Wanderlust Swingers – A Swinger Podcast & Lifestyle Stories EP215 – Playroom Etiquette, Grey Areas & A Hotwife Onboard the Bliss Cruise

In this episode, we dive into a lifestyle topic that sparks massive debate: playroom etiquette and the “grey areas” that aren’t written in the rules.

We share a real experience from Fata Morgana (Netherlands) where another couple began having sex very close to us (around 20cm) in a small open playroom. No rules were broken, nobody touched anyone… but the vibe shifted fast, mainly due to proximity and intense watching.

That led to the real question:
When something is technically allowed, can it still be socially tone-deaf?

We also share highlights from the Reddit discussion (yes, some people roasted us), unpack the difference between rules vs social awareness, and give practical advice for navigating open play spaces when everyone’s boundaries are different.

Plus: Cate’s upcoming Bliss Cruise hotwife adventure, and our latest attempt at making new local lifestyle friends (with very Dutch planning timelines).

In This Episode

- Playroom etiquette vs “grey area” social awareness

- Parallel play, proximity, and when it feels invasive

- Why eye contact can change the dynamic fast

- Reddit reactions: “technically allowed but socially tone-deaf” vs “open room means accept it”

- Newbie advice: you can’t control others, only your response

- Cate’s Bliss Cruise plans with Mallory (two hotwives on the loose)

- Unicorn/hotwife dynamics + messages on the Bliss app

- Seasickness tips wanted + the drink package debate

- Finding new swinger friends: Cate sent 13 local messages and is tracking replies

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