why did you choose this person to follow?

[Bobby Lee]

I think he is enlightened. I think he is. He is the prophecy. He knows the end of times. He knows he has all the answers. And I feel. I feel great being in his presence.

[Dax Flame]

I. What would you say? I'm not sure. I don't know how to convince some.

[Esther Povitsky]

I would just say, go on then. You're a fucking freak anyway. Just go.

[Bobby Lee]

But what if. Dax, I'll do you one better. What if you know that we're in 10 days, we all plan on wearing purple Nikes and drinking a cocktail and doing a mass unaliving. So in 10 days, you may lose someone you really, really love if you don't pull them out of this cult.

[Dax Flame]

Maybe. What's. What's your favorite thing to do?

[Bobby Lee]

Dive in the ocean.

[Dax Flame]

Do you want to go diving?

[Bobby Lee]

I would love to go diving, Dax.

[Dax Flame]

So then, like, try to convince them to go on a trip instead or something like that?

[Bobby Lee]

That is the best answer ever.

[Dax Flame]

But it might not work.

[Bobby Lee]

It will work. Okay. For someone like me, because that totally brings me Back to who I am at my core. That is my most beloved thing. And if you take me out to dive, I will. My ears are open to you.

[Dax Flame]

Okay.

[Bobby Lee]

Brilliant.

[Esther Povitsky]

Wow.

[Bobby Lee]

Esther dancing?

[Esther Povitsky]

Yeah. If you were like, let's go get you into a dance class, I would.

[Dax Flame]

Be like, oh, you love dancing.

[Esther Povitsky]

Yeah.

[Dax Flame]

Cool.

[Esther Povitsky]

Yeah. What do you love?

[Dax Flame]

I like to make videos.

[Esther Povitsky]

Yeah?

[Dax Flame]

Yeah. And you do stand up also?

[Esther Povitsky]

Yeah.

[Dax Flame]

Cool.

[Esther Povitsky]

Yeah.

[Dax Flame]

How long have you done that?

[Esther Povitsky]

Maybe 15 years or so.

[Dax Flame]

Cool.

[Esther Povitsky]

Yeah. Do you do standup as well?

[Dax Flame]

Just as of recently. As of like a year now.

[Esther Povitsky]

Oh, really?

[Dax Flame]

Yeah.

[Esther Povitsky]

Where do you usually perform?

[Dax Flame]

I just always go to an open mic.

[Esther Povitsky]

You do?

[Dax Flame]

Actually, the only time I've done a show was before Bobby and Andrew invited me on. Well, actually I also opened for like a musician and that was like. But I really enjoyed when they asked me to come on. That one was really fun. And that's the only time I've done it outside of an open mic. And that was awesome. Yeah. Yeah.

[Esther Povitsky]

That's cool that you're doing open mics.

[Dax Flame]

Yeah, I always go to the same one. Do you have any tips? Do you do stand up?

[Bobby Lee]

I don't.

[Dax Flame]

Okay. Have you ever.

[Bobby Lee]

Sensitive topic, but yes. So in the beginning of my relationship with Bobby, he sort of forced me to do stand up. And I. I don't think it's because he thought I could do it. I think it's because he wanted me to experience pain.

[Dax Flame]

Okay, so you didn't, like.

[Bobby Lee]

Was brutal. I did open mics. I maybe did a total of seven or eight before I realized, oh, this is a game he's playing.

[Esther Povitsky]

That's a lot.

[Dax Flame]

But did you. So is it. I shouldn't ask you more about it?

[Bobby Lee]

No, no, you can ask me more about it. Yeah.

[Dax Flame]

What? Did you ever get any good laughs?

[Bobby Lee]

Occasionally. Yeah.

[Dax Flame]

But you just didn't enjoy it overall?

[Bobby Lee]

No. I'm not someone who likes to perform on stage at all.

[Dax Flame]

Okay. Okay.

[Bobby Lee]

I think that that was the major hang up. It's like I. I'm not a natural performer.

[Esther Povitsky]

I think that you would make a great stand up and I think my advice is like, get. Just get on stage as much as possible and continue to be yourself.

[Dax Flame]

Okay.

[Esther Povitsky]

And I feel like that's probably what you're doing.

[Dax Flame]

Sometimes I'll get laughs, but I'm not consistent and not like, confident in it. But I enjoy it, so that's why I keep trying it.

[Esther Povitsky]

Yeah.

[Dax Flame]

How long is your longest set?

[Esther Povitsky]

I really am, like different than most comedians because I do prefer less of a. Less time on Stage, Like I'm always the comedian that goes under. Basically my longest set has probably been 45 minutes and that. But that's not typical for me. Like most standard sets are 15 minutes and that's like where I'm most comfortable. And then when I tour on the road, I'll do like 40ish minutes.

[Dax Flame]

Okay.

[Esther Povitsky]

But yeah, I think I've found that there's a certain type of comedian that really likes to go hour, hour. Plus they run the light, they go long. Where I don't. I don't. For whatever reason, like, that's not me.

[Dax Flame]

Could I ask you for a piece of advice or feedback? So I did that one show when they asked me to do it before them and that was really fun. And that was maybe five or six minutes.

[Esther Povitsky]

Yeah.

[Dax Flame]

But then whenever I did the concert one where I went on before the musician, that one was maybe ten minutes of comedy.

[Esther Povitsky]

Yeah.

[Dax Flame]

And I could tell they were getting pretty bored after the like, after like five minutes.

[Esther Povitsky]

Yeah.

[Dax Flame]

So how do you make it interesting for longer?

[Esther Povitsky]

So that's like the big question and that is just getting better at it.

[Dax Flame]

Cool.

[Esther Povitsky]

And it's also. It sounds like you probably just need. It sounds like if I were to guess that you have five great minutes and you need another five great minutes.

[Dax Flame]

Okay.

[Esther Povitsky]

Does that sound right?

[Dax Flame]

I don't know if it's five great minutes. I just. Sometimes the jokes work and I usually try different ones each time.

[Esther Povitsky]

Interesting. I think that getting. Expanding the set is about the material and just getting and finding more material that works.

[Dax Flame]

Cool.

[Esther Povitsky]

Yeah. And just that just comes from writing and trying new stuff on stage and performing.

[Dax Flame]

Okay.

[Esther Povitsky]

Cool.

[Dax Flame]

I feel like when I went to the concert there was an element of like them being bored, but I think like there was half the audience that was still being supportive.

[Esther Povitsky]

Also. I just want to point out something that is very obvious to me when you say that a concert audience is a terrible audience for standup. I like any. This is like something that all stand ups know. Any show where it's also music being that's not a good venue.

[Dax Flame]

Okay.

[Esther Povitsky]

Getting laughs.

[Dax Flame]

Yeah, I think, I think they were pretty amped up, like, because it was like maybe a 30 minute opener, then 10 minutes of content.

[Esther Povitsky]

Really, really hard. It's really hard to follow music. It's really hard when people are interested in music. They don't. They're not there to listen and pay attention, you know?

[Dax Flame]

Yeah.

[Esther Povitsky]

So I wouldn't count that. That I wouldn't put a lot of value on how that went.

[Dax Flame]

Okay. Okay.

[Esther Povitsky]

I would just Count that as, like, an experience, but not the true. Like, yeah, I bet if you did that same 10 minutes, there's a good chance in front of a comedy crowd that it would go much differently, maybe.

[Dax Flame]

So that would be. Yeah, it'd be fun to try that. Try that same 10 minutes in a different situation, just to see how it would go. So is podcasting your main passion?

[Bobby Lee]

I wouldn't say it was a. It's something that I intended as a career. It's something that I stumbled upon a long time ago and it just kind of stuck. It's a accidental. It's an accidental job that turned out, like, pretty great for me.

[Dax Flame]

Cool.

[Bobby Lee]

Cool. Outside of that, I went to nursing school. I have my bachelor's in nursing.

[Dax Flame]

Okay.

[Bobby Lee]

And I wanted to work in the medical field before that. I thought I was going to become a doctor. And then I realized I was really broke and that was not going to be possible for me. And then nursing school, and then I met Bobby, and then he was like, hey, don't be a nurse. Let's just have some fun. And then one day I bought some mics and I hit record and all of this came out of that.

[Dax Flame]

Cool.

[Bobby Lee]

Yeah, cool. And I've kind of just sort of stuck with it. But I also own a hair care brand.

[Dax Flame]

Okay.

[Bobby Lee]

And I'd love to give you product.

[Dax Flame]

Is it that one?

[Bobby Lee]

It is that one. Yeah. So that's. That's what I do in life.

[Dax Flame]

Awesome.

[Esther Povitsky]

Do you have other passions besides making videos?

[Dax Flame]

Hmm, I don't think so. Yeah, I just like to. Yeah. Just try to figure out different types of videos to make. Because previously it's been, like, longer videos and like a game show and stuff. And then lately it's been more, like, exploring different types of comedy. Such as? Yeah, like stand up comedy or, like physical comedy shorts or. Haven't really done many sketches, but this morning I was trying to figure out some new physical comedy video to make. Yeah. Do y'all have any things that come to mind for physical comedy? Like things.

[Esther Povitsky]

Give me an example.

[Dax Flame]

Like, I've done, like, lifting weights, and then you drop it on your foot and then fall down and then like, something happens and then like, or like water watering something with a hose. Step on the hose and like, is it broken? And then the water shoots in your face, like, those kind of things.

[Esther Povitsky]

And that is funny.

[Dax Flame]

Yeah, sorry, I don't know why I'm asking about that, but what do you find funny? I guess just things like that.

[Esther Povitsky]

What about, like, walking into a glass door?

[Dax Flame]

Oh, that would be good. That would probably be too expensive, logistically, to figure out how to do, but that would be awesome if I could do something like that.

[Esther Povitsky]

Or like bowling and then flipping backwards wearing your bowling shoes.

[Dax Flame]

Yeah. Yeah, that. That's good.

[Esther Povitsky]

But these sound like they hurt.

[Dax Flame]

You can fake it.

[Esther Povitsky]

Okay.

[Dax Flame]

Yeah.

[Esther Povitsky]

Okay. Well, I hope you like us.

[Dax Flame]

Yeah. Thanks for having me on. Is that. That's the outro, or is that. Or are you just asking if I like you?

[Esther Povitsky]

Both.

[Dax Flame]

Okay. Yeah. Yeah. Thank you for having me on.

[Bobby Lee]

Gets better.

[Dax Flame]

Thank you. Thank you. It's. It's been way better. Yeah. Yeah. Than it was.

[Bobby Lee]

And thank you for pulling me out of the cult.

[Dax Flame]

For sure.

[Bobby Lee]

Did a great job.

[Esther Povitsky]

Do you think you could see yourself coming back?

[Dax Flame]

Yeah, if y'all would like me to come back. And if you're. Yeah, then. Then I would come back. Yeah.

[Esther Povitsky]

Okay. Yeah, I think we would like that.

[Bobby Lee]

Yeah. Maybe we'll have some, like, games prepared.

[Esther Povitsky]

Oh, I never thought of that.

[Bobby Lee]

Mr. Beast style.

[Esther Povitsky]

Yeah, that would be fun. Well, thank you for coming and taking the time out of your day. Where can people find more of you?

[Dax Flame]

Just on, like, my. I think my tag on most things is just Daxflame or the Daxflame.

[Esther Povitsky]

Okay. And thanks, Slugs, for listening, and we'll see you next week with a brand new episode.

[Dax Flame]

Sat.