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Don't let anyone tell you menopause is something you have to suffer through alone. Mitti can help. Visit joinmitty.com to learn more. Hi, I'm Dr. Mary Claire Haver and welcome to our second Ask Me Anything episode. I love, love, love, love doing these because you guys have so many great questions and it makes me realize where the knowledge gaps are and where we need to fill them. So I've got the questions here on my phone and we're just gonna jump right in. Dr. Haver, are you a real doctor? Great question. You should always question the credentials of people claiming to be medical professionals. So all of this is verifiable online and through our website. But I am an md. I went to Louisiana State University Medical center for for my medical doctorate and then did my residency at the University of Texas Medical Branch. And I graduated from all of that in 2002. And I am licensed to practice medicine. So we have to pass a national examination and then be licensed in the states where we practice. So I have licensed to practice in Texas where I live, and also in Colorado where I have a condominium so that when I'm there in the summers I can do telemedicine if needed. Can I stay on hormone replacement therapy, menopause hormone therapy if I have high risk of breast cancer, alh, fibroid or a history of polyps? Ooh, these are really, really good questions. So a history of breast cancer or high risk mean not meaning that you've had breast cancer, but simply having a family history of breast cancer does not at all disqualify you from receiving hormone therapy. As a matter of fact, in the Women's Health Initiative, we found that women who were on estrogen, the estrogen only arm, had a 30% relative risk decrease of developing breast cancer after taking that form of hormone therapy. So please don't feel like because you have a family history of any type that you may be disqualified. Now, if you are a previvor and have some very strong genetic component and it has been advised for you to have organs removed like your ovaries in order to decrease your risk of developing cancer, that is a much more New nuanced conversation. So for those of you who are genetic carriers of high risk, you really need to talk to, and especially if you're young and they're talking about removing your ability to produce estrogen before the natural age of menopause. These are very clear conversations and very nuanced that you need to have with your clinician. But the answer is not, not, not automatically no. Now, there are anatomic things that could be going on in the body, such as endometriosis, such as adenomyosis, such as polyps, or even fibroids. That again, nuance is required. It is not an automatic no for a patient with endometriosis, regardless of how you've been treated. So say you've had extirpate of surgery, meaning you've had a hysterectomy and you know everything they could see removed. There is a chance, if you were given estrogen only, that you may have recurrence of your endometriosis. We're learning more about this now. However, these patients respond very well. To make sure, even after hysterectomy, you want to couple those patients with a progestogen to counteract the potential activity of estrogen on those endometriosis implants. Again, you need a specialist who knows what they're doing. This is not a cookie cutter, one size, all information polyps. You just need to have them removed. Just a history of polyps does not at all decrease your ability to enjoy the benefits of hormone therapy. Does it mean you're going to get polyps again? Maybe even if you didn't take hormone therapy, you could develop polyps again. So it just requires close watching and treating the polyps appropriately if they do come back. Okay, next question. When is hormone replacement therapy contraindicated? Ooh, good question. And what are safe alternatives? Okay, let me be clear. There is no alternative to hormone replacement therapy. Let me be very clear. There is no alternative to estrogen, progesterone and testosterone. What we have are things to treat other symptoms. But the only thing that replaces the loss of your ability to produce these hormones is giving you back the hormones. Okay, now what are the contraindications? Who are patients who absolutely should not take estrogen or could not entertain the thought of hormone replacement therapy? Number one, if you have a tumor that is dangerous that is currently being fed by such hormones. So, for example, if you have endometrial cancer, if you have active ovarian cancer, if you have active breast cancer, this is not the time to start hormone therapy. If you are pregnant, this is not the time to start hormone therapy. If you have undiagnosed vaginal bleeding, meaning you're having something abnormal for you, postmenopausal bleeding, meaning you've gone a year for without a period and now you're bleeding, that is an automatic referral to gynecology for evaluation. Don't start hormone therapy until that's evaluated. Doesn't mean you can't ever have it. But we need to figure out why you are bleeding. So anything that's unusual about your bleeding should be evaluated to make sure there's not an endometrial cancer, a tumor, or something we need to treat before we start hormone therapy. In very rare cases of severe liver disease, I'm not talking about mild fatty liver with mildly elevated liver function tests, I'm talking severe liver disease that needs to be evaluated. We have to monitor your use of hormone therapy very, very closely because that is where estrogen is metabolized and because you can't metabolize it very well, have a buildup, and get really high estrogen levels. It's not a never, it's not a no. But it does take someone who knows what they are doing and how to treat this. Also, if you have a very recent blood clot, if you're currently being treated for a history of blood clots, pulmonary embolus, you don't want to be on any form of oral estrogen. Oral estrogen hits the liver first and increases our clotting factors. So if you're high risk for developing blood clots, you want to avoid all oral, oral, oral, only, oral forms of estrogen. But guess what? We have other forms of estrogen that will not increase your clotting risk, such as transdermal, such as the gels, the creams, and especially vaginal cream. Remember, vaginal estrogen is locally acting. It does not get systemically absorbed. It only acts in the vagina, those immediate tissues right there. And there is not enough that gets absorbed into the bloodstream that can put you in any kind of a danger with increasing your clotting risk. So if you've been told you can't have hormone therapy because you have a history of migraines, because you have a history of blood clots, because you have a history of MTHFR or any other thrombophilia, you know, a high risk clotting condition does not mean at all that you cannot have hrt. It just means you have to be careful about the delivery system that is chosen for you. How long is it safe or Beneficial to stay on hormones after 60. Okay, there's a different conversation between do I start hormone therapy after 60 or do I continue hormone therapy? I'm happy with after 60. So let's talk about the second one first. Let's back it up. So if you are enjoying hormone therapy and you don't have a contraindication, you haven't developed a contraindication, and you are happy with your treatment, you feel better, your bone density is kicking, you're getting up and living your best life. You feel amazing on it. You're not having hot flashes or any symptoms. Your bones, your joints, everything's great. Your mental health, Guess what? There is no age at which you must stop. There is a window of opportunity for cardiovascular disease prevention. This was very clear in the Women's Health Initiative data. And that if a woman starts hormone therapy before she develops heart disease, so probably within the first 10 years of her menopause or before the age of 60, she will likely have cardiovascular benefit, which will slow menopause's effects on our cardiovascular risk, such as insulin resistance, blood pressure, and atherosclerotic plaque production and cholesterol levels. After the age of 60 or after some time, once those processes have developed and are starting to make changes in your vasculature, estrogen is likely not gonna be helpful for prevention. And some. Some small studies suggest it might be harmful once those diseases set in. Okay, now, there's debate over that. What I tell patients is after 60, they've never been on hormones, right? Or more than 10 years since their menopause. You've likely missed the biggest window of cardiovascular opportunity. But it's always gonna protect your vagina. It's always gonna protect your bones. As long as you take it, there are benefits to you. It's always gonna stop. Hot flashes. If you give the right dose for most patients. So it doesn't mean. No, it doesn't mean you must stop. It just means it's not gonna be probably helpful to your heart, especially if you've already started to develop cardiovascular disease or risk factors. But there is no age at which you must uniformly stop. Let me say this clearly. Hormone therapy is not, for the vast, vast, vast majority of patients, dangerous. And for most of us, the vast majority of us, the benefits will outweigh the risks. How do I know if my estrogen, progesterone, and testosterone doses are right? This is where it's so fun to be a gynecologist, because watching academicians lose their minds over this question is hysterical to me. Everyone agrees we need to know what your baseline testosterone is. Everyone agrees we need to monitor your testosterone therapy to make sure that you are not super therapeutic. Where the controversy is is here. Remember, hormone therapy was developed for no other reason than to stop a hot flash. That's it. So the therapeutic endpoint was resolution of her or diminishing her vasomotor symptoms, her hot flashes, her night sweatshirt. Okay, and now what we know is probably palpitations as well. That's it. You stop her hot flashes, she is therapeutic. No need to measure. It's not helpful. However, what about her bones? We have very clear data showing at what level estrogen, blood levels of serestradiol are going to be stopped. Okay, there's two. There's two things to remember. We have accelerated bone loss starting in perimenopause, not menopause perimenopause. The fastest rate of bone loss is in Perry, and then it stabilizes, but still declining in post menopause. So we have levels of estradiol, which will stop. Decline the decline, stop the loss. We have higher serum levels, which will actually grow bone. Grow bone. And that seems to be around 60 in the way we measure here in the US and the ultra sensitive estradiol levels, you want to be around 60 over 80 is not going to be more bone beneficial. More is not more. But you need to hit about 60 to have the maximum bone benefit. So when my patients come to me and say, hey, I'm here to protect my bones, my mother had osteoporosis, I have osteoporosis, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. We go through the full toolkit for osteoporosis prevention and protection, which also includes, if you know me, movement, resistance training, eating adequate protein, making sure you're getting enough calcium in your diet, making sure you have enough vitamin D, making sure that we give you tools to stop smoking, if that, you know, making sure you're sleeping, all of these things are synergistic together to help grow and save your bones. But we have levels where we know your estradiol level should be in order to maximize the benefit to your bone. For those reasons, I am checking serum estradiol levels. Also remember this, all absorption is not the same. So here's the kicker. Absorption is different depending on formulation. What? Dr. Haver, you slap an estradiol patch on 10 different women and they're going to absorb differently? Yes. Okay. Amazing work done by Sarah Glenn and Louise Newsom with the Newsom clinics in the UK all looked at standardized estradiol transdermal dosing and measured serum estradiol levels, and it was all over the map. About 20% of women were what they called poor absorbers, were not reaching physiologic doses with the highest dose of transdermal. So because of that research, when our patients are started on transdermal, usually patch is what we use. And why do we use a patch? Because it's cheap in the United States. I know, I have listeners all over the world in the United States. It is absolutely insane what we do to women with our crazy insurance system and how we fund medical healthcare in this country. But generic patches tend to be of the most affordable transdermal ways to get estrogen through your into your body in a transdermal fashion. The cheapest way to get estradiol is with the plain estradiol pill. And let me tell you, that prescription is two to five dollars a month for plain old oral estradiol. But when we move up to the patch, if you can find them in the US right now, because there's a shortage, because guess what, everyone's talking about hormone therapy and going to their doctor and wanting to have a nuanced conversation, and they're getting their prescriptions, which we are struggling to fill because of supply and demand. So my land, Sandoz, whoever's out there, make some more fucking patches so we can get these on our women and have them get healthier and happier and get their lives. Okay? So 20% of you are going to have a potential for having not great absorption. I read that my hot flashes were controlled, absolutely controlled, on the highest dose patch. Out of curiosity, I checked my own serum estradiol level. It was 37. I checked it again two months later to be sure it was 39. I was not getting adequate estradiol to have maximum bone benefit. I am very, very motivated to not develop osteoporotic fractures as I age. Why? Because my grandmother had them and my mother had them. My mother has end stage dementia, she's horribly frail and she has horrific osteoporosis. I am not interested in that being my future and I just refuse to accept that. So what am I doing to avoid that at all costs? Number one, I'm staying on hormone therapy and I checked my levels to make sure that I was getting the maximum boom benefit. Number two, I am serious about heavy lifting. I'm serious about heavy lifting too. I'm a thin person. God did not give me a lot of muscle. This, this view on video. This bicep is manufactured. I was not born with this. This Was not a gift from God. This is me working out okay? This is me lifting weights because I don't care what I look like. I mean, I'm a little vain, I get that. But like, I am so terrified to age. Like my poor mother. She didn't want this. She didn't want to live like this. She didn't want to have dementia and osteoporosis and be so frail and have to live in a memory care unit and not be able to transfer out of her bed anymore. Like, she didn't want this. I don't want this for myself and I refuse for it to be the future for my daughters. So I have a 30 year Runway before that would potentially happen for me. I have a chance to change history here for myself and teach my daughters how to do it. So heavy lifting, adequate protein. I have lots of vitamin D. I do supplement vitamin D. I check my vitamin D levels about once a year to make sure that I am at a good level. I'm eating foods very rich in calcium to make and I monitor my calcium intake with my little app on my phone. I'm doing jump training as well. I'm doing box jumps to try to stimulate that bone unit and all of that is working together. And my bone density is amazing. I have the bones of a 35 year old for a skinny, you know, Caucasian girl. And that is, that is hard to do for someone who dieted her whole life to be thin. So I am working really hard to make sure that that doesn't happen. So progesterone level, so we don't measure routinely in our clinics and most of the menopause, we do not measure progesterone levels. Progesterone we use therapeutically mostly for sleep and for endometrial protection. So we know how much it takes to counteract the estrogen we're giving to protect the endometrium from endometrial cancer. However, we often go above those basic doses to get people the sleep that they need if needed. Testosterone levels, we are always monitoring. So in our clinic we get a baseline, then we start therapy, we check three months later, and then I'll check probably every year to make sure that their absorption is good and they are not being super therapeutic and therefore at risk for those side effects that you can get from testosterone. 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Women in all 50 states can access this care covered by insurance with clinicians trained in the latest menopause and longevity science. Because your zip code should never determine your access to quality menopause care, book your virtual Visit today@joinmitty.com that's Join Midi. Why are my blood levels low despite using patches, gels or pellets? High shbg, poor absorption. Yep, you just answered your own question. So SHBG is steroid hormone binding globulin. It is a protein that is made in the liver. And those of you on oral estrogen, you're going to have a little bit higher levels of SHBG versus transdermal. Because of that first pass effect of the liver. SHBG binds our sex hormones, binds estrogen, progesterone and testosterone. And when they're bound to that protein, they're not active. So you need the hormones that are floating free in the bloodstream that are going to be active in the tissues rather than bound. So if you can lower your SHBG and we can do that a number of ways, you will increase the activity of your hormone levels. And because we're unbinding them from the protein, let's see, what are optimal hormone ranges for bone, brain, heart and symptom control? All we know is bone. That's the only thing people have measured. This is what just pisses me off about how we don't study women. We know everything about testosterone and men and different organ systems and how it may be affected. But like simple things like how much estradiol in the serum. Where did we see the best cardiovascular protection benefit? When you're only measuring the presence or absence of a hot flash as therapeutic endpoint, we're not gonna know that data. So what studies would Mary Claire want done? I would wanna see serum estradiol levels. You know, starting people at baseline, checking what their estradiol level is, starting them on therapy, then watching the markers of heart disease like their insulin resistance, like their blood pressure, like their triglyceride level. So and looking at markers of, you know, getting cardiac cats, I mean, that's a better test for a woman to, for her risk of cardiovascular disease than the coronary calcium score. Calcium score tells you. Yep. You have calcified atherosclerosis, but you can't see the soft plaques. And for women it seems like for us, the way we have heart attacks, the way the heart disease progresses in us, that doing the cardiac cast to look for the soft plaques may be a better indicator. So we don't know. And those are the tests I. Those are the studies I would love to see done. Persistent symptoms despite hrt. Guess what? Y' all can. Y' all are gonna. Aren't gonna believe this comes out of my mouth. Not everything is menopause. Sometimes you have arthritis unrelated to menopause. Sometimes you will have other disease processes that are. Have nothing to do with menopause. So if you start hormone therapy in the hopes your arthritis will get better or in the hopes your anxiety or insomnia, you know, or joint pain will get better, and it doesn't, you know, we can do a couple of things. You know, I am always, when my patients come into clinic, I am not so interested in what their actual hormone, you know, other than testosterone, you know, and if I can't determine if she's fully menopausal or not yet, you know, we'll check hormone levels, but they're. They're not as important as me ruling out other stuff. Hypothyroidism, looking for autoimmune thyroiditis, looking at autoimmune disease markers, looking at inflammation markers, looking at key nutrients, nutrition labs. We do all of this for our patients because so much of this is intertwined a lot of the, you know, in the columns of hypothyroidism and menopause, so many of the symptoms check off the same. So I need to rule out these other conditions or rule them in. All of this can be happening at the same time. So if you are on hormone therapy and certain parts of your presentation are not getting better, I check a level. What is your estradiol level doing? You know, if you're having persistent inflammation, I'm checking inflammation markers. I'm looking at your thyroid labs again, like, did we miss something? So then we can go up on the dose and see how you do, or we can start looking for other ways to treat those symptoms and conditions. Is this the best I. It will get? Or do I need dose forming, timing changes, including testosterone? I want everyone to be living their best life. And I really think you can. I really think the last. The last quarter of your life, the last third of your life, should be the best in your life. You have the most wisdom. You should be surrounded by the most love. You should be the most confident that you've ever, ever, ever been. You know, hormone therapy can go a long way to Help restore balance when you've lost it. But it's not a miracle. You have to prioritize yourself. No one is coming to save you. You have to start putting yourself, your health, your life, your sanity first. Putting up boundaries, letting your grown ass children take care of themselves, letting your partners in life or whoever do their share of the domestic labor. Like, this is the time for you to focus on you. So we are checking on our patients and she comes in and she's like, I am living my best life. I feel absolutely amazing. I have zero complaints today. Thank you for giving me my resilience back. You know, with whatever concoction we gave her, I'm not changing her dose based on some random ass lab marker. We're gonna get her bum density, we're gonna look for certain things. But like, if she comes in saying she's doing amazing and all of her screening tests look good, we're keeping her on that dose. So it doesn't, you know, necessarily require adjustments at that point. Oh, this one's so good. Okay, bleeding and uterine safety is the next caveat. Is spotting normal when starting or changing estrogen doses? Yes. Okay, Everybody, gather round. 50% of you will have unscheduled vaginal bleeding when you start hormone therapy. 50% more with transdermal than with oral. Let me be clear. 50% of you will have unscheduled vaginal bleeding. It is normal, it is extreme, expected, and it is not pathologic. Your uterus is getting used to having hormones thrown at it again and it tends to bleed. Now, good news. It usually goes away on its own with no treatment. You do not need a biopsy or a workup. And if any clinicians are listening, do not put these women through biopsies and hysteroscopies and DNCs until it's been six months and the bleeding has not resolved. You can go lower on the estrogen, go higher on the progestogen to get the bleeding. As long as you've determined you've done an exam and the bleeding is not coming from the vagina, it's coming from the endometrium. You can monitor her for a few months, change the doses around, see. Now, if the bleeding is persistent and you've done a workup and everything's normal, we have options. There is something called dua V or duave. I don't even know how to pronounce it correctly. D, U, A V, E, E. It is a combination of premarin plus basodoxifene. Basodoxifene is a serum similar to Tama. Okay, tamoxifen, but it binds, blocks, and downregulates the estrogen receptors only in the breast tissue and the uterus. So for my patients, our patients who are having persistent bleeding or very high risk for breast cancer, we are usually going with DU A V For those patients to bind, block, and downregulate the estrogen receptors in the breast, and then they don't bleed. They just don't bleed. It's a wonderful side effect of that particular formulation. The problem is there's no generic. It's one standard dose. It doesn't work for everyone. But I just want everyone to know that there is an option. Are vaginal or alternative progesterone routes better for endometrial protection? We don't really know if they're better for endometrial protection when our patients are having progesterone intolerance, meaning they're having side effects. They feel dizzy. I was on crinone for fertility, and I had horrible dizziness in the operating room. Like, I was a resident doing all these fertility treatments. And I used a certain progestogen, and it. It made me loopy. So I get it. Some people have about. We think 10 to 15% will have an adverse reaction to progesterone. So you can go vaginal progesterone and kind of skip that first pass effect in the liver, and it gets absorbed straight into the bloodstream. You just take the regular oral estradiol pill that has a gel cap, and you can put it in the vag of, like, when you go to bed, and it will dissolve overnight. You'll be able to absorb your progesterone that way. Some patients do really, really well with that. So that is an option. But no one has measured, like, oral versus a vaginal approach for endometrial protection. Common sense will tell you it's getting right to the uterus immediately. So none of us hesitate to use it and worry about endometrial protection. I've never had a patient who did it that way who had any endometrial hyperplasia. What do I do if progesterone causes reflux, mood changes, or poor tolerance? You don't tolerate progesterone. Look for alternatives. Duvvie is an option. Switching to a progestogen, something like combipatch. I was on combipatch for a couple of years. It's not a bad medication. Using one of the progesterone alternatives may be an option for you. Or doing a mirena IUD or a Liletta. You know, one of the progestin containing IUDs could be a great option for you. Are creams, pessaries, or other delivery methods effective and safe? Listen, so are you. I think what you're really asking are compounded options as safe as FDA approved option? Because we have creams, we have the rings or pessaries, all available in FDA approved options. Those have been tested and I can tell you with confidence that they ran those through clinical trials and we know the safety efficacy of those types. But if you're getting them from a compounder now I use compounding. I think it's a great option to have for a lot of things. But my go to for HRT is the FDA approved option that you would pick up at cvs. When should testosterone be added? Ooh, good question. Okay, definitely. If you have hypoactive sexual desire disorder, I'm gonna have a conversation with you about testosterone. What is that? HSDD is just the easier way to say that big long thing. Hypoactive low activity of your sexual desire that causes distress. You need to norm. We, we, me, we all need to normalize. When women don't ever want to have sex again, that's okay. That is totally up to you. HSDD is when it causes you distress. You had it, you miss it. If you don't ever care if you have sex again, that's okay. That is totally okay. That is not what I'm talking about here. We are not trying to magically induce a libido in you, okay? You don't owe sex to anybody. No one ever died because they didn't have sex or didn't have an orgasm. Truth. And I direct quote from Rachel Rubin. You should go watch that podcast that I did with her because she's fantastic and she's the best. But she says clearly no one ever died because they didn't have an orgasm or they didn't have sex. You won't die. And if you don't want to want, that is okay. However, if you want to want, you miss it. You miss the intimacy, you miss whatever you miss. Just, just all the things. We have options for you. We have testosterone, which works pretty well in most patients, is very well tolerated and doesn't require super physiologic doses like turning you into male, giving you male doses to work. There is anecdotal evidence, we have lots of evidence that suggests probably going to help you if you're, if you're working out, going to help you maintain your bone and muscle strength. There are testosterone receptors in our brain. We know all the studies that were done in men that mental health and testosterone are related, that overall general health, well being, quality of life and testosterone are related. We have more testosterone naturally in our bodies than we do estrogen. Be clear, ladies, okay? We don't have as much as men. We have about a tenth of what men have, but it is still in our healthy years, not postmenopausal, more than the estradiol we have. So it makes sense that. So most of my patients want to go ahead and give testosterone a try. To be clear, there are two FDA approved medications for libido, okay? One is Addi and the other is Vylice. Addi is a pill you take every day. It works to stimulate dopamine production. Dopamine makes us happy, makes us want to do things that make us happy, and for some patient works very, very well. It also makes you a little bit sleepy, so it's great for sleep and you want to take it before you go to bed. Vylice is an injection that you have this massive release of melanocortin which stimulates dopamine. You want to do that injection. I think it's 45 minutes before the onset of activity. Less popular with my patients, mostly because there seems to be a praying mantis situation on the other side of that injection, waiting for it to kick in, like, is it working? Is it working? Is it working? So, but again, intimacy is intimacy. Whatever works for you. I'm so glad that we have options for our patients. So that is when we discuss testosterone with our patients. Can testosterone be used alone, especially in a women with breast cancer or on SERMs? Yeah, 100%, absolutely. What benefits and risks are supported by evidence? Definitely in a menopausal patient, it their the evidence is absolutely clear. The biggest risks seem to be hair growth where you don't want it and hair loss where you do want it, here in the temple areas like male pattern baldness. When really high doses, you can have things like clitoromegaly and a large clitoris or deepening of the voice that is non reversible. So those of you who rely on your voice, if you're a voice actor, if you are a singer, if you sing in choir, you know, menopause already changes the vocal cords. 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So I would invest in in in her following her on Instagram. She is also a real doctor, board certified. She has like three or four certifications and she's board certified orthopedic surgeon and sports medicine and fellowships and I mean she's like one of the most highly regarded clinicians on the planet when it comes to women's health, sports medicine, orthopedic injuries, et cetera, and frozen shoulder and how to keep your bones strong. Why do some women develop high blood pressure, bloating, or weight gain on hrt? Great question. So hypertension is usually more related to oral estradiol than transdermal. So if you're on oral and you've developed high blood pressure, you would want to ask to be switched to a non oral form to see if your hypertension resolves. Your gut microbiome changes when you go through menopause. Okay. Your inflammation levels increase when you go through menopause. Fortunately, the weight gain on hrt. Take testosterone. Testosterone's an anabolic steroid, so anything anabolic can make you gain weight. So is your, are your bones growing? Are your muscles growing? That's weight gain. That's weight gain. Are you bloated because you have tons of gas, air, liquid, I mean, in your, in your gut, that could make you look distended and very, very unhappy. When you're first starting on hormone therapy, your gut, especially if you're doing oral, your gut is gonna have to adjust and that may cause some bloating, some discomfort, but it's usually self limited and goes away over time. Does sleep apnea, insulin resistance, or inflammation play a role in menopause? Absolutely, yes. Women see a dramatic increase in sleep apnea. And I had the incredible Dr. Andrea Matsumura on the podcast who is a sleep medicine specialist, and she goes into detail about all of this. It is so worth your listen, because here's what I learned. Sleep apnea is massively underdiagnosed in women. We don't snore as much as men, so it's not recognized. But women are hypoxic. And, you know, one of the ways we are picking it up is that so many of us are wearing trackers of different types that are tracking our oxygen saturation. So if you're getting a pattern of low oxygen levels while you sleep, and if you're waking up from sleep, you know, in the middle of the night and your blood sugar is fine, you're not having a hot flash. This is consistent. You deserve to be evaluated for sleep apnea because it is so common in women and we are missing it and they are suffering long term because of it. Why do urgency and leaks persist despite vaginal estrogen? Great question. So why do we leak? Why do we leak urine? There's a great question. So I used to, I explained it to patients that there's anatomic reasons, meaning the anatomy. So we have our bladder. So if you're watching me on video, I'm trying To my, my hand out here is a bladder. And then we have a urethra, urethra with a little tube that comes out, right? And then like that. And so when we're young and healthy, we have a sling that goes under the urethra. The tube that drains the bladder is called the urethra. There's a sling there that when we cough and laugh and sneeze and jump, the sling holds that urethra in place. Okay? But after we have babies and we have obstetric injury and we get older, if you cough a lot, if you have poor collagen, if you're malnourished, if you're obese, you. That sling goes out, okay? You start losing that sling. And then you start your ability to hold onto urine when you're, when you're stressed, when you're physically go through a stress in the pelvic floor, like jumping, laughing, coughing, sneezing, that sling fails and you leak. That is called stress incontinence. Now we have something called urge incontinence is very different with the same outcome. You leak. So it is an involuntary spasm of the bladder, meaning the bladder wall is full of muscle and it just starts spasming. Why does that happen? It can be cause of inflammation. It could be cause of aging. It could because of signaling, bad signaling coming, you know, to the bladder itself from our nervous system. So urge incontinence, sometimes there's a trigger and you can, like put a key in the lock and it triggers your bladder to spasm. You all of a sudden feel like you have to go and you start running to the bathroom and you leak, usually on the way, or you just can't make it. Now, everybody does that from time to time. Unfort. But for others, it's just a pattern. And so fortunately, this is treated. This urge incontinence is treated with medication. It's a parasympathetic action, and it calms the bladder wall. Side effects of oxybutynin is usually one of the meds that we use or one of the long acting forms, and it can cause dry mouth, dry eyes. So again, nuanced conversation with your doctor on how to treat that. So if it's just gsm, so general urinary syndrome of menopause, everything kind of acts better at acts more healthy in the presence of estrogen. So the first thing we usually do is give your general urinary system estrogen back and then see how the symptoms are. And if they persist, then we need further evaluation for stress incontinence how do we treat that? Generally surgical. Okay, some surgical way to lift that sling back up. There's also pessaries and some other things we can do. But if you're healthy and young and can tolerate surgery, it's a very minimally invasive procedure to have that, that sling repaired. And most patients do really, really well with it. That's typically done by a urogynecologist or a urologist with special training in female anatomy. But you should not be leaking. We should see no diapers for adults. We shouldn't. That makes me sad every time I see the diaper aisle because I have to buy them from my mother. How, how do we let this happen? Why are we, why are we doing this to women? You know, when, when you look at the percentage of women that end up up being incontinent versus men, it's really sad. Men get incontinence too. But you know, when I see sex based differences, it just makes me sad and wonder why. Why are we allowing this to happen? What else can help beyond hormones? Pelvic floor physical therapy. Pelvic floor physical therapy can change your life. I think it should be mandatory for every single woman who has a baby. Think about the stress we're putting on our pelvic floor, carrying a giant watermelon around at the end of pregnancy and then pushing such watermelon out of our pelvic floo. We are ripping and herring and shredding things that don't necessarily bounce back. And everyone should be evaluated, I think for pelvic floor PT as a normal routine part of any, any genital surgery, any, any hysterectomy, anytime we're jacking with anything down there, especially after having a baby, even a C section. You deserve to have your pelvic floor evaluated and managed so that you can live your best life. Which supplements? Here we go. Okay, full disclosure. Dr. Haver has supplement company. So take everything I say with a grain of salt. Know that you do not have to buy from me and that the advice I give you is generic. I'm not even going to tell you what supplements I sell. Okay? You have to go to the website and look it up. She lists omega magnesium, collagen, CoQ10, NAD, et cetera. Okay. I wish that no one needed a supplement. I wish you could put me out of business by just eating whole real foods all the time. Unfortunately, most people. It's just the way we live. We have food deserts. It's not always available. It's hard to meet all of those nutritional Checkboxes with your diet alone. And that's where supplements should come in. You should. Supplements should supplement a healthy diet. Now that being said, what do we see in our clinics? We only take care of menopause patients, most women due to the aging process, due to different the microbiome changing across menopause, due to the way we are protecting, rightly so, our skin against the sun so we don't get skin cancer. And if you don't believe sun causes skin cancer, you are listening to the wrong podcast. You need to move on. We are deficient in vitamin D. 80% of my patients when we surveyed the labs are not just low deficient in vitamin D. A deficiency means that you are not getting enough vitamin D to reach the basic minimum processes. Okay. That's different than optimal. Optimal means you're getting enough for everything to be working at an optimal level. There's a big gap between I am horribly deficient and I am at an optimal level. So you should know what your vitamin D level is. In our clinic we try to make sure that our patients are reaching a level of 60 to about 100. Okay. Deficiency starts at 30 is A. The cutoff for deficiency in our labs is 30. But that's not enough. We don't want you to just be barely over the line. We want you to be at an optimal level. So all of our patients, we are checking a vitamin D level. If it is low, sometimes we have to give them a prescription amount which is 50,000 IUs per day. We'll do that as a loading dose and then we're recommending somewhere between 2 and 4,000 international units per day. When you talk to Lisa Moscone, another fantastic podcast that we did and brain health, when you talk to Dr. Luisa Nicola, the two brain health specialists list all have tremendous amount of things to say about omega 3 fatty acids. Okay. If you can get them in your diet, great. Hard to do, Hard to do. So you may want to consider supplementing somewhere around 2,000 milligrams of omega 3 fatty acids, which includes DHA and EPA. Okay. If you are a vegan or vegetarian, that's going to be a little tougher to do. You're going to have to go higher on that level because you're going to have to get like an algae based. Nordic naturals makes a really nice one for a vegan or vegetarian form of that omega 3 fatty acid. Fortunately, it's found in large amounts in fatty fish. So for our patients we usually recommend a combo of vitamin D with omega 3 fatty acids. And throw in some vitamin K in there for increased absorption. And it's a real tidy way to kind of hit those nutrients at once. You should know beyond the shadow of a doubt how much fiber you are getting per day. And here's the truth. Most women are getting 10 to 12 milligrams of fiber in their diet per day. And you need minimum of 25. Optimal for heart health is 35 for women. So am I suggesting you triple your fiber intake in one day? Absolutely not. Your gut will not be happy. You will be bloated and you'll hate me and you'll say mean things about me. Okay, this is something you need to slowly introduce over time. The more variety of sources of fiber that you get in your diet. And that is things like nuts, seeds, legumes, vegetables, fruits, whole food. If you could get 35 grams a day from your food. Avocado. I'm like an avocado a day ish girl. And that helps me get a ton of fiber in my diet. Amazing. Go for it if you can. Supplementing with fiber, it's basically harmless. It's not gonna hurt you. It's usually pretty cheap. Using something with a base of psyllium husk, hopefully with some other nutrients added to it, would be a reasonable thing to do. And I supplement my own fiber. I use about an 8 gram supplement on a daily basis. I think creatine is something. We don't measure creatine levels in humans, but the data is very clear on the benefits to women. The benefits to women in menopause. Even if you're not. Not lifting weights. Definitely if you are lifting weights. You know, we, when we look at the studies done on creatine and strength training, it seems to be a synergistic thing with protein intake. So the studies for women were done showing benefits at 3 and benefits at 5. And you know, now that when you look at Abby Smith Ryan's work coming out of North Carolina, Dr. Smith Ryan, she is doing a lot of work on women in perimenopause and menopause and seeing benefits outside of just muscle and bone seeing. We're seeing mental health, we're seeing cognition. So you want to kind of ease into creatine. Start with about 3 milligrams per day and then you, you. Graham. Sorry. And then you can increase. I on a regular basis do 5. But when I'm traveling or stressed or didn't sleep well, and certainly on like heavy, heavy lifting days, I double that up to 10 per day. Let's see what else they ask about CoQ10. Really great studies actually done on menopausal women looking at potential heart benefits of CoQ10, something you should probably look into. I'm going to just stay out of the NAD conversation again. I think that's more with the wellness crowd. I haven't seen enough data done in menopausal women showing benefit for me to be excited about NAD or to recommend it in my clinic. Welcome back to another Medi Paws. I'm Dr. Mary Claire Haver, host of Unpause. When it comes to health care, there's no one size fits all solution. When you face your symptoms with a tailored individual approach, you'll have a better chance of finding the solutions you need. MIDI Health is modern evidence based care designed specifically for women in this stage of life. You get access to clinicians who understand what's happening in your body, along with personalized treatment plans. Menopause is so much more than just just hot flashes. What we're continuing to understand through both research and lived experience is that these hormonal shifts can ripple through nearly every system in the body and they don't always present in obvious ways. For many women, it's a collection of symptoms that can feel disconnected at first. Joint discomfort, heart palpitations, brain fog, skin changes, even tingling sensations or a rise in anxiety. What makes this especially complex is just how often these experiences are dismissed. So many women are told it's just stress. But when you begin to view these changes through the lens of menopause, it can bring a completely different level of clarity. There's validation in understanding what's actually happening and real empowerment in knowing there are effective ways to address it. Progress starts with a personal plan. Booking your first visit with MIDI Health takes less than 10 minutes. It's important to talk with an expert who understands what you're experiencing. That's personalized care. MitiHealth is setting a new standard for health care. As the nation's fastest growing women's telehealth company, miti, provides accessible insurance covered services. MITI fills the critical health gaps women face in perimenopause and menopause. If you want a clinician in your corner who understands what your body and brain need right now, MITI is there for you. Go to join MIDI.com join MIDI.com and connect with one of their clinicians today. Can acupuncture or diet meaningly improve symptoms? Okay, so we have lots of lifestyle things that we know can improve your symptoms of menopause. You can improve your hot flashes, you can Improve your joint pain, you can improve your weight gain, you can improve your insulin resistance, your gut health, all of the things. So when I talk about menopause care, I always do it in the framework in our clinics of a toolkit. Okay? This was the basis of my book the New Menopause. It is the menopause toolkit and it is looking at where do we, how can we optimize your nutrition? Where are the gaps? How much fiber are you getting? How much are you getting? Enough protein to maintain your bone and muscle mass or, you know, when we look at exercise, are you doing enough of the right kind of cardio to maintain your heart health? Are you doing, you know, enough lifting to keep your bones and muscles strong? What is that gonna look like for you? We're looking at stress reduction and I think it's important that I talk about this here. Now. I was doing a deep dive. You know, I think about a lot, a lot about longevity. And I don't wanna get too political here. When we look at the longevity conversation and how it's being driven and given, you know, what's happened with the files that have been release and revelations about certain physicians, I think you have to be careful about worshiping at the altar of longevity. I think the conversation isn't relevant to women because I take care of women, I listen to women. I know what their needs and wants are. And I don't have very many, if any. A couple of people on social media have said, I want to live to 120. I can't think of a single one in our clinic who has walked in the door and said, I want to live as long as possible. I never want to die. I want dying to be optional. That does not come out of their mouths. Here's what they say to me. I want to be a benefactor and not a burden. I want to be with my loved ones for as long as possible. I want to enjoy those years. Because guess what? Women win the longevity race doing nothing. Right now. We live 6,6ish years longer than our male counterparts. Here's the problem. We are not as healthy. We are spending more of that life plagued with chronic conditions. We're twice as likely to require long term nursing home admissions. We are twice as likely to lose our independence because we become so frail we can't take care of ourselves. Or women are three times more likely to develop Alzheimer's and dementia than their male counterparts. These diseases happen to men. A woman can expect to have an 50% of us will have an osteoporotic fracture before we die. Die 50%. Okay. The Runway to decrease those risks starts as early as possible. However, you are listening to me. It is never too late to change those statistics, but we have to work at it. When I look at the longevity literature and the books that have been written and all the bros talking online, here's one key thing. They're not discussing trauma and sexual assault. When I looked at the data, a history of childhood sexual assault will decrease your longevity if untreated. And you know, I don't want to not give hope. Here it is as almost approaches smoking, someone being assaulted as a child sexually. When we look at the data, we'll decrease her longevity almost as much as smoking, as much as her being obese. Why? Cardiovascular disease. Carrying that burden your whole life, living with that amount of stress and cortisol for unresolved trauma, is that dangerous? If we're serious about longevity, we must stop childhood sexual assault. We must protect our children from this possibility and stop protecting the people who are perpetuating these crimes. If you really want to be serious about women living as long and as healthy forever, I've talked to a couple of psychiatrists and people who specialize in post traumatic, you know, people with, you know, high ACE scores, adverse childhood events, ACE and ACE scores, you know, they go through a history and look at adverse childhood events, trauma, sexual abuse, physical abuse, mental abuse, et cetera. And you get a score. And those scores can play into how healthy you are as you age. You didn't cause this. You did nothing. However, there are resources. We can bring your resources risk down if you get help, if you go through counseling. So in the show notes, we are gonna have a list of resources for you, books, websites, and how to find therapists out there because you deserve it. But I think that when we have this conversation about longevity and we are leaving out the elephant in the room, we are doing a disservice to every human on this planet who's ever been abused, especially children. And we are adding another layer of protection for the perpetrators that get away with this. How do I have evidence based conversations when doctors dismiss symptoms, won't adjust doses, or want to just push pellets. Okay. Anytime you walk into a clinician's office and they are railroading you into one specific form of therapy. And at least in Texas, it's usually a pellet. Why I don't want to demonize. A pellet is just a way to get medication in your body. And there have been FDA approved pellets in the past. The pellet industry, as it has developed over the last decade or so is operating under a loophole of compounding and being sold as some miracle cure, okay? The only way to get testosterone in your body. Not a fan. You deserve all of your options, okay? You deserve to know about oral. You deserve to know about transdermal patches, pills, creams, gels. But if they're like, nope, just do pellets here, run, you deserve better. Now, if you go through all of your options and you and your clinician decide together, this is what I want to try, I want to try pellets, okay? That's up to you. But you better damn be sure you are being monitored in physiologic ranges, okay? And physiologic range of testosterone for a female should not go above much above a hundred. Not to say that there's a few patients who might do well at that dose, but that is not where you start, start. And you should never be above 200. Let me explain this in. In clear language. If you were not given exogenous testosterone, if you were not on any testosterone therapy and you came in complaining of hair loss or whatever, which would prompt me to check a testosterone level thinking you might have a tumor, that is a level above 90. If you come in with a spontaneous Testosterone level above 90 to 100, I am obligated. It is malpractice. If I don't investigate why you have that now, it might be PCOS. If it's above 200 and I don't draw and I don't go look for a tumor, I could lose my license for malpractice. So why would I take that patient and run her over 200? You know, buyer beware. How do you find. Okay, so this is a great question. And we do have options. On our website@thepauselife.com we have lists and lists and lists of testimonials given by you guys, people who took it in their hearts. I have a great doctor. I've had a wonderful experience. They go and they fill out a questionnaire from us. Where's the doctor address? And then they write their testimonial. We just organize them by state and city so you can go to that list and see if there's some. And we just vet them that they're actually doctors and they see patients. Okay, we don't. I don't know these people. I don't know these doctors. But, like, I was just trying to be helpful. Word of mouth is a great place to start, but it is unreasonable currently and probably for the next 20 years that you walk into your doctor's office and expect to have an educated conversation. They need extra training and they can get that training from Rachel Rubin has an awesome course. Heather Hirsch has an amazing course or be certified by the Menopause Society. So The Menopause Society Menopause.org has a list of certified providers on their website that you can find. Finally, there are some great telemedicine options out there. They are listed on our website. You can go and compare and check and see things like Alloy Health, Midi Health are great places to start, but again, do your research. Midi does take insurance, Alloy does not. But the prices seem to be pretty reasonable. I know acquaintances who've used both services and have been very, very happy with them. How is is the new Perimenopause book different than the new Menopause book? Great question. Perimenopause is not early menopause. It's its own distinct biological phase and it deserved its own book. The New Menopause is about life after the ovaries stop producing hormones and teaches you how to protect your brain, your bones, your heart, your muscles and your metabolism. In post menopause, the new perimenopause is about the 7 to 10 year transition before your periods stop. This is not a gentle decline. Hormones fluctuate wildly. This is when many women first experience anxiety, brain fog, sleep disruption, weight changes, mood shifts, joint pain, loss of resilience and that unsettling feeling of of I just don't feel like myself anymore. Long before anyone ever says the word menopause. Perimenopause often starts quietly. It shows up in the brain first, then the body, then everywhere else. Most women are never taught to recognize it and are told nothing is wrong. I wrote the new Perimenopause because you deserve answers before things spiral. You deserve care before burnout, and you deserve a roadmap for a transition medicine has ignored for far too long. If you thought, why didn't anyone warn me? This book is for you. That is all of the questions I have for today. Thank you so much for joining me today. I absolutely love to be of service to you. I love answering your questions. I love reading, I love researching, I love providing evidence. So if you would love for me to do another AMA with your questions, please in the comments after the episode today, drop your questions. We will monitor them and try to get them answered for you. 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Episode Title: Menopause Masterclass: HRT Safety, Patch Absorption, Progesterone Intolerance, and Bone Density
Release Date: May 12, 2026
Host: Dr. Mary Claire Haver, MD
In this Ask Me Anything (AMA) episode, Dr. Mary Claire Haver tackles listener-submitted questions about menopause hormone therapy (HRT), bone health, progesterone intolerance, hormone absorption, optimal supplementation, and much more. Sharing both clinical expertise and personal anecdotes, Dr. Haver provides clarity on common myths, practical guidance for optimizing health in menopause, and empowering advice for women seeking better care.
Family history of breast cancer is NOT an automatic disqualification for HRT. Dr. Haver details WHI findings:
"In the Women's Health Initiative, we found that women who were on estrogen, the estrogen-only arm, had a 30% relative risk decrease of developing breast cancer after taking that form of hormone therapy." (07:14)
High genetic risk ("previvors") and certain cancers require nuanced, individualized conversations.
Other conditions (endometriosis, fibroids, polyps) are not automatic contraindications, but need specialist management.
"A history of polyps does not at all decrease your ability to enjoy hormone therapy." (09:02)
Absolute contraindications: Active hormone-sensitive tumors, undiagnosed postmenopausal bleeding, severe liver disease, recent or ongoing blood clots (only oral forms).
"If you have a tumor that is dangerous that is currently being fed by such hormones... if you have endometrial cancer, if you have active ovarian cancer, if you have active breast cancer, this is not the time to start hormone therapy." (11:30)
"If you have a history of blood clots... you have to be careful about the delivery system that is chosen for you." (13:47)
"There is no alternative to estrogen, progesterone and testosterone. What we have are things to treat other symptoms. But the only thing that replaces the loss of your ability to produce these hormones is giving you back the hormones." (10:15)
"There is no age at which you must stop... As long as you take it, there are benefits to you." (16:31)
"We have levels where we know your estradiol level should be in order to maximize the benefit to your bone. For those reasons, I am checking serum estradiol levels." (20:50)
"You slap an estradiol patch on 10 different women and they're going to absorb differently? Yes." (22:29)
"My hot flashes were controlled... I checked my own estradiol level. It was 37... I was not getting adequate estradiol to have maximum bone benefit." (23:52)
"50% of you will have unscheduled vaginal bleeding when you start hormone therapy. It is normal, it is expected, and it is not pathologic. Your uterus is getting used to having hormones thrown at it again." (35:19)
"We think 10 to 15% will have an adverse reaction to progesterone. So you can go vaginal progesterone and kind of skip that first pass effect in the liver." (40:05)
"You don't owe sex to anybody. No one ever died because they didn't have sex or didn't have an orgasm." (46:12, quoting Dr. Rachel Rubin)
"SHBG binds our sex hormones... when they're bound to that protein, they're not active. So if you can lower your SHBG... you will increase the activity." (28:17)
"Sometimes you have arthritis unrelated to menopause... They’re not as important as me ruling out other stuff." (31:01)
Maximizing bone health requires:
"I am not interested in [osteoporosis] being my future... I'm staying on hormone therapy... I'm serious about heavy lifting." (24:54)
If unable to lift: Reference to Dr. Jocelyn Wittstein’s "Total Body Bone and Joint Plan" for alternatives.
More common with oral estrogen. Switch to non-oral (transdermal) formulation if issues arise.
"Hypertension is usually more related to oral estradiol than transdermal." (57:32)
Testosterone is anabolic: can cause weight gain via increased muscle/bone mass.
"Pelvic floor physical therapy can change your life. I think it should be mandatory for every single woman who has a baby." (62:50)
"Supplements should supplement a healthy diet... Most women... are not just low, [but] deficient in vitamin D." (67:45)
Find the right provider: Use word-of-mouth, The Menopause Society (menopause.org) provider list, or vetted telemedicine options (e.g., Midi Health, Alloy Health).
"Anytime you walk into a clinician's office and they are railroading you into one specific form of therapy... run, you deserve better." (77:16)
Pushback on pellet-only practices: Pellets are just a delivery method. Start with all your options and stay within safe physiologic ranges.
Women live longer than men but spend more years in poor health.
"Women win the longevity race doing nothing. Right now we live 6.6ish years longer than our male counterparts. Here's the problem: we are not as healthy." (74:01)
Ignoring trauma is a major blindspot:
"When I looked at the data, a history of childhood sexual assault will decrease your longevity almost as much as smoking... Why? Cardiovascular disease. Carrying that burden your whole life..." (75:00)
"Perimenopause often starts quietly. It shows up in the brain first, then the body, then everywhere else. Most women are never taught to recognize it." (86:50)
"For too long, women have been told to just deal with perimenopause and menopause symptoms. 'Your labs are normal. This is just a part of aging.' That approach failed us." (01:24)
"No one is coming to save you. You have to start putting yourself, your health, your life, your sanity first." (32:31)
"I don't care what I look like. I mean, I'm a little vain... But I am so terrified to age like my poor mother... I refuse to accept that." (25:53)
"You don't owe sex to anybody. No one ever died because they didn't have sex or didn't have an orgasm." (46:12)
"This is what just pisses me off about how we don’t study women... Simple things like how much estradiol in serum gives best cardiovascular protection— we’re not gonna know." (29:15)
|Segment/Question |Timestamp | |--------------------------------------------------------------------|--------------| | Introducing and verifying Dr. Haver’s credentials | 05:00 | | Breast cancer/Fibroids/Polyps and HRT eligibility | 06:22–10:45 | | Contraindications to HRT & Safe Alternatives | 10:50–13:50 | | How long to stay on HRT after 60 | 15:23–17:30 | | Monitoring & adjusting estrogen, progesterone, testosterone | 19:51–25:00 | | Absorption variability in patches | 22:29–24:00 | | Personal bone health strategies | 24:54–27:00 | | SHBG, Poor absorption, low hormone levels | 28:17–29:30 | | Persistent symptoms: when it’s not menopause | 31:01–32:45 | | Bleeding & uterine safety on HRT | 35:19–41:20 | | Progesterone intolerance options | 40:05–42:10 | | Testosterone: indications, monitoring, side-effects | 45:50–49:30 | | Bone health without weight lifting/alternatives | 54:22–55:15 | | Weight gain, bloating, hypertension on HRT | 57:32–58:30 | | Urinary symptoms, incontinence, pelvic floor | 61:12–62:59 | | Supplements for menopause: Vitamin D, fiber, omega 3, creatine | 67:45–71:44 | | Longevity, trauma, and women’s actual healthspan priorities | 73:21–75:40 | | Finding quality menopause care, telehealth, certification | 77:16–78:58 | | Perimenopause vs. menopause, her new book | 86:50–89:09 |
For more resources and to find a supportive, knowledgeable menopause practitioner, visit thepauselife.com or menopause.org.
Book recommendations: