Two Hot Takes Episode 238: Wedding Blues…

Host: Morgan Absher
Co-host: Josie
Date: October 16, 2025

Episode Overview

This lively and candid episode is all about post-wedding reflections, wedding chaos, and hot takes on Reddit’s juiciest wedding-related stories. Fresh off their own DIY farm wedding, Morgan and Josie unpack their firsthand experiences, offer wedding planning tips, and dissect some wild online wedding stories—ranging from malicious bridesmaids to disastrous in-law behavior. Packed with relatable humor, heartfelt advice, and signature Two Hot Takes banter, this episode is the perfect listen for anyone in the throes of wedding planning or drama.

Main Discussion Points & Insights

1. Morgan & Josie’s Own DIY Wedding Recap

• Opening Reflections ([00:37], [01:47])
  • Morgan and Josie celebrate being “back as a married couple.” Both discuss their rings (one listener-made), injuries from DIY elements, and how they built their own venue on Morgan’s family farm.
  • Morgan: “We truly had the most fun, insane, everything I dreamed of wedding… DIY... We built our venue on my family's farm.”
  • Key features included a camel, "beer burrow", atrium tent, and a magician (Chris Herrick).
  • Main advice: “Do what you want! Wedding or elopement—make it yours.”
• Wedding Blues & Post-Event Come Down ([03:29])
  • Friends and guests admitted to having “wedding blues” because the event was so memorable.
  • Morgan: “People were like, how are you guys hanging in there? Because I’ve got the wedding blues—it wasn’t even my wedding!”

2. Top Reddit Wedding Stories & Hot Takes

A. Bridesmaid Leaks the Seating Chart ([10:04])

• Summary: A bridesmaid shared the bride’s seating chart—including sensitive handwritten notes—in a Facebook group. The notes included things like “keep cousin Amy from ex-boyfriend” and “don’t put Aunt Linda near the open bar.”
• Morgan: “It feels very stab in the back to me. I’d be very skeptical.”
• Josie: “If it’s just the seating chart, not a big deal. But the notes—that’s the dagger. Not a real friend.”
• Advice: Consider demoting such a bridesmaid or setting boundaries, especially if it’s a pattern.

B. Telling the Bride She Smelled—AITA? ([20:20])

• Maid of honor told the bride discreetly she had body odor.
• Morgan: “Not the asshole at all. That’s what you’re supposed to do. Better a quick heads up than walking around all day not knowing.”
• Josie: “You completed the mission. Anyone would want to know—they did it perfectly.”
• Advice: Communicate clearly with your wedding party about what you want them to flag or leave be.

C. Dress Regret After Buying—How to Handle? ([29:30])

• A new bride realized after her purchase that she hates her dress.
• Morgan: “Try on dresses everywhere, as many as you can. Don’t say yes until you’ve had at least four appointments.”
• Personal anecdotes about pressure at salons (esp. Kleinfelds), loving Anthropologie’s selection, importance of not buying in haste.
• Advice: If in doubt, try to cancel early, and always have someone take lots of photo/video for objective review later.

D. Cutting the Mic on Religious Father’s Speech ([43:16])

• Bridesmaid silenced the bride’s father mid-speech after he made their secular wedding about God, with shaming undertones.
• Morgan: “You did exactly what had to be done. Bride was happy, groom was happy, that’s all that matters.”
• Josie: “Your friend had your back—the dad made his own scene.”
• Advice: Honor the couple’s wishes, and sometimes, you have to take action for their sake.

E. “Scamming” Husband into Liking Her—Vows Confession ([55:12])

• Woman staged apartment to impress future husband (left out his favorite shirt, band CD, beer).
• Morgan: “People might be split on this… it’s a young, cheeky sort of thing. But as long as you’re not pretending for years, it’s harmless.”
• Redditors were divided, with some calling it “creepy” and others finding it cute.
• Notable quote—OP edit ([65:04]): “Stop being miserable fucks on the Internet and find some happiness.”
• Advice: Initial efforts to get noticed are normal; long-term deception is problematic.

F. Period on the Wedding Day Worries ([70:03])

• Bride stressed that her period will coincide with the wedding (irregular cycle after months of planning).
• Morgan: “Stress can shift your cycle. Just have a kit ready. Don’t stress if things don’t go perfectly—be present.”
• Josie: “What else can you do? Focus on relaxing and having a backup plan (like Period Hero supplements or simply ‘towel time’).”
• Advice: You can’t control everything; focus on comfort, relax where you can.

G. Sister-in-law Leaks Pregnancy Pre-Wedding—AITA? ([81:52])

• Fiancé’s sister shared their pregnancy news on Instagram before the couple were ready.
• Morgan (furious): “She wanted to revel in being the first to break the news. Incredibly disrespectful.”
• Josie: “I would make your point clear, but I wouldn’t burn the bridge.”
• Advice: Take some space, set boundaries, don’t make rash decisions in the heat of anger.

H. Dad’s Wife Throws a Tantrum at the Wedding ([91:12])

• Dad’s new wife shows up in a red sparkly mini dress, throws tantrums throughout the day.
• Morgan: “If you can’t handle being a stepparent, don’t be one. Let your dad deal with his own circus.”
• Josie: “Some people just insist on making it all about them… but don’t let it ruin your day.”
• Advice: Don’t confront if it’s a long-standing pattern—let your parent deal with their own choices.

I. Jealous Groom at Own Wedding—Misha & the Ex-Crush ([105:27])

• Groom sulks at his wedding, showing jealously toward his former crush (Misha) who attends with a new boyfriend; turns out he’s messaged her and flirted/sexted with others on Instagram.
• Josie: “Spent the entire wedding night staring at her—no way. I’d get an annulment.”
• Morgan: “Forward forward forward and onward and better. Don’t get sucked in by the sunk cost fallacy.”
• Notable moment ([121:11] onward): OP discovers infidelity and initiates annulment with widespread support.
• Advice: If you spot major red flags—even post-wedding—take action rather than doubling down.

J. Lighthearted Closer: Guest Wore White (the Dog! ) ([131:21])

• Ends with a playful Reddit post about a ringbearer dog—the only guest who “wore white.”
• Morgan: “He’s a good boy... That gets a pass.”

Timestamps for Key Segments

• Intro & Wedding Recap: 00:00–08:08
• Bridesmaid Leaks Seating Chart: 10:04–19:05
• BO at the Wedding/AITA: 20:20–27:04
• Dress Regret: 29:30–42:48
• Father’s Religious Speech Cut: 43:16–53:35
• “Scam” Wedding Vows Confession: 55:12–67:56
• Period on Wedding Day: 70:03–80:55
• Sister-in-law Leaks Pregnancy: 81:52–90:05
• Dad’s Wife’s Drama: 91:12–103:07
• Jealous Groom/Infidelity: 105:27–127:10 (updates through 128:05)
• Lighthearted Closer (Dog in White): 131:21–132:17

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• Morgan on DIY wedding:
  “[The wedding] was everything; I had the beer burrow, I had the camel, I had the atrium style tent I wanted from China.” ([01:47])
• Josie on wedding blues & celebration:
  "A wedding is by far the coolest experience you'll ever have… the one time you get everyone you love in one spot." ([02:58])
• Morgan on seating chart leak:
  “Notes like… ‘boring table’ or ‘misfit table,’ those are notes for ops eyes only.” ([12:44])
• Morgan summing up wedding day anxieties:
  “Be the duck… Let it roll off your back.” ([27:04])
• On cutting off the dad’s religious speech:
  “It was clear the vibes were not good. The bride was tense, looking mortified. You handled it the best way you could.” ([48:20])
• Morgan on moving forward from awful relationships:
  “Forward, forward, forward and onward and better. And have a good wedding—but more importantly, have a good marriage.” ([129:46])
• Funny closer:
  “I can’t believe this guest wore white to my wedding… but he was our ring bearer and wore it very well.” ([131:56])

Final Thoughts & Advice

• From Morgan & Josie:
  • Make your wedding yours, embrace the chaos but don’t sweat the small stuff.
  • DIY can be magical—but be ready for surprises.
  • Trust your gut when choosing people (friends, partners, vendors) for your big day.
  • Communicate expectations clearly with bridesmaids and vendors.
  • Don’t be afraid to set boundaries when people disrespect your wishes.
  • If things go sideways (even after the big day), don’t be afraid to walk away and rebuild;
  • Above all: “Have a good marriage—not just a good wedding.”