Podcast
U Up?
Hosted by Betches Media · EN
U Up? is the definitive modern dating podcast presented by Betches co-founder Jordana Abraham and comedian Jared Freid, where they discuss their take on the ebbs and flows of the crazy dating world we live in. From interpreting dating app interactions and weird sexual encounters, to defining the relationship and everything in between - they’re here to make sure you don’t die alone. For more fun dating commentary, polls, and bonus content, follow @u.up.podcast on Instagram. Become a friend (with benefits) of the podcast and subscribe to receive early release and ad-free versions of all our new episodes, plus bonus subscriber-only episodes. To sign up and become a friend (with benefits) today head to: subscribe.betches.com
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Does He Just Want a Wife?
Today01:38:05Summary readyJared is packing a tux for a black-tie-optional wedding, which leads to a debate about plus-one etiquette and who should pay for the wedding gift when you're newly dating. Then they discuss a listener’s theory that the best place to meet men is a Wednesday night bowling alley and introduce Jared’s Summer Strut Challenge: 12 walks in 12 weeks to grow your dating network through friends and family! They then break down whether excessive exclamation points and smiley faces are actually an ick, plus a tough question about dating someone who talks about marriage but never makes you feel cared for. And in Red Flag or Deal Breaker, they cover being compared to an adult star, getting discovered through a viral TikTok crush post, and farting in relationships. Check out Jared's new book! 👉 Order Walking Red Flag: Dating Advice from Your Favorite Guy Friend Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
SummaryBumble’s New AI Matchmaker “Bumblebee” Explained
5d ago00:53:58Summary readyJ&J get into a recent article where they mention dating has become a luxury in 2026! From $20 coffee dates to the hidden “pink tax” women pay just to get ready, maybe it really is too expensive to date these days. Then they break down Bumble’s new AI matchmaker “Bumblebee,” why Jared thinks dating apps are just slot machines for lonely men, and whether AI is making modern dating even more fake. Plus, an “Icky or Picky” email about a college guy admitting he masturbates to a match’s profile photo sparks a surprisingly nuanced conversation about dating expectations, sexual honesty, and learning how to date in your 20s. Later, they unpack a marriage conflict years in the making after a husband still hasn’t read his wife’s wedding vows, and why “testing” your partner instead of communicating never works. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
SummaryCan Someone Truly Change After Cheating?
1w ago01:33:00Summary readyThis week J&J unpack why lying in a relationship can be worse than cheating itself and debate whether an ex warning a new girlfriend is “helpful” or completely unhinged. They break down a breakup that left one listener scrambling for a new apartment and explain the difference between being petty and being prudent when money and resentment collide. Plus, Jared defends his longtime 'finger in the butt' stance while Jordana gives practical advice for couples trying new things in bed without shame or panic. They also discuss a man who refuses to wear deodorant (red flag), a fiancé calling another woman “the prettiest girl he’s ever seen,” and Jared accidentally discovering he’s been saying “sight on scene” instead of “sight unseen” for years! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
SummaryDr. Orna On The Biggest Mistake Couples Make
2w ago00:49:31Summary readyThis week J&J welcome Dr. Orna Guralnik from Couples Therapy to talk about the biggest mistakes couples make before they ever step into therapy! Dr. Orna explains why “agree to disagree” is usually just code for “I’m exhausted trying to change you.” The conversation gets hilarious when Jared roleplays a full couples fight about chicken vs. steak dinner and accidentally reveals his deepest relationship fears. Plus, Dr. Orna shares the biggest sign couples therapy is happening too early, the moment it’s officially too late, and why respecting your partner’s differences matters more than ‘winning’ the argument! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
SummaryShould You Tell Your Ex You’re Pregnant?
2w ago01:15:55Summary readyJordana and Jared are judging Mother’s Day Instagram tributes like they’re relationship crime scenes. And honestly, some of these captions are screaming “save the marriage post!” They debate whether a woman should warn her ex that she’s pregnant with her new boyfriend’s baby, discuss a first date where a guy ate a pastry and drank coffee in front of his hungry date, and debate over whether sending a nostalgic middle-school boyfriend photo is sweet or secretly flirty. They also tackle a missing-front-tooth dating dilemma, a possible hoarder girlfriend, and a man who told his live-in girlfriend to move out for a month so he could “work on his mental health.” We think this relationship is doomed! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
SummaryMarried a Gay Man… And We’re Completely Monogamous ft I Married a Gay Man
3w ago00:50:43Summary readyJ&J are joined by Samantha Wynn Greenstone and Jacob Hoff, the married couple behind the “I Married A Gay Man” podcast, to unpack the relationship dynamic that has the internet completely fascinated! They tell their story of meeting during a Fiddler on the Roof audition, becoming inseparable best friends, and the text message that changed everything after an energy healer told Samantha they shared a “spiritual umbilical cord.” Jacob opens up about identifying as gay while being deeply in love, monogamous, and raising a baby with Samantha, while the group dives into why labels, attraction, and soulmate connections don’t always fit into neat boxes. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
SummaryIs a Breakup Revenge Post Ever Okay?
3w ago01:35:31Summary readyJordana and Jared hang in Florida and we hear about it on today’s ep! Jordana shares what no one tells you about traveling with twins, including getting interrogated by strangers about her fertility journey, making up fake answers about how many minutes apart the babies were born! J&J get into listener questions and debate whether divorced parents should still take family photos together at a Sweet 16, unpack a chaotic breakup revenge post asking for “female references” before dating men, and decide if a man secretly liking his own Instagram posts from a finsta is a red flag or just deeply embarrassing! Plus, they break down the most unhinged first date confession ever: a guy casually calling porn “documentaries.” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
SummaryHe Won’t Go To Therapy But Says I’m the Problem
4w ago00:53:49Summary readyJared and Jordana are back with a Friday Feels episode covering everything from postpartum “groove returns” and winter baby timing to why February birthdays hit differently! They revisit the good times of Facebook event invites, group emails, and how dating used to feel before constant texting took over. A listener's email sparks a debate about “babe” texts, over-texting before a first date, and whether you should just go on the date or call it early. Then they break down a 21-year-old married listener asking if she’s incompatible with her DJ husband who refuses therapy and says she has “bad energy.” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
SummaryThe “Girl You Don’t Need to Worry About” Problem
4w ago01:25:57Summary readyJ&J are back in the studio, where Jordana reveals it’s actually pretty normal for partners to try breast milk, so does that make it weird if Jared does? Then they get into your emails, starting with a listener whose boyfriend keeps going out of his way to help a female coworker even after she said it made her uncomfortable, and why the pattern matters more than the excuse. Another listener gets love bombed all week, invited to a wedding two months out, then hits with a last minute switch to drinks and a “can we hang after if it goes well?” text before getting unmatched, and J&J explain why that feels like a setup. They also debate if saying “I’m bored” seven months in is honest or just rude, and whether telling your date you’re attracted to someone else is ever okay. Plus, a Hinge match turns dating into a job interview with phone screenings and scheduling dates a month out. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
SummaryWhy Hot Takes Are Ruining Dating Advice ft. Dear Shandy
May 100:45:34Summary readyDear Shandy hosts Sharleen Joynt and Andy Levine join Jared Freid and Jordana Abraham for a fun Friday Feels crossover at Betches HQ! We get into how they each approach dating advice, why so many people are stuck “analyzing behavior,” and the difference between being confused and just turned off. Then they play a fun round of True Love or True Likes?, reacting to famous couples like Lauren Speed & Cameron Hamilton, Jason Tartick & Kaitlyn Bristowe, Amanda Batula & Kyle Cooke, and more! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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