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Julian Bethevoli
I've been blowing my nose a lot today, and I feel like it's going to show up. I feel like I have, like, a Rudolph red nose on the video today.
Patrick Hines
It is a little red. It is, right? Oh, it's so cute, though.
Julian Bethevoli
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Patrick Hines
When it goes or whatever. It's not with this sound.
Julian Bethevoli
Cute. Oh, I love it.
Patrick Hines
Hi. Julian Bethevoli. Hello.
Julian Bethevoli
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Patrick Hines
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Yeah, we just did Stalking Samantha. I also. I wrote some down because we can never think of any.
Patrick Hines
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Julian Bethevoli
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Patrick Hines
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Julian Bethevoli
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Patrick Hines
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Julian Bethevoli
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Patrick Hines
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Julian Bethevoli
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Patrick Hines
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Julian Bethevoli
They're good.
Patrick Hines
They're really, really good. We're also doing this thing now where sometimes in our after parties, we're giving you, like, follow ups to some of the cases that we're covering.
Julian Bethevoli
Yeah. Or deep dives that, you know, rabbit holes we go down or whatever.
Patrick Hines
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Julian Bethevoli
Super easy. We also have a Discord server.
Patrick Hines
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Julian Bethevoli
I know. I googled it today and I was like, is it a channel? Is it a. What is it? But it's like we have a Discord server and then there are channels within the server.
Patrick Hines
I love this.
Julian Bethevoli
I'm in it all the time, but it's. I'm still new.
Patrick Hines
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Julian Bethevoli
It's very fun.
Patrick Hines
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Julian Bethevoli
Yeah, girl.
Patrick Hines
What are we talking about today?
Julian Bethevoli
The Carmen family deaths on Netflix.
Documentary Narrator/Interviewee
The ocean carries a lot of secrets.
Julian Bethevoli
Linda Carmen and her son Nathan left and never returned from a fishing trip near Block Island.
Documentary Narrator/Interviewee
It just gets deeper and deeper.
Julian Bethevoli
The freighter spotted Carmen floating alone in a life raft south of Martha's Vineyard. Carmen's mother remains missing and is presumed dead.
Documentary Narrator/Interviewee
People thought this poor young man lost his mom at sea. Some of his story didn't add up. Nathan was a firstborn grandson of a Greek dynasty. He was number one in grandpa's eyes.
Julian Bethevoli
Linda's father was extremely controlling. When you're a self made millionaire, sure he stepped on a lot of toes.
Documentary Narrator/Interviewee
Linda was very protective over Nathan. I think she'd protect him at all costs.
Julian Bethevoli
This isn't the first time tragedy has hit the Carmen family.
Documentary Narrator/Interviewee
They felt Nathan had murdered his mother and it was grandfather.
Patrick Hines
The ocean is terrifying.
Julian Bethevoli
I've been saying.
Patrick Hines
I know.
Julian Bethevoli
And the thing is, I've been saying this is not a hot take, you know what I mean?
Patrick Hines
The thing that you were saying about the aliens, about how the aliens might be living in the ocean. You could be right. That documentary that we're going to cover eventually about the aliens are living. 80% of the ocean is undiscovered.
Julian Bethevoli
That's huge.
Patrick Hines
And they were saying that like if the aliens are like stockpiling their shit somewhere, it's probably down there.
Julian Bethevoli
Probably.
Patrick Hines
You know what I mean?
Julian Bethevoli
Or the entire universe, which is huge.
Patrick Hines
Or that. Or that.
Julian Bethevoli
Which. I'm just saying that's one ocean on one planet.
Patrick Hines
All I know is that the aliens are here. That's all I know know.
Julian Bethevoli
We're like, do people not believe in aliens?
Patrick Hines
Well, after. What's the documentary called?
Julian Bethevoli
I don't know.
Patrick Hines
The Age of Disclosure. And we've, you and I have already talked about it. We're going to figure out how to cover it. We're going to do it. It is insane.
Julian Bethevoli
Okay.
Patrick Hines
Anyway, back to the Carmen family deaths. We meet Eric from the Coast Guard. We begin in 2016 and he's telling us that the Coast Guard got a call that there was an overdue meaning like a missing or late or hadn't returned vessel in South Kingstown, Rhode Island.
Julian Bethevoli
So Nathan Carmen and his mom Linda, they went to an area south of Block island and now they are missing.
Patrick Hines
Yeah, Nathan's 22, Linda's 54. So Linda, the mom's friend, her friend Sharon is here and she's telling us.
Documentary Narrator/Interviewee
Like they would go on all these fishing trips and just like any other time, they were going to ship out of Rhode island, the marina there.
Patrick Hines
She thought they'd be back the next day around noon.
Julian Bethevoli
This trip was no different from any other of their many, many trips.
Patrick Hines
Yeah, she was supposed to call Sharon around 1 the next day. When Sharon didn't get a call, she called Linda at 4. She's not answering. Sharon calls the cops. Get yourself a Sharon. And Linda, you're a nice Sharon, you'd.
Julian Bethevoli
Call the cops eas. But Linda also, like, we see the text at 10:54 the night before. Linda's like, oh, leaving the dock. I'll be in contact in the morning. Hope you're having a great weekend. Like, the plans were to speak. So when they don't speak, it's extra weird.
Patrick Hines
Makes you wonder later if Linda the mom did that on purpose. Like, just so you know, if I'm not back by this time, it's weird.
Julian Bethevoli
Because that's interesting because Saturday. So Linda sends that the night before at 10:54. And then by Sunday at 5:18, Sharon just texts. Should I worry?
Patrick Hines
Yeah, right. I mean, everyone's a little worried. I know. Also, like, you're on a boat in the middle of the ocean. So, like, I would worry even if she's fine.
Julian Bethevoli
And it's 5:18, even if they went to lunch. Like, that's. What are you doing?
Patrick Hines
There's so much down there that you can't see. That's the whole point of the ocean. I think you know what I mean?
Julian Bethevoli
Yeah. Respect it.
Patrick Hines
I know. Look, when I go on vacation, sometimes we'll like, go on a boat and I'll be swimming in the middle of the ocean. I'm like, what am I doing? What am I doing?
Julian Bethevoli
You hate. I hate open water.
Patrick Hines
I don't.
Julian Bethevoli
Underwater.
Patrick Hines
I like open water, but it's images of dark underwater where you can't see stuff. That really scares the living shit out of me. So when you're swimming, even when you're snorkeling, sometimes when it's too clear, I also don't like it.
Julian Bethevoli
Okay, you can't win.
Patrick Hines
I can't win.
Julian Bethevoli
I think we should just leave the ocean alone.
Patrick Hines
I think you're right. You know what I mean? Only go up to your knees and that's it. That's.
Julian Bethevoli
I love those stories where it's like, orca, like, stole another surfboard. Otters are like, good.
Patrick Hines
I know. I also love seeing the sea.
Julian Bethevoli
I know otters are not in the ocean.
Patrick Hines
I'm just saying I love watching seals jump onto boats to save themselves from the orcas. And then people speed off with the seals on the boat and then when they're safe, they jump back in. Because I don't want to be with the people either.
Julian Bethevoli
It's the circle of life.
Patrick Hines
I know. It is sad.
Julian Bethevoli
Anyway, Sharon calls the police and they put her in touch with the Coast Guard Guard. And the search is immediately underway. The Coast Guard searched the waters off Block island and then Long island, meticulously combing 62,000 square nautical miles, an area larger than the state of Georgia.
Documentary Narrator/Interviewee
We had negative results on day one. After six days, search is called off.
Julian Bethevoli
I googled the nautical mile is based on the Earth's longitude and latitude coordinates.
Patrick Hines
Oh, that makes sense.
Julian Bethevoli
One nautical mile equaling one minute of latitude.
Patrick Hines
Okay.
Julian Bethevoli
You know what I'm saying?
Patrick Hines
We're podcasters. We can't be expected to know that. Is this going to be on the quiz?
Julian Bethevoli
No.
Patrick Hines
Okay. Okay. Thank God. Thank God.
Julian Bethevoli
So it's always just like whatever. So after six days.
Patrick Hines
That's exactly right. That's the right answer. Yeah. It's always like whatever.
Julian Bethevoli
It's a lot of miles and it's scary and terrifying. So after six days, the search is called off and they are missing for eight days.
Patrick Hines
Well, on day eight, Nathan is spotted in a life raft 100 miles off the coast of Martha.
Julian Bethevoli
100 nautical miles.
Patrick Hines
You're right. You're right. You're absolutely.
Julian Bethevoli
This is basically like 115 miles.
Patrick Hines
Exactly.
Julian Bethevoli
That's all said that. I'm just saying I get why.
Patrick Hines
Yeah. We're converting like dollars to pounds all of a sudden in here. I can't it. I can't do it, girl.
Julian Bethevoli
What am I doing?
Patrick Hines
You know what I mean?
Julian Bethevoli
Those are things where I'm like, how did this. How did you do this before the Internet?
Patrick Hines
I know.
Julian Bethevoli
Like, those are things where I'm like. I know I'm just like some sheltered idiot, but like that the. Any kind of conversion or something like that is just like the fact that people did it naturally.
Patrick Hines
Like long division, like longitude and latitude in general is like what? It's like a graph for the earth. That's cool.
Julian Bethevoli
Like, like being able to understand a map. Like, that's amazing.
Patrick Hines
Well, Daisy's studying all that in social studies right now and she has quizzes on it, which is why I have to now learn maps again.
Julian Bethevoli
REM geography.
Patrick Hines
I have to admit, like, I'm taking the test. I have to remember all seven names of the continents. Not today.
Julian Bethevoli
Oh, God. We're not doing this.
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Yeah, but choosing the right supplements can be confusing. It's just in general, it's a low trust category.
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Julian Bethevoli
Right? So Nathan Carman is found. He's on a life raft. And there's photos and video of the rescue. And Nathan is climbing up this huge ladder onto the ship and he's walking around and it's like, it's crazy to see, you know, like the search was just called off like a day and a half ago and now this guy's here. Like people can't believe it. And we hear the coast guard talking to Nathan, who's just very direct and just like, I need to know what happened. Not like, so glad you're okay. Just I need to know the details of what happened. And where's your mom?
Patrick Hines
We're going to learn in a minute though that Nathan is autistic. And so he speaks matter of factly. You know, that's one of the ways that his autism manifests in him. But like he's telling us a little bit about what happened. Like the engine compartment filled with water. There was a funny noise in the engine compartment. I looked and saw a lot of water. Bumps dropped out from under my feet when I saw the life raft. I did not see my mom, have you found her? All of a sudden, he's in the water and, like, he's asking if his mother has been found and she has not. And at this point, she's presumed dead.
Julian Bethevoli
Now Clark is Nathan's dad and Linda's ex husband.
Patrick Hines
Yeah.
Julian Bethevoli
And he says, like, Nathan was very, very upset that he couldn't save his mother. And that was incredibly upsetting to him. And now Nathan isn't here in the doc. We'll get to that later. But we have a lot of footage of him talking about what happened.
Patrick Hines
Yeah. And his dad is just saying, like, at this point, like, Nathan just wants to go home and be by himself. Like, Nathan tends to isolate. That's one of the things that he does.
Julian Bethevoli
Right. So he does. Nathan does an interview. Interview on ABC News for Nightline.
Patrick Hines
Yeah.
Julian Bethevoli
And they're asking him, like, how did you survive this harrowing ordeal? And he said, I basically just focused on my survival. He, like, regimented himself. The food pack said to eat four per day. He was spacing them out. Like, he. He is explaining that like, that if you just stay focused.
Patrick Hines
Yes. And we'll learn later that he had, like, I guess on boats, like, the smart thing to do is have it if you sink bag. So he had it, like, if you sink bag, which is called something else. It's probably a nautical mile.
Julian Bethevoli
Definitely 1.15 miles.
Patrick Hines
Exactly. But, like, they had, like, fruit packs in it. And he's rationing it out over the day following the instructions of, like, what to do.
Julian Bethevoli
And I'm like, right. Like, totally heard. But when did your mom go missing? Because you were out there for eight days.
Patrick Hines
Exactly.
Julian Bethevoli
So when did this happen?
Patrick Hines
Right. Have you not seen her since the boat sank or was she on the life.
Julian Bethevoli
I heard about the food packs.
Patrick Hines
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Julian Bethevoli
Like, they're probably disgusting.
Patrick Hines
I can't.
Julian Bethevoli
Whatever. But, like, like, that is definitely interesting. We should know about that. We should learn from that. But when exactly did your mom go missing? In eight days is my first question.
Patrick Hines
So now we meet Evan. He's a journalist for Wired magazine. He lives in. In New England. He love water. And that's one of the reasons why he was drawn to this story. And, you know, he's telling us that, like, when the captain of the boat that saved what happened was Nathan saw a ship passing and was able to flag them down. This ship saved him. And the. The captain says now he's been on this life raft for eight days. According to Nathan, the captain of the.
Julian Bethevoli
Cargo ship that saved Nathan, Carmen, says the 22 year old, seemed healthy when he was rescued and did not appear to be suffering from dehydration, hypothermia, or anything else.
Documentary Narrator/Interviewee
Circumstances like this don't happen very frequently. I mean, seven days in a life raft floating at the continental shelf, that does not happen frequently at all.
Patrick Hines
Coast Guard Eric is also back. To be, like, a guy floating on a life raft for seven days is unheard of. He's like, never in my entire career have I seen anything like that.
Julian Bethevoli
And then what he's saying also is then to be totally healthy when you're rescued. Like, there are things that are just.
Patrick Hines
Yeah. Like, to have enough energy to, like, jump into the water, to have enough energy to pull yourself up on that life ring and then, like, walk up the stairs. Like, we'll get more into this later. But, like, you're. But if you've been in a life raft off of your feet for seven days.
Julian Bethevoli
Right.
Patrick Hines
You should have lost a lot of muscular ability.
Julian Bethevoli
Right.
Patrick Hines
You know, but then we're also going to be told that. No, Like, I think your adrenaline kicks in when your life's about to be saved. That makes sense to me, too.
Julian Bethevoli
Absolutely. So Nathan's father says that because Nathan is autistic, the thing that helped Nathan survive those eight days is the thing that will be weaponized against him after he was rescued. Which is 100% true.
Patrick Hines
Yeah.
Julian Bethevoli
Also, just a quick note. I did my research. I asked the discord about this. Speaking of the discord.
Patrick Hines
Yeah.
Julian Bethevoli
On the best words to use. Who's, like, autistic person versus person with autism.
Patrick Hines
Yes.
Julian Bethevoli
Because I want to. You know, we want.
Patrick Hines
You and I had a long talk about this before we started.
Julian Bethevoli
So everyone said the same thing in my research and the people that I spoke to personally. The community's divided, and it's all about your personal preference.
Patrick Hines
Yeah.
Julian Bethevoli
But since Nathan isn't here with us.
Patrick Hines
Right.
Julian Bethevoli
And we're taking the lead from his father and experts.
Patrick Hines
Yes.
Julian Bethevoli
I was told that it's okay to use autistic person and person with autism kind of interchangeably because it's a personal preference.
Patrick Hines
Got it.
Julian Bethevoli
That's what I learned, and that's what.
Patrick Hines
We'Re going to do.
Julian Bethevoli
Wonderful. So before Nathan was rescued, the cops got a warrant to search Nathan's house.
Patrick Hines
House.
Julian Bethevoli
And his car.
Patrick Hines
I'm confused on this timeline because they say prior to Nathan returning to his house.
Julian Bethevoli
Right.
Patrick Hines
I went. I actually went back to get exactly what they said because I didn't know if it was before he was found or if it was after he was found. They got suspicious and then they got a warrant for his house.
Julian Bethevoli
My question that I wrote down is a warrant to investigate two missing people.
Patrick Hines
Right. Because what they find. No. And like that they find documents that are concerning. So this is why I had the question. The document says.
Documentary Narrator/Interviewee
This one's titled why I'm reluctant to cooperate with the police. Emotionally. I'm not sure that I can bear another interview. And he goes on to say, philosophically, the idea of proving one's innocence repels me. The next is generally, the police are corrupt and often criminal organization.
Patrick Hines
We're going to learn later. Nathan has had extensive experience with the police before this incident with where he went missing with his mother.
Julian Bethevoli
Right.
Patrick Hines
Which explains why this note would exist, but without that context. And in the timeline of the documentary, we don't have that context yet. So to me, that was very damning of like, he's expecting the police to want to interview him. I'd forgotten that. We're going to learn that he's been through a whole thing with the police already at this point in his life.
Julian Bethevoli
Yeah, yeah, I totally hear what you're saying. I just see it a little differently as like. Because the cops see this as proof that Nathan had a plan to like kidnap and kill his mother on this trip. Yeah. And I don't see the connection because.
Patrick Hines
No, I agree with you at this point because he. We're going to learn that he's already been interviewed extensively by the police on.
Julian Bethevoli
Another matter because what he say, number two, philosophically, the idea of proving one's innocence repels me. Yeah. Because you're innocent until proven guilty. He's 100% right on that.
Patrick Hines
Yeah.
Julian Bethevoli
The generally, the police are corrupt and often criminal. Find the lie.
Patrick Hines
Yeah.
Julian Bethevoli
And four, keep your mouth shut and ask for a lawyer. Okay, great. I agree with all of this.
Patrick Hines
All I'm saying is that if this was written before he went missing, this has nothing to do with the case of his mother and it has everything to do with the case that we'll get to later that he's already been through. And then he has every right to feel this way as he's writing. Right? Yeah.
Julian Bethevoli
And I got to tell you, as someone who hasn't been looked at for murder yet. Yeah, I agree.
Patrick Hines
Is young girl.
Julian Bethevoli
Right. Like, I could. I could have written that.
Patrick Hines
Yeah. For sure.
Julian Bethevoli
You wouldn't find something like that. What if I got super amped up about a recording and I was like, I'm gonna fucking let my feelings out in my journal? And this is what I wrote. Like, yeah, no, I'm gonna be any one of us.
Patrick Hines
All of this makes sense. All of this is fine. And it makes sense when you understand later what he's been through.
Julian Bethevoli
Right. Nathan agrees to speak to police. And I'm like, without a lawyer. Number four on your list specifically says that a lawyer advised you to remain silent. So I don't know why we're here.
Patrick Hines
And to me, this makes him look guilty because he's trying to look innocent.
Julian Bethevoli
Well, we have the audio. Right. And so Nathan tells police that he and his mother went to stop and shop. They got something to drink.
Patrick Hines
Love a stop and shop shout out. We're gonna get a Duncan shout out later. This is a day for me.
Julian Bethevoli
Duncan.
Patrick Hines
I know. So I know.
Julian Bethevoli
They drove to the marina. We have video of this. Like, this is all being confirmed. They loaded up the bait from his truck onto the boat. What's weird, however, Nathan had mentioned that.
Documentary Narrator/Interviewee
He had bought bait and things of that nature. He did buy eels. We found eels used for fishing in his truck. Which is, you know, obviously interesting and concerning to us because why, if he intended to use the eels to go fishing, why would he leave the bait in his truck and not bring it on the boat?
Julian Bethevoli
They got eels for bait and they didn't use them. They didn't take it with them on the boat.
Patrick Hines
And, like, you can say maybe he just forgot it. But Nathan is pretty meticulous.
Julian Bethevoli
Sure.
Patrick Hines
Doesn't, like, he seems to me like the guy. And a guy that would have a checklist of, like, make sure you have all this stuff.
Julian Bethevoli
Yeah.
Patrick Hines
Like. And he didn't bring the bait for the fishing trip. Like, without the bait, there is no fishing trip.
Julian Bethevoli
And to that point, when Nathan continues, he says they left the marina around midnight, which, as we know, is not uncommon for these trips.
Patrick Hines
Yeah.
Julian Bethevoli
But after they'd already left, they decide on the water, on a whim, to totally change their plan. Plans. And now they're going to go to Block Canyon, which is a much longer trip. And we're told it's like 60 to 70 miles offshore.
Patrick Hines
And they're like, you don't do that as a casual boater. That's like open ocean. Like, that takes a lot of preparation and planning. You can't just, like, you can't change your mind from going a couple miles out to going 70 miles out.
Julian Bethevoli
Right.
Patrick Hines
And I'm told I know nothing about boating.
Julian Bethevoli
Well, again, to that point, yeah, I googled. I was like, what kind of boat is this?
Patrick Hines
Right.
Julian Bethevoli
This is not a boat boat. I believe that you would Spend a week on.
Patrick Hines
Yeah, I mean, right, like there's nowhere to sleep, it seems.
Julian Bethevoli
It's a 31 foot aluminum boat. Now, please, boaters out there, correct me if I'm wrong.
Patrick Hines
If you have any of those, I'd be thrilled to find out plenty.
Julian Bethevoli
Remember when we were fishing podcasts for a week?
Patrick Hines
That's true.
Julian Bethevoli
I'm not saying they're the same. I'm just saying, would you go out on this boat for a week? I don't think so.
Patrick Hines
Was that the plan? Were they supposed to go for a week?
Julian Bethevoli
No, but they're. But Nathan is saying on a whim, we decided to go for, you know, another 60 miles out or much farther. Not a week, but like several days.
Patrick Hines
It also seems like you would need a lot of gas. Like if you weren't planning for that trip, that seems like you wouldn't have it.
Julian Bethevoli
So all of that, the fact that this just doesn't seem like a boat you'd spend any, like, extended amount of time on, like a fishing trip. Fine.
Patrick Hines
Yeah.
Julian Bethevoli
Also, what happened to the mom's phone? Because she was texting at the marina at 11 o' clock at night. And I'm like, even if you're like, oh, we'll leave the phones in the.
Patrick Hines
Car overnight, that you would never do that. Although. Unless the idea is the phones aren't going to work out there anyway.
Julian Bethevoli
Right, but then why would you be like, okay, let me also not tell anyone that we're going to change our plans.
Patrick Hines
Right.
Julian Bethevoli
And go 70 miles out of the way when Sharon, Linda's friend, is waiting for her text.
Patrick Hines
And also, like, we're only hearing this from Nathan. You know what I mean? There's like, no, like, the mom isn't here to corroborate.
Julian Bethevoli
Also, the boat is called the Chickenpox.
Patrick Hines
I know. I don't know if I like that or not.
Julian Bethevoli
Boats often have names like this.
Patrick Hines
Yeah. You know, what is there, is there more to that?
Julian Bethevoli
I've just had a Sopranos thing. Oh, Tony Sopranos boat is called Stugac. And so his girl, his guma's girlfriend, calls it the Stugets because she's Russian. She goes, oh, I don't know where it is, Tony. I think I left it on the Stugets. Anyway.
Patrick Hines
Oh my God.
Julian Bethevoli
Then they're like, okay, like, this is all weird, but the more Nathan talks again, you should have listened to number four on your list. I'm confused as to why he didn't.
Patrick Hines
Well, but there's also so much more. Like Nathan is telling them about what? Like the circumstances under which the boat sank. And he says, like, the engine sounded weird. I opened the hatch door, saw a lot of water. And they were asking him, like, did.
Documentary Narrator/Interviewee
You do a radio distress signal? No, I did not.
Patrick Hines
I didn't think we were going to sink. If you know you're sinking, you always get on the radio and say distress. But I knew that our distress signal.
Documentary Narrator/Interviewee
Wouldn'T reach shore, but it would reach other boats.
Patrick Hines
I didn't know if there were any other boats in range. So you didn't try.
Julian Bethevoli
Well, which is it then?
Patrick Hines
Right?
Julian Bethevoli
You didn't know you were sinking or you knew the calls wouldn't reach shore? And that's when the cops are like, right. But the signal could meet other butler, like reach other boats. And he goes, well, I didn't know if there were any other boats in range. And the cops, like, you didn't try, right? Which, these are all like, right? I mean, should he even be having this conversation with police? 100% not.
Patrick Hines
Yes, no. And like, but then the dad is here to say, like, he 100% believes his son, that it was an accident if he could have saved his mommy. Whatever. We're going to learn eventually that Nathan and his mom have a super codependent relationship.
Julian Bethevoli
And it's, it's bad.
Patrick Hines
But the way that they try to present it to us, the way the family tried, they just, they loved each other so fiercely. No, they were, they were 100% codependent.
Julian Bethevoli
So, yeah, like, and again, it's a 31 foot aluminum boat. The minute you see water where it shouldn't be, that's a panic situation because you're, you're also further out. Without the proper supplies, you would need 70 miles out. Like that would, just to be safe, I'd be trying to signal everybody.
Patrick Hines
Also, like, not blaming the victims here, but like, you don't also have to go out on the water in a 31 foot aluminum boat. You know what I mean? There are other things you can, you don't have to like, put yourself in the middle of the ocean. Ocean.
Julian Bethevoli
Well, I think that's what they're, the cops are saying here. The cops are like the, the plan was to only go out a little bit for a few hours and come right back.
Patrick Hines
And that's why I'm saying that, like, I mean, let's just say it looks like a murder plot. You know what I mean?
Julian Bethevoli
Right.
Patrick Hines
It looks to all of us like he took his mother out there to kill her.
Julian Bethevoli
So the plan to go 70 miles on a Whim just doesn't seem like something that even that his mother would agree to, right?
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Julian Bethevoli
Also, let's. There's a lot of drama in this family.
Patrick Hines
Oh, my God.
Documentary Narrator/Interviewee
No one called me from the family. None of the three sisters. None of the cousins. Cousins did not hear from a soul. They felt Nathan had murdered their sister.
Julian Bethevoli
He killed her sister, his own mother.
Patrick Hines
So, yeah, we didn't want anything to do with him.
Julian Bethevoli
Linda's sisters did not attend her memorial service.
Patrick Hines
Like they were not speaking to her by the end of her life.
Julian Bethevoli
And Linda's side of the family to this day has never reached out to Nathan or his father. She has three sisters and nobody calls called this cousin that we meet didn't call.
Patrick Hines
Yeah.
Julian Bethevoli
Because they're like, oh, Nathan murdered our sister. Like, why would we even want to have a conversation?
Patrick Hines
The thing too that we're going to learn in a minute is that like this family with filthy fucking rich. And it was disgustingly rich. But also like everyone is using the money to control everybody else. It's all about. This whole documentary is about money and this whole family's dysfunction stems from the money.
Julian Bethevoli
So Charlene, Linda's sister, bad vibes up and down with this one. Charlene tells us about the family. She. This is, this is a shout out to Natalie Grillo and Robbie and Len. There were four do, which is how Teresa Gudice Giudice, however she mispronounces her own last name. She has four daughters. Oh my God, I hate it. I know. So Natalie, whenever she says the word daughters, Natalie will type it out. D, O, R, T, E, R, S. Stop it. But Valerie, Charlene, Linda and Elaine. And Charlene is like, oh my God. Linda and I were best friends. We had an amazing childhood. One big amazingly happy family. Not a single issue in sight.
Patrick Hines
But they start to say that Linda was a lot like our dad, John. Linda was fun.
Julian Bethevoli
She was very athletic. She was very much like my father.
Patrick Hines
My father was.
Julian Bethevoli
He was hard headed.
Documentary Narrator/Interviewee
John Shackles was my uncle. He was pretty much a force of nature. He was a guy that he, he was, he was bigger than life.
Patrick Hines
Dad was a force of nature. He was a hard headed real estate developer. So this guy is building nursing homes, assisted livings. Like he's in. He's a fudgeing millionaire.
Julian Bethevoli
So we also meet Charles Chuck Lapena, who John is the patriarch of the family. John the father. John was his uncle. So he's Nathan's cousin.
Patrick Hines
Yeah.
Julian Bethevoli
But he's like, you know, he, he was bigger than life. And so this guy was building assisted living facilities but naming them after his daughters.
Patrick Hines
Yes.
Julian Bethevoli
So it'd be like Valerie Manor. Linda Manor.
Patrick Hines
Yeah.
Julian Bethevoli
And eventually Charlene. Come on, Charlene. It's like we moved to like a fairly nice home in New Hampshire.
Patrick Hines
20,000 square feet with an indoor swimming pool. We see video.
Julian Bethevoli
Charlene. It was an estate. It was an estate house.
Patrick Hines
And Charlene's like, oh my God, we've got money now.
Julian Bethevoli
Well, she goes, one summer we had elephants there. And it was the elephants that made Charlene think, wow, I guess we have money. Charlene, why are you already lying to me, girl? I know like you have bad vibes.
Patrick Hines
And the undertone of everything that everybody in this family Says is money. It's all about getting the money.
Julian Bethevoli
So Linda is Linda's best friend. Linda Gam, like not good for a.
Patrick Hines
Documentary Linda, you know what I mean?
Julian Bethevoli
She's. I'm welcoming her because I think she's going to be honest with us.
Patrick Hines
Yes.
Julian Bethevoli
Because she said, I knew Linda, the victim for 30 years. We talked about everything. And she like takes two seconds to say all the relationships were very dysfunctional and her father was extremely controlling. So she said, I'm gonna move to California. And he said, well, if you do, then I'm disowning you. She goes, okay. And she went. So the father was extremely controlling. Which by the way is what they mean by saying hard headed force of nature. Like they're trying to.
Patrick Hines
He's also incredibly violent and he beats his kids.
Julian Bethevoli
Super abusive. So Linda wants to move to California and the father threatens to disown her and she's like, promise and bails to California.
Patrick Hines
But we're going to see this so much. The dad, like, it's such a bullshit thing. He is using his money to control everybody in his life and they're all kind of allowing it. Except for Linda in this moment when she moves to California and like joins the National Guard. Like fudge. Yeah, Linda.
Julian Bethevoli
And so BFF Linda says that her three sisters are the complete oppos opposite. Which also probably means they were super jealous of Linda.
Patrick Hines
Yeah.
Julian Bethevoli
Because she like they wanted some money and they put up with this abusive father and she was able to get out.
Patrick Hines
I just wanted to point out, just to go back for one second. Linda joined the National Guard.
Julian Bethevoli
Yeah.
Patrick Hines
You have to be a very good swimmer to do that. Oh, you know what I mean? Like that just occurred to me in this moment because.
Julian Bethevoli
Yeah, they mentioned that a little bit too later.
Patrick Hines
They say she was a really strong swimmer. But just now I was like, oh my God, the National Guard, like you're jumping out of helicopters into the. The ocean, you know.
Julian Bethevoli
So also this whole disowning thing was an empty threat. It was a manipulation because Linda meets Clark and gets married and her father's in the wedding picture. So he was just trying to control them with money, like.
Patrick Hines
And that's the thing. So then Clark is here to say, and God damn it, my little New England heart grew five sizes when he said this.
Julian Bethevoli
This would work on you. Cuz this is how he tries to lure Linda home.
Patrick Hines
No question.
Julian Bethevoli
Luring them back.
Patrick Hines
Yeah. The dad John says her father John.
Documentary Narrator/Interviewee
Had promised if we move back he would develop a Dunkin Donuts franchise for Us when we got back there, he reneged. So she ended up having to work for her father, which was not a good situation between those two.
Patrick Hines
He's going to open them a Dunkin Donuts franchise if they come back, he promises. I can't imagine that's a thing anybody actually wants. Like that sounds like an absolute nightmare to me. But at the same time it's Dunkin Donuts, you know what I mean? I love that he's opening them a Dunkin Donuts, Franch.
Julian Bethevoli
Well, for whatever reason, he knew that this would get them to be like, okay, yeah. So the minute they get home, he reneged. It was all a ploy to get Linda back home and back under his.
Patrick Hines
Grip and to go work for him.
Julian Bethevoli
Because what we learn is that now we don't get the details of why, but we're told that Linda is now in a position where she has to work for her father.
Patrick Hines
Yeah. And we, Clark, the, the ex husband is telling us like John was super volatile. He describes he would push and slap his wife and daughters. And we hear stories later about him doing this to Linda and Clark.
Julian Bethevoli
The husband uses the word constant. The violence was constant, he says. And now the cousin nephew is here to downplay it. He's like, you know, sure, the occasional fist fight, but it's not like anyone ever went to the hospital.
Patrick Hines
I mean like that's just not like that is totally normalizing behavior. That is total bullshit.
Julian Bethevoli
I think it's really weird that Charlene and this guy don't have a bad word to say about the abusive father. I think that's weird. There's a lot of money involved, all of them, a lot of finger pointing and they don't have a single true thing to say about him.
Patrick Hines
The reason nobody talks to Linda is because everybody else in this family sold their sou to get their inheritance, you know, so.
Julian Bethevoli
And I'm like, can we move on from the cousin? But then we get crazy news.
Patrick Hines
Early Friday morning in Windsor, Connecticut, 87 year old John Chokalis was found dead from an apparent gunshot wound to the head. Investigators are calling it a homicide.
Documentary Narrator/Interviewee
Elaine was the eldest, walked in and found him literally executed.
Patrick Hines
And this bed, investigators are calling it a homicide right away. And like Detective Mark is here to say, it was a horror show like this. The shot to the head was so bad that you almost couldn't even tell what caused it. And like we learned there was no struggle. The guy was lying on the bed. That was like he definitely knew the assailant.
Julian Bethevoli
Yeah. And so Linda, John's daughter and Nathan's mom speaks to the cops and we see video. And now BFF Linda is like, I got to tell you, Linda, our victim always thought it was a mob hit cuz her dad was in construction. And that can sometimes be linked to organized crime. He knew some shady characters. Like, could this be a mob hit? And the cops give us two reasons why it's not the mob.
Patrick Hines
This is your area. So you, you take it, girl.
Julian Bethevoli
One, they say the weapon was a large caliber weapon. Hits like that are usually like smaller because it makes this. A big gun is going to make.
Patrick Hines
Like a little purse gun. You got to take your little purse gun to your mom.
Julian Bethevoli
Tracy gun, little Dick Tracy gun. And two, what happened to John's house? Which they say doesn't really happen either. Usually you disappear. I could go either way.
Patrick Hines
I was going to say, I don't know.
Julian Bethevoli
Sometimes they want to make a statement. You never know, right?
Patrick Hines
They can put a horse head in the bed next to you or whatever.
Julian Bethevoli
I also red, don't do that, by the way.
Patrick Hines
Don't put up. Don't. What does the horse. What the horse do?
Julian Bethevoli
Look, I know.
Patrick Hines
Imagine waking up next to a horse head.
Julian Bethevoli
No, I mean like that's a traumatizing scene in that movie.
Patrick Hines
I don't even know what movie it is. I just don't.
Julian Bethevoli
The Godfather. Oh my God.
Patrick Hines
Can you tell? The Godfather's like not on my list. I know, I know it's not. Girls just Want to have fun from 1985. I can't. If it's not that, I'm not watching it.
Julian Bethevoli
Okay, fair enough. Oh, I also read this guy John, who was just killed, the abusive father, had this like 25 year old girlfriend.
Patrick Hines
Oh my God. Really?
Julian Bethevoli
She had another boyfriend that's a drug dealer. So there's like a whole other thing with the. He was like 80 and she's 25. Like there's that whole element too, which is all just speculation. But it's weird that she's not mentioned at all, right?
Patrick Hines
Yeah, I mean these documentaries definitely, like leave side stories out. But like they're just saying like now.
Documentary Narrator/Interviewee
We'Re verifying that this crime that we believe is a break in is not a break in for purposes of taking anything. It's a break in for purposes of doing harm to John. Now we come to who else? Who else has intimate details of him, his family?
Patrick Hines
Nothing was stolen. The intent was just to kill John. Who could it be? Must be the family. And it must be about the money.
Julian Bethevoli
Because honestly, it must be an extraordinary amount of money involved. And now we get this horrible footage.
Patrick Hines
Oh, my God. Oh, my God.
Julian Bethevoli
Of one of his grown ass daughters.
Patrick Hines
She's like 40.
Julian Bethevoli
I think it's Charlene.
Patrick Hines
They're at like some backyard barbecue or something.
Julian Bethevoli
No, some huge. Not a backdoor. Like a huge outdoor party that he probably paid for.
Patrick Hines
That's what I mean. Backyard to them.
Julian Bethevoli
And like she's doing some toast. I'm pretty sure. Charlene, who's here with us. Daddy, I need some money. Daddy.
Patrick Hines
The Mona Lisa from Parks and recommend.
Julian Bethevoli
Money, please.
Patrick Hines
Money, please.
Julian Bethevoli
And everyone is laughing like, it's so cute. And I'm like, it grow up. It pissed me off so much. And doesn't this tell you everything?
Patrick Hines
I was just going to say, like, this is. That is her being her true authentic self. Not even knowing she's on camera.
Julian Bethevoli
And everyone around her thought it was really cute.
Patrick Hines
The dad is laughing. He thinks it's up. The dad loved having that kind of control. I know he loved having that kind of control over his family. He knew as long as he controlled the money, he controlled everybody.
Julian Bethevoli
I want to slow down on the money and I want to do it slowly so that everyone gets like the weight of this.
Patrick Hines
Yeah.
Julian Bethevoli
So there was a living trust. The four daughters got, quote. Charlene goes, we got the same amount of money. No, no, no. Charlene, be honest about how much money it was. Because Clark, the ex is like.
Documentary Narrator/Interviewee
Each girl was receiving, I would say, approximately $25,000 a month, notwithstanding what they would inherit if he should pass away.
Julian Bethevoli
They got $25,000 a month for nothing. Just for being born to this guy.
Patrick Hines
That's their allowance.
Julian Bethevoli
So this doesn't even include the inheritance money. Yes. Which is forthcoming. And now we learn how much it is.
Patrick Hines
Yeah.
Julian Bethevoli
And it is insane.
Patrick Hines
$42 million divided by equally among the four daughters.
Julian Bethevoli
$10.5 million each after the 300 grand that they're just getting for fun.
Patrick Hines
And that's just like today. Like, by the time he dies, who knows how much it's gonna be, you know?
Julian Bethevoli
So you're sitting there and you're like, well, obviously someone in the family killed him. He was abusive.
Patrick Hines
Yes.
Julian Bethevoli
And they're sitting on ten and a half million dollars. And then some.
Patrick Hines
Yeah. And then we learned that Nathan, the son who we started with here, he becomes the prime suspect because he was the last person to see his grandfather.
Julian Bethevoli
This is also just such. Like we were saying before, it's such a great way. I say, you know how I'm going to say the word great Great way to manipulate people.
Patrick Hines
Yeah.
Julian Bethevoli
Because you can look at them and be like, do you want that ten and a half million or not?
Patrick Hines
Exactly. Right. Like, how much are you willing to put up with? The guy's in his 80s. How much longer you got to put up with? This is what they're saying to themselves every morning. It's that scene from Heather's where she's in the bathroom and she takes a swig of water and spits it at herself. That's what Charlene does every fudgeing morning.
Julian Bethevoli
And, like, maybe that's why people didn't go to the hospital.
Patrick Hines
Yeah.
Julian Bethevoli
Idiot cousin. Like, maybe that's why everyone kept their mouth shut about it, because they're just counting the seconds until ten and a half million and then some.
Patrick Hines
Is it worth it? I mean, tell me it's ten and a half million dollars worth. It worth the lifetime of abuse and, like, suffering and soul selling. I think that's the part of it. That's the word. That's why they didn't like Linda, because she didn't do that.
Julian Bethevoli
That's exactly what they were. Incredibly jealous of her. Incre. Incredibly jealous of her. I've said this to you a million times. My piece, I've learned, is more valuable than anything to me.
Patrick Hines
Yes.
Julian Bethevoli
Like, I don't care.
Patrick Hines
You can make your own money. You know what I mean?
Julian Bethevoli
Like, no.
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Happy holidays and that too. So Nathan and John the grandfather are super close and we're told Clark, the dad is like he was the firstborn grandson of a Greek dynasty.
Patrick Hines
Yeah. He was number one in his grandpa's eyes. We are going to learn an interesting piece to this later. But like we, you know, we learned that Nathan was diagnosed with autism when he was 5. And like we get this whole thing here about how he loved horses. His mom buys him a horse named Cruz. And we'll talk more about Cruz later. But like Nathan was getting services from day one. Kids with these kinds of disabilities need this. And the grandfather absolutely hated it.
Julian Bethevoli
John was old school. John did not understand why Nathan needed help. And they used to get in arguments about it. Why do you need to take him there? Why do you need, need to do this? He like didn't believe in getting help from Nathan.
Patrick Hines
Right. And we're going to learn too that like there, there's more to the story with John's own family about why he doesn't like hospitals. And in a weird way, it at least lets you understand why he feels the way that he feels about certain aspects of this. But more than anything, like he just thinks cuz he's the grandfather with the money he can be in charge of what Linda does with her son's care. And Linda's not having it.
Julian Bethevoli
And at one point we hear an argument from a home video and Nathan is riding the horse Cruz, who his dad describes as like Nathan's best friend. His best friend absolutely loved this horse.
Patrick Hines
And because his dad says he didn't have other friends. And it's like because kids are the worst.
Julian Bethevoli
But Linda, you hear Linda on the home video saying to her father, don't even start. And then just repeating, you weren't invited, you weren't invited, you weren't invited.
Patrick Hines
Yeah.
Julian Bethevoli
So the big question is with the, the death of the grandfather, the patriarch, whatever, does Linda the mom have an alibi? Because maybe she wanted to get rid of an abuser and also get money for her son. Turns out Linda has an egg alibi.
Patrick Hines
Yeah.
Julian Bethevoli
So now the cops interview Nathan when he's 19 years old. He does not have anyone with him during this interview. Which is unacceptable across the board.
Patrick Hines
Yeah. And this is when we start to understand the, how problematic it is for police to be questioning a person with autism without representation from somebody who understands why he's at least coming across the way that he's coming for sure.
Julian Bethevoli
And this is where we get the law enforcement to camera today. Sitting down with the lights and everything.
Documentary Narrator/Interviewee
To press and record his affect isn't right and throw out all of what, whatever challenges he has through autism or whatever, his affect isn't right.
Patrick Hines
Despite his challenges with autism or whatever, his affect isn't right. So do you hear yourself?
Julian Bethevoli
You hear yourself? No, I'm like, this is today. They did these interviews. Yeah. So Elizabeth Kelly, she's an autism specialist attorney, and she says, first of all, Nathan never should have been interrogated.
Patrick Hines
Obviously, even though I think he did it, I a million % agree with.
Julian Bethevoli
100%. She says people on the autism spectrum are frequently misinterpreted. And she says the way Nathan was speaking, she described. Describes it as very stilted terms, being, quote, robotic, giving details in a cold and calculating sounding way. And she's like, when the cops hear this, of course they're going to think he's guilty because of this. And that's exactly what.
Patrick Hines
Happens. Yeah. You know, and look, we see more of his interview with the cops and he's like, you know, talking about his mother, saying, I don't want to talk negatively about my mom, but, like, she did imply to me once that she hated my dad. So I don't.
Julian Bethevoli
Know. And again, just to be clear, this is the interview about the death of his grandfather. The murder of his grandfather, not his mother. This is what we're talking about. He's 19 years old and like.
Patrick Hines
At the end of the day, the cops say to him, like, we. Our issue with you is that you were the last person. Person to see him. That, like, that does make him a very likely.
Julian Bethevoli
Suspect. So what's Nathan's alibi? His. According to Nathan, he had dinner with his grandfather. Great dinner. No arguments. Everything was fine. After dinner, they go their separate ways. It's the middle of the night, and Nathan is about to meet his mother for one of their fishing.
Patrick Hines
Trips. Taking off at 3 in the morning. Like, holy shit, he was over.
Julian Bethevoli
An hour late to meet her. And they're like, nathan, we have a problem here because there's one hour that we can't account for. Where were.
Patrick Hines
You? And I'm sorry. Like, his explanation holds. No.
Julian Bethevoli
Water. No.
Patrick Hines
Literally. And so, yeah, he just says, he's like. He says he was driving, but I ended up getting off the wrong exit and then get turned around and then I mistakenly took the exit on the north side of Hartford to go over the Connecticut.
Julian Bethevoli
River. He says he got lost twice. Yes, he got off on the wrong exit. And then when he was trying to get back on track, he took another Wrong exit. And never once called his mother who was waiting for him at 3am Even though she called him five times, didn't take her.
Patrick Hines
Calls. Like, I'm sorry, like, I know this isn't Hartford hard evidence, but it's enough for.
Julian Bethevoli
Me. It's, it's something to investigate further, I would.
Patrick Hines
Say. You know, we do. Also, like, we are told from Nathan's attorneys that John, the victim here, his neighbor, heard a gunshot at 2 in the morning. And they said we can account for Nathan at two in the morning because he's on video at his residence.
Julian Bethevoli
At 2am at the apartment. That's what we're told. We don't see it, but that's what his lawyers are saying. So if that's the case, if he's on video at 2:00am yes, yes, exactly. And also you can ask a lot of questions here. Like was the witness, was that time, Right? What did they hear? We don't know.
Patrick Hines
Anything. Right.
Julian Bethevoli
Yeah. But we're told that there's footage from Nathan's.
Patrick Hines
Apartment.
Julian Bethevoli
Yes. Also now we're going to talk about polygraphs for 15 minutes and everyone wants us to think that it's a major red flag that Nathan didn't want to take.
Patrick Hines
One. Like absolutely.
Julian Bethevoli
Ridiculous.
Patrick Hines
Whatever. I mean we are told from the cousin, so who knows if it's true or not, that like the mom did not pass the polygraph and was taken it several times. This is meant to introduce like did Nathan kill his grandfather and does his mother know and is covering for him? Like that's the whole next.
Julian Bethevoli
Area. Like, because that's option one or the other option is that they did it.
Patrick Hines
Together.
Julian Bethevoli
Right. But either way, the family thinks that Linda and Nathan were in cahoots somehow killing their.
Patrick Hines
Father. Yeah. And like, you know, the idea might even be that it had never been discussed between Nathan and Linda, but Linda knows he did it and isn't going to turn him.
Julian Bethevoli
In. So let's talk about Nathan and Linda's relationship. And apparently it was very, very strained. And all of these fishing trips are part of Linda trying to make up for.
Patrick Hines
It. And then we learn from the dad that cruise the horse who like literally was Nathan's like only friend, died when Nathan was a teenage. And this is a huge, dramatic loss for Nathan. He takes it very hard. He wants to be alone all the.
Documentary Narrator/Interviewee
Time. Linda had this 32 foot camper, so he would stay in there, come in for meals and Nathan progressively stayed in the camper longer and longer and became.
Patrick Hines
Worse. This kind of isolation is, is serious. Like he Would stay in there for long periods of time. The dad is like, he was trying to take apart the microwave. He's not talking to anybody. He's literally urinating in bottles. Like he's self destructing in that.
Julian Bethevoli
Trailer. Yeah. So it was still on the property. It was like right outside. But like he. That's where he wanted to be. 99% of the time he was in this camper. He wasn't.
Patrick Hines
Bathing.
Julian Bethevoli
Yes. And Clark, Nathan's dad, says he was going downhill mentally. So as a result, we don't talk about this nearly.
Patrick Hines
Enough. This is.
Julian Bethevoli
Unbelievable. Nathan is shipped off to one of those abusive, tortured teen.
Patrick Hines
Camps. And like Utah, we get this story from the dad that like they felt that they had no choice. The guys literally show up at 3 in the morning. Nathan is sobbing and begging them not to send him. I don't know how any parent can get through.
Julian Bethevoli
That. Let me tell you something. You have so much money, There are so many other options. Even if you're poor, this should never be an option. But especially when you have millions of dollars and the resources and look, I watched all those documentaries. I trick the parents. I know the parents are the mark. I know they lie to the parents. I get that. But anything that starts with your kid being dragged out of your home.
Patrick Hines
Literally kicking and screaming and sobbing like they're like, there, there's just no.
Julian Bethevoli
Way. That's the beginning. That's how it.
Patrick Hines
Starts.
Julian Bethevoli
Yeah. It's not.
Patrick Hines
Good. No. And this him up.
Julian Bethevoli
Irreparably. Of course it.
Patrick Hines
Does. Whatever was going on with his mental health before he went there, this made it about a hundred times.
Julian Bethevoli
Worse. We don't get any information. If you didn't know anything, you'd be like, wow, they sent him to treatment and he came back. But like, we don'. Any information about how abusive these places are and what, that he was abused and came.
Patrick Hines
Back. All we know is that like it was so abusive that it broke him. And we get this letter that he wrote to his priest. And I mean this, this took my breath.
Julian Bethevoli
Away. He wrote, It's 11.
Patrick Hines
Pages. The excerpt that we get reads, the spread between my mother and I widened to equal the spread between heaven and.
Documentary Narrator/Interviewee
Hell. The way some parents are committed to having their children grow up to be doctors or lawyers. My mother's dream is to have a nonverbal autistic child drooling in her living room, whose diapers she can change until she grows old. My mother's pursuit of that dream and her bullying characterized my.
Patrick Hines
Childhood. My mother's pursuit of that dream. And her bullying characterized my.
Julian Bethevoli
Childhood. Holy.
Patrick Hines
Shit. Like, that's a very different picture of Linda than we've gotten so far. That is like, that's like a Munchausen by Proxy thing. Like keeping your kids. Kids sick and drooling and non verbal and in diapers. Like, like that is at least how Nathan saw his relationship with his.
Julian Bethevoli
Mother. Well, the thing about those camps, I mean, or those programs, whatever the fuck you want to call them, those torture hell holes, is that like the kids are begging to come.
Patrick Hines
Home.
Julian Bethevoli
Yes. And the parents are told don't listen, they're lying to you, they're manipulative. So if Nathan is. Is reduced to writing this like 11 page letter to a priest, he was probably begging his parents who didn't listen. And again, I know that the parents are the mark. They are brainwashed, they're told whatever to get the money coming in. I get.
Patrick Hines
That. And I also abuse. Yeah, no question. And I think that the one that he went to must have been some sort of like religiously affiliated thing because the next. Yeah. And the next whole section of this is all about how his relationship with God and the church was different when he came back. So like we're told when he came back from the camp he had a breakdown, having problems with the church and the.
Julian Bethevoli
Devil. Well, obviously he's acting out. He abused for. We don't know how long he was there, like Netflix, Get a.
Patrick Hines
Grip. But if it wasn't, if it just. It feels to me like it must have been some sort of religious thing because like that's a weird thing to come back with if it wasn't or.
Julian Bethevoli
Not. Like maybe you just don't believe in anything anymore and like why would. You know what I.
Patrick Hines
Mean? Yeah, it just feels like either the family is super religious and we're not being told about it, or this program was like, like there's. That just seems like a.
Julian Bethevoli
Lot. Well, he comes home, he's acting out obviously. And then another shitty decision is made because they throw him in this psychiatric.
Patrick Hines
Facility. Yeah, they could do anything. They sent him away twice. And as he's like begging not to go. And like this is where John the grandfather steps in. Because Nathan is supposed to be alone in this facility getting therapy every day, not communicating with his family. But the, the grandfather is going to see him daily, bringing him newspapers and pizza and it's making Linda crazy. And like John and the grandfather desperately wanted to get Nathan out of.
Documentary Narrator/Interviewee
There. He wanted to take him out and that was it. John said he was Going to cut. Got the money. Linda said she didn't want the money. He came at her, started to slap.
Patrick Hines
Her. And this is where we get from Clark, the ex husband, a scene of him, like slapping and hitting her, like in public, like in front of people. He doesn't care who sees.
Julian Bethevoli
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Patrick Hines
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Julian Bethevoli
Box. So.
Patrick Hines
Good.
Julian Bethevoli
Truly. And then we learn that there's a history of mental illness in the family. Kiki is John's twin.
Patrick Hines
Sister.
Julian Bethevoli
Yes. And Charlene, the sister with bad vibes, says she had depression or some kind of mental illness. Thanks, Charlene, for once again, for your.
Patrick Hines
Warmth. Well, and this is where I was. I was referring to this earlier. This is why John feels. John, the grandfather feels the way he feels about sending people to like, quote, mental institutions because his sister Kiki was sent to one and it made her worse because she was given shock therapy treatment and, like, horribly.
Julian Bethevoli
Mistreated. Can I ask, like, why did anyone ever think that that was a good.
Patrick Hines
Idea? I don't.
Julian Bethevoli
Know. Like, how did we get there? I can't.
Patrick Hines
Imagine. I.
Julian Bethevoli
Know. Even explaining it and saying it out loud and a bunch of men being like that sounds.
Patrick Hines
Like. Sounds like a great idea. Like, I.
Julian Bethevoli
Know. And then when they used to.
Patrick Hines
Do it to gay people, you know what I mean? Like, thinking that it would convert.
Julian Bethevoli
Them. Right. And that, like, rewire you. And then when you see it, like, who in that room going, we need to do more of this to more people. It's really.
Patrick Hines
Helping. It.
Julian Bethevoli
Doesn'T. I don't understand. It's so.
Patrick Hines
Barbaric. Well, and. But it also feels like the torture is the point. It feels like the pain and the mistreatment and the torture is the.
Julian Bethevoli
Point. Because a lot of that old school thinking was like, this is all a choice, so you don't want this to happen.
Patrick Hines
Again. Also, like, they were subjects to be tested on, you know, I think it's so.
Julian Bethevoli
Disgusting. It really.
Patrick Hines
Is. So it almost feels unreal. Like you can't. Like, you almost can't. Like, you see, like, the scenes that we've seen in movies of it, but you feel like it's. It can't have actually.
Julian Bethevoli
Happened. I know. Like once, you know, the.
Patrick Hines
Cuckoo.
Julian Bethevoli
Yeah. I hate.
Patrick Hines
It.
Julian Bethevoli
Yeah. So John saw what was done to his sister and he didn't want Nathan to go through that. Of course. That makes sense. I just want to say Nathan needs help, so forcing treatment on him isn't going to work. But forbidding him from getting help also isn't going to work. Yeah. So we have to figure out. And sending him to a fucking torture camp isn't going to work either. So, like, and my question to.
Patrick Hines
This family with all the resources in the world, why are you trying the one thing that you have experience with that didn't.
Julian Bethevoli
Work? I don't.
Patrick Hines
Know. You know what I mean? And also, like, at the time that this was all happening, autism was not like an unknown, you know? And. And once again, I'm not attributing his behavior to his autism. We're going to learn later that, like, he was an autistic person with a severe mental illness. So it's just like, this family has all the resources in the world, like, figure out what's happening.
Julian Bethevoli
Here. I know. So after Nathan was released from the hospital, he is still refusing to enter Linda's home and continue to live in the camper. And wouldn't you know, I mean.
Patrick Hines
He wants nothing to do with his parents. We're told that we. We barely touch on it. But he's not speaking to either of his parents. It's not just his mom. It's his dad bad.
Julian Bethevoli
Too. Why would. You know what I'm.
Patrick Hines
Saying? And I'm on Nathan's side with all of.
Julian Bethevoli
That. So Linda now decides to change her. Well, my thoughts on this might be a little.
Patrick Hines
Controversial. I'm probably with what you're gonna.
Julian Bethevoli
Say. We see video of Linda explaining this to Nathan. She's very calm. She's very straightforward. She's very robotic, which is what we. Words that were used to describe Nathan. To me, it sounds like she's communicating in a way that Nathan would.
Patrick Hines
Appreciate.
Julian Bethevoli
Yes. Because she says, look, you haven't been in this house not even to wash your hands after fishing. This house is very important to.
Patrick Hines
Me. Has a lot of memories, has.
Julian Bethevoli
A lot of history, and I feel.
Patrick Hines
It really needs to stay in the.
Julian Bethevoli
Family with somebody who does and will cherish it as much as I do. I feel it really needs to stay in the family with someone who cares about it as much as I do. She's leaving it to someone named Michael. We have no idea who that is. We're not told. Whatever. It doesn't matter. But Linda says, and it's quick and it's, again, very straightforward. And says, john, the grandfather is leaving you, quote, more than enough assets, and you're the sole inheritor of my.
Patrick Hines
Trust.
Julian Bethevoli
Yeah. You have more than enough. I love you with all my heart. That's my.
Patrick Hines
Decision. She's in no way cutting him off. She's just saying, I want this house to be taken care of. We're all on Linda's side.
Julian Bethevoli
Right? Like, sure, it's cold, but that's also a word used to describe Nathan. So I think she's like, he wouldn't really give a shit if she was emotional about it. To her, it's a decision. She's not cutting him off. It doesn't sound like a.
Patrick Hines
Punishment.
Julian Bethevoli
No. He's still going to be a millionaire. A Million times over it now. You know, torture can camp.
Patrick Hines
Aside.
Julian Bethevoli
Yes. I don't really see, like, the.
Patrick Hines
Problem. They're making a lot of bad decisions. This isn't one of.
Julian Bethevoli
Them. It just seems like you have everything else. But I'm going to give the house to someone who's not going to demolish it or let it fall into.
Patrick Hines
Disrepair.
Julian Bethevoli
Exactly. But you still get millions of.
Patrick Hines
Dollars. Yeah. Yeah. Yes. And, like, I think Linda's doing the right thing.
Julian Bethevoli
Here. This one decision.
Patrick Hines
Isolated.
Julian Bethevoli
Yes. One little, teeny, tiny, isolated decision. Makes sense to.
Patrick Hines
Me. So the cousin is back to tell us that one night when Nathan wasn't speaking to either of his parents, John, the grandfather, shows up with Nathan at this cousin's house and his. Like, he's going to live here now. And because nobody questions the grandfather about anything, hoping for that check on the day that he dies, the cousin's like, okay.
Julian Bethevoli
Fine. And also, speaking of money, the grandfather is totally bankrolling Nathan's life. He's giving him $100,000 a year just for.
Patrick Hines
Existing.
Julian Bethevoli
Yeah. And paying all of his rent or anything. He needs all expenses.
Patrick Hines
Paid. But it's certainly not out of the goodness of his heart. There's a lot that, like, Nathan has to do to keep that, you.
Julian Bethevoli
Know. Right. No. 100%. So Nathan is just. He's not doing well. He's not getting the treatment he needs. And Elizabeth, the autism legal expert, says it's. And I was kind of like, oh, she says it very plainly. She says, if someone has a major diagnosis of autism spectrum disorder, but they refuse to accept the fact that they have a serious mental illness as well, that can be catastrophic, often with deadly conflict consequences. That is often catastrophic with deadly.
Patrick Hines
Consequences. And it made me wonder, like, if police can't discern, like, how. What's really going on with an autistic person when they're interviewing them? Like, can other professionals discern the difference between how he presents as an autistic person and how he presents as a person with a mental illness? Is all of it masked by the way that his behavior is because of his autism? You know what I.
Julian Bethevoli
Mean? I mean, we were just talking about Hunted by my husband. This, like, this tunnel vision that these.
Patrick Hines
Cops. Pops.
Julian Bethevoli
Had. Like, can you stop? Like, I don't like the way he responded to me. I don't like his.
Patrick Hines
Tone.
Julian Bethevoli
Right. Can we step away from that for a.
Patrick Hines
Minute? And also, I think at this point, like, it should be noted that, like, Nathan's. His mental illness isn't manifesting violently yet. It's manifesting as depression, as isolating as, you know, social. Yeah. So it's. It's one of those things that can also be written off. Like, that's just how teenagers are, you know, like, it's hard enough to diagnose mental illness in people who don't have autism. That also affects the way that they are perceived by the world. So he's got, like, the double whammy against him. And he also, we're being told, doesn't want to accept him about.
Julian Bethevoli
Himself. Right. And autism or not, there are plenty of people who don't want to accept their mental illness or whatever their diagnosis is. So, like that. That's what I mean. There is a lot of things where it's like, the autism, to me, isn't necessarily 100% relevant. And I'm saying that as, like, no.
Patrick Hines
The. And the only reason I'm even bringing it up at all is because I do think it affects the way the world sees. So they might write off any behavior that isn't, quote, normal to the autism, you.
Julian Bethevoli
Know? Now here's something interesting. Six months after John the abusive grandfather's murder, very shortly before the homicide, Nathan purchased the weapon out of state with an out of state driver's license. He refused to answer any questions about it. He refused to produce the weapon. And at this juncture, law enforcement, to my knowledge, has no idea where that weapon is. He purchased it out of state or with an out of state driver's.
Patrick Hines
License. Now, the timeline here is going to be a little confusing in the sense that we will be told later, quickly, too quickly, that Nathan told the cops he does not own a gun, so that, like, he lied to the police about owning a gun. I just want to say that here because it comes up later, and I was a little confused by.
Julian Bethevoli
It.
Patrick Hines
Yeah. So Nathan lied to the cops about owning a gun, which to me is another check in the he didn't.
Julian Bethevoli
Category. And when he's asked about it, he pleads the fifth, which, you know, could go either.
Patrick Hines
Way. And he pleads the fifth because.
Julian Bethevoli
He lied to the cops and he refuses to answer questions about it. He refused to produce the weapon, and to this day, we don't know where that gun.
Patrick Hines
Is.
Julian Bethevoli
Yeah. Yes. And we're told by the FBI that the ammo used in that weapon matched what was at the crime scene. Now, Martin Nathan's defense lawyer is going to say, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. But that's totally conjecture. What they fail to tell you is that this could have been 600 different types of guns. That had that same.
Patrick Hines
Shell. Well, there's two different things being said here. It's the kind of ammunition that gun uses that that kind of gun uses, but you need the actual gun to determine if the bullet came from the actual.
Julian Bethevoli
Gun.
Patrick Hines
Sure. So, like, this is a check in Nathan's like, yeah, we can't prove that bullet came from that gun because we don't have that.
Julian Bethevoli
Gun. Totally heard. I guess that would mean more to me if Nathan had not driven out of state a week before a.
Patrick Hines
Murder, lied to the cops about having.
Julian Bethevoli
A gun, buy a gun, and then lie about it, and is unable to produce the weapon in any.
Patrick Hines
Way.
Julian Bethevoli
Yeah. You know, it's kind of like.
Patrick Hines
I think Nathan did this, no.
Julian Bethevoli
Question. You know, like, I hear, like, totally hear you. Like, I think that's important, too. At the same time, there's a lot. It's not just, like, this is a random gun they found on the side of the.
Patrick Hines
Street. Like, just like an attorney being an attorney. It's like, wait a second. Like. Or the cops being the. Because it is true that, like, that is the kind of ammunition that the kind of gun that Nathan bought uses. But, like, we just know from, like, doing documentaries that, like, each gun has a distinctive thing, like a fingerprint. Right. So, like, without that gun, we can't take it, but we can say it comes from the kind of gun that Nathan.
Julian Bethevoli
Owns.
Patrick Hines
Yeah. The cousin is here to say I, of all people, was like, Nathan never could have been the one that killed my grandfather. Absolutely not until big reveal, we find out that after the grandfather died, Nathan got an insurance payout of 440,000 doll. $14,000 that didn't have to go through probate. And so then this is when we get the whole thing about, like, the. The memo that was sent before the grandfather.
Julian Bethevoli
Died. Right. There was this.
Patrick Hines
Memo.
Julian Bethevoli
Yeah. While Nathan's grandfather, who's bankrolling his entire life, no questions asked, Nathan wrote to his grandfather's trust and estates.
Documentary Narrator/Interviewee
Lawyer. I think one of the biggest.
Patrick Hines
Pieces of evidence in this case is he had sent a memo to his grandfather's trust and estates attorney prior to his grandfather's death with very specific questions, unbelievably specific questions, and many of them.
Julian Bethevoli
Unbelievably specific questions about the money and who gets the money and when someone gets the money and what would it. What would have to happen so that someone doesn't get the money? And, like, what needs to happen so that Nathan gets all the money.
Patrick Hines
As a person who's not going to inherit $10 million, like when you're in a family that's dealing with that kind of money, are those, those kinds of emails common, like, hey, just try to like, understand what's coming to me. Eventually. Someday when somebody dies, like, I feel like it can be seen nefariously. And also it's just like, hey, just checking in. Like, I know it's weird to talk about money, but I'm just curious what I'm looking at as I'm planning my.
Julian Bethevoli
Future. I. Sure. I mean, again, I don't have that either. Like, I don't have any experience with that. I've never dealt with any kind of estate. There's not ten and a half million dollars waiting for.
Patrick Hines
Me.
Julian Bethevoli
No. So I. I don't. I don't.
Patrick Hines
Know. Because it looks bad. Like, as presented in the documentary, this looks.
Julian Bethevoli
Bad. And it' weird because, like, it feels like to me. And again, this is just based on what we've heard. Like, just ask him, why are we putting this in writing? It feels like if you're planning to kill somebody, why would you write a formal memo putting it in writing, basically, like, tell me how to. Who I have to kill so I get all the money.
Patrick Hines
And. But then like, the reverse of that is like, his defense would be like, but if I was going to kill him, would I put it in.
Julian Bethevoli
Writing? I don't.
Patrick Hines
Know. You know what I mean? That's how they always get, like, that's. That's what they always.
Julian Bethevoli
Say. Yeah. Nothing makes any.
Patrick Hines
Sense.
Julian Bethevoli
Yeah. Now, Nathan has never changed, charged or arrested in connection with his grandfather's.
Patrick Hines
Murder. The police, I will say they did write a warrant, so they wanted to get him, but the judge wouldn't sign it. So the police, like, they think he's the.
Julian Bethevoli
Guy. Now sister Charlene is here to say something that she did not actually hear it when she said it because she says people had been through a trial and put on death row for less evidence than what they had on Nathan. And I just thought that was. Was just, just insane, you know, why wasn't he even arrested? And I just thought that was insane. Me too, Charlene. I know, but I think it's for different.
Patrick Hines
Reasons. Welcome to the resistance, Charlene. I.
Julian Bethevoli
Know. What an idiot. Who says that? Do you hear.
Patrick Hines
Yourself? I.
Julian Bethevoli
Know. How do you not as it's coming out of your mouth like, no, no, no, no, no. Like you just grab the words and put it back in. That happens to me on a regular basis about some pretty fucking benign things, you know, being like, oh my God, you know, how Many times I say to Tom, tom, I know. I think I said this one thing I know is wrong all the.
Patrick Hines
Time.
Julian Bethevoli
Yes. And for her to be like, people have been killed for less.
Patrick Hines
Evidence. And I'm like, I know.
Julian Bethevoli
Charlene. You hear.
Patrick Hines
Yourself?
Julian Bethevoli
Yes. But now we get BFF Linda talking about Linda the mom, and how much she absolutely loved, loved, loved, loved, loved Nathan and did everything for.
Patrick Hines
Him.
Julian Bethevoli
Yeah. So this is also some conflicting.
Patrick Hines
Information. I mean, we also get a story here about a priest who finds Nathan and Linda at a church where Nathan is on the altar with his hands outstretched, begging God for forgiveness. And Linda's in the back watching. We're told this scene goes on for five.
Julian Bethevoli
Hours. Now, I'm not being argumentative with you. I'm just asking, like, who told us.
Patrick Hines
That? The cousin told us.
Julian Bethevoli
That. I don't. The cousin is. I.
Patrick Hines
Know. And it's like, if that did happen, then it does imply that Linda knew and Nathan did it. But once again, it's like the cousin also told us that Linda couldn't pass the polygraph test and she took it. How do you know.
Julian Bethevoli
That? Because it is also like that abusive guy who was beating the shit out of all the women in his life was totally.
Patrick Hines
Fin. Totally fine. Nobody went to prison. I know.
Julian Bethevoli
Yeah. Like, Charlene wants us to think she grew up in a quaint little.
Patrick Hines
Apartment, but, like, let's think, like, at the end of the day, like, we're all just here because of the money. You know what I mean? Like, all I want to say in grandpa's good grace is to get the.
Julian Bethevoli
Check. But what BFF Linda is saying is that Linda was a wonderful mom. From the moment Nathan was born, Linda was trying to do the best for him. That's how her life was just to trying, trying to help her son. She would see something in Nathan and then search and read about it, read about it, read about it, find a specialist constantly. She claims that money was no object for Nathan's mom and that, like, all she wanted to do was research and help him and most importantly, make sure he didn't grow up in this angry, violent household. And so the fact that her abusive, violent father was meddling and interfering so much was. And using her grandson as a.
Patrick Hines
Pawn. But that's the thing. Like, Linda, you keep saying you don't want the money, so then go back to California, take your kid and get out of there. The Dunkies franchise didn't work out, and I'm as sad as the next.
Julian Bethevoli
Guy, but I think maybe perhaps she sees her Son, that needs a lot of help. And she needs to.
Patrick Hines
Bankroll. Yes. And that I understand. You do anything like that for your.
Julian Bethevoli
Kids. You know.
Patrick Hines
What? I get it. Yeah. So you put up with your shitty dad because you, Linda, you're the only one with an actual reason to put up with all this bullshit. To get the money because your kid needs.
Julian Bethevoli
It. And, like, the teen torture camps are super expensive. That's why the parents are the marks. And then to try to undo the damage from the abuse of the expensive teen torture camp. Like, this all costs a lot of.
Patrick Hines
Money. Oh, my God. But they're just making it.
Julian Bethevoli
Worse. They're making it WOR. At every 100%. So, Mom, Linda now wants to bond with Nathan because he's pulling away because of the torture camp and then the facility. And.
Patrick Hines
So. And also kids. Kids just pull away. You know what I mean?
Julian Bethevoli
Yeah. But she's, like. Must be feeling guilty about all of that. Like, she just wants to. We're told all she wants to do is help him. And she. Fudgeing, hates fishing. But she's doing it on a regular basis to be close to.
Patrick Hines
Her. Parenting is a jungle. I cannot tell you the amount of roadblocks I have to look at. You know what I.
Julian Bethevoli
Mean? That's a.
Patrick Hines
Game. It's a. It's like a. It's a.
Julian Bethevoli
Game.
Patrick Hines
Yeah. I can't even explain it more than that. Like, you do what you got to do.
Julian Bethevoli
Lyn. Is it like a building game? It sounds like a building.
Patrick Hines
Game. It's one of those. There's, like, the other one that. There's, like, the building game, and they, like. Yeah. I mean, if. If the kids had their way, they would do that and nothing else.
Julian Bethevoli
Ever. Is that like the.
Patrick Hines
Sims?
Julian Bethevoli
Yes. You're, like.
Patrick Hines
Building. Yeah. Yep. I don't really get it. I don't really understand it all the time. I'm playing it all the.
Julian Bethevoli
Time. Do you have a little.
Patrick Hines
Character? No, I just follow.
Julian Bethevoli
Daisy. All right, so she hated fishing. She's doing it anyway for him. That's what her BFF is saying. So we are getting some conflicting information. It's just all very.
Patrick Hines
Complicated. Yeah. And she's doing the best she can, you know, and then we learned that, like, after John's teaching, the grandfather's death, Nathan, who now. Now Linda's whole family is not speaking to Linda and Nathan because they think that Nathan killed the dad. And Linda's covering for him. Nathan is also not being spoken.
Documentary Narrator/Interviewee
To by the family, obviously, after John's death, Nathan. He had bought Property in Vermont. He was studying and learning how to do all the plumbing. He. He did the remodeling inside. He did it all on his.
Patrick Hines
Own. So with some of his inheritance money, he buys a house in Vermont and moves there to fix it up. On his.
Julian Bethevoli
Own. Yeah, because he sort of is inspired by his grandfather, and, like, his grandfather was a real estate developer. So.
Patrick Hines
He. It's like a twofer. He wants to get out of town, and he want. Yeah, he wants to, like, build the.
Julian Bethevoli
House. And he was, like, teaching himself how to do it. Like, he's so.
Patrick Hines
Smart.
Julian Bethevoli
Yes. So he was teaching himself how to do all. Like, to, like. Like, rip up the floors and install plumbing. Like, truly, like, learning how to do it himself and just doing.
Patrick Hines
It. Can I tell you, I was a kid, my dad did this. We bought a house in Fairhaven, Massachusetts, and my dad decided he was going to remodel the whole thing himself. We spent a full year of our lives living in a house with no.
Julian Bethevoli
Walls. Wow.
Patrick Hines
Drafty. Yeah. Then my mom was like, I'm out of here, and I'm a lesbian, and I'm taking the.
Julian Bethevoli
Kids.
Patrick Hines
Wow. It was.
Julian Bethevoli
Drafty. Yeah. That would make anyone a lesbian. Honestly, I can't take it.
Patrick Hines
Anymore. My mom's like, I'm a lesbian. But you know what? As your final punishment, Stanley, I'm not going to fix this for.
Julian Bethevoli
You.
Patrick Hines
Stanley. I could. I know. I was supposed to be Stanley.
Julian Bethevoli
Iv.
Patrick Hines
Typical. I.
Julian Bethevoli
Know. There are three.
Patrick Hines
Others. Yes. My devil. I knew my grandfather. Okay. Yeah. Just died recently. Who is.
Julian Bethevoli
The. Oh.
Patrick Hines
Sorry. That's.
Julian Bethevoli
Okay. Who are the other ones? He was probably, like, 100 years.
Patrick Hines
Old. He was very old. But my grandpa, I didn't see him since the time I was, like, 15 or something. But I saw a picture of him at the end of his life. Buff as hell. This motherfucker, like, at the end of his. Yeah, like, 88 years old. Like, ripped was wild. Great. You know what I mean? Like, you learn something new every.
Julian Bethevoli
Day. May he.
Patrick Hines
Rest. I don't do.
Julian Bethevoli
It. So let's go back to mom, Linda. His.
Patrick Hines
Disappearance.
Julian Bethevoli
Yeah. So two weeks after Nathan was rescued, he filed an $85,000 insurance claim for his lost boat. Now, what's.
Patrick Hines
Interesting. This is his.
Julian Bethevoli
Undoing. What's interesting about this is that the insurance company says, no, no, no, and sues Nathan because apparently Nathan altered the.
Patrick Hines
Boat.
Julian Bethevoli
Yes. So we're going to learn about trim tabs.
Patrick Hines
Everybody. Oh, my.
Julian Bethevoli
God. In case you already know about.
Patrick Hines
It. I mean, the trim tabs are, like, the little metal Things that you stand on when you're about to jump.
Julian Bethevoli
Off the back of the boat, they look like little flippers. Kind of like horizontal flippers.
Patrick Hines
Yeah. But a witness says, I didn't see any fishing poles. I didn't even see him with food. It kind of caught my eye.
Documentary Narrator/Interviewee
When I saw him leaning over the.
Patrick Hines
Back and drilling two holes. He saw Nathan Carmen, and he's bending over and reaching to the back.
Documentary Narrator/Interviewee
Of the boat with a drill in.
Patrick Hines
His hand that had a hole saw bit on.
Documentary Narrator/Interviewee
It. He removed the trim tabs from the boat that.
Julian Bethevoli
Day. The day before the fishing trip, he saw Nathan drilling on his boat. He was there for one purpose, and it was like to drill the.
Patrick Hines
Boat. This guy's name was Mike Iazi. I just like the name. I wrote it down because I thought it was.
Julian Bethevoli
Fun. It's fun to say Mike.
Patrick Hines
Gyazzi. Yeah, he probably owns a donkey.
Julian Bethevoli
Franchise.
Patrick Hines
Probably. You know what I mean? Some of us get to live the.
Julian Bethevoli
Dream. Some of us do, you know, Some of us don't. Exactly says the girl without a Dunkies.
Patrick Hines
Franchise. I want it to be like Ruth's Chris Steakhouse, where it's like Mike's Dunkin's.
Julian Bethevoli
Donuts. That name makes me.
Patrick Hines
Crazy. Ruth's Chris Steak's Chris. I know. It's because Ruth bought it from Chris, but she loved it so much that she didn't want to change the.
Julian Bethevoli
Name. Well, she.
Patrick Hines
Did. Well, she did. You're right. But she kept Chris's name on.
Julian Bethevoli
It. Ruth, you still changed.
Patrick Hines
It. Ruth, you.
Julian Bethevoli
Did. Don't split hairs with me here. You changed it. Now we got Rand random S's and apostrophes.
Patrick Hines
Everywhere. You're right about that. Ruth's.
Julian Bethevoli
Chris. He still changed it. Ruth. Anyway, so trim tabs. So Nathan had removed the trim. They're like these metal flaps on the back of the boat. And he took them off. And so what they're telling us that he created a situation where there are now holes in the.
Patrick Hines
Boat. This is how the boat sinks. And the only reason we know this is because Nathan filed that $85,000. If he had never filed the claim, if he just let that go, they never would have gotten him on.
Julian Bethevoli
This. And so then the other point is like, so then if he did did it, then why would he file this claim if he's just. If this is just going to be his.
Patrick Hines
Undoing? But that's the. That's the whole thing.
Julian Bethevoli
Right? But like, a judge rules that the boat sank because of what Nathan did to the boat. So he loses the insurance claim.
Patrick Hines
The judge says direct or indirect result of his faulty repairs. So the judge is leaving the door open for that. He did this on.
Julian Bethevoli
Purpose. Well, now the feds are.
Patrick Hines
Involved.
Julian Bethevoli
Exactly. So. Because they say that Nathan set out to kill his mother and his grandfather, and this is all about getting all of the grandfather's money and maybe a little, little bit of revenge. So he's arrested and charged with murder on the high seas, which to. I, I'm telling you, I'm shocked. That's not the name of a Columbo.
Patrick Hines
Episode. Oh, I murder the high seas. I feel like it's got to.
Julian Bethevoli
Be an Agatha Christie murder on the high.
Patrick Hines
Seas. So.
Julian Bethevoli
Good. I'm like, that's not. We have. Not by the.
Patrick Hines
Book. He's got to walk the plank.
Julian Bethevoli
Eventually. We have. By dawn's early light, we have the.
Patrick Hines
Columbo. So dark, the waves on Biscayne.
Julian Bethevoli
Bay. Oh, my God. Not a Columbo.
Patrick Hines
Episode.
Julian Bethevoli
No. So Nathan claims he was at sea for seven days in the life raft. And this is where we're really. They really break down. Why? That's impossible. People are saying the word. It's impossible. There is no way that he could have been in the raft for seven days is what we're.
Patrick Hines
Told. Yeah. And so, like, once again, like, Eric from the Coast Guard is just saying, like, pointing to, like, his ability to like, swim in the ocean, pull himself up on the life ring, walk up that ladder. They're saying it would be absolutely impossible.
Julian Bethevoli
Physiologically. They say there's no.
Patrick Hines
Way. Nathan's attorneys bring in a damn good looking Navy seal, a guy named Mike. And Mike is saying, in that.
Documentary Narrator/Interviewee
Situation when you know that's your potential rescue, possibly your only rescue, your adrenaline is going to kick up no matter how exhausted you are. And I've been in those situations where extreme heat conditions in Iraq, guys are dehydrated, they're exhausted. And when we had an extract under contact, you saw the guys almost pop out of that exhaustion, that dehydration and go into.
Julian Bethevoli
Action. It's all the.
Patrick Hines
Adrenaline. Exactly right. And like. So, like, is that what happened with.
Julian Bethevoli
Nathan? So it's a battle of the.
Patrick Hines
Experts.
Julian Bethevoli
Yes. One side is saying, there's no way this is possible. The other expert is saying, well, it's absolutely.
Patrick Hines
Possible. Okay, remember the beginning when I said these boats have, like, if the boat sinks bag. It's called a ditch.
Julian Bethevoli
Bag. Oh, I like.
Patrick Hines
That. A ditch.
Julian Bethevoli
Bag. I like that. Like a go.
Patrick Hines
Bag. Yeah. Or like, like if you want to ditch the boat and get in the.
Julian Bethevoli
Life.
Patrick Hines
Totally. It's a ditch.
Julian Bethevoli
Bag. So excellent.
Patrick Hines
Segway. Thank you so.
Julian Bethevoli
Much. What did Nathan have in the life raft? He had emergency food rations. We're not sure how much or how long it would.
Patrick Hines
Last.
Julian Bethevoli
Yeah. And now they're going to spend 15 minutes on this handheld emergency water maker. It turns salt water into drinking water. And everyone is going to say how insane this is. And they've never once heard of anyone ever having.
Patrick Hines
This. I.
Julian Bethevoli
Know. Again, no pun intended. Does not hold water for me. I think it's actually a really smart thing to.
Patrick Hines
Have. I don't know why you wouldn't have.
Julian Bethevoli
It. I don't. When they were. I was like, this is the big. You know what I mean? Moment. He had something that turns water into the.
Patrick Hines
Water. Next time I go to the beach, I'm gonna take one of those with me. I'm not gonna go all the way to the bar for a glass of water. If I can just do it by magic, like Jesus in the. In the. In the.
Julian Bethevoli
Ocean. If I had a 31 foot aluminum boat that looks kind of ranky dance, I'd want to be like, when this. When this thing.
Patrick Hines
Sinks?
Julian Bethevoli
Yes. When I'm in an emergency situation, I'm gonna get a little thirsty out.
Patrick Hines
There. Why wouldn't you have, like, a ditch.
Julian Bethevoli
Bag? Why isn't all the standard. I don't get.
Patrick Hines
It. Unless it weighs 700 pounds and costs a million dollars, why wouldn't everybody have one of.
Julian Bethevoli
These? It just.
Patrick Hines
Seems.
Julian Bethevoli
Yeah. Totally reasonable and.
Patrick Hines
Normal. Suddenly I'm a Nathan didn't do it.
Julian Bethevoli
Or. But, like. Because now we're going to hear from John Elder Robison. He's. He's the defense's autism expert, and he has autism. And he says he was like, this makes total sense.
Documentary Narrator/Interviewee
Yes. He says, you had Nathan's autistic people like me, and by extension, people like him. Those traits to have structure and planning are part of. Part of our autism. But, you know, people tend to.
Patrick Hines
Think we are up to.
Documentary Narrator/Interviewee
Something. We're tricky, we're devious, or we're just.
Julian Bethevoli
Dummies. It's a, quote, trait of autism. And it's not unusual that Nathan would have everything from top to bottom that you could possibly need, whether it's realistic or.
Patrick Hines
Not.
Julian Bethevoli
Yes. And he said, like, this is a total nothing burger for me. I agree with this guy. And he goes, I have the same traits. And he says people tend to think we're either up to something or devious or that we're just.
Patrick Hines
Dummies. Yes. I mean, and that was very well said. But also, I don't think you gotta be up to something to be the guy with the ditch bag with the water maker. You know what I.
Julian Bethevoli
Mean? I think that you should have those emergency bags on anything where, like, you.
Patrick Hines
Could. We should be changing laws. You should have to have a ditch bag with a water.
Julian Bethevoli
Maker. Yeah, I think that's crazy. I think it's crazy that they. That the FBI is like, see? And then they're like, shut up, Jillian. We have more evidence. And I'm like, whoa. Well, I take it down a.
Patrick Hines
Notch. And this evidence is compelling because they're saying that, like, science tells us that there's no way he could have sank where he sank at the time he said he sank based on where he was founded. And for this, they're using a thing called drift analysis, which, like, we're going be told it's junk science, but then we're told it absolutely isn't. I'm with.
Julian Bethevoli
You. The Coast Guard, they have ways to figure out how far something or someone will drift and in what direction. And they use, like, the weight and the size of the vessel, the current environmental factors. And all of this information is constantly being updated, monitored by, like, buoys and sensors and satellites. It's a real thing. It's.
Patrick Hines
Like. And it's used by, like, major climate scientists. Like, it seems to be at the very. It's like, okay, if they were off by, like, 150ft. Feet or whatever, fine. But, like, at the end of the day, Nathan was 80 miles from where he should have been if the boat went down where he said it.
Julian Bethevoli
Went down, according to the drift.
Patrick Hines
Analysis.
Julian Bethevoli
Yeah. And so the defense is like, junk science, and the journalist is like, yeah, no, no, this is just data, and data doesn't.
Patrick Hines
Lie.
Julian Bethevoli
Yeah.
Patrick Hines
So. And honestly, I feel like we can take the journalist's word for it because he's the most impartial person we're going to meet.
Julian Bethevoli
Here. He's the one that was like, first I was amazed, and then I was confused and.
Patrick Hines
Concerned.
Julian Bethevoli
Yes. So this is now where the prosecution or the FBI or whatever starts to lose me.
Patrick Hines
Entirely.
Julian Bethevoli
Yeah. Because their theory, I think, is, in a word, ridiculous, because they have all of this evidence, but then the way they tie it all together, I'm like.
Patrick Hines
Really? That's interesting, because I thought this was plausible, like, what he.
Julian Bethevoli
Did. We're going to get into what their theory is, which I am a little confused by. But. But the last big, like, bum, bum, bum is they can't find the life raft, because very soon after Nathan got off the raft, it, like, fully deflated and sun into the.
Patrick Hines
Ocean. Like, he sunk the raft. Like, he got out of the raft and he stabbed it or broke it in some way that made.
Julian Bethevoli
It. Because he was on it perfectly for seven days. And then the minute he's off it, it is now going into, like, the best crime scene.
Patrick Hines
Ever. Well, because what, the ocean forever? Right. Best crime scene for the killer. Because what they're saying is that.
Julian Bethevoli
Nathan did not want us to see the condition of the life raft, what was still on the life raft, what equipment he did or didn't have on the life raft. Because it may very well demonstrate that he was not on that life raft for seven.
Patrick Hines
Days. There's no way he was on that life raft for seven days. And he needed to sink that life raft so that we wouldn't be able to tell that he wasn't on it for seven.
Julian Bethevoli
Days. And no one has answered. And correct me if I'm wrong, maybe it was just quick. When did his mother disappear? Well, I mean, on what.
Patrick Hines
Day? There is no.
Julian Bethevoli
Answer. There's no.
Patrick Hines
Answer. We will be. We'll get Nathan's version of it, but we don't really.
Julian Bethevoli
Know. But early in the beginning of the week, at the end of the week, we don't.
Patrick Hines
Know. We don't know. Well, I mean, I don't think that she would have stayed away from her cell phone for seven days willingly, of.
Julian Bethevoli
Course. No, no, no. I like, in the journey of.
Patrick Hines
This harrowing, I think that she died on day.
Julian Bethevoli
One. I.
Patrick Hines
Agree. But like the prosecutors are saying, the most plausible scenario of what really happened was that after leaving Judith Point, which is apparently, like, where they took off from on Saturday night, he killed his mother, disposed of the body nowhere near Block island, which was where their original intended destination was, which Coast Guard would be searching. Which is exactly where the Coast Guard would be searching. Exactly. And then he goes to the Connecticut coast because it's where he knows and he knows he can hide in plain sight because he knows the Coast Guard is going to be searching that area around Block Island. So he gets out of there, goes to the Connecticut coast where he knows it, and he knows they won't be.
Julian Bethevoli
Looking. But that's the thing that kind of was like that. Doesn't that feel like a big risk that he. Because they say, oh, you know, like, he was on the coastline and there are plenty of nooks and crannies that he could hide in. And I'm like, for Someone who we're told is meticulous and has all of his emergency stuff and, like, all his rations. It feels like a big risk to me, but maybe I don't know anything about this kind of.
Patrick Hines
Thing. I mean, to me, it just seemed like the easiest, most calculated.
Julian Bethevoli
Solution. You did a look over.
Patrick Hines
There. Yeah. And, like, the boat is nondescript. I don't see, like, a name on the boat, even if. But I don't see it written on the boat. You know what I.
Julian Bethevoli
Mean?
Patrick Hines
Yeah. Is.
Julian Bethevoli
It? Is it. Let me check the picture. Let me go. Go to the videotape. I have it. Oh, God. Now I'm in the nautical mile part of the program. It says chickenpox on it from Plymouth, and it says the.
Patrick Hines
Location. Well, okay, then. Then I do think that there's a hole in the story, because, I mean, unless he's able to cover the boat. It's a small boat. Like, if they're saying he's, like, slipped into some port somewhere where he's able to cover the boat over that. Yeah. I mean, like, this does make sense to me that, like, he hides her in plain sight. Then he's, like, got his nose to the ground about big cargo ships that are going because that cargo. Cargo ship left from Providence. So maybe he is able to learn when a big ship that will be passing along this way is going to be leaving. And then they say after the.
Documentary Narrator/Interviewee
Coast Guard had called off their search, he gets in the chickenpox, guns it out to the open.
Patrick Hines
Ocean. He then got into the life raft and scuttled the.
Julian Bethevoli
Boat. He would have sunk the boat shortly before the freighter came within view so that he would be properly positioned.
Patrick Hines
To become rescued, sink the boat, get into the lifeboat that he's only in for, like, an.
Julian Bethevoli
Hour. Because after the Coast Guard calls off the search, he's like, okay, great. Like, now I can sort of reappear, is what they're.
Patrick Hines
Saying. Yeah. And like, this makes sense to me. Like, he sunk the lifeboat. Like, there's no way even in his own story that. That. That it was perfectly floating for seven straight days and it just happens to sink the minute he's.
Julian Bethevoli
Rescued. Because what they're also saying is that, like. So after the Coast Guard calls off the search, that's when he guns his little boat out into the open.
Patrick Hines
Ocean.
Julian Bethevoli
Yes. And gets into the life raft and he deliberately sank his own boat thanks to the holes he.
Patrick Hines
Drilled.
Julian Bethevoli
Exactly. That's what they're saying. That's why, like, we can't find the boat. And that's why this and this. So that's what the theory is. But I. I am a little bit stuck on, like, he's just, like, chilling in the.
Patrick Hines
Connecticut.
Julian Bethevoli
Yeah. Connecticut.
Patrick Hines
Coast. I mean, like, that seems possible to me. The thing that nobody mentions, but that really stuck out to me was he's not sunburned. You know what I.
Julian Bethevoli
Mean? That's a.
Patrick Hines
Hu. That's a huge thing, and nobody mentions it. They say not to hydrate. I mean, he's got the water maker. You know what I mean? Got his ditch bag. But he's not dehydrated. And, like, we see the.
Julian Bethevoli
Life. I mean, or weak in any way. Like. Like, those rations are meant to keep you alive, not fully, fully sustain.
Patrick Hines
You.
Julian Bethevoli
Exactly. You know, like. And you should be weak and because we're told, like, he's not using his muscles at all. Yeah, allegedly. Or whatever. And also, the ocean is a great place to commit a crime. Evidence is lost immediately. It's.
Patrick Hines
Enormous. It's all those aliens down.
Julian Bethevoli
There. And.
Patrick Hines
Whale. You know what I mean? But, like, you know, his own lawyers are like, what's the kid going here? There. He's evading the Coast Guard. That's what they're saying. And did he plan that? This Chinese junk ship that just happened to be going by, it almost ran him over. I understand. That would. He would be picked up. It's nonsense. They're like, this is insane. They're saying what you're saying. How could he possibly outmaneuver the Coast Guard? How could he hide in plain sight for some seven straight days at the very.
Julian Bethevoli
Least? It just feels like a risk for someone who. If he was so meticulous about everything else. It feels like a big thing to leave up to chance. But I don't know.
Patrick Hines
Anything. High risk, high reward. You get away with this, you get all your mom's.
Julian Bethevoli
Money. Or as they say in Aida, fortune favors the.
Patrick Hines
Brave. Fortune favors the.
Julian Bethevoli
Brave. But then they show us footage of Nathan talking about his mother's last moments. Kind of, yes. And also, this is like, he's. This is his deposition. He's objecting in his own deposition. Like, doesn't he have a lawyer.
Patrick Hines
There? That's what I said. Like, he's like. Like, I'm like, is he representing himself? Because we don't hear an attorney for.
Julian Bethevoli
Him. Anyone step in for.
Patrick Hines
Him? Yeah, but.
Julian Bethevoli
He. I mean, could there be a lawyer that's silent, but any. The lawyers that we.
Patrick Hines
Met.
Julian Bethevoli
Yeah. Would not stay silent, but.
Patrick Hines
Whatever.
Julian Bethevoli
Right? So he. Nathan says he was in the water he was watching the boat sink. He said, I did not hear my mom. I didn't hear.
Patrick Hines
Anything. And, like, that's what they were saying, but, like, your mom's a strong.
Julian Bethevoli
Swimmer and the boat sinking. Would one of you be screaming.
Patrick Hines
The boat is, like, sinking. And, like, he's. Seems to not have an answer. He's stumbling over his words. He doesn't have an.
Julian Bethevoli
Answer. He seems like he's in distress answering this. Like, is that his guilt? Is that trauma because of the horrible thing that he just went through and surviving after all that time. I don't.
Patrick Hines
Know.
Julian Bethevoli
Right. So we get the onscreen text that lawyers spent over a year preparing for the trial, which was set for October of.
Patrick Hines
2023. Yeah. And just before the trial, we.
Julian Bethevoli
Begin at five with a shocking update on a case which been tracking for years. The man charged with killing his mother off the coast of Rhode island has died. Nathan Carmen was found unresponsive in his cell overnight. Jail officials say Nathan Carmen took his own life while awaiting a murder on the high seas.
Patrick Hines
Trial. Nathan kills.
Julian Bethevoli
Himself.
Patrick Hines
Yeah. That took my breath away. I. I mean, I did like a. I did not see that.
Julian Bethevoli
Coming. I wasn't expecting that.
Patrick Hines
Either.
Julian Bethevoli
Yeah. And then it's like, well, why.
Patrick Hines
Right? They say that he killed himself using prison shoelaces, but they.
Julian Bethevoli
Don'T. That's why they don't have shoelaces in.
Patrick Hines
Prison. And there's no suicide note. The dad is devastated. You know, the dad is sticking to his guns. There's no way Nathan ever could have killed his mother. He loved her. He would never have harmed a soul. You know, Charlene is saying, like, the family mourns the loss. The loss of Nathan as a kid. And she's crying over the fact that she wasn't speaking to her sister at the time that she.
Julian Bethevoli
Died. Choices were made, Charlene. And it's weird that you didn't have a bad word to say about your abusive father. And he had a lot to gain from his death is all I'm.
Patrick Hines
Saying. Exactly. And from your sister's death, if we're being.
Julian Bethevoli
Honest. That's what I mean. You know what I mean? And that's what I mean. You know what I mean. I'm annoying. Linda Carmen was officially declared dead in October of 2023, and the investigation into her death has been.
Patrick Hines
Closed. But this is what happens. Like the murder of John the grandfather is now classified as a cold case. No other suspects have ever been arrested. And this always happens, too. After his death, all charges against Nathan Carmen were.
Julian Bethevoli
Dismissed.
Patrick Hines
Yeah. That happened to fucking Robert.
Julian Bethevoli
Durst. I.
Patrick Hines
Know. You.
Julian Bethevoli
Know? I.
Patrick Hines
Know. And that's it. I mean, it's a mystery, but. But I think he killed them.
Julian Bethevoli
All. Yes. Oh.
Patrick Hines
God. I know. Sorry. That's a Durst throwback, everybody. No, I think he did it. Do you.
Julian Bethevoli
Think? I, I. There is so much evidence that I can't look away from that I can't explain any other.
Patrick Hines
Way.
Julian Bethevoli
Yeah. Do you know what I.
Patrick Hines
Mean?
Julian Bethevoli
Yes. And it has. Please understand how I'm saying this has nothing to do with his.
Patrick Hines
Autism. Of.
Julian Bethevoli
Course. You know what I.
Patrick Hines
Mean? Despite the fact that I think he did it, he should not have been questioned in the way that he was. Question. Like, no.
Julian Bethevoli
No. And. And not all of it could be like, well, he's been taking. You know what I'm saying? It's just like, it's not connected to me. I'm looking at the evidence.
Patrick Hines
Here. No, I mean, I'm looking at, like, the missing hour when his grandfather died. I'm looking at, like, all of the. The ditch bag and the. You know what I mean, the fact that he wasn't. The Lifeboat sank the minute he got out of.
Julian Bethevoli
It. I.
Patrick Hines
Know. Come.
Julian Bethevoli
On. I.
Patrick Hines
Know. He was in it for seven days, but then it just.
Julian Bethevoli
Sank. And also, if we're gonna have cops tell on themselves that they don't give a shit about, like, people who aren't, quote, normal. Can we, like, try to do something to, like, fix the system in any.
Patrick Hines
Way?
Julian Bethevoli
No. Great. Moving.
Patrick Hines
On. Oh, my God, girl. We did. What's it called? The Carmen family.
Julian Bethevoli
Murders. The Carmen family.
Patrick Hines
Deaths. You're right. The Carmen family.
Julian Bethevoli
Deaths. Very, very, very important distinction made by Netflix.
Patrick Hines
Fam. Join our Patreon, but only if you want more amazing fun content. There is so, so, so much stuff over there. Just go to the show notes. You can click right to it. Join our discord also in the show notes. What are we doing next.
Julian Bethevoli
Girl? Oh, Everyone guard your loins. Get ready. Homicide Hunter. The man with no Face. Starring the one and only Joe.
Patrick Hines
Kenda. Oh, we did. We got to that.
Julian Bethevoli
Fast. We got to it fast. So it's on Discovery. Plus he has three of the. He has, like, 100 episodes of, like, four different.
Patrick Hines
Shows.
Julian Bethevoli
Okay. But he has, like, three or four full length docs. I figure we'll sprinkle them.
Patrick Hines
In. Oh, let's do.
Julian Bethevoli
It. So this is the man with no Face. This is the first one that's out there. It's on.
Documentary Narrator/Interviewee
Discovery. All.
Julian Bethevoli
Right. Joe Kendall on the.
Patrick Hines
Calendar. Well, here we go, fam. Stay tuned for the trailer for that. And we love.
Julian Bethevoli
You. We love you. Stay safe.
Patrick Hines
Please. Okay, bye. I was good at what I.
Documentary Narrator/Interviewee
Did, but this case was so different. You have no place to go in a murder.
Patrick Hines
Case. It eats at.
Documentary Narrator/Interviewee
You. What did we not.
Patrick Hines
See? 1988. DNA was just beginning to be a forensic tool. He's still out.
Documentary Narrator/Interviewee
There. That's why I don't sleep at night. What kept this case alive was everyone involved knew the DNA was coming. Well, my, my, my. That is what we've been waiting.
Patrick Hines
For. Homicide hunter, the man with no face. Wednesday, March 8th at 9.
Release Date: January 6, 2026
Hosts: Patrick Hines, Julian Bethevoli
In this gripping and darkly humorous episode, Patrick and Julian unpack the Netflix documentary “The Carman Family Deaths”—a tangled saga of family dysfunction, generational wealth, unsolved murders, and suspicious disappearances shrouded by the unknowable depths of the sea. Through their trademark sassy banter, they explore how the death and disappearance of Linda Carman and her son Nathan’s survival at sea spawned a whirlwind of investigation, family finger-pointing, and questions about neurodiversity, mental illness, and justice.
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The hosts keep the podcast lively with sarcasm and irreverence, but show sensitivity toward neurodiversity and mental health. Their exasperation at family dysfunction and the criminal system’s mishandling of suspects with autism is palpable. They continually call out the human cost of generational trauma and greed.
Although the Carman family’s tragedies remain officially unsolved, Patrick and Julian are clear: there’s a mountain of circumstantial evidence against Nathan, but a larger indictment remains—the corrosive power of wealth, the failure to support neurodiverse people, and the way police can misinterpret difference as guilt. The episode closes with both hosts agreeing the story is a “mystery,” but many questions remain—especially about justice for those who don’t fit into the system’s preconceived boxes.
Next up: “Homicide Hunter: The Man with No Face” — the hosts tease a new Discovery doc as they sign off with affection for their listeners:
"We love you. Stay safe."