Being single shouldn’t feel like you’re on trial every time you show up to a family dinner—but for so many women, it does.

In this episode, we sit down with Franny Tristan—trauma therapist, coach, and founder of Soul Supply—to unpack what’s really going on beneath all that pressure. Because when family expectations, cultural messages, and even social media start treating relationships as the ultimate proof that you’ve “made it,” it can quietly make you question your worth.

And for many Black and Brown women, that pressure can feel even heavier—layered with the realities of racism, sexism, and the unspoken expectations we carry.

We get real about trauma too—not just the big, obvious moments, but the “million paper cuts” that slowly shape how you see yourself and move through the world. Franny breaks down the difference between big T and little t trauma, and why healing isn’t just about fixing symptoms—it’s about understanding the systems and stories we’ve internalized. We also talk about identity, diaspora, eldest daughter energy, and why your value has nothing to do with whether you followed the “relationship timeline.”

Then we bring it into real life—because this isn’t just theory. We talk about how the right community can expand your world overnight, why romance isn’t the same as security, and how to protect your peace when those uncomfortable questions start coming your way.

Franny also shares how she supports women through Soul Supply—from group programs like Settle for More, to her Single, Empowered, and Free masterclass, virtual spaces you can access from anywhere, and in-person retreats designed for deeper connection.

If you’ve ever felt judged, questioned, or “behind,” this conversation is going to meet you right where you are. Listen all the way through—and share it with a woman who needs this reminder. And if it speaks to you, subscribe and leave a review so more women can find their way here too.

Bio

Fanny Tristan, LCSW-R, is a Trauma Therapist, Coach, and Founder of Her Soul Supply, a coaching platform for single Black and Brown women. Through workshops, retreats, and her signature coaching programs, she helps women in midlife release outdated expectations about love and timelines, and instead build lives rooted in freedom, joy, and community. With over 15 years of experience, Fanny has supported countless women in breaking free from cycles of self-doubt and relationship pressure, guiding them to embrace singlehood as a season of power, not limitation.

Website

www.hersoulsupply.com

Social Media

Instagram, Facebook,TikTok and Pinterest

@hersupply

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