READ: EPHESIANS 4:20-32; 5:25-27; JAMES 1:16-27

Have you ever gotten a severe cut? I remember falling off my bike going down a steep hill too quickly. I got a deep gash in my knee, with blood soaking through the hole in my jeans. Right away, I hobbled on home to get it cleaned up and bandaged.

Over the next few days, we washed rocks and debris out again and again. It was a slow, painful process, but it was necessary. If I left any dirt, rocks, or debris behind, infection could set in, causing a bigger problem. A festering wound can be pretty gross, smelly, and ugly. I wanted that gash dealt with quickly and completely so full healing could take place.

Tending to that wound reminds me of how we need to tend to our anger. Ephesians 4:31 tells us to get rid of our selfish anger because it can fester into a much bigger problem, like wrath or bitterness. These are even harder to treat, and they can cause painful rifts in our relationships.

When our anger hurts someone, those harsh words or actions, like the debris in my wound, need to be washed away with the water of the Word (who is Jesus) and with forgiveness. Once anger is washed away, add the healing balm of kindness and tenderheartedness (Ephesians 4:32). Go back and repeat the same steps as many times as necessary, just as I did with my gash.

This whole process is only possible through Jesus. He has made the way for us to be forgiven through His death and resurrection. Because of God’s great love for us, He has cleansed us of our sins, healing our broken relationship with Himself and making the way for our relationships with other people to be healed too. • Deborah del Villar

• What’s the difference between righteous and unrighteous anger? To know what’s righteous, we look to God. The Old Testament tells us God is “slow to anger” and “his anger lasts only a moment” (Exodus 34:6; Psalm 30:5). The New Testament tells us Jesus is God, and once we know Him, His Spirit lives in us. Since we have been forgiven through Jesus’s death and resurrection, and since we have the Holy Spirit, we are called to be “slow to get angry,” to be humble, and to love and forgive others as Jesus loves and forgives us (Ephesians 4:32; James 1:19-21; 1 John 4:19). Consider taking some time to talk to Jesus about any anger in your heart. It’s okay if you don’t know how much of your anger is righteous and how much is unrighteous—you can be totally honest with Him as you rely on His grace and help. In addition to talking to Jesus, who are trusted Christians in your life who could help you process your anger?

Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger...Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted. Ephesians 4:31-32 (NLT)