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Unf*ck Your Relationships
Hosted by Michelle Panning · EN
Welcome to Unf*ck Your Relationships Podcast! I'm your host Michelle Panning - intimacy alchemist AKA your love, sex, and relationship bestie, trigger queen, and founder of my signature program The Connected Woman.
I get it, you're done being left on read, getting ghosted and being caught up in a cycle of attracting emotionally unavailable men. Let's be real - you have NEEDS. You deserve it all, you deserve to feel worthy and confident. You deserve a fulfilling love life.
For years I was going through the same experiences with men over and over again that left me feeling confused, anxious, and pissed off. I silenced myself in dating and relationships because I was terrified of being judged, rejected, and abandoned. I just wanted a meaningful relationship and thought I was doing all the right things. But none of it was working.
I knew I couldn't continue to repeat the same cycle with different men.
Something had to change.
I decided in that moment that I was going to finally work on healing my own wounds and work on myself, so that I could experience a beautiful and fulfilling relationship. I decided to put myself first.
And now, with this podcast, I want to share with you the exact internal work strategies that I did to get to a place of confidence, peace, and worthiness.
You can kiss ALL of your worries and limiting beliefs around love goodbye. Are you ready? Grab your favorite glass of wine and let's get to work, because it is time to reclaim your self worth babe.
For more information about the podcast, or other ways you can work with me, visit: www.michellepanning.com
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EP 229: How to Make 2026 Your MOST Successful Year Yet
Dec 1800:29:08Tap to summarizeIn this episode of Unf*ck Your Relationships, we're building the blueprint for your most grounded, self-led, and successful year ever. Not because the calendar magically fixes your life - but because you decide to show up as the woman who no longer drags old chaos into her new chapter. 2026 is a blank slate. A reset. A clean energetic line in the sand. And the version of you who thrives next year is built from identity, habits, emotional maturity, and standards… not "new year, new me" delusion. I walk you through the exact ways to anchor into self-belief, detox 2025 without spiralling into shame, rebuild your habits, upgrade your mindset, call in healthy love, and become the woman whose life reflects her standards - not just her Pinterest board. Here's what I unpack in this episode: Claiming 2026 as Your Fresh Start Identity - Evidence Reflecting on 2025 Like a Grown Woman Habits That Match Your Goals Your 2026 Vision Intentionality Over Performance Expanding Your Comfort Zone The 1% Rule Big Dreams, Small Actions Protecting Your Energy Mindset Mastery Your Environment & Community Defining Success on Your Terms Progress Over Perfection Celebrating Every Win Reinvesting in Yourself Raising Your Standards in Love Breaking the Anxious/Avoidant Loop Shadow Work on Your Standards Embodying Your Worth Choosing Intimacy Over Chaos Becoming the Woman Who Lives Her Standards WORK WITH MICHELLE: Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a course for the woman who wants to go from anxious & self-abandoning in relationships to secure, confident and unf*ckwithable: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman Sign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): https://michellepanning.com/the-experience Sign up for THE AWAKENING RETREATS now before they sell out. These aren't just retreats. These are where we turn your inner chaos into GOLD: https://michellepanning.com/awakening CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning <p class="e-91090-text encore-text-body-medium" data-encore-id= "text" data-slate-node="element" data-slate-fragment= "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...
Transcribe →EP 228: How to Enter Your DARK FEMININE ERA
Dec 800:30:12Tap to summarizeIn this episode of Unfck Your Relationships*, we're stepping into the most misunderstood and most misused part of feminine energy: the dark feminine. Not the TikTok version. Not the "manipulate him back" bullshit. The real dark feminine. The part of you that is bold, grounded, self-protective, deeply self-respecting, and absolutely unwilling to keep abandoning herself for crumbs. Most women are living 90% in their light feminine… the sweet, nurturing, soft version of themselves and then wonder why they feel drained, overlooked, over-giving, mothering grown men, and acting like the emotional support animal of their friendships. The truth? Your light feminine didn't fail you. You were simply never taught how to access the other half of your power. In this episode, I break down how to awaken the dark feminine in a way that is empowering, not chaotic… liberating, not manipulative… and how she becomes the version of you that will literally save your fucking life. Here's what I dive into: Light vs Dark Feminine Dark Feminine ≠ Manipulation Being Willing to Be the Villain Raising Your Standards Feminine Assertiveness Mystery + Moving in Silence Self-Devotion — Your Level-Up Era Integration — How to Activate This Today This episode is your permission slip to enter the era where you don't just hope for better — you enforce it. Your dark feminine isn't dangerous. She's divine. And she's been waiting for you. WORK WITH MICHELLE: Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a course for the woman who wants to go from anxious & self-abandoning in relationships to secure, confident and unf*ckwithable: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman Sign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): https://michellepanning.com/the-experience Sign up for THE AWAKENING RETREATS now before they sell out. These aren't just retreats. These are where we turn your inner chaos into GOLD: https://michellepanning.com/awakening CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com
Transcribe →EP 227: How to Level Up So Fast It Feels Illegal
Dec 400:24:17Tap to summarizeEP 227: How to Level Up So Fast It Feels Illegal In this episode of Unfck Your Relationships, we're diving into the identity level shifts required to level up so quickly it almost feels wrong. The truth? You're not stuck because of timing, luck, or the men you date. You're stuck because your nervous system is still wired for chaos, crumbs, and chasing and you keep choosing what's familiar over what's actually good for you. I break down the real reasons you keep looping in the same patterns and how to step into the version of you who doesn't tolerate inconsistency, confusion, or emotional breadcrumbs. This is where your "Secure Her" identity gets built not from goals, but from standards, self-respect, and micro-moments of alignment. Here's what I unpack in this episode: Why You're Stuck It's not the universe or bad luck. It's the identity you're operating from and the parts of you (anxious girl, avoidant girl, cool girl, little girl) running the show. Defining Your Next-Level Self Who is "Secure Her"? What does she tolerate? What becomes a hard no? And if the world was watching you 24/7… would you be proud? Meeting the Version of You Who Already Lives There The you with standards, follow-through, nourishment, rest, boundaries, and self-respect. What does she do that you're not doing? What has she stopped tolerating? The Brutal Gap Check Where your life doesn't match your mouth: who you text, who you sleep with, your friendships, your food, your sleep, and how you talk to yourself. Your results = your standards in action. Closing the Gap With Micro-Standards One small high-standard action per day. Don't text him back. Go to bed earlier. Speak up. Walk away from what isn't a match. Let your nervous system learn that it's safe to be the new you. Expecting Backlash + Resistance Old friends will notice. Men who benefitted from your low standards will push back. Your inner child will panic because familiar feels safe. This is GOOD. Reframing the Discomfort "I'm not losing people I'm losing patterns." "I'm not being dramatic I'm raising my standards." "It's not scary it's new." At the core, leveling up this fast isn't about becoming someone new. It's about returning to the version of you who was always there the one with discernment, self-trust, and standards that feel like a full-body yes. WORK WITH MICHELLE: Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a course for the woman who wants to go from anxious & self-abandoning in relationships to secure, confident and unf*ckwithable: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman Sign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): https://michellepanning.com/the-experience Sign up for THE AWAKENING RETREATS now before they sell out. These aren't just retreats. These are where we turn your inner chaos into GOLD: https://michellepanning.com/awakening CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com
Transcribe →Episode 226: If your friends do any of these things, cut them out immediately
Dec 400:31:25Tap to summarizeIn this episode of Unfck Your Relationships*, we're going deep into the truth about female friendships, support, and the energetics behind the women you keep around you. Because here's the reality: You cannot build a powerful life while surrounding yourself with women who are secretly competing with you, resenting you, or only "supportive" when you're not doing better than them. And yet so many women tolerate friendships that drain them, make them shrink, or leave them feeling like they have to downplay their wins so someone else doesn't get jealous. That's not friendship. That's scarcity disguised as connection. This episode is your reminder that you deserve women who CELEBRATE you, not tolerate you. Women who want to see you shine. Women who support your growth instead of being threatened by it. Because aligned friendships don't cost you energy—they give you energy. Here's what I unpack in this episode: Jealous Friends Come From Scarcity Why some women get triggered by your success, your confidence, or your joy—and why their reaction is actually about their own lack, not your shine. The Desire to Be Supported How wanting support is not "needy," and how to consciously choose women who can hold you, cheer for you, and love you without competition. Friendships That Feel Like Celebration What it looks like to have women who genuinely want to see you win, and why being surrounded by expanders completely shifts your self-worth and standards. Energy Vampires & Dread Friendships The red flags of friendships you've outgrown, especially when you find yourself dreading seeing them, managing their emotions, or leaving the interaction drained. Why Upgrading Your Friend Circle Is Inevitable When You Grow The uncomfortable truth that not everyone gets to come with you when you rise… and how to release friendships with grace instead of guilt. At the core, this episode is about elevating your standards for the women you allow into your world. Because high-value women don't keep people around who pull them back into smallness. They choose connection that feels grounding, reciprocal, celebratory, and safe. You deserve friendships that expand you—not friendships you need to recover from. WORK WITH MICHELLE: Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a course for the woman who wants to go from anxious & self-abandoning in relationships to secure, confident and unf*ckwithable: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman Sign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): https://michellepanning.com/the-experience Sign up for THE AWAKENING RETREATS now before they sell out. These aren't just retreats. These are where we turn your inner chaos into GOLD: https://michellepanning.com/awakening CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com
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Episode: 225 How to RAISE YOUR STANDARDS and UPGRADE YOUR LIFE
Nov 1700:40:53Tap to summarizeWORK WITH MICHELLE: Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a course for the woman who wants to go from anxious & self-abandoning in relationships to secure, confident and unf*ckwithable: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman Sign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): https://michellepanning.com/the-experience Sign up for THE AWAKENING RETREATS now before they sell out. These aren't just retreats. These are where we turn your inner chaos into GOLD: https://michellepanning.com/awakening CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com (http://www.michellepanning.com/)
Transcribe →Episode 224: Life Lessons from a Recovering People Pleaser
Nov 1000:30:54Tap to summarizeOkay, babe… let's talk about people pleasing, because this episode is me calling myself (and you) all the way out. For years, I thought being the "chill, supportive, easygoing" partner made me good. But in reality? I was just betraying myself over and over. I wasn't setting boundaries, I was building walls and then wondering why everything exploded when I finally snapped. I share the story of how I went from spending every damn Saturday house-hunting for someone else's dream home (that I wasn't even living in!) to realising I was overextending myself because I was scared to look "selfish." In this episode, I break down: The difference between having boundaries and just having preferences. Why your energy is sacred (and not everyone deserves access). How to stop rescuing grown-ass adults and hand their emotional baggage right back to them. What "proof over promises" really looks like in love and life. And why the only people pissed about your boundaries are the ones who benefited when you didn't have any. This is your permission slip to stop apologizing for protecting your peace. You can be kind and firm. You can be soft andstrong. You can be compassionate and say "no." Stop gaslighting your feelings just to make other people comfortable. If that makes you "too much," so be it. WORK WITH MICHELLE: Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a course for the woman who wants to go from anxious & self-abandoning in relationships to secure, confident and unf*ckwithable: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman Sign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): https://michellepanning.com/the-experience Sign up for THE AWAKENING RETREATS now before they sell out. These aren't just retreats. These are where we turn your inner chaos into GOLD: https://michellepanning.com/awakening CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com
Transcribe →Episode 223: Stop Calling It Love…You're Just Abandoning Yourself
Nov 200:39:34Tap to summarizeIn this episode of Unf*ck Your Relationships, I'm calling BS on the fluffy, feel-good version of "self-love." Because let's be real… bubble baths and affirmations don't fix years of self-abandonment. I get raw about my own story of being the "ultimate caretaker", the one holding everything together, doing the emotional labor, and calling it love. Spoiler alert: it wasn't love, it was survival. And it left me exhausted, resentful, and disconnected as hell. I break down what it really looks like to stop people-pleasing and start standing the f*ck up for yourself…even when it makes others uncomfortable. Here's what we get into: Why "acting single" in a relationship might be the healthiest move you ever make How to spot the sneaky ways you keep abandoning yourself What self-respect and emotional discipline actually look like (hint: it's not being the chill girl) The power of saying "no," sending the meal back, and owning your standards Why advocating for your needs is a flex…not a flaw How to rebuild self-trust and stop outsourcing your worth By the end, I'll remind you of one thing every woman needs to hear: No one's coming to save you, babe…you're the damn hero of your own story. It's time to stop settling, stop shrinking, and start showing up like the woman who knows exactly who she is. WORK WITH MICHELLE: Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a course for the woman who wants to go from anxious & self-abandoning in relationships to secure, confident and unf*ckwithable: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman Sign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): https://michellepanning.com/the-experience Sign up for THE AWAKENING RETREATS now before they sell out. These aren't just retreats. These are where we turn your inner chaos into GOLD: https://michellepanning.com/awakening CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com
Transcribe →Episode 222: How to Stop the Emotional Whiplash of Fearful Avoidance
Oct 2600:28:00Tap to summarizeIn this episode of Unfck Your Relationships, I dive into the fearful avoidant attachment style sometimes called anxious avoidant and the blind spots that come with it. This was once my dominant attachment style, and even now I can see how it still pops up in relationships. Unlike anxious or dismissive avoidants, the fearful avoidant flips between hyper-activation (all emotion, seeking closeness, reassurance, and validation) and deactivation (withdrawal, coldness, the "ick," detachment). This creates emotional whiplash for partners, leaving them unsure which version of you they're going to get. Here's what I unpack in this episode: Logic vs. Emotion – How fearful avoidants have access to both, but rarely integrate them at the same time. The Pendulum Swing – Why you may go from desperate for closeness one week to completely withdrawn the next. The "Lost Myself" Myth – Why feeling like you "lost yourself" in a relationship often just means hidden parts of you have been triggered. The Mask Crumbling – How the persona you've built (cool girl, caregiver, rescuer, strong independent woman) eventually cracks under stress, leaving you scattered and disconnected. The Integration Work – Using both emotion and logic as data, building authenticity, and leaning into micro-moments of vulnerability instead of extreme swings. Practical Tips – For anxious-leaning FAs: keep a scorecard of consistency and non-negotiables so you don't abandon yourself. For avoidant-leaning FAs: practice small disclosures and direct asks to build capacity for intimacy without shutting down. At the core, being a fearful avoidant isn't about shame, it's about learning integration, self-compassion, and balance. When you use both emotion and logic together, you can move toward secure love without the constant pendulum swings. WORK WITH MICHELLE: Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a course for the woman who wants to go from anxious & self-abandoning in relationships to secure, confident and unf*ckwithable: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman Sign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): https://michellepanning.com/the-experience Sign up for THE AWAKENING RETREATS now before they sell out. These aren't just retreats. These are where we turn your inner chaos into GOLD: https://michellepanning.com/awakening CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com
Transcribe →Episode 221: Why Logic Won't Save You in Love
Oct 1900:24:17Tap to summarizeIn this episode of Unfck Your Relationships, I'm breaking down the blind spots of the dismissive avoidant attachment style. If you've ever felt confused about why you (or your partner) shut down, withdraw, or over-rely on logic in relationships, this episode will give you clarity and a new way forward. Here's what I dive into: Logic vs. Love – Why relying on logic and analysis won't create real intimacy. Where It Starts – How childhood environments that dismissed emotions shaped these defense patterns. The Hidden Cycle – How conflicts get rationalized away, leading to the same fights and disconnection repeating. Cut Off From Pain – Why avoiding your emotions also cuts you off from your body's wisdom and intuition. The Path Forward – Learning to balance logic with emotion, validate your own needs, and stay in connection even when it feels uncomfortable. This episode is for both dismissive avoidants who want to understand themselves better, and anxious partners who are trying to make sense of their avoidant loved ones. My goal is to bring empathy, clarity, and practical tools to both sides so you can create more safety and connection. WORK WITH MICHELLE: Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a course for the woman who wants to go from anxious & self-abandoning in relationships to secure, confident and unf*ckwithable: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman Sign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): https://michellepanning.com/the-experience Sign up for THE AWAKENING RETREATS now before they sell out. These aren't just retreats. These are where we turn your inner chaos into GOLD: https://michellepanning.com/awakening CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com
Transcribe →Episode 220: The Hidden Patterns Keeping You Stuck in Love
Oct 1200:29:43Tap to summarizeIn this episode of Unf*ck Your Relationship, I dig into the blind spots of anxious attachment, the hidden patterns that keep you stuck in the same cycles, even when you think you've "done the work." I explain why reflection alone isn't enough, because you can only reflect on what you're consciously aware of. Blind spots live in the shadows the parts of yourself you deny, repress, or don't even know exist. And until you shine light on those, you'll keep repeating the same patterns in love, friendships, and even business. Here's what I explore in this episode: Your strength as someone with anxious attachment The shadow side of that strength How failing to hold boundaries often leads to resentment, misplaced blame, and feeling abandoned. Why sourcing safety from within not from your partner is the foundation of secure love. How building a full life outside of relationships makes you more attractive, grounded, and secure. Why pacing yourself in love is crucial to avoiding cycles of clinginess, panic, and destabilisation. I also share a personal story about noticing when I wanted my partner to uphold a boundary that was actually mine to hold a powerful reminder that no one else can honour your limits for you. At the heart of this episode, I want you to know: your open heart is a gift. But your lesson is learning to protect it, pace it, and recognise your value, so you don't hand it over to just anyone without discernment. WORK WITH MICHELLE: Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a course for the woman who wants to go from anxious & self-abandoning in relationships to secure, confident and unf*ckwithable: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman Sign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): https://michellepanning.com/the-experience Sign up for THE AWAKENING RETREATS now before they sell out. These aren't just retreats. These are where we turn your inner chaos into GOLD: https://michellepanning.com/awakening CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com
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