You’ve spent months (maybe years) keeping your child safe, nourished, and growing with a feeding tube. And now… the moment you’ve been working toward is here! Tube removal. But instead of just relief, you might be feeling other unexpected emotions: uncertainty, sadness, even a little fear. Jeni and Heidi are here this week to help paint a picture of what tube removal and next steps may look like.

Getting ready to remove a feeding tube is a huge milestone. It’s often the goal from the very beginning, but when you finally arrive, it can feel bigger and more emotional than expected. After all the effort that went into placing the tube, using it, and eventually weaning from it, many families are left wondering: What now? The truth is, there aren’t a lot of resources guiding families through this specific transition. So let’s walk through some key things to consider.

How do you know it’s time?

While medical providers ultimately guide the decision, here are some important readiness signs to reflect on:

Growth & nutrition: Is your child eating enough by mouth to support their current growth in a way your team feels good about?

Sustainability: Is eating mostly self-directed? Or are there still frequent power struggles, pressure, or bribing?

Stability: Has your child made it through a stressor or big life change without using the tube? Things like illness, travel, transitioning to a new school, etc.

Body basics: Are hydration and elimination (peeing and pooping) consistent and comfortable?

And one more that matters just as much:

Are you ready?: That tube has likely been your safety net for a long time. Removing it can bring up more emotion than expected and that’s completely valid.

This isn’t just a medical transition! It’s also an emotional one. Take a moment to reflect on your family’s journey. The highs, the stress, the resilience. Many parents find that alongside the hard parts, there’s also growth. What you’ve learned, how you’ve adapted, and how deeply you’ve shown up for your child.

For your child, this experience may be harder to fully understand but it still matters. For some kids, the tube has always been part of their body. Letting it go might feel:

Exciting and freeing

Confusing or unexpected

Completely neutral

Just like saying goodbye to a pacifier, some children, especially older ones may need time and support to process the change. You know your child and how they handle changes and transitions. If they need a little more time and preparation to process you can help by:

Talking about it ahead of time

Inviting questions and feelings

Creating a simple or meaningful “goodbye” (a story, drawing, or small ritual)

As you move forward, think about how you want to remember this chapter. Some families choose to:

Keep a small piece of equipment as a memory

Write a letter to their child about the journey

Share their story to support other families

“Paying it forward” by donating unused supplies or connecting with another family starting a similar journey.

It’s also so important to celebrate! This is a big deal. Whether it’s a quiet snuggle, a family celebration, or a simple moment of acknowledgment, try to pause and take it in. Your child has done something incredible. And so have you. Saying goodbye to the feeding tube isn’t just the end of something, rather, the beginning of a new chapter. One built on trust, growth, and everything your family has learned along the way. However it looks for you, make space for it. You’ve earned that.

** Please remember this podcast is NOT meant to replace the support and guidance of your child's medical team. Consult with your doctor before starting the weaning process.**

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