Trash Tuesday – “We're Grateful for Jaime García and Ian Fidance”
Hosts: Khalyla Kuhn & Esther Povitsky
Guests: Jaime García, Ian Fidance, Karina
Date: November 25, 2025
Episode Overview
In this special Friendsgiving-themed episode of Trash Tuesday, Khalyla and Esther welcome returning favorites Jaime García and Ian Fidance, plus Jaime’s best friend and roommate Karina. The sluggies get together for games, food, candid banter, and a lot of gratitude, weaving in heartfelt and hilarious conversations about family, relationships, culture, and personal growth. As always, the tone swings from vulnerably real to wildly absurd (and back), as the group navigates a Friendsgiving celebration Trash Tuesday-style.
Key Discussion Points & Highlights
1. Sweater Drama, Food Stealing & Sentimental Trades
[02:12–04:26]
- Khalyla’s fire story leads to a salvaged sweater: She debates whether to let Jaime keep her favorite sweater after he fell in love with it at the studio.
- Esther proposes a “Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants” arrangement, or just taking things back when the original owner wants.
- Jaime recalls a hookup stealing a friend’s sweatshirt – by mistake!
- Funny quote:
- Khalyla: “What about a Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants situation where it’s like, every two weeks it’s his and every two weeks it’s mine?” [02:52]
2. Food Memories & Movie Snacks
[05:53–06:10]
- The group discusses bringing snacks (even wings and pizza) into movies.
- Khalyla: “I think that all of it is not embarrassing.”
- Esther: “No, I like that... But that’s different than, like, we brought our Sprite from home.”
3. Love Lives, Rejection, and Friendship
[06:18–07:07]
- Jaime updates the group—he gave up on dating after being friend-zoned post-soup delivery (previously discussed on Tiger Belly).
- Esther: “Are you still looking for love?”
- Jaime: “No, I gave up on that.”
- Khalyla: “He had an update for you... The girl got mad about that episode. Two days later, she just cut me off.”
4. Thanksgiving Outfits, Church Nostalgia & Religion
[07:12–09:23]
- Fashion for Thanksgiving: Khalyla comes in "church shoes" after misunderstanding the dress code.
- The group reflects on nostalgia for church and changing attitudes toward religion after becoming parents.
- Khalyla: “In my twenties and thirties... very anti God. But then I've been having feelings of nostalgia and tenderness towards the idea of going to Mass...” [07:42]
5. Childhoods & Cultural Roots
[09:09–09:46]
- Jaime and Khalyla swap stories of Catholic upbringing, including circumcision differences in the US vs. Philippines.
6. Thanksgiving Scratchers Game
[10:00–15:30]
- Ian gifts everyone scratch-off lottery tickets.
- Esther: “What do you just... Because you don't buy cigarettes doesn’t mean you can't.”
- Ian: “What happens is you were born poor and you think you have a chance to move classes…” [11:16]
- Khalyla wins $15 and gets extra excited ("I'm really lucky with Scratchers!").
- The group comments on how small wins keep people hooked:
- Ian: “It's just enough to think you should keep playing.” [11:16]
7. Group Gratitude Circle
[15:32–23:53]
- The group plays the “what should everyone be grateful for” game, giving each other compliments (sometimes reluctantly).
- Ian (about Esther): “She's beautiful. She's pregnant. She's loved. She's a great mother…everyone's favorite tiny friend to put in their pocket.” [16:07]
- Esther, on turning 40: “You should be grateful that even at nearing 40, you look like a 12 year old.”
- Ian, quoting Polish lore: “At a certain age, you go from like, oh, I'm 35...the next day you just wake up and you look like 70.” [18:39]
- Ian describes his struggle with mental health through the lens of The Giver:
- “Sometimes I see color and I feel really good, but then it goes back to gray...and I find I see the color when I am living in gratitude.” [21:36]
- Khalyla reflects on parenthood helping her see wonder in small things.
- “The way he looks at a basic piece of lint with excitement…that's really cool.” [23:53]
- Conversation turns to “fun dad” qualifications and caring for pets vs. future kids.
8. Doctors, Specialists, and Medical Anxiety
[30:43–33:14]
- Jaime asks if being referred to a specialist makes a doctor “bad.”
- Group explains U.S. medical specialization.
- Ian: “Would you eat lobster at a diner? No, you go to a seafood restaurant that specializes...” [32:15]
9. Compliments for Ian & Sobriety
[33:21–36:51]
- Khalyla: “There are not a lot of men who wear jewelry that I like, but you pull it off beautifully...You are very uniquely you.” [33:21]
- Ian opens up about sobriety: “Six months.”
- “I'm grateful for the people in my life that love me...and for my sobriety.” [35:47]
10. Cultural Differences: Thanksgiving & Christmas
[37:06–37:51]
- Khalyla’s family never celebrated Thanksgiving in the Philippines—instead, Christmas is a months-long lead up.
- Khalyla: “We have Christmas from July to December.” [37:12]
- Ian: “People in America...put a Christmas tree up in November. It's terrible.”
11. Jaime’s Gratitude and Origin Story
[43:05–44:19 & 45:29–45:46]
- Jaime talks about being grateful for his new career and the podcasting opportunities thanks to Ralph, Bobby—and, eventually, Khalyla.
- “I did come out of nowhere and it was thanks to Ralph... Ralph and Bobby...they put me on.” [43:08]
12. Taco Bell, Food Growth & Ex-Lovers
[44:34–46:05]
- Jaime evolves from eating only tenders and fries to trying sushi and fish.
- Group agrees on being grateful for ex-lovers:
- Jaime: “You know, we should all be grateful for our ex lovers…They shaped us into who we are.” [45:45]
- Khalyla: “Except if they were like, narcissistic, or like, punched you in the mouth—you can rot in hell!”
13. Jaime's Unfinished Love, Regret & Prison Pen Pal Drama
[46:05–54:31]
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Jaime confesses lingering feelings for his ex (the one he called from Mexico).
- Karina confirms he’s not over her.
- Karina reveals the ex now corresponds with a man in prison who sends her origami gifts via “homeboys.”
- The hosts dissect the psychology of why women sometimes prefer distant/unavailable men, especially those in prison.
- Jaime admits he failed to meet her needs for gifts and acts of service, her “love language."
Notable Quotes:
- “I think she met somebody. She has a pen pal in prison. Like, girl, what are you doing?” – Jaime [52:13]
- “The allure of him being an inmate is, like, what got her.” – Kalyla [52:38]
14. Karina & Jaime: Friendship Origins
[54:54–56:39]
- Karina and Jaime met via DM for a photography shoot—establishing a non-flirtatious, genuine friendship.
15. Late-episode Games & Dares
[58:12–77:01]
- The group plays a "Truth or Dare" style game picking feathers with challenges:
- Show screen time stats (Khalyla: 5h 38m daily).
- Favorite podcast guest (Ian: "Guar" or Craig Ferguson).
- Read dramatic scenes from films (“Marriage Story” & “White Lotus”).
- Eat an Uncrustable in under 30 seconds (Ian wins).
- Critique every other player in one word (Jaime: “Bitchy”, “Naggy”, “Nose”, etc).
- Call a loved one to express gratitude (Khalyla phones her mom, causing mild panic).
- Best turkey impression competition (Khalyla demonstrates Filipino turkeys: “olok, olok, olok!”)
16. More Food Dares: Serrano Pepper Challenge
[78:29–80:06]
- Jaime reluctantly eats a serrano pepper with encouragement/support from the group (and ice cream ready for relief).
- Khalyla: “If you don’t get a lot of seeds, it won’t be that spicy because the heat is in the seeds.” [79:27]
- Jaime: “Yeah, I don’t eat spicy, so there’s...”
Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments
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On gratitude:
- “Sometimes I see color and I feel really good, but then it goes back to gray...and I find I see the color when I am living in gratitude.” – Ian Fidance [21:36]
- “We should all be grateful for our ex lovers…They shaped us into who we are.” – Jaime García [45:45]
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On regret and personal growth:
- “I was lacking as a boyfriend, because what she wanted from me is...to be a provider. She wanted gifts and the food...her love language.” – Jaime García [53:33]
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On Filipino culture:
- “In the Philippines, we say, oh, look. It's olok, olok, olok, olok. I think pretty accurate [for a turkey sound].” – Khalyla [77:41]
- “We have Christmas from July to December.” – Khalyla [37:12]
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On humor, body image, and friendship:
- “You should be grateful that even at nearing 40, you look like a twelve year old.” – Kalyla [18:12]
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On relationships:
- “It’s unfortunate to really fall in love with someone who just isn’t aligned with your life. And I truly think that can happen.” – Khalyla [50:45]
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On Friendship & the Podcasting Family:
- “You are beloved for all the things you might have grown up insecure about...all the reasons why, like, you're so cool and that you're so loved.” – Khalyla (to Jaime) [39:08]
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On mental health:
- “I needed this. I had a gun in my mouth this morning...So I need to accept the color and accept that I have a very colorful, wonderful life...” – Ian Fidance [21:08]
Breakdown by Timestamp
- [02:11–04:26]: Sweater trade; sentimentalism and stories about hooked-up-steals.
- [06:18–07:07]: Love-life drama—soup incident & getting ghosted.
- [07:42–09:01]: Khalyla’s nostalgia for church.
- [10:00–15:30]: Lottery scratchers, gambling, childhoods.
- [15:32–23:53]: Gratitude circle; deep-dive on age, self-image, group compliments, mental health.
- [30:43–33:14]: Doctors and why referrals aren’t failures.
- [33:21–36:51]: Compliments for Ian; sobriety as gratitude.
- [37:06–37:51]: Thanksgiving vs. Christmas across cultures.
- [43:05–44:19]: Jaime’s gratitude, origin story in podcasting.
- [46:05–54:31]: Jaime’s ex, love languages, prison pen pal story.
- [58:12–77:01]: Truth/dare feather game, acting movie scenes, food races, critiques.
- [78:29–80:06]: Serrano pepper dare.
Representative Tone and Closing Vibe
- Emotionally honest, self-deprecating, and always ready to pivot from sincere sharing to roast humor and back.
- Deep moments are never far from absurdity—wholesome gratitude is balanced by bits about pepper-induced pain, impersonations, and childlike wonder.
- The family vibe—bickering, teasing, and gentle ribbing—proves why the Trash Tuesday universe has such devoted fans.
“I hope you’re surrounded with friends and loved ones and stay cozy and warm. Don't eat peppers. Don't be like these ding dong. We love you and we'll see you next week.”
– Khalyla Kuhn [80:52]