247: That's a Wrap Ft. Scott Evans

Summary

Two Hot Takes – Episode 247: “That's a Wrap” Ft. Scott Evans

Overview

In this lively and candid episode of Two Hot Takes, host Morgan Absher is joined by TV host and podcaster Scott Evans for a year-end themed deep dive into Reddit, listener write-ins, and their signature “hot takes” on explosive relationship, AITA (Am I The Asshole) stories, and life dilemmas. Together, they dissect stories ranging from financial boundaries in relationships to monster-in-law birthday takeovers, with plenty of humor, spicy commentary, and insightful advice.

---

Meet the Guest: Scott Evans (04:00–08:10)

• Background: Scott shares his journey from hard news at CBS to over a decade with Access Hollywood and hosting NBC’s World of Dance.
• Podcast Lore: Scott’s own podcast, House Guest, rapidly found viral success and fulfillment. He hopes it’s also a late-night training ground (“Jimmy, I love you, but I’m coming for you”—Scott, 05:27).
• Media Realities: Morgan and Scott reflect on the shifting power of podcasts, which now often outdo traditional media in reach (06:25).

---

Main Discussion & Stories ("That's a Wrap" Theme)

1. The $100K Relationship Ultimatum (15:26–27:10)

Story: Woman (32F) questions if she “nuked” her relationship by refusing a $100K home renovation investment for her boyfriend’s house without an engagement.

Key Points and Advice:

• Common Sense, Not Drama:
  “There is no irreparable damage here. Honestly. This is common sense... If homeboy wants to throw a tantrum... then, brother, bye.”
  — Scott (16:55)
• Parallels to Parenting: Pattern of being walked over revealed, potential red flags cited.
• Financial/Legal Reality Checks: Morgan reiterates what top comments say: don’t put down major money unless married and on the deed (24:08).

Notable Quotes:

“If you can't have that conversation of like ‘I'd like more of a commitment before I give you $100K’—if you're gonna pout, you're really ruining the whole...”
— Morgan (19:56)

Takeaways:

• Both hosts agree: the boyfriend's coldness is a major red flag. Insist on equal commitment before significant investments.
• Consensus: Seek counseling, but proceed cautiously. Don’t ignore warning signs (27:06).

---

2. Birthday Castle Drama: Monster-in-Law Strikes (27:14–36:59)

Story: OP’s mother-in-law throws her own 75th birthday bash—on OP’s birthday—in the family’s Italian castle (seriously).

Key Points and Advice:

• Outrage Validated:
  “It is as outrageous as it feels... you live in a castle in Italy...”
  — Scott (30:41)
• Boundary Setting: Scott jokes about a “shit cake” as revenge, but earnestly advises setting firmer boundaries.
• In-law Dynamics: Both hosts discuss power plays and entitlement, especially if the castle was inherited (34:16).

Notable Quotes:

“You can be 10 steps ahead so you don’t rain on your parade, or... we’re just dealing with reality. The reality is, you will take advantage if I allow you.”
— Scott (35:14)

Takeaways:

• Morgan: Take your birthday back by celebrating on a different day, perhaps even pre-empt the party.
• Both: Discuss with husband and set new expectations for future family events.

---

3. Grief, Cooking, and the Burned-Out Breadwinner (41:19–68:10)

Story: Woman, newly bereaved, asks if she’s the asshole for expecting her unemployed partner (who applied to only 15 jobs in a year) to make dinner while she handles estates, grief, and full-time work. He throws tantrums over “pasta.”

Key Points and Advice:

• Absolute Minimum Effort:
  “Motherfucker, if you ain’t got a job, you can make a dinner five nights a week.”
  — Scott (49:49)
• Stonewalling Dynamics:
  Morgan rails against the husband’s stonewalling and lack of support (“Once you get the ick, you’re just like... you can’t even force yourself to fuck ‘em...”).
• Modeling Real Love:
  Scott shares personal growth through grief and partnership support (55:36).

Notable Quotes:

“If you can't go through the worst grief of your life with that person, you are not with the right person.”
— Morgan (55:22)

Takeaways:

• The hosts unanimously urge the OP to leave. The partner’s lack of empathy and effort, even in grief, is a massive dealbreaker.
• Top Reddit comment also stresses: “You deserve better. You’re not insane, you’re exhausted.”

---

4. Cheap Painting Drama and the Gold Digger Accusation (71:26–90:10)

Story: OP (24F) paints a custom video game artwork for affluent boyfriend (27M). He wants an iPhone, destroys the painting, and later reveals he’s interested in a coworker (Red Velvet girl) who bought his favorite cake.

Key Points and Advice:

• Gift-Giving Dynamics:
  Scott is skeptical (“I definitely need to see the painting!”) and suspects other issues, given boyfriend’s outburst.
• Money Power Struggles:
  OP’s financial struggle and boyfriend’s dismissiveness echo a power imbalance. BF accuses her of using him for money.
• Revelation:
  Boyfriend wanted to breakup but acted out instead; admitted to seeing Red Velvet, OP tells him to leave.

Notable Quotes:

“Could you imagine being in a disagreement and they’re just like: ‘But you’re a brokey’?”
— Scott (88:19)

Takeaways:

• Consensus: OP is better off without this tantrum-throwing, muffin-hurling man-child.

---

5. Mom's Secret Cruelty to the Girlfriend, and Standing Up (93:52–112:20)

Story: Man discovers his mother has been sending cruel messages to his girlfriend (“Men don't marry placeholders... you’re not good enough for the life he deserves”). He is shaken and unsure whether to confront Mom, his girlfriend, or both.

Key Points and Advice:

• Immediate Action Required:
  Scott and Morgan agree: Both partners must discuss this together and set hard boundaries with the mother.
• Family Patterns:
  The update reveals the mother did this to other women in the family—explains much family distance.

Notable Quotes:

“This isn’t indicative of love, this is control.”
— Scott (100:46)

Takeaways:

• Direct, empathetic communication is praised. The update reveals that the relationship is on solid ground and boundaries with Mom will be enforced.
• “This is what everyone wants: someone that shows up for you, has your back, 10 out of 10.” — Morgan (112:24)

---

Notable/Memorable Moments

• Scott’s Philosophy: “Most of us are out here just trying to do our best. Just wake up every day and be nice… But y’all try me.” (03:26)
• Running Gag: “Shit cake” as symbolic revenge/boundary setting.
• Recall on Male Privilege: “You gotta be ugly-ass and have this much audacity?!” (52:26)
• About Relationship Red Flags: “The red flags are only gonna grow into bigger flags. Parachutes. Wind sails.” — Scott (23:32)
• On Grieving Together: Scott’s personal story of loss and finding true partnership (57:34–58:25).
• On Milestone Birthdays vs. Family Drama: Hilarious sidebar about how long old people really party, and family boundary-setting (39:01–40:11).

---

Timestamps for Major Segments

| Time | Segment | |---------|--------------------------------------------------------------------------| | 04:00 | Scott Evans intro & podcasting/media career | | 15:26 | $100K relationship ‘nuke’ story | | 27:14 | Birthday castle & monster-in-law drama | | 41:19 | Grieving breadwinner & the unsupportive partner | | 71:26 | Painting destroyed by boyfriend; update with Red Velvet drama | | 93:52 | Mom’s cruel DMs to girlfriend; boundaries and family loyalty | | 112:20+ | Closing: Reflections, tour announcements, holiday well-wishes |

---

Overall Tone and Style

This episode is honest, funny, and at times, deeply heartfelt. Scott brings “spicy” humor and blunt wisdom, while Morgan grounds the show in empathy and practical advice. Both are quick to call out toxic behaviors and advocate for self-worth and boundaries—whether dealing with controlling boyfriends, meddling in-laws, or partners who can’t show up through life’s hardest moments.

---

Final Thoughts

Episode 247 exemplifies what Two Hot Takes does best: holds space for both cathartic ranting and thoughtful reflection. Whether you’re navigating your own nightmare in-laws, relationship money drama, or just need a laugh and a reminder to set boundaries, this episode wraps up the year with heat—and heart.

---

Listen to more: Two Hot Takes on Spotify, YouTube, Instagram, and Patreon

Guest host: @iamscottevans
Host: Morgan Absher (@morgsyabsher)

Next week: More internet drama, hot takes, and likely... more shit cake.

Transcript

[Brittany Luse]

This episode is brought to you by Ollie. You know what shouldn't be? A hot take wanting great sex and a healthy hoo. Ha. Ollie gets it from loving libido so you can get yours or period hero for PMS support, Ollie puts women's wellness first. Find these supplements and more at any national retailer [e-mail] that's O L L Y dot com. These statements have not been evaluated by the Food and Drug Administration. This product is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure or prevent any disease. This episode is brought to you by State Farm. We need people to support us. If your friends aren't keeping you on track and sharing their hot takes, are they even your friends, Good friends show up and speak up. They tell you what you need to hear, even if you don't want to hear it. And like those friends, State Farm is there to help you choose the coverage you need. With so many coverage options, it's nice knowing you have support in finding what fits for you. Go [e-mail] or use the award winning app to get help from one of their local agents. Like a good neighbor, State Farm is there. Do you know what you're getting into?

[Scott Evans]

No idea. I mean, yes, a little.

[Brittany Luse]

Okay.

[Scott Evans]

I've watched episodes. I've seen you. I've seen you work. I've seen you. And I've always wondered if you had, like, do you write to your.

[Brittany Luse]

To myself, to your posts?

[Scott Evans]

Like, do you like, are you like, I'm going to say this on this one or I'm going to say this on this one?

[Brittany Luse]

No, honestly, like, I'll read them, make sure they're good enough for the show. And then I feel like I totally blank out on what my thought was. So then when I have them come back up, it's fresh. It feels like I have amnesia. Yeah, it's kind of weird.

[Scott Evans]

There's one. There was one in particular, the episode with Hannah. And she was. That was the wife who was considering divorce because the family didn't like her.

[Brittany Luse]

Oh, my God. Yeah.

[Scott Evans]

Horrible. I was like, girl, bye, bye, bye. Yeah, nobody likes you. And your husband is cool with that.

[Brittany Luse]

Does your husband even like you?

[Scott Evans]

He don't like you, girl.

[Brittany Luse]

He doesn't like you either.

[Scott Evans]

He don't like. He don't love you, girl. No, I was like, I couldn't believe it.

[Brittany Luse]

You might have some of those today.

[Scott Evans]

It hurt me. It hurt me deep. I was like, girl, go live your life. Be happy.

[Brittany Luse]

I know. And she was like 27.

[Scott Evans]

Girl, be in a life that you Love with people who love you.

[Brittany Luse]

The time of her life, who are.

[Scott Evans]

Excited when you walk in the room. I also needed to know some more information about that family.

[Brittany Luse]

I want to know everything. I want to be a fly on the wall.

[Scott Evans]

I needed some demographic breakdown, if you know what I'm saying. Are we. Where are we? Are we in Texas? Are we.

[Brittany Luse]

I know.

[Scott Evans]

Are we in Minneapolis? Are we in.

[Brittany Luse]

It felt European to me. I don't know why it did. It felt European.

[Scott Evans]

Like, white. Is that what you mean, honestly? Or you mean, like, Europe?

[Brittany Luse]

I. For some reason, I don't know why, in my head, I was envisioning, like, an Indian family given, like, the hierarchy.

[Scott Evans]

Okay.

[Brittany Luse]

I don't know. It's so interesting because you ask people what they envision in their heads during the readings, and everyone's gonna have such a different. Such a different reading mental image. Like, sometimes I won't say genders, and, like, my friend Lauren will, like, assume genders, and, like, they're always, like. When we find out more the opposite.

[Scott Evans]

So interesting.

[Brittany Luse]

I know. Sometimes I do themes where I haven't done it in, like, probably a year or two, where I'll take out all the genders and just, like, you don't.

[Scott Evans]

Here's the information.

[Brittany Luse]

Here's the info.

[Scott Evans]

Not right. Cause it's like, if. If there was no gender, would do your opinion change?

[Brittany Luse]

Sometimes it does.

[Scott Evans]

Yeah. Of course.

[Brittany Luse]

We're all a little biased, baby. We're all a little biased.

[Scott Evans]

We out here just trying to do our. Most of us are out here trying to do our best.

[Brittany Luse]

That's literally all I'm trying to do.

[Scott Evans]

Just my best, baby.

[Brittany Luse]

Just wake up every day and be nice.

[Scott Evans]

Try my best.

[Brittany Luse]

Try my best.

[Scott Evans]

But y' all try me.

[Brittany Luse]

Scott said spicy today. I'm feeling spicy shit up. I'm so excited to have you. We met doing Spotify wrapped content.

[Scott Evans]

Yeah.

[Brittany Luse]

And from that, I was just like, okay, he can gab. He's funny.

[Scott Evans]

Yeah, let's have.

[Brittany Luse]

He's charismatic.

[Scott Evans]

We had a good time.

[Brittany Luse]

You have your wits about you.

[Scott Evans]

Yeah.

[Brittany Luse]

You're just. You're on it. So for those that don't know the Scott lore, uh.

[Scott Evans]

Oh.

[Brittany Luse]

Who are you? Let's talk about your podcast, which is, like, having the best first year, I think, out of any podcast I've recently discovered.

[Scott Evans]

Oh, my gosh.

[Brittany Luse]

You're just on it. But, like, you've done Access Hollywood. I also just found out you host, like, a dancing show.

[Scott Evans]

Yeah, I hosted World of Dance on NBC. Insane, Jennifer Lopez, Derek Hough and Ne Yo.

[Brittany Luse]

Insane. Okay. So, yeah, give everyone the lore if they're not familiar.

[Scott Evans]

Yeah. So, I mean, I've been working in this business for a very, very, very long time. And entertainment, I've worked in hard news. First was a reporter for. At CBS News in New York.

[Brittany Luse]

That's amazing.

[Scott Evans]

With a show called Channel One News. I don't know if you ever had that in your school, but it was like a national broadcast with Anderson Cooper, Lisa Ling, Maria Menounos, who were all famous or famously anchored the show. And so I got the opportunity to anchor the show as well, and it was a dream of mine.

[Brittany Luse]

That's amazing.

[Scott Evans]

And then was like, okay, I'm tired of covering the worst of the world. It's time to get into entertainment. And then did that with Access Hollywood. Been there for over 10 years now. This last year, I was like, wow, there's got to be more convers. Six minute conversations can only feed you for so long.

[Brittany Luse]

Yeah, you need a little more.

[Scott Evans]

I wanted a little more. So we started House Guest as a way to also so I could just practice late night. I want Jimmy. Jimmy Fallon's job. I want to be clear. Ooh, Jimmy, I love you. But. And I told him this. I was like, I'm.

[Brittany Luse]

Did you. I said, bruh, I'm coming for you.

[Scott Evans]

I'm just. I want you to know, the moment you're ready, holla at me.

[Brittany Luse]

I love that.

[Scott Evans]

And so I wanted to get my hours up. And so we. We started the show, and I thought it was gonna be a place for me to, like, practice in kind of private. Yeah, the first episode went viral, and.

[Brittany Luse]

I was like, who was your very first guest, Kev?

[Scott Evans]

On stage? Kevin Fredericks, comedian here in Los Angeles, who has become, like, a very, very good friend. And, yeah, then it was like, it was on after that, like, every single episode. And so I didn't get the opportunity to really practice in private. And so now it's, like, all out there, and you just roll with it. And so now it's kind of like, if the Jimmy Fallon job never. If the Tonight show never happens, I'm good with it. Because Houseguest is so fulfilling.

[Brittany Luse]

It is crazy. I think that's something that, in terms of, like, content, how everything's changing in recent years. Like, there's certain podcasts that reach more people every week than the late night shows.

[Scott Evans]

There's.

[Brittany Luse]

There's more podcasts. Like, you think about all these big publications too. Like, I had someone in a call. They're like, your show is bigger than Vogue's subscription Like, you're getting more eyes on you than that. It's just, like, that concept that was, like, a part of the reason why I was okay leaving, and I think, like, kind of coming to terms with, like. No, no, no. This is, like. This is actually what I want. Yeah.

[Scott Evans]

Be good over here.

[Brittany Luse]

And it was like, the concept where I'm reaching more people every week than I would in an entire career of working in a hospital, doing ot and that in my head, I was like, whoa, okay, that's crazy.

[Scott Evans]

Yeah. And. And also, like, to understand the. The. The goal that you have, the drive that you have, the passion that you've developed in this, to separate yourself from it and what feels like helps you get out of the bed some days.

[Brittany Luse]

Yeah.

[Scott Evans]

Because also those. The paths that many of us took before this was an opportunity for us. It beats you down, man. And not to say that this is not hard. It doesn't have its challenges and obstacles to overcome as well, but you are in charge of it.

[Brittany Luse]

Yeah. You realize just what a privileged position you're in.

[Scott Evans]

Yeah.

[Brittany Luse]

It's just I wake up every day and I'm like, do I wanna, like, feeling a little burnout? Or I'm in my blue era, Whatever I'm dealing with? And I'm like, yeah, I don't really want to. But, like, it is truly. It is a gift. I get to do this. So it's really. It's really cool. And your show is amazing. I just saw clips from you when you had Keke Palmer on.

[Scott Evans]

Oh, my gosh.

[Brittany Luse]

I mean, your guests are just amazing, and you do such a good job.

[Scott Evans]

Thank you.

[Brittany Luse]

Having those intimate combos and keeping it light and fun.

[Scott Evans]

Well, yeah. When you bring people to your house. So Houseguests is literally shot at my house.

[Brittany Luse]

At your house.

[Scott Evans]

Like, literally at my house. And it's a very small crew. We keep our footprint very, very small. And so I was talking to. Actually, to Niecy Nash. Are you watching All's Fair on Hulu, by the way, yet? Because if you are not with Kim Kardashian, I haven't started. No, girl, you got homework today.

[Brittany Luse]

Okay. Because I keep getting mixed reviews on my TikTok feed.

[Scott Evans]

Yeah, go ahead. It's got a season two. Oh, let the. Let the reviews be. Let the reviews be mixed, but get your butt in front of that screen. It is so. It's like you can't stop watching the show. But I had Niecy Nash on, and, you know, she talks about the idea of being in a position where you have the Kind of problems you prayed for, having, the kind of issues in your life or worries in your life that you dreamed of one day being able to be, you know what I mean, concerned with. And so, yeah, you just. You keep going. And I don't. I ain't trying to tell you, but if you get to those points and you're like, okay, I'm feeling a little. You can control that.

[Brittany Luse]

Shift it's.

[Scott Evans]

Shift it. I don't think we take enough license sometimes in our own lives, we just feed it whatever the it is.

[Brittany Luse]

I know. And I. I mean, the more you, like, solidify an idea in your head, the stronger it gets. So it's like you just. I like, try to, like, totally just get out of my funk. I found a $35 massage place, and so when I'm feeling sad, I just go there.

[Scott Evans]

I'm sorry.

[Brittany Luse]

Yeah. But then I leave, like, a $15 tip.

[Scott Evans]

Do you have to leave? You have to leave California?

[Brittany Luse]

No, it's right down the street. You do leave your clothes on.

[Scott Evans]

I'm sorry.

[Brittany Luse]

There's different levels to the massage they offer.

[Scott Evans]

Are you serious?

[Brittany Luse]

Yeah. So this one, they call it a foot massage, but it's not. They do your whole body still, but your clothes are on.

[Scott Evans]

Is the massage clothes. The masseuse's clothes are on also for $35. I just want to know what I'm getting into. I just want to know how long is the massage?

[Brittany Luse]

It's the best place ever. It's in Burbank. It's next to the Cane's, if anyone wants to try it.

[Scott Evans]

You are already crying. You're crying.

[Brittany Luse]

I'm. Blow up my spot, Please. I just. Like, I call and like, I can get in within five minutes. Like, they're so great. So you walk in the door, you go in this, like, big open room with, like, 10 chairs, and you sit in the chair.

[Scott Evans]

And they're communal.

[Brittany Luse]

Yes, communal. That's why it's $35. Okay. Beggars can't be choosers.

[Scott Evans]

No, you know, you're not wrong. I just. I'm just trying to.

[Brittany Luse]

Okay. And then you sit in a circle. It's like, deeply reclined.

[Scott Evans]

Wait, is it. Is there. Is it just a normal. A regular person massaging you? It's like someone else who's sitting in a chair. Do you massage the person that's sitting in front of you and then the person behind you massages you?

[Brittany Luse]

People work there. Massage you. It's not like the monkey picking bugs out of each other's. I was like, no, it's legit. Okay. It's legit. And they do offer real massages, too.

[Scott Evans]

I just have, I think, in my mind, it's, like, in a school gymnasium. And, like, maybe it's AA meeting.

[Brittany Luse]

It's like a little room this size, I'd say. And then like, just chairs all about. But you get in, and then you put your feet in a warm bucket of water. And while they're working on your. The feet are soaking and getting warm.

[Scott Evans]

Right.

[Brittany Luse]

They massage your head, your shoulders. They do, like, some lymphatic drainage type stuff.

[Scott Evans]

Women to that. Okay.

[Brittany Luse]

Like, arms. And then they move to your feet, and your feet come out of the bucket and they go up, and then they're really doing a foot massage and leg massage. And then they, like. They, like, step on your thighs, and then they roll you over, and then they do your back and your neck and your head and just everything.

[Scott Evans]

How long?

[Brittany Luse]

An hour for $35. Yeah. And then I do a 15 tip because it.

[Scott Evans]

It feels for 35 hours.

[Brittany Luse]

Yeah.

[Scott Evans]

35.

[Brittany Luse]

Isn't it a deal? It's only 55. If you want to take your clothes off. Okay. It's. But, like, you know what I mean? If you want the traditional one. I don't know if you want to take your clothes off. It costs $55. You don't? Yeah.

[Scott Evans]

For an hour. Have you ever seen other people in there with you?

[Brittany Luse]

Yeah.

[Scott Evans]

Okay.

[Brittany Luse]

It's usually booked up.

[Scott Evans]

Wow.

[Brittany Luse]

I know. This is why I, like, cannot travel. Like, if I go, like, France, I went. And there was a spa. Iceland. There's a spa there. I can't get massages anywhere else because, like, 200 bucks, and I'm like, I got that at home. I'm just gonna.

[Scott Evans]

We got massages at home. We got massages at home.

[Brittany Luse]

It's $55 at home.

[Scott Evans]

We got massages at home.

[Brittany Luse]

Yeah. So I.

[Scott Evans]

Maybe I'm not doing none of that.

[Brittany Luse]

Yeah.

[Scott Evans]

What, you want chick fil A? I got chick fil A at home.

[Brittany Luse]

Exactly.

[Scott Evans]

That's funny.

[Brittany Luse]

Yeah. So it's a good time. Yeah.

[Scott Evans]

I'm gonna have to run up on that.

[Brittany Luse]

It's right down the street.

[Scott Evans]

It's down the street. Hell, yeah. Come on. You can't beat that with a big stick.

[Brittany Luse]

Okay. But on a not so happy note, let's get into dibba dap dib dip. Let's get into today's stories.

[Scott Evans]

Okay. Are you gonna hit me hard the first time, or are you. Are we gonna.

[Brittany Luse]

Oh, first. I think so. Yeah. I know you. You can handle it?

[Scott Evans]

Yeah, I think so.

[Brittany Luse]

Yeah.

[Scott Evans]

Am I gonna. I'm going to a massage after this.

[Brittany Luse]

Yeah, you're gonna need to some like pent up energy.

[Scott Evans]

Let's do it.

[Brittany Luse]

Since we met. Since we met at the wrapped. That's a wrap. That's the theme today. That's a wrap.

[Scott Evans]

That's a wrap.

[Brittany Luse]

That's a wrap. Oh, let's dive in.

[Scott Evans]

Let's do it.

[Brittany Luse]

This episode of two hot takes is presented by Di Sirono. This holiday season, I'll be raising a glass with Di Serono, the world's favorite Italian liqueur and mine. One of my go to holiday drinks has disarono in it. Disarono7 splash of crayon. And it's so, so good. Everyone loves it. It's light, it's refreshing, and it just has this smooth almond with a hint of vanilla flavor. It tastes so good. You could just drink it on the rocks if you want. It's sweet, but not overly sweet. Just super sophisticated and good. And to mark 500 years as an icon of the Italian dolce vita, di Serono has released five limited edition bottles. Visit Disarono.com to learn more. 15:25 the Legend of D Serono begins this first one coming from r relationship advice. Thirteen days old, titled I think I, 32 female, nuked my relationship with my boyfriend, 32 male, by drawing a hard line. My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly two years, living together for one. He had purchased his house prior to us dating and I was renting an apartment, so it made sense for me to move into his house. He continued to pay the mortgage and I took on all of the usage bills, all of the utilities and annual maintenance, as well as the grocery shopping, and we felt that was a fair split. As our anniversary is coming up, we've been talking about our future timelines and where we see our relationship progressing. We're on the same page with all of the big issues. We know we want to marry each other and start a family following that, but to be in a position to start a family, the house is going to need a lot of renovations. And we've always thrown around the idea that the cost of renos would be my buy in. So to stay on the house, from our estimates, everything we want to do would be around 100k on the low end. We even agreed that we could draw up some kind of agreement to protect both of our interests financially. As it's gotten closer to the reality of reaching out to contractors and banks, I've felt more and more Unsettled about the situation.

[Scott Evans]

I bet you did.

[Brittany Luse]

I feel confident in our relationship, but foolish to be making an investment in a boyfriend's asset. I told him that I would like to be engaged before starting this process, so I feel like he's making a commitment to me as much as I am to him. We've talked about being engaged prior to this, but he said adding this element makes it feel very transactional and takes away from the romance and sparkle of it all.

[Scott Evans]

The.

[Brittany Luse]

Okay, I didn't tell him I wanted to be engaged by a specific date or anything like that. Just that if this renovation is what we wanted to pursue, this is the action I'd like to take beforehand. He seemed upset by my statement, and I feel like I've really taken some of the romance and surprise out of the idea of a proposal or being engaged. The morning after this conversation, he was cold and tense, and I can't help but feel I've done irreparable damage, but I don't feel wrong in making the request. Am I being reasonable? Is this recoverable?

[Scott Evans]

Honest answer.

[Brittany Luse]

Yeah. We want nothing but honesty here.

[Scott Evans]

There is no irreparable damage here. Honestly. This is common sense. And if homeboy wants to throw a tantrum because he can't get his renovations done on the timeline he thought he'd be able to get them done without the consideration of her beyond her wallet, then, brother, bye. Keep it moving. And I also think it's interesting that you start the post with, we want renovations done for a potential baby.

[Brittany Luse]

Yeah.

[Scott Evans]

And now having the promise of marriage before that is like a. Well, you've ruined. So there's already kind of, like, a situation there. But I'm gonna just say this for me. In my life, I'm not making large financial decisions with people that doesn't reflect the same intensity.

[Brittany Luse]

Yeah.

[Scott Evans]

As that. As that financial investment. And so, like, I'm not gonna be paying for the renovations of the home we both live in, and I'm not on a mortgage, and we not married. I mean, really, it's just.

[Brittany Luse]

There's no strings. Like, there's. Literally all he can do is, like, he can take that 100k and then say bye, and she's left with nothing at the end of the day.

[Scott Evans]

Yeah.

[Brittany Luse]

And I don't know, like, contract. He's like, oh, we can draw up a contract to protect ourselves financially.

[Scott Evans]

Like, you can.

[Brittany Luse]

You can. Like, you can.

[Scott Evans]

You can draft. I mean, you can draft up a contract that can say anything for anything at any point, as long as two people Agree to it then like that's what the agreement is usually.

[Brittany Luse]

Yeah, but like how is it going to be enforceable? Like for if he can't afford 100k renovation to get the house where it needs to be because then he could put it in his prenup. This is my house. I, this is everything before marriage. I'm keeping the house. At the end of the day that's his. But if he doesn't have the 100k.

[Scott Evans]

For the Renault baby, then we don't have a rental. And like then we don't have a rental.

[Brittany Luse]

What are you going to have to do to pay me back? Sell your house so you can pay me back the 100k I invested?

[Scott Evans]

Well, I think that's the idea that the buy in to the house is that she's, she would, with the, with the 100k investment of the, the, the renovation, she would then be entitled to the value of the house in reflection of that 100K.

[Brittany Luse]

Yeah. Because you're going to have a lot of equity right there.

[Scott Evans]

Hello. Hopefully.

[Brittany Luse]

Yeah, but I'm still so Bruno.

[Scott Evans]

But if it's a good area, you know.

[Brittany Luse]

I know.

[Scott Evans]

Cause like we could be renovating house. We shouldn't be renovating. We should maybe be buying a new house.

[Brittany Luse]

Well, that's the thing. I'm like how much was this house? Like what was his buy in? Was his buy in? You know, this is a 200k house and he put 20k down. Like what's his buy in?

[Scott Evans]

Also it's like the idea is that if you are concerned about, well, this don't seem like the sparkle is gone. Well then get the sparkle back. Yeah, like we gotta have real ass conversations about life. We can't be always chasing the sparkle. You know what I'm saying? Because the 100k don't have no sparkle to it.

[Brittany Luse]

No. Also if you can't have that conversation of like I'd like more of a commitment before I give you 100k.

[Scott Evans]

Whoa, if you're gonna pout, you're really ruining the whole like now. I'm on a timeline.

[Brittany Luse]

We're already on a timeline, bitch.

[Scott Evans]

Bro, we're.

[Brittany Luse]

You're giving me a reno because we want to get married and have a baby and we can't do that until we renov get engaged. Have your wedding takes nine months for a baby to cook. You can do a reno in that amount of time.

[Scott Evans]

Hey bruh, come on. Hey bruh, we're on to you.

[Brittany Luse]

Shit's expensive. I know weddings are expensive, but like you're saying this is for us.

[Scott Evans]

If we're doing the renovation, it's cuz you're like, I want to have. I want to be with you, and I want to have a baby with you. And I want our home to be ready to receive and help grow our family. Yeah, show me that. Cause I'm gonna start writing these checks to these contractors. Yeah, show me that.

[Brittany Luse]

Yeah. And they don't have return policies.

[Scott Evans]

No, they do. I can tell you they don't. And when you start playing with contractor's money, they crazy.

[Brittany Luse]

They'll come after you.

[Scott Evans]

They will come after you. And they got tools. Okay? They got. And deep ditches is all I'm saying. I've seen the movies. I've seen them.

[Brittany Luse]

Oh, my gosh.

[Scott Evans]

It's also. It's also. Don't you think it's a little strange that the take is I've nuked my relationship because we're having a hard conversation?

[Brittany Luse]

I think there's bigger issues here.

[Scott Evans]

There's clearly some bigger issues here. And it seems like maybe she's tuned into a frequency that's like, we're not doing the best well.

[Brittany Luse]

It's like she's walking on eggshells. She's anticipating a really bad reaction. It's like, but why?

[Scott Evans]

Cause he throws tantrums.

[Brittany Luse]

This is a fine conversation. Oh, yeah.

[Scott Evans]

Cause he throws tantrums.

[Brittany Luse]

Yeah.

[Scott Evans]

And now he's cold. And so now you're gonna raise two kids. You got two babies.

[Brittany Luse]

Oh, I've had so many of those lately. Why? Why? That's what you gonna do.

[Scott Evans]

You sound like you already got a baby.

[Brittany Luse]

I know. So my dad has a podcast. He gives dad advice. We just had a listener write in on his show. She's got two kids, 6 and 4, and her kids are not even comfortable enough with her husband, their dad, to ask him for a snack.

[Scott Evans]

What do you mean?

[Brittany Luse]

He's such like. No. They can't even go to their dad and be like, dad, can I have a snack? They don't have a relationship with him. No. He's so checked out. He comes home early from work and plays his video games. And it's like, ma', am, you don't have two kids.

[Scott Evans]

You have.

[Brittany Luse]

You have three. She does everything in their house.

[Scott Evans]

It's hard being a single mom.

[Brittany Luse]

Cleaned.

[Scott Evans]

It's hard being a single mom.

[Brittany Luse]

And you are. At that point, you are.

[Scott Evans]

Girl. So what did he say? What did your father say? I'm curious.

[Brittany Luse]

My dad.

[Scott Evans]

What was the advice? Cause I would feel like I would be. What's the address he cut?

[Brittany Luse]

Yeah, no, he tore him a new one. And my dad's like, he needs to just get off the fucking video game. But we definitely, we went in on him a little bit.

[Scott Evans]

I mean, you got. That's crazy.

[Brittany Luse]

I know.

[Scott Evans]

Two and four.

[Brittany Luse]

You said four and six, I believe.

[Scott Evans]

Look, he's now a two year old. Damn. That's crazy.

[Brittany Luse]

I know.

[Scott Evans]

Couldn't be me.

[Brittany Luse]

But these two, they've only been together two years. I mean, I think that's much too quick to give someone 100k of your money.

[Scott Evans]

Here's what I'm going to say. Also, it's, it might be, in my opinion, also much too quick to get engaged.

[Brittany Luse]

What's your, what's your leaving on that?

[Scott Evans]

Two years. You moved in directly with each other because. Right. It would be more cost effective. Yeah.

[Brittany Luse]

Moved in about a year ago.

[Scott Evans]

Yeah. So like you're getting a better clue into who this man is going to be as a life partner. And what's really happening is not that you've neutral relationship, but that you're, you're seeing some red flags and pay attention.

[Brittany Luse]

Yeah.

[Scott Evans]

Because they're only gonna, the red flags are either only gonna grow into bigger flags. Parachutes, wind sales.

[Brittany Luse]

Oh my God, yes.

[Scott Evans]

You know, and so like when the watch. When they're small. Listen to that shit. When it's a little, when it's a whisper.

[Brittany Luse]

Yeah.

[Scott Evans]

As opposed to when it's shouting at you in the, the middle of the hallway.

[Brittany Luse]

Absolutely. And top comment kind of says something similar. They go, forget engaged. Don't do this unless you're married. And on the deed, 19k upvotes on that.

[Scott Evans]

I mean, yeah, I'd upvote that.

[Brittany Luse]

Yep. Here, I'll give them one for you. Tap that next comment down this op. People can always break engagements, but it's harder to break a deed. Do not put a penny of your money. If you're not on that deed, you'll be screwing yourself.

[Scott Evans]

And not in a good way.

[Brittany Luse]

No. Not a fun way. And that's the thing. Like, who knows what he's gonna say in terms of a prenup too. Like there's no safety like here. Like it's literally just.

[Scott Evans]

No, you're just handing it over. There is no safety if you hand it over.

[Brittany Luse]

I know.

[Scott Evans]

And it does sound, it does sound like there's a fair amount of maybe manipulation that's at play in their relationship. If this feels like I've nuked it because I've. I'm not in agreement with you because we're not in agreement right now. It feels like, well, if I don't automatically just agree with you, then we're. He's so angry with me and so cold with me that I. I just want to do anything I can to avoid that.

[Brittany Luse]

And that is so toxic.

[Scott Evans]

Yeah. That's manipulation, girl. Yeah.

[Brittany Luse]

Here is a story that someone red flag. You know, there's one next to you. If you want to use it, there's.

[Scott Evans]

A flag on the play.

[Brittany Luse]

Hey, someone shares this. I know a single mom who is dating a guy that convinced her to sell her house, then invest the money she made from the sale into renovating his house. Her name was not on the deed. Less than a year later, they got into a fight. She came home from work with her daughter the next day. The locks had been changed, and her and her daughter were stuck living in hotels for a few months while she saved enough money for a deposit on an apartment. The about 120k she invested in his house was considered a gift, and there is no legal recourse for her to get this money back. That's insane.

[Scott Evans]

You want that to be you, girl. That's insane. You want that to be you? Don't do it. That's true. Don't do it. And it really is that simple. Like, it's not even like, that's not even an emotional thing. That's not like a. Oh, I. That's just not smart. No, that's just not smart.

[Brittany Luse]

I know we have like, some lawyers listening or like paralegals or whoever out there. And you're just like, screaming. You're like, don't do it, baby.

[Scott Evans]

You could be a 14 year old. What's the fortnighter? And you know, that don't make no sense. And. And clearly she does, too. That's why she wrote it on. On. On Reddit. That's why she was like, I gotta make sure I'm not crazy.

[Brittany Luse]

Yeah. And that's kind of what she said. There's like a comment here, and she's just like, thanks for all your responses. And she says seeing a neutral third party, like a relationship counselor seems like a really good move before taking any other action. So no breakup. They're still together.

[Scott Evans]

A relationship counselor sounds like an automatic. But also, this is. If you mean, you gotta mean what you say. And this is a very basic thing.

[Brittany Luse]

Super basic.

[Scott Evans]

And also a major red flag if this is all playing out the way that she's describing it.

[Brittany Luse]

I don't like it. I don't like it one bit.

[Scott Evans]

No.

[Brittany Luse]

Okay. Moving on to this next one. Okay, Coming from r offmychest.

[Scott Evans]

Okay.

[Brittany Luse]

28 days old, titled. My mother in law planned 75th birthday extravaganza for herself on my birthday at my house. My husband and I live in a castle in Italy where we host weddings and events. It's a lot of work.

[Scott Evans]

Stop, stop. We live in a castle in Italy.

[Brittany Luse]

A castle.

[Scott Evans]

Man, if you don't leave me alone about throwing this 75th birthday party. You have a castle. Okay, you got more castle to go throw your birthday party into? I'm sorry, go ahead. I skipped ahead. I just heard castle in Italy and it's like, yeah, of course we're throwing it at your house.

[Brittany Luse]

It's a lot of work. But we now have staff, so we're not doing everything ourselves. My mother in law decided she wanted to throw her 75th birthday party here. She had a massive party here four years ago with 60 guests that I helped her plan every detail of this time. I said, fine, as long as I don't have to plan it. I passed her off to our event manager to handle all the logistics, as.

[Scott Evans]

You do when you live in a castle.

[Brittany Luse]

Fast forward to me seeing our booking calendar. And she booked the entire thing on my actual birthday. Not the weekend before. Not her own birthday, which is five days later. Nope, she chose my birthday, which this year falls on a Tuesday.

[Scott Evans]

I knew you were gonna say Tuesday. I knew you this had Tuesday energy. This is the. She's doing it. This is a specific thing.

[Brittany Luse]

A random weekday. Her birthday is on a Sunday. Why wouldn't she do it over the weekend on her own birthday?

[Scott Evans]

Cause girl, you know why she didn't?

[Brittany Luse]

She invited 30 plus guests, all flying in from another country who will be staying at my house for three nights. The big celebration, which will be a multi course dinner, cake and dance party all scheduled on my actual birthday. She asked if I wanted to choose the cake flavor quote since it's technically your birthday. I told her, no, it's your birthday now. Because I can't imagine going up with her to have her friends sing us happy birthday together for months. I was delusional enough to think that this was some kind of elaborate surprise party for me.

[Scott Evans]

That's what I was thinking.

[Brittany Luse]

Because who would do this otherwise?

[Scott Evans]

This is great.

[Brittany Luse]

And I told her I was going to be out of town and she said she would cry every day if I'm not there.

[Scott Evans]

This is a surprise.

[Brittany Luse]

Then my husband said he hoped I would be there so the whole family could be together. But today my husband picked up a Literal busload of her friends. And the reality hit. Nope. This week is all about her.

[Scott Evans]

Oh, wait.

[Brittany Luse]

So I'm stuck hosting a birthday bash for my mother in law on my own birthday, surrounded by her friends, speaking a language I struggle with. I've never been a birthday zilla person, but a cozy morning with my family and a walk in the forest, then out to dinner in the city has been the norm. However, that's no longer possible. Yesterday I felt fine about it all and helped her make the gift bags for all of her guests. And I decorated inside the castle with a bunch of birthday things. But today I feel awful and anxious. I'm probably thinking it will be worse than it actually will be. If it were a random client's event, I could just hide away and celebrate with my husband and kids. But now everyone will be focused on her. Is this as outrageous as it feels?

[Scott Evans]

Yes.

[Brittany Luse]

Really?

[Scott Evans]

It is as outrageous as it feels.

[Brittany Luse]

Okay.

[Scott Evans]

Because you live in a castle in Italy. I don't know. And I just feel like. Also, here's what I'll say. Okay, it feels a little outrageous to me because if all you want to do is take a walk in the morning with the family, you could go do that and go to dinner. You could still do that. You can still absolutely do that. And if you have a staff castle event planner, they can manage the party while you go have dinner with your husband. And then you arrived at the party a little tardy, fashionably late.

[Brittany Luse]

It's your birthday.

[Scott Evans]

It's your birthday. And Yalls castle.

[Brittany Luse]

The castle part is so insane.

[Scott Evans]

It's sending me every time. All I see is her, like up in the. What is it? The tall. Yeah, the tallest tower. The tallest tower. And she's like, but it's my birthday.

[Brittany Luse]

Oh, she's too nice. Too nice. She decorated the castle for her.

[Scott Evans]

She didn't decorate no damn castle.

[Brittany Luse]

She said I decorated the castle with Mariah Carey.

[Scott Evans]

Says she decorates the house too. She don't actually decorate the house.

[Brittany Luse]

I don't know. These people seem like they bought like an old rundown Italian castle for a dollar and then redid it themselves and they just fell deeper in love during the process.

[Scott Evans]

It's giving inheritance to me. It's giving, you know, maybe. What is it? What is it count? Like it's giving. What is it, my lord Malord?

[Brittany Luse]

Oh, my gosh.

[Scott Evans]

I don't know. And I also feel like my son when I went to go pick up the friends. There's gotta be a certain level of devastation when you think, oh, wait, this is all just a ruse. I know, to get me to surprise me.

[Brittany Luse]

But, like, I would have thought that, too.

[Scott Evans]

I would have, but then I'd have been like, y' all are good.

[Brittany Luse]

You pick up the friends, and it just is like cement.

[Scott Evans]

These aren't my friends.

[Brittany Luse]

No.

[Scott Evans]

Do we have an update? Was it actually her. Her party?

[Brittany Luse]

We have no update.

[Scott Evans]

Okay.

[Brittany Luse]

Did she die, maybe from the heartache? Yeah, could have. Yeah. There's no other comments. I mean, top comment, which was my thought, too. Celebrate your birthday on hers. Sleep in. Go for a walk with the family. Go out to dinner. It's a Sunday, so you can have the entire day to yourselves.

[Scott Evans]

Birthday swap.

[Brittany Luse]

I mean, pick your day. She. She stole your day. Saturday is a better day. I would throw a party at your castle on Saturday and say, fuck you. And it's also. It's not her birthday Saturday, so she can't be like, it's my birthday too. No, bitch, it's tomorrow, and it was Tuesday, so, no, it's not your birthday. Like, take over Saturday and make it all.

[Scott Evans]

Do people really have this kind of, like, these kind of battles with the in laws?

[Brittany Luse]

Yeah.

[Scott Evans]

Did you. Did you ever experience this, like, with. With. With exes or people that you were. You were dating? Did you ever have this kind of tense, like, back and forth, this tense energy relationship with the in laws?

[Brittany Luse]

Yeah, I think, especially when you're new, like, there's kind of, like, oh, well, who's gonna get that time during, you know, the holidays or things like that, and you kind of have to, like, establish new norms or, like.

[Scott Evans]

Yeah, of course.

[Brittany Luse]

No, no, no. This is how we're doing it this year. And, like, I mean, I feel like holidays always bring a little drama, but especially when you're trying to blend and, like, be the new girlfriend and come in and you're, like, stirring the pot.

[Scott Evans]

That would be my question. Also. I think that has a lot to do with some of the dynamic of this is who's. Whose castle.

[Brittany Luse]

Yeah.

[Scott Evans]

Like, was this. Did we go and buy this castle together?

[Brittany Luse]

That is.

[Scott Evans]

Is this my husband's castle that. Or my husband's family's castle that we moved, that we were gifted at the wedding.

[Brittany Luse]

And now does that make a difference? Like. Cause I. I do. See, like, mom sounds like she's a little entitled to the castle.

[Scott Evans]

Correct.

[Brittany Luse]

So does that make a difference in your head?

[Scott Evans]

It does. It does make a difference in my head. Also. She had access to the event calendar for the castle and picked that day.

[Brittany Luse]

Yeah.

[Scott Evans]

Who gave her access to, you know, what I'm saying, like, you don't just get access to the event calendar.

[Brittany Luse]

You should have said, here's the dates available.

[Scott Evans]

Here are the dates available. Maybe.

[Brittany Luse]

Well, now that you know you're working with a evil mother in law, like whatever.

[Scott Evans]

Monster in law.

[Brittany Luse]

Yeah, now that you know that you're dealing with monster in law, you can be on your toes a little bit more going forward. Which sucks. It sucks having to like Jedi mind trick people and like think 10 steps ahead. So don't rain on your parade. Yeah, but you need to with her.

[Scott Evans]

But it could be 10 steps ahead. So you don't rain on your parade. Or also. Also. We're just dealing with reality. Yeah, the reality is you will take advantage of the situ of the situation if I allow you to take advantage. And so I'm gonna create a better boundary here. And. Sorry.

[Brittany Luse]

Ma'.

[Scott Evans]

Am.

[Brittany Luse]

Ma'. Am.

[Scott Evans]

Ma'. Am.

[Brittany Luse]

Ma'. Am. Her back into place.

[Scott Evans]

You know, exactly. Ma'. Am. Happy birthday. But you need to sit your ass down on a Tuesday.

[Brittany Luse]

Just not on my actual birthday. Like there's no good reasoning. Like all of her friends flying in, flying in on a Monday and being there during the week. Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday. That's harder than a weekend.

[Scott Evans]

You know what I'm tell you.

[Brittany Luse]

Come on.

[Scott Evans]

You know what I'm going to tell you?

[Brittany Luse]

Tell me.

[Scott Evans]

It's going to really fuck him up. You know what she should have done? She should have planned a birthday party of her own on Tuesday in the castle.

[Brittany Luse]

I would have.

[Scott Evans]

Bigger, louder.

[Brittany Luse]

Yeah.

[Scott Evans]

Like, girl. No, go ahead. Happy birthday.

[Brittany Luse]

Uh huh.

[Scott Evans]

And I'll pop in.

[Brittany Luse]

Yeah. Me and my wedding.

[Scott Evans]

When they sing Happy birthday to you.

[Brittany Luse]

Yeah.

[Scott Evans]

When your cake comes down.

[Brittany Luse]

Yeah. When that moe's flowing, then I'll be there.

[Scott Evans]

Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Let me know, let me know. And you want me to pick the cake? I have just the thing. Nope. Matter of fact, let it be a surprise.

[Brittany Luse]

No cake.

[Scott Evans]

Shit cake.

[Brittany Luse]

Bakery. Messed up. Ooh. Oh, you're going that method. I was gonna say laxatives, but that felt a little dark.

[Scott Evans]

No, shit cake is. I mean, shit cake could be whatever you want it to be. Open to interpretation.

[Brittany Luse]

I'm just saying don't piss Scott off. Okay.

[Scott Evans]

Hell no. You'll get a shit cake in my castle.

[Brittany Luse]

Oh, yeah. No.

[Scott Evans]

Yeah, you're getting a shit cake.

[Brittany Luse]

Hell no, Ma'.

[Scott Evans]

Am. Happy birthday. And your cake is going to say happy birthday.

[Brittany Luse]

Ma'.

[Scott Evans]

Am.

[Brittany Luse]

Ma'. Am. Yeah, you feel that? 75 years. Ma'. Am.

[Scott Evans]

Ma'. Am.

[Brittany Luse]

Someone does kind of say, talk to your husband. Since he does not seem to get it, spell it out for him clearly. And if I were you, I would sneak out for a couple of hours to do something on my own with the kids and husband. It can't rationally be all your mother in law even now. So they're kind of being like hubby's got some. Yes, clearly some little boundary issues.

[Scott Evans]

But you know what also happens in relationships? We say things we don't mean, hoping that the partner will just get it. So like when you say, no, it's fine, it's fine. Don't worry about me. Don't worry about me. What you're also saying is I want this to be a big deal for you so that I don't seem like a crazy person.

[Brittany Luse]

Yeah.

[Scott Evans]

I want you to care a little bit more about this because you can clearly see I'm affected by it.

[Brittany Luse]

Yeah.

[Scott Evans]

And I'm trying my very best.

[Brittany Luse]

My feelings would be so hurt. Like even if you're not a huge birthday person.

[Scott Evans]

Yeah.

[Brittany Luse]

It's still nice having one day out of the year that is just like solely about you.

[Scott Evans]

A little bit about you especially.

[Brittany Luse]

She's a mom, she's got kids. No other day is about her.

[Scott Evans]

Hello.

[Brittany Luse]

Even her birthday is probably not about her. And it certainly isn't this year.

[Scott Evans]

Right.

[Brittany Luse]

So like fuck.

[Scott Evans]

Also imagine if it was like a big if it was a milestone birthday and you were like taken of that. But also you gave the date.

[Brittany Luse]

I know.

[Scott Evans]

I'm gonna just be honest. You also gave the date.

[Brittany Luse]

I don't know, I feel like I would just be like, here's the calendar. Like here's what you're working with. I would never assume she'd pick my birthday. When it's your 75th fucking birthday, throw the party on Saturday and go till midnight. So at midnight you light the fucking shit off.

[Scott Evans]

Right.

[Brittany Luse]

And then you're with all of your people as you turn 75. You picked a Tuesday also. Dumb bitch.

[Scott Evans]

Yes. I love when you get like this. I love when you get like this.

[Brittany Luse]

Why is she so dumb? Like, what a dumb fuck.

[Scott Evans]

Also, also, what kind of birthday party really is a 75 year old throwing like that shit's gonna be over at 6 o'.

[Brittany Luse]

Clock. No, I'm gonna throw a rager.

[Scott Evans]

Yeah, but we not talking about Kris Jenner. Do you know what I'm saying? Kris Jenner got her own castle.

[Brittany Luse]

I think old people party harder than you think.

[Scott Evans]

I'm going to just tell you this. I was at a dinner yesterday at the Biltmore. Well, that sounds and what came, came six o' clock in these orthopedic shoes. They were ready to get up out of there. Okay. That's all I'm saying.

[Brittany Luse]

What? What beverages were provided?

[Scott Evans]

Alcoholic ones, you know, sugars, Spike. You know, people got compression socks on and all kinds of stuff underneath the gala gown. And people gotta go to bed.

[Brittany Luse]

I'll tell you right now. My grandma's 83 and she parties.

[Scott Evans]

What do you mean she parties?

[Brittany Luse]

She parties. She gets that wine flowing. She'll do an impromptu speech here and there.

[Scott Evans]

But where does she live?

[Brittany Luse]

Minnesota.

[Scott Evans]

Exactly. See what I'm saying? What you talking about? At somewhere with a castle?

[Brittany Luse]

I don't know. My aunt that lives out here in la, she gets pretty hammered. She hires a little catering team for her house. Older. She wouldn't like me to say.

[Scott Evans]

I'm just saying. I'm just saying the party probably ain't gonna last that long anyway. Yeah. You know what I mean?

[Brittany Luse]

I mean, certainly not on a Tuesday, right?

[Scott Evans]

Going up on a Tuesday club.

[Brittany Luse]

Going up on a Tuesday. Well, they got that one.

[Scott Evans]

Well, wait, hold on a second. If old lady knows that she might be. She might be in the. Yeah, she Yin yang twins and she's gonna have some Uncle Luke.

[Brittany Luse]

I think old people in Europe also really know how to party.

[Scott Evans]

They know how to do it. They know how to do it.

[Brittany Luse]

So I don't.

[Scott Evans]

Go have a good time, girl. Go have a good time. Buy yourself something nice.

[Brittany Luse]

Honestly, I'd get really drunk and make it about you. That's the one time where I think you could sabotage someone's party.

[Scott Evans]

What she should do is go buy herself a really beautiful necklace on her husband's credit card.

[Brittany Luse]

Yes.

[Scott Evans]

As a birthday gift.

[Brittany Luse]

Okay.

[Scott Evans]

And make that the focus of the. Look at what my husband got me for my birthday while she eats a shit cake. Done.

[Brittany Luse]

I want the recipe. I'm like, very scared.

[Scott Evans]

Done.

[Brittany Luse]

Okay, moving on to this next one.

[Scott Evans]

No problem. I'm ready now. I'm primed. I'm ready now.

[Brittany Luse]

Are you?

[Scott Evans]

Yeah.

[Brittany Luse]

Locked in this episode is brought to you by Talkspace. Talkspace is the number one rated online therapy bringing you professional support from licensed therapists and psychiatrists that you can access anywhere, anytime. I have loved online therapy in the past. I love how easy it was. I could take it from anywhere. Comfort of my bed, the car, a park. And I love that Talkspace is in network. It's covered by most insurers and most of their insured members pay a copay of. Of $0. And you can switch providers at any time at no extra cost. So you're gonna find someone that is the right fit for you. Talkspace makes getting the help you need easy, accessible and affordable. As a listener of this podcast, you'll get $80 off your first month with Talkspace when you go to talkspace.com THT and enter promo code SPACE80. That's S-P A C E80 to match with a licensed therapist today, go to talkspace.com THTN and enter promo code SPACE80. Okay, number three this is coming from Aitah 28 days old titled My dad died. My significant other is mad he has to make dinner after moving to our home state nearly a year ago. After seven years of my significant other complaining how our new state sucked and he missed home, I've been working full time in a demanding job I do really love. Unfortunately, Significant other has been unemployed for over a year, applying to only about 15 jobs in that time. We both chose to move home to be near our parents and that's been mostly positive. I lost my stepmother in August, requiring I drive to another state to take care of a Gray Gardens type situation. I thought that was the most traumatic things that I'd have to do this year. A few weeks later, however, my dad was hospitalized and I tried to be at the hospital as much as I could considering I was new at my job and had used all of my leave with my stepmother's house. My dad and she were still married, but he had moved back to our state for health reasons. She refused many times to leave him. The day after my dad was released from the hospital, against my family's wishes, he passed. I came over to make him soup and I had found him. My significant other has largely been supportive, but he's repeatedly been irritated that he has to make dinner weeknights as I work full time and try to address two people's estates. No wills, plus all the grief. When he recently made an insensitive comment about having to make dinner part of the week, I asked him to consider that this was insensitive considering all that was going on. Additionally, I made all dinners for our family while working full time and being the primary caregiver for our son for 12 years. When I shared this, he immediately fell into a cycle where he shuts down, shuts me out, gets defensive, then reactive, then depressed. It's what always kept me from being honest with him. Long story short, I kept asking him to talk to me for days. I acknowledged how he must be hurting too. I thanked him for everything he did around the house. I knew something was bothering him and asked him to talk to me. After a day of needing to report my dad's death to creditors and my son at dinner cutting me off when I suggested better ways of communicating about wanting rides, they both snapped at me and shut me out. I got up, put on a coat and went for a walk and I didn't take my phone. An hour later I got home and sat with my son outside and we talked and apologized and listened to each other. When I tried the same with my significant other, he was immediately cold and defensive. No matter what I said. He responded that what I said hasn't happened and that I was being mean. I asked him to then share something with me he felt I hadn't heard instead of just negating what I said. Correct quote that's so fucked up to put pressure on me was the response. I pointed out I was crying and mourning and asked why he was so cold. He asked why I didn't care he had to make dinner. As with all conflicts, this is a simplified version. He is a good person, but we almost got divorced four years ago because of how his undealt with trauma meant that he didn't ever want to talk. Why can't we just act like everything is fine and fell into reactive patterns? I'm in a hotel now. He is not someone to ever go after anyone, so it's not for drama. I'm an oldest daughter. I know what taking on a lot with little support means, but I'm completely shocked by this. Yeah, big red flag being told that I'm selfish because when I cook on weekends it's just pasta in parentheses. Roasted butternut squash, homemade sauce, slow simmered. Am I insane? Am I a 40 year old woman who has been checking on everyone and working full time? The worst. Did I today finally yell that it would be cool if my significant other applied to more jobs and get a therapist per our agreement when we decided not to divorce and to not drink so much that he passes out on the couch every night because all I want to do is make the people I love feel loved. But now I just feel insane and alone. I keep trying to reach out to him, to support him in his own frustration and grief, but he shuts me out. Now I'm drinking wine in a plastic glass in a motel because of it. He knows I'm barely functioning. Am I the asshole for saying he should leave when I get back?

[Scott Evans]

That's the only question is are you the asshole? No, no, no.

[Brittany Luse]

That was a full sentence. No, no there's like a little parentheses at the bottom, too. Rip. My dad a badass and my best friend.

[Scott Evans]

So that's also the thing that's happening. Right. So your husband is never gonna be your dad. He's never gonna be your. He's never gonna be the dude your dad was. And, like, expecting that after your dad passed, he'd somehow turn. It magically turn into the dude he's not always been in your entire relationship, that he's not gonna also be the dude who was involved in your almost getting divorced four years ago. Like, he's the same dude he's always been.

[Brittany Luse]

He's the same dude.

[Scott Evans]

And it sounds like he's the same dude who gonna stay the same dude whether you get divorced now or in another 15 years. Right. To me, I am not a proponent of telling people to leave their marriages, but I am a proponent of telling people, of encouraging people to see the situation for what it actually is and love yourself.

[Brittany Luse]

Yeah, emphasis on love yourself. Because, like, love yourself, no one else's.

[Scott Evans]

Like, they certainly ain't going to do it if you don't do it.

[Brittany Luse]

No. And I think, like, I think you can look at your kid and granted, you know, he's 12. Maybe. Like, I know you said, like, I took care of him for 12 years. 12 years. So, like, I'm assuming he's around 12. I mean, look at how he's treating you. And that's probably being modeled by your husband who's not treating you well.

[Scott Evans]

But then when you had this. When you had a scenario where you came back to your son and said, okay, now listen, we gotta talk this down.

[Brittany Luse]

That was super constructive.

[Scott Evans]

And you did and came to a better agreement and understanding of one another. That's modeling the kind of energy, the interaction that you want.

[Brittany Luse]

Oh, that's so. Yeah, that's really healthy.

[Scott Evans]

Do you know what I mean?

[Brittany Luse]

No. That was great.

[Scott Evans]

If your significant other, though, is incapable and unwilling. This isn't a matter of, like, oh, I don't know how this dude is deciding not to. It's an avoidant kind of. Have you read Attached?

[Brittany Luse]

Oh, like avoidant attachment.

[Scott Evans]

Yeah.

[Brittany Luse]

Yeah. And then there's like, conflict resolution styles. Yeah.

[Scott Evans]

So, like, this feels to me like I don't want to deal with stuff, and I also don't want to do stuff.

[Brittany Luse]

Yeah.

[Scott Evans]

He probably needs some therapy.

[Brittany Luse]

Therapy. Yeah.

[Scott Evans]

Maybe some medicine. You know, there's some. There's some good stuff out there that will help you regulate some of that until you can address some of those issues and start to heal. Yeah, but certainly, motherfucker, you can make a dinner, and if you ain't got a job, you can make a dinner five nights a week.

[Brittany Luse]

Yep.

[Scott Evans]

I'm just gonna say that that should be your bare minimum.

[Brittany Luse]

Bare minimum? Yeah.

[Scott Evans]

When y' all get home, and it's gonna be good. And if. If it was just pasta, motherfucker, did you just eat it? Then get to cooking.

[Brittany Luse]

Just pasta.

[Scott Evans]

Just pasta in my ass.

[Brittany Luse]

Oh, go fuck yourself. And don't eat my food ever again.

[Scott Evans]

Yeah, yeah. See, like, literally, I'm just as. I feel it, too. I'm so Hamburger Helper. Got the directions on the box. Get in that kitchen and get something made.

[Brittany Luse]

There's no excuse.

[Scott Evans]

So we can eat.

[Brittany Luse]

There's no fucking excuse. What are you doing?

[Scott Evans]

Drinking?

[Brittany Luse]

If you've applied to 15 jobs over the past year, baby, that's.

[Scott Evans]

That's one a month.

[Brittany Luse]

That's pretty pathetic. When your wife is, like, seemingly carrying the weight of the world.

[Scott Evans]

Yeah. And her parents have died. Yeah, bruh.

[Brittany Luse]

You can't cook me one fucking meal.

[Scott Evans]

Get your ass in that kitchen.

[Brittany Luse]

Get your ass.

[Scott Evans]

And I have never said that about a person's significant other because that sounds crazy out of context. Get your ass in that kitchen. Sounds crazy. But if you play this whole episode, that's nuts. And then it's unfair to put that pressure on me.

[Brittany Luse]

What pressure, Ada? What pressure?

[Scott Evans]

She better than me.

[Brittany Luse]

You told me I made just pasta. You go in there and make just pasta, then go make it. There's no pressure. Boil some water, dump the noodles in, strain it, pour some sauce on it.

[Scott Evans]

Let's go. But you want to simmer that for a little bit. You want to make sure that the sauce gets into the noodle. You know what I mean? You want to make sure. You want to heat up that sauce.

[Brittany Luse]

We're doing a little meat, some ground chicken, ground turkey. Start putting it in the pan.

[Scott Evans]

Yeah, you want to season all of that also. You want to make sure you season the meat. You want to season the noodles. You want to make sure you got some butter, some salt, and some pepper in those noodles.

[Brittany Luse]

Leave a little bit of the pasta water in there to thicken it up.

[Scott Evans]

It helps the flavor. Yeah. You want to make sure that you got a good consistency for that pasta or something.

[Brittany Luse]

I don't know. But.

[Scott Evans]

But, like, what you not going to do is illuminate your resistance to an obligation to your family that you can easily share easily.

[Brittany Luse]

This is such a joke. I always say, like, do you ever.

[Scott Evans]

Feel like people are trolling you?

[Brittany Luse]

This one no, because I'm like. I get these write ins all the time. Like.

[Scott Evans]

Like, I would be like, let me see a picture of him.

[Brittany Luse]

There's some of.

[Scott Evans]

He gotta be fine, right? He gotta be real. He gotta be. He gotta be fine.

[Brittany Luse]

He could be the hottest person on the planet.

[Scott Evans]

I know, but, like, you can't be ugly and also act like that. And we stay together. Cause, like, you gotta be.

[Brittany Luse]

Sometimes they are.

[Scott Evans]

No way. You gotta be fine.

[Brittany Luse]

It's just love. She's such a good person. I know, but he also really loves him.

[Scott Evans]

She probably does. Cause he's also probably fine.

[Brittany Luse]

He's ugly ass. Ugly ass and heart. Ugly ass, heart. He's just ugly all around. Ugh. There's no way. Like, he's got so much fucking audacity.

[Scott Evans]

Like, that's crazy.

[Brittany Luse]

I just. I can't. And I think there's, like, a good.

[Scott Evans]

To not talk to me for days. Because I was like, could you make dinner? Could you make dinner? Could you make dinner? Because if you. I mean, here's what I also say.

[Brittany Luse]

I'm gonna. I just hate him. I hate him.

[Scott Evans]

I'm with you. Here's what I'm also gonna say. If we're in a relationship and you're upset with me, and I feel like you're upset with me because you don't get it.

[Brittany Luse]

Mm.

[Scott Evans]

And you don't talk to me for days. But I make meals that you eat.

[Brittany Luse]

Nope. You're not eating.

[Scott Evans]

We got a motherfucking problem.

[Brittany Luse]

Because you're not eating my food.

[Scott Evans]

If you can't talk to me, you can't eat. No, no, no, no, no, no.

[Brittany Luse]

I'm the same. Yeah.

[Scott Evans]

Just pasta. Just pasta.

[Brittany Luse]

No. And I know some people are gonna be like, that's so toxic. But no, what he's doing is toxic. You're stonewalling.

[Scott Evans]

Yes.

[Brittany Luse]

Like, that is so unhealthy.

[Scott Evans]

Add to stonewall, hunger strike. Because that's also what you're on.

[Brittany Luse]

Bye.

[Scott Evans]

Because your ass ain't eating from this kitchen.

[Brittany Luse]

Well. And who's paying for everything?

[Scott Evans]

That's what I'm saying.

[Brittany Luse]

I know. Like, their money is her money is their money right now. But, like, who's paying for everything? She's not holding any money over his head. There's no financial abuse. And she's letting my Money apply for 15 jobs in one year and still supporting him. And then ask just for a little bit in a moment of horrible grief.

[Scott Evans]

And pain, could you make dinner?

[Brittany Luse]

Just need a little food.

[Scott Evans]

I wonder, maybe, was she like, it'd be great if you fucking made dinner. Sometimes I'm not getting that. But even then, like, you would be like, you're right. I should.

[Brittany Luse]

I mean, I feel like she's being very balanced in this writing. Even, like, as with all conflicts, this is a simplified version. He is a good person. Like, she's still, like, giving him some flowers in this.

[Scott Evans]

I'm gonna tell you what made me. What? Of all of those sentences, made me understand that she was a rational, nice person. Might I see your computer real quick?

[Brittany Luse]

Yeah. I'm scared.

[Scott Evans]

This is the line where I was like, she not lying.

[Brittany Luse]

Okay.

[Scott Evans]

Being told that I'm selfish. Because when I cook on the weekends, it's just pasta in parentheses. Here's what it was. Roasted butternut squash, homemade sauce, slow simmered. Crazy people don't cook like that for a kid and their man.

[Brittany Luse]

No.

[Scott Evans]

Crazy people don't cook like that.

[Brittany Luse]

No. That is so, so thoughtful. Something like. I feel like a lot of us have, like, things we'll ask ourselves before committing to something.

[Scott Evans]

It a got me hot.

[Brittany Luse]

Hot and bothered.

[Scott Evans]

Oh, my God.

[Brittany Luse]

And I feel like a lot of people have these tests in their relationships where they're like, can we travel together? Can we decorate together?

[Scott Evans]

Yeah. Can we grieve together?

[Brittany Luse]

Can we grieve together? Is one that should be on there. And, like, someone. I don't know how this, like, came into my head. Maybe a story over the years, but, like, if you look at your partner and you can't go through the worst grief of your life with that person, you are not with the right person. Like, I hate to catastrophize. I hate thinking about my parents dying. But, like, I know without a doubt that the person I have next to me is going to. He's the dude going to get me through that.

[Scott Evans]

Yeah.

[Brittany Luse]

Going to get me through those hard, horrible days. And you shouldn't settle for anything less because that is one of the worst days of your fucking life. Losing a parent. And you get this. Both parents divorce.

[Scott Evans]

Her stepparent.

[Brittany Luse]

Yeah.

[Scott Evans]

Do you know what I mean?

[Brittany Luse]

Get divorce. Give them the D.

[Scott Evans]

Put some D's on that.

[Brittany Luse]

Yeah. Yeah. Let's go. Like, done. This is done.

[Scott Evans]

I also feel like I agree with you in with the concept of the life's major hurdles, which is why I think that two years.

[Brittany Luse]

Yeah.

[Scott Evans]

It's like, you don't have enough time.

[Brittany Luse]

No, you need some more hurdles.

[Scott Evans]

You need some more. You need to. You need to see some more experience some more stuff. You need to see and feel and endure some things. I think, personally Myself, I'm not talking about other people's.

[Brittany Luse]

You're entitled to your hot take.

[Scott Evans]

You know what I mean?

[Brittany Luse]

Yeah.

[Scott Evans]

My personal opinion, I just. This is. This is a. That's how I. That's how my partner and I, like, literally my father was passing away as we were beginning our friendship.

[Brittany Luse]

Wow.

[Scott Evans]

And I was. I received the kind of love I didn't even know was possible.

[Brittany Luse]

That's what I'm saying.

[Scott Evans]

And it convinced me against all of my childhood ideas or all of my developmental ideas about what my family would look like. Loving him changed or challenged all of that. But the way he loved on me informed so much about what love is and what you can experience in a life when your partner genuinely gives a fuck about you. Like, what that actually feels. And it's.

[Brittany Luse]

It's life changing.

[Scott Evans]

It is life changing.

[Brittany Luse]

It actually, like, it rewired my brain feeling that. Which one? I'm so sorry to hear about dad.

[Scott Evans]

But this was 10 years ago, like, hearing.

[Brittany Luse]

We are in hearing that. It's like you don't even realize, like, what love is until you have, like, really good, supportive, wholehearted, just love, where someone, like, really sees you and cares about you and thinks about you before doing things. And it's just like, to have that, you know, as a friendship, as you're getting out of that grief. It's like so powerful.

[Scott Evans]

Yeah, it was. It was intense. And I was like, uh, oh, do I hold up?

[Brittany Luse]

How many. How long was it?

[Scott Evans]

This is not what I was. This does not compute.

[Brittany Luse]

I'm dealing with this. But what's this?

[Scott Evans]

I am confusion. I am confusion. Yeah, it was. It was intense.

[Brittany Luse]

Well, how long was it from, like. Like going through all that? Like, how long did it take you to realize and start dating?

[Scott Evans]

Um, maybe. I mean, we were long distance.

[Brittany Luse]

Wow. Okay.

[Scott Evans]

For three years.

[Brittany Luse]

Yeah.

[Scott Evans]

Which I think you also have in common.

[Brittany Luse]

Yeah. I mean, he was in North Hollywood and I was in Koreatown.

[Scott Evans]

That's long distance, girl.

[Brittany Luse]

Yeah, I know. In la. It is.

[Scott Evans]

That's good.

[Brittany Luse]

I've done long distance before. That's tough.

[Scott Evans]

Someone had a passport. Somebody had a passport. Yeah. That's what I mean. I'm pretty sure we talked about that before.

[Brittany Luse]

Yeah.

[Scott Evans]

Like, long distance thing is no joke.

[Brittany Luse]

It's really hard.

[Scott Evans]

And it can also feel like you're constantly starting over, which also you. You have to rely on things in a. You have to rely on a connection and feeding that connection in a totally different way.

[Brittany Luse]

Yeah.

[Scott Evans]

And so our friendship is super solid. And I want to say it was probably 45 months, really, after developing our friendship that I was like, huh, Something.

[Brittany Luse]

Something's here.

[Scott Evans]

Hmm.

[Brittany Luse]

That was me. It snuck up on me.

[Scott Evans]

Yeah.

[Brittany Luse]

And he, like, asked me to be his girlfriend. At first I was like, no. I was like, I'm not ready for a boyfriend right now. And then it just like, kept going on. I'm like, oh, no. Like, I genuinely had really. I love this person.

[Scott Evans]

Right?

[Brittany Luse]

I was like, oh, shit.

[Scott Evans]

Oh.

[Brittany Luse]

Snuck up on me.

[Scott Evans]

Yeah. I was like, didn't see that one coming.

[Brittany Luse]

No. I was the same way.

[Scott Evans]

Meanwhile, had prayed for not to see it coming, for it to be so plain that it was like, where did this come from? And that's exactly how it. That's exactly how it happened.

[Brittany Luse]

Oh, my gosh. I love.

[Scott Evans]

Yeah, it was. It's. It's been a wild, wild ride. And so to. When you experience people who are in partnerships or in relationships that don't exhibit that kind of thing, where one is like, one person is like, I am doing, trying my best and another is really not, you're just like, ugh. I'm not saying leave, but I'm definitely saying wake the fuck up to the partner that's not doing shit.

[Brittany Luse]

Yeah. Yeah. I mean, it sounds like, I think.

[Scott Evans]

Like, hearing granted depression can also make a person feel like it really can. You can't do anything. And I don't want to be insensitive to that because I do recognize that while it is not my thing, it is not an issue that I have. I want to be sensitive to the fact that, like, if he's dealing with this cycle of I just can't seem to get out of my own way, then I think as a partner, you're trying to find ways to help you see that. And to be honest, making dinner, if that's the one thing you do today, since you didn't apply to any jobs, that's the ass.

[Brittany Luse]

That's a win. And that's also a win. Like, if you're dealing with depression, that is a win.

[Scott Evans]

Yeah. So get your ass up. Even if you gotta order it.

[Brittany Luse]

I hate cooking. Yeah.

[Scott Evans]

If you gotta order it and just zhuzh it up and put it on a plate for us so that it's ready when we get home and we're ready to eat so that I don't have to come home. And then also figure out that grocery.

[Brittany Luse]

Stores have so much good stuff like pre made or the deli where all you gotta do is heat it up and it's still really affordable. Like, I got the best chicken empanadas. The other day, and it was like two bucks for this big ass empanada. I'm like, you can't. You can buy 10 of those. You couldn't make that for 20 bucks. Like, go, like go.

[Scott Evans]

What are we doing? Do something.

[Brittany Luse]

I know.

[Scott Evans]

Well. And besides get on my nerves.

[Brittany Luse]

I know. I just like, I want to just like shake him because it's like, dude, you have someone who's giving you now four years of more chances. Like, you were at divorce four years ago. And if she's saying you were at divorce four years ago, she was already checked out then. Because women emotionally and mentally check out way before they ever.

[Scott Evans]

But then, but then she wasn't. Because if it was four years ago and she didn't do it, eight year.

[Brittany Luse]

Old kid, you know something's holding her back there.

[Scott Evans]

He's fine. He's fine.

[Brittany Luse]

I know.

[Scott Evans]

He's got to be fine. This man has to be. He has to be so good looking that every time she sees him, she's not. I want a picture so bad, so bad. Because she's gotta be like, he's still so hot. And like, in this little town, there's no one hot.

[Brittany Luse]

It doesn't matter how hot he is. If someone's like acting like this, instant ick, you're dry. There's no sex regardless.

[Scott Evans]

You're not wrong. You're not wrong.

[Brittany Luse]

Once you get the ick too, you're.

[Scott Evans]

Just like, she's in a motel.

[Brittany Luse]

Force yourself to fuck him. You can't. Like, you gotta get over that ick. Yeah, there's gotta be some makeup involved to get me over that.

[Scott Evans]

Right? And if you can't do dinner, we still not made up. She's in a hotel room writing this. Drinking. Was it wine out of a plastic cup?

[Brittany Luse]

Yeah.

[Scott Evans]

Hey, girl, this. It don't have to be like this. Uh, when you get home, tell that man to go.

[Brittany Luse]

Yeah. I mean. And a part of their deal was he would go and get therapy. That was a part of their agreement to not get divorced.

[Scott Evans]

It's always part of the deal.

[Brittany Luse]

He's had four years. So no matter if he's dealing with depression, like mental health struggles are so real and so valid, but at the end of the day, you're responsible for them.

[Scott Evans]

So is responsibility.

[Brittany Luse]

Yeah.

[Scott Evans]

Yeah. And accountability.

[Brittany Luse]

I know.

[Scott Evans]

And guess what? Our. Our time has come. That's what. That's. Our time has come to wish we say, oh, we go. Bye to the end of the road.

[Brittany Luse]

Top comment on this one. Quote, oh, you work full time while juggling the grief from the loss of your dad. How could you expect me to cook dinner for us when I'm so busy being an unemployed man child?

[Scott Evans]

Yeah, I've got beers to drink this.

[Brittany Luse]

Haha. You are grieving, handling estates, working full time, and being met with utter selfishness. He's unemployed, contributes little, and complains about making dinner while you bury your father. The audacity is staggering. You're not insane. You're exhausted from carrying the mental load for everyone. And then someone goes, andy's an alcoholic. Which again, like therapy. Like, start doing something about it.

[Scott Evans]

Listen, if you can't, I can't do it for you. I got enough on my plate.

[Brittany Luse]

I know.

[Scott Evans]

And also not enough on my plate.

[Brittany Luse]

No, she's not just fed at the dinner.

[Scott Evans]

Cause you didn't make dinner.

[Brittany Luse]

Metaphorically, literally.

[Scott Evans]

Girl, run for your life.

[Brittany Luse]

Fuck. Like, just go. Like you could go and get some shanberry crescent rolls, a rotisserie chicken. I love a rotisserie chicken. Spread the little roll, put the chicken on it, maybe some tortillas, rotisserie chicken. You get some easy tacos.

[Scott Evans]

And if it's so hard for you to do it by yourself, it sounds like you have a son. He's 12. Who can help.

[Brittany Luse]

He can help. Like, let's make it a fun dad son activity.

[Scott Evans]

Yeah, let's take care of mom for a while, shall we?

[Brittany Luse]

Yeah. Someone goes, reread this and pretend it was someone you cared about asking, you know, it's time to leave him. If not for you, for your son. He needs to know that his dad is not what a good partner looks like. OP responds, they see it, they go, damn, damn, damn. That's it.

[Scott Evans]

If that don't hit home for you.

[Brittany Luse]

And then they respond to themselves and they go. And by that I mean true things being said. And then someone else responds to OP and goes, a good thing to hold onto is your son was receptive to speaking and learning. Hold onto that because there's still time to ensure he doesn't repeat his father's mistakes. I understand about aging parents and losing them. It sucks. It's completely heartbreaking and at times infuriating. When the parent to child rolls reverse. Show yourself, Grace. You're mourning to parents in quick succession. You deserve better. And OP goes, I may have told him, my husband, that as I walked out of the door, quote, at least your son is the kind of person who will go after someone he loves. Basically being like, I'm going to the hotel room and you're not following me. You're not making it better he's not.

[Scott Evans]

How can he follow you? He drunk. He's in. He's at home. He's in the kitchen waiting on somebody to feed him. My God, how can he follow you? And also to be honest, you don't want him to. How can. But I'm gonna. This may be. Don't me. Okay, but how can you now start to require him to do something he's never shown you he was gonna do in the first place?

[Brittany Luse]

Yeah.

[Scott Evans]

Why would you assume that all of a sudden now he's gonna do something he has never done?

[Brittany Luse]

No. And like she even said, like he's not the type to follow someone. Like he's not the type to chase. So yeah, no, I think someone kind of responded to that and was like, that was a little passive aggressive.

[Scott Evans]

That was aggressive aggressive.

[Brittany Luse]

I mean, I think maybe it's.

[Scott Evans]

And like don't. And also don't use. Don't use the kid as.

[Brittany Luse]

No.

[Scott Evans]

The weapon or your bargaining chip.

[Brittany Luse]

No, that's. Yeah, no, that's.

[Scott Evans]

You know what I'm saying? Like let's call a spade a spade, baby. You mad at him? Cause he ain't shit.

[Brittany Luse]

No.

[Scott Evans]

Or at least ain't shit right now.

[Brittany Luse]

No.

[Scott Evans]

Ain't trying to be shit.

[Brittany Luse]

You should make him a shit cake and write I want a divorce on it and say, here, I made you something.

[Scott Evans]

Made you something.

[Brittany Luse]

Cause you couldn't cook me dinner.

[Scott Evans]

Taste it.

[Brittany Luse]

That's real, you know.

[Scott Evans]

Taste it.

[Brittany Luse]

Taste it.

[Scott Evans]

I made this for you.

[Brittany Luse]

Taste it. We have no updates on this one.

[Scott Evans]

Damn.

[Brittany Luse]

No updates. So we're gonna have to keep our eyes peeled. It's 28 days old. Seems to be coming from a very real account. The account is three years old. So usually like people will question like, oh, it's fake. It's fake if it's a new account, if it's a throwaway.

[Scott Evans]

Right.

[Brittany Luse]

But this person is posting this on a three year old account. And I mean, seems. Seems legit shit.

[Scott Evans]

So there's hope for the kid, there's.

[Brittany Luse]

Hope for her to get out of there and go. Don't let your ex husband stop you from meeting the love of your life.

[Scott Evans]

Exactly. Starting with you.

[Brittany Luse]

Get out there.

[Scott Evans]

Starting with you. Like love yourself enough.

[Brittany Luse]

Yeah.

[Scott Evans]

Because also I think that the, the. Some of this is about getting to a place where we love us enough that we can say, okay, I see the scenario for what this is and I respect you enough to know this is not you at your best. And so I'm not going to take so personally you not Being able to be the partner that I know you to be or I believe you to be or wished you were. But here's an opportunity for us to set some guideline for ourself, some Runway for ourself and this relationship. Because either we're gonna be able to come together and really get back to or get to finally a real partnership, or we gonna have to move this thing on.

[Brittany Luse]

Respectfully, I'm gonna put a poll. How many of you out there think therapy and stay together? Or are you in my boat with me and we're just jumping to divorce? I'm gonna put a poll on this one.

[Scott Evans]

Put a poll. And also I'm gonna ask for another for addition to the poll.

[Brittany Luse]

Okay.

[Scott Evans]

And how many people wanna see a picture of him?

[Brittany Luse]

Option C. Show me a picture.

[Scott Evans]

Show me a picture.

[Brittany Luse]

I would actually really like to see a picture of him today.

[Scott Evans]

Not 10 years ago, 20 years ago today, drunk on the couch. Cause that would be enough.

[Brittany Luse]

No, no, no, no. I'm like, I want to see it, but I fear I would have to stage an intervention then and like literally show up at this lady's house.

[Scott Evans]

Do you ever feel that way?

[Brittany Luse]

All the time. And like some of these stories, I've literally been like, hey, if you need help to move, like, let me know. Drop a pin, I'll roll up with a U Haul. Let's go.

[Scott Evans]

Cause I get it.

[Brittany Luse]

I know how to drive big rigs. I can drive the U Haul.

[Scott Evans]

I know that's right. I know that's right.

[Brittany Luse]

There's a lot about me.

[Scott Evans]

Get you. Get you a friend. Get you a friend. Because she said, I will pull up. I will beep beep, beep, beep, beep. Motherfucking beep beep beep.

[Brittany Luse]

Bitch. That's gonna be my new thing. Beep beep. Okay, got a couple more for you here. This episode of Too Hot Takes is presented by McAfee. During the holidays, everyone's online nonstop. Organizing, booking, shopping, usually while rushing or on Hotel Wi Fi. Luckily, McAfee's scam detector automatically spots and alerts you to travel related scams in texts, emails or booking sites so you can book flights, hotels and excursions without worry. Visit mcafee.com online protection today to get award winning online protection for just 39.99 your first year. Cancel anytime terms apply. Hi, it's Eva Longoria and let's be real. After 40, we should ask for more from our skincare. I swear by Revitalift Triple power moisturizer by l' Oreal Paris. With vitamin C pro, retinol and hyaluronic acid. It reduces my wrinkles, firms and brightens. And it's not a procedure, it's just a hard working moisturizer. Revitalift Triple power moisturizer by L'. Oreal. Grab it today in fragrance free or with SPF 30. Available at your local Walmart. I'm going to give you a choice. Okay, okay.

[Scott Evans]

By the title. You're going to give me the title. Okay.

[Brittany Luse]

Option number one.

[Scott Evans]

Okay.

[Brittany Luse]

Me with my boyfriend of two years. He destroyed the painting I made for him because it was a cheap gift. Or option two.

[Scott Evans]

That one already pisses me off.

[Brittany Luse]

I just found out my mom has been sending my girlfriend cruel messages for who knows how long. I don't know how to handle this.

[Scott Evans]

Okay, can I ask. Can I ask for. Can I ask for one piece of information from each?

[Brittany Luse]

Do you just want both?

[Scott Evans]

Kinda.

[Brittany Luse]

Okay.

[Scott Evans]

Okay. But here's the thing. Here's the thing.

[Brittany Luse]

Okay.

[Scott Evans]

With the painting, is it like one of those abstract. Do we have a photo of the painting before it was destroyed? Because like, you know, sometimes painters are silly and they do things like they'll paint something white and then put a red dot on it and be like, happy birthday. I did this for you.

[Brittany Luse]

No picture from what I'm seeing.

[Scott Evans]

Like, was this a portrait? Was it a landscape? Was it.

[Brittany Luse]

I'm sure we would find out some more details in the story.

[Scott Evans]

Okay. And then with the mom, does the girlfriend deserve it? Like, you know.

[Brittany Luse]

I know. These are very valid questions.

[Scott Evans]

Let's do them both.

[Brittany Luse]

Okay. So starting with the gifts.

[Scott Evans]

Okay.

[Brittany Luse]

Me, 24, female, with my boyfriend, 27, male of two years. He destroyed the painting I made for him because it was a cheap gift. My boyfriend John is extremely difficult to buy presents for. He came from an affluent family and has a great job and buys everything he wants whenever he wants it. I am lower income. I lost my job a few months ago and had to take on another one which pays less. And I'm struggling to pay my part of the rent and pay off my student loans. It is difficult for him to understand this. Most of the time. I love to paint. My boyfriend has said my paintings are very good and that he likes them a lot. Since my income is so low, I decided to paint my boyfriend a painting for his birthday Saturday. I researched this for months beforehand. I decided to paint a scene from his favorite game, Bioshock with him as a big daddy character. I know it sounds cheesy, but I honestly thought he would like it because he always said I was talented and he loves this game. I poured a ton of work into it. A week before his birthday, he had been hinting heavily at wanting a new iPhone. When I presented him with a painting, he asked me if this was his present and if I got him something else. I told him this was his present and that I had worked on it for months, special for him. He got upset and told me a bunch of awful things, saying that it's a, quote, cheap and lazy gift and that I was cheap in general. I was trying to diffuse the situation and I told him that I was sorry. He didn't like it, but I wasn't able to get him the iPhone he wanted. He took the painting and he didn't tear it, but he sort of bent and crinkled it, completely ruining the paint. He told me that I obviously didn't care about what he wanted and that I was bad at budgeting and all of this other ranting. It came out that he resented paying for groceries and utilities, even though he had agreed to this before. I told him that if he wanted to discuss that, we could, but that this wasn't a good reaction. He told me that I was just after him for his money and that he didn't want a shitty painting when he could apparently be in a committed relationship with another girl at his workplace who makes way more money. Then he told me, quote, but I love you, as though it was an excuse for what he said. Then he said that this girl had brought him a red velvet cake for his birthday, which is his favorite cake, which I didn't care about.

[Scott Evans]

Sorry, that was the most gangster line I've ever heard, which I didn't care about.

[Brittany Luse]

I told him that I baked him a chocolate cake earlier in the week with cream cheese frosting, and that is basically red velvet cake. He switched and said that she had gotten it from his favorite bakery and some random girl knows which bakery he likes over me. I just went to bed this morning. He's gone and so is the painting. He sent me a text saying he went out to an Easter birthday brunch with his parents and he'll be back soon. I'm not sure if I want to end the relationship, which has a ton of commitment involved. He has never acted like this before about money and I don't know what's up because he's still not telling me. I think he might be interested in this other girl or at least jealous of how much money she makes compared to me. How am I even supposed to approach this? I am already feeling very hurt about the painting, and I'm not sure that's a good place to start another argument.

[Scott Evans]

I definitely need to see the painting.

[Brittany Luse]

I really.

[Scott Evans]

How many hours? How many hours are we talking? Like, she said she's working on it for months and months. Yeah, but, like, how many hours have we actually been sitting in front of it?

[Brittany Luse]

It's like five minutes a day.

[Scott Evans]

Yeah, like. Like what? Like, what does this painting look like? This man is angry. Okay. This painting, he must. Does she not get. Does he not look good in the. Did she paint him as a daddy? Is he. Is he, like, more of a. Is he more of like, an otter or a bro? Like, I don't. Like, I don't know. Like, did he look fat in the painting? Did I. You know, like, there's. There's gotta be, like, Bioshock. Nobody looks cute in BioShock that I know of.

[Brittany Luse]

I'm literally so. I. I had no idea what BioShock was. Is this what you were envisioning?

[Scott Evans]

Yeah, that's what I was envisioning. And I don't know that that's exactly what I would want for my birthday.

[Brittany Luse]

Gift, but I would not want this for my birthday gift at all.

[Scott Evans]

But I can also tell you that, like, he also may be lying about what he thinks about her art.

[Brittany Luse]

Yeah.

[Scott Evans]

And wanting to just be encouraging to her, like, yo, baby, your hobby is really nice. I'm glad that you have an outlet of creativity.

[Brittany Luse]

That's what I'm gathering.

[Scott Evans]

But, like, don't. I don't want this as gifts for me.

[Brittany Luse]

No, that's what I'm gathering. I'm gathering someone, like, just being like, yeah, I love that you have your passion and super get it, girl. Supportive. But, like, doesn't mean I want that for my birthday. But in the same breath, like, your girlfriend is going through a really tough time financially. She's not gonna buy you a new iPhone. Do you know it's unreal how expensive the new iPhones are getting?

[Scott Evans]

They are expensive.

[Brittany Luse]

Like, I remember when the iPhone was, like, what, 400, 500 bucks?

[Scott Evans]

Yeah, I mean, I was gonna say, but it can't be $29.99 a month on Klarna. Put on layaway.

[Brittany Luse]

I know.

[Scott Evans]

Put on layaway. But, I mean, if it's that serious.

[Brittany Luse]

I know.

[Scott Evans]

But also, I think that there's a real disconnect happening here between this dude and reality. If she's saying, I'm struggling to, like, contribute to rent and groceries, expecting her to have saved money to buy You a phone is kind of lunacy. Right. And clearly there's something going on with this girl at work and he wants you to know. And now seems like the opportune time.

[Brittany Luse]

I know. I mean.

[Scott Evans]

Cause he didn't say nothing when she brought the cake. He waited till now to bring the cake up.

[Brittany Luse]

Yeah, well. And like her comments here, I think he might be interested in this other girl or at least jealous of how much money she makes. Compared to me, I'm not sure if I want to end the relationship which has a ton of commitment involved.

[Scott Evans]

Is the commitment that you live with him? Is that the commitment?

[Brittany Luse]

Yeah. And I think.

[Scott Evans]

Because that is commitment.

[Brittany Luse]

I think so. But based on the comments, like, I think it's more so like OP says here, like, haha, he's definitely not the best guy. He says a lot of things in anger. But I'm definitely considering breaking up with him because of my financial situation and the lease. This would be very difficult, however, so I'm wondering if there's any way this could be worked out.

[Scott Evans]

So it's almost as if she's like biding time.

[Brittany Luse]

She's biding time. Or like, I don't really want to break up because like, I do have this great situation with like rent and he pays for groceries and utilities and whatever.

[Scott Evans]

It's like, I want to eat.

[Brittany Luse]

And rightfully so. Things are expensive. Like, that sucks if you're down on your luck and struggling.

[Scott Evans]

But also maybe he feels that which.

[Brittany Luse]

He kind of made that comment.

[Scott Evans]

Does he feel. Does this dude feel like you're actually just kicking it so I'll take care of you in this time of your need?

[Brittany Luse]

I mean, he kind of implied she's a gold digger.

[Scott Evans]

I mean, is she?

[Brittany Luse]

I don't know.

[Scott Evans]

I'm gonna be honest with you. I don't know no gold diggers that can paint.

[Brittany Luse]

I don't know.

[Scott Evans]

I'm just. There's other skills. There's other skills.

[Brittany Luse]

She's still out there grinding though. Like, it's not like she's like, I quit my job to be an artist and her art is just like not sustaining her even.

[Scott Evans]

What I mean by that is that like it don't necessarily to me sound like this is. She doesn't give off the kind of from this post gold digger energy. But if his interpretation of her situation is it feels like you are taking advantage of me. That is the conversation. This birthday gift is just another symptom of that. Because what it also like, if you read a little deeper, it also feels like he's like, you got iPhone money somewhere. You just not spending it on me or on these groceries.

[Brittany Luse]

I know. It's like. It's almost like he maybe is just kind of unaware of her financial situation. Truly. Because in his head, he's like, you're not really paying as much as you should for rent. I'm paying groceries. I'm paying utility, which doesn't. He didn't even give me the red velvet cake from my favorite bakery, which.

[Scott Evans]

Like, granted, men are simple in a lot of ways. Silly, silly human beings. But based on what? On this share? Doesn't it also sound like there's. There's some information about her. Her financial situation that we don't know for sure? Cause, like, if you are broke and we live together, I know how broke you are.

[Brittany Luse]

I know. Like, you think there'd be more transparency between them.

[Scott Evans]

Like, and if. I know you can't pay rent, I'm not asking you to buy me an iPhone. And so, like, if you're just not paying rent, though. Cause you're like, you got it. And I'm like, well, I don't wanna have it. And you are making some money. You're getting some money from something.

[Brittany Luse]

Yeah. You can contribute still.

[Scott Evans]

You can contribute. If that's not the conversation, then it comes to the head. I know, but I'll be honest with you. The most fascinating part of all of this is the girl at work with the red velvet cakes.

[Brittany Luse]

She's probably. He wants her. Definitely wants her.

[Scott Evans]

Have you ever bought. You ever gone to a specific bakery for a guy you're not fucking.

[Brittany Luse]

Nope.

[Scott Evans]

For his birthday. To buy the cake that he loves?

[Brittany Luse]

No.

[Scott Evans]

For a dude that you just work with.

[Brittany Luse]

No. Those bougie bakeries, those are expensive cakes. Probably 40, $50 cake.

[Scott Evans]

Yeah. Like, we got. We got to. We do red velvet.

[Brittany Luse]

Red velvet is a bougie ass cake. And chocolate is not the same as red velvet.

[Scott Evans]

I'm gonna tell you right now, girl, it is similar. It is not the same.

[Brittany Luse]

Not the same. We do have a little bit more context about him. OP shares a muffin incident in the comments. He thought I was making blueberry muffins and threw one across the room when he realized they were cranberry.

[Scott Evans]

He's a little brat. He's a brat. But here's what I'll tell you. She knows that, and she's okay with him being a brat. She's just got to figure out where she's gonna live. And she's like, do I jeopardize my housing right now?

[Brittany Luse]

Go move in with your girlfriends, have fun, live with your friends and date. Doesn't have a picture of the painting. Was hoping to get a scan of it before it was framed. Didn't do that.

[Scott Evans]

Here's what. Okay, so here's what I'm also tell you. You work on something for months and you don't take one picture of it. Progress.

[Brittany Luse]

I know.

[Scott Evans]

Start finishing him standing next to it when she unveils it. Nah, I don't. Let me tell you something. That painting wasn't no good.

[Brittany Luse]

I mean, I didn't say it. If you're out there listening, I'm sure it was beautiful.

[Scott Evans]

I want to see. I'm not so sure. And I want to see.

[Brittany Luse]

We do.

[Scott Evans]

I want to see something. If you were listening. If you painted this painting and you are listening to this, I am Scott Evans on social media. Please DM me a photo of this painting and I. I will take it back. But it sounds like you think it's ugly. I think it was. It wasn't flattering and it wasn't good.

[Brittany Luse]

Well, we don't know. I would like to know. But I will say this is a 10 year old Reddit account, so again, it's giving real account, real story.

[Scott Evans]

Oh yeah. I'm definitely not. I'm definitely not getting falsity falsehood.

[Brittany Luse]

No, we do find out more info that I moved in with him because I love him. I signed a lease because I loved him. I pay half the rent every single month. It was him who opted to start paying the utilities. I pay all of my student loans, not him. I am worried because I will lose money on the lease that I do not have. And I cannot afford to lose money right now.

[Scott Evans]

Right. That's right.

[Brittany Luse]

Let him break the lease straight up. Let him pay his way out.

[Scott Evans]

I'm with that.

[Brittany Luse]

Op does also share that he isn't like the most attractive. All the more reason, I don't know, to maybe not stick around with someone who breaks your painting. Even if he didn't like the gift, his reaction is diabolical.

[Scott Evans]

Crazy.

[Brittany Luse]

You didn't get me an iPhone. Snaps the painting.

[Scott Evans]

And also the muffin. The muffin, bro, we got some issue. We got some anger issues we got to resolve. We got to. It's time to grow up.

[Brittany Luse]

Put it back on the counter. I know you were looking forward to blueberry, but cranberry is still pretty good. And if you don't want it, put it back on the counter to throw it.

[Scott Evans]

Also, she seems like the kind of lady who, you know, if you wanted a Blueberry muffin. Go get the blueberries. I'll make the muffin. I'll make you a blueberry muffin if that's what you wanted. Yeah, but the thing is, I told you yesterday I was going to make cranberry muffins. You forgot and thought it was a blueberry or weren't listening to me.

[Brittany Luse]

Yeah, we get an update.

[Scott Evans]

We got an update.

[Brittany Luse]

We got an update.

[Scott Evans]

Oh, hell yeah, update.

[Brittany Luse]

I have an update. When John didn't return after a couple of hours, I read your comments, got a little pissy and invited over a couple of girlfriends for drinks and complaining. I did a lot of complaining and they basically said what you guys said. John did not return home after his Easter brunch, so I ate a tray of lemon bars when it got yummy. When I got home from work today, he had the painting and he had put it in a cheap dollar store frame. It was wrinkled, flaked, and ruined beyond repair. He told me that he was sorry that he had gotten so upset and that he was just expecting a different gift. I asked him where he was and he said he stayed with his parents for the night and borrowed work clothes from his dad.

[Scott Evans]

Was he wearing his daddy's clothes?

[Brittany Luse]

Op goes, yeah, right. I directly asked him why he was so upset when I gave him a painting that I worked so hard on. He said that he pays for everything and gets rightfully upset when I don't use all of my extra cash to be thoughtful. I pay for half the rent on this expensive apartment, all of my student loans. I have no extra cash. He buys the most expensive part of the groceries, like a pound of pine nuts a week, an expensive gelato, always in the freezer and cranks up the AC in heat and leave the lights on. We would have countless arguments since I would be paying half of a huge bill that I contributed 10% to. He started paying for utilities and groceries at his insistence after it started to take a toll on our relationship. I told him that if he was so upset, we could split the utilities evenly again. But I was mad that he took out his temper on me and destroyed all of my hard work. He started saying things like, quote, you never loved me, you just knew I was a prized pig, et cetera. Our degrees are the same. This is how we met. But his dad hired him right out of school and I was left to find work for myself. I don't resent him for this, but I wasn't even aware of this economic status while we were initially dating. And by the time I Learned I was already invested into the relationship. Trust me when I say he's never been this aggressive before in our entire relationship. So I knew something was up. Yeah, I was super pissed. And I outright asked him if he was fucking Red Velvet.

[Scott Evans]

That's literally the words as you were reading them. I was like, is he fucking Red Velvet?

[Brittany Luse]

His work friend? He said that a while ago they went out for drinks after work with a whole group and ended up kissing. Afterwards. Of course I asked him if that was all that happened.

[Scott Evans]

Then what?

[Brittany Luse]

And he said yes.

[Scott Evans]

Lies.

[Brittany Luse]

I kept asking him what his problem is. Why he has to compare me to other girls. Why he tore up the painting. Why he is aggressive now when he hasn't been before. I know I was probably being annoying, but I was so mad. He kept repeating the money thing over and over. Finally.

[Scott Evans]

But you don't make any money. That's what he kept saying. I guess I pay for everything.

[Brittany Luse]

You're broke.

[Scott Evans]

So I can do whatever I want.

[Brittany Luse]

You're broke.

[Scott Evans]

Oh my God. Could you imagine being in a. In a disagreement with your significant other? And they're just like, you're. But you're a brokey.

[Brittany Luse]

You're broke.

[Scott Evans]

You're like. But you're broke all the time.

[Brittany Luse]

You're just a gold digging hoe hoe.

[Scott Evans]

And like you're just using me for my money.

[Brittany Luse]

I'm a prized pig. I am a prized pig.

[Scott Evans]

Oink.

[Brittany Luse]

Oink, bitch. Oink. Deep.

[Scott Evans]

Deep.

[Brittany Luse]

God. What?

[Scott Evans]

What?

[Brittany Luse]

Finally he broke and told me that it wasn't just a kiss. He said that he and Red Velvet had started going on little dates during work hours. Yeah, they did not have sex, but they are basically in a relationship. He said he was falling for her and felt as though she was better for him and wanted me to break up with him.

[Scott Evans]

Clear.

[Brittany Luse]

Part of the painting thing was his resentment towards me financially and part was him wanting to hurt me enough that I'd break up with him.

[Scott Evans]

Yep.

[Brittany Luse]

I guess that the fight about the painting was when it got real for him and he wanted to fix it and break it off with Red Velvet. He and I had signed a one year lease and we still have three months left. But I told him to get out of the apartment and that we're breaking up. And he did leave with some clothes. I'm not sure if he's coming back. Maybe he's staying with Red Velvet. I don't care. Not anymore.

[Scott Evans]

This is the ha. This is the ending that we all wanted.

[Brittany Luse]

Yeah. Ooh, there's more edit to add. I do not have a picture of the painting. Do have one of my pencil sketches uploaded and I will send the link to people who request it.

[Scott Evans]

Request the fucking link.

[Brittany Luse]

I'm sending her a message.

[Scott Evans]

Send her a message.

[Brittany Luse]

Starting chat now.

[Scott Evans]

Oh, it better be the best fucking sketch I've ever seen.

[Brittany Luse]

You can't be mean if she sends it.

[Scott Evans]

What? I won't be mean. I mean, I'm not gonna break the sketch.

[Brittany Luse]

That's true.

[Scott Evans]

You know what I'm saying?

[Brittany Luse]

Okay, I sent her a chat. We'll see if we get anything back by the time this episode comes out.

[Scott Evans]

Oh please.

[Brittany Luse]

I'll send it to you.

[Scott Evans]

Yes, and I'll if. If I'm not here, if we can't. If. I will film something after of the genuine react first reaction and send it to you.

[Brittany Luse]

I know. Last comment we have from OP is he is quite chubby. Haha. Good riddance. He'll have himself a nice slice of red Vel cake.

[Scott Evans]

Wait, do we have a picture of him?

[Brittany Luse]

No, no picture of him.

[Scott Evans]

How do they know he's chubby?

[Brittany Luse]

Also, I'm just realizing. Oh, this post is 11 years old. I don't know if we're gonna get.

[Scott Evans]

We're not gonna get a picture.

[Brittany Luse]

I don't know if we're gonna get that. So the reason it's recircling is because one of our friends direct caterpillar77 just posted this on the best of redditor updates 18 days ago.

[Scott Evans]

Okay, here's what I'll say.

[Brittany Luse]

Okay.

[Scott Evans]

If someone else has ever seen yes, please send it to us. We must see the sketch.

[Brittany Luse]

Okay. I feel like someone out there has definitely seen this. I think someone could send it to us. I have faith.

[Scott Evans]

I'm also going to say that if he destroyed it and then put it in a frame that's just new art. And don't call it happy birthday. Call it happy breakup.

[Brittany Luse]

Mm, There you go.

[Scott Evans]

That's somebody. Somebody heartbroken will buy that. Somebody rich will be like, I want that heartache. I want to buy that.

[Brittany Luse]

Yeah.

[Scott Evans]

I want to collect that art.

[Brittany Luse]

Art. Basil. Basil. Whatever that fancy thing is called.

[Scott Evans]

Yeah.

[Brittany Luse]

I mean, people literally buy trash, so.

[Scott Evans]

Yeah. Bananas stuck to a wall. It's crazy. It's so much fun though.

[Brittany Luse]

I've never been.

[Scott Evans]

Oh God, it's just passed. It's so much fun. Hmm. It's a good time.

[Brittany Luse]

I've never been to Miami.

[Scott Evans]

What?

[Brittany Luse]

No. Mm. Mm.

[Scott Evans]

Do you always just go back to Minnesota?

[Brittany Luse]

Yeah. Either there. France. Yeah. You see what I did there?

[Scott Evans]

That was the fucking.

[Brittany Luse]

Yeah. You're trying to troll me with Minnesota.

[Scott Evans]

No, that was the fucking baddest. That was the bad. That was the fucking. The best possible response you could. That was badass. Yeah.

[Brittany Luse]

There are some moments where my brain thinks fast.

[Scott Evans]

Yeah, that or France.

[Brittany Luse]

I know I was gonna say can, but I didn't wanna, you know.

[Scott Evans]

No, that was even better. That's even better. South of France. Are you kidding me?

[Brittany Luse]

Mm. Oh, what fun. Holiday invites are arriving and Nordstrom has your party fits covered. You'll find head to toe looks for every occasion, including styles under 100. Dresses, sets, heels, and accessories from Bardot, Princess Poly, Dolce Vita, naked wardrobe coach and more. Free styling help, free shipping and quick order pickup. Make it easy in stores or online. It's time to go shopping at Nordstrom. So good, so good, so good. Score holiday gifts. Everyone wants for way less at your Nordstrom rack store. Save on Ugg, Nike, Rag and Bone, Vince Frame, Kurt Geiger, London and more. Because there's a always something new. I'm giving all the gifts this year with that extra 5% off when I use my Nordstrom credit card. Santa who join the Nordy Club at Nordstrom Rack to unlock our best deals. It's easy. Big gifts, big perks. That's why you rack. There we go.

[Scott Evans]

That's it.

[Brittany Luse]

Okay, there's one last one before I release you. You know, holding you hostage. It's been quite nice.

[Scott Evans]

I. Listen, I'm cozy.

[Brittany Luse]

It's quite nice having you here.

[Scott Evans]

Yeah, those last couple did make me a little hot though. I was. I was all underneath the blanket and everything.

[Brittany Luse]

Not no more. Mm, mm, mm, mm. This last one coming from R. Relationship advice. Seventeen days old, titled, I just found out my mom has been sending my girlfriend cruel messages for who knows how long. I don't know how to handle this. Male, 36, girlfriend. Female, 32. Generally, not much rattles me. My friends call me a stoic, emotionally constipated idiot. And they're not wrong. Which is why we're all still a little stunned that the love of my life is basically my opposite. I've been with my girlfriend for eight years, known her for 10. She's quiet, gentle, brilliant, an actual whole ass professor, and genuinely one of the kindest people I've ever met. She's silly, shy, goofy in the best ways, and loves to poke fun. I love all of it. I love her more than I've ever loved anyone ever in this lifetime. But last night, something happened that I can't let go of. My phone was charging, so I Was scrolling Instagram reels on hers like I usually do. One of her friends DM'd her. Normally, I'd send back some dumb reaction photos so they know it's me. Just a thing in our circle, right? But it wasn't a joke. It was screenshots my girlfriend had sent her friend, and the friend was trying to comfort her.

[Scott Evans]

Uh oh, multiple red flags going on here, but okay.

[Brittany Luse]

I hesitated and then opened the screenshots to read better. And I'm glad I did. I didn't even regret it anymore, because what I saw were multiple messages from my mother. Cruel ones. And the timestamps weren't all from the same day, so I don't know how long this has been happening. A week? Longer? No idea. Some of the messages my mom sent.

[Scott Evans]

Oh, they include the messages.

[Brittany Luse]

Quote, maybe he hasn't proposed because you haven't given him a child. Men don't marry placeholders. That was the most recent one. This one makes me see red. I can't even imagine how my baby felt. Next one quote. If you stopped dressing like a teenage boy and put on some makeup, maybe he would see you as a wife instead of one of his little friends. Quote, you're keeping him from his family. He used to visit. For clarity, I'm the one who pulled back because of her behavior towards one of my sisters. That's a whole other issue. So nothing to do with my girlfriend. Quote, you think you're special? You're lucky he even brought you home. Girls like you don't get commitment from men like him. What the hell is this? Next one quote, you're not good enough for the life he deserves. Reading them made my stomach drop. They were hateful and completely false. There's even more. But these were the ones seared into my brain, and my girlfriend didn't even tell me about any of them. She's just been carrying this alone, smiling, laughing with me, all while this garbage was sitting in the back of her mind. My girlfriend avoids conflict. She hates upsetting anyone. I get it. It's easier to talk to a friend first. And my mom can be intense. She probably didn't want to put me in a position where it looked like choosing sides. But I've chosen. And it's not her I'm angry with. I'm furious at my mother. I'm exhausted by this. She knows how much my girlfriend means to me. She hears me talk about her constantly. I really thought she might actually be happy for me. At the same time, I don't want to make this harder on my girlfriend or make her feel exposed. So here's where I need advice.

[Scott Evans]

I was okay, because that was like. It sound bruh. It sound like we already we on the. Why are you on Reddit and not on the phone with your mama?

[Brittany Luse]

We're like this. Do I tell my girlfriend gently that I saw the messages, that I'm on her side and that she doesn't need to shield me from my own mother? Or do I handle my mother privately and not bring it up unless my girlfriend does? I just want her to feel safe and supported. And it makes me feel sick that she's been dealing with this alone. I mean, actually sick. I'm just watching her make breakfast and I just. What's the best approach that prioritizes her well being first?

[Scott Evans]

Well, I love him. What do you. Right. First of all, I love him. If it doesn't work out with them, call me. Well, wait, actually, nevermind. Cause your momma sound like she.

[Brittany Luse]

No, you're.

[Scott Evans]

Yeah, no, your momma sound like. But I'm not his girlfriend. So try me. Send me one of them text messages. I can't wait. You know what I mean? Could you imagine. Could you imagine if you would stop dressing like a little boy and put some. I can also hear. I can hear the voice. Stop dressing like a little boy and put some makeup. He wouldn't look at you like one of his little friends. I have family that talks like that, so I'm gonna say it.

[Brittany Luse]

We'd be fighting.

[Scott Evans]

They would never talk to a significant other like that. But like, this feels very familiar to me, if you know what I'm saying.

[Brittany Luse]

You're not this one, though. You're not good enough for the life he deserves.

[Scott Evans]

I'm gonna tell you, I have heard that. I have heard that statement said. I have heard that statement.

[Brittany Luse]

Did you clock him immediately?

[Scott Evans]

No, no, no, no. It wasn't said to me about someone that I was dating. But I, a family member, say this.

[Brittany Luse]

That is crazy.

[Scott Evans]

It is.

[Brittany Luse]

You can. You might think that shit in your head, but you never say it out loud.

[Scott Evans]

Sometimes you gotta know. And in this particular case, this particular case, I wouldn't even say that they were wrong. I'm just gonna say. I'm just gonna say. I'm just gonna say that. Totally kidding. Mostly. Mostly. But it is, it is. If the idea is to be. What do you think?

[Brittany Luse]

Honestly, I would want to know if.

[Scott Evans]

You were the girlfriend.

[Brittany Luse]

Yeah. It'd feel so, so, so fucking good if my boyfriend came to me and was like, hey, you know, I was on reels like I usually do, and message popped up, and I saw what my mom's been saying to you, and, like, that is beyond fucked up. I wish you would have told me. I get why you didn't. You didn't want to choose or make me choose or whatever, but it's not okay. And just so you know, like, I'm gonna address it.

[Scott Evans]

I have already addressed it.

[Brittany Luse]

Ooh, so that's what you think. You want him to go to mom first?

[Scott Evans]

Hey, source, what's up? Yeah, with screenshots. What?

[Brittany Luse]

I guess.

[Scott Evans]

Is this how you feel?

[Brittany Luse]

I guess. What do you do if Mom's like, oh, she told you.

[Scott Evans]

We're not there yet. This is how you feel to Mom. This is how you feel, Ma, this is like. This is the woman that. This is who you are.

[Brittany Luse]

I'm just looking out for you. I just want what's best for you. You know? I love you.

[Scott Evans]

This isn't indicative of love. This is control.

[Brittany Luse]

I'm just trying my best.

[Scott Evans]

Yeah, I wish you were. And what it feels like you're trying your best at is to make this woman feel like trash. Because if you cared about me and you see how happy I am with her, if you felt this way, you'd come to me and I'd be able to tell you that the things that you're concerned about aren't my concern, or we'd be able to have that conversation. That you wouldn't be berating this woman through text.

[Brittany Luse]

Berating.

[Scott Evans]

And don't you have other stuff to.

[Brittany Luse]

Do, Ma, Go start your needle point or something.

[Scott Evans]

You got water aerobics at three. You got Ms. Jan's birthday party at the Castle in Italy. She turned 75 on Tuesday.

[Brittany Luse]

Bake some sourdough. Come on.

[Scott Evans]

Yeah. Like, what are we doing? And I get that you love me.

[Brittany Luse]

Yeah.

[Scott Evans]

And I love how intensely you love me, but this is too far. This is too. This is too far.

[Brittany Luse]

It's too much.

[Scott Evans]

It's too far. And I need you to apologize. Oh, yeah, I need you to apologize.

[Brittany Luse]

That's the bare minimum.

[Scott Evans]

And I need you to apologize to her.

[Brittany Luse]

Point forward. We're going low, low, low, low contact. If not no contact. Like, I just don't know how you, like, could trust her going forward. And, like, I think opening the door between your girlfriend, too, is gonna help. Like, hey, no. Like, you gotta tell me if my mom's saying this crazy shit.

[Scott Evans]

It's crazy.

[Brittany Luse]

Like, this is not okay.

[Scott Evans]

Like, unless his mom is like, I was hacked. Like, I think that this is a. This is they hacked my phone. I didn't even know.

[Brittany Luse]

Honestly. Old people do get hacked quite a bit.

[Scott Evans]

Quite a bit.

[Brittany Luse]

But usually it's like, plot twist. Hey, send me some money.

[Scott Evans]

Like, go buy these gift cards.

[Brittany Luse]

Yeah, go buy the gift cards. My grandpa. My grandfather also literally got hit so hard from that.

[Scott Evans]

He almost did. He told me he was at the grocery store buying. Getting ready to buy the car because he said he felt like he knew it was a scam, but he wanted to see how it was gonna end.

[Brittany Luse]

Yeah. Oh, my God.

[Scott Evans]

And that there was a woman in the. The checkout lane behind him that told him, seeing the difficulty he was having with trying to pay for the card, and the person on the. He was on the phone with the person scamming him and trying to buy the card at the same time. And he was. The guy was like, no, no, just buy the card. Just. Okay, just. Just do this. Do this. And he was like, do what? Do what? And he was kind of, like, fucking with this camera. The lady behind him said, sir, are you buying these cards for yourself? And he was like, oh, no. I'm buying them for the person that's on the phone.

[Brittany Luse]

Oh, what a hero.

[Scott Evans]

I'm buying them for the person that's on the phone so they can erase the viruses on my computer. And she goes, sir, hang up the phone now. You're being scammed. And before my granddad could be like, is that right? The guy on the phone hung up. Isn't that crazy?

[Brittany Luse]

What a little hero. See, I think, like, all the people selling gift cards these days should, like, ask people, especially seniors.

[Scott Evans]

Well, now there's a limit. You can only buy, like, two or three gift cards at a time. Yeah. At grocery stores and stuff.

[Brittany Luse]

I think my. I forget how much my grandpa lost, but I'm pretty sure it was, like, at least five digits.

[Scott Evans]

Damn, they got him.

[Brittany Luse]

Yeah. Yeah. And he literally got scammed shortly after again, too. And I'm like, someone just, like, take his bank card away?

[Scott Evans]

Like, yeah, you got to get in one of them play phones where it only calls two numbers. Yeah. It's like a walkie talkie.

[Brittany Luse]

I know, I know.

[Scott Evans]

Damn.

[Brittany Luse]

You know?

[Scott Evans]

Well, I just. I feel like in. In this case, 100. We're going to MA independent of girlfriend.

[Brittany Luse]

Yeah.

[Scott Evans]

And we're also going to girlfriend. And we're reiterating that we are in this together and how much. Whatever it is you're dealing with, whatever it is you are navigating. We're navigating it together. To ever feel like you especially with my mama. It's my mama. I know it's my mama. And I love your tomboy. You know what I'm saying? Fresh face.

[Brittany Luse]

I mean, you see me, I've been wearing rugby polos non stop. I almost wore one today and I'm like, that would be like three episodes in a row in a rugby polo and I can't do that. But I literally like, I feel like when people meet me in the wild, like they have no idea what my sexuality is. I dress very rugged. You don't know. And I, and I use the word partner a lot.

[Scott Evans]

I, I dress very rugged.

[Brittany Luse]

I dress rugged. I wear like a barber barn jacket with like hunter wellies. Like who am I? I don't know.

[Scott Evans]

I don't know.

[Brittany Luse]

I don't know.

[Scott Evans]

And neither do you.

[Brittany Luse]

I love a mixed wardrobe.

[Scott Evans]

I'm into it. But that doesn't mean that no one will love you or commit to you.

[Brittany Luse]

No, you know what I mean?

[Scott Evans]

Like you don't get to say that to me because I'm comfy.

[Brittany Luse]

No, I dress like that and I got rings. We're fine. We're good.

[Scott Evans]

Thank you.

[Brittany Luse]

Where do you fucking want to wear?

[Scott Evans]

Where would you want to wear?

[Brittany Luse]

People are so weird about clothes. Why are clothes so gender? Just wear the fucking fabric you want to wear in the cut you want to wear it in.

[Scott Evans]

I'm going to also just like. But parents be caring and parents be.

[Brittany Luse]

They're fucking weird.

[Scott Evans]

Parents are like they, they have an idea of what the life they want for their kids and they have been maybe preparing their kid for that life. Right? Entitling themselves to experience that life also. And when people come into their kids lives that don't fit that it's hard to adjust. So like ma gets some grace but like, hey, it's time to change behavior. Oh yeah, hardcore.

[Brittany Luse]

Yeah. We're doing a full 180 on your behavior or you're gone.

[Scott Evans]

You gotta. Well you can she mama. She can't be gone.

[Brittany Luse]

Oh, she's gonna be gone from my life. I know you might as well be dead. Cause you're dead to me.

[Scott Evans]

I know you are fiery today with a toss. Toss.

[Brittany Luse]

Okay, top comment. As an older guy who's cut out his mom, you need to do the same. First you need to sit down and tell your girlfriend. Let her know it was an accident that you saw it, but you are glad you did. Let her know you're on her side. Tell her you plan on putting some space between you and your mom. Also block your mom on her phone so she no longer has to put up with your mom's toxicity. Second, you need to lay into your mom for her shit behavior. Put some boundaries on how you and your girlfriend will be as far as contact goes from this point forward. This might not be a popular opinion, but your first priority is to your girlfriend. Family doesn't mean shit when they treat your partner like shit.

[Scott Evans]

Family. It's not that family doesn't mean shit, but again, we gotta look at what we are in reality. We're dealing with reality, not the dream or the fantasy, not the potential. We're dealing with where we are. And like, ma, not okay. Not okay. And as a result, like, we gotta work at getting back to a place of hanging out.

[Brittany Luse]

I know.

[Scott Evans]

And being around. Because now it's just really uncomfortable.

[Brittany Luse]

We do get an update. I just found it accidentally. I thought it was game over, but I. I do. We have more.

[Scott Evans]

Why do you keep doing this to me?

[Brittany Luse]

I don't know. But luckily it's the end. Like, what a good note to end on.

[Scott Evans]

Is it a good note?

[Brittany Luse]

Maybe I haven't read it because I just found it.

[Scott Evans]

What if it's not a good note?

[Brittany Luse]

I don't know. I see a lot of heartbreak emojis.

[Scott Evans]

So she left them.

[Brittany Luse]

I talked to my girlfriend the same night I made the original post. We're working through everything together right now, and things are headed in a all caps, good direction.

[Scott Evans]

Oh, great.

[Brittany Luse]

I'm not ready to write the full update yet, since there's a lot to sort out privately before I come back with all of the details. But I did want to say something to the people who reached out when I was clearly not in the best headspace for transparency. I told my girlfriend exactly what happened, that I panicked, had what I'm pretty sure was some kind of anxiety attack, and ended up here on big, beautiful Reddit, asking a question that, in hindsight, had a pretty obvious answer.

[Scott Evans]

Correct.

[Brittany Luse]

Not my finest hour, considering I'm usually, you know, the calm one. Between us, I guess I was bound to pop at some point.

[Scott Evans]

Was this popping? Reddit was popping.

[Brittany Luse]

I guess that was, like, very tame and controlled to me.

[Scott Evans]

Cause I'm gonna say this right now, brother, if this is you popping, if this does not work out with this girl, please call me. Engaged couple to throuple. Streaming on Peacock. Okay.

[Brittany Luse]

Oh, there you go. Opie goes on to say, I even ugly cried on the side of the road. Da, da, da. Jesus Christ.

[Scott Evans]

I love him.

[Brittany Luse]

Like, so emotionally in tune and, like, self aware.

[Scott Evans]

I love him.

[Brittany Luse]

Ugh. I also Showed her the.

[Scott Evans]

So see, like, his mom did a good job.

[Brittany Luse]

Fuck, you're right.

[Scott Evans]

His mom did a good job. She's like, my son is a fucking prize.

[Brittany Luse]

Then why is he. She's so fucked in the head.

[Scott Evans]

Because she's like, protect. She's like, hey, step your weight up. Put on some fucking clean clothes.

[Brittany Luse]

Don't you come here defending mom now.

[Scott Evans]

I'm just saying. Now. Shit just got. He's crying on the side of the road.

[Brittany Luse]

I know.

[Scott Evans]

Pulling. Hey, pulls over. He pulled over to be safe so he could cry.

[Brittany Luse]

It's hard to cry and not hurt anybody. It gets blurry.

[Scott Evans]

I've driven through it.

[Brittany Luse]

He's safe. He's such a little athletic.

[Scott Evans]

He is a good dude. She did a great job. And she is.

[Brittany Luse]

Or.

[Scott Evans]

And she is trying to protect.

[Brittany Luse]

Or he went to therapy and unpacked a lot of trauma and developed into this really healthy, well balanced adult on his own.

[Scott Evans]

Yeah, maybe. But I'm thinking probably for the sake of this conversation, I'm thinking probably mama did a pretty good job and mama has a hard time releasing now. We gotta let go.

[Brittany Luse]

There might be something here. Okay.

[Scott Evans]

Okay.

[Brittany Luse]

So he goes on to say, I also showed my girlfriend this account and she like looked at me then the comments and upvotes and hit me with quote. Bet you wish your actual account got this much engagement, huh? Destroyed me in seconds, but so very accurate. Broken heart. Broken heart. Broken heart.

[Scott Evans]

Oh, that's the broken hearts. Okay, okay.

[Brittany Luse]

A lot has happened since and some of it was very eye opening. Turns out my mom has a pattern of this behavior. After my girlfriend and I talked, I reached out to my siblings and my younger brother opened up and told me that she did the same thing to his now wife years ago. He just didn't tell anyone. They both moved far away and kept their distance because of it. That was a hard thing to hear, but it explains so much. Also, my girlfriend is super close with my siblings, so she knows. She knows.

[Scott Evans]

She knows. She knows.

[Brittany Luse]

Yeah. Anyways, to sum it up real quick, my girlfriend and I are solid. We're talking, we're being honest and we're on the same team. I'm taking care of the rest. I just wanted people to know things are okay and we're moving forward and I appreciate a lot of you. I'm too anxious to open up any of the comments on the original post. Some of y' all are brutal but real. My girlfriend has been peeking for me though. Happy holidays, everyone. Stay safe.

[Scott Evans]

I. I'm in love with him. That is Excellent communicator. This is what, like, quality storyteller.

[Brittany Luse]

This is what women want.

[Scott Evans]

Men want anyone.

[Brittany Luse]

This is what everyone wants.

[Scott Evans]

Everybody wants that. Everybody wants that. Whoever wants a man wants that.

[Brittany Luse]

That's good.

[Scott Evans]

That's real good.

[Brittany Luse]

This is really good.

[Scott Evans]

And if he cute. She. It.

[Brittany Luse]

No, he. He sounds cute just by this.

[Scott Evans]

He does.

[Brittany Luse]

Someone that shows up for you, has your back. 10 out of 10. Every time.

[Scott Evans]

I see like. I see like, soft, brown curly hair.

[Brittany Luse]

Ooh.

[Scott Evans]

You know, little.

[Brittany Luse]

Honestly, you know who I'm envisioning?

[Scott Evans]

Who?

[Brittany Luse]

David Corinth. Corn Sweat.

[Scott Evans]

The new Superman. New Superman. I could see that. I was thinking more like reggae Jean Page.

[Brittany Luse]

Ooh.

[Scott Evans]

Ooh.

[Brittany Luse]

Also.

[Scott Evans]

I don't know. I don't know. Yeah.

[Brittany Luse]

I don't know, you know, who's really doing it. And I just heard a rumor. Maybe a future bond. Callum Turner.

[Scott Evans]

I have heard Callum Turner. I have hubby.

[Brittany Luse]

Fiance.

[Scott Evans]

Fiance. I think.

[Brittany Luse]

I don't know if he's secretly married.

[Scott Evans]

I'm not upset about that. That's a. That's a. That's a good sitch.

[Brittany Luse]

She's cutie.

[Scott Evans]

I like. I like. That's weird. I like them together. I like. The. The two finger thing was kind of. I like them together.

[Brittany Luse]

I mean, the two finger thing wasn't weird because you weren't doing a different mode. It was.

[Scott Evans]

Right. It wasn't like a donut hole.

[Brittany Luse]

Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

[Scott Evans]

This was. But this also. Considering. It's also. This is also strange.

[Brittany Luse]

Yeah. Because that's giving, like, tip to tip, right?

[Scott Evans]

Yeah, it's a little. And now I can't stop doing it.

[Brittany Luse]

I know you just like, everyone's gonna be, like, bumping their fingers together. It feels good.

[Scott Evans]

Feels good.

[Brittany Luse]

Feels good.

[Scott Evans]

So I. I wait. You heard. I also heard that maybe Damson Idris. New bond.

[Brittany Luse]

Who?

[Scott Evans]

Damson Idris. People. People's pole. People's poll.

[Brittany Luse]

Who is this?

[Scott Evans]

Brad Pitt. He was the other driver. Informant in F1.

[Brittany Luse]

I never saw it. He's. Yeah. He could do it too, right? Mm.

[Scott Evans]

And has the accent.

[Brittany Luse]

I know he's British.

[Scott Evans]

They have famously said. Or the. The. The assumption is that there will never be a black bond. But we did get a black woman. 007.

[Brittany Luse]

That is true.

[Scott Evans]

So, I mean, I don't. I don't think that that's entirely impossible. Just saying.

[Brittany Luse]

I mean, times are changing and changed my mind. It was supposed to be. It was supposed to be Jean. Reggae. Whatever you choose.

[Scott Evans]

Reggae's on Paige.

[Brittany Luse]

Yeah, sure was. That's why he quit Bridgerton. That was the rumor and mistakes were made. He shouldn't have left Bridgerton. Jonathan Bailey can do it all. Come on, sir.

[Scott Evans]

I love when you get spicy like this.

[Brittany Luse]

Come on, sir.

[Scott Evans]

I love it. I love it. It's my favorite. It's my favorite.

[Brittany Luse]

My favorite is having you on open invite.

[Scott Evans]

Literally open and down the street anytime.

[Brittany Luse]

Ugh. I love this. Where can people find you? Where can people listen to your podcast?

[Scott Evans]

So, so exciting. We just dropped our house party episode holiday house party episode for the podcast. It's like an O. Like an hour of the best, most chaotic holiday family holiday party you've ever seen. Okay, Niecy Nash and surprise guests. We had a pretty big surprise for her and apparently became a very big surprise for her hersband, Jessica Betts as well. Didn't see that one coming. Oh, and a major, major, major announcement for Houseguests. So let's go. Really very excited. We are taking this show on the road. Houseguests is going on tour.

[Brittany Luse]

Are you so excited?

[Scott Evans]

I am so excited. I'm gonna be picking your brain about this Life on the road.

[Brittany Luse]

We love a live show.

[Scott Evans]

You know what I'm saying?

[Brittany Luse]

We love a live show in this house.

[Scott Evans]

Yeah. And so we're gonna be taking the show on the road and really bringing the experience of houseguests to our neighbors across the country. And so it's gonna be unreal. Come eat with us, Come drink with us. Come play games with us.

[Brittany Luse]

I'm there.

[Scott Evans]

And a celeb guest. It's gonna be a really good time.

[Brittany Luse]

This is so good.

[Scott Evans]

I can't wait.

[Brittany Luse]

Scott, you've been an absolute gem. You are crushed. All these I tried. Thank you, Spotify, for making us be friends and bringing us together.

[Scott Evans]

You know what I'm saying?

[Brittany Luse]

Our little family, the duo.

[Scott Evans]

You didn't know.

[Brittany Luse]

You need know. So, so, so good. But all of Scott's links will be in the description. Super easy to find.

[Scott Evans]

I am Scott Evans everywhere.

[Brittany Luse]

You have no excuse but other than that. Until next time, guys. Bye.

[Scott Evans]

And Doug, here we have the Limu emu in its natural habitat, helping people customize their car insurance and save hundreds with Liberty Mutual. Fascinating. It's accompanied by his natural ally, Doug. Uh, limu is that guy with the binoculars watching us. Cut the camera. They see us. Only pay for what you [e-mail] Liberty Liberty, Liberty. Liberty Savings Ferry unwritten by Liberty Mutual Insurance company and affiliates. Excludes Massachusetts.

[Brittany Luse]

Tired of holiday spending? Try TikTok's Slash and free Pick products. Share your link and slash the price down to zero free items free shipping. Open TikTok, search, slash free and start slashing today.