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She flowing in that cash talk. Walk in the booth like Naomi on.
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The cat bar and tell them from.
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The jaguar, it ain't even right though. Push me and I might go, she ain't getting money. I'm like, what the the hype for when them bitches bite flow make my appetite go poof. Gone. Voila. Magic. Looking mad good just to pull up on them.
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Ramping. Welcome back to another episode of Unhinged and. And Immoral. I don't know what camera to look at because same the way, the way this camera is. And then Jamila has also angled herself not straight frontal. I'm looking at her profile and I'm also kind of. She's also kind of looking at me.
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Don't look straight into that camera.
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So I wish you guys could see. Oh, well, obviously you saw, but you did see from my perspective anyway. Whoa. It's been a hell of a week. Some really cool shit happened. Like right before this, Mona, AKA Don't Call Me White Girl hopped into our pre podcast live and was kind of giving us flatwares. Like, oh my God, girl, you know who we are. About a year ago, my time on TikTok, really, I can't. I don't know when things happened anymore, but I definitely remember that people were saying she wasn't funny. And I was on there like screaming.
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Just getting in line.
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I said, oh, well, you know what, I don't know, like if she's not your brand of humor, you know, and I can, like, that would be a better argument. And even then we can kind of, you know, pick at, pick at that.
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That's how I know you.
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Right? Right. No, no. Even then it's like, well, what do you think is funny? Are you an elitist? You know, but like I said, but I mean, that bitch is funny. Like I put her to the day.
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Undoubtedly somebody ain't doing a bathroom.
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One hand on neck, one hand on frontal. Mona single handedly got me through the pandemic. That's why that was so crazy. It was us quoting all of her shit back to her. Like, she's probably like, bitch, I fucking know I said it.
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No, literally, literally. But yeah, that was fun.
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That was super fun. So what you been up to, Jamila? Quick recap of, you know, this weekend. You've been trotting around outside is what I'm saying. I know you went to see Usher. Yeah.
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Yes. Let me tell you something about Usher. First of all, Usher has been in my, my top faves forever. And on top of that, he's been on, like, my bucket list of people absolutely live. So I'm like, I'm really glad I got to see him live because if you went to his show, you would know that it was very much. I don't want to say it was a farewell tour, but it was very much a greatest hits tour. And those are the ones you really want to go to. So I'm, like, very, very grateful that I was able to attend.
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He did so good.
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Like, obviously, I love Usher so much. So, like, I'm singing all the song, I'm having a good time, I'm lusting.
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Over him, and I'm just like, listen, wait. So we went to the Houston show here in Houston. Me, Sabrina, and I was sitting next to Sabrina, and I didn't even post this video on TikTok. I actually didn't remember making it because we were incredibly inebriated at the Houston show, as we should have been. I was the girlies. The girlies who were closer to the floor being sexy. I said I couldn't even be at an extra concert like that. I could only be at Escher concert. How I was. I was in a cute outfit, but I wasn't not. I wasn't in anything super sexy. I was in, like, a. More of an upscale, like, lounge fit. And I needed to be because I was jumping around. I was drunk. I was screaming old N winning. When he came out in that big red fire, I said, big daddy, he gave us white. Here is the thing.
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He gave us white.
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Oh, he gave y'all white.
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He gave us red at the Houston show.
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Oh, my God. You know what's crazy? Usher was like, my very first, like, obsession. Like, when I. Like the first boy I really liked and everyone knew I liked. This was back when he dropped Confessions. And then when I was in third.
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Grade, everybody was down bad for Confessions.
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In third grade, my mom went to the beauty supply or the pawn shop and she got me this dog tag with Usher on it. Back when wearing dog tags was real, was real cool.
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Oh, what a time.
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I wish I wore that dog tag into the fucking floor and I don't even know where. Like. Like to the point where I was a kid, obviously, so it had scratches and everything on it. It wasn't even nice at the point where the last time I saw it, the.
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The early 2000s accessories alone. Jameela, do you remember the pacifiers that were. Get out of my brain. Get out of my brain. Get out my brain.
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That was crazy. Just now. That's literally exactly what. Whoa. That was freaky. As fuck, Jameela. I was about to literally say the light up Pacifiers, bitch. The ones that used to stroll.
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The belts. The belts with our name.
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And it was like. It was like the Going billboard and it would say your name. My cousins All Jazz had one that.
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Had little J.J. and so I would steal hers. And yes, because we were both Jays.
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But my cousin had the one that was electric and it had the. The words sliding across.
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She was elite.
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She was. No, no, no, no, no.
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Elite.
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I. I couldn't wait to be a big girl and get and wear that. That's why some of the trends coming back. I just made a video about this yesterday. The Jordan heels, the. The sneaker heels. I. Y'all will not shame me. And I'm so excited because I remember it being 2004 and being in Dillard's or whatever shoe store we were in, and they had like literal Jordan heels. Watching my cousins try them on and thinking like, this is a core memory. I can't wait to get grown and wear those. And so seeing people drag them for so long has really hurt my spirit because I really like them.
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I wish my mom wasn't such so much of a throwawayer because I always am. So, like, we have to keep these things.
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Like, everything that goes around comes around. I'm not even gonna lie. My is the opposite.
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And it's our.
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My mom is the opposite. There was so much. Remember when the Cosby sodas were coming back in high school. We're aging ourselves. We're aging ourselves. We've been doing that now. I don't mind aging myself. I'm okay with my age. But in high school, when the Cosby starters were cool, I was in my mama's closet. Heavy. Heavy. Like, when I say art, like what we're talking about archiving pieces, like, and my mom was like. And that, you know, everything that goes around comes around. And she would just let me wear all this old shit she had from the 80s. And I would like, literally, I have pictures of me in like, the swishy. The swishy sweatsuits and stuff. They were really cool at that point as well. All like the 90s, big, geometric, abstract. What are the symbols or designs is what I'm trying to say.
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I only have one thing that my mom kept, and it's this big ass denim coat, like, that I've kept on.
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Because I remember the cup. Didn't you bring to Hampton? I brought mine too, remember? Remember I had one too.
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Wash.
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Yes.
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Yes, it was. And like, inside it has all these patterns. I'm like, let me get.
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Yeah, that's hard. It's still hard. I wear that today. Matter of fact, I need to find mine.
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Absolutely.
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I don't know. It's somewhere in here, but everything else.
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My mama be throwing away, and I'm like, damn, if we would. If I would have still had that little JJ belt, baby, I would have wore that to the ushers. That's a piece. That's what you call a piece.
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When I say I was really swooning at Usher. I just. I don't even know I was telling you this.
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No, I was, like, making eye contact.
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Oh, you were that close.
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I just was. I was. I was just imagining myself. I'm just like. There was some. When he started singing Seduction Baby, I was like.
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So he bought out Nelly, and he brought out Carl Thomas during the Houston show. And I know your sister was at that show, too. Your sister and your cousin were at that show. And we were literally texting during the show like, bitch, is that Carl Thomas? And we were like, oh, my God. Like, girl, it was so Good.
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We got K.C.
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Oh, at Atlanta.
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Yes. We got Ludacris, obviously, Crime mob. And TI TI shut that bitch down.
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Well, no, no, no. You know what? Who. I just saw this tweet, or maybe it was a TikTok, but no, I think it was a tweet. Someone was saying, I hate that this generation of kids don't know this TI and it was like, I don't.
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They don't know.
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They don't know who. Like, the real that. All they know is this nigga who want to do comedy and say big words.
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What? You know what?
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By like, I was like, no, this guy is actually like a musical legend.
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When he came out, and it's like, imagine us being in Atlanta, right? No, no, no. I TI Coming out in a full leather suit. A leather. A leather leisure.
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No TI at an Usher concert. That sound like that is something I.
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Would want to be sat for so good.
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No, no, no, no.
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It was so.
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I can only imagine because when Nelly came out, we were going crazy.
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That's so funny.
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And I ain't gonna lie. Nelly's still fine. Old niggas winning. I was on TikTok last night talking about Damon. Wayne has been fine. I thought he was finding major pain. When I was a kid, I said, oh, well, I like the way he looked.
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He was always. Well, when he let that hairline go.
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That'S when he got fine. And isn't that the thing?
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Kim and Marlon, the finest Waynes.
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You don't think Sean fine.
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Kim is fine as Shawn and Marlon are the finest.
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Waynes. Oh, oh, oh, okay. Well, Kim is very fine. Kim husband is fine as hell too. Kim got her. I don't know if you. White Hispanic. He's thumb. He a Rico Suave ass looking. He fine as.
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I just meant who I was addressing.
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Oh, Marlon is fine. As though. Marlon is 90s Marlin and a goofball.
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And he's so funny. Like, oh, he's just my type.
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He does have a bit of bisexual energy. Not in a disrespectful way, but we've been talking about your type every week and I see how Marlon falls into that because he does have a bit of androgyny about him because the more.
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I start to, like, uncover, like, drop little peeps like y'all are starting.
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Yeah, we're able to identify your exact type. Like, Marlon falls into that. He's very pretty in the face is what I'm saying. Yes. Soft features.
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Exactly.
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I get it.
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And even with Usher, like, Usher is very. He's always been, like, known as pretty boy.
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Like, he's very. The andromedy.
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Very pretty. Such a cute smile with them dimples.
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That's cute. That's cute. Okay, well, yes, it's been a lot going on this week with Tick tock and the hot topics on Tick Tock. And there's something that.
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Clearly, I'm the hot topic.
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I'm not gonna lie. Scrolling Tick Tock and seeing yourself on the live green screens in the back is insane.
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Is that me on the jump?
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Is this play about us?
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Mind you.
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Oh, sorry. Well, now.
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Siri, Siri, wait, wait, wait, wait.
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Siri just gagged us. Is this play about us? I don't know how to respond to that.
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I'm crying. Yeah, it's funny because, like, as everything was going down, I'm scrolling on Tick tock and I know they say, like, take time to yourself. Filter out your TikTok so that you. No, unfortunately, like, I have fomo. I actually do want to know what everybody's saying because I also want to be, like, aware. I want to know, like, okay, like, I want to ingest all the things because I actually do enjoy people's commentary and I want to understand, like, how are y'all ingesting this situation? How are y'all feeling about the situation? I don't want to just be one sided and only have my viewpoint. So I genuinely want to see how everything was playing out on the timeline, even though it was still trippy. To be like, so Jameela. So, Jamila, do you know this trick? That. Jamila. Jamila. I'm like, ooh, this is actually kind of crazy. And then scrolling through, seeing my face, like something crazy. Like, y'all always got the craziest fucking screenshots. No, there was one video.
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There was one video where you and homegirl. Y'all pictures was very good. Like, they took professional headshots and they took the craziest screenshot of me. And I said, wait, they were talking about the bullying? And I got in the comments, I said, I mean, based on this picture of me, is this not bullying?
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Because.
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No. The way they used your headshots and used me and my mouth was open. I was like. I was like, oh, my God, that is so crazy. Why would y'all do that? Y'all trying to be funny.
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Okay. It was definitely a couple of lives. And without, you know, on TikTok, if you scroll, you can kind of watch live without tapping in.
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I love to live. I love to do that.
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You'll never know I was here. I'm lurking from the shadows, right? So I was doing that to a couple of people's lives. I promise you, at this point, if you've made a video about the situation, I've seen it. Have you blocked a couple on all sides? I have blocked a couple people. For me, it wasn't more. So I wasn't just blocking people who disagree with me because, I mean, you can have your own thoughts, but there were people who actually lost they fucking mind and was talking about me in a way really nasty way. You got to get black people.
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So Darrington was trolling this stud who made a video. Mind you, the video didn't get a whole bunch of views, and. And it was Darrington who saw it. So that tells you a little bit about his fucking for you page. But the video was nasty. She called us.
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Oh, wow.
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Uneducated alcoholics. That. And that's why, like, stitched it and said, yeah, they're.
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I didn't see it.
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No, no, go to. Darren. If you go to Darrington's for tick tock. He stitched it and he was. Laugh, mind you. He's laughing. He's geeked. He's like, yeah, there are.
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Of course he is. Because he's.
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No, he was like, yeah, tell him. Show the.
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Wait, no, actually, no, I have to bring it up to go find it.
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And then why he gonna be in the. And then he was like, I know one of them personally, and they are. They're alcoholics.
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Said, yo.
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Then Darrington quoted again, like, the. The stud and Dar going back and forth. And basically. No, that's the one. I was about to tell you that. That was the last one she came back at. Darington was like, I'mma show you your G spots in your ass. And Darrington was like, whoa, wait, watch the whole video. Hold it down and show you that.
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Your G spots in your. So what the Darlington don't take seriously. I want to see where alcoholics is crazy because I barely drink.
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So that was the funny part. I was like, well, Jameela actually doesn't drink like that. She's more of a smoker. I'm the drinker. But, you know, I think that as someone who thinks everything is funny, I just was like. And also, it wasn't my first time on the chopping block on TikTok and being perceived. And I literally just made a video about this last night. I was kind of saying that it never gets less crazy seeing people have such strong opinions about you, but it. Yeah, it does get a bit easier. And so I have definitely mastered. Okay, I'm. I'm. I'm at capacity with Tick Tock today. It's time to turn my phone off for my mental health, and I'm gonna go be outside. And that's the one thing I can say about having, like, a good friend group here in Houston. I just made sure that all last week, I was hanging out with my friends for real, you know, like, yeah, the. The Internet news cycle, like, we're not even in it no more. Do you see how it was, like, three, four days? Okay, that's it.
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I was just more so. I don't even know. I was in kind of like, a disillusioned state. And the. The second day, or I guess like, the main day of it, like, it was so much happening. Of course we had to record the podcast. We had to do this. But the very next day, like, I didn't realize, like, I didn't sleep that night, so. Or I didn't sleep well. So during the day, after I had made, like, a video or two, I had ordered me some food, I knocked out, and I was.
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No, I remember I tried to call you, and I was gonna tell you something. I was gonna tell you something. And that's how I was.
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I said, oh.
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I said, yeah, let me just talk. Talk to you when you get about your nap because you clearly not awake.
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Yeah, I literally had to sleep. Like, I was so tired and exhausted. But I'm not gonna Lie. Like it, it was like it was a learning experience. Just all in all, like it definitely. It was a practicing experience for me. I guess if you could say like all of this, like, how do you deal with all this pressure? How do you deal with all of these eyes? How do you deal with all of these opinions? How do you deal with being perceived in all these different ways? And I feel like I did.
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Okay, so the whole time we're like, now, mind you, we were just talking about this on live. The girls are like. And y'all say y'all PR girls. First of all, Jamila and I, we don't work in pr. We say all the time. I know, I've said, this is something I just enjoy. I enjoy shooting the shits. I enjoyed studying pr. I enjoyed my classes. So it's something that I enjoy talking about. But I don't work in there because I didn't want to work in pr. Do you know what I'm saying? So I don't consider myself the most expert person in pr. I. Something I enjoy and I enjoy rapping about and making guesses about what could possibly happen. But what makes a good PR professional is getting in the field and actually making the mistakes and considering all factors. And this is. I know that y'all think we're dumb ass bitches. We don't even handle our own pr. We have, we have PR people. So when people are saying like, oh, they think they. I'm like, well, you know, we're talking about me because I don't handle my own shit because I'm not an idiot.
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When people attempt to be shaped. First of all, let me tell you something. I. It takes a lot for me to actually take things seriously, to be honest with you. Like, because that's just the type of person I am. I'm very unserious. I grew up in a family where all we did was prank each other. Like, I used to come home and, and, and the first thing I'm thinking about is how can I scare my brother to death? You know what I'm saying? Like, I. Right? And so it's like, that's the type of family I come from, an unserious family.
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And my family gets drunk at funerals. So maybe we are alcoholics. I don't know.
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I already take things seriously. So when I see you guys attempting to be shady to me, it's like, okay, like, just because you know pr, you study PR doesn't mean you're good in pr. Well, I never said I was a PR expert. I Never said that I was a publicist. I never said that I ever worked in the field. All I said was, I have a background in PR because that's what I studied in school, and I did. And. But is that what I do on my page? Am I claiming to be a PR professional? No. No, sister, I'm not. I'm claiming to be funny that I.
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Can stand on and that I can stand on. And you will not say that. I'm not. I won't allow it. Put a vote out anyway. Let me watch those B words.
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I end up in ocean.
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We're gonna take a break.
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And Rebecca.
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Well, you know, I got. They were. Mecca blocked me, and I knew the videos were coming. I remember I texted. I texted you and was like, the videos are coming. Because I just felt like the people who I blocked, I just. The opinions were a bit too strong for me. And this was even really. This wasn't even really about me. That was a thing. And I just felt like I don't really feel like you should have access to me, you know? And I. And I. I've been on the chopping block enough times and remained unbiased enough times on TikTok that it's kind of like, okay, well, this time I'm just not. I'm just going block. And it shouldn't be no issue. Right? Because wasn't that what this was? All of it? Okay, yeah. And then that was the crazy part in the video.
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Now, she.
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She literally referenced.
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But I thought.
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But I thought, oh, but this is not like how. When they made. And that's why I was saying in the video. She said that. I said, but no. Yes, it is. No. Yes. We're all doing the same thing. Like, what the. What the is going on? I'm in the Twilight Zone the way. And then this was the other part that was. All of a sudden, everyone's trying to shame us for being regular. I said, oh, now being regular is not cool.
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The funny part about this happening outside of the main funny parts is like, the amount of hypocrisies and ironies that was happening real in time. It's like.
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And that's what I was saying. We have to. When I was texting our publicist valise, she was like, go ahead, put that back in the drafts. Because when I say. Yeah, when I say I want it.
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To be like, not that one.
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This don't make no sense. Mecca, go ahead. Just. Just shut up.
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Just leave it in.
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Just hush. And I don't know how Beyonce does it. I don't know how Beyonce doesn't cuss everyone out all the time. Like, I was literally telling Valis this. I was like, I just want to literally tell everyone to shut the fuck up. And the best thing I could do was sing High School Musical. And then when I did that, they were saying I was crashing out. So. Oh, Mecca's crashing out.
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Crash out, Mecca.
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And it's crazy because as a retired crash out, you don't even know what crashing out is. I can show you crashing out. Like, seriously.
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But that.
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This is not that. Seeing High School Musical into my phone is not that. And then it was also interesting kind of people who follow me and know I make 17 videos a day were also like, wait, you guys are simply here just to hate. Because this is actually regular scheduled programming.
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And for me, I've always been like this move on. Like, I literally don't like to talk about the same topic anyway about anything. So, like, the people coming on new videos, trying to bring up this topic, girl, I. I moved on. It's literally 2028.
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It's been 84 years. So I finally did put up my Francesco Ramsey wallpaper. Me and Jamila are now matching finally. And so that's why we're at different angles, because we had. I will. I had to rearrange my recording room or my loft. I put. I brought my TV up here and I have a stand. It's giving, like, little living workroom. It's very cute. I'm excited to make it kind of like a open concept office studio situation. So I'm definitely not done, but this was really encouraging.
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That's why I needed to declutter my office, because I needed it to actually be a functional workspace.
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Right.
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Because it was. It was a mess, actually.
B
Speaking of another podcast, Jamila, if a man was with you, if you're with a man for nine years and you found out he cheated twice, and. And someone wrote in to us, what would be the advice you would give that young lady?
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Divorce. Divorce.
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Divorce. That's an option. Divorce. That's an option.
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Divorce is always an option.
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It's always an option. Let's consider if we were to tell her not to leave, because I just want. I just want to give a nuanced take as a child of divorce. A nuanced take. My parents did try and make their marriage work for several reasons, obviously, because I do think that they both did want to make their marriage work, but they had a lot of money and shit wrapped up in each other. And, you know, sometimes you gotta consider Kids, money, some people. Sometimes you really cannot even afford to get divorced. Neither one of you can. And then after my parents did get divorced, we ended up having to move to the hood for a couple years, which is where there's always like, if we're from Sacramento, when people be like, oh, metavue Mecca. And I talk about taking 81, that was like right after my parents like were separating and divorcing and you know, finances were different, you know, and this is crazy because you're, you grew up and you're accustomed to a certain type of lifestyle and all of a sudden you're in like a different area and a different vibe, a different socioeconomic class. I, you know, we were honestly, me and Darren to, you know, that's one thing I'll say about me and my brother. We do think everything's funny. We find joy and everything. And we was rolling with the punches. We got outside while the neighborhood kids. So that's what is like, we have, we do have a little street cred. We have a little bit because we were outside for a little moment, a little bit. But you know, when stuff like that happens, I do understand why. Oh, it's not that just easy to get up and leave. Sometimes you do have to plan.
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Yeah, there's definitely a lot of. I mean, it's. Even when you're in a relationship that's not marriage. If you're just in a regular boyfriend, girlfriend type of situation, it's sometimes hard to leave. Then as I can say from experience, it's not always just the easiest thing. But I will say being a person that came from a situation where cheating was an actual thing, I knew that I couldn't. Like that is such a level of disrespect for so many different reasons. Especially because I feel like most of the time, most of the time now this isn't all. But most of the time when cheating happens, the relationship was also not good. Like the relationship was not stellar. So imagine we're already going through tough times and we're already trying to fix ourselves. We're already trying to get over these so called humps in the relationship. And then you cheat. Damn, nigga. Can we at least get over the hump before you, you know what I'm saying? So then it just adds an extra layer. It's rare that a perfectly healthy, amazing relationship and a nigga's cheating or the girl is cheating because it was, you know, well.
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So like I feel like the first time my ex cheated, I was really caught off guard, like legitimately.
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Which it can be. Okay. You was really caught off guard. So you felt like Yalls relationship was, like, pristine, healthy.
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I would say the first time my ex cheated, I was legitimately caught off guard. I thought we had a great relationship. Now the subsequent times after that, it was like, okay, what you're talking about. But the very first time, I legitimately was like, what I thought. Like, no, just gagged. I was gooped and gagged. I thought we were doing great, but that just speaks to how, like, naive I was. Because hindsight 20 20. Maybe the signs were there, but maybe not. Because he definitely did that very first time. I do feel at some, like, at some level we were quote, unquote happy. Because he also didn't show a lot of signs. I think the hindsight signs were more so right around the time I found out, like, how he reacted to me finding out.
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But, like, before that started getting weird.
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Do you get what I'm saying? Like, when I once. Because she came to me as a woman. So once that happened.
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Don't we love when that happens? I too, have been gamed. You as a woman.
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Ira would never do that. Anyway. That's a whole separate conversation. I. You bitches. You bitches, child. There's no good intentions behind that. But never they. I just. Before that, he held it together. So I. I really didn't have a reason to even suspect anything. Okay, but what's even making us talk about this is. I feel like we're talking without context. The. The podcast, some. Everything is an inside joke. The podcast that Summer Walker and Sexyy Red did, where a. A lady wrote in, asked the same question, and they just told her to stay. Cheating twice isn't that big of a deal. Um, that is clearly speaking from relationship trauma, which is sad.
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Absolutely. It is sad. I said, aw, poor ladies.
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I thought Sexyy Red was trolling when she was messing with Chief Keef. Um, I did not realize.
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So they really date.
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I get that's what they were saying in my TikTok comments. Because that coming from Summer was not surprising. No shade. If you listen to Summer's music and you see how she moves, she's the one who told us that her mom, like, everyone in her family's gotten cheated on. Like, okay, yeah, I. That was not surprising that that was her hot take. Sexy. I was surprised because I genuinely thought this was all a troll, but clearly not. So. You know, I don't know.
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It's. It's like, damn. Like, no, I get where they're coming from. Absolutely. As far as feeling like, every nigga cheats. Because it's not that I think that, but it's also not that I don't think that. Like, I just have. I've experienced and I have seen a lot of men do some really fucked up shit. So it's like, again, it's not that I think that that's necessarily true that all men cheat, but I also don't not think.
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I think two things can be true at once.
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I don't know. Y'all ain't right. Y'all ain't right.
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I. I think we're here. I don't think every man cheats, but I think a lot of men cheat.
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I think a good portion of y'all do.
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A good amount of them do. But I don't think it's everyone.
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Yeah.
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And I think that I say about.
A
70, 30, not the actual number.
B
I just think that as a woman, you have to. Non attachment is the name of the game. And I just feel like sometimes I'm not talking about with the marriage and the money, like what I was talking about before. I'm talking about with your actual feelings. Jada Pinkett Smith changed my fucking life with that red table talk. Bad marriage for life.
A
I love her down.
B
No. And this is why niggas hate her. Seriously, when that bitch sat there and said, first of all, both Will and Jada, their philosophies, I see how they're together because they, in their conversation, he said something and then she said something. And the whole sum of the conversation or that piece of the conversation really altered my brain chemistry. The first thing that Will said, I believe was, I cannot make her happy. You, like the person you're in a relationship cannot make you happy. You have to come into the relationship happy and secure in yourself. I can only add onto your happiness. That's kind of. That's what Will said. And then Jado said he a with that. He ate. He ate. Because people often get into relationships like, this is gonna make me happy. And baby, how are you gonna win when you ain't right within? You know what I'm saying? Like, if you're already lost in the sauce, you're just putting another person in the mix. Another piece of seasoning in the mix that's still lost in the sauce. Then Jada followed up and said, I don't fear experiences ending. I don't fear great experiences ending, because I know God is going to bring me the next great experience. And if you couple being secure and being happy and then that lack of fear in terms of I'm not afraid of losing anyone because I know you. I'm gonna get someone else, and it's gonna be just as great. And so you can, if you think like that, it allows you to enjoy everybody at max potential. You're not worried about, oh, what if this goes wrong? What if it does? What if it does? And if it does, I'll money say, I'm gonna get another. And I have a great time then. And I get into the nigga and I have a great time then.
A
You just. You literally just have to. You have to. They're like, there's no other choice but to move on. And what's crazy is I you, unfortunately, sometimes you don't really learn that until you get through some fucked up, traumatizing action. And I hate that a lot of times we have to, like, experience the hard shit in order to realize. But I am telling you, y'all know I be saying pre and post, pre and post, pre Noah Jameela was so goddamn lost in my mind about what made sense, about how to do what, how to move, how to date, what makes sense for me, what I even liked post Noah Jameela. My God.
B
My God.
A
The way that I date now, the way that I experience. Experience men now, the way that I am so not in a chokehold behind certain things. Like, don't get me wrong, I still can. I. I'm always going to be a very emotional person.
B
Right? That's your personality archetype.
A
Right? And I don't want to lose that. I don't want to become numb. I don't want to become this nonchalant brick wall. But the way that I'm able to be like, okay, this situation didn't end well. Thank you, good sir, and I thank.
B
You for your time.
A
Move on.
B
And I did you.
A
I'm also no longer. I'm no longer afraid to also just, like, say exactly what I feel like I used to be. So, like, oh, I don't want to say this because I don't want him to think I'm this. I don't want to say.
B
You're not trying to be the cool girl. I don't want to. I don't want you to think I'm a cool girl. I'm not cool.
A
I'm actually express my emotions.
B
I'm gonna say everything.
A
I'm hot. I'm very hot. I have like. I'm very emotional, and I don't think there's anything wrong with being emotional.
B
I think it's.
A
I think it's a Superpower. I'm very in tune with my emotions. I am very articulate in the way that I express myself. I mean what I say, and I say what I mean. Like, you should never be confused when I speak, actually, because I'm very careful with my words. It's a skill of actually, that I've worked on with being able to communicate my feelings. Like, that I'm very proud of, so.
B
No, you should be.
A
Yeah, nigga.
B
Like, I don't, like, make it seem like, you know how, like, okay, if you're in a situationship and y'all are talking for six months, and then y'all stop talking and people act like they're not sad. Well, here's the thing. It's okay to be sad. You talk to someone every day for six months. You've literally become accustomed to them. Like, and this is ending. It's what you. What you don't need to be. Is Lost any sauce over it. But, like, don't act like a psychopath. What is it? A psychopath or a sociopath that doesn't have those feelings? Like, that's weird either. Or, like, I don't. I don't like.
A
Yeah, whichever one is, I don't like how.
B
You know, we kind of. It's cool to act like you don't give a. No, it's not. I give a. About any man I talk to. I be. That's my man.
A
Yeah, like, because obviously, I'm swear I'm talking.
B
Why is you being mean to me?
A
Yeah, like, what's that about? I remember I was talking to this guy, and I felt like things had just got weird. And so I, like, was like, hey, like, things are getting weird type. Like, why are you being weird? Type shit. That little conversation and his response was such an immature, elementary response. I had to check him on that. His response was the old, I mean, shit, we not together. I'mma stop you right there, nigga. I don't. What the fuck? I hate when niggas go to. Y'all together.
B
We're 30.
A
Fuck you. First of all, bitch, I never thought we was together.
B
And I don't like when they insinuate that we don't understand that.
A
Like, it's like, I know that. And I'm not asking you what we're doing. I know what we're doing. But boyfriend or not, you should be nice to me. Don't ever.
B
What the. Are you being rude?
A
Because you're not my. You need to just start being mean to me. Be nice every. I don't like Mean, I don't want a mean.
B
Be nice. You know, when the girls be like, I like a mean ass. Not me.
A
I.
B
You know what I like? What I do like is a quiet. Like a. We talked about this. Like, a very calm.
A
I don't even want no calm because I'm.
B
I'm very high energy. Like, I'm a lot.
A
I need an. I need you to be just as hyper as me. Oh, well, that's a lot because I actually. I. I know, but I actually. You know how people get overstimulated? I, too, get overstimulated, but I'm also. I get understimulated. I think I made that up. But I get under. Stimulated. I need stimuli. I need consistent stimulation because I'm very like.
B
Well, I also think, okay, we have lived together, so you know how like, when it's like, when you're just in the house with. Like, if we're just in the house, I will, like, go sit down and be quiet. Like, I don't have to be on. I don't have to be on 10 at all moments. Okay, well, last time I was at Jameela's house when I was. I was actually sleeping on the couch she's sitting on, and I was, like, in there with the door closed. I just needed a moment. Social media was out. I need to recharge.
A
My social media doesn't stop until I'm laying in the bed to go to sleep. Like, I'm always like, hey, anybody want to talk?
B
At what music fest, we had to wake up, and I tried to wake Jameela up. First of all, she was laying, like, on her back like this. I don't know what we was doing. Everyone was tired, but we had to wake up. And I started at the doorway. I was like. I knocked on her door and nothing. So I open the door and say, jameela. Nothing. And it's like, progressively me creeping closer. Jameela. Jameela. Until I'm literally standing over her and I'm like, mind you, I'm tapping her leg. She's not feeling it. So then I'm like. In my head, I'm like, oh, my God, this bitch is going to make me hit her. So I give her a very, like, kind of hard tap on the leg. Mind you, I've been saying her name for all of, like, five to six minutes. She goes.
A
Okay, so listen, I am a very deep sleeper, okay? And, you know, actually putting this in context right now, it kind of makes sense because I am so very, like, you're Depleted all day. By the time, baby, I'm ready to go to sleep, I knock the fuck out. Like, my brain has to literally knock me out. And I am dead. When I'm sleep, I am in very deep sleep. Everybody knows that. Like, when I'm sleep, baby, I'm asleep. And I also, because I'm such a deep sleeper, waking me up is like, you have to be careful waking me up sometimes. Because I also. I've had a history of sleepwalking. I haven't sleep sleepwalked in a long time.
B
I sleep talk to you. Don't forget that.
A
And I sleep talk. Yeah, I sleep talk every night, baby. I'm talking every night. Like, that's how active my brain is. I don't ever shut the fuck up. Like, when I said that, I wasn't. I wasn't being hyperbole. I wasn't being hyperbolic. I literally never shut the fuck up.
B
We're going to take a break. And we're back.
A
I actually want to tell a little bit of Jamila lore.
B
I like that little series that you have on Tick Tock, the Jamila Lore series.
A
Thank you. I think it's so interesting because I want people to understand that, like, what you guys see on camera is years in the making. There's so much random lore. So like I said, I. I sleep talk. And when I was younger, I used to, like, make up songs and things like that in my sleep. Like, I would sing sometimes. I still sing in my sleep. It really just depends on how exhausted I am. But there's this one thing that I used to do that used to piss my sister off. And she used to think I was joking and I was dead. The serious. So this is when we shared a room. This is when we was living in Texas. We shared a room. So we shared a bed.
B
Okay.
A
And I would tell her, I'd be like, okay, shh, I'm going to sleep. I'm about to watch a movie. And she would be like, what the fuck is this talking about? But when I tell you guys, my mind is entirely too vivid. Like, I can imagine anything I want. And so I just discovered that there's a name for it. It's called synesthesia, something like that. Hypersensia. Yes. So whatever. I could. I can literally.
B
You can imagine it.
A
Anything. I can hear it, I can see it, I can smell it. I can almost taste it. I can hear it. All of those things. All of my senses connect. So I would tell my sister, like, okay, yeah, good night. I'm gonna watch movie and she would be so irritated when she was. Bitch, shut the fuck up. Mind you, my sister doesn't have that. My sister doesn't have an overactive mind to where she can just imagine anything she wants faking.
B
Like they don't. Because I have this too. And this is actually why growing up I loved reading books because I would. So I would read books and then like, okay, Usher. How I liked Usher. So if there was a love interest boy in the book, I would imagine me as the character and imagine Usher as the love interest. And so like what you're talking about, like how you're talking about, oh, let's watch a movie. Kind of the same me, I would create these movies from the book. So I'd be reading the book and imagining like all of this, all these things happening like in my brain. And I used to love. I used to sit there and just like really vividly daydream, like watching a movie, like, exactly. Like that's a perfect description. And I kind of remember when you first brought that up. And it's from that video actually that I found out not everyone's brain is like that. Like, not everyone can even imagine like pictures in their brain or the way.
A
That they so interesting to me.
B
I mean, yeah, there I've seen a.
A
Diary, like everything to me, like even sometimes. And I'd be telling, trying to explain it. It's so weird. Like everything to me is, is shapes, it's colors is. It's like it's almost a physical thing for me. Things that are non physical become physical for me inside of my mind. Like music, for example. And when I hear music, I envision colors, I envision shapes, I envision movement. And so that's why I really want to get into directing more music videos because I can, I can immediately see visions. When I'm hearing certain music.
B
I'm like, oh, interesting.
A
This goes with this and this. It's like it's such a physical thing for me.
B
Yeah, it's so that's interesting.
A
Like even a calendar, a calendar is very physical for me. Like maybe that's why these calendars don't work. And maybe that's why it still says April. Y'all be clocking me on my videos. But like for me, calendars in my head are like a physical thing. They're a shape. It's. It's almost shaped like a C. And even though January is the first month of the year, January for me is about right here. Okay, Right now we're in December. So we're here. And it's just like we have to almost jump to January. Like, there's a little bit of a space, a little bit of a gap between December, January, obviously, because it's a new year, but it's just a little jump and then we go. And then at the top of my year is May, because that's my birthday and that's what's important.
B
That's when your year starts.
A
Right. Then we make a sharp left turn as we get into the summer. And then the summertime is on the long part of the sea. I'll have to draw a diagram.
B
I never even thought of the calendar as a physical thing. That's so interesting. Interesting. I've never thought of it like that. It's so definitely imagine everything. I also. Not to sound like this, this is how I knew I. I didn't always have the words for manifesting, but I would like just for fun, daydream stuff. And then my whole life, like, it will happen. But I didn't know there was like a name for that. Like, I didn't know that's what that was. And what is that? There's a name for this as well. Jamila. When you just really just sit and daydream, they actually say it's not healthy if you do it too much. When you sit and daydream and imagine. No, not lucid dreaming, but like, you sit and you imagine and you just daydream and you just think of all the scenario, like your dream scenarios and you just. People do it for hours. I used to do it as well, but then what would happen is, oh.
A
I do that all day.
B
Yeah.
A
Is that not good?
B
You're. You're. You're supposed to go actually outside and live life. You're not supposed to just.
A
See, I thought that I was insane because I. What's it called?
B
Maladaptive. Thank you, Melissa. It's. Melissa has all the words. Always has all the words. It's called maladaptive danger.
A
Oh, nephropilia.
B
Oh, I'm sorry, what's that?
A
No, I do that all the time. Like, what's crazy is I actually do. I live in a state of delusion constantly because it actually calms me down because I have very extreme anxiety. So what I do, and it's. I don't know if it's good or bad, but I'm not gonna stop.
B
Thank you.
A
So sometimes when I'm driving, like I'm driving, I'm listening to music, but sometimes I'll start to drift into, like, now that I'm saying this this sounds crazy, but I'll be driving and I'll immediately need silence so that I can zoom into my dreams. I'll turn that shit off. And I just.
B
I'm thinking about.
A
And I see a whole new world. The way that I can drive and imagine an entire scenario. And then I'll, like, engulf myself into this dream, like, state. And it's like I'm just driving in this trance. Like, I do it all the time because it makes me feel very, like, euphoric. Like, I imagine myself, like, I don't know, talking to Jimmy Fallon and shit. And then I'll just answer the questions.
B
I absolutely talk to myself all the time. I think that's part of the reason I was so good at, like, TikTok and that type of shit. Because every single scenario I've ever wanted, I've imagined already. And I used to sit in my room and just do an interview. Exactly. Or just act out.
A
Well, people would be like, how do you get comfortable with talking to camera yourself? To be honest, sister, I don't know how to tell you that, because I've always talked to.
B
I've always done this.
A
This is.
B
This is the most natural thing for me, actually.
A
I don't know how not to talk to myself. And what's crazy is me and Jelani have the same thing. We're like. Sometimes when I'm around people for too long, I kind of get, like, this urge to, like, talk to myself. I'm like, I actually need to be alone right now so I can talk to myself. Because I know y'all are gonna actually look at me. Fucking crazy. And so I get real. That's when I start getting really anxious. I start. I start fidgeting. I start doing all of these things.
B
Say something.
A
I actually need to go be alone so I can go talk.
B
Please don't respond to me. I need to say something. Anyway. What are we. What are we eating?
A
Must speak.
B
So what I've noticed is I've also done it so much that, like, the older I've got, it's turned into, like, manifestation. Like, I feel like this is the reason my little blip in time where I was, like, dating athletes and, like, rappers and stuff. I literally, like, used to Jim about that. And I used to dream about it, like, when I was a kid. But then at the point in which I got grown and I would be doing it and it would be like, all of a sudden I open my DMs, and the person I was just thinking about is in my DMs. I started freaking myself out. I would be freaking myself the fudge out and I wouldn't even be doing it with the intention of them DMing me. Like, it was. It was not on some. I didn't even realize what I was doing until during the pandemic were living together. Shout out Kousi, that's my best friend. And she was like, no, that's called manifesting. That's like, you're literally manifesting.
A
Yeah.
B
And I was giving her, like, what I'm doing now, how we're talking. I was like, giving her all these examples over the years of how, like, from college to, like, middle school, just like, oh, I want that. I want this. This happens. I was thinking about this person. I see them. I randomly think about this. This random famous nigga who in my head, that's not even like an option. He doesn't know I exist. Like, and he's in my DMs. So, like, I was like, oh. And then once I had a name for it and I started actually researching it and not to sound like this, Jimmy. Well, I've already told Jamila this. I manifested this podcast. Like, but mind you, I have been dragging my feet on it. And that's why I think it kind of us getting the numbers that we need to get so fast. It didn't surprise me because I've gotten so good at it that you can find out the fastest ways for you to manifest daydreaming. Maladaptive daydreaming for me. But I've also noticed vision boards, like, because it just. It plays into it. You're constantly seeing it. Because if I'm constantly thinking about it, I'm seeing it too. But if I put it in, like.
A
A physical space and I made my vision board, my. Actually, it's still my pro. Not my pro. I was my wallpaper. Yeah. And I wanted to create it. And what's crazy is I've actually achieved every single thing on my vision board. Mind you, I made this the year before last. So now it's time to update it because it's like, damn, my.
B
I put it in my closet because they say you're not supposed to, like, let everyone see it. I mean, at different points in time, I've just had it sitting in my room. But I don't really. That's not a big deal to me. What I do is I have a printer now, but I used to just get all these images or print them at work or go to, you know, like the library or whatever, print them and once I would achieve something, I would just find another goal picture to put over it. So it's like, it's kind of thick now, but I like that. It's like, it just makes me see everything that I've accomplished.
A
But you can always go back to it.
B
Yes, yes, yes, if I need to. But I've, I went, I had a podcast, like when I first hit 100K, which is about like three years ago on TikTok, I said, okay, I'm on a podcast and I put successful podcast. And it was picture of two girls with podcast mics, right? And it was a cartoon. I literally. And I didn't obviously, three years ago, I didn't know who the other girl was going to be that was going to be Sabrina at one point, like, it just, it was just an idea. But that has been on my vision board for literally three years. So at the point in which I got made the TikTok and Melissa reached out and I was on her website and I was like looking at everything, I was like, oh, wow, this is like, yeah, this is definitely what I'm going for. And I started looking at my vision board, I was like, this is going. I literally had the thumb. Like, this is going to happen very fast. Because I've been looking at successful podcasts for three years and it's been me. I've been dragging my feet on it. So seeing what's been happening with it, I've just been like, yeah, that really makes sense. So I try the vision board out and if you're looking at it for a long time, and it's because, you know, the thing is you do have to do guided action. What did, what did Drake say? He has some good one liners. I'm the type to say a prayer and then go get what I just prayed for.
A
Drake was good for a couple.
B
He do has to have him a couple bars. And that is, that is so real. You do have to do your part. So it's like, God, whatever you subscribe to can only do so much if you're not doing what you need to do. And I feel like it's such a good example of me being like, okay, I want a successful podcast, but for three years I didn't do nothing to have a successful podcast. And the moment I did, okay, well, now here's a successful podcast.
A
So, you know, yeah, I'm very intentional on like just trying to keep that level of delusion that I have because it's always steered me in the right direction. Even if maybe the Vision isn't clear, but I know the direction I should go in. And so what's crazy is the first really, really big step I took into this line of delusion was in 2020, I had just officially graduated and I started to look for production jobs. And, oh, it was grim because really, you'll know. Trying to get in. Yeah. But not even just because of the pandemic, because this was before the actual pandemic started. This was like in January, before it was real spooky. You'll know if, you know, if you, if you work in production. You know, it is very difficult to work in production when you want to be a director and an actual producer. Like, they're not putting on. Indeed. Hey, we're looking for the next director of Black Panther. Anybody want to just jump on? You know, that's not how shit works. You have to be in the mix, you have to be selected, you have to have the funds, things like that. And the type of person I am, unfortunately, I just didn't want to go the traditional route and work through, work as a PA and work my way up. And then hopefully in 10, 15, 20 years, I could when I didn't want to do that. So I literally said, fuck it. I'm not applying for production jobs in this way. I'm going to take a pay cut and I'm not going to work in corporate. I'm not going to do these things. I'm going to take a pay cut and work jobs that allow me flexibility so that I can actually put forth money into these dreams. And when that first stimulus check hit, I spent half of it on a trademark. And I don't regret it.
B
No.
A
And now I have my production company. Yeah, that's it. Fuck this shit. I'm diving full in. And I literally just started to see all of these images pop up in my head and started to envision my life. And just like, this is what I'm going to do. And I don't care how long it takes me to get there, I'm going to do this. Like, fuck all that shit, right? I'm doing this.
B
No, I believe that.
A
Well, jump off the cliff.
B
Sometimes you got to jump off the porch. If you know how. I moved to Houston, Jamila's sister called a. What is this? A friend conference. They thought I had lost my mind.
A
We say, listen.
B
Cause I told bitches in the group chats that I'm leaving Baltimore.
A
Are you okay?
B
I'm leaving Baltimore. I'm finna be a bottle girl, mind you.
A
The bitch had Went on vacation. All right? She was.
B
I'm selling foot pics to get the.
A
Funds, and bitch just never left.
B
When I say, Jazz was so concerned. That's why it's funny. She was genuinely like, are you okay?
A
I even called cousy. I said, cousy. I think something's wrong with Mecca. This bitch is out of her mind.
B
This bitch is moving and with, like, full confidence.
A
Is she okay?
B
No. Cause it was actually. I do get it with the timing. It was. It was not too long after the breakup. I. I kind of.
A
That's why I said, I do see.
B
How it appeared like a spiral.
A
And Kousi's so funny. She's like, you know, sometimes you gotta just let Mecca do Mecca. I'm like, you right. Let's just let that.
B
Whenever we talk about it, she says that to this day. She's like, I'm not gonna hold you, girl, after you move to Texas. I said, yeah, you have to let Mecca do Mecca, but make a doo.
A
Be making that shit happen.
B
When she said she gonna make it.
A
Happen, like, he's like, I don't know. Like, I don't know. This is crazy. But you gotta just let that shit even out.
B
She ain't. She. She ain't actually crashed out yet, right?
A
Let's just see. Let's see in the background.
B
Like, is she gonna crash out this time?
A
Okay. Okay. Well, she's okay.
B
Okay. She hit the turn. Okay, girl, we're gonna take a break.
A
And we're back.
B
Let's get into our favorite segment. Spin it now. Preference this. We are. We are not PR professionals. We do not work in pr, and we do not call ourselves PR experts, but we are two girlies who studied PR in undergrad, and we do enjoy. We enjoy the spin of it all. So be sure to email your salacious, messy situations that you might need us to put a little PR spin on for fun to@unhingedanimoralpod gmail.com Jamila what do we have this week?
A
Hello, ladies. I want to start off saying I love Yalls content, and I think the podcast is a great hit. Also, I'd love to keep my name anonymous. Anyways, I have this ex. It was a short relationship. It is what it is. I'm not tripping about it because we're both. We're both in the young twenties getting our life together. But he broke no contact a couple weeks ago asking if I wanted to hang out. I replied, no, but it's getting a little cold outside. And you know what? I'm Saying, so now I'm over here thinking about his offer, but my only issue is I don't necessarily want to build something back up, and I kind of think he does. I know it's not a big deal, but roster looking a little dry. What do you think I should do? Shout out to the real hu. But you put blue and red, so I don't know, sister. That's the other hu. But it's okay. We're gonna let you read it.
B
She. That was a mistake.
A
It was a mistake. It's okay, baby. We forgive you.
B
I'm not gonna lie. Hold on. This is. It's been enough time. We can really laugh. I was laughing about it the first time when this boy who went to Hampton had tweeted. He had tweeted, like, months ago. He was like, I'm a. I'm a swallow my pride and vote for Kamala whatever at you. And then, like, with the. After the election, he quoted that his tweet and said, damn, y'all can't win nothing. For context, Hampton always wins.
A
Hu.
B
Howard don't never win. Huh? Every single time. I mean, like, just quite recently, they. They didn't. They weren't winning 10 years ago when we was there, and they. I don't know what to be doing.
A
Yeah, but that. It's like, damn, y'all ain't okay.
B
He said, damn, y'all can't win nothing. I was crying.
A
People, like, too, too soon.
B
Too soon. I said, nah, this is just soon enough.
A
We need actually right on time.
B
Right on time.
A
All right, sister, but let's go ahead and get. How we going to spin this situation? Well, first of all, I personally think that there's. I am not a spin backer. That's just me. I'm not a spin. Spin the blocker. Because, typically speaking for my experiences, a lot of my experiences don't always end on the best terms. So, like, I don't give guys multiple chances and stuff like that. But if it ended on. And it's like, y'all were no contact. So if it, like, y'all got to the point where there's no contact and you'll have to, like, you know, claim to be no contact, like, why was that? Like, because I don't necessarily. I don't even go into, like, the whole, like, I'm black every. I stopped talking to. I just literally stopped talking to him. It is what it is. Like, so I feel like if y'all were in, like, a defined no contact, like, did it get. Did it get nasty? Like, what was tea? I don't know. But there's nothing wrong with doubling back if you want to get a little boom, boom, boom. But the moment you double back, you're opening Pandora's box. You're opening back up that wound. So think about if it's worth doing that. Even if you don't want nothing serious. Even if you make it very clear, we're just fucking. Does that mean that they always give a damn about that? No, they still be. Well, I remember what we said. Okay, well, Alicia, I don't want to do this anymore, so you got to think about that.
B
Oh, I am a double backer. But I do have conditions. I'm not a spin the block on my exes, but I will double back on a year film. But it, like you said, it does very fair, Very fair on how it ended. I'm also a serial ghoster. People say this is childish. I believe in ghosting. I'm a ghoster. Oh, sometimes you're a ghoster. I am. Sometimes I be feeling like you said red Flag, Six Flags. So sometimes, sometimes I be feeling like we don't even really need to talk. It's not like no discussion that needs to be had. You know what I'm saying? Like, it just doesn't. We're not vibing right now.
A
So when you say you're a ghoster, if somebody hits you up, you just will ignore them.
B
I might entertain a comment, like a text or two. I'm, I'm, I can be just as toxic as a voice. I'll be honest. I'll be honest. Oh, God.
A
Is that is be a lady.
B
I, I, yeah, I'm just as bad as the men on that. I will, if you text me, I'll be like, hey, what's up? And I'll text you for like three, five texts and then I'll go back to ghosting. But what I'm, I say that to say I'm very big on, like, what the vibe is. And I just feel like we're at the age you can tell the vibe. We don't need to have no big ass conversation about the vibe not being there. I'm sorry, I just don't have the. I'm very busy and I get that's like, Jamila's an emotional person, like you said. So you're the type who would be like, so what's going on? I don't do, I don't. We don't need to do all that. Like, even if, even if I'm the one who's Feeling like you're being weird to me and I want to know. I'm big on. No, I take the hint. People will always show you where you stand in their life. So I don't need to ask because I already know. And then I used, when I was younger, I used to like, ask as well. And men lie, you know, I'm like, men. It's not. They're never going to be honest about it. Never going to be like, no, I'm not feeling you. They're going to be like, oh, they're going to gaslight you and make it seem like, oh, nothing, I'm just busy. Like, no. So it's like, right. At least in my experience, asking doesn't even get you the answers that you are at, like, you want. So you might as well just go ahead, get the fuck, take the hint. And that's. And that's it. That's all. But when that kind of happens, since I do it as well, I don't hold that particularly against men. Like, if you spin back after that, I don't. Especially if we were still cool. Like, you know, I tend to have people on Instagram still active fault. You know what I'm saying? Like pictures. It's okay if you DM me spin back. Cool. It's when you have done something wrong, you've been out of pocket, you've done. And so, yeah, no contact. Because then you're.
A
You're giving them this idea that it's okay to keep doing shit. No, they need to learn lessons, right?
B
No, I feel like if someone has wronged you, a man specifically, you know, obviously talking about CIS hetero relationships, but.
A
Even anyway, cuss them out.
B
You need to cuss them out and leave them alone. I don't know. I don't think.
A
And let them know that they're dead fucking wrong.
B
I think that especially the older I get, the more hardcore I feel about this. I used to feel like, oh, it's just a mistake. No, you don't make mistakes about people you care about, people you really give a fuck about. You do not do that. I just see enough relationships, especially now, that doesn't happen. When they really give a fuck about you, they will make sure to act correctly. They will make sure to do what needs to be done. So if he's not doing that, babes, you are not who you thought you were to him. And you need to go ahead and bow gracefully like a lady.
A
Okay, but let me. I have some advice about how to get what you want out of the situation and still be able to leave it alone because it's clear that you, you, you're horny. You said it's cold outside, you want to get your rocks off. So let me tell you what you do with this situation. And clearly if you're interested in bringing that back, it was good at some point, I would hope. So this is what you do so that you can not allow him to linger. You don't want to plan something out. The moment you start planning a fuckery, it gets. It gets deep. So this is what you do. System on a night out on the town. You hit him up, you're already drunk. That way he knows it's a wham and a bam. A wham bam and get the out, sir. And the way that you can make sure that there's no ties. Go to his place. That way you can leave, get up and leave. You can get up and go get what you got, right? So always hit him up on a night out on the town. You know, start. Start flirting once you're good and drunk. That way on your way out, hey, what you doing tonight? Like, I'm out.
B
Hit them on your way out on the time tip. Just so it doesn't seem like it's too contrived. Because sometimes it absolutely. It comes off. Like if they start hitting you up at the pregame, it's like, oh, no, no, no. You know, you about to be drunk tonight and you want some pussy at the end of the night. So no, no, no, you don't want it to seem too contrived. So what you do, make sure it's the point at which you are at the club. And maybe let's say if you leave the club around midnight, that's my time. I leave, I'm like, shit, I'm Denzel. If you leave 30 minutes for the devil get there, you ain't never got to worry about. You can go. Always go to the party, leave about midnight. But you start texting him about 10:30. So just like, oh, I'm at the club. And you should be good by then. If you like me and you like the pregame, you don't wanna spend too.
A
Much money at the club and play it cool. Play.
B
Yeah. Just be like, hey, what you want tonight?
A
Play it cool.
B
Don't even send the eyes. Be like, hey, what you doing? Even, Even at one point.
A
Yeah, be cool like.
B
Like if he's also outside. This can seem very spontaneous. I've done this a lot. This is actually my go to trick. That's so funny that Jamila Brought this up. If he's also outside, just be like, oh, my God, where you at? Like, if you have him on Instagram or something and you see he's also outside, oh my God, where you at? I'm also outside. Make sure you post it on your story and type just so it seems like a very, like, spontaneous link up. What you doing after this? Or if you're outside, if you ask him that, not even with the mindset of, like, let's link up and let's go to the same place, but if you do, you can go at the very.
A
Because it's gonna get there anyway.
B
Yeah. Just be like, oh, let's exactly slide out together or meet me here.
A
And one thing about. One thing about a. That you used to. Y'all see each other out, y already drunk. The first thing he want to do is grab that little back and whisper a little.
B
Hey, cuz, you know, you know, everyone be so iffy about adding a new body, but don't ever think about adding that old body back.
A
A new body.
B
I'm good for it.
A
I. I love calling science.
B
It's science, it's math. Because that man already know what I like, so. And that's a negative body, let me tell you. I didn't see. I have literally seen someone I used to fuck with out here in Houston, mind you, at the same club lit. We kind of made eye contact because we were both. And I was like, I didn't want to blow the spot up. Definitely as I was leaving, I said, what you want to know? He said, I'm coming to your house. Exactly, exactly, exactly. No, I think that could be fun.
A
You remember how to get there and.
B
Then if you would want to keep it going also, you said you don't want to get serious again. Now this is where you could slip up. I'm just speaking from experience, so I can do. Depending on how he reacts to that. Don't make it a regular thing. You know what I'm saying? Don't make it like I. I like to go out every weekend. I'm somewhat of an outside girl still because I'm young and I'm fly and I'm hot. So I'm gonna spend my time outside a little bit. I can't go. I can't go out multiple times in the weekend, though. You got me for one day and that's it. That's why Jamila had me fucked up when she was out here. I don't even live like that no more. But if you're outside every weekend, don't call him every weekend. Don't make it a thing.
A
Exactly.
B
It has to be.
A
Because that's a thing. And it's like, girl, yeah, don't do that.
B
Because then that will slowly creep back into y'all talking and. Or it will turn into asking questions on the weekends and all this type of.
A
Then next thing you know, you texting him for breakfast.
B
Girl, you know, don't. So, Joe, just make it like a once a month thing. Maybe twice a month on a lit night out.
A
And also, you need to start going out. You talking about some. The roster is low. Build it up, sister. I don't know what to tell you.
B
Go out and she said she's in her early 20s. Get outside and get in the field, bitch.
A
You should have niggas on the Rolodex.
B
Building that Rolodex, bitch. When I was 22, I had 18N in my phone, and I was a theater model.
A
I always gotta take it to hell. 18 hours for 18n.
B
And I was a theater. I was a character actress. I was a different person for each. I used to. That's how I know I'm crazy. Because when I say I would literally. I literally would just take on a different personality with each. For fun.
A
Oh, my God.
B
For fun. Just. Cause I. For fun.
A
But no, you're literally so young. Like, you should literally be. Girl, you should be trying to figure out which one you want for the night. Like, girl, so, like, I get it. You trying to get back into the swing of things. Like, you know, you probably just got to dress up, hit him up for that one night just to get your rocks off, right? But as you start going out, you need to be making eyes to these niggas. You need to be building that Rolodex up, okay? So that you can get that nigga off your line. We don't want old N. We don't want them. I already had you. It gets to a point.
B
It does get to a point.
A
I'm bored. I'm bored. I'm no longer stimulated. You're like, I've been there, done that, had this dick before. It's nothing interesting. Like, seen your face before.
B
I mean, clearly seen over it. You let it go. And with no contact. So it can't be. Hello.
A
Clearly wasn't. Clearly it wasn't.
B
Listen, the ones that had been real, real good. I make sure we cool. We ain't got no issues. We ain't no contact. We might not text every day, but we cool, you know, like, whoa, I want to make Sure. I can call you when I open.
A
That story, you know?
B
Yeah.
A
Hello?
B
It ain't never been no contact, so I'll be. What I'm saying is it can't be that good, sister. It can't be that good.
A
Happy birthday.
B
Happy founders day. J5 is coming up.
A
You look real nice today, you know?
B
Happy Founders Day. Your way into something, sister. I don't know, but what you. You got the Founders Day, you got the birthdays. We about to get into Christmas. We just had Thanksgiving pass. You got a couple.
A
Now is the time to be hitting, you know, hitting. Now is the time to be hitting weird. You know what I'm saying? And then, oh, my gosh, girl, you're in college. Like, bruh, college is the easiest time to get niggas. Cause they're every fucking wear. And they're just as thirsty as y'all.
B
Yeah.
A
If they're thirsty or extra. I mean, like, niggas are so easy.
B
I always want to slushing women, but in college, are sluts.
A
Like, no, there's whores.
B
Like, I was a bad. I don't want to. Me too. I get it. I get it.
A
Nah, because for real, that little. Because honestly, my one regret that I always say is, like, I actually would have doubled and tripled in. In my college days. I felt like I was a little bit. Actually, I was a little. I was already demure in the first couple. Yeah, a little bit. Because I was too wrapped up in, like, trying to, like, these niggas. Like, I was, like, kind of liking them niggas a little bit for no reason. Just because, like, it was. I was so new to dating. And, like, I just. I don't know. Like, I'm just. I'm a lover girl. I'm a lover girl, and I really do like a nigga, but I don't be realizing that, like, I like you, but, like, that's not that, you know, like, now being 28, I'm like, oh, yeah, I do like you, but it's like, it's not that de. Yeah, I like. I like everybody.
B
I love everybody.
A
I do like you, actually.
B
I was raging so hard against my, like, very conservative Christian upbringing that I have no regrets. I did everything I fucking.
A
Okay.
B
Yeah.
A
So you was out there like, a pk.
B
I could never be as bad as a PK simply because I was not a pk, but my parents were. My. My. My mother is absolutely in my pastor's inner circle. I am an inner circle child, if that makes sense. Because there are, you know, if you're A levels of being churchy, and you have the PK and then you have the pastor in a certain. Like, the people who get invited to the pastor's house. That's my mama.
A
Yeah.
B
You get what I'm saying? So I'm not too far removed from pk.
A
Okay.
B
That's why I'm not too far.
A
I was, you know, raised in a very churchy household. I went to church multiple times a week. But I'm also in a household where both my parents smoke weed and drink every day, so.
B
Yes, but wasn't your daddy. Didn't your daddy play in the church band?
A
Yes. The musicians.
B
That church band do tend to be a bit more concerned. Like the drummer at our church. I feel like everyone who is playing, they tend to be kind of out there. They tend to be like, no, no. Well, yes, but what I'm saying is the musicians in the church tend to be the people who you will see at the club. The choir members are the people. Every Sunday at the church I go to out here, I done see folks in the choir who I see every Sunday in the damn choir out at the club. So it's like, that don't count. That makes musicians. The musicians all, baby, the musicians, mind.
A
You, my daddy, and I'm finna snitching my daddy real quick. I know he gonna watch. My daddy used to be in the church, right? And it would be like one of them times where they about to, like, do a prayer. So the musicians would play quietly. My daddy be sitting up there playing Prince on a guitar.
B
I'm crying quietly.
A
Daddy, I know what that is. Daddy. That is not that church music.
B
Not the class.
A
You know, they're playing James Brown. James Brown riffs on that guitar. Daddy, what is you doing?
B
Stop. That is not of Christ.
A
Why is the piano player playing? How does it feel on the keyboards during prayer?
B
It sound like y'all was getting down, though. It sound like y'all was getting down.
A
This me trying to pretend to pray, and I'm like, I'm sorry.
B
Excuse me.
A
What the hell is that? D'Angelo?
B
We're gonna take a break.
A
And we're back.
B
Yeah, I mean, that tracks. Considering if you know my brother, that makes sense. Our pastor used to give Barrington whoopings, especially after my parents got divorced and my dad had moved back to San Francisco. And he. I'm telling business right now, Chat. And my mom was like, he's in. Derek was like, what, 13? 14? Yeah. She would go drop his ass off, right?
A
I know he's Right before Bible study.
B
And Derek gets that ass toe up. Yeah. No. Very, very churchy. So that does track. That tracks. Darrington. You know, we're a bit out there, but I have no regrets. I definitely. I know what I like. I don't. I can always tell. Like, listen, I could tell you exactly what to do. You need to stick your tongue all the way in my balloon.
A
I'm never prepared for anything that's going to come out of your mouth.
B
I need. I need to know where that sentence and this and hit the neck and do that at the same time. Thank you. I know exactly what I like. That's. So. That's. I don't have no regrets because you. I could.
A
You.
B
You can't tell nobody do that if you ain't been in the field. That's what I'm trying to say.
A
No, I mean that. That definitely comes with age and time and experience and. Which is why, you know, I think the older you get, the nastier you get, is what I. I have discovered. Like, I don't know older people and I. That's. I. I truly believe in my heart of hearts that old people are filthy. I don't want to know anything that happens beyond 40. Actually, I'm scared of 40. I'm scared of who I'll become. I'm scared of who everybody is. Because it's like, you start. I mean, you can only do so many things, so I know people just start excited, experimenting with. But yeah, you know, I. That's also a part of getting older that I enjoy. You start to learn yourself in. In more ways than one. And you start to discover things that you like and dislike and want and don't want. And it gets fun pecking your dad.
B
In the back of the bus. Shout out, shout out.
A
I'm scooping it up in my hand.
B
Little, little, small.
A
It's scooping good up in your hand.
B
She is hilarious. I love her.
A
She's so beautiful, too.
B
You know, someone said, I found out she's a lesbian. And then I saw a TikTok that was like, no straight woman can make a masterpiece like this, so it makes sense.
A
I'm crying.
B
That is an icon. The Queen of England. Wow.
A
Love her, dad. So it's time for us to read some of these comments.
B
Comments. The nice things you guys have to say.
A
Okay, Remember to leave comments wherever you are listening to the podcast. If you're on YouTube, Spotify, Apple, wherever you're listening, make sure you leave a comment, because we'll either read them online and give you Guys, a quick little shout out or we'll just read them when we're in the to reading these comments. But either way, we really love the comments and enjoy all the support you guys are giving us. Every last one, baby.
B
I just have to.
A
Okay, so let's get into it. These are Spotify. So this is from Raquel. Oh, my God. I. I've never listened to a podcast before, and this is my first one. Let me just say, I love you girls. This is what I've been missing. It's like I'm talking to my college besties. Thank you for all that you do, and we appreciate y'all. Thank you so much. This is from Indy. I can attest to both sides of 1911. The dogs Deaf do it better than the newts, who. They don't call them dirty dogs for nothing. Okay, well, well, this is from Venus. Mecca, you read in my comment. Literally is going to my group chat. I'm drunk crying. Omg, I love y'all communication. Girlies stick together. Well, read to him, sister Tyisha. I follow you guys content on Tik Tok and on the podcast every week. I look forward to the podcast episode. Yay. Underscore D says, I knew nothing about Cynthia's discourse of us blacks until Wicked came out. So I was like, oh, dang, should I cancel her? Well, she did eat that part up last at least. But now I don't know if I can listen to the soundtrack anymore.
B
Girl, Defying Gravity is a masterpiece. Go ahead, turn that on, Chad. You should be all right.
A
I don't give a damn. Dorcas says the holding the men down online was so funny. Omg. I swear, me and Mech are the same. Like, hell no. I got class tomorrow, and I got my own life to live, literally.
B
Don't ask me to get you no damn hot Cheetos. I'm not going to get that for you.
A
No, fuck you.
B
Okay, I'm going to be reading the Apple comments, so. Oh, my God. Always oh, always shook. Never oh. Always shook. Never tired. 1920 period. Love y'all down. Hey, hey, hey, y'all. I just started listening at work and I love it. I've been looking for more podcasts to add to my collection, and I'm definitely adding this. Listening to y'all is like listening to a TikTok or spilling tea with the girls. Keep going. And I love y'all. Thank you so much, girl. Slaytay Hart said here for support. We love Mecca, and Mecca loves you. Oh, my God, his ace. Ooh, his A It's a girl. Okay.
A
I love y'all.
B
I just wanted to show y'all love. I just wanted to show y'all love. I just wanted to show y'all love. I love the fact that y'all are funny, entertaining, and I will be sat weekly. Keep going. Thank you so much. And sparkle Mills said tens across the board. Very well done. Okay. Period. Apple.
A
Wow. Y'all are so sweet. All right. This is from YouTube comments. Young Sassy 91 says, what's crazy is that people in Chicago knew that R. Kelly had been been like that, which is crazy. Me, I knew people who knew him from back in the day.
B
Not old school.
A
T. That's wild. As at Sane stories said lmfao as a seasoned Greek, everything they said was on point. Did it miss? Not near mark. Oh, being a Neo was a time same Jamila DDI me please x Joel Joe LeJ8879 says LMAO. Yo, the Greek part is so real. Oh my God. Never hold it down.
B
Ever. Don't pop it at all, baby.
A
Literally at K underscore Guard 15 said this is my new fave way to start my Thursday. I'm here cackling exactly as you should be at Mace 777 they put a time stamp and said in relation to R. Kelly and all of the predators. Really? What I always say is that when things are turned into jokes, they stop being taken seriously and become normalized. The public should have known about R. Kelly all along, but we all had grown up joking about it whole time. He was a serial child rapist and predator making that humors only serves the predators no facts. All I ever knew about R. Kelly was like super jokey, jokey type shit. Like it was so funny that he was freaked out but like I never knew the severity until I got older. So you ate with that one at Yanfon 6557. I'm happy. I've been listening. This was a very informative episode and y'all have motivated me to continue to pursue. To who to continue to pursue? Su producing, writing and acting. Love that y'all are balanced as and I love supporting.
B
Wow.
A
Thank you so so much. I love to inspire the girls to get back into the arts. Please. Well, y'all knew. Yes. I'm laughing because the way we had to literally take a 15 minute break because my computer died and we have to.
B
We're gonna stop this and go put the cameras on the chargers and and prepare for the next episode. Well, it's been a hell of a week. Thanks for staying down, and we'll see y'all next time.
A
Thank y'all so much for supporting and continuing to support through all the mess.
B
There is no testimony without a test.
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Ah. Amen. Amen. All right, we'll see y'all next week. Peace. Bye. Unhinged and Immoral is hosted by Jamila Bell and Mecca.
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Produced by Melissa D? Montz and Diamond Imprint Productions.
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Post production by Coco Lawrence, production assistant.
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By Melanie D. Watson, music by Adi and Brooklyn Billionaires and graphics by Claudia Choi.
Podcast Summary: Unhinged & Immoral – Episode: Levels Of Delusion
Episode Information:
In the "Levels Of Delusion" episode of Unhinged & Immoral, hosts Jamila Bell and Mecca Evans delve into a variety of engaging topics, blending personal anecdotes with sharp analyses of pop culture and internet phenomena. The episode navigates through their experiences with social media, relationships, personal growth, and the concept of manifestation, all while maintaining their signature unfiltered and humorous style.
The episode kicks off with Jamila sharing her excitement about attending Usher’s live performance. She reflects on the concert as a "greatest hits tour," expressing gratitude for finally seeing her long-time favorite artist perform live.
[02:15] Jamila: "I'm very grateful that I was able to attend."
Mecca adds her own nostalgic memories of Usher, recounting how his music was her "very first obsession" and reminiscing about receiving an Usher dog tag from her mother during her third-grade year.
[03:36] Mecca: "One of them times where they about to, like, do a prayer... playing James Brown riffs on that guitar."
Their shared enthusiasm for Usher's performance underscores the depth of their friendship and mutual interests.
A significant portion of the discussion revolves around their interactions on TikTok and how they handle online negativity. Mecca recounts an incident where a troll labeled them as "uneducated alcoholics," highlighting the challenges of maintaining a positive online presence amidst backlash.
[12:05] Mecca: "She called us uneducated alcoholics... Darrington was trolling this stud who made a video."
Jamila echoes these sentiments, emphasizing her strategy of limiting social media usage to protect her mental health.
[15:57] Jamila: "If you've made a video about the situation, I've seen it... It's time to turn my phone off for my mental health."
Their candid discussion sheds light on the pressures of constant online scrutiny and the importance of self-care in the digital age.
A core segment of the episode focuses on navigating relationships, particularly dealing with infidelity. When presented with a listener's dilemma about an ex reaching out post-breakup, Jamila and Mecca provide their perspectives.
[20:43] Jamila: "Divorce is always an option."
They debate the nuances of responding to an ex's attempts at rekindling contact, balancing between personal boundaries and the complexities of emotions post-breakup.
[26:22] Jamila: "I don't think every man cheats, but a lot of men do."
Their advice emphasizes self-respect and the importance of recognizing one’s worth in the aftermath of relationship turmoil.
The hosts delve into the power of visualization and manifestation, sharing personal stories of how vision boards have played a pivotal role in their professional lives. Mecca reveals how her vision board, created three years prior, accurately predicted the rapid growth of their podcast.
[44:24] Mecca: "I have been looking at successful podcasts for three years and it's been me."
Jamila complements this by discussing her own experiences with maladaptive daydreaming and how it has evolved into a tool for manifestation, enabling her to achieve her goals through focused intention.
[40:29] Jamila: "I live in a state of delusion constantly because it actually calms me down."
Their conversation highlights the intersection of personal ambition and mental well-being, advocating for purposeful dreaming as a catalyst for success.
In their interactive segment "Spin It Now," Jamila and Mecca respond to listener queries with their unique blend of humor and practicality. A listener named Raquel asks for advice on dealing with an ex who has attempted to reconnect after a period of no contact.
[50:29] Jamila: "If it ended on defined no contact, think about if it's worth doing that."
The hosts dissect the situation, offering strategies to maintain boundaries while addressing the underlying emotions, thus providing actionable insights for their audience.
Towards the end of the episode, Jamila and Mecca take time to read and respond to listener comments from various platforms, including Spotify, YouTube, and Apple Podcasts. Comments range from expressions of appreciation and personal stories to feedback on specific topics discussed in the episode.
[69:15] Raquel: "I've never listened to a podcast before, and this is my first one. I love you girls."
[72:08] Venus: "We love Mecca, and Mecca loves you."
These interactions reinforce the hosts’ connection with their audience, fostering a sense of community and shared experience.
As the episode wraps up, Jamila and Mecca reflect on their personal growth and the lessons learned from their experiences. They emphasize the importance of authenticity, emotional expression, and the courage to pursue one’s passions despite societal pressures.
[74:27] Mecca: "There is no testimony without a test."
Their closing remarks serve as a motivational reminder for listeners to embrace their journeys with resilience and humor.
"Levels Of Delusion" offers a candid and entertaining exploration of personal and societal challenges, anchored by Jamila and Mecca’s dynamic chemistry. Their ability to intertwine humor with meaningful discourse makes this episode a compelling listen for anyone navigating the complex terrains of modern life.
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