READ: PROVERBS 24:29; ROMANS 8:28-39; 12:9-21

My family prioritized attending college after high school. So as my sister, who I’ll call Monique, prepared for college, she entered a scholarship competition. During the finale, I watched as other participants received cash awards to help pay for college. But Monique left with none.

Later, Monique confided in me that one of the winners had cheated. Monique’s friend, who I’ll call Heidi, had received an award for the best essay. But Heidi told some friends that her boyfriend Austin wrote it for her. Heidi didn’t expect to win. But Austin’s willingness to “help” resulted in a victory Heidi didn’t earn—and stole opportunities from others.

I got angry on Monique’s behalf. I called the situation, “Unfair! Unjust! Wrong!” Heidi’s cheating was all that. But the competition had ended. Out-of-town judges had gone home. It seemed nothing could be done. Monique accepted the situation, choosing not to address it. But I wanted better for my sister. I wanted to make somebody pay.

Sometimes it’s harder to forgive someone who’s hurt a person we love than it is to forgive someone who’s hurt us. But I know God calls me to forgive. I’ve put my trust in Jesus to pay for my sins by dying in my place, securing my forgiveness and my relationship with God. If He could forgive me every wrong thought, attitude, action, and word, I could choose to forgive Heidi (and Austin). I could choose—by the power of Christ’s Spirit in me—to support Monique and not hold a grudge. I could choose to release Heidi and Austin from my desire to get back at them.

After graduation, my sister pursued higher education. She even earned a position playing soccer at a community college, which paid for two years of tuition. I learned from Monique to forgive and leave the results to God—and then watch Him provide in His way. • Allison Wilson Lee

• Can you think of a time somebody mistreated or betrayed you, but God still worked for your good?

• In life, there are times to speak up against wrongs, and there are also times when God gives us grace to accept an unfair outcome. We can always pray for justice, asking God to give us wisdom and boldness if we’re in a position to seek justice, and asking Him to give us peace even if we won’t see full justice until Jesus returns. Who are trusted Christians who can help you discern when to speak up, and when not to? When we address an injustice, but still nothing changes, why can we still trust God to work out His best? (Matthew 27:12; Acts 22:24–23:11)

Don’t say, “I will avenge this evil!” Wait on the Lord, and he will rescue you. Proverbs 20:22 (CSB)