The Biggest Dating Week of the Year

Summary

Podcast Summary: U Up? — "The Biggest Dating Week of the Year"

Host: Jordana Abraham & Jared Freid
Date: January 2, 2026
Podcast: U Up? by Betches Media

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Overview

In this lively episode, Jordana Abraham and Jared Freid dive into what they call the "Super Bowl" of online dating: the first week of January, which traditionally sees huge surges in dating app activity. The duo uses their signature banter to dish out practical, real-time advice for listeners rebooting their dating profiles, and to conduct live makeovers on listener-submitted dating app pages. The tone is honest, irreverent, and empathetic, full of both laughs and actionable tips for anyone entering (or re-entering) the dating world in 2026.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. The Biggest Dating Week of the Year

• [03:04] Jared and Jordana explain that the first Sunday after New Year's is the number one day for new dating app downloads.
• Jared: "If you don't find someone in the first week, you're probably not finding someone at all. So this is a very important week for a dating app. So let this episode be your hand hold into the apps because we're going to give you some tips and tricks."
• The hosts encourage listeners to get their profiles ready and note that the influx of new users makes this the best possible time for a dating reset.

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2. Why Dating Resolutions Start on Monday

• [01:36] Both hosts have an extended riff on how people should not start resolutions on January 2nd—"today is a fat day, today is a calorie day" (Jared)—and that true new beginnings start the following Monday.

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3. Top Three Dating App Profile Tips

Tip 1: Undersell, Overdeliver

• [11:20] Jordana: "I would say undersell, over-deliver would be one of my tips."
• Avoid pictures that are overly glam or clearly taken for big events; aim for real and relatable.
• Jared: "Match the first picture to the first date...If it wouldn't happen on a first date, it shouldn't be in the first picture." [12:14]
• Avoid: sunglasses, group shots, hats, wedding outfits, or photos with friends in the first slot.

Tip 2: Prompts Are Your Superpower (Get Specific!)

• [13:23] Jared: "It is my opinion... that the prompts are a way to improve the dating apps."
• Prompts are where you shift from quantity (matches) to quality (matches you want) — the "2.0" of dating apps.
• [15:02] Jared: "If someone ignores your prompts, they're probably not going to be a great date.... Every good date I have gone on has been because of a good prompt."
• They walk through how to answer generic prompts in a way that sets you apart:
  • The way to win me over is... → Add a quirky, personal detail.
  • Together we could... → Make it about something oddly specific you'd love to do.
  • Simple pleasures... → Include a real micro-detail from your life.
• Jordana: "Well, now it's your turn. I'm inviting you in... you can get into all of that in the conversation when they respond to your prompt." [18:01]

Tip 3: Use Prompts to Show, Not Tell, Your Personality

• The best prompts are vulnerable, authentic, and don’t feel like a resume.
• Bad: "I look for consistency, kindness, and a sense of humor."
• Good: "Green flag: You won’t mind that I will start crying about my divorce in the middle of our date." [36:16] Jared (half joke, half encouragement to get real).
• Jared: "You want what life is: gravity. If you get nothing from your profile, you get nothing. If you get emotion from your profile, you will get something." [31:36]

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4. Segment: Dating App Makeovers

[24:34] onwards
The hosts review two listener-submitted dating profiles—one from a woman (Kimberly), one from a man (James, recently divorced)—offering a step-by-step play-by-play filled with both tough love and affirmations.

Notable Hot Takes:

• Voice Prompts:
  • [25:28] Jared: "Let's not do the voice prompt. It can only hurt you. You can't go up from voice prompt."
  • [25:45] Jordana: "For the men, it sounds like very creepy...like they're going to kill you."
• Selfies & Filters:
  • Too many selfies, especially overly close-up or retouched, are a NO.
  • [27:14] Jared: "This looks like I'm looking at her through a peephole."
  • [27:31] Jordana: "It looks almost like too perfect, right, where it makes me think it's airbrushed."
• Profile Vibe:
  • Be warm and inviting, not defensive or aloof ("feral cat" metaphor = unapproachable).
  • Get a friend to take at least one candid, full-length photo.

Prompt-Specific Advice:

• "Dating me is like..."
  • Avoid metaphors that set you up as high-maintenance or difficult to access.
• "I get myself out of a funk by..."
  • Add details: favorite song, artist, dance move—“Make a decision, say who you are so that I can say no way or yes.”
  • Example upgrade: "I get myself out of a funk by dancing like a character on 'Girls' to Robyn’s 'Dancing On My Own.'" [31:47] Jordana

For Divorced Daters:

• If you have kids, mention it clearly in the profile (either in the "vitals" or a prompt).
• [42:08] Jordana: "No mention of your kids on the profile...I think you need something that alludes to the fact that you have kids."
• Don’t use prompts as generic checklists—use them to showcase your quirks, history, hobbies, and actual deal-breakers.

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Notable Quotes & Moments

• [12:01] Jared: “If you’re actively not listening to this advice, you’re not allowed to complain about dating ever.”
• [14:54] Jared: “The great reveal of dating apps is that matches don’t matter.”
• [16:43] Jordana: "But the picture is, like, secondary to, like, finding a real quality match and date."
• [17:51] Jared: "The way to win me over...Now here’s a fun fact about me: I like a coffee with extra ice and a little vanilla."
• [18:24] Jordana (talking about specificity in prompts): "And you can get into all of that in the conversation when they respond to your prompt."
• [25:28] Jared: "Let's not do the voice prompt. It can only hurt you."
• [34:09] Jordana: "I'm thinking about your penis with Mario Lopez's."
• [42:16] Jordana: "I think you should know. Again, it doesn't have to be the whole profile. It doesn't have to be the whole personality...but something in the prompts, at least that alludes to having a child."

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Timestamps for Important Segments

• [03:04] — The real biggest dating app day of the year explainer
• [11:20] — Jordana's #1 tip: Undersell, overdeliver
• [12:14] — Jared's first photo rule: Would you look like that on a first date?
• [13:23]–[19:02] — Building better prompts: specificity, humor, vulnerability
• [24:34] — Start of dating app makeover segment
• [25:28]–[26:31] — The voice prompt debate
• [27:14]–[30:44] — Breaking down profile photos: what works, what doesn’t
• [31:36] — The emotional core of a good profile
• [36:16]–[40:34] — Reviewing James’ divorced dad profile, learning from the pitfalls
• [42:08] — How (and why) to mention you have children in your dating profile

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Final Thoughts / Takeaways

• It All Starts on the First Monday (or Sunday!): The post-holiday period is prime time for dating app activity. Be ready!
• Profile Refreshers Matter: Small tweaks can hugely increase your odds—authentic photos, personalized prompts.
• Specificity & Vulnerability Win Every Time: Don't just tell your potential suitors what you think they want to hear; say something only you would say.
• Don’t Omit the Big Stuff: Especially if you have kids—be upfront to attract the right matches.
• Send Your Friends This Episode: It's both a pep talk and a care package for anyone who needs a dating reboot.

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Call to Action

• Send in screenshots of great (or terrible) dating prompts to [e-mail] for critique on future pods—maybe even with your handle for a little extra exposure!
• For extra details on these and other profile makeovers, check out the YouTube version for all visual elements.

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Jared Freed [12:01]: “If you’re actively not listening to this advice, you’re not allowed to complain about dating ever.”

Jordana Abraham [31:36]: "If you get nothing from your profile, you get nothing. If you get emotion from your profile, you will get something." —

For anyone out there feeling nervous about reactivating those apps in 2026, Jordana and Jared have you covered—with equal parts humor, kindness, and the tough love you didn’t know you needed.

Transcript

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[Jared Freed]

I always get like the worst. You know what reminded me of you?

[Jordana Abraham]

This. This, this, this boob. This boob magnet, right?

[Jared Freed]

Like, it's like the most.

[Jordana Abraham]

I thought of you instantly.

[Jared Freed]

I'm. I'm compared in looks and vibes to the worst things.

[Jordana Abraham]

Hello and welcome back to the first Friday Feels episode of the year. I'm Jordana Abraham.

[Jared Freed]

And I am Jared Freed. Happy New Year, Jordana. How do we celebrate a brand new year? A brand new day, a beautiful day.

[Jordana Abraham]

I love a new year.

[Jared Freed]

Love a new year stance.

[Jordana Abraham]

A chance to start fresh.

[Jared Freed]

Start fresh. Your delta points go to zero. We're all the same now.

[Jordana Abraham]

This, I mean, this Friday, this January 2nd is like, you know, but it's a Friday, so it's like you got. No one's really working today.

[Jared Freed]

It's kind of the best way it could land.

[Jordana Abraham]

Yeah.

[Jared Freed]

January 1st, you get off January 2nd. If you're going back to work on.

[Jordana Abraham]

A Friday, no one's doing anything.

[Jared Freed]

I mean, if I'm the boss.

[Jordana Abraham]

The year starts. The year starts on Monday.

[Jared Freed]

If anyone's starting their resolution today, they are a crazy person. They are not to be trusted. They are awful.

[Jordana Abraham]

Yes.

[Jared Freed]

Getting in shape.

[Jordana Abraham]

It's the Friday after New Year's. The day after.

[Jared Freed]

No, you are doing your resolutions on Monday. Today is a fat day. Today is a calorie day.

[Jordana Abraham]

Today is extension of yesterday.

[Jared Freed]

Yeah. Today is a. Have all the drinks today. Today is a brunch day.

[Jordana Abraham]

That's the beautiful thing about Christmas and New Year's being in the middle of the week, right? Is you get the, you really get two weeks, right?

[Jared Freed]

You get the, the full, the full monty, you know, when it happens on a Monday, not great, right? Should start Wednesday, God forbid.

[Jordana Abraham]

On a Sunday.

[Jared Freed]

God forbid, yes. So this is a good year. This is a good start to the year. Friday, you got to like, ease into the new year. This is what it's all about. If you enjoy this show, we want you to share this show. We want you to keep emailing the show. UUPedges.com I would love for you to come to my shows jaredfree.com for all the ticket information. Philadelphia is up next. I'm in San Diego right now. You can come to my show this weekend in San Diego. And I'm going to be in Baltimore, Tampa, Houston, Dallas, Boston, New York City, Toronto, Vancouver, Tempe, all these great cities. And also if you are looking busy, booked and busy. And today is a big dating day. Today's the number one download day of the dating apps of the year.

[Jordana Abraham]

I think. I think the number one download day is technically the first Sunday after New Year's. Okay, so it's on Sunday.

[Jared Freed]

So it's common. So this, let's consider this podcast.

[Jordana Abraham]

But you got to get your profile ready.

[Jared Freed]

You got to get your profile ready. And this episode need some fresh meat on there. Get the fresh meat. That's. That's right. Jordana sounds like me. I can't. I'm happy she's in the mood.

[Jordana Abraham]

New. I mean, there's nothing more annoying. I feel like when you're on a dating app for a long time to see the same, the same old faces.

[Jared Freed]

Same week after week now and then. Got all the breakups, all the breakups, all the people with renewed hope, all the energy. You're honestly, if you don't find someone in the first week, you probably not find someone at all. So this is a very important week for a dating app. So let this episode be your hand hold into the apps because we're going to give you some tips and tricks.

[Jordana Abraham]

Yes.

[Jared Freed]

We're going to give you some help making that profile today. Also, if you have a friend in need, this is an episode to send to them. This is the care package. This is the shiva call. This is a you just broke up over the holidays. Time to get out of your comfy cozies. Put on some jeans and a belt. And here's the you up podcast to help you get through it.

[Jordana Abraham]

Time to get your together.

[Jared Freed]

Right. We find a lot of people have started this show in times of sadness and pain from a relationship that just ended.

[Jordana Abraham]

We turn it, we turn it around for them.

[Jared Freed]

Right? So this is the diamond tab elixir. This is the vapes, you know, the vapor rub. This is you helping a friend. Send this show to a friend, a co worker, a brother, a sister, a mama, a papa, anyone who needs a little pickme up in their dating life or relationship life in general.

[Jordana Abraham]

Yes.

[Jared Freed]

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[Jordana Abraham]

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[Jared Freed]

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[Jordana Abraham]

I ordered mine. I pre ordered my. Yeah, I know how important pre orders are.

[Jared Freed]

That's how important is Jordan.

[Jordana Abraham]

Yes, I. Jordan, Ellie. Something I could get for free. I have paid money for. I'll be getting mine in June. I want, I want to be the first person to open it up.

[Jared Freed]

Well, you're going to have a lot of books on your shelf for me because I got to give you the free one. You're going to get the one you bought.

[Jordana Abraham]

I'm going to need a signed copy.

[Jared Freed]

Signed copy.

[Jordana Abraham]

Well, you know what? Some mark. You should. You should if, if you took a. If you preorder Jared's book, take a picture of it, tag him, maybe he'll repost. That's a way to get people.

[Jared Freed]

Or maybe I'll just show up at your house and give you a little hug and a kiss.

[Jordana Abraham]

Little reading party.

[Jared Freed]

Yeah.

[Jordana Abraham]

Little.

[Jared Freed]

Little tickle.

[Jordana Abraham]

You never know what could happen.

[Jared Freed]

You don't know where I'm going to show up. I'll go anywhere. So yeah, go buy the book Walking Red Flag. It is going to be out in June, but you can buy it now. It's. It's. All the feedback has been weird. Good.

[Jordana Abraham]

Yeah.

[Jared Freed]

That's how weird it is to me.

[Jordana Abraham]

Because it's like a book and you're not like a book guy.

[Jared Freed]

I've never even read a book.

[Jordana Abraham]

This might be your. This is going to be the next. He's just not that into you.

[Jared Freed]

They. If this is what makes my life change in some weird way, it would be the, like I, it would be the shock of the century to me, a guy who avoided summer reading every year. I hated summer reading.

[Jordana Abraham]

You weren't getting books like this on your list. I don't think Walking Red Flag was on the seventh grade thing next above Mice and Men, the next seventh grade list.

[Jared Freed]

You know how many times I would show up being like, you know what? I'll just go give my report. I'll just make it up.

[Jordana Abraham]

Well, now if, now you could. If you were. If you were in middle school today, you could add chat. Gbt.

[Jared Freed]

That's right.

[Jordana Abraham]

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[Jared Freed]

Yeah. I would really be an idiot. I would have never taken a loss.

[Jordana Abraham]

Right.

[Jared Freed]

You know that because when I would.

[Jordana Abraham]

Go, you got to show up and.

[Jared Freed]

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[Jordana Abraham]

I don't got it. I didn't read it.

[Jared Freed]

I guess I'm starting with an F. That was how I started the year. I'd be like, I'm starting with an.

[Jordana Abraham]

F. You'd start with an F. I.

[Jared Freed]

Would be like, I. I guess I'll come back from here. I'm. I'm a rags to riches tail.

[Jordana Abraham]

Okay, well, so I, you know, I did all the book reports and we're sitting here on the same in the same room, so jokes on me.

[Jared Freed]

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[Jordana Abraham]

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[Jared Freed]

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[Jordana Abraham]

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[Jared Freed]

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[Jordana Abraham]

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[Jared Freed]

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[Jordana Abraham]

Yeah. And it sounds pretty good, right? Discover is accepted at 99% of places.

[Jared Freed]

That take credit cards nationwide, based on the February 2025 Nielsen report. So we're talking today about helping people make their dating app.

[Jordana Abraham]

We're going to do some dating app makeovers for people who submitted theirs and they're good tips for anyone who's writing in. You know, obviously this is a little bit better if you can see a visual. I know if you're a subscriber, right. You, you know, you're getting it a day early before the YouTube is out. We're going to see if we can get it on Spotify for subscribers on Spotify video. But we apologize if, if, if this is like a, this is kind of a visual episode.

[Jared Freed]

We, you and we did this on purpose because we were like, we just know. Well, I got, I have some. My tips are going to be. You can listen to them. So yeah, you can.

[Jordana Abraham]

You still get something from listening, but you're not be able to see the profiles.

[Jared Freed]

We'll try our best to describe them. But if you really want to feel this all over your body, go on YouTube, go on Spotify once it's out and you can Watch it, watch it, watch it. You'll get the pictures of people's profiles. We're going to show listener profiles and give our advice on what they should change and how they should it up. But before that, we should give so many of you going back on the apps. We want to share our top three tips for setting up your profile. What is, what would you say, number one tip for someone setting up a dating profile?

[Jordana Abraham]

I would say undersell over deliver would be one of my tips.

[Jared Freed]

Okay. Yes, I like that.

[Jordana Abraham]

And I mean, you've talked about this briefly. When it comes to things like height, I don't think a profile should be all pictures of you having your hair and makeup professionally done before a wedding.

[Jared Freed]

Right.

[Jordana Abraham]

I think you want to show what you look like on an average day or maybe an average night out. Fine. On an average day. Maybe you don't. You're not, you're really not doing anything but a normal day in the life.

[Jared Freed]

So let's, let's, let's adjust this to. Would you say your first picture should be what you'd wear and how you'd look on a first date?

[Jordana Abraham]

Yes.

[Jared Freed]

Don't you think that's like a reasonable ask?

[Jordana Abraham]

I agree.

[Jared Freed]

First picture. And would you be on a first date in your sunglasses?

[Jordana Abraham]

No.

[Jared Freed]

Would you be on a first date in a baseball cap?

[Jordana Abraham]

No.

[Jared Freed]

Would you be on a first date with 10 of your friends?

[Jordana Abraham]

No.

[Jared Freed]

So all of those are things that should not be on the first picture. Match the first picture to the first date.

[Jordana Abraham]

Yeah.

[Jared Freed]

If it wouldn't happen on the first date, it shouldn't be in the first picture.

[Jordana Abraham]

Yes.

[Jared Freed]

It's a pretty simple rule.

[Jordana Abraham]

Depiction of what it would be like to see you the first time as you walk into your first date.

[Jared Freed]

Right. Hair up, hair down, doesn't matter. First date. You might wear your hair up on a first date, you might not. What would you do on a first date? I think this is like, maybe the best advice ever given on a dating podcast.

[Jordana Abraham]

And you get a sense of someone's style.

[Jared Freed]

Right.

[Jordana Abraham]

You know, especially for men, if you're listening and you're a man, get a sense of, like, how you dress.

[Jared Freed]

Right. I mean, that's the thing. If your first picture is you want to tux, you wouldn't wear that on a first date.

[Jordana Abraham]

Don't do that either. Yeah.

[Jared Freed]

So it goes for every background, gender, whatever you are. So I think this is a great piece of advice. I think if you're, if you're actively not listening to this advice, you're not allowed to Complain about dating ever. All of dating. Because this is the thing you hear people complain about dating. Oh, it sucks. I hate the apps. Let me see the first picture.

[Jordana Abraham]

Let's see it.

[Jared Freed]

If you've broken this rule, you are the problem.

[Jordana Abraham]

Agreed.

[Jared Freed]

Okay.

[Jordana Abraham]

What's your. What's your sec. What's your.

[Jared Freed]

I took a different direction, if you don't mind.

[Jordana Abraham]

Of course.

[Jared Freed]

Are you ready?

[Jordana Abraham]

That's why we're, you know, we got.

[Jared Freed]

Two opinions here, but two opinions. And I want you to give me feedback. So I went to AI, the Google AI. You know, when you search in Google Gemini, I think, is it a Gemini? Okay. I thought that was a strip I met. So I. So both could be true. Both. So I typed in and I kind of went hinge. Hinge seems to be the going pod or going up right now.

[Jordana Abraham]

Yes.

[Jared Freed]

Hinge has prompts.

[Jordana Abraham]

I think prompts and Raya, they're let.

[Jared Freed]

They let anyone on Ryan out any. Any Gemini. So, So I went to Google and I typed in most popular prompts. I think it is my opinion, this podcaster, My opinion is that the prompts are a way to improve the dating apps.

[Jordana Abraham]

Okay.

[Jared Freed]

If you're not having a good time on the dating apps, it's probably because you didn't dig into the prompts.

[Jordana Abraham]

You should dedicate as much time to.

[Jared Freed]

Them you need to dedicate. I would say the pictures are secondary.

[Jordana Abraham]

Really.

[Jared Freed]

The pictures that gets play for men.

[Jordana Abraham]

Looking at a woman's profile, those are secondary.

[Jared Freed]

Yeah. As far as getting a good date is concerned, I think is for, for.

[Jordana Abraham]

The quality date, but for getting your foot in the door, I think you need the pictures.

[Jared Freed]

But I, I. You need the pictures. But I'm saying as far, I think if we're in like the 2.0 of dating apps, let's say we've had the first decade of dating apps. The great reveal of dating apps is that matches don't matter. You can get a thousand matches with a lot of people you would never go out with.

[Jordana Abraham]

Good point.

[Jared Freed]

So the prompts are how you suss out the people that you don't want to waste your time on.

[Jordana Abraham]

Okay.

[Jared Freed]

So like to me, you write a prompt to make it so if someone ignores your prompts, they're probably not going to be a great date. If someone has a thoughtful answer to your thoughtful prompt, you are so much farther ahead than the next person. It is. Every good date I have gone on has been because a good prompt, a good prompt. So I went, would you be.

[Jordana Abraham]

Would you slide on looks for prefer good prompts?

[Jared Freed]

No, here's the thing. It starts these apps. Think of how we do the apps. And that's why the pictures matter for the initial, but they don't matter for what people are really complaining about. Like, if we think of the complaint of our listeners, of our daters, of me, a single guy, it's that I don't want to go on the same dates with just anybody.

[Jordana Abraham]

Right.

[Jared Freed]

The apps present the option of more, but more means more disappointment, more annoying, more people, but you don't want more. You want quality. You want quality, not quantity. So you want these dates to be. Feel like date three before you even met, because you are getting access to all this information that you would have gotten on date one in another time before the Internet. Okay, so how do we make these dates better? You make better prompts. And you only judge people based on the prompt conversation, not the. Because the picture is first. I'm deciding, am I attracted? It's the same way. If you said, I want you to meet my friend, I would go, let me see a picture. Then I would go, what do they like?

[Jordana Abraham]

Right.

[Jared Freed]

So the.

[Jordana Abraham]

Both are important.

[Jared Freed]

Both are important, but the picture is, like, secondary to, like, finding a real quality.

[Jordana Abraham]

Right.

[Jared Freed]

Match and date. So my advice to people, a lot of people ask me, well, what should I write for my prompt to make it good? So I went to Hinge or I went to Google. I asked Google what the most popular Hinge prompts are. Okay.

[Jordana Abraham]

Okay.

[Jared Freed]

And then I answer them for myself.

[Jordana Abraham]

Okay.

[Jared Freed]

Okay. You can fill in the blanks. You can take what I've written and just change them a little bit to be you. But this is a good. I figured I'm giving a structure for what. What I believe be a good prompt. Ready? The way to win me over is I hate this prompt. It's one of the most popular prompts.

[Jordana Abraham]

Wow. Okay.

[Jared Freed]

Hate it. The way to win me over. That's not how you should, but here's how you change it to make it a better prompt for you to find a better day.

[Jordana Abraham]

Welcome hinge.

[Jared Freed]

But you're welcome person who uses Hinge. Yes. The way. The way to win me over is by having a very specific coffee order with a very specific reason for that order. Mine is an iced coffee with extra ice and a little vanilla. Something about an iced coffee with melted ice makes me feel very sad. Okay. Do you see how personal that was? You know?

[Jordana Abraham]

Yeah.

[Jared Freed]

The way to win me over. Now, here's a fun fact about me. I like a coffee with extra ice and a little vanilla.

[Jordana Abraham]

Well, now it's your turn. I'm inviting you in.

[Jared Freed]

Right. And I've been a little bit vulnerable. It does make me sad when there's no ice in my iced coffee. It does make me feel depressed. It does make me think of how alone I am in this world. It does make me feel like the lights went dim and it got dark a little bit too early. It does make me feel like I haven't had a good tan in a few months. It does make me feel like I should be married at 40 and have a whole family by this point in my life.

[Jordana Abraham]

And you can get into all of that in the conversation when they respond to your problem.

[Jared Freed]

There we go. See how personal I've gotten? So it doesn't have to be. So the way to win me over is what is the way to win? So what do you. You can even use mine by having a specific ice coffee and then say your iced coffee order.

[Jordana Abraham]

Right. Or anything that you're interested in.

[Jared Freed]

Right?

[Jordana Abraham]

Right. So by loving the new Stranger Things that I. My favorite character is. Blah, blah, blah. I love the. This plot line from it.

[Jared Freed]

Let me jump off of that. The way to win me over is to have a. A favorite TV show for a very specific reason. See, there you go. The favorite coffee order in a very specific order.

[Jordana Abraham]

Pay you the big bucks.

[Jared Freed]

And then I. This is why. This is why I got a book. Okay. And then what I would say is, you know why I like Stranger Things? There's so much nostalgia. It reminds me of a time where I didn't have to open bills.

[Jordana Abraham]

There you go. Look at.

[Jared Freed]

Look at what I am.

[Jordana Abraham]

Tell how much personality is infused in that one. Promise.

[Jared Freed]

A lot. My simple pleasures. Taking a shower and getting into a freshly made bed. Then farting under the covers and lifting up the comforter to see how bad it smells.

[Jordana Abraham]

Is it really your prompt?

[Jared Freed]

No, I didn't. These are fake ones.

[Commercial Narrator]

Okay.

[Jordana Abraham]

Would you actually put a.

[Jared Freed]

No. I'm just saying it starts with taking a shower. Getting a freshly made bed. It is. Then I personalize.

[Jordana Abraham]

Okay, so you can.

[Jared Freed]

You don't have to do the fart one, but you can do.

[Jordana Abraham]

Don't do the fart one.

[Jared Freed]

Don't do the fart one. But maybe you like to scrunch your toes underneath and it really makes you happy.

[Jordana Abraham]

Something cute.

[Jared Freed]

Something. But something that takes the. The overall. I like a shower.

[Jordana Abraham]

Getting into bed makes it more personal.

[Jared Freed]

What is specific to you?

[Jordana Abraham]

Right. I have my. Maybe some of us body wash. I have six different kinds. I try them all.

[Jared Freed]

My favorite is this I love coconut. All my body products are coconut.

[Jordana Abraham]

Yes.

[Jared Freed]

Together we could. I hate this prompt.

[Jordana Abraham]

You don't like. Together we could.

[Jared Freed]

Gonna. Gonna show you a way to make it good.

[Jordana Abraham]

You don't want to think about them together.

[Jared Freed]

It's already too presumptive. Together we could. I've been really wanting to go bowling lately. I don't want to bowl every week. I just get this feeling like I need to have some greasy bowling fries while wearing someone else's shoes. See how specific that was? Like, that's stupid. That is stupid. I do want to go bowling. I've had this thing. I want to go bowling. It's been a while.

[Jordana Abraham]

Do you think that these are possible for a non comedian?

[Jared Freed]

Yes.

[Jordana Abraham]

A writer?

[Jared Freed]

I don't.

[Jordana Abraham]

Of sorts.

[Jared Freed]

Literally, I'm giving them the template.

[Jordana Abraham]

Yes.

[Jared Freed]

I can't. This is what bothers me about this conversation. Whenever we talk about, like, what to do with the apps, people don't listen.

[Jordana Abraham]

Right.

[Jared Freed]

This is what. This is how you're going to win.

[Jordana Abraham]

You know what you should do also? Are you. Are you on the apps?

[Jared Freed]

I'm not. I. I am not on the apps as of today.

[Jordana Abraham]

Well, if. On the biggest day.

[Jared Freed]

Well, I was on Jade 8 for a minute. I did J Day for a minute.

[Jordana Abraham]

Well, if you're on. If you download the apps and on the biggest download day of the year, which. Why not?

[Jared Freed]

I might be drunk in a bar.

[Jordana Abraham]

And, you know, I think you should screenshot any prompts that you think are really good and really bad and we'll get into them.

[Jared Freed]

I love to do that.

[Jordana Abraham]

Yeah. I'm looking to download just for that. For.

[Jared Freed]

Right. For work expenditure. I'm looking for. I hate this prompt, but let me make it good for you. A martini that's so cold that I can feel it all over my body during that first sip. A partner who audibly groan at my friend's annoying Instagram posts.

[Jordana Abraham]

That's good.

[Jared Freed]

That's a good one.

[Jordana Abraham]

Fun.

[Jared Freed]

My most irrational fear that I'll go viral while I'm on a flight without Internet.

[Jordana Abraham]

That's funny.

[Jared Freed]

That is.

[Jordana Abraham]

I like that one. Yeah.

[Jared Freed]

You ever remember those stories where, like, someone, like, tweets out something, like, horrific?

[Jordana Abraham]

I've heard that.

[Jared Freed]

Remember that there was one story where the person, like, coming back from, like, China. Yeah. Africa.

[Jordana Abraham]

Right. I knew that that woman worked for a Match Match group, actually, ironically.

[Jared Freed]

Really?

[Jordana Abraham]

Yes.

[Jared Freed]

That was like a huge story.

[Jordana Abraham]

And I remember that she got, like, fired.

[Jared Freed]

Yeah. That stuck with me.

[Jordana Abraham]

Then she got rehired.

[Jared Freed]

That's one of those stories. Oh, she did. That's one of those stories that I remember every time I do something on my phone, I'm like, cautionary tale.

[Commercial Narrator]

Yeah.

[Jared Freed]

Like, I go to the gym.

[Jordana Abraham]

Yeah.

[Jared Freed]

I'm like, oh, what?

[Jordana Abraham]

You land and you're fired.

[Jared Freed]

Yeah.

[Jordana Abraham]

Canceled.

[Jared Freed]

Here's my last. Dating me is like. This is another one that doesn't do well.

[Jordana Abraham]

Okay.

[Jared Freed]

But I can make it better.

[Jordana Abraham]

Let's hear it.

[Jared Freed]

Dating me is like wearing layers. I'll make you look good and feel comfortable inside.

[Jordana Abraham]

Okay. I like that one. Not. What do I. What do I respond to that, though, is a tough one.

[Jared Freed]

Right. I guess I would have to make it more personal.

[Jordana Abraham]

Right.

[Jared Freed]

I like wearing layers. I'll make you look. Dating me is like wearing layers. I'll make you look good and feel and. And you'll feel comfortable.

[Jordana Abraham]

Right.

[Jared Freed]

About your favorite sweatshirt.

[Jordana Abraham]

There you go. Yeah. I think that you need something, because I would see that and think it was cute, but I don't know if I would have anything.

[Jared Freed]

It's a good point, but that's. This is my point. All of these were vulnerable. None of them lived in the land of you. All of them lived in the land of me.

[Jordana Abraham]

Yes.

[Jared Freed]

And I think those. If you go and listen to those or replay those, it will be helpful for your. The prompt is in. Is really.

[Jordana Abraham]

Well, I love. I love those. And yeah, this is. This is great. And again, I think if you. If you do download the apps.

[Jared Freed]

Yeah.

[Jordana Abraham]

You see anything? You see anyone who's killing it in the prompt area?

[Jared Freed]

Listen, I. We should have a new segment. 26.

[Jordana Abraham]

Yeah.

[Jared Freed]

Pose your prompt.

[Jordana Abraham]

Rate my prompt. Yeah, Pose your prompt is good.

[Jared Freed]

Close your prompt. We will talk about it. We'll talk it out. We'll talk about what I would say to it. What you would say to it.

[Jordana Abraham]

Yes.

[Jared Freed]

Send in your prompts. Uup betches dot screenshot.

[Jordana Abraham]

You don't even have to type it, just screenshot it. Send it in.

[Jared Freed]

Send it in. You think you got a good one?

[Jordana Abraham]

If you think it's good enough that you want us to say your Instagram handle. If someone likes it, they could check it out.

[Jared Freed]

I think that's great.

[Jordana Abraham]

Yeah.

[Jared Freed]

They can go find you, stalk you, take a look at you, and then.

[Jordana Abraham]

If it's good enough, I want to date that person. Where are they?

[Jared Freed]

Spoke to my soul.

[Jordana Abraham]

Love it.

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[Jared Freed]

We're gonna do two dating app makeovers. We had listeners send in their dating app profiles. They took screenshots. You gotta go on YouTube or Spotify to go watch this. But we'll explain as much as we can. Look, we're gonna get into two profiles, but before we do, I had to show one submission that we got. It's a woman's profile and I'm in the picture.

[Jordana Abraham]

The best kind of. Do you swipe right on all profiles where you're in them?

[Jared Freed]

Of course. I gotta give a little compliment. So. So let's do it right. Do Kimberly.

[Jordana Abraham]

Okay. I'll read our her email, please. Hi, jj. Huge fan. I could really use help improving my dating profile. You can share it on the show. My mom's. My mom knows I sent it and said it couldn't hurt. Nothing you're doing is working. Wow.

[Jared Freed]

Thing to say.

[Commercial Narrator]

Okay.

[Jordana Abraham]

I appreciate the honesty. I also attached a screen recording of my voice prompt. It's my best attempt at sounding natural. Happy New Year.

[Jared Freed]

Okay, my first piece of advice. Let's not do the voice prompt. Yeah, I don't.

[Jordana Abraham]

I think it can only hurt you.

[Jared Freed]

It can only hurt you. Yeah. You can't go up from voice prompt. And it also, like, I. I will say from the male side every time the woman talks on the voice prompt. And I'm sorry to say this, I'm just giving you inside the male mind. It sounds like they're doing like a porno voice.

[Jordana Abraham]

I was going to say for the men, it sounds like very creepy. Yeah, I think.

[Jared Freed]

Right.

[Jordana Abraham]

So, like, they're going to kill you.

[Jared Freed]

Yeah, right.

[Jordana Abraham]

Women, their porno voice, man, they're going to murder you.

[Jared Freed]

I mean, that's the whole premise of this show.

[Jordana Abraham]

Yes.

[Jared Freed]

Is the difference. Because when I hear it, it's always like, hey. And then I'm like, should I be listening to this? What's going on? You know, like, I mean, play hers.

[Jordana Abraham]

And for me, it's like, should I lock the door?

[Jared Freed]

Right, right. Let's play hers first. Ready? What's her voice prompt? She did my biggest date fail.

[Jordana Abraham]

Biggest date fail. I don't know. It's either going out with an actual clown, like clown, college clown.

[Jared Freed]

Even her. Her tone right now is going too sexual.

[Jordana Abraham]

A handshake when they Went in for.

[Jared Freed]

A. I'm not even listening to what she's saying.

[Jordana Abraham]

Yeah, I agree. I get rid of that right now.

[Jared Freed]

We're her mom.

[Jordana Abraham]

Get rid of that. Yeah, I agree. It's just not, it's not. No, there's, I would say less than 1% chance someone hears the voice note of anyone and is like, I need more.

[Jared Freed]

There's nothing to gain. And I'm just saying this like, you're not going to spread blood in shark infested waters. Don't. For women that, that's like for no man can be better than themselves. I, I, I think it's just, I hear that and all I hear is like a breathy voice that's come have sex with me. No. Yeah. They want to bang me right away. So no.

[Jordana Abraham]

So no to that.

[Jared Freed]

Take it out.

[Jordana Abraham]

What do you think of Kimberly's first photo?

[Jared Freed]

It's a little close up. If I were. I mean, she looks very pretty. Her eyes are engaging.

[Jordana Abraham]

Yes.

[Jared Freed]

But I would say we need a little bit more. This looks like I'm looking at her through a people. A people.

[Jordana Abraham]

Yeah.

[Jared Freed]

Yeah.

[Jordana Abraham]

I was saying I was thinking she either has like in beautiful glowing skin or this looks a little too retouched.

[Jared Freed]

Right. No man would notice that.

[Jordana Abraham]

Okay.

[Jared Freed]

But I hear you.

[Jordana Abraham]

It's possible. I'm like, if she looks like this. Please also write a follow up about who your dermatologist is. Your skin is like glowing. It looks almost like too perfect. Right where it makes me think it's airbrushed.

[Jared Freed]

Even her eyes too like it is. I will say it's bright and that's a good thing. And she's wearing what we told people to wear.

[Jordana Abraham]

This is very first outfit. Yeah. She looks pretty. She looks pretty.

[Jared Freed]

First date approved. But I just think we can find a better picture than this.

[Jordana Abraham]

I agree. Okay, let's do her first prompt.

[Jared Freed]

Dating me is like, like trying to win over the affection of a feral cat. Slow to show affection, but totally worth it in the end.

[Jordana Abraham]

I don't like, I don't like this one either.

[Jared Freed]

I don't like this one.

[Jordana Abraham]

This is like you're gonna have to do a lot of work. Which I don't think anyone wants to hear.

[Jared Freed]

Especially when you're on a dating app. We're all losers. Okay.

[Jordana Abraham]

And no one knows you to know if it's. You'd be worth the how annoying you're presenting yourself as.

[Jared Freed]

Right. You're basically. Yeah, right. It, it's putting yourself on a pedestal above us other losers in a way. I would say if you're saying that I'm a little cagey, I'm a little like a cat, I. I think there's a way to maybe say that that might be better.

[Jordana Abraham]

Right.

[Jared Freed]

There's a way to, like, bring up cats in another way. You can be more. You can be mysterious and also fun. This is you saying I'm no fun. You be fun and I'll see it.

[Jordana Abraham]

Right. I'm kind of a biatch.

[Jared Freed]

Right. That's why I don't like dating me as, like, as a prompt.

[Jordana Abraham]

Yeah. Or at least not this answer to it for sure.

[Jared Freed]

Okay, now we go to her next picture. What do you think of this picture? No, you gotta take this one.

[Jordana Abraham]

Yes. I get. She's trying to be, like, wacky.

[Jared Freed]

Yeah.

[Jordana Abraham]

It looks like too early for wacky.

[Jared Freed]

Yeah. No, this is. It looks like she was just pranked and by her grandma. Yeah. It's either her mom. It's her mom behind her.

[Jordana Abraham]

Well, it says, help me identify this photobomber.

[Jared Freed]

I would assume it's her mom.

[Jordana Abraham]

Yeah.

[Jared Freed]

It's just. And again, we're in selfie land. We're still not having anyone else take the picture. This is just not a natural picture. It's kind of my problem with the first one that you've taken the first one to another level.

[Jordana Abraham]

Right.

[Jared Freed]

You've taken another picture to another unnatural place.

[Jordana Abraham]

Yeah. I think, again, having just referenced a feral cat and then having this picture, it's not giving me, like, warm, inviting vibes.

[Jared Freed]

Right.

[Jordana Abraham]

Okay.

[Jared Freed]

Especially because the next one, she looks very pretty and totally different.

[Jordana Abraham]

Yes.

[Jared Freed]

You know, and again, another selfie. I would find a way to have a friend take a picture of you.

[Jordana Abraham]

Do you think she's joking where she says, the moment I knew my modeling career was over, as the caption for this picture.

[Jared Freed]

Get rid of that.

[Jordana Abraham]

I don't even understand what that. If that. What that means is you look pretty. Right. Is she trying to say she was a. She's trying to tell us that she used to be a model. She joking.

[Jared Freed]

I. Or the minute I took this picture, I thought I wasn't. I wasn't a model. Like.

[Jordana Abraham]

Right. It's not bad enough to. That you're clearly not a model, and it's kind of cute. So, like, I'm thinking maybe you could have been a model. I don't. It's very confusing.

[Jared Freed]

Yeah. This picture would be fine as, like, a fifth picture without the caption.

[Jordana Abraham]

Yeah.

[Jared Freed]

But not in the middle of this profile. Especially looking so different from the one that came before it.

[Jordana Abraham]

Yes. I Do like full. We're getting a full body. So I think. I think it's important to include at least one full body shot.

[Jared Freed]

Yeah. Show it all.

[Jordana Abraham]

It doesn't mean in a bikini, but just like a picture of your whole head to toe.

[Jared Freed]

Totally. And your room is clean.

[Jordana Abraham]

Yes.

[Jared Freed]

You know, enough. Clean enough. It's not like a disgusting mess. So that's good.

[Jordana Abraham]

Hot.

[Jared Freed]

I get myself out of a funk by dancing in my living room to 90s music.

[Jordana Abraham]

Okay, good start. This one is the most potential, but I think she needs to Jared Freedify it.

[Jared Freed]

Yes.

[Jordana Abraham]

More. More specific, more personal, more fun. Which 90s music.

[Jared Freed]

Totally agree. Give me the song, give me the artist. Give me something that make. Make a decision. Make a decision. Say who you are so that I can say no way or yes.

[Jordana Abraham]

Love it. Yes.

[Jared Freed]

You want what life is gravity. If you get nothing from your profile, you get nothing. If you get emotion from your profile, you will get something.

[Jordana Abraham]

Yes. I get myself out of a funk by dancing like a character on girls to Robin's dancing on my own.

[Jared Freed]

Love it. There it is. Let's do another profile. We have a man. Okay.

[Jordana Abraham]

Yes. Let's hear his. Let's hear his email.

[Jared Freed]

I love the emails that come with it. This is actually like. It does paint a picture for us.

[Jordana Abraham]

Indeed.

[Jared Freed]

J and J. Long time listener. I used to think, thank God I'm married and don't have to deal with all this. Well, now I'm divorced.

[Jordana Abraham]

They always come back.

[Jared Freed]

That's right. And stumbling through this new world. As a parent, dating is fun, interesting and terrible all at the same time. I think that's a good description of dating.

[Jordana Abraham]

Love it.

[Jared Freed]

I could greatly use your help struggling in the creativity department. Also no funny sign off. Much appreciated, James.

[Jordana Abraham]

Okay.

[Jared Freed]

I like newly divorced guy and first picture. What do you think, Jordana? I would love a woman's opinion on this.

[Jordana Abraham]

Solid.

[Jared Freed]

I agree.

[Jordana Abraham]

Yeah.

[Jared Freed]

It's Jane. It is as it gets. Yeah.

[Jordana Abraham]

He looks like he could be a recently divorced dad.

[Jared Freed]

He's got the divorced dad look. He's he. A little anger underneath them smile. A little resentment. Yeah. I mean, if anything it could be brightened up like if he found a brighter picture.

[Jordana Abraham]

But smiling, it looks warm and welcoming.

[Jared Freed]

Totally. This. This abides by our first date rule. Would you wear it a first date? Would this be you on a first date? I think this would be very James on a first date.

[Jordana Abraham]

Yes. So I like it. We.

[Jared Freed]

We both sign off on your. Your first thing. Two truths in a lie.

[Jordana Abraham]

What do you think of true truth and hate it.

[Jared Freed]

As a problem.

[Jordana Abraham]

I don't like it either. I don't want to take a quiz, right?

[Jared Freed]

And then I got to talk about something that's not even true.

[Jordana Abraham]

Right.

[Jared Freed]

So what are his two truths?

[Jordana Abraham]

Okay. One, I have seen a bone sticking out of my body. Two, met Mario Lopez at a urinal. And three, y' all is not in my vocabulary.

[Jared Freed]

This is bad. Okay. I, I, I. I want to let him know with caring, love, and affection. All three choices are awful. They all weird. One, that's fun, right?

[Jordana Abraham]

These are. Sound good for your kid?

[Jared Freed]

What?

[Jordana Abraham]

Good for your kid. You can use these two truths of life for your kid.

[Jared Freed]

I guess I don't. Here's the thing. You have to remember. What direction could this conversation go?

[Jordana Abraham]

Right. Where is this taking me?

[Jared Freed]

Bone out of my body. You've kind of painted a gross picture. Mario Lopez at a urinal. The urinal aspect of it, it just kind of like you're now in a sexualized.

[Jordana Abraham]

I'm thinking about your penis with Mario Lopez's.

[Jared Freed]

Right. Are you looking over? I don't know. It just takes you down a weird route. Y' all is not my vocabulary. You're drawing a line in the sand that anyone who would say y' all is somehow a lesser person. It's just all of these get rid of.

[Jordana Abraham]

Yeah, different. Pick a different prompt. All right, what about his next prompt? Green flags.

[Jared Freed]

I look for consistency, kindness, and a sense of humor. Oh, also, if you're clumsy like me.

[Jordana Abraham]

No.

[Jared Freed]

Yeah, I'm out on this one.

[Jordana Abraham]

Everyone is looking for consistency, kindness, and a sense of humor. No one would say that. They are not looking for that.

[Jared Freed]

Right. So you have done absolutely nothing. You have actually checked out of a good percentage of the profile.

[Jordana Abraham]

And also, no one doesn't think that's them.

[Jared Freed]

Right.

[Jordana Abraham]

So I'm inconsistent, unkind, and have no sense of humor.

[Jared Freed]

Horrible sense of humor. I have the worst sense.

[Jordana Abraham]

I'm looking for someone to write that they're looking at that. That's a green flag for them.

[Jared Freed]

Right? And anyone who would say they have a horrible sense of humor has a pretty great sense of humor. Like, that's the sign of a good sense of humor. And if you're clumsy like me, I guess that's like a one little. Okay, I would. Green flags. I look for if someone can laugh when, like, the time I and, like.

[Jordana Abraham]

Fell out of a chair.

[Jared Freed]

Right. I looked at Mario Lopez's penis at the urinal. Like. No, I'm just saying the green flags I look for needs to be if you're going to use this one, you need to make it about you.

[Jordana Abraham]

Right.

[Jared Freed]

You have to find a way to judge the language into green flags. I look for. Here's a fun fact about me because that's vulnerable. The idea that I hate that hinge has this.

[Jordana Abraham]

And the clumsy thing could, you know, you could go off of that, making fun of yourself a little bit.

[Jared Freed]

Totally. Green flags. I look for one time, I tripped over myself walking down the aisle at a wedding.

[Jordana Abraham]

Right.

[Jared Freed]

For my friends, the green flags are the worst.

[Jordana Abraham]

Someone who wouldn't be icked out by watching me fall over, fall over my shoelaces. I walked a friend down the aisle. Or.

[Jared Freed]

Right, right. That now you've made it about you, but it's like you're. You're. You're revealing something about you. Green flag. I look for someone who won't mind that I will start crying about my divorce in the middle of our date.

[Jordana Abraham]

Owens.

[Jared Freed]

Maybe a little much, but do you see kind of the structure that I. We're giving here? Okay.

[Jordana Abraham]

All right, next one has stats. 41 male, straight six one. Sounds good.

[Jared Freed]

Yeah. All the vitals. Yeah.

[Jordana Abraham]

Next picture. I like it. I like this one, too.

[Jared Freed]

Right.

[Jordana Abraham]

Looks warm.

[Jared Freed]

Again, I like this one because of the first one. He's in a hat, glasses on top of his head. But we know what his hair looks like. We know a little bit about his, like, structure because it showed a little bit more of his torso in the first one. So this one makes sense because of the first one.

[Jordana Abraham]

Yes.

[Jared Freed]

The third one.

[Jordana Abraham]

Third one. I could start maybe seeing another person in these pictures.

[Jared Freed]

I'm with you. Where? I do think it's good that it is showing a hobby.

[Jordana Abraham]

Right. He's clearly active.

[Jared Freed]

A hiker. Take this one out. If you are. Keep it in.

[Jordana Abraham]

If you are a hiker. Yeah. If you are keeping it one in. You have to be a big enough hiker to justify making yourself look a little bit like a penis head.

[Jared Freed]

Yes. If your interests outweigh the look of your child.

[Jordana Abraham]

If he's, like, into it enough where I'm like this, I might see him looking like this. Like, a lot. Okay.

[Jared Freed]

Right. So that's only an answer. He can only answer that.

[Jordana Abraham]

Right.

[Jared Freed]

Next prompt. The hallmark of a good relationship is we can be our true authentic, weird selves around each other.

[Jordana Abraham]

No.

[Jared Freed]

Here's the problem with this. Yeah. It's a no from me. It is too general. Of course. You can be your weird self around someone you end up with. This is the place you get to show if you're weird or not or to find some.

[Jordana Abraham]

Find if someone's weird in the same way as you are.

[Jared Freed]

Right. So you've basically passed on that one because that in. In the same way Jordana said anyone would want that. There's not one person who would be like, I don't want to be with someone who wants to be their authentic, weird self with me.

[Jordana Abraham]

Like, I'd rather us be pretending to be people that the other person wants. Right. Right. And then I think, again, if he's into it seems like he's. I would make one of these prompts about that hallmark of a good relationship is two people who, like, you know, who want to be a part of each other's activities. I love to. I love to go hiking or something.

[Jared Freed]

Let me agree. Let me add on to that hallmark of a good relationship. Someone who holds my crampons while you hold the walking stick on a hike. That we would go on to. Specific.

[Jordana Abraham]

Exactly. Specific.

[Jared Freed]

Okay. So then it's him doing the marathon in Wilmington, North Carolina. Good for you. He's got the metal on.

[Jordana Abraham]

He finished.

[Jared Freed]

I think it's a good picture. Full body shot. You got it all.

[Jordana Abraham]

Okay. And together we can be terrible at. I'm not sure if he's saying he's at running. At running. I mean, he finished.

[Jared Freed]

Yeah.

[Jordana Abraham]

Sometimes these cat the photo captions are just more confusing than their I to the photo. Yeah.

[Jared Freed]

Just leave the photo into the prompts and stay away from the captions. And they also never connect to the photo. To me, they're not on the photo enough for me. I always miss them. Even when we do these makeovers.

[Jordana Abraham]

Yeah.

[Jared Freed]

So it's like together we can be terrible at. And then the picture. But I'm like, I didn't really see those as the same.

[Jordana Abraham]

Yeah, I agree.

[Jared Freed]

But I do like the picture. I think it's a good fourth picture.

[Jordana Abraham]

Yeah.

[Jared Freed]

This is hobby. This is full body. Pictures are checks, two boxes.

[Jordana Abraham]

Yeah.

[Jared Freed]

Most spontaneous thing I've done. Going to cure jet lag with a spa day in Amsterdam, and it turned out to be nude only day sweating emoji.

[Jordana Abraham]

I would get rid of any mention of the word nude and a profile.

[Jared Freed]

Right. And it's not because he seems. I have to say, he seems like a genuinely, like, sweet guy.

[Jordana Abraham]

Yeah.

[Jared Freed]

I think you're dealing with the ills of men in general. Like, when you bring up nude and Mario Lopez's penis. And I just think all of those things, you're paying for what other men have done on these apps, which is you don't have to do again. You're not that guy. But you just can't even hint at being that guy. And it's not worth it. So the spa day one, while it is specific, the nude thing, you're down a road that.

[Jordana Abraham]

Right.

[Jared Freed]

We don't want to go down.

[Jordana Abraham]

Next picture. Maybe you can cut out like half.

[Jared Freed]

Of these guys, right?

[Jordana Abraham]

A little too many guys. I'm not. I think he's the second to the left.

[Jared Freed]

Yeah, he does look like the put together. That's the one thing I'll say. Because we have all the characters here. We got the funny friend in the hat. We got, you know, the former athlete in the orange. We've got the big drinker drug doer that he has his arm around that he's probably his sponsor at AA or something. All the players of a bachelor party are here. So he does stand out as like the. He kind of looks like.

[Jordana Abraham]

Yeah, he looks Good comparison.

[Jared Freed]

You want to look the best out of the group.

[Jordana Abraham]

You want to look the most accomplished, Fine with it. There's a little too many guys. It's too many. Fine. There's only one. It's the only picture that he has with other people.

[Jared Freed]

So it's fine if he zoomed in and cropped out hat guy. I think it's a great picture.

[Jordana Abraham]

I agree.

[Jared Freed]

And you know who he kind of looks like? Who's the actor? Not Joseph Gordon Levitt.

[Jordana Abraham]

Miles Teller.

[Jared Freed]

Miles Teller.

[Jordana Abraham]

Yeah, he does. Miles Teller. I see it. Are you a dog person? Because here's selfie with your dogs. I kind of like that.

[Jared Freed]

It's fine.

[Jordana Abraham]

Yeah, it's cute.

[Jared Freed]

It's okay. It's a last picture. It is not a first picture.

[Jordana Abraham]

Yes.

[Jared Freed]

Do not get me wrong. This is not a first picture.

[Jordana Abraham]

And I don't mind him. That's how he tells people he has dogs. I'm. We've got a wrap. But I have one more glaring large commentary for James. For James. No mention of your kids on the profile. I. I don't think you need a picture. I think you need something that alludes to the fact that you have kids. It seems a little deceptive if you don't.

[Jared Freed]

In his vitals. It doesn't say I have children.

[Jordana Abraham]

No.

[Jared Freed]

Okay.

[Jordana Abraham]

It says long. He's looking for a long term relationship. Looking for my person interested in my not.

[Jared Freed]

I would want to know.

[Jordana Abraham]

I think you should know. Again, it doesn't have to be the whole profile. It doesn't have to be the whole personality. And I get not wanting to put your picture of your child on the Internet, but something in the prompts, at least that alludes to having a child. I think would be helpful.

[Jared Freed]

Let me hit you back with this. What if it's just in the vitals? I'm okay with that.

[Jordana Abraham]

I have children somewhere on the profile.

[Jared Freed]

It's just going to be on there. I don't think it has to be made into this prompt. I agree.

[Jordana Abraham]

That's why I'm like, it doesn't need to be in all the pictures. It doesn't have to be like, a huge part of it. But I think it should. For me, that would be a big part. And the point is to swipe on things that people who are not right for you.

[Jared Freed]

Listen, I don't.

[Jordana Abraham]

I think he's doing this. Let me get in the door and then I'll tell them in the conversation. I wouldn't like that.

[Jared Freed]

I wouldn't like that either. And I appreciate it when I see. I have children in.

[Jordana Abraham]

Yes.

[Jared Freed]

And I'm in that age group. You're in the age group, dude. You've grown up. You're older. It's okay.

[Jordana Abraham]

And if you don't do it, it makes me think you're maybe, like, trying to, like, hook up. Hook up. And, you know, not. You're afraid that'll turn someone off and so you're not telling them.

[Jared Freed]

Right. It's funny. We were talking about, like, what you. What people lie about. Why men, you know, you know, over deliver, under. You said the over deliver under or under deliver over? Over, over, under, promise, over deliver.

[Jordana Abraham]

Yeah.

[Jared Freed]

I think a lot of men do that with kids and with the height thing because they want to be included in every search.

[Jordana Abraham]

Right.

[Jared Freed]

But that's just the backwards. It's not going to help you.

[Jordana Abraham]

You should get rid of people who are not going to be a match for you as soon as you can again. The one thing the Gap app gives you is a million options, a million people who will see it. Let's get rid of all the people who are like, deal breaker for me.

[Jared Freed]

We solve. Dating again. Happy New Year.

[Jordana Abraham]

Happy New Year.

[Jared Freed]

We did it.

[Jordana Abraham]

We'll be back next week. Bye, Batches.