Podcast
We Can Do Hard Things
Hosted by Treat Media and Glennon Doyle · EN
Come do life with Glennon Doyle, Abby Wambach, and Amanda Doyle.
With more than half a billion plays, We Can Do Hard Things is a hilarious, raw, comforting “support system for braving the everyday.” The Pod Squad goes hard ($56 Million raised in global aid) and stays soft: meet here on Tuesdays to laugh, talk, and cry our way through the pain and magic of being human.
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(BEST OF) Why You Keep Having the Same Fight | Dr. Alexandra Solomon
4d ago00:59:24Summary readyHow much of loving someone is accepting them exactly as they are—and how much is asking them to grow? Relationship expert Dr. Alexandra Solomon unpacks the "Changer" and "Accepter" dynamic that shows up in nearly every relationship, revealing why our biggest conflicts are rarely about the dishes, the phones, or the therapy. They're about our deepest fears, oldest wounds, and longing to be seen and loved. - Whether you're the Changer or the Accepter in your relationships - What your biggest relationship fights are really about - How childhood patterns shape the way you love - When to ask for change—and when to choose acceptance - How to stop fighting and start understanding each other About Alexandra: Alexandra H. Solomon, PhD, is internationally recognized as one of today’s most trusted voices in the world of relationships, and her framework of Relational Self-Awareness has reached millions of people around the globe. A licensed clinical psychologist in private practice, couples therapist, speaker, author, and professor, Dr. Alexandra is passionate about translating cutting-edge research and clinical wisdom into practical tools people can use to bring awareness, curiosity, and authenticity to their relationships. She is the host of the Reimagining Love Podcast and author of Love Every Day, Taking Sexy Back: How to Own Your Sexuality and Create the Relationships You Want and Loving Bravely: 20 Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want. Follow We Can Do Hard Things on: Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/wecandohardthings
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(BEST OF) Everyone Has a Beige Flag – What's Yours?
6d ago00:52:42Summary readyRemember Beige Flags? Today we’re celebrating the quirky little habits that aren't red flags or green flags—just delightfully... huh? In this laugh-out-loud Best Of, Glennon, Abby, and Amanda confess their own wonderfully weird behaviors, react to your funniest Beige Flags, and remind us that nobody is normal—and that's exactly what makes us lovable. - What Beige Flags are—and why everyone has them - Glennon's quest to finally feel "comfortable" - Why Abby sounds like she's from yonder yore (and answers banana phones) - Amanda's legendary collection of washed-out Ziploc bags - The funniest listener Beige Flags—and whether they're secretly red or green Follow We Can Do Hard Things on: Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/wecandohardthings
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(BEST OF) Samantha Irby's Survival Guide for Ridiculous Times
2w ago01:02:41Summary readySome days, survival looks less like hope and more like finding something to laugh about. The brilliant Samantha Irby joins us for a hilarious, wise, and unexpectedly comforting conversation about making it through absurd times. Sam shares her philosophy for getting through life one bearable five-minute stretch at a time, why humor is often hiding something deeper, and the simple strategies that help her navigate people, friendship, and the chaos of being human. - Why laughter can be a survival skill - Sam's life-changing strategies for dealing with humans - The "lowercase-f friend" theory that will free your relationships - Why JOMO (Joy of Missing Out) might be the key to happiness About Samantha: Samantha Irby writes the "Bitches Gotta Eat" blog, and is the author of WOW, NO THANK YOU; WE ARE NEVER MEETING IN REAL LIFE; and MEATY. She has been a writer and/or co-producer for TV shows including And Just Like That, Work in Progress, Shrill, and Tuca & Bertie. Follow We Can Do Hard Things on: Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/wecandohardthings
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The Wild, Untold Story of How They Made Abortion Political: Witches, Healers & Liars | Amanda with Jessica Valenti
2w ago01:31:56Summary readyAbortion isn't just about abortion—it’s about everything. It's about who gets to decide the course of a woman's life. It's about healthcare, democracy, power, freedom, and the stories we've been taught to believe. In this can’t-miss conversation, Amanda traces the shocking history of abortion in America—from witch hunts to medical monopolies to the political strategy that transformed abortion into a partisan weapon. Then journalist and activist Jessica Valenti joins to expose what extremists are doing now, why these attacks were never really about abortion, and why she refuses to believe they're winning. If you've ever felt overwhelmed, confused, or hopeless about this moment, this episode will give you something even more powerful than outrage: clarity. - How abortion became a political weapon—and what it's really about. - Why abortion bans haven't reduced abortions. - How attacks on abortion threaten all reproductive healthcare. - The hidden strategies extremists are using now—and how to recognize them. - How the vast majority of Americans are on the same side—and why hope is a strategy. - Practical ways to take action, support local abortion funds, and protect your community. For more with Jessica Valenti, please listen to: 353. How We’ll Save Abortion: A Must-Listen with Jessica Valenti About Jessica: Jessica Valenti is a writer, activist, and one of the country’s most influential voices on gender and politics. The award-winning author of eight books—including the New York Times bestseller Abortion—she has shaped the national conversation on feminism for over two decades. Jessica’s groundbreaking anthology Yes Means Yes: Visions of Female Sexual Power and a World Without Rape set what’s now considered the gold standard for sexual consent and paved the way for legislation of the same name. She is also widely credited with sparking feminism’s online wave as the founder of the trailblazing blog Feministing. A former columnist for The Guardian and The Nation, Jessica’s sharp, uncompromising analysis has appeared in The New York Times, The Atlantic, The Washington Post, and on media outlets from CNN to The Daily Show. She speaks at colleges and organizations nationwide about feminism, abortion, and sexual violence. After the fall of Roe, Jessica founded Abortion, Every Day, an urgent synthesis of anything and everything happening with abortion rights in the United States. Follow We Can Do Hard Things on: Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/wecandohardthings
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(BEST OF) Ina Garten's Best Life Advice
3w ago00:59:08Summary readyIna Garten has spent a lifetime proving that joy is anything but frivolous. In this heartwarming conversation, the Barefoot Contessa shares how following curiosity instead of convention helped her build a life—and career—she never imagined. Plus, the unforgettable story of how Abby Wambach ended up playing beer pong with Ina Garten at a Taylor Swift party. - Why following what feels fun can change your life - How to quiet your inner critic and stop settling - Ina's secret to hosting a dinner party everyone will love - The surprising lesson behind her decades-long marriage About Ina: Ina Garten has hosted her Emmy and James Beard Award winning show, Barefoot Contessa, on the Food Network since 2002 and recently launched a new interview focused series, Be My Guest, with Food Network and discovery+. She has published thirteen cookbooks, including eleven #1 New York Times bestsellers. In 2015 Ina Garten was named one of Time Magazine’s 100 Most Influential People. She lives in East Hampton, New York with her husband, Jeffrey. Follow We Can Do Hard Things on: Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/wecandohardthings
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Free Birds, Empty Nests & Sexy Sue
3w ago00:58:07Summary readyWhat happens when life suddenly gets quieter? Glennon, Abby, and Amanda check in on the big transitions happening in their own lives—from the emotions of becoming empty nesters to the unexpected opportunities that come with a brand new season. Plus, they're answering Pod Squad questions you won't want to miss—including one unforgettable call from Sexy Sue that sparks a hilarious and thoughtful conversation about dating, relationships, and when (and if) we need to DTR. We talk about what it means to let go of old roles, embrace uncertainty, and ask the question many of us are facing: Who do I get to become next? - The grief—and unexpected freedom—of becoming an empty nester. - Why midlife can be the perfect time to reinvent yourself, your friendships, and your relationships. - Abby's advice for navigating competition in a blended family without losing sight of what matters most. - A challenge to stop obeying unfair rules in advance—and the power of everyday acts of resistance. Follow We Can Do Hard Things on: Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/wecandohardthings
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(BEST OF) What Your Sign Says About How You Love | Chani Nicholas
4w ago00:58:58Summary readyWhat if the things that happened to you weren't about you? In this beloved conversation, astrologer Chani Nicholas helps us understand why we react the way we do, how childhood survival strategies shape our adult lives, and what it takes to become better partners to ourselves. Together, we explore dysregulation, boundaries, healing, and the liberating possibility that self-awareness can set us free. - How to recognize when you're dysregulated—and help yourself in the moment - The freeing truth that "the things that happened to me weren't about me" - Why the rules that kept you safe as a child may be keeping you stuck as an adult - How to set boundaries, trust yourself, and finally rest - What astrology can reveal about your relationships and patterns About Chani: Chani Nicholas is a Los Angeles-based New York Times bestselling author of You Were Born For This: Astrology for Radical Self-Acceptance. She has been a counseling astrologer for more than 20 years, guiding her community of over 1 million monthly readers to discover and live out their life’s purpose through understanding their birth chart. Chani runs her company with her wife and business partner, Sonya Passi. Together they launched the CHANI app, which offers a personalized, daily understanding of their birth chart. Follow We Can Do Hard Things on: Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/wecandohardthings
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Pre-Red Card Debacle: Abby & Julie Foudy Soccersplain the World Cup
4w ago01:11:21Summary readyPod Squad: Please note, this episode was recorded before the trump red card scandal. We were younger, then - and filled with hope. Today, it’s a Welcome to the Party and We Can Do Hard Things World Cup crossover! If anyone can help the Pod Squad understand why the World Cup has completely taken over the world, it's these two legends. Abby and Julie Foudy—World Cup champions, teammates, and two of the greatest soccer minds in the game—break down everything you need to know, from red cards and flopping to knockout rounds, unforgettable stories, and why this tournament has the power to bring people together. Whether you're a lifelong fan or just World Cup-curious, this is your starter pack for the beautiful game. - Why the World Cup is the biggest sporting event on Earth—and why it means so much to so many people - The soccer rules everyone pretends to understand (offside, cards, flopping, and more) - How the US men's success directly benefits the US women's national team - Plus: Abby and Julie put Glennon and Amanda to the test with "Is It Queer or Is It FIFA?" Follow Welcome to the Party at: YouTube: youtube.com/@WelcomeToThePartyShow Substack:welcometothepartyshow.substack.com Merch:welcometotheparty.voila.store Instagram:@welcometothepartyshow Follow We Can Do Hard Things on: Instagram —https://www.instagram.com/wecandohardthings
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(BEST OF) Pet Love: The Closest We Come to Unconditional Love?
Jun 3001:05:47Summary readySometimes, when everything feels too big, the thing that brings us back to ourselves is surprisingly small: a paw on our lap, a face waiting at the door, a creature who reminds us that we are still here and still capable of love. In this delightfully funny and tender conversation, Glennon, Abby, and Amanda consider whether our beloved animals offer the closest thing we ever experience to unconditional love. Amanda shares how Séamus arrived in her life and ruined her religion of the spreadsheet. Glennon explains why Honey and Hattie are the only "people" who truly understand her. And Abby reveals how a hamster named Biscuit somehow snuck past every boundary and straight into her heart. Follow We Can Do Hard Things on: Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/wecandohardthings
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The Real Minority Rule Conspiracy | Amanda with Rep. Justin J. Pearson
Jun 2301:26:31Summary readyAmerica is watching Black political power come under attack in real time—but this story didn't start with today's headlines. In this urgent conversation, Amanda sits down with Tennessee Representative Justin J. Pearson to unpack the centuries-old playbook of minority rule: how powerful elites divide us, redraw the maps, and rig the system to hold onto power. Amanda traces the hidden history—from Reconstruction to today's gerrymandering battles—to reveal why Black political power has long been the greatest threat to oligarchy. Then, Representative Justin J. Pearson shares what he's witnessing on the ground in Tennessee, where attacks on Black representation are reshaping democracy in real time. We explore how communities can organize, build power, and fight back—and why hope remains a discipline, even now. - Why attacks on Black political power are really about protecting elite minority rule- How racialized redistricting is reshaping the South and the upcoming midterms - Why the Voting Rights Act became a target—and what's at stake now - Why multiracial coalitions have always terrified those in power- What Rep. Pearson says ordinary people can do right now to fight back To support Representative Pearson, go to: https://www.votejustinj.com/ About Rep. Pearson: Representative Justin J. Pearson is a Tennessee state legislator, community organizer, environmental justice advocate, and candidate for Tennessee's 9th Congressional District. A lifelong Memphian, Pearson first gained prominence organizing grassroots campaigns that took on some of the most powerful corporate interests in the country. He helped lead the successful fight to stop the Byhalia Pipeline, protecting the drinking water of more than a million residents, and has organized campaigns to challenge environmental pollution, corporate exploitation, and policies that harm working families. His advocacy has included efforts to stop unfair utility contracts, hold polluters accountable, and push for stronger protections for Memphis's air, water, and soil. In 2023, Pearson became a national voice for democracy and gun safety as one of the "Tennessee Three," after being expelled from the Tennessee House by the GOP supermajority for participating in a protest calling for action following the Covenant School shooting. He was later reinstated and returned to office, Today, Pearson continues to advocate for voting rights, environmental justice, economic fairness, and democratic participation. He is currently running for Congress in Tennessee's 9th District, where he has been a leading voice against racial gerrymandering and efforts to dilute Black political power. Follow We Can Do Hard Things on: Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/wecandohardthings
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