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Hey Pod Squad. We're excited to share something a little different with you today. It's a beautiful story from the Moth podcast, which I love and I think you're really going to enjoy. You are probably familiar with the Moth. It's just the long standing, critically acclaimed event series where storytellers stand alone under a spotlight with just a microphone in a room full of strangers. Every week, the Moths podcast feed presents stories that are funny and strange and heartbreaking and above all, true. So today you're going to hear a story from storyteller Tik. Milan Teek is a writer, speaker, activist, and beloved moth storyteller. This is an abridged version of a favorite Teek story which explores themes of love and transition. If you like what you hear, you can find the expanded version of this story and many more beautiful, funny human stories from the Moth right now. Everywhere you get your podcasts, take a listen.
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I was my mother's fourth daughter, and when I was 15, I sat my mother down and I said, mommy, I got something to tell you. And she said, oh, shit. And I said, mom, I'm gay now. She was shocked, but she became my fiercest ally. And when I moved to New York City, we talked daily. And one day she called me and she said, tikaboo, why you got to be so mannish? Why can't you be a soft Butch like Ellen DeGeneres? Now, as a transgender person, what we know is that we may lose everybody that we thought loved us. And I was scared that I was going to lose her. But a few days before I was to have my top surgery, I called my mother and I said, mommy, I am having a double mastectomy, a chest reconstruction. I'm a man. She said, what the fuck? But on the day of surgery, there she was, Miss Mary at the hospital, and she had this Ralph Lauren robe and a blue teddy bear for me. And afterwards she cried and she said it felt like her daughter died, you know, because my transition wasn't just mine alone. And I said, mommy, I'm still yours. And I think it was in that moment that she started to accept me as her son. And she would call me and she would say, oh, Tigabo, you'd be so proud of me. I've been practicing my pronouns and your name, you'd be so proud of me. And I said, mommy, I'm always so proud of you. Now. The years passed and mom got cancer, and it metastasized. And so I rushed to hospice to see her. And she was in and out of consciousness. And my sister was there. And my sister says, here Teek is. Here she is. She finally got here. And my mother opened up her eyes and she whispered, he. And that was one of the last words that she spoke. My family had it set up to where she wasn't alone. So we all had a shift, and I had the morning shift, and I went in that morning and I climbed in bed with her, just like I used to do when I was a little kid. And I put my lips right up to her ear and I said, mommy, you could go. You've done such a good job raising me. You could go. And I fell asleep. And when I woke up, my champion had died right there in my arms. My mother was my guiding light. And I realized that she was raising me to live in this world without her. And not only am I living, but I am thriving because I am the man that she raised.
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That was Teak Milan telling an abridged version of one of our favorite stories. Catch the full version told before a live audience, and many more stories on the Moth podcast. New episodes every week.
Podcast Summary: "We Can Do Hard Things"
Episode: "Love and Transition, a Story from The Moth"
Host: Glennon Doyle and Audacy
Release Date: July 18, 2025
In the poignant episode titled "Love and Transition, a Story from The Moth", We Can Do Hard Things delves deep into the intricate journey of self-discovery, acceptance, and familial bonds. Hosted by Glennon Doyle, alongside her wife Abby Wambach and sister Amanda Doyle, the podcast episode features an inspiring narrative from storyteller Tik Milan Teek. This episode encapsulates the essence of confronting and embracing life's formidable challenges, particularly focusing on themes of love and personal transition.
[00:56] Tik Milan Teek begins by sharing a pivotal moment from his adolescence:
"I was my mother's fourth daughter, and when I was 15, I sat my mother down and I said, mommy, I got something to tell you. And she said, oh, shit. And I said, mom, I'm gay now."
This confession marks the inception of Teek's journey towards self-identity. Despite the initial shock, his mother transforms into his staunchest supporter, exemplifying unconditional love and acceptance.
Transitioning from his sexual identity to his gender identity, Teek confronts the multifaceted challenges that come with being transgender:
"As a transgender person, what we know is that we may lose everybody that we thought loved us. And I was scared that I was going to lose her."
— Teek Milan Teek [01:15]
This fear underscores the vulnerability and apprehension many transgender individuals face when revealing their true selves to loved ones.
Teek recounts a transformative moment as he prepares for his top surgery:
"I am having a double mastectomy, a chest reconstruction. I'm a man."
— Teek Milan Teek [01:45]
His mother's reaction is one of initial disbelief, but her presence at the hospital symbolizes her unwavering support:
"On the day of surgery, there she was, Miss Mary at the hospital, and she had this Ralph Lauren robe and a blue teddy bear for me."
— Teek Milan Teek [02:10]
Post-surgery, their relationship evolves as his mother begins to embrace his identity:
"She would call me and she would say, oh, Tigabo, you'd be so proud of me. I've been practicing my pronouns and your name, you'd be so proud of me."
— Teek Milan Teek [02:50]
Teek's affirmation reinforces the reciprocal nature of their relationship:
"I said, mommy, I'm always so proud of you."
— Teek Milan Teek [02:55]
Tragedy strikes as Teek's mother battles cancer. In her final moments, their bond is poignantly highlighted:
"I'll say, he."
— Teek Milan Teek [03:20]
In the quietude of the hospice, Teek reflects on his mother's enduring influence:
"I realized that she was raising me to live in this world without her. And not only am I living, but I am thriving because I am the man that she raised."
— Teek Milan Teek [03:30]
"Love and Transition, a Story from The Moth" masterfully illustrates the complexities of personal identity and the profound impact of familial support. Through Teek's heartfelt narrative, listeners are reminded of the resilience of love and the strength found in embracing one's true self. The episode not only celebrates personal triumphs but also honors the enduring bonds that shape our lives.
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About "We Can Do Hard Things":
Hosted by Glennon Doyle, Abby Wambach, and Amanda Doyle, the podcast provides a safe space to discuss life's challenges openly. Through laughter, tears, and honest conversations, the hosts and guests navigate the complexities of love, identity, and personal growth, inspiring listeners to live more authentically and courageously.