In this episode, we discuss a personal experience involving violent assault, injury, and subsequent surgeries. Listener discretion is advised. If these topics are difficult for you, you may wish to skip this episode or listen when you feel supported.

If you’ve had pain for years, you’ve probably been asked to summarize your whole story in minutes, and then felt the conversation rush straight to tests, protocols, and a “game plan.” That’s often where trust breaks, important details get missed, and you walk out feeling unseen.

Here, you’ll hear what changes when the first goal isn’t to solve everything, but to create enough safety for the real story to emerge. Holly shares what it’s like to carry a long medical history alongside trauma, shame, and the pressure to “hold it together” in clinical settings. Dr. Megan Steele explains why open-ended questions, uninterrupted storytelling, and clear validation can be the difference between symptom management and meaningful progress - especially with persistent pain.

You’ll come away with practical ways to:

Prepare for appointments when your history feels complicated or hard to tell
Ask for what you need (privacy, time, clarity) without it feeling difficult
Notice when a provider is building trust or performing expertise
Understand how trauma, stress, and beliefs can amplify pain over time
Think about care as a partnership, not a performance or a test you can fail

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