Podcast Summary: "We Can Do Hard Things"
Episode: "Love and Transition, a Story from The Moth"
Host: Glennon Doyle and Audacy
Release Date: July 18, 2025
Introduction
In the poignant episode titled "Love and Transition, a Story from The Moth", We Can Do Hard Things delves deep into the intricate journey of self-discovery, acceptance, and familial bonds. Hosted by Glennon Doyle, alongside her wife Abby Wambach and sister Amanda Doyle, the podcast episode features an inspiring narrative from storyteller Tik Milan Teek. This episode encapsulates the essence of confronting and embracing life's formidable challenges, particularly focusing on themes of love and personal transition.
Teek's Journey of Self-Acceptance
[00:56] Tik Milan Teek begins by sharing a pivotal moment from his adolescence:
"I was my mother's fourth daughter, and when I was 15, I sat my mother down and I said, mommy, I got something to tell you. And she said, oh, shit. And I said, mom, I'm gay now."
This confession marks the inception of Teek's journey towards self-identity. Despite the initial shock, his mother transforms into his staunchest supporter, exemplifying unconditional love and acceptance.
Navigating Transgender Identity and Fears of Loss
Transitioning from his sexual identity to his gender identity, Teek confronts the multifaceted challenges that come with being transgender:
"As a transgender person, what we know is that we may lose everybody that we thought loved us. And I was scared that I was going to lose her."
— Teek Milan Teek [01:15]
This fear underscores the vulnerability and apprehension many transgender individuals face when revealing their true selves to loved ones.
A Mother's Journey to Acceptance
Teek recounts a transformative moment as he prepares for his top surgery:
"I am having a double mastectomy, a chest reconstruction. I'm a man."
— Teek Milan Teek [01:45]
His mother's reaction is one of initial disbelief, but her presence at the hospital symbolizes her unwavering support:
"On the day of surgery, there she was, Miss Mary at the hospital, and she had this Ralph Lauren robe and a blue teddy bear for me."
— Teek Milan Teek [02:10]
Post-surgery, their relationship evolves as his mother begins to embrace his identity:
"She would call me and she would say, oh, Tigabo, you'd be so proud of me. I've been practicing my pronouns and your name, you'd be so proud of me."
— Teek Milan Teek [02:50]
Teek's affirmation reinforces the reciprocal nature of their relationship:
"I said, mommy, I'm always so proud of you."
— Teek Milan Teek [02:55]
Facing Loss and Legacy
Tragedy strikes as Teek's mother battles cancer. In her final moments, their bond is poignantly highlighted:
"I'll say, he."
— Teek Milan Teek [03:20]
In the quietude of the hospice, Teek reflects on his mother's enduring influence:
"I realized that she was raising me to live in this world without her. And not only am I living, but I am thriving because I am the man that she raised."
— Teek Milan Teek [03:30]
Conclusion
"Love and Transition, a Story from The Moth" masterfully illustrates the complexities of personal identity and the profound impact of familial support. Through Teek's heartfelt narrative, listeners are reminded of the resilience of love and the strength found in embracing one's true self. The episode not only celebrates personal triumphs but also honors the enduring bonds that shape our lives.
Notable Quotes:
- Teek Milan Teek [00:56]: "I was my mother's fourth daughter... I'm gay now."
- Teek Milan Teek [01:15]: "As a transgender person... I was scared that I was going to lose her."
- Teek Milan Teek [01:45]: "I'm having a double mastectomy, a chest reconstruction. I'm a man."
- Teek Milan Teek [02:10]: "Miss Mary at the hospital... a blue teddy bear for me."
- Teek Milan Teek [02:50]: "Oh, Tigabo, you'd be so proud of me."
- Teek Milan Teek [02:55]: "I'm always so proud of you."
- Teek Milan Teek [03:20]: "He."
- Teek Milan Teek [03:30]: "I am thriving because I am the man that she raised."
About "We Can Do Hard Things":
Hosted by Glennon Doyle, Abby Wambach, and Amanda Doyle, the podcast provides a safe space to discuss life's challenges openly. Through laughter, tears, and honest conversations, the hosts and guests navigate the complexities of love, identity, and personal growth, inspiring listeners to live more authentically and courageously.