In this episode, I sit down with Jeremy Swick, a young man whose life story begins in Guatemala and unfolds in Wisconsin. Jeremy was adopted as an infant after spending his first six months in an overcrowded orphanage during Guatemala’s civil war. What I didn’t fully understand going into this conversation was just how fragile and uncertain his start to life had been—and how deeply those early experiences shaped the man he’s become.

Jeremy shares openly about being dropped as a baby in the orphanage, suffering multiple skull fractures and a serious brain injury, and how doctors once believed he might never thrive. He also tells the remarkable story of discovering that one of the babies who shared his crib was adopted by another family in Wisconsin—and still lives just an hour away today.

Raised by deeply loving parents, Jeremy reflects on identity, belonging, and what it means to grow up as a brown child in a predominantly white community with parents whose lived experiences couldn’t always mirror his own. He speaks thoughtfully about curiosity as a lifeline—how learning history became a way to understand himself, his country of birth, and the world around him.

This is a grounded, honest conversation about masculinity, resilience, and what helps boys grow into men who feel seen, capable, and connected.

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Guest Bio

Jeremy Swick is a historian, storyteller, and media entrepreneur known online as The Average Historian. Born in Guatemala City and raised in Wisconsin, Jeremy has worked with institutions including the Pro Football Hall of Fame and the College Football Hall of Fame, and most recently served as an archivist for the Wisconsin Black Historical Society. In 2025, he left his 9-to-5 to launch Swick Media, where he helps organizations and podcasters tell meaningful stories through digital media and podcasting.

We talk about:

Adoption, identity, and the lifelong search for belonging
How early trauma can quietly shape adult behavior and resilience
The importance of earned support and what it taught Jeremy about growth and trust
Why team sports—especially rugby—can be a powerful buffer for boys’ and men’s mental health
Community, loneliness, and where young men feel most disconnected today
The pressure to “perform” versus living honestly
What parents can do to truly support their sons’ interests and agency
Jeremy also shares practical wisdom about asking better questions of young men, following curiosity instead of convention, and why parents don’t need to be perfect—just present, reflective, and willing to grow alongside their children.

Links

https://www.instagram.com/theaveragehistorian https://www.instagram.com/pod.intotheunknown https://www.instagram.com/swickmedia414 https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeremyswick/ https://www.youtube.com/@pod.intotheunknown https://www.tiktok.com/@theaveragehistorian

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SEASON 3 IS DIFFERENT

Too many boys today feel lost, alone, and misunderstood. And far too often, the same is true for their parents.

Behind the troubling statistics is a generation of boys quietly longing to be seen, heard, and valued — yet the conversation around boys’ emotional lives remains far too quiet.

Season 3 of Unlocking the Parenting Code is here to change that.

In this new season, you’ll hear:

🔹 Real conversations with young men who are ready to share their truth.

🔹 Powerful insights from experts in boys’ mental and emotional health.

🔹 And raw, real wisdom from dads who are walking this road every day

🔹 Solo episodes where I reflect on what I’ve witnessed, wrestled with, and learned

At the heart of this season — and at the heart of Sonhood Coaching — is a mission:

To understand the inner emotional world of boys, to recognize the very real challenges they face, and to name the damaging myths and societal expectations that continue to shape how we see, treat, and raise our sons.

This is not about fixing boys.

It’s about truly seeing them — and learning how to show up differently, with compassion, courage, and connection.

Together, we’re building a world where boys feel safe to be their authentic selves.

Because when we get it right for our boys, we begin to heal something much bigger.

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